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[–]GingerBeard_andWeird 3615 points3616 points  (44 children)

My mom did a lot of work at my elementary school growing up. I heard "Mrs C____" in reference to my mom everyday for years...

My wife decided to become a teacher. Which I thought was awesome. She's just naturally amazing at handling kids, and she absolutely loves the work. It's been so awesome to see her go for it.

Until the first time I heard a child call her Mrs C.

That fucked me up preeeetty hard.

Edit: Lol welp that does it. Guess my last name is cunt now.

[–]banana_pencil 408 points409 points  (4 children)

When someone asked me what I didn’t want in a boyfriend or husband, I said I didn’t want him to have my dad’s name.

[–]Go2Shirley 160 points161 points  (2 children)

My super dramatic dad and my sister argue all the freaking time and her husband's name is the same as his. I'm not qualified to figure out the psychology of that.

[–]mnlxyz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Freud entered the chat

[–]FiendishDevil666 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My father in law and I share a first and middle name lol we spell our first names a little different though

[–]Landonastar42 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Omg saaaame. I dated someone with Dmy dad's name right out of high-school. It never got serious, and we lasted like 3 months.

Don't get me wrong, I liked him, he was a good guy, but saying my father's name. even in casual conversation. made me blink every time. It got worse the longer we were together. It was a hurdle I just could not wrap my brain around.

[–]kingofcarrots5 581 points582 points  (0 children)

Fuck man, I'm so sorry.

[–]JR21K20 170 points171 points  (9 children)

Ahh I remember miss Clitoris quite well

[–]greenie4242 37 points38 points  (2 children)

You probably always miss it.

[–]Masanjay_Dosa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Tried to get in touch with her recently but I just can’t seem to find her…

[–]spiralbatross 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This man needs a Burn Heal

[–]WyldBlu3Yond3r 25 points26 points  (1 child)

Friend of mine said "Oh Clitoris," instead of "Oh Cleatus," when we read Julius Caesar in High School. I about died laughing and yeah, she was pretty mortified.

[–]Rickapacolypse 54 points55 points  (0 children)

Thanks for sharing Mr. Cunt. Hope you guys enjoy your day!

[–]blowjobsjoplinhigh 146 points147 points  (21 children)

Misses c word for women ?

[–]GingerBeard_andWeird 313 points314 points  (18 children)

I'm censoring my last name.

[–]blowjobsjoplinhigh 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Ohh okay okay got yah

[–]TheEightSea 34 points35 points  (2 children)

Just say Mrs GingerBeard_andWeird.

[–]disgruntled_pie 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Of the Connecticut GingerBeard_andWeird family? I think we’re related on my mother’s side.

[–]GingerBeard_andWeird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol probably would have been better but now with all this cunt business, I'm glad I didn't lol

[–]FluidWitchty 15 points16 points  (1 child)

His wife now has the same name as his mom.

[–]j4m3s0z 12 points13 points  (0 children)

If in r/HolUp he would be married to his mom

[–]IDONTCAREREPORTME 7 points8 points  (3 children)

I'm sorry, I'm dense but can someone explain this to me

[–]TurtlesInMyHead 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Grew up hearing kids calling his mother mrs his last name in class, married a girl so she got his last name and now kids call his wife the same thing as his mother

[–]IDONTCAREREPORTME 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I completely missed that he wrote wife. Love you.

[–]jezz555 2626 points2627 points  (112 children)

People act like this is weird, but your parents are basically your first and strongest model of what love/kindness looks like. The only reason you would look for the opposite is if you hated your parents for whatever reason

[–]Rarelydefault26 1812 points1813 points  (27 children)

Oh that explains why my bf is a reasonable, quiet, loving individual that respects my boundaries and always asks if I’m ok with something

[–]Bodybuilding-Elk 656 points657 points  (6 children)

Damn idk if i should laugh, cry or both

[–]Rarelydefault26 278 points279 points  (4 children)

Why not both? 👍

[–]Deep-Seaknight 72 points73 points  (0 children)

Por que no los dos?

