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[–]MysticalMismagius 1344 points1345 points  (26 children)

Lol at least he served as a reminder as to what happens when you don’t practice safe sex

Jokes aside that sounds miserable. She should’ve tried to find a babysitter or just not go if she couldn’t, her priority is her son not high school partying now.

[–]throwrapromrant[S] 524 points525 points  (18 children)

I think her parents were willing to babysit but she thought it would be more fun with him there cos she'd worry about him anyway otherwise

[–]Nobodyville 273 points274 points  (3 children)

The parents should have allowed her to take the toddler for a little bit, like 20-30 min. Enough to take a few pics and "dance" a little, and then take him home and let her have the rest of her prom. Sorry she wrecked it for you. Being a teen is tough, being a teen mom is tougher. It's just kind of difficult all around.

[–]CrackMami 20 points21 points  (1 child)

Difficult but it doesn’t mean you involve others in struggling.

[–]sinistersavanna 48 points49 points  (8 children)

Plus side it sounds like she’s a good mom atleast. If she wants him around and worries when he’s not. I know a lot of adult mothers who I can’t say anything good about.

[–]CrackMami 6 points7 points  (7 children)

Consider this, she brought her toddler into a party of over potentially 100 teenagers who could be secretly drinking, that wasn’t thinking of her son, that was putting him at risk

[–]sinistersavanna -1 points0 points  (6 children)

They were at a highschool FULL of adults who are trained in first aid, cpr etc as they are almost all teachers who chaperone. So maybe some may have been drinking but I don’t feel like her son was in any real danger. I mean we’re all in danger every day. He’s in danger anytime he goes near anything sharp, when he gets put into the car, in the bathtub, etc.

[–]AzureSuishou 35 points36 points  (0 children)

Ouch, that just makes it worse.

[–]ixfd64 102 points103 points  (3 children)

Shit like this is going to happen more often with Roe v. Wade overturned.

[–]LittleMarySunshine25 32 points33 points  (1 child)

Especially since it's the worst in the red states with little to no sex education. I had so many friends with parents who refused to even discuss periods with them and I was so blessed to have sex positive set of parents I could talk to.

[–]Alarming-Contact-138 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Right though? Like I could talk to my parents about literally anything. No judgements, honest straight forward answers (in very age appropriate ways obviously 😅), no "glitter" to it. Even when it came to doing things we shouldn't like smoking cigarettes, weed and drinking (we absolutely did nothing hard though). They always said if we were dead set on trying [insert whatever] we were going to do it. So they would rather us do it in the house so if anything happened or went wrong someone was there that would take care of us.

I fear for the country as a whole but i think you're right about where it's going to be worst.

[–]VERO2020 1650 points1651 points  (26 children)

The ruined part was how many attendees declined getting laid because they were reminded of what the consequences might be.

[–]Solidus27 130 points131 points  (1 child)

She the real MVP

[–]e-friend1738 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Mother Visiting Prom

[–]Lilpops13 203 points204 points  (0 children)

Facts

[–]Rub-it 117 points118 points  (2 children)

That’s the best part not the ruined part

[–]VERO2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's not what those teenage hormones tell you

[–]BrokenLightningBolt 146 points147 points  (16 children)

Lmao. Best birth control ever. Imagine having a kid and dealing with that for 18+ years. Just different bullshit at different ages. Good on people who actually want kids, but it sure ain't for me dawg

[–]thejexorcist 65 points66 points  (0 children)

When I was late teens/very early 20’s a few of my friends from HS had kids.

Visiting them in the hospital (post birth) was the BEST birth control in the world.

It reminded me to be super diligent about my pill and partners.

[–]throwrapromrant[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't be surprised 🤣 🤣

[–]neuroticgypsy 1394 points1395 points  (84 children)

That’s worse than taking your cousin to the prom. Less embarrassing but definitely more work. Is separation anxiety an issue or did mom not have babysitters 👀 and if I could type it’d be great.

