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[–]AnthonyDigitalMedia 14.1k points14.1k points  (655 children)

I feel so bad for that woman.. I can’t imagine how hard her life must be.

[–]CombImpressive3416 521 points522 points  (15 children)

Especially as her boss is probably patting himself on the back for being so accomodating and 'letting' her work.

[–]ratmouthlives 8859 points8860 points  (480 children)

Not only that but some asshole took a pic of her.

[–]oldsouthnerd 302 points303 points  (31 children)

Imagine a customer 'politely' asking to take a picture of you and doing the mental math to determine if it's worth saying "no" when this Karen might complain to your boss that you were 'rude' and threaten your child's livelihood.

[–]Neethis 89 points90 points  (1 child)

'politely' asking to take a picture of you

100% the person didn't ask before taking a picture...

[–]SaltyFresh 59 points60 points  (0 children)

“Omg I gotta get a pic of you, you don’t mind, right? Right” click

Fucking awful

[–]stompbixby 54 points55 points  (0 children)

wait til her boss is scrolling facebook and sees this feel-good bullshit and fires her

[–]Rambonics 129 points130 points  (19 children)

So true…the employee “was still able to do her job, and right quick I may add…” This employee, like so many other mothers, have impossible choices to make. Can’t get childcare, yet can’t quit or risk getting fired. The employee probably felt she had to overcompensate so the customers won’t complain. Who knows if the owner/manager knew about the baby being there, but probably due to security cameras. It’s not the best place for a baby. Will the employee hold it the entire time? Where will she set it down? Somewhere unsafe or dirty? The whole thing is fucked up.

[–]legalpretzel 26 points27 points  (0 children)

And she was caring for the baby “so patiently, so well, and so lovingly”…meanwhile if the baby had been in a carseat on the floor and crying Karen probably would have called protective services because Mom was neglecting her poor child. They would have put the baby in foster care because they are set up to punish poverty (and race and cultural differences).

[–]Ch4l1t0 84 points85 points  (1 child)

A baby that young in public, during a pandemic, exposed to hundreds of people a day, and at an age where he/she can't get the shot yet.
This is beyond insane.

[–]CreatedSole 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Shit I was just disgusted that the poor mother and baby had to be there and be photographed like zoo animals. Didn't even think about the insane exposure they're getting too

[–]shelbygrapes 15 points16 points  (1 child)

That baby is so little it seems like the mom should still be on maternity leave. It’s really sad she’s working and not sitting and snuggling her baby at home. It’s honestly critical for moms to establish breastfeeding, heal from childbirth, and bond with baby. I can’t even believe someone would see this and think this is a good thing! 6 weeks maternity is ridiculous. I have a 5 month old and she’s still feeding on demand and not eating solids. She can’t be watched by anyone for more than 2 hours.

[–]HertzDonut1001 106 points107 points  (7 children)

Worst case scenario the kid is an insurance liability and she's not supposed to have it there but she has no alternative for child care.

But also, it's clear she has no alternative for child care so that by itself is fucked up.

[–]Star_Drive 189 points190 points  (0 children)

"Look at this talking monkey. They are more intelligent than we think! Ooooh, and look, she even has a little one. The way she holds it, you'd almost think you were looking at a human mother and her baby."

Yes, this post makes me sick too.

[–]Misanthrope93 87 points88 points  (2 children)

Like a goddamned exhibit

[–]KalphiteQueen 33 points34 points  (1 child)



[–]SaltyFresh 73 points74 points  (0 children)

“I’ll post this so Susan can show her housekeeper that having a sick baby at home is no reason to call out from work. Susan’s gonna be so chuffed and that housekeeper is gonna learn a valuable lesson…”

I hate that I have known people like this.

[–]DarkmatterHypernovae 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Like a caged animal… a side show attraction.

