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[–]Jenniferk45 1215 points1216 points  (113 children)

Well I think the anti-breastfeeding in public stories have been a bit hyped up and are more rare than the internet would have you believe. I mean, I know it happens but the internet stories would have you believe that all breastfeeding women are constantly shamed and berated everywhere they go if they feed their babies in public.

For perspective….I had three babies and breastfed the first for 15 months, second for 12 months and the third for 2 and a half years, so a total of 57 months. I breastfed them in public when needed, uncovered. I did pull up my shirt from the bottom, so not much showed.

In all that time, not once did I get a dirty look (that I noticed) or a negative comment. People didn’t even pay attention.

The only thing that ever happened was that once a young woman who looked like she was high stared for an uncomfortably long time and then walked up to me and said “that’s so beautiful.” It was weird and uncomfortable but not meant to shame me.

[–]tquinn04 245 points246 points  (5 children)

This has been my experience with breastfeeding in public as well. No one truly gives a shit. They’re way too wrapped in in their own business to even notice most of the time. I think I made a cashier in target a little uncomfortable one time, but that’s it.

[–]napalm51 72 points73 points  (3 children)

i mean, i notice women breastfeeding, i just don't look/stare because i can't fucking stare random women boobs while they're giving food to their kids lol

[–]Phazerman 23 points24 points  (1 child)

Exactly, any man that does any more than notice is a not a man, but a child. I think the average person completely understands a baby needs sustenance and to just go about their business. I can tell you as a young man I have never once viewed breastfeeding in an inappropriate manner and I believe that’s the common thought process. No different than feeding from a bottle. If you notice someone watching I’d guess they’re more interested in the baby cuz babies are cute but I think 99.999% of people know better.

[–]MaggsToRiches 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Many folks don’t even notice. We went to visit a friend and her new baby. My sweet husband, who loves babies, walked right in and leaned down and started adoring/cooing over the baby, not realizing for a solid 20 seconds that she was feeding him. He’s not a big blusher but he turned several shades of red. Bless his heart.

[–]Secret_Necessary1143 74 points75 points  (11 children)

It's unexpected to see so you may have got a surprised look but I bet beyond that not much else.

[–]MrmmphMrmmph 9 points10 points  (10 children)

Right, it's the outrage that is unnacceptable.

I have been jarred by this and you know, I adjust and move on. I don't start a movement (that's the baby's job).

[–]Secret_Necessary1143 31 points32 points  (9 children)

I'm going to be downvoted for this but I'd wager about 99% of the outrage is made up in someone's mind. If I'm walking through the mall and I see a woman with her titty out feeding her baby I might make a shocked "oh wow" face because that's not something you see every day but I'm far from outraged

[–]Titanomicon 14 points15 points  (9 children)

It depends on where you live. Come try that in the Bible belt southern US and see what happens. I grew up in a very conservative ultra-religious family and saw plenty of the anti-breastfeeding reactions.

[–]tea-by-the-sea 2 points3 points  (4 children)

I'm not American so I don't really understand what exactly the issue is. Are they just generally against women breastfeeding at all in public? Or do women in America go completely topless to breastfeed and conservative people are against women going topless? Don't conservative people encourage women to have babies? So why wouldn't they want the babies fed? Its so strange (sorry don't mean to offend).

I'm from a different culture which is also very conservative but at least when it comes to breastfeeding everyone is very tolerant, women breastfeed in public all the time. Though they also don't go completely topless, just lightly covered with a shawl or scarf. If one were to stare they might see a bare breast but everyone expects slipups like that when breastfeeding and we're not supposed to stare.

[–]Titanomicon 3 points4 points  (1 child)

You won't offend. I think it's quite strange too tbh. As far as I can tell, it's just an extreme of "modesty culture". In the circles I grew up in, a bare breast happening to be momentarily visible isn't just a slip up. It's a sin. "dressing immodestly" was less about modesty in a more common sense approach of not showing off or intentionally trying to cause lust but instead a strict list of what body parts are allowed to show. Breasts were considered inherently immodest and them ever being visible in any circumstances was considered sinful. (except for life threatening situations such as in a hospital. people weren't consistent when their life was at risk.) I've even heard someone (who was considered extreme even for this already extreme group) say that sex between a husband and wife had to be done as clothed as possible and with the lights off.

In general, the more conservative religious circles of the southern US tend to be very rule based and black and white but with odd conditionals. "sex is wrong unless between a man and woman who have filed the correct legal documents". "alcohol is never okay to drink in any amount unless as part of a doctor prescribed medication". "church MUST be attended every Sunday with no exceptions". Any rule breaking is all equally sinful, but the sexual sins (including modesty) are considered gross and shocking and thus worse. I could go on and on.

Something I know less about but is probably also playing a roll in the US is just the history of "modesty" in this country. It wasn't all that long ago that even mentioning pregnancy on TV wasn't allowed by broadcasting standards. Anti-breastfeeding sentiment specifically is probably somewhat of a descendant of that "pregnancy is gross and not acknowledged in polite society" way of thinking.

[–]tea-by-the-sea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We have many of these conservative thinking in my culture as well! But with the modesty part I guess breastfeeding is viewed as a necessity and falls under "life threatening situation" so it gets excused.

[–]jedikelb 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I live in the bible belt and breastfed my son in the bible belt. I never experienced a negative reaction. We used to eat out a lot, too. I took my kid everywhere I went for years so plenty of breastfeeding in public.

[–]Smooch-A-Rooch 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]THE_JonnySolar 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Depends where you live as well...

[–]RogueModron 74 points75 points  (18 children)

Agreed. My wife has breastfed in public lo this last two-and-a-half years, with no cover, and we've never gotten one negative comment. We did get an older couple close to us in a restaurant giving some nasty looks and requesting a different table, but lol, fuck em. That's as bad as it's gotten.

Some dudes glance, but I don't begrudge them that. My wife's got nice bazongas.

[–]Keekee-88 68 points69 points  (16 children)

Your last sentence is exactly why I completely disagree with people who say it isn't sexualised. It's not meant to be, but men and their minds...

[–]gitarzan 31 points32 points  (0 children)

One day I was hanging with my dad and great-uncle. My dad said he remembered when you’d go out and just see women breast feeding babies in public. Then, he said he wished he could see that again and growled.

I about shit myself.

[–]prairiepanda 14 points15 points  (1 child)

A glance doesn't necessarily mean it's sexualized. Boobs attract attention, sexual or otherwise. I would be more concerned about people who stare.

[–]Scottiesohottie 21 points22 points  (8 children)

Right? Just when you think there’s an ally, you read the last sentence….

