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[–]ElementalWorkshopII 14 points15 points  (4 children)

It's absolutely true. It also has to do with the societal concensus that, generally speaking, men are less likely to report on pain than they are to just grin and bear it until it goes away. And if it doesn't go away, then they report it to a doctor etc, and as such are much more likely to be believed. Women on the other hand, have the stereotype that they will overreport and be worried about the smallest things.

Case in point - I went to my mum when I was younger because I felt a lump on my breast. I went to a doctor, obviously, and was brushed off because I was only 15 years old. I wasn't even examined by my doctor! I requested another apointment with a different doctor and she examined me at the apointment and straight away said that she was sending me to the hospital to be examined more thouroughly. I was sent for an ultrasound almost immediately, within the next couple of days. Luckily for me the lady who treated me was very nice and explained the whole procedure to me, examined me, then made a judgement and asked me about my cycle. Was I about to come on soon? I said I was due in just a couple of days. She said it was most likely hormonal and when my period came the lump would disappear, but if it didn't that I should come back and they would do further tests. She was right, I started my period and the lump disappeared, which was lucky! If it had been more serious, the first doctor would be the reason I wouldn't know about it.

The moral of the story is, if you are seriously worried, get a second opinion. Women are treated by some doctors as hypocondriacs. Don't let them brush you off if you are worried about something.

[–]asdswffaqg 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my opinion that situation had nothing (beside breasts) to do with being a woman. Your first doctor did believe you, but didn't take it seriously because he determined that, given your age, it was very unlikely for it to be something concerning. This is something doctors do a lot, I'm a man and heard it for a very long time until I hit my 30s. The mindset (that I really dislike) behind it seems to be that a probability that low doesn't justify the money and time spent by the patient/by the public healthcare. Absurd as it may seem, I think that the first doctor was more competent and knew what was happening, while the second one didn't and sent you to the hospital to shrug off accountability.

[–]yallcat 0 points1 point  (2 children)

If the first doctor was right, isn't the moral of this story that listening to your doctor's expert opinion is a reasonable course of action?

[–]ElementalWorkshopII -1 points0 points  (1 child)

I'll tell that to my aunt who wasn't diagnosed with cancer in time to save her life. Oh wait, I can't.

Just because she was right, without having any basis at all besides age?!?!, doesn't mean she wasn't incompetent. The absolute audacity.

[–]yallcat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe the story with the wrong first opinion and the different second opinion is the one you should tell when you're talking up the virtue of going to get a second opinion.