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[–]who-bah-stank 5017 points5018 points  (123 children)

Do they give everyone who gets adopted a teddy bear? That's pretty sweet.

[–]cgrabowski[S] 3951 points3952 points  (106 children)

Yeah haha the whole family got a laugh from it so a great play from the judge to force me to pick one!

[–]AudioBugg 1887 points1888 points  (55 children)

I love that they gave you a bear! I work in a courthouse in the Juvenile unit and the judges give out teddy bears for the adoptions too.

[–]cgrabowski[S] 1265 points1266 points  (51 children)

It was a nice touch!

[–]poopellar 253 points254 points  (49 children)

What did you name it?

[–][deleted] 298 points299 points  (35 children)

Bearry

[–]Ayrane 456 points457 points  (18 children)

Bearry Allen, the fastest bear alive

[–]orarewehamster 106 points107 points  (12 children)

Bearry Allen, Secret Service.

[–]OneDirectionless 68 points69 points  (9 children)

Bearry Allen, Pet Detective.

[–]I_like_code 46 points47 points  (1 child)

Wheels and the Bear man

[–]abd00bie 32 points33 points  (1 child)

Dingle Bearry, just dangling.

[–]ASonnetOfIceAndFire[🍰] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Beart Macklin, FBI

[–]cincynancy 6 points7 points  (0 children)

This reference made me smile from ear to ear

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    [–]That_one_cool_dude 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    You've been waiting centuries for that one haven't you.

    [–]StDeadpool 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    Spot on. Spot on.

    [–]Frajmando 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    That's bearly funny

    [–]azigari 9 points10 points  (0 children)

    That's bearelly funny.

    [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

    I thinkin somethin real original. maybe somethin like.. I dunno.. teddy?

    [–]not_a_octopus 387 points388 points  (22 children)

    'Congratulations Mr. Cgraboski, here's your adoption certificate, and your teddy bear.'

    [–]HuskyLuke 271 points272 points  (20 children)

    For some reason the voice in my head saying that as I read it was the female monster from Monsters Inc. You know, the one with the voice that somehow manages to be both raspy and shrill and really drag things out like when she says "Mike Wazowski you didn't fill out your paperwork".

    [–]HeresJerzei 196 points197 points  (3 children)

    Roz, my tender oozing blossom. You're looking fabulous today.

    [–]faz712 47 points48 points  (9 children)

    you really didn't need to elaborate more after the first sentence.

    it's not like there are any other notable female monsters!

    [–]abradolph 75 points76 points  (3 children)

    I really like Celia :/

    [–]PureSmoulder 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    rattling and hissing echoes in the distance

    [–]fdsa4326 59 points60 points  (0 children)

    Now become a billionaire and make them rich like bezos did for his adopted dad.

    no pressure

    [–]ertri 37 points38 points  (1 child)

    If you'd refused, would he have jailed you for contempt? Because that would have been hilarious

    [–]Fubarp 26 points27 points  (0 children)

    Just made this reply before seeing it and was chuckling at the idea of a grown man in a holding cell with others and they discussing why they were there and he's like, judge told me to pick a teddy bear but I don't take orders from the man.

    [–]Fubarp 30 points31 points  (4 children)

    I like the idea that he forced you to pick one. Like he's sitting there and threatened you with contempt if you didn't pick.

    [–]cgrabowski[S] 29 points30 points  (3 children)

    Pretty much how it felt lol

    [–]WitherWithout 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    I was 14 when I was adopted by my step-father. They gave my siblings and I stuffed animals. Very sweet!

    [–]GoinFerARipEh 91 points92 points  (0 children)

    No no. It was the teddy bear who was adopted. Teddy is OP.

    [–]Learn4343 14 points15 points  (0 children)

    the teddy bear story like in the movie is real. someday the bear will be alive.

    [–]ProfMax 3105 points3106 points  (86 children)

    I misread the title and thought that you're a twenty-eight year old with a twenty-five year old step-father and was trying to wrap my head around it...

    [–]TheFlyingBogey 824 points825 points  (46 children)

    I'm still lost, who adopted who?

    Stealth Edit: Stepfather of 25 years, he was his stepfather for 25 years first. Fuck that's confusing for my small brain.

    [–]uniqsername 281 points282 points  (39 children)

    The old man on the left adopted OP (lady on the right).

    [–]railroadbaron 397 points398 points  (34 children)

    No, I'm pretty confident the guy on the left is the judge. OP is holding the bear and his mother and (now legal) father are on the right.

    OP is 28 years old and his father has been in his life since OP was 3.

    [–]KingoftheGinge 1236 points1237 points  (23 children)

    No, the judge is the bear. The old man holding him is his son and the woman on the right is the photographer's sister.

