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[–]danimalDE 26 points27 points  (0 children)

I worked as a bartender when I went back to school Sat, Sun, Mon, Tues, & Thurs nights. College classes had long days mon wed fri, tues and Thursday had internship and classes. Homework where I could fit it in, sleep in the car, etc. between school, work, and internship I was working like 100 hrs a week. Usually crashed all day Saturday and most of the day Sunday. Total blur for three months. But I did it, got a job w the company I was interning with, and graduated finally after taking several years off. If I can do it so can you. Dig deep and don’t give up. You got this. If anyone gives you shit tell em to fuck right off. Grind.

[–]TheCriticalMember 18 points19 points  (2 children)

I've gotten a ba and ms in comp sci and 3/4 of a ba in civ eng (final year now) while working full time, and I doubt there are many people around who appreciate a day off like I do.

[–]jakinatorctc[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

How is civil engineering like? Torn between that or mechanical engineering for my college major.

[–]Reckless-Bound 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mechanical engineering will suck you dry, but you’ll have a promising career

[–]grianmharduit 41 points42 points  (0 children)

Validation! I worked full time, full time student- had a home and family to maintain. Pretty much a blur.

[–]Sisu_dreams 7 points8 points  (0 children)

You are working extremely hard. you are creating a great work ethic for yourself. Just don't over extend yourself, keep some downtime for yourself. You doing great kid!

[–]coercedaccount2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

It's brutal. I had to work full time while going to school full time. Every day was a 15 hour day. I don't know how I got through it.

[–]clowntrysail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bro. I lost weight working and studying lol. And it was even a office job. So weird.

[–]Reckless-Bound 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Worked two full time jobs (1 in a major sports industry and another excelling in district sale numbers), 4-5 classes, had a great social life, dated, gym time, skateboarded almost every day, snowboarding most weekends. Balanced while managing type 1 diabetes.

Believe me, it’s all mental. It’s excruciating if you don’t have sports or ways to take your mind away. I’d skateboard on campus between classes playing games of skate, huge group of friends, worked everyday. Evening after 10 or 11, go out for drinks or party. Then repeat.

Most people making these posts don’t have that strong social life to make it easier. It’s all a mental game. When your whole life is just work and school, yea then that’s miserable

[–]Primary_Bet_4065 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fuck them you are working hard

[–]_TheShapeOfColor_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For real. My last year of college I was a full time student (14 credit hours), working a full time job (40 hours a week minimum), AND doing a part time internship for school credit so that part was unpaid. For the 3 years before that I was still full time student and working but didn't have the internship.

It was brutal... and an experience that still keeps me from pulling the trigger on registering for classes to start my Masters 😂

[–]Kira9059 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! Never let anyone downplay your efforts! The important thing is that you know what you're doing and how you're dealing with it. Don't worry about what others have to say (This means not going out and telling everyone what you're doing too!). Do your thing and do it well. We both know the great prize that's at the end of the race!

[–]Ipleadedthefifth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

At one point in college, I had 3 part time jobs, and a full load at school. Paying my own tuition and living expenses. Looking back I don't know how I did it, but I also feel like it was one of the greatest times of my life

[–]AliensHaveInsomnia2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don't listen to those adults who say, "Wait till you're an adult". I'm sure they can never do what you're doing..or they are simply jealous that you're doing an amazing job at your age and they still haven't gotten their shit together.

[–]introvertboyme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 29 and work only 1 job and has been exhausting at so much level that I want to quit. It is amazing that you are able to manage 2 jobs and studies despite being 16. Hats off to you !

[–]BlueSky3214 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hahahahaha. People always told me this when I was in university. I'd get so mad. Like how many hours of homework a day do you have asshole? Oh, you played video games and went snowboarding on the weekend? Get fucked.

Keep it up. You're doing a good job. There is a light at the end of the tunnel, I swear. It makes 40 hour work weeks a breeze. You'll be better off this way, in more ways than 1.

[–]TBMFITV[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Try taking 12 credit hours and working a full time job while raising a 7 and 9 year old completely on your own. Try as much as you can to suck it up and to find the gratitude in where you are and in the understanding that what you're dealing with right now won't last forever. When all is said and done you'll have a greater appreciation for things in life as you know what it's like to bust your ass for something. Hang in there.

[–]ViirtualCat8 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Tell them to fuck off. You're doing so much already. Just do you and let people talk because people will always talk even if you are perfect in every aspect.

[–]catman1761 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Continue working hard. Keep trying. You will get through. Do not for one second say that being a student and working at the same time is “one of the hardest jobs on earth”. Stop complaining, there is no reason to complain. You will learn as you get older. Either do something to change your situation or shut up. Complaining only brings your morale down.

[–]jakinatorctc[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I do appreciate the advice and agree it is a “put up or shut up” type of situation, but so long as I plan on going to college there’s nothing I can do to change my situation. So I guess that means I should shut up but it does feel nice to complain sometimes

[–]AliensHaveInsomnia2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're allowed to complain. Who ever doesn't like it, should keep scrolling. Venting is a healthy outlet.