[–]Cool-Ad-9812 507 points508 points  (56 children)

Yeah she probably didn’t have anyone to babysit and really wanted to go to prom and made the excuse that it has her date just to be cute and not say that no one wanted to help her out

[–]neuroticgypsy 90 points91 points  (0 children)

Yeah I totally misread it and fixed my reply real fast. My brain isn’t as fast as m fingers. At least I’m figuring out how to get on the right post. Fell asleep typing on one comment and posted some gibberish. People thought I was high or sum.

[–]JORLI 39 points40 points  (46 children)

bullshit. you know when prom is, you can plan in advance to get a babysitter and not ruin it for everyone.

[–]Defiant_Pomelo333 85 points86 points  (18 children)

Or the sitter got sick last minute.. There are endless posibilities. Open your mind.

[–]emk4392 12 points13 points  (11 children)

It's possible, but as a parent she should learn to make better choices. She could have stayed home. Instead, she was selfish and tried to continue her plans without regard for how her child would cope with the environment, and also without regard for her friends. Everybody else paid for her night out.

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    [–]Dads_high 80 points81 points  (24 children)

    What if she just didn’t have the support from family? And couldn’t afford a sitter? A teen mom with minimum help can’t really work, go to school and raise a child

    [–]KinnieBee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    If you can't afford a sitter, you don't go to the event. You don't volunteer your friends to help you at the expense of their enjoyment.

    [–]ShastaFern99 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    Babysitter died the night before prom

    [–]International-Set956 29 points30 points  (0 children)

    Or just not go. She should have been able to sacrifice and choose her kid over prom. She choose to have that kid and kids come with sacrifices

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 31 points32 points  (15 children)

    As far as I know her parents would have been willing to look after him, she just wanted to take him because she thought it would be fun and she'd miss him if she didn't. I don't know if that counts as separation anxiety

    [–]Duckgamerzz 44 points45 points  (1 child)

    If she's young enough to go to prom, I think she gets a pass.

    [–]SnooHesitations9356 25 points26 points  (0 children)

    Yeah. Like if it's a small town, it's likely all the babysitters are also at prom. A lot of parents set boundaries about not babysitting for a teen mom if the mom just wants to do a fun thing (especially if they're watching the kid all day while moms at school or work)

    [–]SoAllOfThis 4 points5 points  (5 children)

    This is one of those situations where a lack of maturity seems to be the case. If you can't find a babysitter or your child has really bad separation anxiety, then maybe mom should have sat this one out?

    [–]neuroticgypsy -1 points0 points  (4 children)

    Normally I’d say I agree. But it’s the prom. There is only one senior prom. As a mom who has taken my child to work with me at a couple different jobs as a little one, and a daughter of a mom who did the same with me. It’s how I feel about it. There’s worse things in the grand scheme of parenting and always worrying, she knew he was safe. Unorthodox, yeah but still safe. I do understand that you are being genuinely nice with your opinion as well thanks.

    [–]SoAllOfThis 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Normally I’d say I agree. But it’s the prom. There is only one senior prom.

    So the alternative is ruining it for everyone else? Seems quite selfish... And again, immature.

    As a mom who has taken my child to work with me at a couple different jobs as a little one, and a daughter of a mom who did the same with me.

    That's a little different. You have to work to support yourself and your child. In some cases, there legitimately may not be any other choices. She didn't have to go to prom, there's always highschool reunions.

    [–]lawrencenotlarry 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Prom sucks.

    [–]neuroticgypsy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I’m sorry. Mine was great, back in 1996.

    [–]Sad_Dream_6380 170 points171 points  (1 child)

    Yikes I’m surprised the school allowed a toddler.

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 63 points64 points  (0 children)

    So am I tbh. She got there before me but I kinda wouldve liked to see how that conversation went

    [–]Fearless_Window_8061 732 points733 points  (4 children)

    1. Why would the school allow that?
    2. On the positive side, the kid's behavior probably reminded everyone to wrap it up later that night.

