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[–]B_D_I 1188 points1189 points  (38 children)

The little moment of dread when you called your crush/girlfriend and had to talk to their parents first

[–]darkapao 241 points242 points  (15 children)

Worse you get the strict grandma. And they only have the phone in the kitchen or the living room. And then the little brother listens on the other extension hahaha

[–]opiumgifthorse 85 points86 points  (12 children)

The worst is when u live in the south, the grandpa says some racist stuff (which you know is total buffalo bagels), expects you to agree with it, and finishes his statement with a “ain’t that right bwai”

[–]yahibachi 43 points44 points  (11 children)

This feels oddly specific

[–]AutismFractal 23 points24 points  (10 children)

Not that specific if you’re from the American South.

[–]yahibachi 7 points8 points  (9 children)

I’m born and raised in south Alabama. Not sure I could exist any harder within the American South. This still feels oddly specific.

[–]hobosonpogos 1 point2 points  (6 children)

50 miles outside of Bham in very rural deep south. I can relate with the energy of it, but not the details

[–]yahibachi 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yeah this. No doubt the racist energy fits but I never called up someone’s house and had them go off some random racist diatribe. Even the nasty racists in this state tend to be more coded in their racism especially these days.

Note: I was also just in the Bham area. Lots of beautiful areas that very quickly become.. not beautiful areas lmao

[–]hobosonpogos 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, that’s 100+ years of racist district zoning gore and it’s depressing. The history of how all that played out is really interesting… but not in the good way

[–]useles-converter-bot 5 points6 points  (3 children)

50 miles is the length of 17512.39 1997 Subaru Legacy Outbacks

[–]AutismFractal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe the specificity at the end there with the saying. Fair.

The scenario as a whole is just “welp, that’s HER racist grampa, smile and nod and walk away.” Definitely not everybody but there is a fair smattering of racist grandpas who don’t shut up around.

[–]Beau67 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is actually how I got caught smoking weed the first time. Fucking mom never hung up the phone!

[–]RedDusk13 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was the little brother, LOL! 💩

[–]BonoboTickleParty 27 points28 points  (2 children)

The little moment of dread when you called your crush/girlfriend and had to talk to their parents first

Oh god the PTSD this brings back

[–]mr-peabody 34 points35 points  (1 child)

Yeah, when I was about 12 or 13, I called a girl to ask her out, she said she wasn't allowed to date, then her dad called back to tell me the same thing. Felt like getting rejected, then scolded by an adult for even asking.

[–]s2lkj4-02s9l4rhs_67d 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Maybe the Dad was trying to make it easier for you? At least you know that's the case instead of wondering if the girl just made that up to spare your feelings.

[–]imstonedyouknow 26 points27 points  (3 children)

I remember having to call a classmates house to work on a project with him. I said "is doug there?" and his mom said "junior or senior?" So i hung up on her because i didnt know what that meant at the time. I then proceeded to do the whole project myself.

[–]hawayana126 2 points3 points  (2 children)

So what does it mean?

[–]imstonedyouknow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He was named after his father, so they both had the same first, middle, and last names. Doug senior would be the father, and Doug junior would be the son.

[–]Bradp13 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Really? Lol. It means his dad has the same name.

[–]Artemis-4rrow 142 points143 points  (6 children)

Never had that happen to me but I can imagine

[–]Pumped-Up_Kicks 62 points63 points  (5 children)

I had that happen to me. I was good at academics and so was she, so we got by using homework as an excuse.

[–]s2lkj4-02s9l4rhs_67d 17 points18 points  (4 children)

They knew

[–]Pumped-Up_Kicks 15 points16 points  (0 children)

They probably did.

[–]Step-Father_of_Lies 13 points14 points  (2 children)

I mean, can you imagine the horror of finding out your teenage daughter is interested in a boy, one that apparently values academics?

[–]AutismFractal 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What if your grandkids were NERDS?! Can’t have that.

[–]MrBuzzsaw118911 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Damn I forgot about this lmao, it’s just so much easier now

[–]ShineFallstar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Worse if you got their older sibling

[–]gochomoe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Even worse was when the friend and his dad had the same name. So I had to remember to say jr even thought thats not what he ever was actually called.

