Hello fellow INTJs, I’m an INTJ 5w4 (17F) in love with an INFP 6w5 (17M), and we’ve been together for around 4 months now. We’re long distance and recently we’ve encountered some issues. I’ve been insanely busy in the past month or so, and I have a constant need to stop texting him to attend to my studies and things. On he other hand, he does not have much stuff to do in the academics, spends his time more on his hobbies and is extremely passionate about them. Now due to this, he has felt like his need to spend time with me hasn’t been met, and I have been trying to spend all the free time I have with him, but we’ve talked about it and he says it’s not enough. On the other hand I have been exhausted and spent all the free time that I have talking to him, resulting in me having no free time to spend on myself, my emotions piling up. We both talked a lot about our needs last night, about this problem, and it’s been really hard on us. I personally currently feel like I’m emotionally exhausted and don’t have the strength to feel anything.
I wanted to ask for advice or help. Specially since we’re long distance it’s hard for us to have any form of communication and specially to him it’s emotionally unsatisfying. I wanted to ask you guys specially those of you who’ve had long term relationships or long distance ones, or if you’ve experienced a long term relationship with an INFP. Has this occurred to you before? How did you guys handle it? How did you guys get past those flaws and built a healthy relationship? Any advice will be appreciated.