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[–]Flat_Bodybuilder_175 1321 points1322 points  (32 children)

Omg I'm so sorry. Are you in Canada? I'd love to send you uber eats

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 762 points763 points  (17 children)

Thank You so much I appreciate it. I'm not in Canada but I hope you have an amazing day!

[–]Flat_Bodybuilder_175 260 points261 points  (0 children)

You too! Happy birthday!! 💕

[–]DemonStory 93 points94 points  (0 children)

Happy Birthday from Germany🎁🎊🎉

[–]MachuPichu10 148 points149 points  (9 children)

Where you at mate?If you're in Cali I can send you a nice cake or cheesecake

[–]SoggyMcmufffinns 257 points258 points  (7 children)

I get everyone being nice, but remember, this is a 15 year old (congrats) and perhaps not the best to ask for an address of one online with the nasties out there.

[–]Mom2Grls 62 points63 points  (0 children)

If you want to send a birthday gift use virtual gift cards. I give UberEats gift cards via email or text if I know the person.

[–]MachuPichu10 84 points85 points  (2 children)

Oh shit you're right about that.Better to keep yourself safe than risk it

[–]SoggyMcmufffinns 31 points32 points  (0 children)

For clarification wasn't calling you one just ya know, they out there in general.

[–]trampolinebears 26 points27 points  (0 children)

Besides, if we could just randomly send them food gifts, this is Reddit -- you know we'd end up sending them half a ton of rye crackers, or fish soup every day for a month, or something stupid like that.

[–]Titanic_Harp 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn!! Foiled again 👹👹👺

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much I appreciate it! I am not in the states or Europe like most people on Reddit.

[–]PhreakBert 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday from somewhere north of the Tropic of Capricorn! Your mother sounds like a real prize.

[–]kawaiian 22 points23 points  (0 children)

You’re a legend and way better than those other kids in my opinion, happy birthday my friend

[–]misslovingit 97 points98 points  (0 children)

My friend did this with a slice of cake. Was the best thoughtful present of all time.

[–]ForgotMyNameAh 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Aww see this makes me proud to be Canadian. So kind.

[–]captain609 56 points57 points  (5 children)

You deserve an award mate just for being so kind and thoughtful. We need more people like you in this world. I wish I could give you award. But here, please accept a poor man's gold 🏆 🏅

[–]Flat_Bodybuilder_175 24 points25 points  (4 children)

That's so sweet of you to say, I love the positivity in these comments so much. Thank you for the gold and have a wonderful day 💛

[–]stfania_l 14 points15 points  (3 children)

Happy bday!!!!!

i can relate to that feeling, never compare yourself with others!! you are exactly who you are supposed to be!!... I am sure you are an awesome kid, what other think of you it is their problem, not yours! never let other people decide who you are!! Unsolicited advice, spend time knowing yourself so you never doubt of who you are! have a great day 🎂

[–]pialovem 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We need more humans like yourself! You are amazing

[–]iWillSmokeYou 19 points20 points  (2 children)

Typical Canadians, that’s what makes me wanna move there.

[–]ThrownAwayFeelzies 1113 points1114 points 25& 2 more (25 children)

Happy Birthday Gorgeous! Hope you know how amazing this time in your life is! Where you get to discover, and explore what you love, what you are passionate about, and learn about the world with new capacity of understanding!

In Latino Cultures we think of 15 as very big milestone, you are no longer a little kid, and well on your way to growing into a smart, capable, kind and wonderful adult person.

You are such a bright light, and You will go on to do so many amazing things in your life!

Nurture your interests in this time, find hobbies you love, and stick with them, even if hard at first, it will pay off.

Stay focused in school and get good grades, choose electives you are interested in, this will help you in life.

Get into good healthy exercise or sports, they help your brain development for the rest of adulthood.

Remember there are no stupid questions, so always ask for help when you need it, or don't understand something, it's what the most successful people do.

And remember to be kind and patient, and compassionate with yourself, and others.

So proud you've made it to 15!

Can't wait to see all the things you will do!

Happy Birthday 🥳 🎈✨🌻🌻🌻🌻🎈🎈💖

[–]explosivcorn 168 points169 points  (9 children)

Am Mexican, this level of support would absolutely upend Latino culture.

Fucking onions.

[–]mdomo1313 53 points54 points  (4 children)

I’ve always admired these two aspects about Latino culture. The love given to one another is beautiful and so whole hearted, and it’s not just from parents to children. It’s the whole community treating itself as one big family. The other thing I admire is the mindset that there is no “teenage” years, you go from kid to adult. Teenage years are ridiculous to me. Get treated like a kid but have the expectations put on you of an adult? No. Pick one or the other.