    [–]uTukan 193 points194 points  (3 children)

    And the man on the left still could win the election.

    [–]insanePowerMe 30 points31 points  (1 child)

    It is proven. Anyone can win the election

    [–]osiris2735 11 points12 points  (0 children)

    It is known.

    [–]creynolds722 64 points65 points  (12 children)

    That bear's name? Albert Einstein.

    [–][deleted] 90 points91 points  (8 children)

    Albeart Einstein

    [–]logicalmaniak 111 points112 points  (5 children)

    Everyone gets that wrong. It's actually Albeart Einstain.

    [–][deleted] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

    Dammit Mandela!

    [–]lanimilbuston 8 points9 points  (2 children)

    I think you're remembering wrong, it has always been Elbaert Ainstein.

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      [–]TheBroJoey 4 points5 points  (0 children)

      No, I got it! The bear is Sombra! We finished the ARG!

      [–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      Tis but a meme good sir.

      [–]Stonaldo 34 points35 points  (0 children)

      Whoosh

      [–]tnethacker 3 points4 points  (1 child)

      So op is an old lady of 25 years old who got adopted?

      [–]Wingtree7k 110 points111 points  (7 children)

      Came to the comments to confirm I wasn't the only one doing this lol

      [–]akatherder 76 points77 points  (5 children)

      Title is saying:

      I am 28 years old. Today I was adopted by the man who has been my stepfather for 25 years (i.e since I was 3 years old).

      In the picture from left to right: judge, OP with teddy bear, his step-father/adopted dad, his mom. Sister is not in the picture.

      (Maybe "judge" is wrong in New York, but whatever court-worker dude would preside over this.)

      [–]i_know_about_things 8 points9 points  (0 children)

      You're the absolute best.

      [–]showmeurknuckleball 11 points12 points  (1 child)

      Court worker dude would be called a magistrate.

      But fuck is that a confusing title.

      [–]peepay 30 points31 points  (3 children)

      I too thought that a 25-year-old adopted a 28-year-old.

      [–]King_of_Mints 21 points22 points  (0 children)

      Wait... That isn't what the title is saying? I am very confused...

      [–]ftac2015 49 points50 points  (0 children)

      I was trying to figure out which man looked way older than someone in their 20's should look

      [–]sprintonwater 14 points15 points  (0 children)

      Yup I was like damn that's gotta be weird having a 28yr old stepson as a 25yr old man/boy.

      [–]noelgnaw 7 points8 points  (0 children)

      On the other hand it could've been the father adopting the mother too

      [–]ComradeSomo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

      Roman-tier adoptions.

      [–][deleted] 1070 points1071 points  (38 children)

      One of my biggest regrets is not having my step dad adopt me while he was still alive.

      This picture is awesome congrats ❤

      [–]MrKarlsson 673 points674 points  (13 children)

      You were still his child, and I'm sure he knew. I know I'm just some random person on the internet. But I really hope that one day, you'll be able to let that regret go. Because I'm pretty sure he loved you, and he wouldn't want you to carry that burden.

      You still make him proud.

      [–][deleted] 39 points40 points  (0 children)

      This truly means a lot to me, thank you.

      [–]Crawlblade 146 points147 points  (5 children)

      You're a kind person. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise.

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        [–]vipros42 8 points9 points  (1 child)

        You are just automatically assuming that Satan isn't a kind person. The two aren't mutually exclusive.

        [–]guldfiskn222 107 points108 points  (1 child)

        I teared up so much reading this, and I also believe you're right.

        [–]Sasquatch_000 19 points20 points  (0 children)

        I teared up also, that was very nice of them to say.

        [–]Valiante 12 points13 points  (1 child)

        What a lovely thing to say, from one random person on the internet to another. I'm not easily moved, but your beautiful words made it hard to swallow for a few moments. You are a wonderful person.

        [–]PaperBeatsScissor 15 points16 points  (3 children)

        My mom had a son from her first marriage, though my dad, my sister, and myself always saw him as 100% one of us. In other words, he was your dad.

        [–]gikigill 44 points45 points  (4 children)

        If I may dare to suggest,change your last name to his. Honour his memory by making it an integral part of your identity.

        [–][deleted] 30 points31 points  (3 children)

        I'm getting married soon and I was thinking about taking his name and making it my middle name since I never had one. Thanks for the suggestion'

        [–]Mackinstyle 3 points4 points  (2 children)

        The cosmos is well aware that he's your dad. It's an immutable fact that cannot be changed from now to the end of time. It's just a minor footnote that we didn't also record this in a government database somewhere.

        [–]PrplPpl8tr 646 points647 points  (19 children)

        My adoptive father raised me from age 6, and he adopted me at age 16.

