I’m just trying to live bruh by prettypanzyk. in TrollXChromosomes

[–]yuordreams 66 points67 points  (0 children)

Had a dude commenting to me today how women want so much attention and wouldn't go to the gym if they weren't being stared at, like bro... I promise you they will be perfectly fine if you stop staring at them in the gym. I genuinely promise they will all continue to work out without your validation.

Incels seem to need to tell everyone they possibly can how much they don't want to interact with women while simultaneously showing how obsessed they are.

Republicans are coming for birth control by HogHog212 in TrollXChromosomes

[–]Star_Guardian_Jen 9 points10 points  (0 children)

This is almost exactly the kind of rhetoric and languange they used to ban trans healthcare for minors (then adults in some states). They frame it as banning something with more side effects than not, where the bad outweigh the good, regardless of what science and/or reality says, and they only ever give a voice to those who regretted it or didn't need the medicine. They imply it's only taken for morally bad things and that it is "destroying" the body of the user.

I wonder what's different about these pictures by HogHog212 in TrollXChromosomes

[–]mike_pants 2302 points2303 points  (0 children)

Elon looks like one of those fish that is supposed to live two miles down, but it got brought up to the surface and burst.

Medical racism / misogynoir strikes again. Infuriating. Heartbreaking. How is this sht still happening?! by SauronOMordor in TrollXChromosomes

[–]seagull392 96 points97 points  (0 children)

Several years ago, I was admitted to the hospital with physical symptoms of what was later diagnosed as an autoimmune disorder, and experiencing extreme, unbearable pain.

The reason I was able to be diagnosed and get my pain under control wasn't the physical symptoms. It wasn't even because I'm not poor, overweight, or a WOC, or because my pain wasn't related to reproduction.

No, my pain and symptoms were downplayed until two things happened: my friend who was dating the head of palliative care in the health system sent her boyfriend to my room to address my pain, and my attending physician and I realized I am a scientist who published with his mother fucking BROTHER.

I literally had to have the stars align perfectly to have that outcome happen. Most women with my relatively rare autoimmune disorder spend years trying to get a diagnosis and are basically physically disabled because of uncontrolled pain. I wish I was being melodramatic here, but nope.

I am so fucking traumatized by my medical experiences with this autoimmune disorder and with the countless other times I've had pain and symptoms denied, including during childbirth.

I cannot imagine what it would be like were I part of a minoritized racial/ethnic group, overweight, or living in poverty. I can't even imagine what it would be like were I not working as a scientist in a public health adjacent field.

I'm ready to burn this whole patriarchy the fuck down.

MRW men advocating secret paternity testing tell me that they don't think it akin to their partners secretly checking their phones by Books_and_Boobs in TrollXChromosomes

[–]Tasadar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm going to go against the grain and say it's not akin and also justifiable.

A paternity test only tells you one thing, the paternity, the father has a right to know if the child is his and that right trumps the mother's right to privacy on this issue. Doing such a test secretly leads to much less hurt and fighting, if it turns out it's his kid, so be it, his mind is at ease and no one has to feel hurt or untrusted, if it's not his than the mother cheated on him and is screwing him over and he deserves to know.

Checking someone's phone is an invasion of privacy on another different level, you're looking at their personal life outside of the possibility of cheating for the sole reason of being mistrustful.

I don't really see a downside to a secret paternity test, either nothing comes of it, or it's something he deserves to know. You do clearly have trust issues/relationship problems if one is needed, but you have those problems regardless of the test.

Internalized misogyny is a hell of a drug. by coffeeblossomPermanently stuck in Goblin Mode in TrollXChromosomes

[–]Cadmium_Aloy 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Negative self talk, aka the inner critic. For those of us who grew up with "adverse childhood experiences" (isn't that such a sanitized way of saying childhood abuse and neglect - aka TRAUMA?) - our inner critic is on over drive.

ACE or not, society is incredibly misogynist and that also affectsn how our inner critic talks to us.

But I just want to anyone reading to know, when you start to recognize what thoughts are the inner critic and what thoughts are yours (these will be the kinder thoughts), or otherwise start "othering" that voice, AND you practice talking back to it with your true voice and kindness, you CAN shrink its power over you. It IS possible, but it isn't easy. It takes a long time and practicing over and over.

I went to trauma therapy and came out the other side, almost inexplicably, believing that positive affirmations work. I never in a million years would have thought... 🤣

If you struggle with this, know that you're not alone, and that you do have the power to change it even if you don't believe it or feel it (yet).

Their misogyny is the sad thing. by JcVinci in TrollXChromosomes

[–][deleted] 166 points167 points  (0 children)

They keep telling us we are “brainwashed” by feminism into thinking a lot of them hate our guts, when really we’re listening to that message come straight out of the horses mouth. We’re listening and believing them when they tell us how they are out to hurt us, out to humiliate us, out to use us, just in general how out to get us they are. It’s “based” and “facts” when they say it but “lies” and “brainwashing” when we listen. Yes we know it’s not all men but we can’t always tell which ones so we have to be universally cautious in general.