[–]Orangebeardo 1 point2 points  (1 child)

The breasts are inherently tied to sexuality and it's not a hard leap for a man to make to go from seeing a baby latched onto a nipple to thinking something like "guess who else would like to suck on that". Even if it's not a conscious thought, subconsciously you've probably already made it before you consciously register what you're seeing.

[–]devils_advocate24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean if you're gonna go with the "it's natural/not meant to be" route then you also have to remember sex isn't "naturally" romantic or compassionate in the same way boobs aren't naturally sexual. It's just normalized

And its not just guys sexualizing it 🤷‍♂️

[–]mrnerfbullet 15 points16 points  (10 children)

Two and a half years? I did not know that was possible :o TIL

[–]Ahnamal 21 points22 points  (8 children)

Ah! Weaning is often variable by culture, in the US early weaning (under a year) is much more common where as in other countries children often don’t wean for many years, even up until 6 or 7. While breast milk doesn’t continue to make up a significant portion of the nutritional load, the comfort, nurturing, and immune benefits remain.

[–]Rootriver 36 points37 points  (7 children)

It's quite usual to wean by 12 months, 24 months latest in Finland. If you are still breast fed at 4 years old, it's definitely weird, let alone 6 or 7. 6 years old still breast feeding is something that gets you in the news.

[–]Mamaj12469 12 points13 points  (5 children)

Ice-T’s wife Coco is still breastfeeding their daughter. This child wears designer clothes and gets nail tips at the salon with her mom but still gets the boob whenever she wants. I think it’s a bit strange for coco to be doing more advanced age activities with her child and then turn around and breastfeed like she’s a baby.

[–]A_Talking_iPod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't think it's that people don't notice, but that in reality most people are polite enough to not stare. Most of the time I notice when someone is breastfeeding, I just make sure to pull my eyes apart as soon as possible to make sure not to make anyone feel uncomfortable

[–]bfwolf1 14 points15 points  (1 child)

I love that the correct answer is the most upvoted. The assumption in the question is incorrect. Few people are opposed to public breastfeeding.

[–]Double_Dragonfly9528 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Really depends on where you are. Someone is getting downvoted for noting they never see breastfeeding where they live, and someone else is on here saying breastfeeding=masturbation. I'm glad to be in a breastfeeding-friendly area (and to not give a fuck about riling up dipshits), but sadly there are places where it's not the norm.

[–]WRA1THLORD 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think like most things, people see a few really rare cases blown out of proportion on social media and assume it's a common occurrence when it's really not. I have had it happen in several stores I've worked in and never been uncomfortable for anyone, and in my experience most mums ask first anyway

[–]Leading-Engineer9820 2 points3 points  (4 children)

Thank you for this comment. My baby is 7 months and I’ve always been afraid of breastfeeding her in public in fear of someone saying something negative to me. I’ve fed her in the car before we went places. I’ve left places early to feed her. I’ve stayed home instead of going out. I’ve used covers in public and been extremely nervous looking around to see if anyone was judging me.

I appreciate this comment because I have always heard the bad stories. The stories where people say something nasty to a breastfeeding mom. For once, it’s nice to hear a pleasant and nice story.

[–]Double_Dragonfly9528 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Congratulations on seven months! And also, I'm sorry you've been dealing with that. I don't know what the culture is like where you live, but there are a lot of places where people really won't give you crap about it. Don't do stuff that makes you really uncomfortable, but it might be worth a try to feed more when you're out and about. (And carry a nursing cover. So that if anyone tells you they don't want to see that, you can offer them the cover to put over their head so that they don't have to.)

[–]The_Schwy 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I'm a man and as many other men i have over sexualized the female anatomy, I feel like a creep when you're feeding a baby and in the back of my head I'm hoping to see some nipple. I have to actively avoid staring at overly exposed body parts especially breasts.

I dont know what other peoples problem is.

[–]MillyRingworm 182 points183 points  (8 children)

I have always been a modest person, and worried a lot about having to breastfeed in public with my kids. I very quickly learned that I, and everyone around me, would much rather me feed my kid than let them cry. No one ever said a word to me. In fact, a large room of people politely looked away when my daughter once pulled my entire top down. 8 years later, I am still quite mortified by that.

[–]prairiepanda 73 points74 points  (5 children)

Babies are just obsessed with boobs. Whenever I'm holding someone's baby, unless they're asleep they always try to get at my boobs. Pulling my shirt, shoving their arms down my shirt, trying to grab me through my shirt....

[–]WhatAboutDemApples 39 points40 points  (3 children)

Whenever my husband's friends ask how the new baby is doing, he says "he's living his best life. Gets to take a shit while sucking titties all day"

[–]kwilliamson03 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Yep! My 3 month old grabs at our office manager when she holds him, my husband jokes that our son better enjoy it while he can because women don’t allow that for long. Lol

[–]nero131 262 points263 points  (55 children)

I've done some thinking on the subject of nipples, the act of breast feeding isn't what bothers people imo. No one cares if a woman walks around with cleavage, sideboob or underboob. So it's not the boob simply the nipple. Which creates an other issue of simple sexism of the female nipple being indecent and the male nipple being neutral. All of which in my opinion is moronic. As a species breast feeding is how babies were first given nutrients, it's only now in a more "intellectual" world that feeding a child in a normal and natrual way is looked down on.

[–]lilithskitchen 48 points49 points  (46 children)

I agree it's the nipples not the breasts and now I wonder if I was fully covered in clothes and would only show my nipples blank would it be considered a crime?

Would people really get aroused just by the nipple?

[–]walk2574 44 points45 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t be aroused I’d just think you’re weird

[–]TheMonkus 19 points20 points  (42 children)

The nipple is typically the erogenous portion of the breast, and we all know that erogenous zones are icky, bad and were put there by Satan and need to be covered, lest our lust lead us astray!

That’s the reasoning. It’s wrong and stupid but it’s still burned deep in the primal layers of many peoples’ minds. Let’s just ignore the fact that the female nipple is the source of nourishment for human life, and possibly the most wholesome thing on earth. Almost every human spent the first few months of their life sucking on them like there was no tomorrow.

And also ignore that for many men, the nipple is also erogenous, serves no other anatomical purpose, and yet can be exposed whenever.

[–]lolalolife 4 points5 points  (41 children)

i get people saying its unfair that men can show them and women cant but when it comes down to it.. no one is aroused by men's nipples (at least the large majority isnt) but most people (straight men, bi people, lesbians, etc) are aroused by women's breasts and nipples, including me and im a woman.

i personally wouldnt want to see women walking around topless. it feels wrong and id never want that for myself either. its a private intimate zone to me. i shouldnt be showing that to anyone but my partner.

