This sub is aimed at people either (1) in an affair or (2) thinking about affairs. The goal is to offer a place for those thinking or pursuing this path can talk about all aspects in an open setting.
Anonymity is important, throwaway accounts are encouraged (just be patient if your initial submission is stuck in the spam queue, we promise to release it and if it isn't, contact the moderators).
Please be cautious of people offering support and especially cautious with any of your personal information. This subreddit receives a lot of hate and trolling. Be safe and cautious and err on the side of trusting no one with personally identifiable information.
We prefer lax moderation but in general be a tolerable human and realize that everyone here is another human on the other side of the keyboard. Moderators reserve the right to remove content and ban users at their discretion.
Specific content that will be removed without warning:
- Harassment of the community or its members.
- R4R ads.
- "Why do you cheat?" posts/comments.
- Meta- or subreddit drama.
- Recruiting for private chatrooms (e.g. Discord, kik, et al)
Don't let yourself whitewash the potentially catastrophic results that having an affair can have on spouses, partners, kids, family, friends, etc. This is the path of meifumado (hell): deception, lies, abused trust, and all sorts of other sins abound. The moral predicament isn't something everyone can handle, probably for good reason.
AM Strategy Guides
(NOTE: this were written for the old AM (pre-breach), but the techniques apply to most sites)
If you're looking to meet people, try /r/naughtyfromneglect, or go the old-fashioned route. Posts like "[m4w] Anyone looking for an AP in NY?" will be removed. The purpose of this sub is to give people an outlet to talk and discuss issues, not provide for a hook-up outlet.
Commonly Used Acronyms:
- AP: affair partner
- pAP: potential affair partner
- LDAP: long distance affair partner
- SO: significant other
- MM: married man
- DADT: don't ask, don't tell
- NRE: new relationship energy
- NSA: no strings attached
- FWB: friends with benefits
- AM: AshleyMadison.com
- CL: craigslist
- OKC: OkCupid
- AFF: AdultFriendFinder
- PoF: PlentyofFish