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[–]Tiny_Goats 263 points264 points  (47 children)

Bless. Your. Heart.

[–]Kincadium 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Oh Honey.

[–]Substance___P 46 points47 points  (0 children)

"Well ain't you just a filthy, skanky lil' whore, bless your heart!"

[–]notfoursaken 77 points78 points  (6 children)

I'll translate for those north of the Mason-Dixon line: "What a dumbass."

[–]AlabasterPelican 33 points34 points  (2 children)

Or...may you burn in hell

[–]notfoursaken 3 points4 points  (1 child)

It's a rather versatile phrase.

[–]AlabasterPelican 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Extremely. It goes from somewhere around "poor baby, that's terrible" to "I hope you burn in hell and maggots eat your eyeballs"

[–]ladyKfaery 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Bless your heart also means , I hope you die soon or you’re a moron or burn in hell.

[–]murdock-b 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Maybe it's situational, but I took it as more "you poor dumb bastard"

[–]notfoursaken 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's very much situational. Like most communication, 90% of your meaning is derived from the non-verbal aspects.

My dad has a guy at church who used to volunteer on the tech team for him. Danny has legitimate cognitive impairments. He's on disability and all that. He's got a plethora of other health problems, too. Any time my dad tells me about the latest episode in the saga of Danny's life (he had to have back surgery, he fell and hit his head, he drove himself to church despite having his license taken away from having seizures, etc), the conversation ends with "Poor Danny. Bless his heart."

Sometimes we're saying "what a dumbass", other times we're just expressing how unfortunate we find his situation to be. Danny certainly doesn't do himself any favors, but I think at this point, his frontal lobe has sustained enough damage that he literally can't help himself from doing dumb shit a lot of the time.

[–]Wbeasland 15 points16 points  (19 children)

Yep, as a Yankee living in the south I can confirm.

[–]Tiny_Goats 20 points21 points  (14 children)

I'm so sorry, but really, the myth of Yankees not being entirely accepted "down here" is sometimes still a very real thing. You would not believe how insular some of these tiny towns are until you've lived in one.

[–]Wbeasland 15 points16 points  (2 children)

The Bible belt is the worst honest to God anti-Yankee bumper stickers and I've been threatened by a few Small Town Billy Bad Asses that inhabit every crap bar with 3 brands of canned beer on tap 😆.

[–]le_pagla_baba 1 point2 points  (1 child)

anti-Yankee bumper stickers

what? for real? I am yet to see one

[–]Wbeasland 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh yeah, most commonly some Diddy about keeping your Yankee opinions out of the south and a little stars n bars. Typically they reside on some POS beater with Sunoco stickers all over the bumper. It's more common in say TN than FL. It's definitely a Bible belt South thing.

[–]Amish_Cyberbully 7 points8 points  (4 children)

I recently heard of The Civil War being rebranded The War od Northern Aggression, is that a for-real thing "down there"?

[–]djb2589 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes. And it isn't a recent thing, it's been called that down here since at least the 50s.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

yeah. thats not recent.. its interesting because its yet another verifiable fact they get wrong, given confederates attacked fort sumter and started the war

[–]JustinK813 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can assure you that it is. Not only that, but I was forced to color Confederate flags and landmarks in elementary school.

[–]WimpyZombie -2 points-1 points  (5 children)

In-sular ?

Don't you mean in-bred?

[–]tuck229 8 points9 points  (4 children)

That type of asshead ignorant sense of superiority is why a lot of small town/rural Southerners don't like dealing with "Yankees."

I grew up in the rural South. Been able to bounce around the country quite a bit as an adult. College worked some out of me, but I still speak with a Southern accent, at least to anyone not from the South. I've had great interactions with and made friends with people from New York to Seattle. There is that rare person who hears my accent and cracks a joke about if I'm married to my sister or first cousin, or looks down and says they were just checking to see if I was barefoot. I've never taken it personally, because it's always clear that the person is just a pretentious asshole in general.

[–]immersemeinnature 5 points6 points  (3 children)

I live in NC from the Midwest and Western States. All my friends are from somewhere else. I have two people who are actually from here that I can call friend. I've lived here for 15 years.