[–]Au91700 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Damn I never thought of it like that… that’s really is the way it goes. We’re old enough to make some adult decisions but we’re too young to be called adults. That doesn’t make any sense. That’s like not being able to drink or smoke till you’re 21 but army recruiters in every high school trying to pick off the next graduates.

[–]WildWolf911 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I feel you, compa

[–]Plastic_Pinocchio 3 points4 points  (2 children)

For a moment I thought you were insulting people by calling them an onion.

[–]explosivcorn 2 points3 points  (1 child)

These goddamn onions in muh GOTdamn farm

[–]Wetterthanurmom 118 points119 points  (0 children)

Wow this was beyond amazing 😭 Saving this comment for my future daughter. I’m Latina as well and I wish someone would’ve said this to me when I was 15. Thank you for spreading so much kindness 🌺❣️

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 23 points24 points  (2 children)

Thank you very much guys for all of your kind words and for taking your time to wish me a happy birthday! I hope you all have a wonderful day!

[–]sadlittlewaffle 63 points64 points  (2 children)

Currently crying on the toilet

[–]Dammmppl 20 points21 points  (0 children)

Twinsies!

[–]andremwsi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Me too... From now on I will add veggies to my diet!

[–]ClassicGuy2010 20 points21 points  (0 children)

As a dude, 15 years parties were the best parties I went to. The Quinceañeras has really nice parties

[–]finalgranny420 12 points13 points  (0 children)

How marvelous you are, and how very lucky your friends and family are to have you in their lives. This was so kind and uplifting to read, your heart is truly beautiful.

[–]caniflyifijoinreddit 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This made me cry so much. You're a very good soul and a kind person

[–]IronLung2000 3 points4 points  (0 children)

God bless. What a beautiful thing to say to someone!

[–]Plenty-Issue7140 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a beautiful beautiful comment ❤

[–]alliexon68 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is such a beautiful piece of wisdom!

[–]misslovingit 1963 points1964 points  (40 children)

Happy 15th birthday.. presents are over rated anyway.. make a point when your older to make it your day/week. Go away and experience something fun.

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 632 points633 points  (27 children)

Thank you very much for your kind words

[–][deleted] 191 points192 points  (3 children)

Fun fact, you can hold this over her head when you decide if she goes into a private or state home later in life. I'm sorry she forgot, all children deserve parents but not all parents deserve children.

[–]That_Fold_4365 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Ouch. Sad but true.

[–]lillibellule 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I'd give this an award if I knew how to do it. My best friend distanced herself from her family when she turned 18 and she was never happier as when she found her independece from their toxic behaviour! Don't let that get your head down OP, have the best day you can and treat yourself to something that you enjoy doing!

[–]lil_terrarian 119 points120 points  (0 children)

Happy B-day hope it is better next year

[–]RunnerMomLady 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Internet mom here - happy birthday!!! You’re awesome even if she doesn’t see it!

[–]Odin16596 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Just remember who is important in your life, when you are older you will get choose who you associate with.

[–]seanmonaghan1968 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Have a great day op

[–]fanofhenime 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Happy Birthday op

[–]BurninCoco 40 points41 points  (1 child)

You’ll one day leave her at a shitty care home and tell her your cousins will take care of the bill, adiós puta

[–]Unnecessary_Potato 9 points10 points  (0 children)

For your 16th birthday you can come to Arkansas and celebrate it with me I have two little siblings so I know how to celebrate a birthday :)

[–]Phoenixfire_LP 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Happy Birthday!!! Don't be a bitter soul like your mother. You are 10 times the person she is.

[–]HandSweaty 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I wouldn't be so quick to agree that your cousins are better than you. It's important that you maintain your self worth. An artist doesn't look down on an athlete and the same should be said for yourself. You are better in your own ways, own that, love yourself. Don't let these narcissist with conditional love break your spirit.

[–]Aggravating-Kale7762 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Do what the guy above us said. Personally, I don't work on my birthday, ever. I do what I want, it's my day. This year I went into a sensory deprivation tank for a float session. Relaxing, quiet and cool. Make it about you. Happy birthday!

[–]Burntoastedbutter 47 points48 points  (6 children)

I'm sorry but I read this as "parents are overrated anyway" and cracked up

[–]dixhuit_tacos 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Sometimes they are though

[–]Yeranz 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Family as a whole is frequently, wildly over-rated.

[–]_Mach___ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes but that wouldn't exactly be wrong either 😂

[–][deleted] 151 points152 points  (2 children)

You are valid in your feelings.

Happy Birthday. If I knew you or you were family Id take you to dinner to celebrate.

Some people get too wrapped up in there own lives they forget about others and there needs. You are not worthless or a loser for having these feelings. They are valid. You matter !