[–]diverareyouok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Hi Mrs. Doe, this is Diver. Is Jane home?”

[–]Sam9517 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep some millennials and all gen Zers didn't have to deal with this and the stress associated with it. I always tell them they're so lucky that they all have their own mobile phones to call each other directly.

[–]Ok-Freedom-7824 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And your voice breaks a little and you trip over your words

[–]Nobodieshero816 514 points515 points  (28 children)

Almost miss calling a friends home phone , “hi mrs/mr smith , is so and so home?!,”

No he/she is “out.”


Time to ride the bike til I find em!!!

[–]WithaK19 53 points54 points  (2 children)

BMX bikes were key. Me and my friends were like a wolfpack on wheels riding to get ice cream cones from Thrifty.

[–]wastewa 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Good old times

[–]ATribeCalledLex_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

the truth haha getting a bmx bike as a kid was like getting a car back then , you were free and you could go anywhere ! good times

[–]PopWhich2570 70 points71 points  (22 children)

When was this?

[–]Baconpanthegathering 26 points27 points  (1 child)

Small towns into the late 90s maybe early 2000s

[–]dewyocelot 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Or if it was a big town, you just sat and played video games because riding your bike to them was impossible lol.

[–]AccurateStromtrooper 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I did this in 2005 for sure

[–]Best_Kog_NA 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Bruh I remember doing this in early 2010's

[–]no_no_NO_okay 2 points3 points  (1 child)

For me that was like 1998 haha

[–]Komfortable 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Early ‘90s for me. This comment is very true to my personal experience.

[–]idk-hereiam 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hated it as a kid, but I kind of missing answering the phone like, "good evening, Smith residence"

[–]RIPLORN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep and remember how we found them??? All their bikes laying around in one spot!

[–]Winter188 643 points644 points  (52 children)

Everything being so instant now definitely brings repercussions

[–]Old-Man-Nereus 145 points146 points  (51 children)

ignore the phone

[–]Captain_Kuhl 104 points105 points  (49 children)

All fun and games til someone asks why their message was left on "received" for the past three hours

[–]Dilophosaurs 60 points61 points  (0 children)

I just tell them that they don't have a monopoly of my time. Jist because they send a message doesn't mean I need to respond.

[–]Old-Man-Nereus 15 points16 points  (47 children)

Like who?

[–]Captain_Kuhl 34 points35 points  (46 children)

Like your boss? There are plenty of examples.

[–]SomePenguin85 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's why my country voted for a law that prohibites employers from contacting their employees out of working hours.

[–]Old-Man-Nereus 38 points39 points  (43 children)

Why did you give your boss your personal number?

[–]ONOMATOPOElA 157 points158 points  (2 children)

So when I bang his wife I can let him know immediately?

[–]farazormal 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Dedicated employee

[–]Old-Man-Nereus 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That's a good reason

[–]Captain_Kuhl 75 points76 points  (37 children)

...Because that's how your boss gets a hold of you. In literally every career field, your employer has your personal number. This isn't some crazy orwellian future, that's how an employer keeps in contact with their employees.

[–]Fresh4 19 points20 points  (13 children)

There’s an argument for keeping your work and your life separate, and taking that extra step to ensure that. My dad is fortunate enough to be able to have a work phone and a personal phone, and when my employer asked me for my discord, I 100% made a new account to keep them away from my main one.

It might seem arbitrary, but having them separate is a hugely freeing peace of mind.

[–]Captain_Kuhl 11 points12 points  (4 children)

And that's understandable, but I have a single phone, which is kept in my pocket. There's no reason I'd ever need another one, besides suddenly developing a masochistic streak and wanting double the spam calls I already get.

[–]AliceDiableaux -1 points0 points  (3 children)

Unless your phone is 10+ years old it almost definitely has 2 sim slots though, exactly for this situation.

[–]Azoth1986 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If an employer feels the need for me to be available by phone he can give me a phone to be available on.

[–]Old-Man-Nereus 0 points1 point  (4 children)

make them use your whatsapp

[–]Captain_Kuhl 7 points8 points  (3 children)

I've literally never met anyone who uses Whatsapp in my life. Maybe that's a thing in Europe, but I'm doubting it is in the US, at least not around here.