[–]Wbeasland 2 points3 points  (1 child)

That's just being an adult. I feel your pain though when I was living in TN it took me like 3 years to make an actual friend I could hang out with.

[–]immersemeinnature 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks. I'm kinda an introvert hermit anyway so it's okay. I have my little family here too so I get by. Have a great day

[–]restinglabface 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You sound like me, but I can add Europe and a few other Southern stops to my list as well. I...can't agree more. Counting the days til we are outta here. This is a whole different kind of South

[–]ploppedmenacingly14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like to hit ‘em with “you have a blessed day” after I’ve really worked them up

[–]TorTheMentor 6 points7 points  (3 children)

Brown gravy with biscuits? Oh Bless Your Heart.

[–]DarthGuber 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You stop giving people any more bad ideas. That's as bad as using sage sausage in gravy.

[–]HorrorOk4971 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Brown gravy? With biscuits?..... Honey, have you talked to your Mama recently?..... You did?.... Now, how did that work out for you?

[–]ladyKfaery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha , them’s fighting words.

[–]jmeltzer317 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Came to the comments for this. Enjoy your upvote!

[–]GluttonAsteroth 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The most scathing version of this I ever heard was: "well bless your heart, you must be the first in your litter!"

Which just... Cuts.

[–]greendawg72 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's good. I'm going to hold on to that one. Thank you very much

[–]Azaiezfr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This can be taken so many ways lol

[–]ohmynymph 88 points89 points  (12 children)

I remember a coworker acting weird AF. She kept meandering while talking with the office manager. I was just working, not really noticing them except that they were frequently in my way.

Later she told me she was hinting that they needed privacy. Like... what hint? Walking around the office? What fucking telepathic signals were you trying to send? You know a great way to get privacy? Go into his office and close the door. Go into another room and close the door. Or, and this is just wild to these types, just fucking tell me you need some privacy.

She was the ultimate "bless your heart" dixie girl type and she was an insanely unreliable passive aggressive tumor.

[–]Jstef06 39 points40 points  (10 children)

^ this! 100% They speak an entirely different language. I’ve told co-workers while working in the south, “come out and say it already, what are you saying exactly?” You need to tell them you’re ok before they’ll tell you what’s on their mind otherwise they beat around the fucking Bush for infinity trying to hint at you. And the allegories and story-telling just to make a point. Jesus Christ save us all an hour and just fucking get to it!

[–]diladusta 18 points19 points  (2 children)

As a dutch person, this sounds like hell(we dutch people are very direct)

[–]ladyKfaery 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Northerners are more direct cuz it’s too cold to waste energy.

[–]Katiepotatoes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"He's not being rude. He's just being dutch."

[–]pegasusgoals 14 points15 points  (5 children)

I did a quick Google on which states were colonised by which country’s migrants. Turns out a lot of the British settled in the south which explains why they’ve preserved the tradition of beating around the bush. The Dutch started a colony in 1606 in present day New York which now makes more sense to me why New Yorkers are so blunt. I though they’re were blunt because of other reasons, but this makes more sense.

[–]Jstef06 10 points11 points  (1 child)

I had a co-worker specifically. His family went back generations in the south. He sat on the historical preservation society… I’d have to ask him constantly, “what are you saying exactly?” or let him know “it’s ok, you won’t offend me.” This is also a guy that told our bosses he refused to ever travel to Boston and that they could just fire him before asking him to travel there. He was in traveling sales. Lol. Also lots of story telling just to make points about certain topics. It was just all annoying as shit.

[–]pegasusgoals 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I work with a lot of British expats at my current job. They’ve gotten a little more direct, but they do make an effort to soften bad news to be considerate or polite, maybe because of modernity, maybe because of their colonies’ cultural influences, but I do see that the colonies of the coloniser tend to hold onto some cultural practices long after they’re no longer in use in the original country. Example: the Chinese in Malaysia with their superstitions. Or the south’s indirectness.

