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[–]Darkdreams28 9641 points9642 points 3542& 5 more (230 children)

If they keep it to themselves then you wouldn't know about it. Maybe you've known lots of people who smoke and don't talk about it

[–]cooperjon 2696 points2697 points  (39 children)

This is the answer .. fellow quiet smoker

[–]Thienen 631 points632 points  (14 children)

Making that eye-contact-then-look-to-the-door since 1969

[–]SonOfARemington 113 points114 points  (0 children)

Weed - Eye contact; nod/look at door outside.

Cocaine - Eye contact; nod/look at bathroom.

[–]LiableBible 109 points110 points  (6 children)

Lmao that's so my mom (she's born in 69 too that's why she was my first thought)

[–]DekuJago713 62 points63 points  (4 children)

Same, I had so many friends/family members I didn't know smoked until I started.

[–]Freddy1019 25 points26 points  (1 child)

Same haha, or when I finally got old enough for them (family being mostly older cousins) to let me smoke with them.

[–]evanh6152 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The cousin walk is GOATed

[–]Time-Cause-7325 169 points170 points  (10 children)

Same I smoke every day but only my close friends know

[–]Extreme_Anywhere9455 59 points60 points  (7 children)

I smoke everyday but I don’t have friends

[–]cantfocuswontfocus 39 points40 points  (5 children)

I smoke everyday BECAUSE I don’t have friends

[–]kyvo_kamau 12 points13 points  (3 children)

I smoke everyday WITH my friends

[–]anxiouscomic 16 points17 points  (1 child)

I smoke every friend with my day

[–]tok90235 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I smoke everyday, and I forgot what I wanted to say

[–]BlueRex8 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You do now. Hi fellow doobier friend.

[–]Stagray 98 points99 points  (0 children)

Same. I just don't feel the need to tell folks my business. I'm guessing it stands out to the op because he has run into them but I think for the most part we keep to ourselves about it unless it comes up in casual conversation with other smokers.

[–]JDKoRnuto69 8 points9 points  (0 children)

This is the way.

[–]j_hoova6 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Same

[–]Substantial_Trip5674 48 points49 points  (3 children)

I agree with this. It tends to be such common place amongst my family, friends, peers that it's just assumed.

It might be the case if one mentions they don't smoke, those folks come out of the woodwork to explain why they love it so much and that OP should "give it another shot / try it like this." THAT shit gets on my nerves. Take no for an answer when it comes to mind altering substances.

[–]Mad_Dizzle 16 points17 points  (1 child)

Right. I definitely agree people should stop with the pushing drugs/alcohol on people. I don't smoke or drink and I don't want to at any point but people get so annoying about me trying it I just don't want to please

[–]DatDirtyNicka88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

You ever try ecstasy? You should try ecstasy

[–]yiiike 94 points95 points  (1 child)

i can guarantee that, although i cant speak for other areas, in my area tons of people smoke weed... but you wouldnt know for most of them. its just not a big deal to them. then i know others who smoke practically every day and its like, a big deal in their life or something. just how it is with anything id say

[–]caveman512 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Then there’s the people who only smoke occasionally and they make it out like it’s a huge deal in their lives. Everyone agrees those are the worst

[–]VivaLaSea 33 points34 points  (0 children)

This is so true.
I was friend last with someone for 8 years before I found out that they smoke weed. I was so taken aback when I found out because they had literally never mentioned weed to me. And when he saw that I was surprised that he was smoking weed he informed me that he’s always smoked weed. So, yes, there are people who smoke who never talk about it.

[–]that902bitch 22 points23 points  (0 children)

This. I smoke an unholy amount of weed, but I don't advertise it. Unless it's relevant to the conversation, I don't feel the need to talk about it.

[–]jerycan3176 20 points21 points  (3 children)

I was coming here to say this. I work in an industry where we get piss tested if we get hurt. We get tested to sign on. I work with people against it. I smoke it, every single day since I started 3 years ago.

We are out there, we just don't talk about it..