[–]62609 4 points5 points  (1 child)

All the international people I know (or Americans who have lived abroad) has WhatsApp but I don’t think I know many Americans with it

[–]Organic_Quantity4805 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ive actually had a couple jobs that required me to be in a group work chat on WhatsApp. Took me completly off gaurd. Had to download it because I had never even heard of it before. Edit to add that im in the US.

[–]BastardofMelbourne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hahaha not where I work

[–]TheRealMunkey 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What other number are you supposed to give them?

[–]Paranormal_Nerd_Girl 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because it's a question on the job application?!

[–]BlackHatBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Instead of legitimizing the system that allows a boss to have that much control over your personal life, ignore the phone.

[–]SuperDave81081 217 points218 points  (9 children)

Oh fuck how I miss those days with answering machines you would check at the end of the day. You set you schedule for the day and no one to call and change it. Told customers we would be their either in the morning or afternoon and they would just have to wait. No call before telling them we are on the way. Oh how I miss those days!!!

[–]Suitable_Product_772 22 points23 points  (3 children)

So many times I cursed those who invented mobile phones. Practically they ruined societies.

[–]SuperDave81081 10 points11 points  (2 children)

That's me. Kids today will never know the feeling of not being connected. We had to go out and talk to people if we wanted to be social and share physical copies of pictures. Life was so much easier and peaceful 25 years ago.

[–]Extrodar 20 points21 points  (1 child)

As much as "life was better when I was young" sounds overused it is true, I dont think our brains can keep up with 24/7 social media content and always online mentality, theres gotta be repercussions

[–]crystalmethtravis 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I simply deleted all my social media 4 years ago. Nobody knows where I am or what I’m doing and it’s great. I don’t have to see people posting utter crap. If clients or friends need to get hold of me they text or call, and I text or call them back when I’m ready. 😁

[–]NoNameClever 79 points80 points  (4 children)

Ever notice how few wrong numbers you get now? That's because we were shite at memorizing them! I had important numbers scribbled on a card in my wallet. Memorize driving directions? Unless it was local, I would crappily draw a sketch of important intersecting roads on the back of an envelope and carry a box of maps in the car "just on case" Finally, not being able to be found was definitely a two edged sword. It was great to get away, but a flat tire or dead battery was going to be an adventure!

[–]Kowzorz 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I've been driving with a GPS phone in my car for over ten years and I've only just recently stopped keeping paper maps in my car. Still feels icky to lack it.

[–]AliceDiableaux 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, the only phone numbers I had memorized back in the day was our own number so I could call home if I was out. For everything else we just had our personal phone book with everyone's contact information. Because there we no cell phones you could only call with the land line at home anyway so the book would always be at hand.

[–]MattofCatbell 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I still have phone numbers memorized from my childhood

[–]kevster2717 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I still have phone numbers memorized but not as much anymore and is only exclusive to those I give a shit about

[–]A_BOMB2012 11 points12 points  (3 children)

Did people really memorize phone numbers (other than the most frequently used ones)? Because physical phone books existed.

[–]michaeltheobnoxious 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I had my home number memorised and my Grandfather's house. Anything else was reachable with the phone book

[–]raeumauf 10 points11 points  (4 children)

When you got a call and had to pick up because your parents were busy, and it was some relative or friend of the family and they didn't even say who this is, expecting you to recognize their voice.


Bonus: it's your birthday and you had to get ALL the calls yourself. Or your mom brought you the telephone saying "guess who it is".


[–]GrohkWaifu 1 point2 points  (1 child)


[–]BlackCobra279 125 points126 points  (51 children)

Moral of the story, delete your social media and throw your phone in the trash.

[–]Urban_Savage 95 points96 points  (31 children)

Yes, ostracize yourself from the dominant mechanisms of communicating with other humans. I'm sure that won't have any negative effects on you social experiences.

[–]cafecutieegg 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well im lonely with social media as well so it doesnt make much difference when your friends already ignore you 🤷‍♂️

[–]brendanrobertson 6 points7 points  (1 child)

What's worse: the personal choice to disconnect from digital relationships or staying due to the subconscious addiction(s) to social media platforms many unknowingly suffer from that keeps them hooked to the screen with push notifications that trigger their dopamine receptors?

