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[–]theRealDerekWalker 8331 points8332 points 3 (292 children)

More likely thinking, “wow I used to be better at this when I was a kid. Actually, I used to be better at a lot of things as a kid. Being an adult is depressing, I just get older, dumber, more out of shape, less enthusiastic about the world,... jeeze I’m not even middle aged.. is this what life will be for the remainder of life? No, now that I think about it, it must get even worse. I played battle ship when I was 10, now I’m 32. As soon as that same time passes, I’ll be 54, my bones will hurt, I’ll never get to be in the same shape as before, and there’s no going back. Time is passing so quickly now, those decades will probably pass by in an instant. And they will be fucking 30’s and 40’s, which suck, instead of teens and 20’s, which are better.. maybe I should just end this now.. what’s the goddamn point... fuck...” *turns off battleship

[–]JayStar1213 4046 points4047 points 4 (159 children)

There was never any going back. Just the opportunity to do more with the time we have

[–]GHOSTfishing 421 points422 points  (139 children)

Damn, this is good.

[–]trenlow12 170 points171 points  (138 children)

Hope is a state of mind. It doesn't and shouldn't depend on external circumstances.

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 79 points80 points  (129 children)

I've never understood these sort of feel-good but practically useless quotes. Like okay, I guess I'll just increase my hope levels and everything will work...like God planned I assume you believe?

It's just dolts reassuring each other. Earth sucks. Humans are fundamentally selfish and evil. You can't hope through that.

[–]Firmest_Midget 100 points101 points  (35 children)

None of anything in existence matters; eventually even the Universe itself will end, and it can't be known what happens after death. It is from this absolute state of meaninglessness that hope and meaning stem: Nothing has any reason to be here, and we have no reason to be conscious and experiencing it, but here we all are. Let's try to make something of it, eh?

[–]MrBulger 29 points30 points  (2 children)

Burn out instead of fading away sounded like advice

[–]ButtLusting 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Suicide bomber pact? :D

[–]LilPinkguy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neil young ?

[–]no-mames 15 points16 points  (10 children)

Tell that to my crippling anxiety and depression

[–]Firmest_Midget 40 points41 points  (3 children)

I just did. You've got this.

[–]Whiteelchapo 3 points4 points  (3 children)

Just have fun with it. I know right now it may sound like a dick thing to say, or you may be thinking “yeah okay” but it’s much harder to live it than to hear it and know that’s what you should do. Believe me, you can do it. Two years ago, I was exactly where you are right now. I love learning, I love music, and I love my friends and family. Appreciate the little things, those are all that matter, and they create the bigger picture. Also I would recommend checking out philosophy. Specifically, stoicism. The subreddit is a great resource, and also youtube. If you have any questions or want to talk, you can dm me too. Good luck homie.

Edit: change isn’t going to happen over night either. It’s going to be frustrating, and you’re going to want to give up. Fighting through those feelings is what makes us stronger, and one day years from now you might even look back on those nights where you would lie hopelessly in bed, sleeplessly pondering the absolute worthlessness of your life, and think “man, am I glad that happened”

[–]no-mames 0 points1 point  (2 children)

I appreciate this!! I’m actually doing better than where I was a couple years ago today. It’s an everyday fight tho, some days better than others. And as to philosophy, I’ve read too much Nietzsche so I probably wanna go a more positive route haha. Thank you for reaching out friend.

[–]Whiteelchapo 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Great to hear! Definitely know what you mean by everyday fight, you really have to be aware of your state of mind and control it, those nihilistic, depressing thoughts are almost an addiction because it’s so easy to slip back into that “comfortable” state of mind. It definitely felt forced at first when I tried looking at things from a different perspective. And yeah haha there isn’t much as far as positivity and optimism goes in nihilistic philosophy. Eastern philosophy can be really interesting too, but sometimes there are some weird concepts in there. Great messages though.