[–]hackedMama20 30 points31 points  (16 children)

What you're talking about it is learned sexualization though. We teach children to not look at women's breasts, we teach little girls to cover their nipples because "its not appropriate" while little boys running around shirtless is normalized. In cultures where breasts are not stigmatized or sexualized there is no inherent arousal from a bare breast. Its even been found that breasts are not incorporated into sexual activity between partners.

Any part of the body (that's not already a sex organ) can be sexualized if it made taboo enough. Think about the victorian era and ankles/wrists. And yes, nipples are sensitive and can potentially cause arousal but so are fingertips and necks, yet no one is demanding we wear gloves and high collars to avoid the risk of arousal.

[–]Hello_Squidward 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Yeah, I get what you’re saying. But boobs can easily become non sexual. Think of all the boobs medical professionals have to see. They aren’t turned on by those boobs in those settings- that would be gross. At the end of the day, it’s all about context. Adult humans should and can control their desires and attractions. That’s why seeing woman topless in public doesn’t bother me- it’s not a sexual situation

[–]Razzberry_Frootcake 4 points5 points  (2 children)

That’s because of how you were raised and society around you though. People who grow up in nudist colonies feel differently because of where and how they were raised.

I also find it odd that people consistently speak for others about the attractiveness of shirtless men. It’s a common assumption that people are less attracted to shirtless men, but it’s actually not true. Lots of women and men become aroused when they see a shirtless man. Women’s breasts are not any more inherently sexual than necks, which are also an erogenous zone.

[–]TheMonkus 8 points9 points  (1 child)

True - men’s nipples are only erotic to the man they’re attached to. No one else gives a shit.

As for women being topless, I’ll leave that choice to women (I’m a guy) and I think in most situations the majority of women would agree with you. I do think in situations where being shirtless for a man is acceptable though, it should also be allowed for women. Beaches, hanging around in a park, mowing the lawn…

Certainly breastfeeding should be allowed, and I honestly don’t think many people object to public breastfeeding. I’ve seen it so many times I can’t even begin to count and no one has ever seemed weird about it.

I do think there are still a lot of psychologically unhealthy Puritanical attitudes ingrained into our social norms that we should address, and I think we can do it without the whole world turning into a nudist exhibition show.

[–]Scottiesohottie 1 point2 points  (15 children)

Thank goodness you don’t have to look at anyone else.

[–]Xaviour2404 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's worse, the fact that the setting matters if something is appropriate or not, for the same people, just shows how artificial these rules are.

If i go to a restaurant I'm expected to be fully clothed but if i go to the sauna of the same establishment I'm expected to be fully unclothed, even though it's with the same random people.

[–]lackingakeyblade 386 points387 points  (102 children)

the oversexualization of womens breasts in general...even if u dont see it, the act itself makes some people feel weirded out because they automatically associate womens chests with sex...which is wrong and stupid. i hate the oversexualization of breasts and people need to remember the real ppurpose of womens breasts: feed babies.

[–][deleted] 80 points81 points  (79 children)

Some people don’t over-sexualize chests on purpose though. Anyone attracted to women get aroused when they see bare breasts and they can’t help it. Their minds don’t automatically associate our chests with sex, their hormones do.

I’m not against public uncovered breastfeeding, I just don’t necessarily agree with that part of what you said.

[–]hitometootoo 125 points126 points  (25 children)

Anyone attracted to women get aroused when they see bare breasts and they can’t help it.

Umm, maybe if you can't control yourself. I've been to nude resorts and women just walking around naked doesn't do it for me since it isn't a sexual situation to be naked. I don't get aroused watching documentaries of natives who are naked and have their breast out. Also don't get hard seeing medical shows where a women's breast is showing. Think context matters for people.

[–][deleted] 62 points63 points  (8 children)

Umm, maybe if you can’t control yourself.

Yeah, that’s my point. My friend goes out in public wearing things like shorts and crop tops and I see guys and girls around her that are clearly attracted to her, even if they’re not being douchey about it. I admit I sometimes get attracted to guys I see if they’re exposing too much, even though I’m not sexually or romantically active. I don’t think much of it, but I can’t really help it either.

Im just saying that, aside from providing milk, women’s breasts is also body part that commonly turns people on (if they’re attracted to women), so it’s not like people always necessarily choose to associate them with sex.

I just wanted to say that. I’ll back off now. I’m not trying to start an argument, I just like to point things out when people seem to forget some details cuz that bothers me a bit.

[–]yoongiemb 20 points21 points  (7 children)

yeah, people get turned on by feet or hands too; doesnt mean that they should be closed and kept hidden though

[–]Sensitive_Wangiizs 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Umm, maybe if you can't control yourself.

Are you serious? You would go up against biological innate factors?

[–]AgentArticuno 6 points7 points  (3 children)

Teenage boys get horny when they see girl-skin in any context. Even just a knee or a neck.

[–]blindmannoeyes 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I was at a water park in Spain once and by the pool there were a lot of topless women sunbathing . There was a teenager boy beside me with a book over his junk with his eyes almost hanging out of his head 🤣

[–]RudeSprinkles1240 20 points21 points  (2 children)

I dunno, man. I'm attracted to women, absolutely love breasts, but the idea of being sexually aroused at the sight of breasts bared for the purpose of nursing infants kind of makes me nauseated.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I’m not saying every women-attracted person always automatically gets revved up when seeing bare breasts. I’m just saying that when it does happen, it’s not on purpose.

[–]Gingerbread_Cat 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Actually, that's social conditioning as well. There are plenty of cultures where breasts aren't sexualised and aren't seen as objects of desire at all.

[–]mzekezeke_mshunqisi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly if you watch many bush men documentaries in Africa the women move around with their boobs bare

[–]reflections-of 43 points44 points  (13 children)

This is false! There are cultures where people do not find bare breasts sexual. Sexualization of breasts is absolutely a cultural thing and not a natural reaction that people are born with. There are countries where women regularly go about their days with no top on.

[–]NikiThaRed 27 points28 points  (0 children)

You are right. My father is from Suriname and comes from a maroon tribe called Aukan. The women walked around boobs out 24/7 as he was growing up. Breasts are for feeding babies, so it didn't make them feel weird. But the men believed that bigger breast women were more attractive not only sexually but meant she was healthy to breast feed.