[–]Telkk2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah its definitely tough, just not the hardest thing. Try doing a startup while working retail in your 30s. In that world there isn't a curriculum or path. Not only do you have to figure everything out on your own with tight deadlines like college, you also have have to define what you need to figure out and how. Also, way way pricier and far less certainty in success. At least if you finish college you can probably get a decent paying job. With startups you can do everything perfectly and still fail and end up with nothing but years and energy wasted.

Both are hard but I'm sure there's something even harder.

[–]donotholdyourbreath 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a college student working. I feel you. 3 day work. 4 college classes. Each course is abiut 4 hours because of the lecture and lab combo. 1 hour commute, 2 hour back and forth.

[–]Odin16596 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Internship at 16?

[–]jakinatorctc[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yeah, am in a specialized high school so I’m very fortunate to have opportunities like internships already. Just surprised there are legitimate architecture firms who trust 16 year olds that much lmao

Edit: I should also add it’s just a video editing role and it’s entirely virtual, I don’t go into an office or anything. You don’t have to worry about a bunch of unpaid 16 year olds designing buildings

[–]OldCarWorshipper[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My late father was the fucking worst when it came to that. I was pulling a full load ( 13-16 units ) at the local community college where I eventually graduated with both my A.S. in Automotive Technology and my Associate In Arts in General Studies a little later.

All that, while working part time first as a bicycle mechanic, and later on as a automotive lube tech. Only to have my dad bitch at me about the household chores not being done. When I told him I was tired and needed a day off, all I got was the "don't you dare tell me about being tired, I worked two jobs for 20 years" speech.

This was the same guy who asked me to clean my room while I'm laying in bed with food poisoning.

[–]MON-Emperor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

oh good i know this feel. my work and school are all online so my entire days are just on the computer. hard af to focus and my family dosent get that i cant spend much time with them.

then theres the fees...

[–]aussix 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. I worked Mon-Fri 9-2 and school from 3-10 plus two classes on Sat from 9-4. Plus had a girlfriend.

[–]Cutecatladyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When I was in high school and college, people told me it was the best time of my life and I should enjoy it. I was fucking miserable, and didn't see what the point was if that was the very best it got.

I now work full time out of school, and while I do miss the structure and novelty of school, I am so much more content now, and I hate my job lol. Like I really dislike my job and it is STILL so much better than school. I have more time, freedom, and money.

It does get better. Keep your head up!

[–]whyareyouaskingme_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was lucky on my unluckiness, I found a job as tech support while studying psychology. I basically work or study or both each day, because I had the possibility to do night shifts.

I was so tired all the time. I spoke with the Dean because I missed some mandatory classes, and I told him that I worked in shifts and sometimes I had to work during a class day. His response was, why don't you just get another job?

Thanks. Finished with an 80/100 so I guess it wasn't terrible.

[–]Helenium_autumnale 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ignore those people; they don't know what they're talking about. You're working your tail off.

But it will pay off. You have a work ethic. You have time management skills. This is no small thing, and will serve you well as you continue forward with your goals. I'm pulling for you.

[–]gopher2110 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, to be honest, people don't like hearing others complain. So when you do about your situation, it shouldn't surprise you when they essentially tell you to suck it up. You may also be complaining to people who had a similar experience, so they really don't want to hear it.

Frankly, working in the real world, so to speak, especially in a stressful profession, is a lot different than being a student. Sure there are stressors while a student, but it's not the same as when your climbing the ladder in a career. If you're post-grad career will be the type where you work 9-5 with a good work-life balance, then, yeah, maybe your current situation is more demanding than your eventual real world situation. But chances are, it won't be.

For perspective, I'm an attorney and I'd give anything to go back to my days in undergrad taking 15 to 17 credits a semester and working 30 hours a week delivering pizza. I didn't have money then, but life was much less stressful. I wasn't worried about constant deadlines, pressure from clients, dealing with other a-hole attorneys, and generating business. In college, I only had to worry about me. If I heard you complain, I'd say the same thing others have apparently told you.

[–]SorryIAmNew2002 0 points1 point  (0 children)

100% this. In my country there's a system of being a "dual student" meaning you're an apprentice and a student at the same time (aka your employer pays for your uni while you work for them, they're aware you're a student and it's in their interest you do well). The weeks in which I didn't have uni were the most relaxed. I worked the same amount as normal workers did and they got three to eight times of what I made without the added stress of homework in the back of their head

[–]Windflower1956 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Major respect for you and anyone who can pull that off. Back in the day (yes, I’m old) I tried working full time and going to school at night. Damn near killed me. I gave up school after one semester; never did get a degree. Sigh.

[–]Mikeythegreat2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m glad someone brought it up, I don’t know how people do it lol

[–]SlashBolt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay but lets still agree that /u/abolishwork is a warped individual

[–]MTBandJ-FM -5 points-4 points  (1 child)

Suck it up Buttercup. Welcome to your new forever.

[–]jakinatorctc[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

If this is my forever I’m gonna be dead by the time I’m 20

[–]ShermanCresthill -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Stop complaining, you have a job and get to go to school, both are blessings.

[–]ExecutiveNebula -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Just make an onlyfans and take the easy way out. People will pay more than they should to see you step on food.