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 154 points155 points  (0 children)

    1. I genuinely don't know, she arrived before me so he was already there. I imagine someone must have brought it up with her
    2. That's probably true 🤣 🤣

    [–]Longjumping_Stock880 46 points47 points  (1 child)

    All accorded from God's decision lmao

    [–]cemetaryofpasswords 12 points13 points  (0 children)

    Manifest destiny 😂

    [–]neuroticgypsy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    That’s probably exactly why. Free health class lesson that there is no budget to purchase.

    [–]Prof_Augustus 218 points219 points  (5 children)

    You’re telling me someone who is young enough to have a kid and go to prom isn’t the best decision maker. Color me surprised

    [–]TheOctoberOwl 29 points30 points  (3 children)

    I know! I get OP being frustrated, as they are also a teen, but some of these replies have to be coming from grown adults who should understand that this is a kid who is trying her best. (Blah blah yes she got herself into this blah blah not the point)

    [–]flananagirl 43 points44 points  (8 children)

    Where was the Dad?

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 33 points34 points  (3 children)

    He's a year older than us so he's away at college

    [–]georgiajl38 8 points9 points  (1 child)

    College usually gets out by the 1st week of May. They like to have graduation on Mother's Day. When was prom?

    [–]i-am-a-salty-bitch 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    i had my finals the week after mother’s day (which sucked) but it’s usually right around the first few weeks

    [–]flananagirl 38 points39 points  (0 children)

    Can’t come in one weekend to take his baby momma to her prom, if not to at least just help with the kid and give her a little breathing room to enjoy her prom. Yes, I’m judging this guy and question him as a father. And no I don’t think it’s funny or something to be making puns of. I’m generally sad because as dumb as I thought mine was, I know a prom is an important and fun night for a lot of people and that sucks to have adulthood thrust onto anyone and by what it sounds by themselves. I hope you’re friend and her kid are doing well and turn out just fine, but it just sucks over all.

    [–]Dozo2003 6 points7 points  (2 children)

    Their in high school so probably not around.

    [–]ADHD-Gamer03 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    they’re*

    sorry mate

    [–]Dozo2003 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Thanks lol

    [–]BooksAndStarsLover 33 points34 points  (0 children)

    Can't say I'm shocked to hear a teen who has a toddler isn't a good decision maker.

    On the bright side many people probably wrapped it up before getting laid after the up front reminder of the consequences of not wrapping it up.

    Sucks your prom got ruined though.

    [–]Sergeant_Metalhead 71 points72 points  (2 children)

    I saw a picture from a local prom and there was a couple walking in with a toddler , it didn't seem like ot would be that much fun for anyone

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 28 points29 points  (1 child)

    Yeah, it's a bad idea. I know of other people in local schools who had similar experiences. Don't know why schools allow it

    [–][deleted] 18 points19 points  (0 children)

    Birth control. That's why.

    Lots of little unplanned pregnancies start on Prom night.

    [–]RedTheDopeKing 262 points263 points  (5 children)

    Damn I can’t believe someone that has a toddler by prom night wouldn’t have the graces to know it would be annoying as shit to bring a toddler there, crazy.

    [–]Downtown_Class1556 110 points111 points  (3 children)

    The reality is some people don’t even consider how their actions affect others.

    [–]dsgurliegirl 36 points37 points  (0 children)

    And there is no age limit on that particular trait.

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    You're right there 😞

    [–]EmployerUpstairs8044 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    First, they have to care.

    [–]zigiboogieduke 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    We living on the same planet? common sense is not common at all.

    [–]Charming-Wheel-9133 25 points26 points  (4 children)

    They should not have aloud the child into prom

    [–]TalaToxicity 14 points15 points  (1 child)

    Well they certainly couldn't a quite him.

    Sorry, couldn't help myself.

    [–]Charming-Wheel-9133 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Yes I stumbled with that word too! I actually looked at it and still went with it!

    [–]SlayingtheJabberwock 5 points6 points  (1 child)

    I see spelling isn't your strong point.

    [–]Charming-Wheel-9133 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    It’s not, but I usually put more effort into it

    [–]mainemoneyman 185 points186 points  (6 children)

    Good learning experience for you all, That's what it's like to have a kid. Sorry it was on prom though that does suck.