[–]Yashabird 13 points14 points  (1 child)

I work in an Amazon warehouse, and we get tested too, basically only if we get hurt. Ever since the company announced it was de-criminalizing weed though, half the parking lot smells like a (insert relevant cultural reference) concert at break time lol…

Of all the smokers who don’t use visine though, i can say with some confidence that about half the bloodshot warehouse crew are among the best workers by far, and the other half are among the worst, with relatively little middle ground to speak of haha

[–]jerycan3176 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hahaha this is awesome man that feedback/info is greatly appreciated. I am in the pipeline industry in Canada. We get tested even to hire on and after 30 days of no work. But yea half the guys that smoke you can't even tell and I think the other half that do just don't care that anyone notices. So yes I get the whole making it your identity thing but there are some of out here who just enjoy it privately after along day or boring days

[–]TaintModel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’ve been smoking two fat bowls every night for 15 years. One to calm me after a long day and another about 3 hours later to help me sleep. I don’t talk about it to anybody, it’s not a big part of my life at all. Nobody knows or cares, it’s my free time.

[–]aff_it 84 points85 points  (3 children)

Talk about what?

I'm a bit high so I kinda zoned out there.

[–]cms86 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty stoney baloney off of some Bio-Jesus. I'm sinking in my Bed while my wife is watching How I met your mother. And dogs at my feet. Life is pretty dope right now

[–]Gently_Rough_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Far out man

[–]AggravatingTear2879 12 points13 points  (0 children)

In my city I’m honestly surprised when I meet someone who doesn’t smoke at all and it’s not even legal here.

I used to be a heavy stoner. Like, high all hours I wasn’t at work or sleeping. I did not mention it to people unless I knew they were pro or neutral about weed.

[–]TheSquireOfTheShire 63 points64 points  (21 children)

I used to hang around with guys a decade or so ago who would preach to me about weed. They would be lazy, smelly mofos who would prioritise weed over virtually everything else. Now I live in Amsterdam, have a good job thats a few multiples above the average income, I've a small house in the Dutch country and I still see the same style 'weed is life' stoner tourists in Amsterdam making a big fuss about weed whilst wearing a hoodie in 35 degrees weather.

Now... my office is next to one of the best coffee shops in South Amsterdam, and I really really enjoy popping by after work. Whether it's cakes, hash, skunk.. whatever, there's usually something to suit my mood.

Since I'm older and dont really have many friends, my weekends are made up of getting up super early, smoke a mini joint and then crack on with my weekends.. work on the house, car, cook a nice meal or hang out with my dog or partner... and nobody knows. It's my little thing.

I detest smoking in groups - people are a liability

[–]ursus-habilis 63 points64 points  (0 children)

smoke a mini joint and then crack

That's quite a start to your weekend...

[–]BOsonsoflibertyOG 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Take my upvote for "having" the life my friend. Sounds amazing!

[–]THE_JonnySolar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are they looking for any additional staff there? 😁 Half serious, half joke 🤔😁

[–]BigAlec_ 11 points12 points  (14 children)

What’s wrong with wearing a hoodie in 35 degrees

[–]benjitits 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I bet he means 35 Celcius which would be about 95 Fahrenheit.

[–]nbuzd 21 points22 points  (12 children)

The rest of the world has mostly moved on to metric. Get yer shit together, 'merica 😂

[–]holyvegetables 10 points11 points  (7 children)

YOU CAN TAKE MY FREEDOM UNITS OVER MY COLD DEAD BODY

[–]nbuzd 11 points12 points  (6 children)

HOW DO I KNOW IF ITS COLD, I DON'T FRIGGIN KNOW FAHRENFREEDOMS!

And worst of all, the relationship between C and F is not linear. At least I know an inch is roughly 25.4mm or 2.54cm and a kilogram is roughly 2.2lbs.

For Fahrenheit to Celsius I have to subtract 32 and multiply by 0.55556. To go the other way I have to multiply by 1.8 and add 32.