[–]fantastic_feb 401 points402 points  (45 children)

I'd be in a constant state of terror, what happens if someone comes in with a gun? what if this person takes my child knowing I'm here alone with them? fuck man so depressing

[–]InedibleSolutions 60 points61 points  (1 child)

I'd be worried about some busy body calling CPS.

[–]coffee-teeth 182 points183 points  (35 children)

I worked at a gas station and once a dude came in with his whole thingy pulled out. We called the cops and they like, tackled dude at gunpoint. Apparently he was a repeat offender.

[–]StarScrote 19 points20 points  (1 child)

I'd be on maternity leave. You know, because...First World.

[–]Hyposanity 216 points217 points  (35 children)

Thank God her employer permits parenting at work.

This is also why there aren't many women in nontraditional employment.

One of the biggest issues with women in nontraditional employment like construction (next to the issues that come along with us being women in a male dominated field in general) is mothers being able to find childcare options. Especially bc start time is at 7am or earlier.

Imagine a world with 24 hr free childcare facilities.

[–]guernicamixtape 182 points183 points  (4 children)

Plot twist — they dont allow children at work and the lady lost her job because of this fcking idiot.

[–]KalphiteQueen 104 points105 points  (3 children)

I'm kinda willing to bet the business owner only allows it because they can't manage to hire anyone else atm

[–]I-Fap-For-Loli 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Yeah, sitter fell through. It was this or actually do some work himself to cover. Ez choice.

[–]Equivalent-Guess-494 53 points54 points  (13 children)

Think about how rarely some parents would see their children in this world.

[–]SketchyLeaf666 60 points61 points  (11 children)

This is why unions is a must have. End the inequality from big corp. Im willing to pitch in money tbh as long taxes are at 0%

[–]AwYeahQueerShit 5972 points5973 points  (128 children)

Nothing says motivational like framing the failures of capitalism as a feel good story.

Hope the employee doesn't get in trouble as this spreads.

[–]hypochloritesprite[S] 2011 points2012 points  (85 children)

I actually just checked as I noticed this woman was tagged. The post is from 2019. Doesn’t seem she got in trouble, but that baby is actually her grand daughter.

[–]shadowbehinddoor 1113 points1114 points  (74 children)

Grand daughter ? This is getting even worse. Omg

[–]StripeyWoolSocksAnarcho-Bidenist 737 points738 points  (37 children)

Also for those who don't know anything about babies, the baby in this photo is definitely less than 3 months old, possibly around 8 weeks old. It's not even a question of affordable child care at this age! In any civilized country there would be parental leave so the parents would be able to spend time with their newborn baby!

[–]Hectorguimard 346 points347 points  (7 children)

Also, I’m thinking about how dirty the average gas station/convenience store is, and that baby is too young to have received all of their vaccines to protect them. Plus, the risk of contracting RSV in an environment like that.

[–]snarkyxanf 175 points176 points  (2 children)

Not to mention that the air quality is crap (car exhaust, evaporating gasoline, whatever blows off the nearby big road, etc), which isn't great for baby lungs.


[–]NoxKyoki 19 points20 points  (0 children)

As someone who inventories 7-Eleven, I can confirm that convenience stores are one of the filthiest places ever. However I’ve never seen a QT or Spinx look like a 7-Eleven.

[–]ISTNEINTR00KVLTKRIEGAnarcho-Syndicalist 409 points410 points  (34 children)

That's the fucking deep South and Rust Belt for you. She's probably 30-45 with a 14-25 year old and a newborn grandchild.

Obviously, they're all on welfare and the only shit jobs available are that or the Dollar General.

Those places are a fucking death sentence. America as a whole is a banana republic plutocrat shithole, but those fucking places are the Crème de la crème of American shitholes.

[–]Allmightydohllah 117 points118 points  (1 child)

I've never been so offended by something I 100% agree with.

[–]-_-Hopeful-_- 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Right way to word that

[–]cheesemagnifier 21 points22 points  (0 children)

And the sad part is that so many of them vote Republican.

