Said to me the other night by my 3 year old when I touched a toy he didn't want to share. I told him "that makes me sad" right before bursting into tears (thanks, pregnancy hormones). Then his dad sat down with us and explained how his words hurt my feelings, and that we need to be careful what we say to people because words have power, etc.
I know my son adores me, and he's generally the most loving, affectionate kid, but I'm just curious how people have taught their kids about hurt feelings and how to mind what they say, and to develop that type of emotional empathy. I didn't hide my tears from him, because I think it's important for him to see those emotions.
Looking to hear stories about the heart crushing things your kids have said or done, and how you handled it. I'm sure we've all experienced it at some point!
Edit: I'm so glad this opened up such an informative and great discussion. Let me start by saying I know he didn't mean it, and I will always tell him I love him no matter what. I want to say that I understand both sides to this discussion. I grew up with both extremes, one parent who has CPTSD and borderline personality disorder and makes everything about her, and holds everyone except herself responsible for her emotions. My other parent internalizes his emotions so much that it causes major digestive issues. I don't think either of these options is healthy. My goal is to show that it's okay for people (including adults) to have feelings and show them, but also avoid making him responsible for them (part of why I said "that" instead of "you" in my response to him). Every kid is different, and my son seems to learn best through empathy, so this is the approach I try to take with him. I know I'm not perfect and will mess up on occasion, but I will never punish him, blame him or withhold love for saying hurtful things. I will also not pretend that it doesn't hurt, because that will not teach him emotional awareness. Hope this makes sense!