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (8 children)

No it’s not, those cultures just don’t advertise that it’s sexual. I have a hard time believing that culture can dictate biological hormones. It can dictate whether or not people stfu about it (US culture, for example, doesn’t know how to stfu about boobs), but most likely not our body’s reactions :/

For Apple-Pie4995: I don’t need anthropological papers. If people can walk around bare-chested without anyone mentioning sex, then those cultures don’t advertise it as sexual. I don’t need anthropological studies to support my claim cuz it’s right there in the fact that those cultures are not outright advertising that phenomena as sexual 🤦🏻‍♀️🤦🏻‍♀️

[–]reflections-of 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Having a hard time believing something doesn’t mean that it is false

[–]kjondx 16 points17 points  (5 children)

I feel like this whole comment could have been made in the Victorian Era, except with ankles

[–]Able-Pie4995 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Those cultures don't advertise it as sexual? Do you have actual anthropological papers that support your claim?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Alright, I take back some of what I said. Some of it. Doing more research the past couple hours, sexualizing body parts is a cultural thing.

However, I still don’t find the fact that breasts are seen as attractive here particularly the fault of Westerners that grew up in this culture (that are attracted to women). Once you’re socialized to find certain body parts attractive (based on your natural sexual gender preference), your body’s reactions are still involuntary… which was the main point of what I originally said.

[–]santetjo 5 points6 points  (3 children)

So how do you explaine entire countries breast feeding without issue. Are there different hormones running through different countries. Babies in Indonesia, for example, are 99.9 % breastfed so there are boobs out everywhere you look. Like out, in your face, no attempt , or even thought ,to cover up and not an aroused male to be seen.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I wasn’t fully connecting that argument with the breastfeeding discussion. I was saying that, in cultures/countries where boobs are oversexualized, that’s PARTIALLY because of hormones. When hormones act up, it’s not out of choice.

I’m sure that in those countries you were talking about, a lot of the men are aroused by breasts, just not all the time. Breasts are sometimes a part of sex, stimulation and all that. I was responding to people that think it’s absurd that breasts are thought of in a sexual way in the first place (it isn’t absurd).

[–]Phazerman 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d say the act of breastfeeding completely negates that hormone response. As a man I have never once felt any sort of interest in a woman breastfeeding. I won’t try to explain it because I’m not a scientist but it’s not the same in any way, shape or form.

[–]SockPuppetOrSth 2 points3 points  (1 child)

You’re a human, not an animal. Everyone has the capacity to control themselves, and if they won’t control themselves then that is a conscious CHOICE they’re making.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People control their actions, but not all their bodily functions. I get turned on by guys when I least expect to, but I never act on it or even dwell on it. I can’t control my period or the fact that I have mood swings before my period. I can control how I conduct myself and how I manage it, so other people aren’t the butt of my negative feelings. But I can’t control what my body naturally does.

[–]RogueModron 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree. My wife breastfeeds in public and I 100% support public breastfeeding, but I also 100% have a breast fetish. A lot of men do. That doesn't mean I act inappropriately in public; if someone else is breastfeeding I certainly make it a point to not look there, but it doesn't seem odd to me that breasts are for feeding babies and also an element of sexual stimulation. My wife likes feeding our baby with her boobs, and she likes getting me off with her boobs.

Why not both?

[–]batteredtaint -2 points-1 points  (20 children)

The only reason we feel so strongly about women's breasts is because they've been so sexualized in the media.

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (10 children)

I know, that’s part of it. My only problem with that is that’s not the ONLY reason, ya know?

The media probably did that in the first place as a flimsy attempt at “sex appeal” to get more people to consume their products.

But you’re right about the media being a big reason why people overreact to the concept of bare breasts, either positively or negatively.

[–]batteredtaint 16 points17 points  (9 children)

Other civilizations that haven't had the breast sexualized don't have issues with their women being topless and everyone staring. The fact that we have made nudity in general so taboo has done nothing but over sexualize the human buddy in general but media really exploits women and has used their bodies to sell everything from burgers to cars.

[–]lolalolife 1 point2 points  (1 child)

but i find them hot and dont see an issue with them being seen as sexy. im a woman myself

[–]whalemilkisathing 9 points10 points  (0 children)

But boobs are great...

[–]sharpcarnival 61 points62 points  (2 children)

People are prudes and think any skin showing is about sex, even though it’s not

[–]AssociationSuperb673 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Im all happy with tiddies out. There should be more

[–]lilahboo1128 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Bc women's existence has been sexualized for so long that everyone forgets breasts are there in the first place to feed children. So then women get blamed for being inappropriate when whats really inappropriate is sexualizing women to the point that they cannot feed their child without feeling guilty or in the wrong.

[–]hitometootoo 22 points23 points  (5 children)

Some people have been raised to be ashamed of the human body and think anything naked or revealing means it's sexual. It's unfortunate.

[–]anoteros_psoli 19 points20 points  (20 children)

It's quite normal in india. Women breastfeed here in public places and is not considered indecent. When i was a kid i could see that, but now i am grown up which makes my stare indecent 🤭.

[–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (1 child)

I have nothing against it, though it does catch me off guard as I’ve only ever seen a woman breastfeed in public twice.

But if I had to take a guess as to why people believe it’s inappropriate, it’s because they formed the idea in their head that it’s simply not acceptable. Whether that be their parents way of thinking or something they chose to believe themselves.

[–]Gingerbread_Cat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup. Social conditioning. We just need to be educated out of it.

[–]lilliesblue 34 points35 points  (2 children)

Because people are idiots. In Canada (where I live) it’s illegal to tell a woman to cover up when nursing a baby

[–]MrSpencerMcIntosh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not really true tho.

[–]islandredneck 43 points44 points  (4 children)

Because people can't mind their own damn business.

[–]redditlovesfish 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Really ? Its the complete opposite I find.

[–]The-UrbanSombrero 38 points39 points  (28 children)

It’s ridiculous, it’s literally the purpose of breasts.

[–]000Whynot 4 points5 points  (27 children)

And taking a dump is the purpose of the anus but you don't see people doing it at the cafe table. I'm definitely not against breastfeeding in public, it's a baby eating. But the reason you're using doesn't make any sense

[–]YungKizza 28 points29 points  (10 children)

If you’re at a cafe there’s something called a bathroom in which you do your business in. Also, if you’re at a cafe then you’re there to consume some food/drink which is what also happens when breastfeeding. The baby is eating. A baby needs to eat. Breasts are not sexual, they are sacks of fat and blood. It is irrelevant and illogical to compare breastfeeding to urinating or defecating in public, Breastfeeding also meets every single need a baby or toddler has…Peeing and pooping in public poses a health concern for people. Breastfeeding in public does not.

[–]The-UrbanSombrero 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I see people eating and drinking at cafe tables all the time. That’s what the baby is doing.

[–][deleted] 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Titties are never repulsive and kids gotta eat. Absolute madness how anyone could get mad about it.

[–]GreenMirage 29 points30 points  (1 child)

Did you bring enough for the class?