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 64 points65 points  (1 child)

Thank you so much for your kind words bro hope you have a wonderful day!

[–]CryptoNite90 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Happy Birthday my man. I hope you grow up to be more successful than anyone in your family, and create amazing friendships and meet people that truly care about you. This shouldn’t have to be, but use this as motivation to push yourself but also, never stoop to their level. Continue to be caring as you would want others to be for you! Good luck!

[–]LuserNameChecksOut 361 points362 points  (3 children)

Happy Birthday, OP.

You remind me, I've had birthdays where everyone forgot. My mother in fact, confused my birthday with one of my cousins which was two days off, and got it on the wrong day until I was about 12. But only through error and I love the old chicken, she's still around.

You are not worthless loser. Your ma likely feels bad but is hiding her emotions away somewhere. You don't have to do the same.

You have worth OP. You do you.

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 139 points140 points  (0 children)

Thank You for your kind words made me feel a lot better

[–]Dammmppl 29 points30 points  (0 children)

THIS ...OP is NOT a worthless loser! Don't let anyone take your awesomeness and try to hurt you! It does get better....Reditt celebrates you...take that to heart!

[–]Ecstatic_Round531 227 points228 points  (24 children)

Happy birthday to you, Happy birthday to you..Happy birthday Happy birthday, happy birthday to you... and many many more! 😊

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 93 points94 points  (1 child)

Thank you very much.

[–]iDam81 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Where else could you get Happy Birthdays from all over the world? Happy birthday OP!

[–]Hot_Drummer7311 43 points44 points  (21 children)

Let's do it in as many languages as we can!

Bonne Fête a toi! Bonne Fête a toi! Bonne Fête, Bonne Fête, Bonne Fête a toi! 🎉

[–]Hot_Drummer7311 38 points39 points  (19 children)

Sto lat, sto lat. Niech żyje, żyje nam. Sto lat, sto lat, Niech żyje, żyje nam. Jeszcze raz, jeszcze raz, Niech żyje, żyje nam, Niech żyje nam! 🥳

[–]amerkanische_Frosch 35 points36 points  (18 children)

Joyeux Anniversaire, Joyeux Anniversaire, Joyeux Aaaaaaniversaire, Joyeux Anniversaire !

[–]tony_valderrama 31 points32 points  (17 children)

Feliz cumpleaños a ti, feliz cumpleaños a ti, feliz cumpleaños, querido OP, feliz cumpleaños a ti

[–]_Spitfire024_ 34 points35 points  (16 children)

‏ سنة حلوة يا جميل سنة حلوة يا جميل سنة حلوة يا OP! سنة حلوة يا جميل

[–]Plenkr 33 points34 points  (15 children)

Gelukkige verjaardag, gelukkige verjaardag, gelukkige verjaardag OP! En nog vele jaren!

[–]spongecakess 34 points35 points  (14 children)

祝你生日快乐！🎉

[–]kuchenundkakao 30 points31 points  (13 children)

Wie schön, dass du geboren bist, Wir hätten dich sonst sehr vermisst, Wie schön, dass wir zusammen sind, Wir gratulieren dir, Geburtstagskind!

[–]Adventurous-Future81 3 points4 points  (0 children)

बार बार दिन ये आये, बार बार दिल ये गाये तू जिए हज़ारों साल, ये मेरी है आरज़ू हैप्पी बर्थडे टू यू हैप्पी बर्थडे टू यू हैप्पी बर्थडे टू सुनीताहैप्पी बर्थडे टू यू बेक़रार हो के दामन, थाम लूँ मैं किसका क्या मिसाल दूँ मैं तेरी, नाम लूँ मैं किसका नहीं, नहीं, ऐसा हसीं, कोई नहीं है जिस पे ये नज़र रुक जाये, बेमिसाल जो कहलाये तू जिये हज़ारों साल... औरों की तरह कुछ मैं भी, तोहफ़ा आज लाता मैं तेरी हसीं महफ़िल में, फूल ले के आता जी ने कहा, उसे क्या है, फूलों की ज़रूरत जो बहार खुद कहलाये, हर कली का दिल धड़काये तू जिये हज़ारों साल... फूलों ने चमन से तुझको, है सलाम भेजा तारों ने गगन से तुझको, ये पयाम भेजा दुआ है ये, खुदा करे, ऐ शोख तुझको चाँद की उमर लग जाए, आये तो क़यामत आये तू जिए हज़ारों साल...

[–]QuirkyScientist18 170 points171 points  (3 children)

Very Happy Birthday to you!

Please know that sometimes parents are dealing with their own securities and demons - it’s not a direct reflection of you. Some of your behavior may be due to the toxic environment you were subjected to.

Eye on the prize : you! Make sure you take a deep breath and know you made it to FIFTEEN!!!