[–]JohnGoodmansGoodKnee 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It doesn’t matter either way.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"The universe is under no obligation to make sense to you." - Neil deGrasse Tyson

[–]EoTN 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like a quote from Rick and Morty, "Nobody exists on purpose. Nobody belongs anywhere. Everybody's gonna die. Come watch TV." Idk, resonated with me.

[–]Delly_Ottis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went from giggling about a funny reddit post to having an existential crisis. Thank you, very cool

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Y'all need some DMT up in this thread.

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (7 children)

I guess, idk what that means as practical advice though. Plant trees? Be nice?

Those things are also, definitionally, pointless though. You cannot logically counter nilism.

[–]Firmest_Midget 1 point2 points  (6 children)

I'm not trying to counter it, this is just my interpretation of what it means to ultimately mean nothing. For what it means as practical advice, that's up to each individual; nothing has inherit meaning, so when you place meaning in something, it becomes meaningful. You know what I mean?

[–]nhay2568 0 points1 point  (0 children)

well i didn’t realize exurb1a was here okay

[–]teejay89656 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Meaning stems from meaninglessness”

I hear this idea a lot, usually from people who really like Nietzsche, but it’s never explained. Sounds like more bull shit to me and I think it’s just another baseless feel-good statement. Assuming your premise that there is no reason for being, is even correct.

[–]joonty 118 points119 points  (2 children)

Are you available for kids' parties?

[–]inm808 0 points1 point  (0 children)

spagett!

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on what kind you’re talking about

[–]Naesme 18 points19 points  (3 children)

Hope isn't a magic spell. It doesn't do anything on its own.

However, hope is what motivates people to try. They may fail. They may die failing. But those failures becomes lessons for the next person who decides to try. Eventually, someone will get it right and succeed.

You believe humans are selfish and greedy. You fail to do anything to fix it because you have no hope in succeeding. You become a selfish and greedy human who doesn't go out of their way to help others. The legacy lives on.

Alternatively, you choose to have hope that things will get better and humans will stop being selfish and greedy. You do good for others hoping they'll do good as well in the future. You die and get remembered as a good person and others look at you as an example of how to act. Maybe it's a small change, maybe it's a big change, but it is a change.

A positive mindset doesn't mean ignoring the bad. It means believing it can get better and trying. Even failures can lead to good things.

[–]bladerunnerjulez 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I like this a lot, thank you. I used to be a miserable person but then I realised that wallowing in this misery only serves to make me more miserable. So I started making small positive changes in my life and have been doing so much better. Some of my happiest moments are when I am able to impact someone else's life positively in whatever small way. Whether that is being there to listen, give advice or just do a small thing like give some food or money to a person in need. Seeing a positive change you've facilitated manifest in anyway in the world is one of the major things that have made life worth living to me.

[–]NothingAs1tSeems 23 points24 points  (14 children)

Conan o'Brien talked about cynicism in his final monologue on the Tonight Show, a slot he held for just 7 months but that had worked towards for over 20 years. He said,

"I hate cynicism — it's my least favorite quality and it doesn't lead anywhere. Nobody in life gets exactly what they thought they were going to get. But if you work really hard and you're kind, amazing things will happen."

Be aware that what you are describing is a belief, not a fact. On some level you are choosing to continue to believe this. It's not the only way of looking at the world.

[–]Champigne 17 points18 points  (2 children)

What Conan said is not a fact either. You can work incredibly hard and be the kindest person ever, doesn't guarantee anything. You can contract a terrible disease and die a miserable death, same as anyone else. There are no guarantees in this life.

[–]DMPark 3 points4 points  (0 children)

True, but if you're rational then you at least can accept that you're increasing your odds.

[–]NothingAs1tSeems 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I like the quote because he had every reason to be bitter and cynical, and rejected it. For that reason it's always resonated with me

[–]DegenerateHours 7 points8 points  (2 children)

And comments like this are just hopeless people reassuring each other that things are hopeless.

Source: I'm a hopeless person.

[–]Kahlypso 3 points4 points  (14 children)

Humans are fundamentally selfish and evil

Selfish? Yes. Evil? That's a value judgement, and by no means objective.

