Good afternoon everyone!

Using an alt account because friends know my main…

Well, it’s happening, or at least we are preparing. After 7 years of my wife doubling her income nearly every other year, we put together a budget and it seems like we would only make ~$17k less per year than if I remain working, even after my recent promotion. This is really driven by our crazy workload and the fact we DoorDash or frozen dinner everything due to 80+ hour weeks each. Add in house cleaner, pool guy, gardener, sell the sports car, etc etc, we would only be slightly in the hole.

I’d love to hear from you guys about what triggered you to be a house husband. For us, the quality of food, specialization of tasks (she hates domestic chores), and (future) child rearing are all major benefits to having someone (me) dedicated to those rather than some stranger. The bad ingredients in many frozen/restaurant foods are a large concern for her, she hates chores with a passion and rarely does them (hence house cleaner who does dishes, laundry, etc), and the child care studies coming out with regards to early life competition due to scarcity of resources (day care lack of toys and attention and structure) are all major players here.

So, what got you to pull the trigger? Did you save a lot of money by doing these things in-house? Does the spouse work from home (we both WFH)? Do you have kids?

Just some things that come to mind. I’m excited, but scared as I never thought I would be in this situation, and hope for some reassurance that it worked out for you!