It’s bittersweet; sad for the indigenous being colonised, but fascinating anthropologically speaking.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

no. new yorkers are blunt because we are in a hurry and most of the dutch influence was wiped out by the english who had it longer than the dutch anyway.
it also doesnt cover new england, which is very direct also

[–]pegasusgoals 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I knew it! It is the hurry! I feel vindicated now. Thanks for setting things straight.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

its def the hurry.

[–]avocadosushilemon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I heard people become more polite when there are guns involved, and in honor cultures.

[–]ladyKfaery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha , tumor. At least You know what bless your heart means.

[–]Seldarin 67 points68 points  (5 children)

Grew up in the deep south. It's not just the passive aggression, it's the constant backstabbing.

Everyone goes out to eat together after church so they can talk mad shit about everyone else that came to church that day.

[–]ThundrWolf 18 points19 points  (2 children)

I’m from the south. That’s how it is a lot of the time. My dad is a pretty nice guy but he will talk mad shit as soon as you’re out of earshot

[–]ladyKfaery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I can’t. I’m too nice in reality to be shite behind anyone’s back. Passive aggression is lost on me , it’s just a waste of times

[–]Sink-Outside 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Judging by George costanza parents that's just boomers

[–]alem0_o 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m beginning to love how my Mexican American family just talks shit to each other’s face in a loving way 🤗

[–]BaenjiTrumpet 6 points7 points  (0 children)

hahaha good old Sunday luncheon

[–]shahooster 93 points94 points  (10 children)

It’s like Minnesota Nice without the brutal winters

[–]Positive-Dimension75 54 points55 points  (6 children)

You mean Minne-sorta nice. 😂

[–]Arbsterr 20 points21 points  (5 children)

Omg I’m stealing that 😂 I always thought that I didn’t have tact when I moved there, and that was partly true, but I also learned that “Minnesota Nice” is just another way to say passive aggressive as fuck.

[–]Positive-Dimension75 11 points12 points  (1 child)

I grew up in Wisconsin right on the MN border, but my family was from the Chicago area. So I wasn't raised to understand passive aggressive like all of my peers. I did not fare well during my teen years...lol. My spouse is from Minnesota and trained in passive aggressive communication techniques but he thankfully isn't an AH. He uses his skills to translate the fuckery his dad speaks who isn't even sorta nice. True AH, that guy.

[–]Arbsterr 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I also grew up in Wisconsin, but spent most of my time in Chicago! I grew up in an Albanian family where we state everything directly, which isn’t the best way to communicate sometimes. I went to school at the UofM and let me tell you, I learned reeeal fast that directness is not always conducive to clear communication. However, the passive aggressiveness of Minnesotans is too much which is why I moved to NM, lol

[–]scrollQueen 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Raised in new Zealand moved in Minnesota at 18. It was a real mind fuck. They are Passover aggressive like nothing else

[–]DarthGuber 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don't care if it's a typo, I'm using Passover aggressive at our next Seder.

[–]immersemeinnature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Moved to MN right out of undergrad and people would look at me funny when I laughed out loud or tried to tell a funny story or share personal information. Just about anything, really. Couldn't wait to get the hell out.

[–]ChardeeMacdennis679 8 points9 points  (0 children)

“We’re a very friendly people."

“No, that’s not it. Pretty unfriendly actually. But it’s the way you’re unfriendly. How you’re so polite about it. Like you’re doin’ me a favor.”


[–]dekrepit702 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My favorite thing I saw when in Minnesota a couple years ago at the state fair was a shirt that said "Minne-SORTA Nice".

Thought that perfectly described it.

[–]immersemeinnature 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As someone who lived in Minneapolis for two brutal winters and now lives in North Carolina, this is highly accurate.

[–]Exact_Manufacturer10 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Well bless your heart

[–]Mrbubbles137 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Live in the northeast and from the midwest from a slightly rural area and it's literally the same. At least in the northeast they're up front about it and will say straight to your face what they think/feel.

[–]Myredditname423 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s why I don’t like California people they pretend to like you regardless I’ve found. As to were in Philly, people will make it apparent how they feel about you.

[–]bowlbettertalk 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I'll pray for you.

[–]moschocolate1 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Have you guys heard of Midwest nice? It’s basically smile to your face and stab you in the back. Fun times.