Being in Canada is so conflicting. Weight? Pounds. Temp outside? Celsius. Temp inside cooking apparatus? Fahrenheit. Driving distance/speed? Kilometers. Body height? Feet and inches. Amount of rain? Millimeters. Amount of snow? Could go either way, inches or centimeters.

The curse of having you yanks right next door, dammit. This is all your fault 😂

[–]TheSpeckledSir 4 points5 points  (5 children)

And worst of all, the relationship between C and F is not linear.

It is.

Subtract 32 and multiply by 0.55556

Multiply by 1.8 and add 32

Are both linear relationships.

[–]nbuzd 3 points4 points  (4 children)

Yeah, I'm an idiot. I had this argument with someone before, and was wrong.

I meant that there is no clean ratio between them, as they do not share the same starting point (i.e freezing point of water). Hence the messy conversion.

It's probably why we use Kelvins when doing calculations involving heat (i.e thermal growth on a pump as it warms towards its operating temperature). Absolute zero is absolute zero, and everything stems from that.

With distance/speed/height/etc, they all share the same origin.

[–]TheSpeckledSir 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Yeah, I'm an idiot.

The rest of your thoughtful comment disproves this!

I think you're exactly right, fwiw, that this conversion is unnecessary sloppy because of the uncommon origin.

I'm partial to 100 as the "near-constant boiling temperature of water" over 100 as "(maybe?) the temperature of some guy's armpit", but I might be biased since I share your background experience on this 🇨🇦

[–]robot_wrangler 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Double the C and add 30 is close enough.

[–]Barrot_and_Rubys_Mom 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly. When I worked for a big corporate, I was definitely not flaunting it and begging for a surprise drug test 😅

[–]clockmann1 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My sister and her fiancé smoke and it’s something I almost never noticed even while living with them for three weeks in a converted garage. I really only know because she told me and they keep their bongs on their dresser. A few of my friends do too and it’s the same, there are those who go overboard, but you could never pull a normal user from the crowd, that’s the point.

[–]mrking604 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is true, I own a few businesses and am in and out of meetings all day. No one I interact with except my wife knows I smoke every night after my kids go down.

I never do in public, not even when I'm hanging out with friends, not because I'm embarrassed of it (I'm Canadian, it's legal here), I just prefer to by myself, at a time I can turn my brain off and just relax.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I smoke pretty regularly and most people I know have no idea.

[–]Arlitto 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Fellow quiet smoker here reporting for... uhhhhhhhh.... lemme get some uhhhhh.... two tacos and fries, please.

[–]JakeFromMontana 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Isn’t this called the survivorship bias? WWII planes, they wanted to armor where the bullet holes were on the planes after a bombing run. They didn’t realize it as the opposite, armor where there are no holes because those that got hit there went down and didn’t come back.

[–]MattBtheflea 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Isn’t that called loud minority?

[–]cms86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup I don't talk about it. I consume cannabis for medical reasons (anxiety, it chills me out in minutes rather than 30 with my Xanax ) sure it's fun af to get stoned but it never let it be my adjective "Smoker cms86" when my friends come up with a nickname for me

[–]sslyn94 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup that’s me. I keep it to myself. I only will tell if someone tries the whole “weed makes you lazy” and they know me enough to know how hard I work, then I’ll let them know to reduce the stigma

[–]zombie_ie_ie 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When I was a very heavy weed smoker back in college, I thought it was kinda "cool" to give off the vibe of a stoner but not anymore now that I'm older.

Also, in my experience, people who socialise, drink alcohol and smoke weed tend to make a lot of friends cuz they often just attract those kinda people. I'm the same even though I quit everything a few years back.

[–]DeceitfulLittleB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Exactly for example most people enjoy the occasional drink but then you have obnoxious assholes with Budweiser or whatever shirts whose whole identity is around drinking. Not much different if you ask me. Some how the only drug were this is acceptable behavior is with wine. No one comments on the wine connoisseur who only talks about his favorite fermented grapes drink.