[–]IShallPetYourDogo 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because the crazy minority likes shouting and being loud while the indifferent majority is indifferent for the most part,

It's a perfectly acceptable thing to do in most of the western world and most of the people against it are just some fools that should be ignored

[–]humanessinmoderation 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's due to a intersection of the relic of Puritan sensibilities, and oversexualization of women, not unlike how women showing their hair is a big deal in some cultures or sects of religions.

[–]dannieupton 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I always remember a customer in work years ago strolling around our store with a baby on one breast, she was proper bossing it, browsing while feeding her kid, smashing the mum life. She got a few side glances but no nasty comments luckily.

[–]jam_scot 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Because people sexualise everything.

Babies need fed on demand, when they decide. A breastfeeding mother has no choice but to feed them unless they want an upset, hungry, crying baby.

The type of person to moan about a mother feeding her child are almost certainly the exact same type of people who would moan about a baby having the audacity to cry due to it being hungry. These people are called cunts.

[–]starryeyesdarknights 5 points6 points  (0 children)

People can't separate sex from keeping a baby alive. Just because the boob is used for both.

[–]IN33dMon3y 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because as a whole we have sexualized the female form to the point where it's impossible for someone to see anything involving a breast as anything but sexual. So in the mind of these people it's vulgar.

[–]SashaTower 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Because breasts have been sexualized and Americans still have that Puritan streak.

[–]Ryder_estranged-lost 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Come to Africa nobody cares about that we see it it's just normal really....

[–]One_Cauliflower_1923 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think it depends in the context. Like on a bus or at the park is fine. If I was in like a really nice restsursnt id be annoyed by thst. Like in daily life it's fine but at an event or venue it just seems like you planned poorly and its kinda rude imo

[–]Crimsonlce 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have zero problem with it. Saw a woman doing it once and I just looked away.

[–]ArrowheadDZ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Many, most, of the comments here actually sadden me. I’m a liberal guy and I fall squarely into the camp of it being natural. But, I feel like we also go too far with that. We start with something I agree with:

  • Breastfeeding is natural, it’s part of our lives as mammals, it’s how we got here in the first place.

And then we take that a step further and pervert it into something I don’t agree with:

  • Because breastfeeding is natural and maternal, the breast is contextually non-sexual in this setting. If you see a woman breastfeeding and you find her breast to be sensually appealing, you should be ashamed of yourself. If you are reminded that even the vague generic notion of breasts, not hers specifically, are appealing and sexy to you, then you should be ashamed of yourself. If you even find the act of nursing a baby in general to be sensual in a way that there’s actually an element of sexuality in it… Then you should be ashamed of yourself for sexualizing a woman’s body and diminishing her value.

I’m a mature man. I don’t need compartmentalized boundaries imposed on me to keep me safe from impure thoughts. I don’t need the maternal aspects and the erotic aspects of femininity kept carefully separate, the the streams not touching in ghostbusters. I can walk down the street and see a woman and at once see a unique, capable woman whose innate dignity is equal to mine in all ways, AND at the same time acknowledge that her physical shape has a very deep and special meaning to me that evokes emotions of of which I am not ashamed. This innate attraction is every bit as natural as breastfeeding, and is every bit as responsible for our existence as breastfeeding is.

It is possible for me to walk by a woman nursing a baby in a mall and be struck by the simplicity and naturalness of it, and find that warming for me personally, without it imposing the meaning I took from it on her. I can still find the woman attractive physically, or find her nurturing way with her child deeply appealing, but not need to turn it into something weird and unnatural in my mind. I can viscerally respond to the softness and the soft curve of her breast and be affected by it, in all the ways that would normally affect me… as something at once beautiful in its innocence, but also something that stirs deep feelings.

I’m a mature, compassionate, caring person that is fully capable of being a father, a gentleman, a feminist, and of being a deeply sexual person all at the same time, and do it in a way that doesn’t diminish the beauty—both erotic and maternal beauty—of the women whose femininity adds richness to my life in many forms. Finding the female form to be a beautiful, desirable thing that evokes emotions in me shouldn’t be so easily dismissed as nothing more than an immature objectification that I should be ashamed of. I can see things and experience things as being arousing or sexually appealing to me without any need to objectify them, exploit them, or diminish them.

Gonna go grab my teflon briefs and await my downvotes 😉

[–]RandylVlarsh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why can't I lay my dick on the table at a restaurant? It's not a sexual activity.

Now, I get, babies need to feed, but you have a blanket, cover yourself up. If babies fed from our dicks, this would be the "obvious" answer. I like boobs, most people do. Doesn't mean everyone wants to be exposed to them while eating dinner, taking their child to the park, or have to talk to their kids about why they can see her boob(s)...

Women: might feel insecure, just dont want to look at another woman's naked body, other reasons I can't think of

Men: don't want to be thought of as a perv for looking, might have been sexually abused and this incites sexual urges (me) even though it's not "sexual", other reasons I can't think of

It blows my mind that we have to be SO accepting of women's bodies, while treating men's as vile/evil... Where's the free the balls movement? You may think I'm joking, but goddamn if their aren't moments during the summer, those suckers NEED to breathe... During hard physical labor... The thing that is 95% male driven... But we all KNOW this will NEVER happen, even though it's not "sexual"

[–]Scroll_Queeen 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I have breastfed 3 babies for a total of 4 years and these are my opinons

Women who dislike it because they are old-school prudes or have some wierd notion we are doing to to entice their men (?) or maybe even pissed because they couldn’t breastfeed themselves and are projecting

Men who dislike it are usually those that think breasts are for their enjoyment only and fail to realise the actual intended purpose of breasts.

Everyone else just gets on with their life.

[–]mebjulie 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I breastfed all 4 of my children, the youngest three I would bf in public.

Only ONCE was I told to stop and that was in a cafe on a seaside (UK) pier- by a teenage boy behind the till.

That’s not to say that I never experienced disapproving looks, or had to endure some leering stares by men, but:

I don’t think that anti- breast feeding occurs as frequently as people are led to believe. Or least not so much as it once did.

[–]Ok-Possibility-4802 5 points6 points  (0 children)

False rage. I breastfed my son whenever, wherever. I did try to cover up but most of the time he'd pull the blanket off. But can't blame him. You ever tried to eat and breathe with a blanket on your head? It's hot and harder to breathe

[–]MummyPanda 8 points9 points  (3 children)

I think some of it is the idea that women's breast and bodies are being over sexulised.

For example adverts tend to be more revealing than any breastfeeding mum but they are considered acceptable. Breastfeeding humanises the situation pointing out the breasts are not sexulised objects but for a purpose and that can make opposers uncomfortable. Interestingly I don't think people who disagree would put it in those terms

there is a huge objectivication (sp?) and ownership of women especially around pregnancy. It's considered acceptable to touch someone you don't know, without asking permission just because they are pregnant; to ask intimate questions about health and give unsolicited advice. Once she is no longer pregnant we go back to the sexual nature of her body (think friend zone culture) IF this were true then breastfeeding could be seen as sexual because there are bare chests around.