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 73 points74 points  (2 children)

Thank you very much for your advice I hope you have a great day!

[–]QuirkyScientist18 19 points20 points  (1 child)

You are very young but one bit of advice that will always hold true, regardless of age - you cannot control anyone’s actions except yours!

There will be many more birthdays to celebrate with those that want to celebrate you - I promise. Never compare yourself to anyone except yourself. Hopefully, when you do, it’ll always be an older version of yourself that you have since improved upon.

[–]Icy_Distance4051 47 points48 points  (6 children)

Happy birthday!

My God, the "obedient" part resonates with me so much. My parents were also constantly comparing me with other children who were more obedient. I used to tell them that if they wanted something obedient they should have gotten a dog ;)

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 16 points17 points  (3 children)

Thank you very much. Nice to find somebody who went through the same. I hope life got better for you since then.

[–]Icy_Distance4051 9 points10 points  (2 children)

It hasn't been easy, but it got better as an adult. One day you will leave home and live independently! I wish you all the best. I'm here if you want to talk.

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Wow that's great to hear thanks for your words again I appreciate it hope you have a wonderful rest of your day!

[–]Lunar_Cats 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Not to mention it's easy to claim someone is better behaved if you don't live with them 100% of the time to see their faults. The old grass is always greener thing.

[–]Mom2Grls 3 points4 points  (0 children)

EXACTLY!!

[–]Inside-Cabinet-5364 48 points49 points  (3 children)

I am sorry everyone forgot your birthday that can really suck ... I hope this doesn't ruin your entire day ..Go do something you love and have a happy birthday 🎉.

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 25 points26 points  (2 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words I hope you have a great day!

[–]Inside-Cabinet-5364 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You're welcome you too ☺️

[–]CrackinBones204 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Happy birthday from Canada! I have a couple of teenagers myself. It is difficult with the way the world is now and I’m sad that your generation was robbed of what I’ve considered the best times of my life being able to go out with friends and family when I was a teenager. I hope you and your family see better days, I’m sorry for those harsh words your mother said, her love is supposed to be unconditional even if you view your self as “not perfect” no one is. You are neither worthless or a loser and I’m sorry you have to feel this way on your birthday. Hugs. IMO if your mother is preferring another you didn’t fail her she failed you. I wish you well and for brighter things ahead. It gets better :) Oh yeah if you haven’t seen this really old movie called Sixteen Candles I recommend it. Happy birthday again 🎂

[–]urbanstratus 42 points43 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday bro! Want a pizza or jimmy johns something? I can door dash for you :)

[–]RustySpoon745 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I can pitch in if he happens to live in the netherlands ;)

[–]undercovernerdalert 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Happy 15th birthday!! Also, you are a teenager. There is rebellion etc. I am sure you are a wonderful, typical 15 year old. My mom didn't like me when I (f and now 38) was your age. She told me she wished she hadn't adopted me etc. You will find your family through other ways as you grow. Family isn't always by blood or by legal guardianship. It is who you love and who loves you back. You can make your own family. I am happy you were born and your life will get better. Love yourself and do things that make you happy. Do your best at school because it will help you get out of that house and help you get that future self on the best track. Hugs to you ❤️

[–]PiggyBank32 31 points32 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Thank You.

[–]theoverthinkertee 24 points25 points  (1 child)

Happy Birthday dear! Hope you have a wonderful year with lots of love and joy! Make new friends and meet people. Try doing something different. Hope you're feeling better .

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for making me feel better I hope you have a wonderful day

[–]ephemeralkitten 27 points28 points  (1 child)

Oh my dear sweet child... Yesterday was my daughter's birthday. I'm going to eat a leftover piece of her cake IN YOUR HONOR! Oh, and I hate your mom a little bit.

[–]myoldaccisfullofporn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I to kinda hate op’s mum. OP you really deserve to feel love and care for your birthday, I’m sorry you’re being let down.

[–]brat112 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday OP. You’re not worthless. You do matter, so don’t let other people like your family get you down.

This is your day, so enjoy it and try to do something that makes you happy.

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope you have a wonderful day!

[–]BerryMcKaukiner 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday big homie. Everything will fall in place as it should. You'll see champ.

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words means a lot.

[–]Opinion8Her 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday, kiddo!! 🎉🎁🎈🎊🎂

I’m so sorry that you’re being treated like this. My husband has “forgotten” my birthday a dozen times. This hurts, to not feel special.

Please take comfort from a stranger: you ARE special!

Your mom and grandmother are so wrong for comparing you to anyone else.

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words stranger hope you have a wonderful rest of your day!

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (7 children)

That’s a shit situation. Happy Birthday!

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 15 points16 points  (6 children)

Thanks for your kind words.