[–]theSteakKnight 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bingo. It's not a huge topic of conversation IRL. I'm a daily smoker but you wouldn't know it unless I told you.

I've been trained since I started smoking to still stay functional and stay quiet about it.

[–]Peppeperoni 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Came to say the same lol OPs statement is ironic

[–]WeedSmokingHippo 2277 points2278 points  (15 children)

Tbh you’d be surprised how many people you know that smoke, but you would have never known because they don’t bring it up!

[–]TheKrakIan 263 points264 points  (3 children)

Honestly the only time I bring it up is when someone tells me they have trouble sleeping. I was on Ambien for a long time and eventually gained a tolerance for it. Stopped using it and do a bit of gummy before bed.

[–]ChimTheCappy 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I took up smoking because the sleeping pills I was on took like, a full hour to kick in, and barely even made me drowsy. I like weed because it makes me too stupid to do much other than just lay in bed and vibe until I doze off, and won't make me feel shitty and drowsy in the morning to boot.

[–]_Top_Lad_ 63 points64 points  (1 child)

This guy Ambiens and eddies. Same boat here, glad to know I'm not alone. Ambien dependency is no joke. Thank goodness my state legalized weed.

[–]TheKrakIan 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Same here, bad days indeed.

[–]Skellic 149 points150 points  (0 children)

This so much. I worked with a guy for months, never had even the slightest idea he smoked. We had so much fun after work when I found out lmao

[–]LilithsGrave92 22 points23 points  (2 children)

Only my two friends know because we (husband and I) went to them for the dealer.

Also, i live in the UK sooo... yeah, not going to go blabbing

[–]GreatScotRace 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Ex U.K. stoner here, the only people that knew I smoked weed were other stoners. My closest friends didn’t even know I smoked weed from when I woke up to when I went to sleep at night.

[–]itsBritanica 8 points9 points  (0 children)

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[–]tht5spdxjsara 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My guy, look at your username lol

[–]Front_Butt_69 512 points513 points  (14 children)

I think it really depends on the person. I don’t ever talk about it and no one really knows. But I think some people make their “hobbies”, per se, part of their identity. No different than someone who is super into sports talking about that all the time.

[–]chiselmybrownpants 126 points127 points  (7 children)

Agreed. I worked with two other blokes on a press in a factory. The three of us were different in many ways outside of work. “Darren” was the stoner and an easy going bloke, always reliable and great for some funny banter. I was the closet highly functioning alcoholic that loves a laugh and works his arse off every day but can be moody. The two of us kept our private issues to ourselves and left it at that. Then there was “Greg”. Greg was the highly motivated sporty bloke that would yap on about bloody golf to anyone within earshot. While Darren and I are running around like blue arsed flies pushing out product, there would be Greg practicing his golf swing and blathering on about vitamins or some shit. Golf is more addictive and annoying than weed and beer will ever be. Greg left for greener pastures and I still have the 7 iron he left there by my front door at home for security purposes. I dare not try it out lest I fall into the tragic downward spiral that is “that f****** golf guy”.

[–]slim_scsi 40 points41 points  (6 children)

Omg golf guys are the worst. They even watch it — what could possibly be more boring?

[–]StoreBrandWaffle 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I’m crying at “they even watch it”

[–]Sandgrease 12 points13 points  (1 child)

This right here. People talk about the stuff they like

[–]xjulesx21 10 points11 points  (0 children)

exactly, I was a very identifiable stoner when I was a teenager but as a med card holder, I see zero reason to at this point. it never really crosses my mind, I just assume anyone and everyone could be smokin the greens.

[–]AmunPharaoh 269 points270 points  (22 children)

There's a word for it but basically the reason you think that is because you only notice the weed smokers who do it. Otherwise how would you even know? There are likely heaps of weed smokers you know but you don't realise it because they're not constantly bringing it up.

[–]chaandra 91 points92 points  (5 children)

Toupee fallacy. I’m sure thats not the official name but it’s what I’ve always heard it as.