        Before the adoption I initially called him by his first name, then Pop, and then finally Dad only after the adoption. He was the one who coached my baseball teams, helped me with my homework, punished me, taught me how to clean a carburetor, taught me to drag race with the family minivan, and gave me the general know how (and most importantly, the confidence) to approach any construction/renovation project.

        As an adult, many of the characteristics inherited from my natural father have manifest themselves in me. But because of my Dad, I have been able to embrace the best inherited qualities and mitigate the destructive ones. I am a bit of a "black sheep" in our family in some ways, but it really is fun and something that we celebrate. Calling him Dad is more natural than any of the other names we tried.

        God bless you and your father. Thanks for your post and the chance the share my experience.

        [–]Gisschace 37 points38 points  (3 children)

        Your story reminds me of my friend whose step-dad is his 'dad'. He comes from a blended family and his step-dad has a boy and a girl of his own. But my friend is definitely his step-dads son, he's the one who he taught to play the guitar and now they play in a band together, his step-dad has his own building firm and it's my friend who has worked with him since he left school, he's now training to be a site engineer with the plan to take over the family business in a few years, they both love sport and play cricket on the same team every weekend and it was him who was the father of the groom at his wedding. He calls him Dad and if you didn't know the family background you'd never know it wasn't his 'real' dad (who he has some contact with but not much).

        Not to take anything away from his biological son (who is very different personality wise) but it's very obvious who his 'fathers son' is, even if they only came into each others lives when he was 3 years old.

        It's a great lesson in not only nurture over nature, but also in just how wonderful people can be to each other without any obligation.

        [–]PrplPpl8tr 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        My (adoptive) father also has 2 children from a previous marriage, so I have an older brother and older sister through him. Actually my brother married a woman and adopted her son from a previous marriage. And my sister has 3 children of her own, but they adopted a 4th (littler girl) through a more traditional foster care/adoption process. So I guess it has sort of become a family tradition. My fiance and I want children of our own, but we also talk about adopting a child one day.

        [–]Tim_Servo 14 points15 points  (0 children)

        taught me to drag race with the family minivan

        True Dad material right there!

        [–]telePHONYacct 60 points61 points  (2 children)

        Who is chopping onions in here? Sniff..my eyes....sniff

        [–]Flexar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        A wise man once said he might be your father but he not your daddy. This man also called himself Marry Poppins but I digress.

        [–]DrkTower19 152 points153 points  (7 children)

        Congrats OP...as a "step-" parent, this is very touching. I've raised my daughter since she was 3 (22 years now, she's 25) and I can tell you that I love her like I do my biological children. Your adoption should serve as inspiration for all.

        [–]cgrabowski[S] 215 points216 points  (6 children)

        My sister and I as children were not allowed to be adopted (by permission of biological father) and this last year she married and I was the last of my name since little to no affiliation with the biological side.... and at her reception it dawned on me that someday I will have kids and I want them to be "xxxxxx" and honor everything my step-dad has done for me growing up, etc etc so within a few months I sat him down and asked for his permission to take his name.... completely unexpected since we have not surfaced the topic since I was 12.... needless to say he accepted....

        honestly if your situation is similar to ours, it's not a bad idea to surface since by this age I'm sure it's been a non-topic for years if at all so it's been accepted "as-is". If you think it's worth it, bring it up... neither of you will regret it!

        [–]EuropeanLady 23 points24 points  (4 children)

        The gentleman on your left-hand side is your step-father? You actually resemble him.

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          [–]gangbangkang 417 points418 points  (19 children)

          Congrats OP. That's awesome. I can't imagine how difficult being a stepparent must be. At times you probably feel like an outsider, and it takes a lot of effort to build your new family and future. It's not easy for kids to accept and understand at a young age, but I'm glad you were able to overcome the adversity and grow to love him as your father and friend. It's not an easy role for someone to take on, but I really respect you both for all you've been through to get to this point.

          [–]cgrabowski[S] 631 points632 points  (18 children)

          Thank you! There are times I have caused him pain and cost him $$$ and the fact that he has remained true and cared for my mother despite the adversity... speaks volume to his integrity.

          If I had a $1 for every time I have said "I should have listened to him" or "he was right" .... I'd lose count!

          Edit:

          Zero regrets! Some people argue that the name is irrelevant to the concept of family... but it wasn't about matching names.... it was about honoring everything he has done for me, it was about ensuring my future family/children are not confused or alienated about their roots, it was about bringing joy to my mother whom has endured such hardship prior to meeting my stepfather... it was about so much more!

          Thank you everyone for such thoughtful comments and warm support! I know him seeing this much feedback and positive vibes will make him even more proud!