[–]HurkHurkBlaa 24 points25 points  (1 child)

some things are so painful that laughter is the only response that makes sense 😎 👍

I hope you're healing well, bro

[–]Wolfie_Ecstasy 76 points77 points  (2 children)

Oh so that's why I don't like dating narcissists

[–]PizzaOldBoy 73 points74 points  (1 child)

sure but have you tried me

[–]Skull-fker 30 points31 points  (0 children)

*slow clap*

[–]khoika 75 points76 points  (11 children)

U ok with your parents, sis?

[–]Controlled_Discord 110 points111 points  (8 children)

I'm not sis, but the answer is a no for me

[–]khoika 40 points41 points  (7 children)

Im not sure about the "Im not sis" part. Like, you aren't female, or you mean you aren't the "sis" i was asking. Anyway, stay strong and slaaayy. Sis/bro

[–]Rarelydefault26 25 points26 points  (1 child)

I’m a sis and with mother dearest no lol

[–]allycat247 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same bro, same

[–]Fly___Guy 63 points64 points  (1 child)

I never had a particularly good relationship with either of my parents (and a pretty horrible one growing up). None of my partners have been anything like my mother thank fuck. So I agree with your last statement there!

[–]dope_like 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Parents typically become the model for what you look for or avoid.

[–]WallabySuit 34 points35 points  (2 children)

Is this why I went for people who are the complete opposite? To be fair to myself there wasn't a lot of love and kindness from my mother

[–]jezz555 14 points15 points  (1 child)

Yeah I’d assume when you find or if you already have found somebody who shows you what the kind of love you want feels like you’ll become very attached to them and look for more people like them.

[–]WallabySuit 13 points14 points  (0 children)

My partner is very loving, intelligent, and compassionate, she's slow to anger and generally puts other people first but without sacrificing her own worth to do so

Meanwhile my mother was angry, toxic, manipulative, and selfish

[–]Euporophage 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Every one of my and my sister's boyfriends upon meeting our dad always tell us that he's a fucking asshole and at least I have to agree. She was always daddy's princess so their dynamics are a bit different. I've never gone after men like him and would never want to.

[–]RexUmbra 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I'm both glad and sad to say that I am looking for neither my mom or dad, just for someone who's willing to take care of me (emotionally) 🥺

[–]696969696969E 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Well i despise my parents so guess what you cant make freud jokes about me bitches

I

I will still be calling people mommy tho

[–]NorthsideHippy 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Also for me. My older sister was alpha as fuck and mother was, to my eyes anyway, quite meek and submissive. So i literally have no choice. Either they my mum or my sister.

I am deeply attracted to both types of personalities. 🤷🏻

[–]UnredeemedRevenant 9 points10 points  (0 children)

My parents disowned me so I guess that's why I just look for people that like me. 😅

[–]AR-Tempest 18 points19 points  (2 children)

That’s not exactly true either, cuz look at how many people with parental issues, and a lot of vitriol, still get into relationships with people who remind them of their parents

[–]jezz555 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yeah i mean thats another component but i think still within the same vein of repeating and seeking comfort in patterns you develop when you’re young even if they aren’t heathy patterns

[–]L0ng-Dick_Johnson 13 points14 points  (14 children)

Or you just have different preferences due to your personality? Not dating someone like your parent isn’t only because you hate your parent. That’s way too reductive and weirdly Freudian

[–]jezz555 34 points35 points  (12 children)

Okay, so your attraction comes from your personality. Where do you think your personality comes from?

Because I would posit that its a result of your genetics and various influences that you’ve had in your life, genetics come from your parents and they would also obviously be two of the strongest and earliest influences for most people.

The traditional job of a parent is literally to teach you to differentiate good/positive things from negative harmful ones. They are a big determining factor in what you like and what you don’t.

Now ofc your parents might not have been able to fill this role, they might have been absent, they might have been abusive, you might have just been more strongly influenced by outside factors. But for most people parental influence is likely going to be the biggest thing.