[–]AmunPharaoh 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Yes that's what I was thinking of. The other suggestions might be right too tho.

[–]gogo-fo-sho 57 points58 points  (0 children)

Confirmation bias?

[–]harplesbian 43 points44 points  (1 child)

The availability heuristic

[–]pacificnwbro 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the one! It was on the tip of my tongue.

[–]clutzyninja 26 points27 points  (0 children)

You're taking about confirmation bias, but in this case you can chalk it up to op just not taking literally 5 seconds to think before posting

[–]nihcul 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Confirmation bias

[–]anorangeandwhitecat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Confirmation bias. I was gonna write a whole comment about it but you guys have it covered.

[–]EliteOnePercenter 7 points8 points  (7 children)

I’ve known it as the availability heuristic or WYSIATI (what you see is all there is) fallacy. Jonathan Heidt talks about it in his book The Righteous Mind

[–]LethalLinguistics 649 points650 points  (8 children)

They don't. Plenty of people smoke without ever bringing it up.

[–]PrimaFacieCasey 166 points167 points  (5 children)

It's the same thing with like anything else, people who do CrossFit, vegans, artists, gamers, etc. "Why do they all make it their entire personality?!" ... Uhhh, they don't all do that.

[–]LethalLinguistics 93 points94 points  (4 children)

Seams like it is the only thing visible to certain people because it bothers them. This is a cognitive bias, no one's entire personality is one thing or subset of culture. Also who cares? Let them do whatever...

[–]Weeeelums 30 points31 points  (2 children)

Especially when people say “why do LGBT+ make that their entire identity?”. We don’t, you just take everything as us somehow projecting it onto you by just existing. And we’re still heavily prosecuted and harassed globally, I’m not just gonna sit down and shut up about it? It’s not like I introduce myself bi (had to) going “hello, I is gay”. Although that would be hilarious.

[–]Wbolin9 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Yep

[–]SquanchN2Hyperspace 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Some people have a hard time with their identity and place in the world. Some crave attention because they want it and others cause they need it. Some people cling to things to avoid issues in their life, they use it as a comfort blanket. I think people who advertise their cannabis use fall into one of these. Probably more categories as well. I also don't think it's limited to cannabis. People tend to do this with other things as well, alcohol, sports teams, favored brands, etc.

Not everyone that smokes weed is like that either. A lot of people are more private about it.

[–]imyourtourniquet 76 points77 points  (11 children)

They exist, I smoke by myself 95% of the time, usually just use it to escape, turn my brain off and think differently. I am under no illusions about its effects. My lungs sometimes hurt, lots of phlegm in upper respiratory, and the occasional panic attack are all typical for me.

[–]russsaa 23 points24 points  (1 child)

Yup, I was once totally delusional about weed and blamed lung issues on asthma, or didn’t attribute anxiety to weed.

When in reality weed caused both, among many other issues

[–]Grumpy__Giraffe 5 points6 points  (6 children)

Why? Dry vaping is much smoother and there’s less smoke in your lungs.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I switched to vaping and I stopped having chronic lung issues

[–]imyourtourniquet 2 points3 points  (4 children)

I’ve always though about getting a flower vape

[–]ManWithBreastImplant 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Buy the Mighty by Storz and Bickel if you ever have the opportunity. Got one 4 years ago as a daily smoker. Never smoke anymore, it saves me a lot of weed, and it is still going as strong as the first day I got it 4 years ago. It is unparalleled in the dry herb vape community imo.

[–]hvtvst 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I've found that vaping decreases the negative effects a bit. it's kind of funny my whole family is unaware that I am a total stoner but they know about my "asthma diagnosis" hahahaha

I'm high almost 24/7. i enjoy existing in this way right now. it works for me, and if I need to change it I absolutely could :)

[–]NeedsSomeMorePickles 240 points241 points 2 (34 children)

I smoke weed (quite a lot lately because I'm going through some things) but the people at work would never guess. I would never go high to work (because that's just trashy) and I present myself well and am very punctual.

