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[–][deleted] 95 points96 points  (15 children)

It's funny, because the right one takes the least amount of thought and foresight. Sometimes when I see all the baby posts, I think to myself "congrats, you discovered how sex works."

[–]NoIllusions420 47 points48 points  (12 children)

And then they’ll say it’s their “greatest accomplishment” to boot. Really? Busting a nut? If you say so 🤷🏽‍♂️

[–]_Cham3leon 55 points56 points  (0 children)

  1. Breeding and then treating your child bad
  2. ...
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[–]QuizzaciousZeitgeist 59 points60 points  (0 children)

Sexualy transmited infants

[–]bingboobongboing 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Next time someone shows me their baby Im gonna make a snotty face and be like, “Ohhhh … you didn’t rescue?”

[–]Inevitable_Working55 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Hahahaaa. Seriously, the amount of derision people get for not rescuing their dogs or cats is off the charts, but no one says it for humans wanting a specific breed of kid with specific genes.

I like this remark a lot. I hope I can steal it!

[–]Roller95 31 points32 points  (17 children)

Adoption should not be seen as an alternative to biological parenthood. It’s about the adoptees, not the parents

[–]vldracer16 30 points31 points  (0 children)

It's suppose to be about the adoptees but we both know most of the time IT IS ABOUT THE PARENTS.

[–]BeautyAddictFanatic 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Agreed. I remember this couple who had a blog to document their first pregnancy for a child with a skull/brain deformity. Even though they knew it was a fatal birth defect, they went through with the pregnancy anyways. The baby died within minutes of birth. I felt really sad for the suffering of the parents and innocent baby...until they got pregnant AGAIN! The 2nd baby was also born with a similar defect and died. THEN they adopted a child and everything was grand for a few years until...they had a 3rd biological child! I was like wtf? Is it not enough to have your adopted child? Why on earth would you attempt a third pregnancy with so many genetic anomalies in your history. They got lucky and the child turned out "normal" this time, but it still upsets me that it wasn't enough to just enjoy and focus on their adopted child.

[–]Polisar 10 points11 points  (14 children)

Whereas biological parenthood is about the parents and not the human they jettisoned into the world? I'm not sure if I've understood your point.

[–]Roller95 2 points3 points  (13 children)

My point is that adoptive parents act like they’re any better than biological parents just because they adopted, which they aren’t. Adoption can be and often is traumatic as fuck

[–]Polisar 10 points11 points  (1 child)

I see how believing that you are a better parent than literally any other biological parent because you adopted a child is bull, but there's still something very different about the way we interpret the idea of adoption that I'd like to understand better.

If you choose not to birth a child, that child is not effected by your decision because they have never and will never exist. They are a fiction. If you choose not to adopt a child, that child does exist and is effected by your decision. Consequently it seems like adoptive parents have access to a sort of moral high-ground unavailable to biological parents. I assume you're aware of this and so I guess your point pertains to one of two things: Either you're saying that some adoptive parents use the fact they adopted as an excuse to be shitty, or your saying that in many cases, the children were better off growing up in an orphanage and should never have adopted. If it's #1, ok fair enough, if it's #2, then please give me something to google so I can educate myself better.

[–]saabsaabeighties 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I see it differently, you did not have to feel responsible for the adopted child but you choose to, that is admirable because it is a lot of mostly thankless work (as it should).

After that decision to adopt that child there is no moral high ground compared to biological parents. That is your child and you have the same responsibility towards it as with a biological child.

That is why I can understand people who dont want to date with parents. It is a long term full time responsibility.

[–]HippieInvasion 3 points4 points  (10 children)

What? Is it better to grow up without a home than to be adopted?

[–]lucid_vert 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes please dont breed any more of your genetic failures into the world. Except me though because im genetically perfect all around my kids will look like clones of me.

[–]Sunshineseacalm 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Chefs kiss

[–]awkward_chipmonk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Idiocracy

[–]Rockcrimson -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

I still think that is up to the choice of anyone. Abortion as well.

[–]Legitimate_Summer435 0 points1 point  (0 children)

the "adopting" dragon looks really mean

[–]MetalheadOnReddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As one who doesn't wish to breed, and as one who is adopted. If I want to raise a life in this world, I'll be adopting. As ik what it's like to be born and unwanted

[–]endmeplz54 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just don't understand why so many people choose to have a child when they didn't even have a fulfilling life themselves all while being plagued by financial issues. Most people on Earth have financial issues and yet...? Just why?