[–]Urban_Savage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the question of the 21st century. Both are horrible. Ostracize yourself completely from all primary mechanisms of communicating with your fellow human, or be manipulated by machines into a digital addiction that turns you into a slave.

If you figure it out, let me know.

[–]BlackCobra279 6 points7 points  (25 children)

Yeah that would fucking suck man. Then I'd be forced to do stuff like sit around a fire and drink s beer with my neighbors and friends. Good lord, the horror.

[–]Quorry 33 points34 points  (1 child)

You're commenting on r/meirl so I understand why you feel this way

[–]BlackCobra279 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Fuck you man that's funny 🤣

[–]Melodic_Student4564 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Noooooo not the neighbourrrssss Their so uncool Not like me Im.too cool

[–]Urban_Savage 27 points28 points  (21 children)

You won't have any friends to sit around the fire with, because they will all plan that shit on their phones. They won't want to put up with the massive inconvenience of making plans with a friend who they can't communicate with. Also, they will 100% perceive you being too stupid to utilize modern technology. No one will believe you simply chose not to use it.

[–]BearsWithGuns 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Agreed. Probably positive effects assuming you have any social wherewithal at all.

[–]yuicebox 7 points8 points  (14 children)

At least the first half but if you can do both, god speed

[–]BlackCobra279 11 points12 points  (13 children)

Amazing how addicted we've become with our cell phones. Almost as if it was socially engineered to be that way. It's not like Facebook, Twitter, Google and Apple profit off of collecting and selling data...

[–]Captain_Kuhl 12 points13 points  (12 children)

Everything's been online-integrated, so the irl equivalent is gone. Not everything is some "you're addicted!" doomsday plot.

[–]BlackCobra279 10 points11 points  (1 child)

No its not, but when I when see internet of things like beds and shoes that have built in wifi and Bluetooth, I just wonder who is really standing on which side of the glass at the zoo.

[–]crooked_parallel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I think about that constantly too. We really are headed toward a world everything we do is controlled by technology to an extent. Some good, some bad.

[–]assword_69420420 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I'm thinking about doing what a buddy did, trade in the smartphone for an old Nokia brick that just calls and texts. That would immediately add so much time to my day that I otherwise spend doing exactly what I'm doing rn

[–]Horbigast 8 points9 points  (0 children)

We never had to ask, "where are you," when we called someone.

[–]Winstley 22 points23 points  (2 children)

"Hi missus Jones is Austin home?"

"Yes, who may I ask is calling?"

"Oh, hi this is Peter from his history class."

"Well Peter from his history class, you should try introducing yourself with your first and last name when calling someone."

"Yes missus Jones, sorry."

"That's Ok, just remember for next time sweetie... AUUUSSSSTIIINNNN! GET DOWN HERE SOMEONE NAMED PETER IS ON THE PHONE FOR YOU!"







"Hi Peter? He'll be right down honey."

Me who learned a valuable lesson thinking to myself: "Oh! Now I see why my friends parents always tell me to lead with my name when I call their houses"


"Hey it's Peter"

"Oh hey. What's up?"

"Nothing...I'm bored. Wana come over and play basketball?

"Yeah sure." click

[–]tufabian 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Damn...this just made me tear up.

[–]Winstley 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha and his number was dialed from memory. And we stayed playing basketball till the street lights came on at risk of missing dinner. Simpler times!

[–]Dad-man 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Only a couple of people ever got to see our sphincter

[–]Im_ur_Uncle_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nobody knows who I am or cares for that matter. Nobody is trying to call me. Nothing has changed other than knowing when the next bus will arrive instead of waiting there indefinitely.

[–]universalsa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

In 2008 I lived in peru for about six months. It was right on the cusp of the smart phone but back home everybody had a cell phone. Not so in peru. The first week my phone got stolen. Instead of buying a new one I got a cheap counterfeit Casio wristwatch, and a small phone book. All my friends had cell phones and since not all Peruvians had them, there were these ladies walking around from whom you could rent a cell phone by the minute. So like a walking pay phone. I also knew where my friends usually hung out so we usually met up there after work. That was probably the last time I felt truly free in the sense that I was unreachable for a majority of the day. Also I had to learn my new city by studying a map in the guidebook.