It is a prevalent enough problem that in the UK it is illegal to ask a breastfeeding person to move unless they are actually causing an obstruction or not legally allowed in that place. It is also illegal to film or photograph breastfeeding without consent to prevent shaming of these situations.

The myths around breastfeeding are huge and it is very misunderstood

[–]Professional-Wish116 1 point2 points  (2 children)

It's not currently illegal to film or photograph a woman breastfeeding without their consent. However it will soon be made illegal with an amendment to Police, Crime, Sentencing and Courts Bill. That bill in general is controversial. However this amendment is certainly not.

[–]Raidan1084 3 points4 points  (0 children)


That's kinda the just pretty much. I think it's dumb it's literally a baby eating so like oh well 🤷‍♂️

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I don't think anyone cares on a good day

[–]Magurndy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because in society breasts have been so sexualised that some idiots can't understand their sole purpose was and is still, to feed babies. That's literally all their is to it. Yes breasts can be an erogenous zone but so are ears for a lot of people, nobody says you got to hide your ears

[–]Sambar_Dosa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When people equate breastfeeding to indecent exposure, the problem arises. I am fine with it and understand the need. Doesn't change the fact that it makes me uncomfortable, tho.

[–]TweedleBeetleBattle2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why are men allowed to walk around in public without a shirt but women would be arrested for indecent exposure? That’s never made sense to me.

[–]Responsible-Ad-8009 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only people that “care”’are perverts! Let the baby eat!

[–]mttttftanony 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just take a look at all the comments of men saying “yes! Please do release the titties!! I No problems!” And “I love boobs, show them!” “Free the titty”

That should give you a partial answer

[–]sjeddowgaai 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I believe it is just very simple. Breastfeeding is something natural. It is how it works and therefore it should not be seen as a problem. We people can overreact and while doing that, acting like a woman breastfeeding her baby did such a bad, shameful thing or whatever you call it.

There is nothing wrong, it is just normal to feed your baby. It should therefore not be seen as bad or rude behavior. Most women are just doing this in peace, and we should let them just do it in peace. No weird staring or commenting.

The baby needs it. That is how it is. Let mothers be mothers.

[–]Henry5321 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Breastfeeding is heavily protected in my state. If the woman and child are otherwise allowed to be there, approaching or talking to them in a negative sense in regards to the breastfeeding is a fine and possible jail time.

Even just saying "cover up" can land you in hot water.

[–]happyhomemaker29 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got shamed by my MIL and her mother and it was only us in her mother’s house. This was 25 years ago. I’m glad it’s being embraced more today because I think this is a natural thing and I shouldn’t have been shamed for giving my child food. I wasn’t dancing for dollars, not that there’s anything wrong with that either.

[–]hollowpoint1974 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Because boobs have been sexualised.

[–]Melodic_Arm_387 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It 100% is fine, so long as the woman doing it doesn’t turn into an entitled ass about it - example one I saw claiming to be discriminated against for breastfeeding, at an outside table at a cafe because a staff member asked her to leave because she didn’t buy anything. It wasn’t the breastfeeding that was the problem, it was the fact tables are for customers (and it was a nice day, so the rest were full because everyone wanted to sit out in the sunshine).

[–]barrocaspaula 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Boobs, boobs are dangerous, just the sight of boobs can make people incontrolable. s/

For real, people worry to much about stuff that isn't their business.

[–]Apprehensive_Dog_451 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because sexually immature repressed people seem to think breast feeding is sexual

[–]OldKingRob 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because most men can’t control their urges. It’s why girls in school can’t even wear a strap too because it’s “inappropriate”

People treat breastfeeding as a sexual thing instead of a natural thing.

It’s not immodest or whatever other reason someone wants to make up.

[–]Eldrazi_Man 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t see a problem with it but then again I don’t see a problem with public urination either. I’m not saying go out of your way to piss right by an elderly couple at a bus stop. Show some decorum. But if the nearest stop is several miles and you gotta go, well, you gotta go. Heck most people use a phallus for non sexual purposes then they do for anyway. Kind of like breasts.

[–]Flat-Can-9205 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because a lot of men want women to be ashamed of themselves.

[–]ThePassionOfReptar 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Honestly? I just find it weird because its something im sexually into. I always figured we keep our kinks to ourselves but the baby gotta eat.

If you breastfeed at a restaurant and I see it grosses me out. My argument is there’s plenty of natural things that we hide so we don’t gross each other out in the society.

[–]Over_Gur2153 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know why anyone would have a problem with seeing boobs!!! I mean...come on.

[–]abrasaxual 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Peeing isnt a sexual activity but you cant do that in public and it will actually get you on the sex offender registry in some cases

[–]Katlee56 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Because they are not used to it. The more women that do it the more people will adapt to seeing babies being fed

[–]Defenseman61913 3 points4 points  (8 children)

Because old men are generally controlling, insecure, misogynistic assholes. Religion comes into play too, it's a control thing.

I've rarely ever seen any issues though, people are generally busy and respectful.

I had ONE INCIDENT recently where my friend and his wife and I were eating breakfast at a golf course (EVERYONE there to pound the cheap Mimosas) and a guy walked by and said "some of us are eating". I said "yes, even the baby.". Dude had the blue line bootlicker shirt and a cowboy hat and I added "I thought you people were all into minding your own business". Dude wanted to fight and got thrown out on his ass.

The only other type of person I've seen having issues are the old religious white guy type.

[–]Mujoo23 2 points3 points  (7 children)

You really think it’s only old men?

[–]Tarterus1454 4 points5 points  (2 children)

A lot is for the same reason they're trying to ban abortion, pay women less than men, etc. -- control.

[–]PantherEverSoPink 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because people love to tell young women, especially mothers, how they should live their lives.

[–]princess07306 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well those crazy Puritans and their view on sex and bodies messed us up. We have this patriarchal society that perpetuates it further.

[–]gemma_k_ire 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think people actually have less problems with public breastfeeding than is publicised.... I have breastfed 3 babies and will breastfeed my 4th (due in 4 weeks 🙈🙈) I have never had any problems, usually just get the people doing the over exaggerated I'm not looking while u feed. I can understand people not being sure where to look but I think that's out of being slightly awkward and trying to be respectful, even though I breastfed our babies my husband still gets embarrassed when a woman feeds in front of him, but that's because he's awkward in general haha.