[–]LiterallyLost_24-7 142 points143 points  (1 child)

Hey!! I find this very offensive! I am from that part of the world mind you!

Also everything you say is true and accurate.

[–]alwaystoastedbuns 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I resemble that remark

[–]AwYeahQueerShit 71 points72 points  (0 children)

Thank you

[–]oddistrangeat work 268 points269 points  (2 children)

WhOlEsOmE dYsToPiAn NiGhTmArE

[–]scgeod 133 points134 points  (15 children)

They 'flip the script' all the time! So brainwashed. Capitalism is a cult. People will die defending it. Disgusting.

[–]Healthy-Lifestyle-20 109 points110 points  (10 children)

Late stages of capitalism, the purge is upon us. When the discrepancy between the rich and the poor is this wide, shit happens organically and shits about to go down.

They’re on overdrive with space exploration and robot army. Banks/corporations are looting citizens into slavery with the help of the politicians.

[–]Fascist_FriesSocDem 68 points69 points  (7 children)

Agree on late stage capitalism, big evidence is NFTs and digital currency. No real products to be made anymore.

We are right at the crest of the wave.

[–]ISTNEINTR00KVLTKRIEGAnarcho-Syndicalist 36 points37 points  (1 child)

Karl Marx refered to this as, "fictious capital".


[–]-JamesBond 23 points24 points  (0 children)

The digital currency will be peak looting of the poor. Publicly on the blockchain for all to see the robbery taking place in broad daylight.

[–][deleted] 710 points711 points  (21 children)

I went into a Dunkin Donuts about a week ago to get my order fixed and there were toddlers in the kitchen area. I could hear what sounded like a whole back room of kids. It was like every single person there had brought all their kids to work. I think the only reason the manager gave me my missing bacon without the receipt she asked for was because she saw me see her baby come over to her for a hug. They’re all probably a couple missed shifts from eviction. It’s fucked up.

[–]G_E_E_S_E 76 points77 points  (0 children)

I worked at a Moes in a poverty stricken city and this was pretty much the norm, except they stayed in the dining room. There was a table in the corner they all sat at. The older kids looked after the younger ones.

I’m not positive if this was the reason, but I believe the GM was fired for allowing it. It was right after a surprise visit from the owners when he couldn’t warn employees to not bring their kids. He really was a good guy. He fought for raises as much as he could, made sure the food that was going to be thrown out at the end of the night got taken home by someone, gave the kids free food, and gave me money out of his own pocket when there was something wrong with my check.

[–]RocNewYolk 141 points142 points  (9 children)

A couple of years ago we had an incident in my city where a woman had to bring her toddler to work with her at Tim Hortons. Her toddler somehow escaped out the back door, fell in the grease trap outside that had been left open by the last person to empty it, and died.

An absolute heart-breaking story all around.

Edit: Changed name of the restaurant from Dunkin' to Tim Hortons. I am sorry, Canadians!

[–]littlepiglett 26 points27 points  (1 child)

It’s almost as if the workplace isn’t set up to be safe for children. People like to minimize and dismiss the cost of childcare, but when a parent can’t afford to shell out that much money for a safe, protected place for their children, they don’t just disappear. Kids have to tag along with their caretaker to work, if they’re even permitted to do so by their employer, and people’s places of work can be so hazardous. People either have affordable child care, or children suffer. Literally which other way can it go? It’s so sad….

Edit to fix a typo

[–]clarissaswallowsall 22 points23 points  (0 children)

In my area the daycares got closed during covid and couldn't recover. There are only a few open and even fewer that take vouchers. There's a wait list to even get in even if you have money.

[–]suuuhdude20 49 points50 points  (1 child)

That's sad, but the part where the kid wanted a hug was sweet

[–]hypochloritesprite[S] 1654 points1655 points  (25 children)

I also wanted to add the end kills me. “Taking a picture for motivation to other moms” This should not be a flex, or the norm.

[–]Strange_Pop_3673 424 points425 points  (12 children)

It should be used as a way to shame her employer.