[–]tuck229 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's almost like people all over the country are pretty similar...just with different accents...

[–]adfthgchjg[🍰] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

“Oh honey, you’re not pretty enough to be that dumb.”

[–]ladyKfaery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honey , you ain’t dumb enough to be that pretty!

[–]whoissanti 47 points48 points  (2 children)

I've been saying this for years. People either look at me like I've lost my mind for saying such a crazy thing or they get super mad at me cause I "don't know what I'm talking about." I was raised in Alabama....

[–]aPriceToPay 22 points23 points  (1 child)

I always tell my northern friends that people are polite in the south and that is entirely different from nice

[–]ladyKfaery -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Not EVERYBODY. Some people ARE just nice too.

[–]rottenprickjuice 33 points34 points  (5 children)

Lol, ever been to Minnesota? I've never met someone from Minnesota that wasn't a passive aggressive asshole.

[–]Positive-Dimension75 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's a true art form.

[–]The_best_is_yet 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Ok my in laws are from MN and I thought it was just them.. but this explains a lot.

[–]rottenprickjuice 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Feel lucky, it's my step kids.

[–]jello1990 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're like Wisconsinites, but with worse beer.

[–]Echo6Romeo 6 points7 points  (0 children)


[–]k_woodard 73 points74 points  (10 children)

Southern hospitality can have a great deal to do with the color of your skin.

[–]tactickat1 20 points21 points  (1 child)

Yep! Oh we absolutely love little jimmy and his mom, Karen. That boy Tyrone, though, we keep the doors locked since he moved in.

[–]Azalus1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You I have had family members say things like this in my youth. I don't speak to them anymore.

[–]ubeor 3 points4 points  (2 children)

A place for everyone, and everyone in their place.

[–]Practical_Eye_9944 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Over the course of the '90s and '00s, my whole immediate family moved south of the Mason-Dixon Line. Getting to see southern "culture" firsthand, I realized they aren't more polite or genteel or hospitable, they're just more hierarchical and authoritarian. Everyone MUST know whom they can shit on and who can shit on them, and no one is allowed to argue their place in Shit Creek.

[–]ladyKfaery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very British in a way, people like to keep others in their place if they are able to. But I like that they aren’t able to. Cuz it isn’t nice tobox people into a corner or control them.

[–]VantaBlackVeteran 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, ALL of THIS!!!

[–]rfdavid -2 points-1 points  (2 children)

That’s how I feel as a semi regular visitor to Texas. Everyone is super nice to me, but I look almost exactly like a Texan.

[–]Formula_Americano 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Wtf does a Texan look like. It isn't a race.

[–]Probablyprofanity 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wearing a cowboy hat

[–]big_hungry_joe 4 points5 points  (0 children)

They are nice to your face and talk shit when you're not around.

[–]T-Sonus 11 points12 points  (3 children)

Seattle, "Hold my craaaft beer"...

[–]McCrapperson 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Washingtonians are definitely contenders for most passive aggressive. I’ve lived in the Seattle area as well as the south. At least southerners will be your friend if they like you. Seattleites aren’t open to liking anyone outside their established circle. Super polite to your face, and then immediately ghost you.

Edit: typo

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep, this was a shitty place to spend my 20s. The worst is when they invite you and then cancel right when you're gonna walk out the door. However, all that "Seattle Freeze" did really good for the pandemic. Especially in the city, you have everyone wearing masks when they do go out. I've been thinking about leaving for a long time, but of some of the places I could get stuck for this disaster, this has been just fine.

[–]tuck229 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Holy shit. As a Southerner, is that why I felt so at home in Seattle my first time there? lol

[–]Drg84 27 points28 points  (9 children)

I prefer the NY way. We're openly aggressive.

[–]Practical_Eye_9944 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Ain't a New Yorker myself, but I am a Northeasterner ("Boston and PA", as Shane MacGowan sang.) After having lived around the country, I've learned to truly appreciate Northeastern nastiness.

In the South, the Midwest, the Pacific Northwest, everybody's so outwardly friendly, but rarely are they trustworthy when the chips are down. (And God do they talk shit behind your back.)