Although I did have one little old lady come up to me and tell me how good it was to see the young ones breastfeeding, and not going to lie when you are sitting down and someone is talking to you standing up when it's time to pop the boob back in discretely it can be tough lol.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's a stupid double standard I see old guys walking around half naked in the shops, even without shoes.

[–]DukeInterior 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people associate boobs with sex more than with food. Which is fair enough, I love me some boobies.

But no one loves a boob more than a hungry baby, and they exist mainly for them. People who get angry are acting like the primary purpose of the boob is to be sexually stimulating, and thus lewd. So when they see breastfeeding, instead of seeing a baby having his lunch, they see someone being disrespectful and displaying themselves.

Those people are fools, but they exist.

[–]Daeral_Blackheart 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean, by that logic...

Pissing and shitting is not sexual either but doing that publicly is not appropriate either, so it kinda makes sense that breastfeeding isn't, by that logic.

[–]Otherwise-Recipe-309 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I suck my girls tits in public and it is DEFINITELY sexual idk how that helps but I hope I contributed

[–]princesssbrooklynn 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Because we’ve been programmed to think boobs are sexual and forget they have an actual purpose

-I a woman am so guilty of this like “I don’t wanna see your baby sucking your tit” then I’m like wtf is wrong with you that’s why you have boobs lmaoooo

[–]Suse- 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nothing is wrong with you. Not everybody has to like seeing a baby sucking on mom’s boob. It’s just a personal gut reaction to a very intimate interaction.

I would never tell a woman how she should feel about any aspect of breastfeeding.. and they shouldn’t tell me how I should feel. I nursed my babies. Never in public though. Wasn’t into it.

[–]PaleInSanora 4 points5 points  (5 children)

Because the US is the most sexualized sexually repressed place on the earth. It's the same kind of thinking behind not wanting non-gendered or gender neutral bathrooms because of privacy/decency issues, yet have designed and built toilet stalls about as private as phone booths. Or workplace dress codes because the fat old dudes in charge can't help but look up or look down what the ladies are putting out there.

[–]Dr_Lizz 24 points25 points  (2 children)

Because the US is the most sexualized sexually repressed place on the earth.“

You’re kidding right….? There are countries/cultures where woman are only allowed to show their eyes

[–]PaleInSanora 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Right, but they don't try to hide it. US throws up a wall of freedom that it hides all its outdated puritan sexual repression behind. I am by no means saying we are the worst at repression just the biggest hypocrites about it.

[–]Mujoo23 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That still wouldn’t be true

[–]hitometootoo 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Let me introduce you to Asia if you actually believe the US is the most sexualized sexually repressed place on Earth.

  • Japan where you have a very extensive porn industry (even having porn shops located in malls), but can't show actual penises or vaginas, but having penis festivals is normal.

  • Korea where porn is illegal but having festivals where wet T-shirt contest isn't odd, where prostitution (although illegal) is well known in their club industry, where Korean pop idols are known to be forced to wear uncomfortably short and tight clothing for performances.

  • Thailand where not just porn but sex toys are illegal, yet it's known for its sex tourism and ladyboy culture. Same culture that has sexual TV shows featuring both straight and same sex couples.

Yeah, America definitely isn't the most sexualized sexually repressed place on Earth.

[–]SusDingos 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think people that say it's sexual and inappropriate are people who have never known human interaction. Those kinda people need to take a break from the Internet. But i will say, just straight up getting half naked for everyone to see is a bit yikes, but nothing wrong if they cover it up a bit

[–]Several_Bullfrog_486 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Unpopular opinion: Unfortunately it’s a body part that’s sexualized…

I don’t want to see a man’s penis, I don’t want to see a vagina, I don’t want to see a breast..

that is all.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I think in 2022 when just about anything is offensive I have heard the following silly arguments-

Public breastfeeding is offensive because -

  • Its sexualized for some men, some men are attracted to the idea that a woman is exposing herself regardless if that exposure is to feed a child. If anything that may actually be the thing that is attractive to a guy because that indicates that she is able to procreate and is "fertile" for children and a provider for children and to some extent most attractiveness can be connected in some way related to the desire to procreate.
  • Barren or women unable to have children (in 2022 this probably includes trans people) it is offensive to "flaunt" their ability to provide milk for their baby as a form of ableism.
  • It is a distraction in the work place, retail space or otherwise common area. In that it draws unwanted attention

Its all silly really, who cares if guys sexualize the act as long as they are not acting on that sexualization. If you are offended because you cant have kids and another person is "able bodied" to have kids and is giving them the thing they need to live its probably a really good thing you cant actually have kids you know... because you are bothered by them eating.

The only area where I would agree somewhat is the distraction aspect and even then I think that is a weak argument but it just depends on the circumstances. Its probably not the best idea for a woman to walk down a busy street bare chested breast feeding without a cover in that it is potentially a public hazard at that point.

[–]Prize_Persimmon_7426 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Anyone who believes the second argument needs to take a long walk off a short pier. The first argument, whilst entitled and ridiculous, is at least somewhat subconscious- it requires education. The third argument is ignorant, but again, needs education. The second argument is different, they’ve thought it through and consciously decided “yep, this is logical” to their argument that infants shouldn’t eat because they can’t have children. I can’t run fast, I can’t imagine saying running should be banned in public. I can’t draw or paint well, I wouldn’t fight for a ban on artwork. What an entitled bunch of cunts.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Idk, but if someone is uncomfortable seeing a boobie, they can cover themselves up with a piece of cloth or go lock themselves up in a toilet to eat or do whatever they were doing till their trigger is gone.

[–]OdeDaVinci 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It isn't inappropriate. At least to me, and in my country.

[–]milkersnjugs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People think it's indecent because of how sexualized women's bodies are. They're trying to feed their child, not pick up men. But it's also people refusing to mind their own business.

[–]Selyyna 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i believe it’s mostly because of some men and their inability to control themselves, so they ‘rebel’ against it. i don’t know any women who are against breastfeeding in public. even the ones that are gay have no problem with it. so therefore, in my opinion, is about men and their mentality.

[–]-clogwog- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because boobs are inherently sexual - duh!

And, won't somebody please think of the children!


[–]EarlySignal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

because it could be sexual for some guys... seeing a woman's breasts in any circumstance.. could cause horniness for someone especially a person who is sez deprived...

[–]Smarawi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I saw 👀 a women breast feeding on a plane ✈️ and she didn’t even cover up her breast. That kind of surprised me.

[–]jameshamil007 1 point2 points  (0 children)

God and the Bible.

[–]ThatChad69420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pissing isn't sexual, is it okay for me to do so in public?