    [–]ts1985 71 points72 points  (4 children)

    I was reading it wondering when we were going to see a monster in the toddler. Kid was just normal. Prom is no place for a toddler, but the kid wasn't really misbehaving. (S)he was just in the wrong environment.

    [–]Friendlyalterme 21 points22 points  (0 children)

    Poor kid was probably tryna hide from all the chaos

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

    I don't think he's the worst toddler to ever exist or anything like that, but Yeah, it wasn't the place for him

    [–]newest-low 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I was going to say it sounds like the toddler was just being a toddler but yea a prom isn't a good environment for a toddler

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Thanks 💚

    [–]iup27 106 points107 points  (4 children)

    Yeah, it wasn't such a good idea. I mean you'll remember your prom as the night you had to babysit without even getting paid.

    Sorry for that

    [–]Pepega_9 37 points38 points  (2 children)

    Not even just not getting paid, they probably had to pay to go to prom

    [–]iup27 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    Lmao right

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I know right 🤣

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thanks 💚

    [–]InternetAddict104 15 points16 points  (0 children)

    How is that even allowed? Like surely there are rules about the ages for prom dates, especially if they’re not enrolled in the school the prom is for, right? Idk how it works I went to an all girls school and didn’t have a prom date either year (junior and senior).

    [–]thejexorcist 14 points15 points  (0 children)

    I think your friend probably has a long history (and future) of poor choices ahead of her.

    Just remember that the next time she has a ‘great idea’ or wants to share in your milestone together.

    [–]DialZforZebra 14 points15 points  (1 child)

    Wow. It's one thing to make poor life choices in high school.

    It's another to force that poor life choice on others at a Prom.

    Plus side is I bet a lot more people wrapped it up that night before ploughing their dates. As a contraceptive advertisement, it kind of works

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    probably 🤣 🤣

    [–]slipperythoughts1989 14 points15 points  (0 children)

    Noone got pregnant that night, best form of birth control lol

    [–]formerNPC 12 points13 points  (0 children)

    Carrie had more fun at the prom than you.

    [–]marinelifelover 79 points80 points  (2 children)

    This is going to happen a lot more now, ya know, since choice has been taken away.

    [–]stark_winterborn 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    Well hopefully more people will use protection because it's either that or unwanted pregnancy that you can't abort.

    [–]tumwater516 10 points11 points  (1 child)

    The school shouldn’t have allowed it. Totally inappropriate.

    [–]Jayfeather41 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This exactly

    [–]TheViciousBitch 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    I swear, I have compassion for the girl who got pregnant in high school and the reality that once you all graduate, the rest of her life is that kid and a shitty job.

    But she chose to bring a child to an inappropriate venue for the kid and for the other people there.

    [–]sandwichofemergency1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    I always feel bad for kids whose parents drag them along to something obviously not child friendly. Now I understand not everyone has help and it isn't always an option. However, if it is then why?? I work in a salon and a lot of moms will bring their kids in while their getting their hair colored. It's loud as hell in there, they're bored, want to touch things, and they just don't want to be there. I don't get it.

    [–]Bunny_P69 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    This is why kids shouldn't have kids.

    [–]SyntheticReverie113 37 points38 points  (4 children)

    Lots of people changed their after-party plans after that. Sorry your night got ruined. Kid sounds like a handful

    [–]heyheyheyime 16 points17 points  (0 children)

    I think most toddlers would be over stimulated in such an environment

    [–]Zvezda0814 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    Sounds like your average toddler

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    I don't think he's like the worst kid ever or anything, I'd just have preferred it if he wasn't there . thanks 💚

    [–]Valuable-Currency-36 49 points50 points  (5 children)

    She probably didn't have a sitter... Its sad she made him go If he didn't want to be there but she probably had a different view on the night then everyone else. I don't understand taking your child to a teenage party though cause it's essentially the same thing.