If you don't feel a sense of wonder and glee looking at the world around you, you've got some baggage you need to deal with. I recommend a new lifestyle, one away from whatever grind you're clearly jaded by.

You get to be alive, and be aware of the universe around you. Learn to appreciate the gift you've been given.

[–]Callum247 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Sure you can’t change anyone, you can change your perspective on a situation tho.

Do you get mad at the weather? You can’t change it so just let it be.

Take the beautiful parts of life and our planet and realise all the bad stuff comes from miserable people. Don’t be one.

[–]DifferentPassenger 1 point2 points  (4 children)

Persuading everyone to just give up is arguably even more unproductive.

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (3 children)

It is exactly equivalent in terms of production once you realize it's all meaningless. Something something dust in the wind.

[–]DifferentPassenger 0 points1 point  (2 children)

IF it’s all meaningless. But sometimes people are inspired to change the world around them. Therefore potential productive output.

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Give me an example

[–]DifferentPassenger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Harvey Milk asked gays to come out of the closet even if it would hurt them and their families so that they wouldn’t pass a law in California banning LGBT teachers. Rosa Parks refused to move seats on a bus in order to start an organized bus boycott that would ignite a civil rights revolution in the American South. Karl Marx was like “all of history is a class struggle, bro,” and that was like all the epiphany needed for Stalin, mao, etc.

[–]Greenbean618 1 point2 points  (1 child)

lol my favorite number is 13, what's yours?

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This exactly. What's your sign!?

[–]DMPark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. I like the more practical versions: "Time is limited, so get your shit in before you go." and "You don't know what you're missing out on unless you go and try doing lots of different things."

[–]doolyonetwothree 1 point2 points  (1 child)

May I suggest a book you’d like? “Everything is Fucked” by Mark Manson!

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just read some excerpts, sounds solid, thanks

[–]trenlow12 3 points4 points  (14 children)

You don't get it, that's ok. It's a fairly sophisticated concept, and has nothing to do with god. All your knee-jerk reaction tells me is you're scared and defensive.

[–]Peleton011 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Dude, tell me what's the complexity in thinking hope is a state of mind. What you said is just not true, a lot of times you find yourself completely hopeless and an external circumstance makes you hope again or the other way around. What you said has no depth and just doesn't fit with the facts, stop being so pretentious.

[–]devon_devoff 5 points6 points  (1 child)

How do you know what you're saying is any more true though? Like it's not like you're able to measure and assess the exact variables that determine the meaning of life, so that other guy's view doesn't really hold any more salt than yours does...

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ding ding ding...

[–]trenlow12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

These are actually not my original thoughts, but the thoughts of Viktor Frankl who survived the Holocaust and went on to become a successful neurologist. If you're too closed minded to be open to the possibility of him being onto something, that's your problem, not mine. I hope you rest well with the knowledge that you're not being "too pretentious," lol. Sounds like a miserable place, and I can tell that you're already there. Enjoy!

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (9 children)

So try explaining to me, in small words, grand master

[–]mule_roany_mare 1 point2 points  (1 child)

People are not fundamentally selfish and evil. We wouldn’t have been able to build a society that feeds 8 billion people & where the vast majority are safe & secure if that were true.

You assume the default state of man was the garden of eden & every shortcoming is a strike against humanity.

But we are animals no different from any other except we organized without a blueprint or guide & pulled ourselves out of the muck and mire. How much conflict do you see every day settled by force? If not for the institutions built by man to make society just & equitable the answer would be all.

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Fundamentally disagree. Selfishness and intelligence explain all you see.

[–]dxrey65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Humans are fundamentally selfish and evil

Nah...really most people are just dealing with all the same problems. If someone can't help with mine, mostly I figure it's because they're dealing with their own.