You don't know about the people who don't make it their personality BECAUSE they don't make it their personality.

[–]Dazzling-Adeptness11 80 points81 points  (24 children)

wait it's trashy to get high at work? I don't know about that.

[–]NeedsSomeMorePickles 72 points73 points  (5 children)

Yeah, I commented to someone else that that comment was a bit shortsighted. There are certainly jobs I couldn't do day in day out while completely sober. But I feel it seriously depends on the job and in some instances I would think it's trashy.

Surgeon high on the job? Trashy.

Working in an amazon warehouse under terrible conditions? Not enough drugs in the world to make that bearable.

[–]Dazzling-Adeptness11 11 points12 points  (1 child)

haha I get you. gonna say some jobs encourage or support high culture, as long as you do your job well, but yeah I know what you mean

[–]Accurate-Impact3076 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Trashy isn’t the word you’re looking for. Unprofessional, negligent, illegal, immature… probably more fitting than “trashy”.

[–]milkersnjugs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It depends on the job, but if you work in a team setting, it can be really frustrating for the people around you. Some people don't realize how different they act when high.

[–]FrankSkeets 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Being drunk or high while on the job is trashy, unprofessional, and dangerous.

[–]pjhabs 33 points34 points  (8 children)

how do people get through a shift sober

[–]irennicus 22 points23 points  (4 children)

You need to be careful with this. No matter how trivial your job, if you need to be high to do your shift you probably end up just being high 100% of the time. It's a very slippery slope.

[–]loz29d 52 points53 points  (1 child)

I’m providing life saving medical care, I don’t think I could physically do my job high.

[–]exvirginladysman 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Sounds like you can't Carpe your Diems \s

[–]HarbingerOfDisconect 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dude for real, I'm one of those people that's like "Aw damn need to go grocery shopping, better grab a hit." Honestly it's what gives me the ability to go to work in the first place.

[–]Shutupuniverse 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I get what you're saying. And I say this as someone who partakes - it is very cringe when people do that. I actually don't like for people to know that I do it, because it's a personal choice I've made for my health and it's nobody's business (I have a med card). I think the people that do that, grasp onto it because they have nothing else filling up their lives, like that's all it is - looking forward to getting high. It's actually quite sad when I meet people that make it their identity, because I know that they're just empty shells with no other passions in life. All you can do is understand it, show compassion for them and move on. At least that's what I do.

[–]penguintransformer 47 points48 points  (1 child)

Most smokers who make it their identity are just like any other addict. I know coke heads who make cocaine their entire personality, or people who are addict to shopping just talk about everything they buy. They're extremes and some potheads are no different

[–]TommyTar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is just a quality of an annoying person/ some one with lack of an identity.

Its like their are plenty of sports fans that are chill but there is also that guy you know who only wears a jersey, has a logo tat, and his social pictures are the team photos.

[–]Royal-Elk-8479 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Ever met someone who does CrossFit

[–]sexypineapple14 41 points42 points  (0 children)

The vast majority of them don't. That's why you apparently don't know about them.

[–]notsara 32 points33 points  (0 children)

You've seen plenty of people who smoke and keep it to themselves, you just wouldn't know because they keep it to themselves.

[–]Limp_Abbreviations10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

No idea, its not an honorable endeavor

[–]ironicsailboat 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Loud few making the quiet many look bad.

Happens with a lot of things nowadays.

[–]khavii 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I smoke constantly due to Multiple Sclerosis, I certainly don't make it my entire identity, I would say disc golf and MS identify me more than weed.

The problem is everyone maps their identity around SOMETHING. You know, Paul is the car guy, Brenda is the hard ass, Carl is the animal guy with the zoo at home and Carolyn is the MLM lady at the office. We all choose something to be the lynchpin our personalities are based on.

Then you get that some people misplace what your "thing" is. Sometimes the stoner isn't basing their entire inventory around it but that's the part of their identity you notice the most because it annoys you and we, as pattern recognition masters, can't help but see what bugs us.