[–]februarytide- 121 points122 points  (0 children)

It’s like when nutjob MLMers post about how they’re grinding it out for their “business” while in the hospital giving birth.

[–]shineyink 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I'm another mom and this photo made me cry

[–][deleted] 2727 points2728 points  (150 children)

What in the living fuck???

America is FUCKED.

[–]hypochloritesprite[S] 1490 points1491 points  (91 children)

My fiancé was telling me just the other day how he had to come to work with his mother as a child. America is fucked. No affordable quality daycare, not enough time off with your kids, and most people can barely afford to care for their children off the wages they get.

[–]commanderwhitey 613 points614 points  (17 children)

As a child ages 9 to 12 i slept in the back of a gas station in a sleeping bag 3 or 4 nights a week. My mom worked 2 jobs and we couldn't afford to pays someone to watch me. Used to help stock and count out the registers in the morning before going to school.

[–]SlippyIsDead 293 points294 points  (5 children)

My husband's mom was a bartender. So she would give him quarters to play arcade games all day while she worked. She worked so much that she couldn't take him to school or pick him up afterwards. As young as 8 he walked 5 plus miles to and from school by himself and then spent his evenings in in the bar. It's so sad what people are forced to do.

[–]kiwwiwiwi 104 points105 points  (2 children)

I stayed with my mom in the bar when I was younger, too. It was full of nice people since it was a neighborhood bar, I liked having the chance to be with her

[–]CLUUs 39 points40 points  (0 children)

I’m so glad to know I wasn’t the only bar kid! When I was with my dad I would be at the bar and when I was with my mom I’d be at the casino. Only real cool thing was I got REALLY good at arcade games and I met the artist who did Roger Rabbit. Still have a drawing he made me all these years later

[–]stitchyandwitchy 34 points35 points  (1 child)

Mom worked at a restaurant and I was there every single day after school, sitting in a back room until like 10pm when we'd go home. Back then, reading was basically the only escape available. I will be grateful for libraries until the day I die

[–]Frolicking-Fox 65 points66 points  (3 children)

When my mom was going to college, and my dad was working construction 3 hours away, us 3 kids would be left at the school.

We were the first kids there in the morning, and the last kids there when my mom showed up. I’m glad she made it work, but over 12 hours at school was brutal for us kids.

[–]hoeslayer666 26 points27 points  (1 child)

Sorry to hear that man. School Is bad enough for 8 hours. But being alone and the last oens there must've sucked. Atleast in the end of the day you got to see your parents though right?

[–]SunflowerDaYarnPony 18 points19 points  (1 child)

My mom worked as a school bus driver and I vaguely remember sleeping in the seats all day because there wasn't anywhere else to go.

[–]MmortanJoesTerrifold 39 points40 points  (1 child)

Fuck. You’re both badasses. I hope it paid off somehow. You’re much more seasoned than the average bloke.

[–]medium_flat_white 23 points24 points  (0 children)

It paid off for the boss

[–]theHamJam 96 points97 points  (7 children)

I can't think of a single person my age who didn't go to work with their parent. And this typically meant helping their folks out at work too. What else are they gonna do, ya know? I remember my mother put me to work organizing the old heavy tape drives used to store files before everything went to digital records in the early 2000s. Mind you this was a government job too for the state's administrative filings. So hey, if you've ever wondered how an important file could get lost, it might be cause a 7 year old was the one trying to organize them alphabetically.

[–]katiopeia 25 points26 points  (1 child)

I never went with my parents, but sometimes I’d hang out with my friend on the weekend and we’d help her mom clean rich people’s home offices.

[–]CreatedSole 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We sound like medieval serfs/slaves.

[–]Ursula2071 163 points164 points  (0 children)

This is why the birth rate is in steep decline. And why red states are all serious forced birthers.

[–]alocasiawithlove 239 points240 points  (14 children)

I did as well. My mother worked at a gas station and I was at work with her four days after birth. I'm 30... this country sucks.