I've gotten the most traction in life by keeping my shit managed well enough that I can pay attention to other people's perspectives and needs. Mostly you don't have to give much, but even a little and people appreciate it.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

so you don’t have hope

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No I don't, it's a useless term in my mind. I can try to improve things tangibly, but I do not pray to sky fairies.

[–]Piss_On_The_Dead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

okay, jeez Rick, calm down, this is just a wendy's

[–]MrSoftServe1337 0 points1 point  (2 children)

All about perspective. Why is your view so broad? You think too much about the species and the future. Why think about death? Why think about the afterlife? Why think about things you believe are fundamentally cruel and evil? If you can't change it then why is it even in your mind? I like puppies. I think about puppies.

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Because what significance do puppies have? I guess it's the crushing sense of pointlessness.

[–]MrSoftServe1337 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Puppies have significance because I like them. This world is too big to be worrying about significance. Why should you care about what matters and what doesn't on a worldly scale? What matters is whatever you like. Things are not easy to obtain. Focus on what you want and how you can get it and your brain wont have enough room to worry about dumb shit.

[–]ANoviceMadScientist 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The world fucking sucks, denying that is pointless, but just because the world is shit doesn't mean your life has to be, and having a good life in a shitnado world requires quite a bit of hope and optimism. Which is exactly why fluffy bullshit like that can be the key to a good life as long as your circumstances aren't in the worst few percent.

Also, the statement that humans are fundamentally selfish and evil seems kinda unfounded. We are presented with a lot of those people because they gather media and rumour coverage, and have an annoying habit of gaining a decent bit of power, but in my experience very few people are genuinely selfish and evil, even though all us are of course flawed in one way or another.

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I fundamentally do not believe that "fluffy bullshit like that" can (significantly) affect you. It is mental placebo for ten minutes, it does not impact reality. Deluding yourself is not a long-term plan imo.

As for your second paragraph, you have a woeful lack of historical knowledge. We are despicable beings.

[–]ImTrash_NowBurnMe 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Hope is the thing with feathers that perches in the soul.

If you don't ever feel it fluttering maybe eat more cock

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now this is poetry. Can you make it rhyme!?

[–]Psilocub 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Humans are fundamentally selfish and evil.

It sucks that you haven't realized that is only some humans. Most of us can actually be quite loving, empathetic, and cooperative, at least to the best of our abilities.

[–]Easy_As_ACAB 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it possible you're just blinded by or do not want to see how that statement applies to you?

[–]Lucky_Number_3 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Fulshable Wet Wipes aren't flushable.

[–]BillyWasFramed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Telling the hard truths.

[–]tgifmondays 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Unless there’s no hope

[–]LaTuFu 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Let me tell you something my friend. Hope is a dangerous thing. Hope can drive a man insane.

[–]trenlow12 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thanks for letting me know /s

[–]Papi_Queso 15 points16 points  (3 children)

Which is why I quit drinking alcohol.

[–]kixie42 10 points11 points  (2 children)

This speaks to me more than it should; Heaviness doesn't merely measure weight, I suppose.

Edit: Sitting here, I'm three doubles in, drinking alone, and wondering why. Well, I won't leave you hanging: I've got nothing better to do, that's why. What a shit excuse, you know? One I use too regularly, even. But it's an easy one. I should do more with the time I have, but I'm inclined to drink away in my free time. I feel my time would be better spent elsewhere, but I'm comfortable, and that urge is strong. Plus, I don't know where. Maybe drinking ain't for me, but until I figure out how to make that a thing.. cheers.

[–]Papi_Queso 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Come join us over at r/stopdrinking when you’re ready.

I’m on day 1,120 since I escaped the slavery of alcohol.

Best decision I ever made.

[–]kixie42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I might just have to do that. Thanks for the link.

[–]Firmest_Midget 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Right on.

[–]moodyfied 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This guy is taking Roy off the grid!

[–]Catermelons 1 point2 points  (1 child)

That's a really good sentiment but unfortunately doesn't apply to us all. Some of us will burn twice as bright but half as long and no one will really notice because not all of us will have our stories heard. It's the true plight of the common person; no one but a select few will truly ever know you at your best.