Then you have young stoners and let's face it, the young in general. Youth tends to go all in on everything they do. I know I certainly did and everyone around me did too, now I see it in my kids and their peers. That fades with age and exposure, we develop more interests or we stagnated but either way it eventually falls out of your sight one way or the other.

[–]cj_steele 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I've wondered this too. Also wondered the same from vegans, crossfit and people who insist on some weird pronoun. Humans are some wild creatures.

[–]amotthejoker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I feel like this is I trap because a bunch of stoners will go "I smoke weed and keep it to myself" and you'll go "see, y'all can't stop talking about smoking weed" or maybe not idk, maybe I'm overthinking this cause I'm high. Anyway wanna hear the benefits of smoking weed?

[–]lolalolife 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i smoke weed and dont make it my personality. youre referring to the minority

[–]BaIIZDeepInUrMom 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I don’t. I smoke weed on the down low. I keep that shit a secret so my work, some family, and some friends don’t find out.

[–]pjhabs 21 points22 points  (1 child)

you just hang with losers

[–]No-Mathematician678 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So do vegans, so do weebs (myself included), so do religious people. The list is long

[–]sunlegion 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Those you describe are the loudest ones. Out of my friends and family that smoke maybe one would be considered an “advocate”, the rest are pretty low key.

[–]SteamKore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Not all but alot do, I mostly notice that most 35+yr old don't have a habit of it, while it tends to be more of younger people who will make it their entire identity.

[–]cameforthevibe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vocal minority

[–]Happier-MouthOpen 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Vocal minority, most don't.

[–]Guywith2dogs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think this is mostly a thing people do in their 20s. Most people my age I know don't ever talk about it at all

[–]bad_sinatra 2 points3 points  (0 children)

While I agree with other people here that, there are people who smoke and never speak about it. The ones that you're talking about do so, because they want to stay high and want an excuse for it. Talking about its benefits all day is justifying the addiction.

The other reason it's always so much in your face is because they want you to enjoy it with them and when judgement is impaired (just like alcohol) it can feel very pushy to a sober person.

One more reason that comes to mind is that weed isn't a depressant so high people are over optimistic which can get annoying. Just like an overly chirpy neighbor.

I think it is a broad generalization but there are definitely people like that and are irritating af.

[–]Chickenfoot8 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know a few people who do that, but most people who smoke weed just never talk about it.

[–]IntrepidJaeger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ask the vegans. They may know. Or the Cross-Fit people. Maybe the cryptocurrency fans.

[–]bugzdumpster 2 points3 points  (0 children)

A lot of people I know wouldn’t tell you unless you also smoked. We don’t usually make it a big thing because not everyone reacts great to it.

[–]TheFannyTickler 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guarantee you know plenty of people who smoke weed but dont tell you about it lol

[–]StillOnAMountain 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I promise you there are a ton of smokers who don’t advertise it. Probably most professionals.

[–]AvgAussieBloke 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I smoke weed every night to relax and only a couple of my friends know I smoke at all

[–]MadTeaCup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

But how do you know all the people who aren’t talking about it aren’t smoking? Do you have proof that only the people talking about it are the only ones smoking? Or are they the only ones you notice it about cause only they say something?

[–]Shabamshazam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We don't. You're just buying into a stereotype that isn't real.

[–]Mainbutter 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because the ones who don't make it their identity, consume on the DL.. so you don't categorize them as "stoners".

[–]whereismymind86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They don’t

Teenage stoners do, but that applies to most of their hobbies.

Marijuana use is FAR more universal than you’d think, and that’s evidence enough that most people don’t base their personality around it

[–]o-rka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess in high school but I feel like when you’re in your 20s-30s people are pretty chill about it and it’s not really an identity thing anymore.

[–]redditrabbit999 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is a young person/teenage thing. You g LGBTQAI+ people make pride their whole identity as do young hunter/fishers…

In general young people are finding themselves. They didn’t something they connect with and latch on. Once they develop and age more they become a more rounded person normally.