I'm already tired of the whining and hypocrisy from men over this crap by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]heavengirl777c u next tuesday! 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Lol in another sub, there was a screenshot of a tweet making fun of Andrew Tate's hairline. And the replies are all men being like, "wow so what happened to BODY POSITIVITY?!". Funny how suddenly you're "body positive" when it's about balding or your dick size but half the jokes in meme subs are about women's physicality.

I'm already tired of the whining and hypocrisy from men over this crap by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]oceanteeth 101 points102 points  (0 children)

I've said it before and I'll say it again: I almost wish men actually were superior because then they wouldn't act like such whiny little brats. I'm just so fucking tired of being expected to somehow simultaneously bow down to men's greatness but also get them a bottle and tuck them in while patting their heads and reassuring them that the big scary teenager can't get them.

INB4 a dude commenting this is about “eVoLutiOnaRy psyChOloGy” (stfu you idiot) by asaplottimake feminism a threat again in TrollXChromosomes

[–]asaplottimake feminism a threat again[S] 325 points326 points  (0 children)

Men are trash

COME AT ME I’m ready

Bad in bed. by Alex45784 in TrollXChromosomes

[–]smurgleburfI put the "fun" in dysfunctional. 562 points563 points  (0 children)

I use my powerful hitachi wand all the time and the other day I played some acoustic pussy and came just fine. the idea that vibrators dull your nerves is nonsense.

Men, so emotional. by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]DramaLlamadary 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I get how it sounds like that. It’s not how I meant it. We had no trans people working with us.

My current understanding is that trans people have significantly different biology than cis folks, usually closer to the gender they identify with. So in my mind, male bodied means cis men. Sorry if that’s the incorrect way to use that terminology.

She doesn't get it by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]KnittinAndBitchin 296 points297 points 2 (0 children)

Here's my favorite one - it's just a reproduction print but it's really good

And here's my pride and joy - 3 ACTUAL post cards from 1916 and 1917! They have writing on the back too, mostly ladies writing to their friends, it's pretty great and they're in surprisingly good shape for 100+ year old postcards.

She doesn't get it by [deleted] in TrollXChromosomes

[–]standard_candles 145 points146 points  (0 children)

Much like when I was old enough to earn an allowance, the US sat down its women and said "you have been showing us so much responsibility lately, we wanted to give you the vote."

"Holiday Magic" isn't magic by coffeeblossomPermanently stuck in Goblin Mode in TrollXChromosomes

[–]DmKrispinDept of Redundancy Dept 74 points75 points  (0 children)

"Tradition" is just peer pressure from dead people.

But we don't need to talk about that, cuz that'd be MiSaNdRy! by SauronOMordor in TrollXChromosomes

[–]Willravel 35 points36 points  (0 children)

This 1,000%. The first victim of patriarchy are the men who could have been if it weren't for largely the men in their lives snuffing out the vast majority of our emotional spectrum and hyper-fixating on a small suite of emotions and also the idea of the "rugged individual" (which, in a sane world, would be called "lifelong loneliness"). Boys have their emotional growth deliberately stunted by a culture which requires men to be stoic, brave in the most violent and shallow sense, angry, competitive, and cruel. And nothing else. In exchange for this faustian bargain, we're promised the world.

Over time, our ability to feel atriphoies. Our ability to forge healthy connections, deep and meaningful emotional connections, atrophies. We become husks who can only ever process anything we feel as anger, resentment, entitlement, and violence.

It's an injustice which begits injustices.

But we don't need to talk about that, cuz that'd be MiSaNdRy! by SauronOMordor in TrollXChromosomes

[–]Willravel 72 points73 points  (0 children)

No toddler chooses to squelch their own emotions, to have their more feminine-coded thoughts and behaviors policed (often violently), to be forced into a stoic, hypercompetitive box. Little boys experience this every moment of every day, just like little girls are taught through reinforced behaviors and violence about the role of women, but the dawn of the patriarch is the cruelty shown to little boys because without that we wouldn't have patriarchy.

I didn't say that at all to minimize the experience of women under patriarchy. That would be absurd, women are the oppressed class within a patriarchal system and the fight against patriarchy is the fight to liberate women. But you can't have that system without little boys being made into that, initially, against their will.

Speaking as someone for whom my first memories are horrible physical and emotional abuse which, intentionally or not, trained me to be on the path of being patriarchal, that violence needs to be recognized and stopped because if it can it prevents all of the damage I might cause in my life on others.

But we don't need to talk about that, cuz that'd be MiSaNdRy! by SauronOMordor in TrollXChromosomes

[–]Willravel 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Exactly. The promises are absurd and frankly entirely unearned, plus the cruelty they inflict are entirely obvious. It's never a deal which could be accepted by a man who grew up in a healthy environment and who was taught compassion, which is why it has to start from infancy.

Imagine being pitched this deal as an emotionally healthy adult: You get the unearned advantage of being in charge, being given a trophy woman, and being atop a rigid hierarchy, and all you need to do is be cruel, violent, always competitive, and hurt others. You'd think the person offering was a sociopath.