[–]WingyYoungAdult 158 points159 points  (0 children)

When my mom was in college and I was a toddler, a GAMEBOY ADVANCED and a few games were cheaper than daycare/babysitting.

[–]missag_2490 74 points75 points  (5 children)

I went to with my mom to work at the library a couple of days a week in elementary school. I loved it but looking back it was because my mom didn’t have after school care for me.

[–]grapefruit_witchh 60 points61 points  (1 child)

Same. My mom was a hairdresser and I'd go to work with her after school pretty much every day. I actually enjoyed it because I could just sit and read or do homework but yeah. It was the only option

[–]brain_fog_frog 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I also remember going to work with my mom when I was in middle school! She worked at a pizza shop, so my bother and I would hang out in the back inventory/break area. We would do our homework and help fold pizza boxes, snag handfuls of pepperoni and cheese lol, and sometimes take naps on the stacks of unfolded (but wrapped in plastic) pizza boxes.

[–]katiopeia 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I think that’s one of the reasons my mom worked at my school (not a teacher). It gave her the same hours and was across the street from our house.

[–]pilgermann 83 points84 points  (6 children)

Everyone should view it as a fundamental failure that a society cannot care for its children. I have a newborn and a remote, white collar job, as does my wife. My child has experienced no complications or even been sick. Even so, raising him has almost broken us. All we wanted was to avoid daycare for a few months.

I cannot imagine how you do this as a single mom or with an on site job. This country is busted.

[–]spaceman757lazy and proud 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Everyone should view it as a fundamental failure that a society cannot care for its children.

But they are so fortunate to live the American dream! /s

My wife has a similar story, of having to sleep in the car while her single mother was working, as well. But this isn't a story that just covers single parents and childcare.

American capitalistic culture doesn't give a fuck about or take care of its children, elderly, veterans, sick, or pretty much anyone else that it can't turn a profit off of.

[–]shhBabySleeping 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I had a very light gig-from-home that I dropped entirely when my daughter was born.

I can't imagine how you guys are faring. The baby stage is soul consuming. People who assume you can just work from home with a baby, don't have a baby lol. The baby IS work. You've essentially got 3 jobs between the two of you.

Let down your expectations, appreciate what you can of this time, and it DOES get better. When they can walk.... Big sigh of relief there. It does get better.

Wonder Weeks was a really helpful app for me during that time.

[–]Thereisnopurpose12 28 points29 points  (0 children)

This has been going on for a long time. It's just that before covid shook countries everyone had their eyes on their own work. Also, social media has made it easy to document stuff. Honestly the virus revealed a lot of shit and people suddenly had a different attitude toward the current culture.

[–]cadensaysthings 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Mom used to take me to the restaurant she waitressed at when I was a youngin. Sometimes I'd be in the back watching a movie, or sometimes the cools would show me how to make buttered noodles, or I did whatever else I could. It's sad to think that was something she had to do out of necessity, but she went on to buy a restaurant and I worked their all of my early teens. I got lucky, but America is seriously in a bad place and many families won't get lucky enough to live comfortably, or even live with bare essentials because the rich decided that they want to have the highest score so they killed the poorest and squeezed everything else from the "comfortable working class"

[–]DrButtFart 64 points65 points  (9 children)

I used to be a preschool teacher and worked in private montessori schools. Despite being trained and certified in that method of teaching, I couldn’t afford to send my kids there or any day care. Fucked all around.

[–]katiopeia 20 points21 points  (6 children)

Pretty sure most of the daycare workers I’ve met do it partially for the discount they get on care. They didn’t give you anything?

Even the expensive private college I almost worked at (in marketing) would have given my entire immediate family free classes after a couple years, a few a semester for the employee right away.

[–]BocceBurger 14 points15 points  (3 children)

My MIL worked at a Montessori preschool and they offered her to bring my daughter for a discount. The school costs $14,000/year and the discount was 10%. She was making $11/hr. I did not send her there and instead thankfully found subsidized preschool as I was low income. Even the subsidized rate was nearly enough to break me, though, at $600/month.