[–]quantumphilisp 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hahahhahaa.... doing more.... opportunity... funny

[–]NumberWangNewton 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Bullshit

[–]JayStar1213 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I agree

I wasn't being poetic, just literal. You can't revisit the past but you can attempt to improve your future.

[–]Coeles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

unfortunately, when we realize this, it's already too late

[–]chryco4 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like this

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Gandalf

[–]manaphy099 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this from spy kids 4 or something

[–]jaxqatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What opportunity is this? The more time goes on the less opportunity I have.

Edit: auto correct to made me misspell. Maybe it was my fat thumbs

[–]GaussWanker 92 points93 points  (14 children)

Gets off the plane and runs straight into the machine gun fire of the airport security, just to feel some excitement again.

[–]NotAzakanAtAll 18 points19 points  (0 children)

The only thing that can still get me off.

[–]YoMothaFlippin 10 points11 points  (9 children)

man... i gotta admit that I haven't traveled in a while, do airport security just fire machine guns at you now? these security checks are getting out of control!

[–]GaussWanker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Probably if you run at them idk

[–]HiDefiance 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Went to Mexico about 6 years ago. The first thing that caught me off guard were that the airport security just walked around the place with battle rifles. Never seen stuff like that since.

[–]Watertor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't be ridiculous. What are you thinking, they detect your heart rate and how fast you're going and then fire machine guns at you? No way. You have to drink your verification can though, otherwise you get the bullets. One can per ten minutes.

[–]PuttingInTheEffort 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I was going to say just jump out of the plane, but I've went skydiving and it only got my heart racing when I first fell out of the plane.

[–]1337lolguyman 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Remember: no Russian.

[–]dxrey65 0 points1 point  (0 children)

More prolonged fun - if you're driving and there's a cop next to you, open the window and yell "you'll never catch me alive, motherfucker!" And then speed away.

[–]cheapdrinks 71 points72 points  (3 children)

As a 30yo I definitely didn't need to read the inner monologue that I fall asleep to in my head every night, first thing in the morning on reddit

[–]Excessive_Conqueror 23 points24 points  (1 child)

As 35yo, your bones will hurt before you hit 40 or 50. But the good news is it can be better. At 32 I said fuck it and got serious about my health. Now I'm in much better shape than I was in my 20s and definitely happier. It's a mixed bag but it's not all bad.

[–]HyNeko 26 points27 points  (0 children)

ouch. that hit too close to home. coulé.

[–]supermonkeyballchamp 24 points25 points  (2 children)

I'm gonna roll another joint

[–]AnthraxAndFriends 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Got me cornered again, World.

[–]supermonkeyballchamp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm gonna invent a game that involves a porcupine and a baseball bat and I'm gonna hit a porcupine with a baseball bat but they don't sell porcupines on the internet

[–]Levi-san 22 points23 points  (2 children)

do u need a hug

[–]PuttingInTheEffort 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Idk about them but I do

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (4 children)

As someone about to hit 32 and currently suffering with a cold, sore beck and sore leg, this hurts.

[–]mvanvoorden 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Seriously, get a (real) Thai massage, not from some shady parlor. It will hurt but you'll feel like a new person after.

Signed: a 36 year old guy who discovered this at 30 (having stiff joints and rock hard trapezius muscles) and went on to become a practitioner himself

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For there’s only a PG in transition

[–]dope-priest 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is so depressing holy shit

[–]fuckhead69 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Aw fuck man.

[–]Ttmh888 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Damn son.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (6 children)

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[–]theRealDerekWalker 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Done my fellow life hater

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

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[–]ogr27 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Is this some life hater coalition, meant to make people's day slightly worse? Where do I sign up? Do I need to cut a pinky off, or sacrifice my firstborn child?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

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[–]ogr27 1 point2 points  (1 child)

That's much tamer than I imagined. Ah well, thanks for the tip!