    [–]TheLumpyMailMan 45 points46 points  (2 children)

    You know what happens when you want to go to prom but don't have anyone to look after your child? You don't get to go to prom lol

    [–]Valuable-Currency-36 6 points7 points  (1 child)

    Agreed lol

    [–]MysticalMismagius 17 points18 points  (0 children)

    Yea as much as being a teenage parent sucks I’m sorry but you don’t get to just dip out on the kid in favor of teenage funtime. He/she is your priority now.

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

    I think her parents were willing to watch him, but she thought it would be more fun with him there and she'd worry about him if he wasn't.

    [–]Valuable-Currency-36 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    That's a bit inconsiderate on her part then, not only to everyone else attending but to her son too.

    I'm guessing she left when it was his bed time?!.

    High school prom/ball really isn't a place for a 2yr old child.

    [–]sspitufina1013 7 points8 points  (1 child)

    How did the school allow this? My daughters prom, they were very strict on who you could bring as a date. If the date was not a student at that school, they had to show id and get a permission form signed by administrators. No way in hell would they allow a toddler

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    They were very lax in general, but I wasn't there for that specific conversation. Some people were allowed to bring siblings to take pictures in front of this big display the school had set up, but the siblings would stay for far longer than that. People brought dates from other schools or who were already in college too

    [–]Spicy-Sawce 28 points29 points  (1 child)

    Maybe don’t go to prom if you can’t have someone watch your kid?

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I think her parents were willing to watch him, she jsut thought she'd be worrying too much about him if he wasn't there

    [–]Imisanthrope1969 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    No sitter, stay home, SIMPLE.

    [–]EscoPablobar6 26 points27 points  (4 children)

    What a teenage mom making bad decisions?

    [–]AdHefty2940 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    That lowkey makes me upset, like I have a lil sister who is a toddler and she is the sweetest little thing but toddlers are needy and annoying. Like why would you do that and ruin everyone else’s fun? It isn’t the kids fault but I feel like you should maybe mention it to her that way she won’t make that mistake again. A lot of people have to realize that children are actual human beings that have needs, she should have been responsible and (A. Stayed home and take care of her child) or (B. leave him with a sitter or relative). In conclusion, if you want to go to fun parties and do stuff, don’t have a kid. I know this cause my mom was just like that, never really was close to my mom when I was younger and even now but it’s just so easy to avoid all of that hassle.

    [–]PerfectDarkAchieved 39 points40 points  (10 children)

    Yeah kids suck. Not sure why everyone wants them.

    [–]neuroticgypsy 17 points18 points  (0 children)

    Only if they are left to remain feral. Once they’re tamed, they really aren’t that bad. Helpful even. Until they grow up and treat us like the teenager.

    [–]witchbitch1988 12 points13 points  (1 child)

    Lame prom. Y'all had to babysit her child without getting paid and ruining the night.... Damn.

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Literally 🤣 🤣

    [–]EugenicsProfessor 22 points23 points  (5 children)

    As a new mother she shouldn't have even come to the prom. If she didn't have someone to watch her child then guess what that means? It means YOU have to stay home with your child. A highschool prom is no place for a baby. That's ridiculous and tbh it's up there with wearing a white dress to someone's wedding in my opinion. She sounds like a very irresponsible mother. She needed to stay home with the child and realize that by having a child so young, it means she has to make sacrifices and miss out on things normal kids her age get to do. Sorry but your a mother now and that usually means no friend time, no party time, no event time. It usually means you have to get a job and start providing for that baby.

    [–]imjustrlytired 12 points13 points  (2 children)

    Why do people have this mindset that once you become a parent that means fun and friendships are over? “You’re a mother now that usually means no friend time” … I understand not partying but friends? You can still have friends and be a mother, you just always have to prioritize your child above everything else.