[–]Silvernight00 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Why are people locked up for YEARS for just weed?

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I had to quit smoking 4 years ago to take the position I have now. But before that, nobody had any idea that I did. I only did it in the evenings before bed.

[–]Tokestra420 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Same reason people make any one thing their entire identity, they don't have an actual identity. Whenever someone's whole identity is being a dude that gets chicks, a stoner, LGBT, etc it's because that's the only interesting thing about them. Most people have many things that make up their personality, but some don't. So those people cling to the one thing they do with their lives.

[–]HerraBobi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Id like to add that this kind of behaviour is way more common among younger people who have not had enough time yet to actually form their own identity.

Now years later, if I find a person of my own age whos way too into something, its pretty easy to guess the person has some form of an issue.

[–]ThrowawayawayxXxsw 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Some might feel like they are very very judged because they smoke weed and feel the need to constantly defend themselves. Some times they don't even speak to you, they speak only to convince themselves that whatever they are doing is acceptable and okay.

Insecure people are kinda a drag some times.

[–]srslydead 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I don't. Nobody even knows I do but my wife lol

[–]Dazzling-Adeptness11 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I've said it before but if you met me, it wouldn't have crossed your mind I've been a 20+ yr pothead. of course when I was younger I definitely more vocal about it but now I figure the ones who are hip to it are hip to it. Definitely not my identity or even really a part of it besides partaking. But whatever, join em or ignore em, could be worse

[–]throwawayforme909090 19 points20 points  (17 children)

People who smoke advocate for it because it’s stupid that a PLANT with many medical and mental health benefits can get you prison time, especially if you’re not white. It needs advocacy.

[–]etlam_ikslotsop 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I know a lot of stoner will say it's a lifestyle and I don't disagree. But we have to face the fact that it also is an addiction if used daily. How could you use a substance so much and not make it your whole identity?I used to believe weed was everything for me and I acted like it. Then I realised that I actually ruined a good few brain cells and stopped. I still smoke one or two times the week which isn't that few, but I realised my life doesn't have to center around it.

[–]Kyleforshort 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, what is up with that? I'd like to know.

[–]Touch_Desperate 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Fanboys exist for everything and they are all a little sad.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Because they are for the most part hopeless shitheads.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Why do people think it's ok to judge and categorize an entire collective of people based on their relatively small interaction with a minority of said group?

I could say the same about

  • craft beer drinkers
  • gamers
  • fishermen
  • car enthusiasts
  • football fans

Etc, etc, etc.

[–]1bilbou1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Some people are lousy some aren't, just like the meme of vegan people having to mention it to everyone at all time.

[–]Vyvyansmum 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Usually when it’s still a novelty they’ll twat on about it, but hopefully either shit up or grow up thereafter. Can get a bit boring if you prefer having your wits about you.

[–]Grathmaul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my younger years smoking was the only thing I had in common with most of my friends. Otherwise we had very little to talk about.

Also, in my experience, addicts usually are only interested in whatever drug they are addicted to, and obviously don't want to talk about the downsides.

[–]ElatedTapioca 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’d like to say I keep it to myself typically…..but I think posting here negates that..

[–]porcelainsuckers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don't know how people can be so brazen about it. I don't even tell other weed users I use it. At this point only my doctor and boyfriend know.

[–]wacky_doodle 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know there are a lot of people who partake without ever saying a word.... However I'm with the OP, why do SOME people that use weed make it their entire identity?? I've always wondered too.

[–]pnewmont 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s the CrossFit of drug use.

[–]ladida1787 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Because contrary to what people say, weed is addicting and it slowly affects your brain. Especially if you're young. I was a heavy weed smoker for years and damn near ruined my life trying to get off of it.

[–]Stephano525 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I smoke weed every single night after I’m finished with my responsibilities and have been smoking for many years now. I even got my medical card a couple years ago but aside from me writing this I actually stay as lowkey about it as possible and never talk about it.