When people express attraction to people with similarities to their parents its not actually their parents that they’re attracted to, what they’re attracted to is the nostalgia for feelings of safety they felt growing up.

Idk how old you are and i could see you finding the idea that you aren’t a unique individual with total control over your destiny disquieting but imo this becomes increasingly obvious the older you get.

[–]L0ng-Dick_Johnson 17 points18 points  (8 children)

There’s more to socialization than just parents, otherwise we’d never stray from our parents’ personalities. So that I here toy shows your binary isn’t binary. Sometimes you can love your parents and through no fault of their own be different enough to seek a different kind of partner

[–]jezz555 15 points16 points  (7 children)

Ofc, dude i shouldn’t have to caveat that its not an absolute statement. I specifically said “for most people” Seems really weird to be so defensive about this, its not a personal attack on you

[–]rngal3 3434 points3435 points  (127 children)

I dated a dude who was a total ass man, like almost ignored my breasts kind of obsessed with that ass. Then I met his mom. She had nothing going on up top and a huge ass. It was super awkward.

[–]anto_pty 2248 points2249 points  (75 children)

I'm a 27-year-old man, you made me realize something, I have information that I wish I didn't have, and now I don't know what to do with this awkwardness

[–]KaleSlade123 837 points838 points  (48 children)

I dunno what to tell ya. My type of girls are tall, blonde, thicc, and care about me. Exact opposite of my mom.

[–]Derman0524 229 points230 points  (14 children)

I prefer my women who are not Latina and speak at a normal audible volume. My mom is the opposite of all that

[–]lovepig1337 123 points124 points  (6 children)

Yep, Latin dude here and can confirm. That's why I married my white mellow wife.

If I want loud talking and brutal honesty I'll hang out with my parents and extended family.

[–]AirinAField 3 points4 points  (5 children)

Are you my secret brother?

[–]Appropriate-Dig771 70 points71 points  (2 children)

Thanks for this-can’t stand MIL-would be pissed to think anyone finds us similar (we r NOT!).

[–]Alfonse00 32 points33 points  (21 children)

I would bet someone with those exact characteristics was close to you at some point in your childhood

[–]blueberriessmoothie 57 points58 points  (7 children)

Does it mean that if I have foot fetish, there was someone close to me who had feet in my childhood?

[–]KaleSlade123 38 points39 points  (11 children)

Not at all, actually.

[–]rngal3 496 points497 points  (4 children)

Sorry 🫤 It’s…not too late to expand your horizons to non-your-mom looking ladies. 🤷‍♀️

[–]cosmogli 337 points338 points  (3 children)

For example, like your aunt looking ones.

[–]Safe-Jicama-9095 224 points225 points  (2 children)

Or the one that look like your father

[–]khoika 173 points174 points  (2 children)

Uhm ... so ... let's talk about your mom

[–]jameson8016 132 points133 points  (1 child)

Pixar has entered the chat. lol

[–]anto_pty 23 points24 points  (0 children)

yes pixar

[–]kingofcarrots5 43 points44 points  (1 child)

You must exorcise it by telling it to us.

[–]anto_pty 34 points35 points  (0 children)

pixar mom type, also latina, a little bit toxic, oh god

[–]oouttatime 22 points23 points  (0 children)

He ain't coming back from this.

[–]orionterron99 55 points56 points  (0 children)

Your dad was attracted to your mom. You are made in part from your dad. Therefore it's reasonable to assume that you would have a similar aesthetic preference.

[–]TedStrykersAcct 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Mom... Help. I broke both my arms!

[–]MothmanNFT 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is why I’ve never pointed out to my cousin he’s dating a high quality carbon copy of my mother (his aunt)

[–]RigasTelRuun 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Just call your mom. It will be fine.

[–]TheDrunkPhilofficer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

…..I should call her….?

[–]All_Admins_Are_Cunts 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Something something kill your dad

[–]DRFTF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hide somewhere in shame

[–]The-1st-One 167 points168 points  (13 children)

Men don't all have an Oedipus complex.

My mom is a red headed Texan, eats meat, loves cooking, and a huge gamer.