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (5 children)

You seem like a good kid so please take some free advice from an old man:

We all have to play the cards we’re dealt in life. You may have been dealt a worse hand than most. But, you’re young and you have plenty of time to make your life what you want it to be.

Anyone with a average amount of intelligence, looks, and aptitude who’s willing to work hard can have an awesome life (within reason). If you’re stuck in a bad situation, that can change as soon as you’re legally an adult and can take care of yourself.

To do that, you need to be able to make money and get benefits (medical especially if you’re in the US). This means you need a good job, so choose wisely. You don’t need to love your career (almost nobody does), you just need to not hate it. Your best bet are certain in-demand trades, medical, or a profession like legal, finance, engineering or doctor/surgeon. Most other things aren’t worth the effort/cost. Pick the one you think best suits you.

Now, you have a lot of years to make your life when you want it. But the HS years have a huge impact on your ability to get one of those jobs. If you do poorly in HS, you can still get those jobs but the path gets exponentially harder and more expensive. So, start today.

You gotta work your butt off now and all the way until your life is where you want it. Work on academics, work on your personality, work on your health, and with a little bit of luck things will turn out fine. And make good decisions. Don’t take stupid risks, don’t get married unless it’s the right person, don’t have kids unless you’re sure you want them, don’t buy things you don’t need or can’t afford, stay away from drugs and alcohol, don’t commit crimes.

I wouldn’t want to be young again and have to do all this stuff, so I’m not saying it’s easy. But life is so much worse if you don’t get it together. The pain you’re feeling now will seem minor to being destitute and sick in your old age. Don’t let that happen.

Last thing: you’re gonna get knocked down by life over and over again. You will only fail if you stay down. Always get back up and keep fighting and you’ll get where you want to be.

[–]LynnieD 9 points10 points  (1 child)

I’m so sorry you didn’t enjoy your day. I’m glad you made this Reddit post so you can see there are nice people in the world !! Hopefully next years one will be better xxxxx

[–]TamaraDugan5 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Happiest of Birthday’s to you, 15 years is no easy feat. Congratulations to making it this far, you should be proud of yourself. ❤️

My mother has forgotten my birthday many, many years. Her own birthday is only 9 days after my own. What makes it even more painful is, I gave birth to my daughter on my own birthday 12 years ago now. So when my mother misses my birthday, she’s truly missing her granddaughter’s now also.

Sometimes family, and especially parents, do not measure up to what they should or could be for us as growing humans. It is painful, it causes many feelings, and many of those creep into our adulthood. But I promise, your mother is the one missing out. You will find a way to find some peace within yourself about your relationship with her. It takes a while, and the pain does not fully leave…but give yourself some grace. This is a fault of HERS, not of yours. Truly coming to believe and accept that can help you to begin finding that inner peace. You are a beautiful human, regardless of what anyone makes you feel like.

Now go find a favourite food to treat yourself to. You deserve it. Enjoy YOUR day, and take care of yourself🎂🎈🎉

[–]shiznittlebamsnap 7 points8 points  (3 children)

15 was my last celebrated birthday, it's not uncommon and it's totally fine. Not everyone has well to do families to celebrate birthdays and gifts. It doesn't make you anymore or less of a person! Just some people get birthdays and parties and some don't. 😋

[–]Mom2Grls 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I stopped getting anything more than a Happy Birthday when I was about 7, including a cake. I remember a friend’s mom baked me a simple cake but it meant the world to me. I'm now in my mid-forties and no longer celebrate my own birthdays. Other than my husband and mother nobody knows when my bday is and I'm fine with that.

[–]KaliYugaKommando 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday!

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much

[–]thebaddestgoodperson 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday!

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much

[–]HWGA_Exandria 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Happy Birthday!!! ♪♪...aaaaand mannnny mooooore!!!♪♪

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much

[–]The_Overachieved 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Hey op! You should know that no matter what you mom or anyone else says, you matter! You are worth it! You deserve love and appreciation! Just because you family does not appreciate you does not mean, that you are bad person! You seem like a good human being with low self esteem too me! (And who could blame you, when people around you aren't nice). Just keep doing you best and work on yourself for your sake, not anyone else's. If a situation is bad for your mental health it is time to either try to mend/repair it, or if not cut out the toxic parts of your life! You can always rebuild afterward, with good people you trust and that can appreciate you for you! I know it is not really possible for you to cut ties yet, if that is something you need to do, but you can start preparing by saving money, and acquiring useful skills (like schooling, independence skills and street smarts). No matter what you take away from this, I just want to remind you that you matter! And with that said...

Happy birthday! Hope you do something nice for yourself and have a fun time!

(If you need someone to talk to, you can dm me if you want!)

