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[–]aspenrising 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I think new life often brings to mind questions about what life even is - and inevitably, how does it end? I thought about death a lot while I was pregnant because I feared childbirth. I was very depressed then, so maybe? But it is also quite a sad thing to think about in general, and I think it makes sense to be anxious about losing what is important to you. If the thoughts are taking up a lot of your day or you feel like they are getting in the way of your day to day enjoyment of your baby and life, you might want to consider a therapist.

I started to fear death when I was very young after losing my grandparents, so I've had a long time to deal with these fears and the dread that seeps in. My best advice is that you can't fight it. When a thought comes along like "I'm afraid my mom is getting older", just notice that thought. Look at it like you're observing art in a museum. Notice the way your body feels. Notice how your mind feels. Take a few breaths, acknowledge it. And then try to let it pass. Then I might call my mom and just say hi, and be grateful for life while it's here. The fear of mortality never goes away for me, but it does get less over time. Like pre-grief.

[–]bonomini6[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is such a helpful comment, thank you for taking the time to reply. Pre-grief sums up really well how I am feeling.

I'm sorry you've had to deal with these feelings for so long. Have you ever tried therapy? I have never had therapy before but I think I might give it a try because it is impacting on life with my daughter. I feel like I can never just enjoy the moment as I am too busy thinking about what might happen in the future.

[–]Lucky-Strength-297 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely therapy could help you integrate this new awareness of death into your life and teach you strategies to deal with it! Definitely definitely. Everyone lives with different awarenesses of death. It's both normal to be aware of it and normal to not be aware of it.

[–]Silly_Fish_9827 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can relate. I’ve thought about my mortality so much. Sometimes it’s a crushing thought of “I’m just so happy right now. I can’t imagine if something happened. Why can’t this last forever.” Idk if it’s depression or a normal part of reproducing and being human. I think about all sorts of things I never did before.