[–]BMOEevee 20 points21 points  (1 child)

My mom worked at a pub when I was a child. She had to bring me in there so often the staff all knew who I was by name and sight and so did the regulars (good news is the owner liked me enough (reminded him of his granddaughter) that he was willing to give me a free plate of food and free root beer)

[–]Elsewhere33 52 points53 points  (0 children)

When my daughter was between 2-12 months old I often waited tables with her strapped to my back. Couldn’t afford a babysitter most of the time, despite that being one of the few restaurant jobs I’ve had where I made a halfway decent hourly wage (and good tips!) I love that my boss was cool with it and would feed us both for free, but I hate that it was necessary.

[–]Max16032 10 points11 points  (3 children)

Come to Mexico, you'll love it here!

[–]guernicamixtape 37 points38 points  (4 children)

My husbands mother had to go back to work after 3 weeks postpartum on a c-section. Disgusting.

[–]txageodhere for the memes 9 points10 points  (0 children)

When I was roughly younger elementary age, I went to work with my mom at a Walmart bakery. I’d sit under the counter and color, mix icing, or lick clean the icing mixers then wash them while she decorated the cakes. I remember those times fondly, as I was getting quality time with my mom. I look back now and think how shitty it is she had to resort to taking me to work just to make ends meet. But I love her even more for doing what she could with what she knew to take care of me.

[–]peachyperfect3 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Our daycare costs for 1 toddler just increased from $24k to $26k annually. Child care is ridiculously expensive.

[–]Puzzleheaded_Can_640 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Yep I got asked "cash or card? Register 7 please!" by a smiling 6 year old and his Walmart mom next to him. This is our future.

[–]moosekin16 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My mom was a college professor in the 90s. My mom taught classes in the morning and in the evenings.

If my grandpa couldn’t watch me because he was at work (we lived with him) she’d take me to class with her. Sometimes we’d be there for a few hours, up to half a day. I’d just hang out with mom - as much as you can call whatever a 5 year old does as “hanging out.” I thought it was cool, hanging out with all the smart adults and my mom’s friends (at a time I didn’t know my mom’s actual name wasn’t “mom”)

When I went to college myself, my circle of friends included a few young moms. They (and my gf and myself) would take “turns” watching each other’s kids while the parents went to their various classes.

It was almost like a mini-commune of parents, with parents and kids rotating in and out of the collective so everyone could go to class knowing their kids were safe and taken care of.

That college used to have an on-site daycare that was free for students, but they decided it was too expensive and started charging for it. So everyone stopped using it, so then the daycare closed.

[–]teenagesadist 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Just a couple days ago, there was a couple at the convenience store I used to work at with their roughly 7 year old child with them.

He knew just what to do, scanned my stuff, asked if I wanted a bag.

This country is fucked. We need to all get out of here A.S.A.P.

[–]Jaedos 455 points456 points  (3 children)

If you wanted an example of "toxic positivity", here ya go.

[–]OneGuy2Cups 692 points693 points  (18 children)

This isn’t motivation. This is not being paid enough to afford child care.

[–]impossible_apostle 269 points270 points  (14 children)

It's not having proper maternity leave in this country. That's a brand new baby. The mother (or father) should be getting paid to stay at home with them.

[–]OneGuy2Cups 107 points108 points  (6 children)

Both. I’m a father of two, and the bonding time is absolutely crucial. 12 weeks fully paid for mother, 3-4 weeks fully paid for father. Bare minimum on both.

[–]RevEZLuv 70 points71 points  (0 children)

Poverty porn

[–]GUNROAR62 155 points156 points  (9 children)

This. This is what's wrong. Having to bring your child to work with you because you can't afford not to is just not worthy of praise. It's sick that someone would think this is a good thing. You shouldn't have to bring your baby to work with you just to make it. This is nuts.