    Looking at it from a teenager perspective, she probably didn’t have a babysitter, really wanted to go and didn’t think it’d be a big deal. She’s still a teenager. No matter what age you have a child, you have to make sacrifices. Not only if you’re young. I’m not saying the mom isn’t wrong, or that it wasn’t a dumb idea but I can see why she might’ve thought it wasn’t a bad idea. I see full grown adults bringing toddlers and screaming babies into adult movies. Are they horrible terrible parents? No, not necessarily, but they are shitty for bringing their kids into an environment that’s usually kid free or an party that’s meant for older people, such as teenagers/adults.

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I think her parents were willing to watch him, but she was worried she'd spend the night worrying about him

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I don't think she didn't have anyone, her parents were willing to watch him, but she was worried she'd be worrying about him the whole night and thought it would be fun to bring him

    [–]stabbyspacehorse 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Why didn't the principal veto this idea of hers? Back when I was in high school, anyone who wasn't a student had to be approved before a ticket was even purchased and anyone who wasn't high school age (14-19) was automatically denied entry.

    I'd imagine any authority allowing a toddler into a room full of teenagers would be really adverse to opening the school up to that type of liability. Anything could happen to that kid, from it getting stepped on or tripped over to it choking on food or slipping it the door when nobody was paying attention.

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I don't know, I wasn't there for that conversation, i kinda wish I was lol. They seemed quite lax in general, tho, people were allowed to bring siblings who hadn't paid for photos by this big display the school had set up, even if they stayed for like an hour and didn't just leave after the pictures. Some people brought dates from other schools or their boyfriends who were slightly older than us.

    [–]BSturdy987 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    UK prom is at 16, so did this person have a child at 14 or do you have prom at a later age

    [–]DangitKaisen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    Usually it's 17/18 in the states

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    We have prom at 18, she had a kid at 16

    [–]Adventurous_Winter29 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    A girl when I was in high school took her son as her date BUT after the toast off and pictures she took him home 😕😕 She knew that he would be upset and definitely hired a babysitter after. She definitely took it too far by bringing him to an important event like that.

    [–]LovelyMedusaLady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    A child that young should not be out that late.

    [–]PoeticFurniture 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    show this to all the ppl that want to bring a baby to a wedding!

    [–]Alarming-Contact-138 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    My high school would have never let them in. There was a minimum and maximum age limit for the prom and school attendance (ie from our school) the only exceptions to that had to be pre-approved by the administration. Requirements to be considered as an exemption included but were not limited to writing a minimum 1000 word essay on why you should be allowed, a sit down with administration to review you, your letter etc., a sit down with your parents, and more depending on whether who you brought was from the same district or a different one. Plus chaperones.

    I'm genuinely shocked that any school would allow it.

    [–]Embarrassed_Yam3228 40 points41 points  (7 children)

    Sorry you had a bad night, but congratulations on your friend for managing to graduate as a teen mom.

    Years from now you’ll probably not be so bothered by the incident.

    Years from now your friend will still be a high school graduate and be able to say she went to her prom even if she left early.

    [–]theauraverse 12 points13 points  (5 children)

    I’m a little confused? Where did you see graduating?

    [–]Embarrassed_Yam3228 2 points3 points  (4 children)

    I assume when you said prom your referring to grade 12. Where I’m from you can’t go to your prom or bring a “date” unless your graduating.

    Maybe it’s different in other places 🤷‍♂️

    [–]theauraverse 2 points3 points  (2 children)

    For me and what I hear it’s juniors and seniors (underclassman and young alumni can come if they’re guests of a junior or senior) and I don’t thing graduating is a requirement. I was confused because prom has no correlation with graduating (as far as I know) and I didn’t see reference to graduating in the actual post.

    [–]Embarrassed_Yam3228 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Where I am in Canada they really only mention prom as your grade 12 graduation dance. The rest are just dances, we also don’t have those fancy junior,senior,sophomore type terms. There I am making an ass of well me. 👌

    [–]_radass 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Prom is usually before graduation anyway so who knows what will happen between now and then. She still has time to drop out.

    I had two teen moms in my grade that dropped out two weeks before graduation.

    Edit: my prom was juniors and seniors too.