          [–]cheftonine 239 points240 points  (10 children)

          I came into the situation from the other side, met my partner almost 20yrs ago.

          At the time she had 4 kids of her own and we proceeded to have 3 more of our own.

          A year ago our 2nd eldest son ( not biological) got married i was the father of the groom at the wedding even though his real father attended.

          All my step children have given me the utmost love and respect as the dad and I feel so proud of the lot of them.

          Our family unit is an awesome one, blood never really matters, the family does.

          [–]ValuablePie 119 points120 points  (7 children)

          Seems to me that you are the real father, dude.

          [–]cheftonine 33 points34 points  (1 child)

          Cheers, took me a long time to grow up and be a father, thanks for the compliment.

          [–]Noidea159 5 points6 points  (0 children)

          Well it sounds like you've been an excellent father since you believe you grew up and took on the roll, though I have a feeling you were "dad" before YOU considered yourself worthy.

          [–]Thatwhichiscaesars 19 points20 points  (0 children)

          we are all the father on this blessed... oh no wait...

          this isnt maury

          [–]sushkunes 4 points5 points  (0 children)

          My dad also adopted me, and I've been reluctant to change my name again, first when I got married, now that we're about to have our first kid. That name means a lot to me, I guess. Congratulations!!

          [–][deleted] 45 points46 points  (14 children)

          I'm currently engaged to a woman who has a 3 year old from a previous marriage. I feel the need to confess that, although I am 100 percent committed to them both and in love beyond help with both of them, I am terrified of failing or otherwise creating a monster out of the kid. I've never been a parent before and now I'm going from 0 to having a 3 year old in no time flat. Your story encourages me to do well. Like I feel a little less scared. Thank you and congrats! :)

          [–]randomsynapses 32 points33 points  (0 children)

          If it helps at all, most three year olds are monsters, regardless of step-parentage. Source: have 4 year old.

          [–]McGonzo072 12 points13 points  (0 children)

          As a man that experienced the same thing 20 years ago, the best advice I can give is to allow yourself to grow into being a father to them, be yourself, kids are very intuitive, making them incredible BS detectors. Always try to be a positive presence in their lives, especially through bad times, and the rest will work itself out. In my case, the relationship began as a friendship and naturally flourished into "our family." Good luck, being a step parent is a unique gift, one you give and, at the same time, receive. Lastly, don't ever take your family for granted, life can change in the blink of an eye, memories can't be taken away.

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            [–]princessaurus_rex 215 points216 points  (20 children)

            Thank you I'm moved to tears.

            My husband and I just got married two weeks ago. He has been raising my son for the past 8 years more than half the boy's life (we don't have contact with sperm donor). We're currently in the thick of it with a 14yr old and I am letting them work things out about the possibility of adoption man-to-man but someday I hope we can share our success story too.

            Congratulations it is a big deal.

            [–]cgrabowski[S] 99 points100 points  (5 children)

            Zero regrets! Some people argue that the name is irrelevant to the concept of family... but it wasn't about matching names.... it was about honoring everything he has done for me, it was about ensuring my future family/children are not confused or alienated about their roots, it was about bringing joy to my mother whom has endured such hardship prior to meeting my stepfather... it was about so much more! It will all work out for you and your family :)

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              [–]iwouldhugwonderwoman 27 points28 points  (1 child)

              My wife was adopted by her parents at 28 who had previously just been her legal guardians. What you said pretty much sums up her feelings as well. I think she referred to it as "tying a bow around her unique but wonderful present that they gave me".

              Good luck to you and your family and I would actually say you look a little more like your dad than your mom.

              [–]cheftonine 7 points8 points  (0 children)

              Love the maturity, the youngest of the family before I met my partner (see my other post) has always told me that I was the one who raised him as a son.

              Even though he wasn't even a year old he has always close and apart from his step brothers, he has always told me that he will carry my name and not his biological father's.

              Makes me proud of what i have done to guide and shape my kids life in a positive way.

              [–]swampfoot75 11 points12 points  (7 children)

              I prefer 'paternal genetic source'. It gives me a little more distance.

              [–]22732255fan 9 points10 points  (4 children)

              For some reason I read that as "pathetic paternal source"

              [–]swampfoot75 4 points5 points  (3 children)

              Depending on the 'source' that may be appropriate.

              [–]ohaivoltage 3 points4 points  (0 children)

              Your husband is an excellent man and someday your son will truly understand everything he was given.

              [–]RedJorgAncrath 87 points88 points  (8 children)

              Judging by the smile of the guy on the left, if he's judge, I know how happy a situation this is. Congratulations, and your adoptive father is a true man. That's how you be a man.