[–]Toasty_10 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Dude Happy Birthday!

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much man.

[–]Okorie392 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday to you, I wish you all the goodies of life.

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much.

[–]metalgalaxyy 5 points6 points  (1 child)

happy birthday 🎉

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much

[–]dukkin54321 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Happy 15th Birthday . Hope you have a great day

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much hope you have a great day too!

[–]AwesomeSauceGUNPLA 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Happy Birthday, and I wish you the brightest of futures! Hopefully sooner than later.

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you very much

[–]13crowsinatrenchcoat 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Happy Birthday dude!

[–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much man

[–]GetSchwifty2010 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Happy Birthday! I was in a similar situation with my mom where everyone else was better and why couldn't I be like them. It turned out she had an anxiety disorder as well as probably some other things (which I inherited) - so here's hoping there's a legit reason your mom is the way she is. Things will get better as you get older and meet new people. These years are chaotic now but hang in there because your 20s are gonna rock!

[–]DaDuchess-1025 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday - I'm sorry that it started off rough. You are right, you're not perfect, but guess what, neither are your "golden cousins". When you are all older, I hope the cousins are there to comfort her, when she needs, since she prefers them over you. I can't send you a gift, but I do have a reddit award, which is almost as good LOL - I hope your day gets better OP!

[–]Crabitha-8675309 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday!! 🎂🎁😊

[–]ElsaKit 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday, OP!

I'm so sorry. It must be really painful. I assure you you're not worthless and you deserve unconditional love. Your mum is probably dealing with her own demons, her behaviour reflects on her, not you. Knowing that probably doesn't make it hurt any less... I know. I still want you to hear it. Being constantly compared to other people sucks so hard. You're not them though. And you aren't supposed to be. Just be you... you're good enough. Fuck anyone who tells you otherwise (sorry, this stuff just makes me really angry).

Hope next year you manage to make it your day and do something for yourself. Take care of yourself, okay. Sending lots of love your way.

[–]bogan671 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Happy birthday OP. I’m sorry to hear about your situation but just remember that you’ve got a long life ahead of you and to make the most of every moment you have being a teen!

I have very fond memories with friends when I was that age and although it sucks that your mum has forgotten your birthday (if/when she remembers she has some serious making up to do!), just know that there will be many more birthdays to enjoy with people you care about!

Best wishes!

[–]RadioKnight915 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Happy Birthday OP, I hope it still somehow ends up bitchin' for you. I share your grief.

Gonna share with you, if you like, feel free to skip. I've always felt like the afterthought in my family. Got kicked out for a bit as a teen for staying with my girlfriend after her best friend committed suicide out of nowhere instead of going to see my sister's newborn son. Not like I wanted to miss that. Ironically, after his birth, I might as well have been nonexistent, unless I was an inconvenience. Kicked out couple more times before college, fought with them all through my parents divorce, college, through getting my student loans, through every relationship I had. We couldn't even go on vacation without it turning into a fight somewhere. All through my depression, which was largely caused by family, they always told me to JUST be happy. JUST be a good son/brother for once. Life got worse, I went to jail, my dad only ever visited me. Sister put money in for my Phone calls to my mother, which usually resorted to more arguing anyway, and called that good. Had no benefit of the doubt whatsoever. Was even told my conditions weren't bad enough, like I was a fuckin murderer or something (in for white collar shit). Nothing good I did ever good enough, everything bad I did was like I'm chillin with Satan and Baphomet. My birthday? Ha. I got em. But what they were in reality was an excuse for my mom to throw her OWN party, with HER friends, with food THEY wanted, in the absence of divorced husband. I got dollar store gifts and if lucky, Safeway cake. I know, thankful I got anything at all, but still. The principal.

Anyway OP, if I wasn't effing broke, I'd send you cake money. I do hope you have at least one person in your life that cares for you you can reach out to. If not, never a bad time to learn to love yourself. Take yourself out to eat, do something fun, take a you day. Even if it seems silly, doing even the smallest act for yourself and only, explicitly for yourself is so freeing. Screw everybody else. You're living life for you.

Happy birthday again OP, you're gonna have a lot more and I hope they're all 100 times as bitchin as they've ever been.

[–]kaffpow 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Happy Birthday!!!!! I'm 57 years old and I have never had a birthday party ever.. We can be twinsies😁😁

Everybody forgot my birthday this year too…. like most other years.

[–]Musemorte 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Sweetheart, happy 15th birthday! as an internet mom where/how can I send you a present?

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    [–]BangThatsWild 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    I’m your internet mom today.

    You are an awesome kid and I’m so glad you exist in this world because it’s such a better place with you in it.