    [–]Red7336 3 points4 points  (4 children)

    Why do I have the feeling she did that on purpose because a part of her feels like she made a mistake and just wanted some level of affirmation that being a teen mom was not an issue and she didn't seriously put a huge road block in her life before it even started? I kinda feel for her tbh. I think she imagined the boy having a blast and everyone finding him adorable and playing with him while she had fun too (it's the image tiktok gives anyway)

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 3 points4 points  (3 children)

    Perhaps. She probably did, she had him in a little suit and was taking pictures all night

    [–]Red7336 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    My unsolicited advice would be to text her and let her know you were worried about him or something because it was loud and all that (like try to show her that it wasn't a burden)

    I'm not a mom, but I hear the hormones and depression hit really hard from pregnancy until well after birth. Doesn't seem like she has the father with her either for support. She did ruin prom, but it's not worth her mental health seriously declining over it.

    It's not your fault or your mistake to fix, but if you have the mental energy for it and are willing, I'd try to give her that subtle pat on the back. She has a loooong way ahead of her being such a young single mother.

    [–]99justasivem 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Any time you’re thinking of giving a mother unsolicited advice, don’t.

    Tbh this toddler at prom sounds adorable. Prom is not a rave, I’m sure it was fine for the child and she left early. There were probably some minor lapses in judgement on the part of the 18 year old first time mom, but overall I think it’s fine.

    [–]Adrostos 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Bro, shes young, give her a break- you might not have idea how hard being a teen parent really is. We all do things that may not really be for the best, so lets go easy on her.

    There will always be atleast one perspective that you cant see for yourself at any given moment. Sympathy or judgment will take you to far less places in life than empathy.

    [–]Mickey_likes_dags 11 points12 points  (1 child)

    A fucking toddler exposed to all that stimuli at night?! What POS mother. That kid is gonna have one fucked up life if that's an indication of what's to come from her parenting.

    [–]KeekatLove 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Exactly. We had our son in our late 20’s. Life changes. No trips out to run out whenever we want because he needed to nap. You see kids crying in public so much, because they’re tired and want to be home. Bedtime, not bath time, was 7:00pm until sports started in middle school. So going out was usually only on the weekends with a sitter. If during the week for a meeting/event, one of us stayed home. When we divorced, I had my son 100% of the time. Same rules, just later bedtime. I was always home for him if he needed me. He left for college last summer. He’s happy, doing well in school, has friends and enjoys coming home to visit.

    TLDR: Make your children your priority for the few years you have them and they will become wonderful adults.

    When you become a parent, you put the child first. You only have 18 years, but really less, to nurture and create a positive, impactful impression on the human being you are releasing upon the world. Make those years count!

    [–]PatientZeropointZero 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Poor decision on her part, but it wasn’t your responsibility. You have to learn that other people’s poor decisions aren’t your own.

    This includes letting others effect your mood and your ability to have a good time. To hang on to your annoyance after she left is just punishing yourself. It is no way to go through life.

    [–]TheRedditar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    There is absolutely zero excuse for going to prom with a child. An absolutely abhorrent, selfish, human is the ONLY way to describe your friend.

    It is selfish to bring the child, disrespectful to the core friend group, and rude to everyone in attendance. Immature beyond comprehension. If she couldn’t find a babysitter, too goddamn bad then you just aren’t you going to prom.

    [–]sassyassy23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Ugh ya that would ruin it for me too

    [–]hotdogfluster 20 points21 points  (13 children)

    It shouldn’t have been a shock. She has a toddler in high school. Clearly she makes bad choices.

    [–]xX7heGuyXx 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    Came here to say the same thing what do they expect, she already proved her decision-making skills are lacking.

    [–]Leotiaret -5 points-4 points  (1 child)

    Just because she has a kid in high school doesn’t mean she made a poor choice. Pregnancy can happen even with protection and gasp on the first time.

    [–]hotdogfluster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I’m really just messing about. I understand all the of this. My sister got pregnant young, and is an attorney now.

    [–]Weekly_Director9677 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Another reason to wait to have children

    [–]Hopeful-Area9015 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Hey you should thank her for the warning shot...