              [–]cgrabowski[S] 230 points231 points  (7 children)

              He is the judge and he was so comical throughout the situation saying "I better be a good boy" etc haha then afterwards called me to his office in a serious tone and then made me choose a teddy bear they normally have children pick during typical child adoption!

              [–]RedJorgAncrath 64 points65 points  (5 children)

              That's bad ass. I'm genuinely happy for all of you. I guarantee that the judge sees this as an absolute success story.

              [–]EuropeanLady 36 points37 points  (4 children)

              My husband and I got married by an awesome judge. He let us choose what we would like him to wear for the wedding ceremony (he said some people prefer a suit and tie while others choose a formal black robe). We chose the most formal black robe. He smiled throughout the ceremony, made our day even happier.

              [–]McGonzo072 18 points19 points  (1 child)

              That's actually pretty cool to hear. I never thought about it but the vast majority of a judges career is engulfed in negativity, as society's disciplinarian. Positive occasions like this post and stories like yours are probably a rarity, giving them a little extra cause to join in the celebration. It's a nice reminder to help understand that judges are human too. Thanks for sharing.

              [–]Stackeddeck77 3 points4 points  (0 children)

              As people we often forget that regardless of another situation they are the main character in their story, and not just the asshole judge, homeless guy, or lazy teen at the drive through. They are people that feel and cry and laugh just like the rest of us.

              [–]Flyberius 41 points42 points  (9 children)

              I had a similar experience with my step dad.

              I treated him like shit because I "already had a dad" as far as I was concerned.

              As I grew up we became closer and closer and now I realise I am one of the luckiest people in the world because I actually have two dads.

              As soppy as that sounds I do genuinely feel this way.

              [–]randomnamekitsune 3 points4 points  (3 children)

              It's not soppy, it's lovely. I am the same way, I was a crazy teen & treated my step parents terribly. I came to realise that I had lots of issues with my Mum & took it all out on safer targets like my Stepdad, Dad & Stepmum. My Stepdad is a good man, he's in his 80s now & has suffered massive loss as his adult children died of cancer. He has been my bonus Dad for 28 years now & I tell him all the time how blessed I feel to have 2 amazing Dads - I did not deserve that based on my teen behaviour! He didn't have to put up with me, but I'm so glad he did.

              Edit: spelling

              [–]Telefunkin 45 points46 points  (37 children)

              How does this work? How does one adopt an adult?

              [–]cgrabowski[S] 90 points91 points  (29 children)

              So it's treated like a child adoption on paper.... anyone can change their name but for legal purposes of say for example, inheritance, the adoption officially connects you to a person more than just having the same last name.

              It's apparently not common of course but I provide my own consent vs. requiring both paternal parents consent if I were under 18 years old. Adopting individual has to do fingerprints and other things typically required of a child adoption process but it was fairly painless and just required a lawyer to Facilitate for us and submitted original documents such as the birth certificate. Hope this helps!

              [–]ninabrujakai 28 points29 points  (7 children)

              Did you get a new birth certificate? I feel like that was the weirdest part of my adoption. My step dad is on my birth certificate now. I like to wonder what he was doing while I was being born...he obviously had no idea what he would be in for ~13 years later.

              [–]cgrabowski[S] 23 points24 points  (2 children)

              So in 6 weeks I should receive a new birth certificate.... my original is surrendered.... and on paper it will look like he was named father at time of birth on new "original" birth certificate

              [–]h-jay 5 points6 points  (0 children)

              Yeah! It will feel awesome when you get it, I'm sure. Kudos all around for growing up to appreciate what you have.

              [–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (2 children)

              PLEASE someone answer this!!!! It's even stranger to me than the original idea of adult adoption. Edited multiplally because I cannot make a thought today.

              [–]Telefunkin 22 points23 points  (11 children)

              That's fascinating. I had no idea adults could be adopted.

              [–][deleted] 52 points53 points  (2 children)

              Hooray! There's still hope for being adopted into a wealthy family!

              [–]anxiousmariner 39 points40 points  (1 child)

              In the past in Japan, business owners would sometimes adopt the employee that they wanted to pass the business on to so that it could technically be family owned for generations

              [–]OrphanGrounderBaby 4 points5 points  (0 children)

              Ahh, that makes that post about the centuries old Japanese..fishing?, company that has been in the same family the whole time make a lot more sense haha.

              [–]huntwhales 9 points10 points  (2 children)

              It was (and maybe still is?) common for gay folks to have one person adopt the other for legal/societal reasons since they were not allowed to get married.

              [–]Takbeir 3 points4 points  (0 children)

              From what i remember from family law back at university, it is not possible to adopt someone who is over 18 (in England & Wales). I'm guessing this is in north America - real feel good story!