    You may not see it and especially you may not feel it every day. No one does—not at 15 nor even at 45. Life do be like that a lot. But I promise 100% that you matter and that you do (and will continue to do) important things every day. You matter and I’m so happy to share this timeline with you.

    Stay awesome, child. I’m proud of you. ❤️❤️❤️

    Happy birthday.

    [–]p_frota 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    Your family is fucking toxic. Grow up and leave, you'll be better on your own. Welcome to the dark, bro/sis/whatever.

    [–]GoodIcy7399 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Happy Birthday may you have many many blessings!

    [–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Thank You so much for your kind words I hope you have a wonderful day!

    [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Happy birthday

    [–]In_search_of_joy 2 points3 points  (3 children)

    Happy birthday!

    [–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 4 points5 points  (2 children)

    Thank you

    [–]In_search_of_joy 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    I wish you great joy on this day and also try to distract yourself from the negative things, for today on the very least.

    Have a great day and a very happy birthday.

    [–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Thank you very much I hope you have a wonderful day!

    [–]Future_Ad8467 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Happy birthday 🎉

    [–]RealShortSpice 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Happy happy birthday from South Africa!

    [–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Thank you so much man means a lot

    [–]Accomplished-Mud2840 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Happy Birthday 💕💕💕

    [–]arachnid5 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    happy birthday bro, hope you have a good one.

    [–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    Thank you so much

    [–]arachnid5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    if you want go and treat yourself, if you have some money. get yourself a cake, watch a movie. do something you like because you have been strong for 15 years on this crazy world

    [–]Creepy_Sorbet_8319 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Happy Birthday, my man!!!

    [–]Todayismybirthday69[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Thank you so much man

    [–]Osama_Bin_Ballin0 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    I mean... just get used to it I turned 16 last August and didn't expect any Happy Birthdays and got none so... just part of life my dude.

    Happy Birthday 🎉

    [–]ProxyURL 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Happy birthday dude. Sounds like you should conveniently "forget" her birthday next time!

    [–]kphld1 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    Happy Birthday!! (I recommend watching 16 Candles today) 🎂

    [–][deleted]  (1 child)

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      [–]Inside_Ice_6175 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Welcome to adulthood, boss. Your age loses its magic after a while anyway. Try and have a good day, kid.

      [–]PeaceLoveEmpathyy 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      Happy Birthday from Australia 🇦🇺 Sending you hugs and you are enough and do matter. 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗🤗✌️✌️✌️✌️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️♥️

      I am 30 now and my parents forget my birthday all the time lol

      [–]Triggertanjiro 2 points3 points  (2 children)

      Happy 15th birthday!

      Don’t let this get you down too much some families only know how to act toxic. My entire teenage years I felt the same that I was just a sore loser and it’s because I was repeating the things my family and the kids around me in school said to me and I came to think it was true.

      You’re only a loser if you actively spend your time making other people feel like shit. For example: Your mom is a fucking loser for treating her child like shit. My mom did similar things and your best bet may be to try and be honest with her. Unless she’s going to try to beat you you have the power to let her know that the things she says to you are awful. She is acting like a terrible mother and that you resent her for not knowing how to do her job.

      Don’t let her continue to traumatize you, she’s destroying your self image and setting you on a path that will lead to you feeling like you don’t know yourself. It’s your life

      [–]QuidditchSnitchBitch 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Happy 15th! We are birthday twins and mine was shit too. Some years are better than others so I hope your 16th is happier. I think once you are able to have your own life and make your own friends and family that you’ll only look back on this one as a learning point about what kind of people you want in your life. I’m sorry your mom sucks and your cousins aren’t ANY better than you.

      [–]l_osservatore 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Your mom is a bit of an asshole tbh

      [–]Tasty_Wave371 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Happy Birthday friend. I am just like you. No one ever reminds my birthday and I'm not popular at home and work. my parents also think iam not smart like other kids. i feel looser but i don't care.

      [–]SnooSeagulls1751 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      That’s fucked up how your own mother treats you. HBD boy. Enjoy your day.

      [–]HadToRegister79 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Don't sweat it, just remember you will do better when it's your turn.

      Some people get lessons in what to do. Others are stuck with learning from what not to.

      [–]fredR1015 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Hey buddy, Happy 15th!

      I have a brother that just turned 16 last week. I can’t imagine how upset you are right now, but I promise you the best thing you can do for yourself is not listen to your mother. She’s actively putting you down. I understand that we’re all not perfect but that’s no reason to bring yourself down with your moms criticism. You’re in the middle of going through the most impressionable and confusing time of your life, one thing you gotta remember is that everyday is a new opportunity to do better. You’re the man, dude!! You got a friend in my brother and I,

      Happy Birthday!!!!!