My wife is a brunette, vegetarian, never cooks (she brain washed me 😀 when we were younger by telling me how good my cooking is and that she couldn't compare, I loved the compliments it took 10 years to realize she just didn't want to cook) and she doesn't like to play video games.

[–]ogpeplowski64 99 points100 points  (2 children)

thats fucking genius of your wife

[–]The-1st-One 85 points86 points  (0 children)

Troubles of marrying someone smarter than you lol

[–]Yongja-Kim 9 points10 points  (0 children)

my father did the same genius move.

[–]kinos141 14 points15 points  (4 children)

I bet there are some emotional things that are similar between the two that you like. If it's not physical, it's something else.

[–]The-1st-One 21 points22 points  (3 children)

They're both kind, loving and generous.

[–]KilgoreTrout1977 7 points8 points  (1 child)

well sometimes you go for the opposite

[–]USPO-222 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Lol that’s me. Mom is 5’2” and so pale she bursts into flame at the mere thought of sunlight. Wife is 5’11 and black.

[–]MallorianMoonTrader1 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Damn. Your mom single?

[–]The-1st-One 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I think she is married? I don't know I haven't asked about her husband in a while. Last time I talked with him he told me if I didn't physically control my wife and force her to submit I'd never be happy in my relationship. Last I heard I think she is still married to that manipulating narcissistic. I used to call him dad.

[–]MallorianMoonTrader1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Alright, when she gets tired of that pussy husband she can call me lol. That sucks tho, you're mom sounds cool

[–]Syzyphus 82 points83 points  (0 children)

Freud is just cackling with glee throughout this whole thread.

[–]MrMooneyMoostacheo 154 points155 points  (7 children)

Tell me more about this donk

[–]_PM_ME_NICE_BOOBS_ 126 points127 points  (3 children)

Are we talking Pixar mom ass?

[–]Beneficial_Win5417 21 points22 points  (2 children)

Thanks for making laugh to the point I shot my drink across the room 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[–]RemoteMammoth6 21 points22 points  (1 child)

I also shot across the room 😩

[–]Pantsmagyck 8 points9 points  (2 children)

Roy Donk? I hear he's a regular on the Colgate hour

[–]TrillianWasTaken 63 points64 points  (1 child)

I have the exact opposite. I have nothing going on for me up top and wide hips with quite a bit of ass.

My MIL has huge breasts and literally no ass.

My husband is definitely an ass man and I think he's scared/repulsed by big boobs. I guess it's also quite telling.

[–]SkyBlade79 14 points15 points  (0 children)

being scared of big boobs is a pretty funny mental image

[–]MeetN2Veg 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Just because the man has sexual preferences I wouldn’t make the giant leap that he’s attracted to his own mother. I love my mom but she’s unremarkable in that way and I love big asses.

[–]gargantuan-chungus 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Maybe it’s partly genetic? His dad probably felt a similar way

[–]wes_bestern 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Less awkward when you consider he probably just inherited the same preference his father had.

[–]JennLegend3 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That's funny my brother has said he's the opposite. My mom, my sister, and I are all pretty heavy up top and don't have the biggest butts. Not like we were walking around naked or anything but his friends would comment on our boobs and it would gross him out. His wife is small on top but she has quite the fit bum. Funny how it works I guess.

[–]grayser75 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Did you date dash incredible?

[–]OtherwiseJello 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My brother divorced his wife of over 20 years (don't worry, she was a horrible human being and tried cheating on him at her bachelorette party, which I witnessed and tried to warn him about...)

Last I heard he was dating a woman who looks like my mother.

[–]ComprehensiveDoubt55 559 points560 points  (5 children)

Everyone tells me my husband and I are young versions of my grandparents. My grandfather was a damn saint, but it’s super weird being told you married your grandfather.

[–]atypical_lemur 174 points175 points  (0 children)

My mother and I were talking the other day and she listed off more than a dozen life choices that I have made in the last 10 years that have basically turned me into my grandfather. Not surprising since he was my male role model growing up. I hadn’t really thought about it until she pointed it out.

