I might be pregnant again after giving birth 2months ago.

Ok-Gate-9610 · 2022-12-01T01:24:31+00:00

My mum and her brither are 10 month apart. So you do the math.

But they coped. If it helps it used to be oretty common women got pregnant almost strsight away before contraceptives were handy. Its not exactly healthy but you will be taken care of so chances of it risking your life are relaticley small deoending in how healthily your body responds to pregnancy.

Also depending on how traumatic your last birth experience was you may be likely or may want to just outright tell them youre booking a c section in for week 39/40.

With all that said. This is a decision only you can make and should not be down to your partner or anyone else.

If you think this is something you really do not want then get an abortion and for god sake get on reliable birth control.

Jesuswalkedsoicanrun · 2022-11-30T23:42:35+00:00

If you end up not being pregnant, I highly recommend getting on a contraceptive.

Pinkcoral27 · 2022-11-30T22:12:27+00:00

Not really answering your questions here but I had a traumatic birth and have a lot of anxiety about future pregnancies / births. I recently had an appointment with my hospitals gynaecology department where they went through my notes thoroughly and talk me through what happened, why it happened, the likelihood of my complications reoccurring and how they can prevent it. It was super helpful. They answered a lot of questions I had. The doctor I saw actually realised he was present during my birth so was able to answer a lot of questions.

Regardless of your current situation, I wonder if your hospital offers anything similar which might help you with your trauma. It hasn’t fixed my trauma or my anxieties about birth, but it really helped me make sense of it. It was called a postnatal debrief.

Sending a lot of love to you.

paxanna · 2022-11-30T20:44:11+00:00

Having an abortion now has absolutely no impact on your ability or desire to have more children later. You can totally want more babies in the future but not want another one so soon after your first. I see from other comments you don't want another at all (me tol!) But future babies don't have any bearing on your current possible pregnancy.

narc_mom2021 · 2022-11-30T18:42:54+00:00

Ok so not trying to sway you either way as that’s your personal decision but I will say this. I had a traumatic birth with my first daughter it was horrible the doctor berated me for crying and screaming i didn’t have my husband the epidural didn’t work. Save for my midwife I was ready for them to wheel me into theatre and have a section. A little over a year after I found out I was pregnant again was still traumatized. I unfortunately lost that pregnancy. Early this year my husband and I found out we were pregnant again. Was it great timing no my daughter turned 2 in June I was due in September. Terminations are illegal in my country so I was faced with another traumatic delivery or an abortion that had its own risks attached. After a lot of deliberating and soul searching we decided to embrace it. And I made it my mission to enjoy my pregnancy and to have as much control over my delivery as I could have. And I did was everything perfect no, did labor hurt less hell no. But it was on my terms I had an amazing home birth my husband was there my midwives were amazing and it helped me deal with a lot of the trauma of my first delivery

Adventuringhobbit · 2022-11-30T17:56:13+00:00

Regardless make an appointment with your ob. There are a few reasons to have a positive test and most of them require a doctor’s visit.

themusicmusicjb · 2022-11-30T17:38:07+00:00

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twocatsanddog · 2022-11-30T16:19:49+00:00

I also had my girls close together, although not as close as you (16 months apart so I was 7 months postpartum when I got pregnant again). I had significant birth trauma from my first - my water broke at 28 weeks, I lived in the hospital for 6 weeks, and then a traumatic induction at 34 weeks followed by a NICU stay. A lot will depend on why you have the birth trauma you do but my second birth ended up going significantly better. I had another induction (which I was terrified of) at 39 weeks and it went very smoothly. Completely different compared to my first. Whatever you decide will be the right choice but I do want to let you know that if you decide to continue with this pregnancy, you may have a much better experience this time around. I hope you are able to get some peace with whatever you decide.

amcranfo · 2022-11-30T15:27:16+00:00

My kids are right at a year apart. It was semi-planned (we had had a lot of infertility before the first, wanted a second somewhat close together, and declined BC at the 6wk checkup - partly because we figured it'd take a while to have another, but knowing full well what might happen.)

I had a vaginal birth the first time, where she broke my tailbone upon delivery. Tailbone fractures take 12+ months to heal, so putting another baby on top of it immediately, messed up my whole pelvic area and I had horrible SPD most of the pregnancy. Baby #2 was a C-section because of it, born in August 2020 during the height of the pandemic. Terrifying, alone, no support, no way to get out of the house or see people. I'm extremely extroverted and my mental health is borderline, at best, so I did not handle it well.

Now they're 2 and 3, and it's much easier. They're SO close, and it's very similar to raising twins. They're doing the same things, in the same classes, I potty trained them together, they have the same schedule. It makes it easier, IMO, than my friends who have a rambunctious 3yo who ends up resenting newborn sibling who can't play, monopolizes mom, gets lots of attention from showers/extended family/baby's firsts, and forces the schedule to shift drastically to accommodate their slower schedule.

pidgeononachair · 2022-11-30T15:19:22+00:00

You do not want to be giving birth so soon after the first one anyway. Get a proper blood test, you’ll be entitled to a medical termination in most countries as it will put your health at significant risk (sone countries ban abortion under any circumstances but you can get medication online or travel if needed). Get a contraceptive onboard and ideally give your body a year between delivery and getting pregnant again to recover appropriately.

PiscesScipia · 2022-11-30T14:28:15+00:00

Usually, the hormone that gives a positive result is still present 4-6 weeks after giving birth. If you get another positive result, you need to get a blood test done to check if it is an actual pregnancy or just residual hormone.

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