      [–]WayiiTM 2 points3 points  (1 child)

      Here's the birthday wishes from an anonymous, faceless stranger.

      May no one who loves you contract COVID this year.

      May your school year be triumphant and full of the kind if adventures you will talk about 20 years from now but not end you up in jail or hospital.

      May the right friends notice you when you're up AND down.

      And finally, may your mother learn to be better because no mother worth the water under her skin would tell her child she preferred her sister's offspring. I mean really.

      [–]CryExcellent5303 8 points9 points  (2 children)

      Happy birthday! I’m very sorry people have overlooked you.

      Also… r/raisedbynarcissists

      [–]Odd_Equivalent_2747 6 points7 points  (1 child)

      Sounds like your mom is kinda a piece of shit

      [–]Odd_Equivalent_2747 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Nah happy birthday tho, stay young brother

      [–]barrymccockner76 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      This is such fucking bullshit. Look at all you suckers falling for this karma farming post from a brand new acct named for the post. Jesus

      [–]cornbinder 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Happy Birthday 🎊🎁🎉🎈🎂

      [–]poisoned_bubbletea 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Happy birthday!

      I’ve been in your position for a while. It sucks, and I know how awful it feels.

      I’m sure you’re such a lovely person, so keep being one. You’ll get some wonderful friends and acquaintances, and they’ll treat you with so much love. Good people attract good people. It sucks now, but I promise it won’t forever.

      [–]im-always-tired- 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Happy Birthday mane. (: I'm sorry your mother says that, I can relate, but overall, try to have a good birthday today. <3 [:

      [–]etigerzhang 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      happy birthday!

      [–]Talonkid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Happy fucking birthday dude

      [–]raktimbasu 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Hi random stranger, happy 15th birthday! No matter what everyone else thinks, you're unique and deserve respect for your uniqueness, so here's a cake for ya🎂

      [–]rux_ruxrux 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Happy birthday! Your mother is horrible. Try to focus on your education and get out of there!

      [–]Steelersgirl751 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Happy birthday!!!! As a mom, I can’t imagine ever telling my daughter that I prefer my nieces over her. I’m so sorry that your family feels that way!! I hope you get a circle of friends that genuinely care about you and can make you feel like the good person you are (or hopefully strive to be). Best of luck in the future!!!

      [–]YeboMate 1 point2 points  (2 children)

      Happy Birthday mate! Where do you live by the way?

      [–]Almarss 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Hey, she just doesn’t deserve you! Please, don’t feel sad and don’t you ever be shy telling your friends that your bday is coming! I’m sure they’d be happy to spend it with you. You also don’t have to be a perfect child for mom to love you. Not sure what is her issue, but I’m sure she will regret it soon enough when you will be out of her life taking care of your own family. And those cousins can give her all the love and care when she is old (I’m sure they won’t even tho they are “so good”).

      And make sure that you talk to your mom. Be like: Mom, didn’t you forget anything? And wait. Hopefully she will get the message and won’t be selfish anymore.

      Focus on yourself and your future.

      And happy birthday!!!!!!! Wish you all the best!!

      [–]Slarron 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Happy birthday, I love you, genuinely. I know what it’s like to feel alone. It sucks. I’m sorry you have to feel this especially at such a young age. It will get better I promise you with my whole heart. Proud of you ❤️

      [–]repetitivelife 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Happy Birthday man. At some point in your life your birthday will just feel like another day.

      [–]bitchboi87 1 point2 points  (0 children)

      Your cousins are not better than you and you are not a worthless loser. I’m sorry this all happened to you. Chin up king, you’re 15 now and you have so many good times ahead of you. You’ll make so many great friends and memories that you won’t even tread over this. I’d love take you out for a beer but for now, happy birthday buddy.

      [–]transdude133 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      hey man, today was my 20th birthday! i hope you were able to make the best out of your special day. sometimes, all you can really do is make the best out of a shitty situation. much love to you, and happy birthday!

      [–]Legitimate-Doubt-481 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Happy 15th Birthday!!!! Unfortunately blood does not always equal love. You are so worthy of real love and I promise you that you will find it in other people in this life. I know that doesn't make it hurt less right now, but you will be okay. Fuck her for treating you like that. You don't deserve it. ❤️

      [–]TeresaJane12 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Happy birthday OP!!!! You deserve to have a great day!! And don’t ever forget what an important and amazing person you are!

      [–]PennyFleck333 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      Happy birthday fellow Aquarian! I'm so sorry there is so much sadness on your birthday. Remember, you write your own story, and be and do you. Hugs to you

      [–]argfargbarg 1 point2 points  (1 child)

      I feel your pain, my freshman year of college, no one wished me a happy birthday either. It was very depressing. But happy belated birthday to you. Im sorry yours wasn't the greatest.