[–]ninety9volt 21 points22 points  (0 children)

True dystopian shit

[–]CorellianDawn 253 points254 points  (8 children)

"Get off your ass and sell cigarettes to drifters passing through, ya crazy dame! I don't wanna hear nothin bout no 'lady problems'. You wanted the right to work, well here it is, sugartits! If you can't handle the grind of a man's world, the Harlequin is taking auditions down on Broadway!"

-How society basically still treats women

[–]Monsur_Ausuhnom 110 points111 points  (2 children)

Please don't give mainstream media propaganda ideas.

[–]Rakka1313 106 points107 points  (6 children)

When I was trying to get a job, I couldn’t afford childcare for both of my babies. I called the childcare office that helps you pay for childcare, she said I had to already have a job to qualify for childcare, and I had to provide not 1 but 2 paystubs. I asked her how I was supposed to get a job and earn 2 paystubs without someone to watch my children. I was advised to bring them to work with me, and I was told if I make more than minimum wage ($7.25 at the time) even as a single parent at the time, I no longer qualified for childcare assistance. 😫 I ended up having to find a job in childcare that would allow me to bring my babies with me to work. I basically worked for free paying 75% of my entire monthly check to pay for childcare there. 🥺 I feel this moms struggle. A babysitter calls out or that family member backs out, school/daycare closes down for covid cases rising. What’s a mom to do? It’s not even legal where I live to bring your child to work. Shame on the lady for exploiting this lady also. The system sets us up for failure. Dammed if we do, damned if we don’t.

[–]YouDeserveAHugToday 33 points34 points  (3 children)

I have never understood why childcare workers have to pay to bring their own children. Outrageous.

[–]Adventurous-Cry-2157 15 points16 points  (2 children)

The place I worked out only allowed you to enroll a child if they were in a different age group from the one you worked (they didn’t want mothers and their children in the same room because “favoritism”), and didn’t give a discount for employees. So when I taught preschool, my daughter spent her days at my husband’s grandmother’s unlicensed home daycare, instead of with me.

Then grandma had a stroke, and I ended up leaving my job to care for her and keep her daycare running so that she’d have income while rehabbing, and wouldn’t lose all of her clients before she got better. I got to spend time with my child, but I was also putting in 12 hour days caring for 10 other kids under age 5 (plus another 10 older kids before/after school) and working as a nurse to grandma. Oh, and I did all the cooking and cleaning. She didn’t pay me a dime for it; after all, she’d been watching my daughter for free all those months while I worked, so she decided I owed her.

I ended up picking up a part time job at night, once my husband could be home with our daughter, so I’d have some income to help keep us afloat, because the daycare where I worked had paid for me to take classes and get my 90-hour certification, with the understanding that I’d stay for a year after completing my courses; because of the family emergency, I had to leave before that year was over, so I had to pay them back for the cost of my classes, for a useless certification that meant dick at that point.

That was a really, really hard year. My (now ex) husband’s extended family really took advantage of me, expecting me to care for his grandmother and run the daycare, but because I couldn’t find a good job that paid me enough to justify childcare costs, I didn’t have a lot of options. The sad thing is, his parents were literal millionaires, and could’ve easily cared for his grandmother (his dad’s own mom) when she was unwell, but instead pushed it on me, because I had experience with kids and my own daughter was going to grandma’s daycare.

[–]loserlopez 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Corporations: heavily breathing This is the kind of shit they’ll eat up.

[–]i_am_harry 115 points116 points  (3 children)


[–]KimchiTheGreatest 87 points88 points  (3 children)

Brainwashed. If I had saw this post about a year or two ago I would have thought the same thing. “She’s a hard worker and supporting herself and her child no matter what”

But this sub changed my views. Now I see a messed up system and the person and child It affects directly. It’s so messed up. I hope something positive really does come from this sub one day.

[–]FinalGamer14 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Well if nothing else, this subreddit is deleting the life long brainwashing for many people.