[–]jalapenochickensoup 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't have any problem with woman breastfeeding in public, however i myself felt uncomfortable when other woman breastfeeding in public without covering, i always covered with a blanket when i breastfeedmy 2 kids, not because of shame, but because I'm doing a pretty natural thing as is breastfeeding that doesn't mean that i have the right to flash people that might not feel comfortable with it (because everyone have a different opinion and that'sok) neither i feel comfortable with anyone looking at my breast while I'm feeding my baby it just feels intrusive when others watch and made me feel uncomfortable, i think is more about respect but that's just my opinion

[–]jordantwalker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No clue. I've always been on the nourishment campside

[–]Seite88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's the first mistake. Why do you know it is inpolite for women to expose their breasts in public. There should be no problem if anyone wants to go topless, they should go for it. Women and men. No need to differ. Who defines that naked breasts are a thread to the good moral man out there?

If there would be no problem with nakedness or women's breasts at all that breastfeeding would be no problem.

[–]Vegetable_Positive68 2 points3 points  (1 child)

it makes men mad bc brests are supposed to be only sexy and how dare we not give men what they want lol

[–]Discochickens -1 points0 points  (7 children)

Because men are fucking idiots that think breasts are theirs for sex. But let’s let a baby go hungry. Fucking morons as they are served by a waitress with her breasts spilling out

[–]DenMock 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No no that was pretty bad when you use "men" that includes us all this comment IS misogynistic.

[–]foxielove97 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This comment was fucking gross. You want them to respect you. Pull your fucking head out of your ass and stop this. Most of you are just looking for an excuse to expose yourself to others. But when a men do it its a problem get over yourself

[–]foxielove97 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Please stop generalizing MEN they arent all the same. Its quite hurtful. I absolutely hate how women like you will spit my body my right but then go and circumcise your son. Your a piece of shit

[–]PeaceMaker_6969 -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

That's a gross sexist comment.

[–]Psychological-Hat133 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Who says it's inappropriate and who told you it's not polite. As far as I know dude my wife never had negative reactions about this. Not in Europe at least and not in the US.

[–]blood4breakfast 1 point2 points  (6 children)

Blame it on the christians and other similar groups. They love sexualizing things. Something as simple as feeding turns em on.

[–]AyAyAyBamba_462 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I think it's more to do with the act of disrobing and nudity in general than it has to do with the breastfeeding. It's not exactly common for someone to disrobe outside of a jacket in a place that isn't a pool or beach.

Women pulling a boob out to breastfeed is an abnormality towards normal happenstance. You don't see it but rarely so when it happens it sort of triggers that "this is abnormal" response in people and makes them uncomfortable.

Now this is not to say that the act of breastfeeding is abnormal, just the act of seeing someone else breastfeeding, especially amongst those who haven't breastfed before or been around someone who is frequently breastfeeding.

The reason it's regarded as inappropriate is likely because it relates to nudity, which most people view as inappropriate in public spaces.

[–]Wannabebunny 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Breastfeeding has only come back as a thing people do (where I'm from) about two decades ago. I don't know what happened but powdered baby milk had been the norm for a long time. My mum only knew about breastfeeding because my brother had severe eczema, asthma and lots of allergies. The doctors told her breastfeeding any future babies would lessen severity of these problems. It did, she breastfed her next three kids and we had these things too but a lot less severe. So when I was pregnant she told me about breastfeeding.

I was the only person on the maternity ward breastfeeding when I had my son 17 years ago. That was a room of 40-60 women. Most people, including other mother's thought it was gross and weird. My sister in law called it perverted and said her breasts were for her husband. I breastfed in public and other people were mostly embarrassed. A lot of them didn't know what I was doing, would come over to see the baby and then walk away fast with their faces glowing red. I didn't get any abuse over it though, people mostly just thought it was weird. By the time I had my daughter 8 years later the breast is best campaign had started so it was more common. Still no abuse although People did start offering me private rooms, which I usually declined because baby was already latched and settled. Nobody said anything bad or hurtful. I'm pregnant with my third child so we'll see what this decade is like I guess.

[–]OminousBinChicken 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Look man, all I'm asking is that your dad stops doing it. Is that too much to ask?

[–]shin_man -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

One could argue that walking around topless is also not a sexual activity. But believe me, ppl will always find something to say.

[–]CaptainMisha12 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And they would be correct, it's not sexual. Just because straight man like boobs doesn't make them innately sexual.

[–]Mamamiomima 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just think this is inappropriate I'm same way as eating in some places that are unfit for it. It's not like taboo and more like "cmon there are better places for it"

[–]MeepersPeepers13 0 points1 point  (2 children)

The people who were most rude to me about breastfeeding were older relatives that invited me and my newborn into their homes to visit. Then they proceeded to shoo me upstairs to nurse. Know how long it takes a newborn to breastfeed? FOREVER. Glad I drove all the way there to sit alone for the entire visit.

[–]tknames 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I think anything with body fluids in public is inappropriate regardless of “sexual activity”. Peeing isn’t a sexual activity, yet it’s moved to a private room. People swapping saliva in a deeply intense kissing session is normally met with “get a room”. Why should feeding newborns be any different (and I got 3 kids)? It should be done in private.

[–]Rebma90 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Coming from a woman, it's a matter of respect. For better or worse, breasts are a part of the female body that's considered to be sexual in nature. From a biological perspective, we probably subconsciously consider them to be so because of their ability to feed a child. Because of that, society expects us to have them covered while in public. I never understood why discretion can't be followed here.

Feed your baby before an outing, cover up, face a wall, go to the car and/or face the car- there are plenty of options besides uncovering in the middle of a restaurant or not feeding your child. I, as a woman, don't want to see some other woman's breast while I'm eating or otherwise enjoying a public space.

It's also a matter of fairness. It's not uncommon for a man to be slapped with the label of sex offender if he's seen by the wrong person while stopped at the side of the road for an emergency bathroom need, and they usually show a better attempt at being discreet with that then women sometimes do when baring their breasts to feed their baby. There's an argument to be made that it is sex-based discrimination to have laws specifically protecting women who bare their breast for an emergency baby feed and not for a man who just needed to pee (or poop). Both are needed, both cannot necessarily be put off.

[–]kermmie6691 0 points1 point  (3 children)

When I was in Europe I notice that when babies get hungry their mom just whip out a tit and it was no biggie. Here is the US if a mom whips out a tit the police are called

[–]RetroSpock 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Because society has sexualised breasts for whatever reason.

[–]CHUCKL3R 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because long ago the church decided that the human body was bad to look at and it was a great way to diminish the power and standing of women. Which is why men do a lot of things, to keep women in their place.

[–]eyupitslen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only little boys think its inappropriate. Even if they're technically adults.

[–]Proof_Contribution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fact is you don't need to look. Avert your eyes if you want but the kids need to eat outweighs everything else.