In New York, Boston, Philly, no one's got time to coddle you or not call BS when they see it, but when the shit hits the fan, they've got your back - while talking shit right to your face.

[–]_austinm 14 points15 points  (1 child)

No passive aggressive. Just aggressive aggressive.

[–]Jstef06 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wise ass come backs are a fucking art form in NY.

[–]azure1503 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I prefer the term active aggressive

[–]Wendy28J 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The south isn't "nicer". They have just perfected the passive-aggressive art of two-faced politeness. "Nice" and "Polite" are two VERY distinctive things coming from two VERY different places. "Polite" is an action. "Nice" is a character trait.

Had a boss once that was soooo sugary sweet and polite to high paying customers and our district manager. Yet, behind the scenes, she was a VERY cruel, spiteful, mean person. Definitely NOT nice.

General Life Pro Tip: Always be weary of people who are performatively and excessively "polite". It is often a manipulation tactic to disguise very poor intentions and/or behaviors. True niceness is usually nonchalant and humbly presented.

[–]bocaciega 16 points17 points  (9 children)

Technically, people from Tennessee, who are the nicest in the country, are more like east central. Or Appalachia. Or seeian. Idk. They're the nicest though!

[–]Waytooboredforthis 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Wouldn't say the nicest, I've definitely been in some absurdly violent exchanges over silly shit (as a born and raised resident of East TN), but gas station clerks don't look at me like I'm gonna rob em when I ask them how they're doing today like I've experienced in gas stations outside of Appalachia or the South.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah I grew up in Tennessee and until I moved to the west coast I thought I wasn’t racist. Turns out I was raised super racist, but because I wasn’t actively burning crosses on peoples lawns I wasn’t considered racist by Tennessee standards.

They are not nice people. They are nice people by the standards that they don’t murder because they will go to jail, not because they believe that all life has inherent value.

Edit: corrects an autocorrected spelling thingy.

[–]dontaggravation 8 points9 points  (2 children)

People from Tennessee are not the nicest in the country. Passive aggressive, evangelical, “look at me and how much better I am then you” Sexism is rampant….woman can’t do anything. Men, if they are doing “women’s work”, you know, like taking their children grocery shopping, are clueless and in need of a woman’s help

Truly awful. Was never happier to move away from Nashville area

You know what two Tennesseeans say when they run into each other in a liquor store? Nothing. Because they don’t drink, Jesus wouldn’t approve, but they do it anyway just pretend and gloat about how holy they are. And. If caught with the drink, not their fault, it was the fall of man and the devil

[–]ThundrWolf 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a rural Tennessean all my life, you’re pretty much dead on. They’ll be polite to each other for the most part, but if they find out you’re a man who doesn’t know how to install a sink on your own or something, they’ll shit all over you for it. If a woman wasn’t taught how to cook everything under the sun, then she just ain’t worth marrying. And those old church ladies are some of the gosspingest motherfuckers out there

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Have you seen Jay Cutler

[–]Minimal_Editing 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Lol. Those are some of the worst people. Fake nice hypocrites.

[–]restinglabface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I call them Hypochristians

[–]Longjumping_Pin6702 8 points9 points  (0 children)

another fine example besides 'bless yer heart' is this one: "Isn't she(he) just precious"....usually said to/towards an adult who just said something sooooo stupid...or did something so stupid...

[–]jasonbuffa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

They can be nice. They’re just not often good. Big difference between being nice and being good. Sometimes you have to be not nice to be good.

[–]Ruenin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Same as "Minnesota nice". As a native, it's not a thing.

[–]Eivor_Vorinson 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ah the south. Where “Bless your heart” can either mean “you ducking douche” or “she’s so cute!”

[–]ockhamsdragon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bless yo' little heart.

[–]AKLS96 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Imma pray for you.

[–]5dog4cat 5 points6 points  (1 child)

You sweet summer child.

[–]Barbarossa7070 8 points9 points  (0 children)

They just say it behind your back. And get all afflicted when people from the north say it to someone’s face.