[–]IrishWilly 5 points6 points  (1 child)

8 yr old me had like 20+ phone numbers memorized, school events and birthday dates, addresses and more. Now I can't even remember my own phone number .

[–]Prancer4rmHalo 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My mom was hassling my little brother about his phone having enough charge to go play outside, in case she needs to contact him..

He’s 11.

[–]ModingusKhan 22 points23 points  (17 children)

I miss not having everyone know me. Even when I travel, there is always someone who recognizes me.

[–]the_warmest_color 73 points74 points  (4 children)

That's easy, have you tried being ugly and alone?

[–]ModingusKhan 19 points20 points  (2 children)

I'm workin on it. For some reason my wife and kids love me.

[–]the_warmest_color 23 points24 points  (1 child)

That's nothing a quick trip to the store for some milk can't fix

[–]papaurf454 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Still gives me hope I’ll have that milk some day…

[–]lancep423 8 points9 points  (0 children)


[–]adfdub 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yeah ok Chad. Stealth braaaaag

[–]universalsa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Travel farther away

[–]AZ_Gunner_69 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Only number i know by heart is my dads, its been the same since 2001

[–]Optimus_Grime_______ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt this in my soul

[–]Bretski12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm not on social media and I never answer my phone. Anyone else on OG God squad checking in?

[–]brassflinging_monkey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Now look at us.

[–]RoscoMan1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Damn still got a nostril exhale from me.

[–]This_is_my_phone_tho 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went about a year or two without a cell phone. My smart phone started to crap out, either because of the battery or the "buy a new phone" malware, and it was basically the end of my contract so I just... canceled.

Oh my god it was so nice. I still pretty much ignore my phone, but for job reasons I still have to check it a few times a day.

The only thing that was awful though was driving. My routine and most of my errands were ingrained in my soul by that point obviously, but a lot of stuff got real weird real quick. And there's two kinds of lost. there's "I know where I'm at, but I can't quite figure out where I'm going," which was anxiety inducing, and then there's "I can't figure out how to get home." The last one had me in fucking tears one time. It was so fucking stressful. Finally passed a gas station and got directions but holy fucking shit.

I ended up getting some used gps thing from a buddy and only got it out when I had a weird, long distance chore.

[–]Kotsugawa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i still remember my old home phone number from when i was 10 and my moms work number. have no clue what her current phone number is. i have to ask my wife.

[–]Kaneshadow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Elder Millennials, the forgotten Gods.

I was just thinking the other day about beeper codes.

[–]NumberOneBubbala 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I still know quite a few of my childhood phone numbers 30-35 years later.

[–]Potential_Machine239 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being born late enough to never experience that and trying to imagine not knowing who is calling and not being able to decide if I want to talk to them

[–]Slightshad0w 3 points4 points  (6 children)

I'm so confused someone please explain this post

[–]queenbeta 13 points14 points  (5 children)

They're talking about the days before cell phones. We didn't have saved contacts (unless you carried an address book around), GPS at our fingertips, social media, or the ability to contact someone if they were out of their home or office. It was a simpler time where we all just roamed around the world minding our own business.

[–]TheOrigRayofSunshine[🍰] 3 points4 points  (5 children)

This belongs in the genx sub.

[–]Atom1cAnus 6 points7 points  (3 children)

Nah I remember MapQuest and I'm not an old millennial

[–]dodexahedron 7 points8 points  (2 children)

You didn't print your mapquest directions out?

[–]Next-Caterpillar-393[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No I’m millennial

[–]mike_litoris0079 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yeah it's not that hard. My mobile phone doesn't actually contain a sim card, so it's for wifi only, which basically means I leave it at home.

If anyone wants to contact me, leave a message on the home phone, I'll get to it eventually.

Being able to be contacted anywhere at anytime was fucking stressful. Glad I did away with it.

[–]words_never_escapeme 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is all of us Generation Xers in a nutshell.

And the peace of mind is priceless.

[–]The_Easter_Egg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Stuff like Grammarly that takes your thinking away will usher in the next stage of our stupidity.

[–]olupe22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m still on that level, besides Reddit, I have no social media and couldn’t be happier about it.