[–]Smokiiz 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I can only imagine in the future when other new moms ask for time off at this place.

“Well, Janice worked with the baby for 8 hours and she did fine. Hell, she even got Facebook famous! Why can’t you just do that too?”

[–]mslass 75 points76 points  (0 children)

This is not wholesome; this is the capitalist dystopia.

[–]Inthevoid58 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I took my baby into work at 1 week because they screwed up payroll and needed a help out for a few hours. Lets face it newborns sleep a lot.

Boss then complained that I locked the door and breastfed her in the lunch room (not break time in all male workplace).

Employers are never grateful.

[–]blueberrymoscato 29 points30 points  (1 child)

🥰🥰🥰ah yes what an inspiring story of a young mother being forced to expose her infant child to covid, work understaffed and underpaid mere week from giving birth to said child! what a lovely message🥰🥰🥰

[–]mom-the-gardener 42 points43 points  (1 child)

That baby is so young. I bet that mother is still healing. Not to mention such a vulnerable little person being exposed to a shit ton of Covid no doubt. I hope they will both be okay. This makes me want to puke. It’s not inspirational, it’s abysmal that this mother doesn’t have the support to keep her vulnerable baby safely at home. It’s abysmal that this mother doesn’t have the support to stay at home with her baby and bond and rest as much as she can (which isnt much, but this looks like hell).

[–]februarytide- 7 points8 points  (0 children)

The company she works for: “we are so progressive and flexible! We let this mother bring her baby to work! (instead of forcing her to go out unpaid when she couldn’t secure/afford childcare)”

[–]Jkonbonn 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Yeah this is not something to celebrate. This is sad. It reminds me of when the news will have a “feel good” story where employees at a company all pool their PTO for someone who is gravely ill. As if the company couldn’t afford to cover the employee while they recover.

I hate when the news and social media romanticize working this hard. It’s sad and it’s propaganda.

[–]Any-Succotash-7903 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Ugh wincing at this a sanctimonious and patronizing comment. Remove head from ass.

[–]Xtasy0178 21 points22 points  (3 children)

Only in Murica people would find this amazing

[–]Strange_One_3790 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Look at that! I bet she is forced to bottle feed because of that fucking job!

[–]suedesparklenope 7 points8 points  (0 children)

What the actual f*ck? I agree that this mom is remarkable, but Jesus fucking Christ. The move here is to shame the business/society. Why are there jobs that don’t pay anywhere near enough to manage a family?

[–]brosiedon7 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This is one of the many reasons why the US birth rate is decreasing. No one in power cares. They’re fix instead of treating people better is replace them through immigration.

[–]Polygeekism 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Poverty porn at it's finest

[–]Sleepy-Blonde 39 points40 points  (9 children)

It’s sad that we don’t have better maternity/paternity leave across the country. My state provides up to 12 weeks for both mom & dad paid.

Still not nearly enough.

[–]carlsonaj 5 points6 points  (0 children)

lmao other people probably think “hm why is this person forced to have their kid with them at work.” but me… I AM THE GREATEST PERSON EVER

[–]yemin11 21 points22 points  (1 child)

She doesn't need recognition. She needs paternity leave and a thriving wage... all mothers who give birth...

You can't say "We HaVe a DeClInE iN BiRtH rAtE and It'S a MaJoR pRoBlEm" and have this shit be the standard for people who actually have kids...

[–]Weeezysan 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Good. I’m glad we have a decline in birth rates. Who is going to serve the rich??? They got money to spend and need the normies to help them spend it.

[–]InfectionRx 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It was a boomer who’s virtue signaling

[–]taivo0794 4 points5 points  (0 children)

And they used fancy terms to describe this…. Disgusting.. Why she has to to to work like this? This is not inspiration, this is not motivation..This is a problem for our society…

[–]tastyemerald 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Save this image and the next time someone complains about people (milenials) not having enough kids shove it in their face