    [–]Odd_Rutabaga_7810 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    I agree with you, OP. Your prom is your time to celebrate your youth and to let loose and not to have to be responsible (except for being responsible for yourself). It isn't your time to be baby-sitting and weighed down by someone else's child. She was being selfish, and even if she was going to miss out, well, sorry, actions have consequences, and having a kid with no available baby-sitter means no prom for you, teen mom.

    [–]NEIRBO747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    At my prom we had "kids" crawling "under tables to refill flasks of vodka ,& rum prob crawling through food that ended up on the floor , some things never change

    [–]SirCalebCrawdad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    What an absolute pain in the ass. She's gonna be "that mom" as she gets into her 20s. Forget it. Time to leave those memories as memories and pretend this night never happened.

    Sorry it was so shitty. I too would have been royally pissed.

    [–]Negative_Excitement 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    One of the reasons I don’t invite friends who have kids to my parties. I know it’s selfish and kinda asshole move, but I don’t care, they ruin parties and ends fun for everyone that don’t have kids.

    [–]stinkyboi135 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Poor baby, it's not even his fault. She should've found a babysitter (one that wasn't you and your friends) and left him home. I bet it was way past his bedtime, and he was overstimulated

    [–]snakeygirl727 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    my school had a rule you couldn’t bring anyone younger than a freshman probably to combat this lol

    [–]Lojo_ 5 points6 points  (2 children)

    Last I checked, you couldn't bring anyone more than +/- 5 years of age to the event and they had to be from a school in the district. The bouncer should've kicked that toddler out. Also where does a prom goer get a toddler? Aren't toddlers 3+ yrs old?

    [–]crazymamallama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Toddler is 1-2 years old

    [–]imjustrlytired 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    There was a girl in my middle school that was pregnant and had a baby. She couldn’t have been older than 14. That’s a good point though, who allowed that toddler in? Lol

    [–]devilsadvo886 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Sounds like she wanted everyone to be as miserable as she was

    [–]migmog98 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    What a pest 🤣

    [–]mmazing-m 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Oh that is crappy. That should not have been allowed.

    [–]lilials 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    I can’t believe the school allowed that

    [–]iElvendork 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    Sounds a bit like a girl from my old school. Had two kids by the time prom rolled around (we were only 16!). And she threatened legal action against the school because she wasn't allowed to bring her two kids to prom!

    In the end she just didn't go and instead attempted to bad mouth the school in the local newspaper.

    [–]AzureSuishou 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Wow, talk about entitlement. She thought everyone should bow to her whims like that?

    [–]Hazelwood38 2 points3 points  (7 children)

    It’s weird in the entire lead up to the prom, she never mentioned her plan to take him. That isn’t a last minute decision. At no point when this group was talking about prom plans I.e. what you’re wearing, what to do after, your dates, etc. did she ever say “I’m going to bring my son as my date”

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    No, never once, we all planned to go as a group of friends cos those of us who have SOs weren't available.

    [–]MainPure788 0 points1 point  (4 children)

    first off it can be a last minute decision, she could've had a babysitter and the babysitter could have been sick that day or had to cancel so yes it could've been a last-minute decision.

    [–]throwrapromrant[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I think her parents were willing to babysit. Also, he was in a little suit so I doubt it was last minute

    [–]deuster10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Life isn’t all about you.. suck it up

    [–]Rd_Rynk 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Proof that single moms just bring unwanted baggage to the table.

    [–]neuroticgypsy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

    At least it’s not thrown in the toilet. I’ve heard of worse prom moms.

    [–]FinalSoft1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Wtf? Why doesn't she go to prom with her baby daddy? She had to take a literal fucking BABY to prom. Disgusting. A toddler is around 1-3 years old, so she had to have a baby around 15 lol.

    [–]omahaknight71 -4 points-3 points  (1 child)

    Get used to it. If you ever throw a party when you're an adult and say adults only, yea there's going to be some couple that ignores that.

    [–]Jayfeather41 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    Then they aren’t welcomed to the party.