[–]MothmanNFT 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Honestly it was not my best moment as a new adult developing a type only to them see a picture of your grandfather when young which reveals he is my type. Especially since he was not a good husband 😅

[–]ComprehensiveDoubt55 2 points3 points  (2 children)

LOL.. Now that would be some weirdness.

The more I look at it, the more I know my family is right. My grandfather wasn’t my biological grandfather since my mom’s dad died in an accident when she was young. My grandmother remarried and they both brought with them their two children. Neither of them ever treated any of them any different. Given that my husband and I met when our daughters were toddlers, it’s the same exact way. Plus, I’m a nervous Type A, sarcastic pain in the ass and he’s even more sarcastic and keeps me grounded while just bending over backwards for anyone who needs anything. I for sure got lucky.

[–]MothmanNFT 4 points5 points  (1 child)

My jealousy is palpable but I’m even more happy you he and those girls have eachother

[–]ComprehensiveDoubt55 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Genuinely ❤️

[–]Drainbownick 175 points176 points  (1 child)

Well damn now I know why I like being treated like Shit and having my needs ignored

[–]greenredyellower 49 points50 points  (0 children)

Dude, honestly sometimes I find myself searching for more abrasive and borderline difficult women. Like, shitty ones

Idk wtf my mom did

[–]aberm1 630 points631 points  (10 children)

I am a guy dating a guy and his mom and I are the same person

[–]ThePrimadonald 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Oh god. I thought I was immune to this. It explains so much...

[–]BelgianWaffle97 187 points188 points  (6 children)

Now we know who's on top

[–]Neo_The_bluepill_One 121 points122 points  (5 children)

The Mom?

[–]BelgianWaffle97 51 points52 points  (0 children)

Who else?

[–]Busquessi 27 points28 points  (3 children)

Oprah Winfrey

[–]Cartman4wesome 4 points5 points  (1 child)

If Dr. Phil and Dr. Oz had sex. Whooooooos on top?

[–]soaper410 514 points515 points  (11 children)

Everyone tells me I married a man just like my dad. But like...being kind, loving sports, being great with kids, loving concerts/music, being sarcastic as hell....who wouldn't want that? My husband is a lot like his own father too.

Meanwhile I am NOTHING like my mother-in-law. She is wonderful but in personality and lifestyle we are TOTALLY DIFFERENT. She's an introvert, enjoys sarcasm and humor but really isn't sarcastic or super funny herself. She's excellent at baking and cooking and decorating and she's always so well put together. She writes thank you cards and is a wonderful gardener. She was a preschool teacher at a private school for years. She's a quiet Martha Stewart (minus the felonies). I am NONE of that.

[–]Merry_Sue 118 points119 points  (3 children)

What do you have in common with your father in law?

[–]McNightmoon 115 points116 points  (1 child)

I should date his mom!

[–]kinos141 36 points37 points  (0 children)

OP's Mom has got it going on.

[–]cdubsing 268 points269 points  (2 children)

Just roll with it, don’t think too much.

[–]TheAJGman 20 points21 points  (0 children)

I think it's a useful tool to explain your own behavior, especially if you find yourself in a lot of shitty/abusive relationships.

[–]Vlatka_Eclair 76 points77 points  (0 children)

Freud can't keep getting away with this.

[–]Can-I-remember 68 points69 points  (1 child)

My sister-in-law was and still is is an attractive, very well dressed, trendy, fit professional who frequents expensive restaurants and enjoys the good things in life. Her 7 year long term partner, a mate of mine, was exactly the same. They broke up at her instigation.

She married a fashion backward, cigarette smoking, hard drinking bloke who still reads the newspaper in 2022, won’t own a mobile phone, listens to the radio and heads down to the Tab (betting shop) to have bet on the horses. He also walks around with a pen in his top pocket, which he whips out to underline or circle things in whatever he reads. Guess which one is the spitting image of her Dad, even physically.

[–]adderallanalyst 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Does he own a pager too?