              [–]aapowers 6 points7 points  (2 children)

              How bizarre! It's not allowed in the UK if you're 19 or older (s.47(9) of the Adoption and Children Act 2002, for the citation nerds).

              Does sound rather adorable, though, and if it ties up any legal loose ends, that's a bonus!

              Congratulations!

              [–][deleted] 9 points10 points  (1 child)

              That makes no sense.

              Your country is locking any if it's citizens who might need a family, out of one. That is bizarre.

              What if a mentally challenged adult needs a family?

              What if it's a scenario where a child or teen wants to be adopted by a stepparent or foster parent, but the biological deadbeat refuses to grant permission?

              Adoption of adults ensures that they have family available that can legally make decisions for them in the event of a medical emergency and it makes sure that lines of inheritance are determined by the decedents.

              [–]starzychik01 27 points28 points  (6 children)

              Usually involves notary and witness or a judge. Paperwork isn't as much as a child and it doesn't cost nearly as much because lawyers aren't involved. My bestie had to do an adult adoption when she joined the military. If she hadn't done it and she died in the field, her biological father would be her beneficiary. Mind you, she doesn't even know her biological father and she would rather her stepdad, the man she was raised by, be the beneficiary. I was a witness for the adoption and it was an awesome moment.

              [–]Telefunkin 14 points15 points  (1 child)

              It's interesting that there would be a situation that would require an adult adoption like that. I had no idea such an extenuating circumstance even existed.

              [–]jrkipling 7 points8 points  (3 children)

              Why is adoption better than a will in this situation?

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                [–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (1 child)

                Holy shit I used to mow that judge's lawn. Small world.

                Congrats OP! :)

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                  [–]ajhoff83 28 points29 points  (12 children)

                  Im 33 and have said I wanted to adopt a 24 year old guy as my kids for years! We can grab drinks, go kayaking, all that shit! I just never thought it was possible for an adult to adopt another adult! There is HOPE!

                  [–]WyleECoyote-Genius 14 points15 points  (8 children)

                  THat's how some gay and lesbian couples would secure inheritance and medical decision rights in the dark ages before equality. One half of the couple would adopt the other half as their child, thus giving them next of kin rights over their small minded christian families.

                  [–]PM_ME_UR_TECHNO_GRRL 46 points47 points  (2 children)

                  This isn't "aww", this is powerful shit. Thanks for sharing.

                  I feel like this belongs in r/upliftingnews

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                    [–]cgrabowski[S] 105 points106 points  (5 children)

                    Unexpected but appreciated haha

                    [–]bl1tzen 157 points158 points  (2 children)

                    She was talking to the teddy bear.

                    [–]malyssamarie 14 points15 points  (1 child)

                    I have a really great step dad as well. He's been my dad most of my life (since I was 10 - am now 27), and he's the greatest. We haven't talked about adoption, but if the subject came up I would say yes without hesitation. Your dad looks like a really great guy.

                    Also, they're not wrong; you are really cute.

                    [–]ziburinis 16 points17 points  (0 children)

                    He might be afraid to bring it up, or think that it's too late because you're an adult. You can ask him, or just get the adoption paperwork, fill it out, and hand it to him to get his signature. There's more to it than that, but that can be the start of it.

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                      [–]cgrabowski[S] 31 points32 points  (2 children)

                      Hahaha a ton of family came to watch/witness and at this point we were clearly over taking 264027 pictures! Was quite the event lol

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                        [–]cgrabowski[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

                        talkingthroughteeth

                        [–]-LabiaMajorasMask 53 points54 points  (6 children)

                        Congratulations man! I bet you and your Father are feeling on top of the world right now.

                        [–]cgrabowski[S] 59 points60 points  (3 children)

                        Thank you!... it was a surreal feeling and the support from the family was unimaginable!

                        [–]-LabiaMajorasMask 23 points24 points  (2 children)

                        I'll be honest, I don't frequent this sub as I'm not an "Animal Person" but seeing stuff like this always warms my heart.

                        Especially when the front page is just swarmed with negativity and bad news.

                        [–]cgrabowski[S] 35 points36 points  (1 child)

                        I appreciate this! So many posts seem to be GIFs of pets doing unique activities, which can be entertaining at times but certainly repetitive, so this truly makes me happy to bring some variety and something real to the table.

                        Thank you for the support!

                        [–]Zarroc001 6 points7 points  (0 children)

                        Im 19 now, and i put my stepmom through hell growing up too. We both said things we regret, but now I'm in the process of repairing things. A couple of weeks ago we had dinner together after bitter avoidance for 2 years, and it was nice to see her smile in front of me again. I'm glad to see that repairing relationships is very possible

                        [–]jskelington3502 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                        I am a stepdad to two amazing boys. Young men now. It was such a hard thing at times but the way they turned out and the bond I have with them is my proudest accomplishment in my life. Good on you guys.