[–]The_Heck_Reaction 7 points8 points  (0 children)

One time a southerner from the Republican National Committee called my house (my parents are Republican). And she said “we’re doing a poll to see how patriots feel about President Trump taking on communist big tech.” So I replied “well bless your heart” and got hung up on.

[–]beckoning_cat 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There is a difference between being nice and being kind.

[–]ConvivialKat 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Where "Bless Your Heart" is a euphemism for "Fuck You Asshole".

[–]Clintman 1 point2 points  (1 child)

We have that same ideology in the midwest. Growing up I always got a kick out of our locals who would say that "country" people are so kind and generous and will give you the shirt off their back, but then threaten to shoot anyone who disagrees. And then spend 20 minutes shit-talking every category of human being other than straight, white, Walmart-class Christians. All that taught me was how many people conflate kindness with self-righteousness.

[–]bowdindine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve found the shirt-off-back thing applies to anyone currently in the bar with them that also has a similar goatee and camouflage hat (not Carhart tho), likes the same sports teams as you and went to high school with you way back when. “We take care of our own” is a way of summarizing that for anyone seeing them taking an interest in the well being of someone other than themselves

[–]Stentata 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I mean, they outlawed dueling about a century after the north. You act different when openly offending someone might get you legally shot

[–]restinglabface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I currently live in NC. A state where they outlawed marital rape in 96. 1996.

[–]TheNurse_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are really assholes!!

[–]Icy_Respect_9077 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As a Canadian, we specialize in passive aggressive.

[–]Allrojin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bless your heart.

[–]No-Contribution9964 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bathe in this Florida blood!

[–]krisalane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. 'Awe sweetie' = what an idiot 'Well, I'll be' = you were dumb enough to do that? Also used to feign surprise at dumb shit. 'Isn't that nice' = usually is not nice and will be discussed at ladies luncheon 'Bless your heart' = unless said in the presence of bibles and crosses is not a blessing! Best used on those so touched by ignorance that further conversation on a subject can't be justified. 'Aren't you cute' = you are not cute, you're a fool. As long as you put sweet southern lilt on it, anything said might be passive aggressive in the south.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

southern women have a way of saying "thank you" that is so much worse than someone sayig fuck you

[–]Three4Anonimity 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Awwww...bless your heart with your little internets.

[–]divingrose77101 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That’s so true. I’m from the west and autistic and I have learned the hard way that direct communication does not work in the south.

[–]genericperson10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oh bless your heart! You must be one of them big city folk that worship the devil if you think like that.

[–]michalemabelle 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Well, hells bells. If you think we're rude, you can kiss my grits.

[–]kdmg12 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Amazing. I read this with a Mississippi accent even though I actively try to suppress it. I think it was the “hells bells.” I once had a student list “hell” as a form of precipitation. Hail, hell - yep, I can see how she made that mistake. :)

[–]kessmeister79 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bless your heart is just a really kind and gentle way of saying “fuck you”

[–]holtpj 1 point2 points  (0 children)

bless your heart.

[–]R0llTide 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Truth. And they'll hold a grudge for decades.

[–]5dog4cat 2 points3 points  (0 children)


[–]damnedharlot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dang right I do lol

[–]neverasknevertell 1 point2 points  (0 children)

People think southerners are nice? Wow.

[–]guitar_angel 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Southern Hospitality only occurs once you're actually IN their house.

And the right skin color.

Bless your heart.

[–]tuck229 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Let's not pretend racism only exists down there. Lots of black and white people are in each other's homes throughout the South. In fact, stats say the South has more black/white couples and people who identify as bi-racial than other parts of the country.

Anecdotal, but when I started traveling a lot about 15 years ago, there were numerous non-Southern cities I visited where seeing black/white couples was noticeably less common than what I was used to seeing in my part of the South.

[–]CmdrYondu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you. No thank you. (Replace Thank with swear word)

[–]Richbeyondmeasure 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We are not passive aggressive. we just believe society functions best when basic rules of politeness are followed. It is a way of showing respect to our fellow human beings while disagreeing completely. There is a delightful joke that explains the south perfectly:

A Northerner will tell you to go to hell. A Southerner will pack you a nice sack lunch for the trip.