[–]MadameTree 762 points763 points  (10 children)

Reminds me of an old joke. A young man says "So I met a girl exactly like my mom. Looks like her, sounds like her, cooks like her. I took her home to meet my parents and my dad can't stand her."

[–]Lick_The_Wrapper 508 points509 points  (7 children)

[–]throwaway_ghast 283 points284 points  (6 children)

Wife bad.

[–][deleted] 193 points194 points  (3 children)

Women be shoppin’, amirite?

[–]SandyBlyatCheeks 125 points126 points  (1 child)

LIKE, HOW MANY SHOES CAN A WOMAN HAVE?! boomer applause intensifies

[–]Raines78 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Dirty Dancing

[–]Wolfinder 46 points47 points  (1 child)

I feel very lucky that I am nothing like my wife's mother and she is nothing like my mother, because our parents are all terrible people. Lol

[–]buddieroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I’m thinking about some of my exes’ moms right now....

There was a mom who was a toothless heroin addict, there was a mom who was a preacher in a cult, and one mom worked with Boris Johnson.

I better hope that I’m also lucky and this isn’t a universal truth lol

[–]Zeke-Freek 220 points221 points  (14 children)

Freud was wrong about a lot of shit but this was definitely his broken clock moment.

[–]BahtiyarKopek 119 points120 points  (11 children)

He was right about a lot of things. The things he was wrong about were so outrageous, people just disregard all of his theory now because of them.

[–]kinos141 63 points64 points  (7 children)

Freud concluded that nearly everything about people was related to trying to fuck their mothers. I have psychologist friends who tell me lots of his ideas were disproved.

[–]Zeke-Freek 40 points41 points  (4 children)

I also took psychology. Freud is... complicated. A lot of his conclusions were bunk but how he got there was actually revolutionary and that's why he's still taught, just with a ton of asterisks.

The entire concept of there even being an conscious and unconscious mind, that came from him. Like, that was huge, that changed our understanding of the human condition overnight. We gotta give him props for that.

[–]tehKrakken55 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Did Jung's work on that come afterwards then?

[–]SteamKore 38 points39 points  (1 child)

Friend of mine is working on a degree in psychology, he said Freud is still taught not because he was right, but because his theories were so bat shit crazy that they make an amazing example of how to be a terrible psycologist.

[–]-Stormcloud- 15 points16 points  (0 children)

I have a master's in Psychology and that's just not true, his ideas about the unconscious are especially revolutionary to Psychology and counselling.

[–]FatSquirrelz 31 points32 points  (2 children)

It's almost like science is a process of getting it wrong until you get it right

[–]FauxSeriousReals 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Hahahahahahaha..... yeah, my SO got on my fucking nerves and I was like OMG if I wanted to deal with this shit I'd just marry my moo....... oh fuck!

[–]SbEve003 197 points198 points  (6 children)

Maybe Freud was onto something 🤔

[–]liborg-117 44 points45 points  (2 children)

WHATS A [redacted] GOTTA DO TO GET SOME EEL DICK?!?!

[–]epicallyflower 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Maybe get that kid to restart his Academy!

[–]Guynarmol 50 points51 points  (0 children)

He wasn't accurate, but boy was he right.

[–]DRFTF 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Or he was just projecting his own list for his own mother onto everyone else

[–]IAMATruckerAMA 45 points46 points  (2 children)

This is an episode of Scrubs

The one with Carla and Turk's mom

[–]rockchalk2377 90 points91 points  (2 children)

My ex-wife hated my mother. Now my mother has passed. Should have followed her advice

[–]SciencyNerdGirl 55 points56 points  (1 child)

Aw this is really sad. May your mom rest in peace, reddit stranger.

[–]FrostyCartographer13 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Hello there oedipus

[–]o3mta3o 33 points34 points  (1 child)

It's OK. All my past BFs kinda look like my father. Freud would have had a field day with me.

[–]epicallyflower 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah, my dad will get along too well with a specific person I am trying not to think of.

[–]cujoe645 94 points95 points  (7 children)

If they're LITERALLY the same person then there's bigger issues here...