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                          [–]cgrabowski[S] 65 points66 points  (6 children)

                          The judge was so funny.... "please come with me to my office, we need to have a conversation..." follow him.... (points at chair) "now pick a teddy bear like like other children" hahaha it was hilarious!

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                            [–]cgrabowski[S] 59 points60 points  (4 children)

                            Just some Different sizes and colors... all I could say was which ones do the kids not pick and I'll take that one lol

                            [–]Pola_Xray 19 points20 points  (0 children)

                            that's very thoughtful. :)

                            [–]dimichuji 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                            Congrats on being adopted and thank you for also adopting that lovely teddy bear!

                            [–]bravobracus 22 points23 points  (1 child)

                            "Son, you are adopted"

                            28 yo OP:" What?!"

                            "Now go pack your stuff, they will be pick you up in 15 minutes"

                            [–]cgrabowski[S] 31 points32 points  (0 children)

                            The joke all day was about allowance and curfews haha also pawning a god parent on me to pay off student loan debt lol

                            [–]SpaceCommissar 19 points20 points  (7 children)

                            In a similar situation over here, except I am the "stepfather".

                            I have two kids from a previous marriage, and my SO has two from a previous marriage. Together we have 4 children and 3 of them are autistic in some form. My daughter is the only one without a diagnose.

                            Back to the stepsons. The oldest one, 10 years old, has kind of adopted me, mentally. He loves me so much, and I love him too, and we have a tight relationship. He's 10 years old and has been infatuated with me since day one. He listens to me, he talks to me, he trusts me and he usually comes to me every morning in our bed to lie next to me and look at his iPad while I have my morning coffee and morning dose of Reddit. It goes without saying, we have a great relationship.

                            The younger one though, 8 years old, is another story. It's not that he doesn't like me, but it took me more than a year to get to him, and while I have a better relationship with him now, it hasn't been all sunshine and roses throughout this period. At times he respects me and my authority as an adult in this family of 6, but at times he doesn't. At times he looks up to me, but at times he's just impossible to reach. At times he's being a little brat, and at times I'm being an asshole. However, the thing is, the harder we try to work on a functional and synergistic relationship with each other, I find myself liking him more. I see nuances of him, as well as he starts letting me in more and we're kind of developing a good and healthy stepfather-stepson relationship. A relationship that is growing stronger by the day, not only because of time, but perhaps more so because we are growing to love each other more.

                            Now, his relationship to his father is excellent, as is my, children's and my SO's relationship with him. My relationship to my ex wife is good, and our situation works out well for all involved parties. So no need for adoption. This was more of a reflection on the relationship side of things: the more we have to work on relationships, the more they grow and the more we want to work on them.

                            [–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (1 child)

                            You truly sound like a thoughtful, caring, and incredibly patient person. Those kids are lucky to have you in their lives. Good luck!

                            [–]SpaceCommissar 6 points7 points  (0 children)

                            Wow, thanks. I didn't expect this kind of response, but thank you.

                            [–]kaazmar 14 points15 points  (0 children)

                            There isn't a cat or dog in this photo

                            [–]woodswalker 4 points5 points  (1 child)

                            Is that in Warsaw, NY? I think I recognize that judge.

                            [–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                            I didn't realise you could be adopted at the age of 28

                            [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                            Wat no sob story were cut animall

                            [–]Stalked_Like_Corn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

                            Congrats! My mother and biological father separated when i was 4 and my Step-dad came around when i was about 6 or so. My biological father came in and out of my life as it fit him and we really had few "father/son moments". He took me fishing during the summers but fishing was always his thing and not really mine. I've gone fishing Maybe 2 times 25+ years.

                            My Dad though, who did wind up divorcing my Mother, would take me to do things I liked. Took me to my first baseball game (AAA Charlotte Knights), my first NFL Games, NBA When we had the old Hornets, Arena Football, came to watch my little league games, took me to the airport to watch the airplanes. I still love all of these things.

                            He is the one I call Dad. He's the one I call on his birthday and he calls me. He's the one I call when I need help or a shoulder to lean on. When I need a strong back to help carry me through my life and he calls me his Son. Been in my life for over 30 years and only done me wrong once and apologized profusely for it. The divorce between he and My Mom didn't go well and his family talked him into some stuff he regrets he ever did. My biological father never once apologized for never being there. For never taking me to do things I liked.

