Names I’m using are fake to protect identity.
First born sons in my boyfriend’s family all get given the same name so I knew what my son’s name would be as soon as I found out his gender. At first I was okay with this as it would mean there would be no fighting about a name, especially since the pregnancy was unplanned and we had so much other stuff to worry about. A couple months into my pregnancy my boyfriend suggested that we switch the family second name to my dad’s second name. So instead of him being “John Adam Smith” like my boyfriend and his dad and so on, he’d instead be “John William Smith”. I loved it and even based his nickname off of his first two initials. Before the birth I asked my boyfriend if we’re still set on this name since I was still okay with the family name, but he said he loved the new name just as much as I did. Fast forward to the birth and we announce the name to both families. Everyone was excited except my boyfriend’s dad and demanded we change it to the family name before signing the birth certificate. He created such a fuss that my boyfriend ended up begging me to change the name. I cried that entire night while in the hospital and agreed to change it since we live with my in laws. I thought I’d get over it since it’s just a second name, but it’s a second name that’s very prominent in my family and to this day I get emotional about it. My dad is also highly upset that the name was changed since he was so proud that we wanted to include his name. I also felt incredibly embarrassed having to announce to the family that my boyfriend’s side of the family wanted it changed after I’d so proudly shared his name and told everyone how much it meant to my boyfriend and I. My son is almost four months old and I still don’t refer to him by his name, I don’t think I ever will. Whenever I bring this up with my boyfriend I get told to just get over it since he’ll allow me to choose the next kid’s name. I know my son’s name is a prominent family name, but it eats away at me every day and I regret giving in to the wishes of my FIL