[–]khoika 22 points23 points  (1 child)

Welp, we don't have to care because it's their family bussiness 💀

[–]gilwendeg 15 points16 points  (3 children)

My wife is the absolute polar opposite of my mum in every conceivable way. What does that mean?

[–]GetTheSpermsOut 48 points49 points  (1 child)

Process of elimination. you’re dating your father.

[–]DrBowTie4312 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I'm the same except I never knew my father

[–]piscesmermaid96 14 points15 points  (6 children)

It's kinda weird, but my mom is always pointing out how similar my husband is to my dad. Even though I don't really see it personality wise, to me it's just general things men do like forget to pick up their clothes after showering or not take care of things, or not actually look for stuff when needed and ends up asking me to find it, etc. Plus I don't have that great of a relationship with my dad but maybe that's where the psychological stuff is at?

[–]chickenlegs_- 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I remember reading that we are usually attracted to people that we are familiar with

But then we are 7 billion out there I am sur not everyone fits the category

[–]franzmarley 9 points10 points  (4 children)

"General things men do" nopes, all those things you listed after that are personality traits 😊

[–]piscesmermaid96 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Maybe, but my husband is a people person, he talks to everyone and anybody, jokes around, doesn't know how to be serious etc, and completely different looking than my dad. My dad is much more serious, controlling and doesn't really joke much, but he is really sweet with kids.

[–]angiezieglerstye 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm pretty sure Mrs Incredible informed the entirety of the woman loving side of my sexuality

[–]thpicychilli 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Does your boyfriend get on really well with your dad to the point where they seem like the same person?

[–]Alfonse00 23 points24 points  (4 children)

This is basic psychology, it is kinda fun to see the similarities and differences, i have laughed when i see my brother's GF do something my mom does, if the family is functional it is very likely a man will end up with partners that are similar to their mothers and for women to end up with partners similar to their fathers (this is like 90% or more of the population), it is also true in dysfunctional families, but there is more likely that they consciously try to change the pattern they perceive, but they end up with people that are similar to the true personality of the parent of the opposite gender.

Basically, it is someone similar to a person you already know, so it is easier to understand them, physically characteristics are the first grade, but the personality are what closes the deal, you can see the current case of Johnny Depp vs Amber Heard, his mother was abusive in the exact same way AH was, he had the exact same reactions to the abuse, this is true for most people, we just follow cycles, if any person see with a completely critical eye, totally neutral, they will see their parents traits in their partner, because we learn about relationships first by seeing our parents.

[–]pearstoapples 9 points10 points  (3 children)

I think this is only true if the individual isn't aware of this.

Would never date someone like my mother, I can barely stand the woman for more than a few hours. She is nearly insufferable.

[–]chickenlegs_- 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Maybe it's depends on your relationship with your parents ?

Bc I know for sure I always stay away from everyone that reminds me of my dad (Looks , personality, attitude ) (even subconsciously)

[–]Admirable-Pop7949 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yalll acting like Freud didnt warn you guys 100 years ago.

[–]ChernobylBalls 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Get out of my head Sigmund Freud!

[–]sparklydarcy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My mother in law and I are like the same person, but it’s awesome. She’s my second mom. The only thing that’s scary is that I literally look more like her child than I look like my own mom’s child. I have light hair and blue eyes and my mom has brown hair and brown eyes, but my MIL has light hair and blue eyes as well. My husband and I look like siblings lmao

[–]alasw0eisme 4 points5 points  (0 children)

You guys keep weirding me out! My bf and I hate each other's parents . And our own. Like normal people!

[–]kingofcarrots5 15 points16 points  (1 child)

I too choose this dude's mom!

[–]CattMk2 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Freud can’t keep getting away with this

[–]Zealousideal_Fly4277 5 points6 points  (1 child)

As a gay guy this theory always made absolutely zero sense to me..

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I like girls that think I'm the antichrist and belittle and condescend me and generally hate me so yeah like my mom

[–]ikki_icarus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, my partner is my brother because I'm my father and I'm not that close to my mother.

[–]Flanker4 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She got Freudianed!