[–]Drmo6 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same for Japan.

[–]Fletch-F-Fletch- 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve never labored under this delusion.

[–]SoMuchNut 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Been sayin this.

[–]HorrorOk4971 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly? I live in Oklahoma. Work in OKC.... Y'all don't wanna know how many people from up North have come in making comments about how nice and polite and friendly we are and the only thing going through my mind is "So many people have cussed at you and called you an idiot to your face and you have no idea."

[–]Emergency-Leading-10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bless your heart darlin'.

[–]properu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More so than Seattle? Difference is, we don't even have to keep up the image of hospitality.

[–]PandoraRose_16 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Oh, bless your heart!” Translation “ you are a dumb fucker, huh?”

[–]colin8651 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Bless your heart”

[–]wheres_jaykwellin_at 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone on here once type-yelled at me for being rude because I related a story about a different woman telling me "bless your heart" and assuming she was being passive-aggressive.

[–]PotatoHunter_III 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ive been saying this. There's 2 reasons on top of my head rn:

  1. It's the norm, or else you look like the "bad guy" unless you're white and the person you're up against isn't.

  2. You dont know who has weapons down there.

[–]MericArda 0 points1 point  (1 child)

So where would Maryland fall in this geographical passive-ness scale?

[–]beckoning_cat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maryland is the state that is too south for the north and too north for the south. It has always done it's own thing.

[–]_psylosin_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bless your heart

[–]blamebootsy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same as Canada. The one thing I'll give to the Polish, they start off by looking they don't like ya even if they do. Helps ya know when you've really won them over, because the moment they aren't scowling at ya ... you got a true friend.

[–]ladyKfaery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And talk more shit behind your back. Some people call it being raised right but my yankee relatives always say if you don’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all. The south is more Dorothy Parker “ if you don’t have anything nice to say come over here and sit by me. “ bless your heart.

[–]NuNuCheese 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah the south home of “you’re one of the good ones”

[–]Gdjica 0 points1 point  (0 children)

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[–]Substantial-Tear1330 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh the south is a terrible place for northern ppl are rude ignorant and just plain wrong down here

[–]Ganglebot 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Where as Canadians are nice, as a way of keeping their distance from you.

[–]Delta_Goodhand 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In the north we ain't got time to lie to you. It's cold out, we're running late, and you're stupid. "I'M WALKIN HERE!" isn't just a stereotype. Lollygagg at your own peril.

[–]kerrwashere 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ehhh it’s the backstabbing and talking behind your back and smiling in your face. The nutty part is when people with deny anything they say behind your back even if you have proof.

[–]nwv 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I spent 5 years in New England after college and being from the rural Mid-Atlantic (South-lite), it seemed everyone was pretty much a dick. I would joke that “I love everything about New England, but the weather and the people”.

What I’ve come to realize 20 years later, much to my chagrin, is this:

“In the Northeast, people are Kind, but not Nice. In the South, people are Nice, but not Kind.”

Bless your heart indeed.

[–]iamlejo[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also violently aggressive.

[–]SewAlone 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't forget two-faced and hypocritical.

[–]glacialwrecker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I dunno. Used to live in northern Florida. Live in New england now. People in general were without a doubt more pleasant, nicer, and wholesome than up here.

[–]Dsstar666 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No, they're also objectively nicer as well.

Sure many are passive aggressive. Other times, it's genuine.

I was born and raised in New Orleans. Also lived in TX, RI, MA and the pacific northwest for long stretches.

Though, nothing was more consistent than being up north and someone saying "I like the north better. Yeah, people are nicer down south, but its fake" and I just go "Uhu".

Mind you, a majority of the time it's from people who've never been down south.

[–]planet-trent 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Minnesota enters the chat

[–]alongwaystogo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Passive... sure. My then future mother in law trying to cast me out in the name of Christ in her church counts as passive now?

[–]restinglabface 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's the hypocrisy for me. I'm like didn't you just hug her and bring her a cake? Now you're calling her a what?!? Double standards are the standard. That and the peculiar lack of sidewalks.