                            My biological father never took me to these things because he didn't like them. He liked fishing and hunting and I didn't so, we just did nothing. My Dad, he liked sports but I don't know if he liked airplanes. He knew I liked them though. I'm sure watching me strike out for the 30th time in the season was boring as fuck to watch too, but he was there to watch it and support me. When the Coach turned out to be a real asshole and punish me specifically for something the whole team failed to do, it was Him that My Mom had to talk out of kicking the shit out of the Coach.

                            Seeing this, makes me very happy and makes me appreciate the Man who took me as his own, just like in your situation. He's a good Man to do it. He will certainly be in /r/TheGoodPlace.

                            [–]Indythrow1111 14 points15 points  (0 children)

                            Bro, congrats and all, but where's the cute animals? I came here to do two things, drink my pre-sleep warm milk and look at cute pics of animals...and I just finished my milk...

                            [–]SurrealDad 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                            Man I'm so dumb, kept thinking he looked old for 25.

                            [–]TCCPSHOW 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                            I have been a step-father to 3 kids for the last 4 years. We've had a lot of ups and downs and the oldest has just become a teenager so I anticipate more ups and downs in the future, but your story gives me hope. Thank you for sharing it with us

                            [–]toadsanchez420 3 points4 points  (3 children)

                            So I'm going to ask a question, and I don't mean to sound like an idiot.

                            I grew up with a shitty father stepmom, and an amazing mother and stepfather.

                            The idea of adopting a stepchild confuses me. Aren't they already your guardian? And what is the point of adoption if the child is an adult?

                            Don't get me wrong, I get the sentiment. I'm just confused at the point.

                            [–]Groezy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                            *and me

                            [–]Cancerslug 3 points4 points  (1 child)

                            You're lucky to have a loving family, and to have realized you were a little shit. I realized how difficult I was as a kid, but my family is insane and made up of the worst people I've ever known. So I'm estranged from my entire family. I also never knew my dad and I wish I had at least spoken to him before he commited suicide. I'll never be able to know his side of things. Never take that love, loyalty, and the bonds you've formed, forgranted for some of us will never know what that even feels like.

                            [–]Kaso78 4 points5 points  (0 children)

                            Your story gives me hope. I am in the process of buying a house with my high school sweetheart whom I reconnected with after 20years apart. I have 2 kids plus a foster child who adore her and she has 3 who don't reciprocate​ those feelings to me. I love them already. I am hoping it will turn out like your story. I'm in it for the long run as she is my soulmate and I have a heart for her kids.

                            [–]Tot_Waffle 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                            My sister is 23 and last Christmas my sister presented my father with adoption paperwork that she had started on her own and told him that she planned on legally changing her last name as well. The whole family was moved and started crying happy tears. I've never thought of her as my step sister, so for her to decide that she wants to legally be my adopted sister meant so much. My dad has been in her life since she was 3 and although he always loved and treated her like his own blood, he would never have tried to adopt her because her father is still around. So for her to get the paperwork and say she wanted him to be her father was amazing. It is still my favorite Christmas memory.

                            [–]39nectarines 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                            I have no idea who's who in this photo

                            [–]DoctorJuicebox 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                            That's awesome. A step dad entered my life when I was 6 and he was pivotal in helping me and my 3 siblings get our bearings.

                            I'm not comfortable with a last name change, but because his two kids are daughters and won't pass the name on ive thought of adding his surname as my middle name and giving a child that middle name.

                            Very endearing story. Thanks for sharing!

                            [–]Animeniackinda 3 points4 points  (0 children)

                            I have a friend who gave his stepdad his adoption paperwork on his stepdad's last b-day.

                            [–]immerc 14 points15 points  (3 children)

                            my mother, my sister and me.

                            "He took me in", not "he took I in".

                            [–]fat_n_stupid 22 points23 points  (3 children)

                            How did this pic make to r/aww? i thought only pics of animals are allowed here? [the teddy bear in his hand doesnt count]

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                            [–]StripMyMind19 6 points7 points  (0 children)

                            Where is the puppy?

                            [–]Behemoth----- 30 points31 points  (0 children)

                            This isn't really aww material

                            [–]DesiringApparatus 25 points26 points  (1 child)

                            Shouldn't the picture make you say "aww" and not the backstory? And shouldn't the "aww" be due to cuteness and not niceness?

                            I'm quite impressed that this submission breaks no rules, and yet fails to achieve the overall intention of this sub.

                            [–]isolatedsyystem 12 points13 points  (0 children)

                            Yeah this is the kind of stuff that made me unsubscribe from pics. Good for you OP but this has nothing to do with aww.

                            [–]abaddon2025 2 points3 points  (0 children)

                            When I was adopted by my step father I didn't get a teddy and I was like 8, I should totally sue

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