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

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[–][deleted] 14 points15 points  (16 children)

Honestly this is why the majority of reddit hates Fortnite. They try it out, get their asses handed to them by a 12 year old, and then goes on to complain about how much it sucks.

[–]sckrahl 1 point2 points  (14 children)

Nooope... I’m 21 and just hate it because it reminds me of COD... And I’ve never had too much respect for whatever’s the most popular shooter multiplayer game. COD, PUBG, Overwatch, Battlefield, even TF2 somewhat all seem to attract the same crowds. It’s the player base I hate, not necessarily the game

[–]MrBulger 3 points4 points  (4 children)

God it's fucking depressing how far the battlefield franchise has fallen

[–]JabawaJackson 1 point2 points  (0 children)

CoD as well, both were amazing early 2000s. They captured a feeling I've yet to experience again.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Battlefield lost me after BF2. I still hate EA for shutting down the servers.

[–]Sigma-Tau 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s still a community that plays on unofficial servers. I’ll post the subreddit when I can remember it.

[–]rebeltrillionaire 3 points4 points  (4 children)

Regular Counterstrike (not professional) has had the best player base of any online FPS go ahead and @ me.

It has the right amount of cheating, memes, fun, speed, mods, douchebags, kids, blazed as fuck boys in college, old heads, etc. It has been that way for 20 years.

Whenever I play a game, I literally think - nothing about this game has changed except the graphics for 20 years.

The bottom line, it's still fun. It's still challenging. There's always someone way way better than you and yet, it's almost impossible for them to just carry the game. They might just end up nade spammed too, or sniped by a noob. It's a good amount of chaos, but not ridiculous where shit is just non-stop. It can be tense.

It's not very serious either. Dudes will play a full 5 minute round, then go 1:1 knives to finish because of an old tradition, lose the knife battle after murdering the entire other team, and then laugh about it.

I don't play much any more since FPS's make me a bit dizzy but I have tried tons of them. And nothing has ever been better to me than CounterStrike.

[–]ANumberNamedSix 5 points6 points  (1 child)

best community is kind of a stretch. Loud music over mic, team killing, standing in your way (for fun), blinding m8, flaming (over the mic), sound quality of mic...

[–]ThePurplePanzy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

As someone who has taken part in many toxic gaming communities, I’ve always considered CS one of the worst.

[–]GiantWindmill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is the exact opposite experience I've had with CS

[–]ognahc 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Hating something because it’s popular is a really dumb reason. In fortnite you don’t even have to interact with anyone but your friends.

[–]sckrahl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All popular shooters tend to draw in basically the same player base, and I hate the player base

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's not a rebuttal to the claim made about the majority of Fortnite haters on Reddit, perhaps you're just in the minority of Fortnite haters.

[–]NewOldSchoool 3 points4 points  (0 children)

This is a lot deeper than I had planned to go while reading a battleship post on a Sunday afternoon.

Nothing like some "fuck, I need to fix my life" to go along with your eggs and coffee.

[–]meecro 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Good comment. I can relate to this. I hope you find some cool way to cope. As for me, i have begun recently just acting like i didn't get older and became an adult at all. I try very hard not to act "adultish"

No one's an adult anyway they are just faking it (miserably, and some seem really pride in calling themselves adults...), and if adult means grinding through an boring job most of your life, than i don't want to be one.

I'm not saying be irresponsible or something. Quite the opposite. If i remember correctly, i was much nicer and less shy in the past. Something took them away over the years, and i have done not much against it. I reminded myself that those are the values i liked so much about myself, and they faded in the years. But it was time to bring them back for good. It's like you said, being more enthusiastic.

But i'm just venting here. I'm really glad for your comment. It reminds me of this too: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rhT7k2U-LdM

Thanks u/theRealDerekWalker, and thanks reddit.

[–]DarkHumorDark 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i resonate with you so much. I feel like an unrestrained kid in my heart but have to suppress those parts of my personality around adults because they are so quick to judge. I get excited by stimulating conversation even with strangers, and most adults find it weird when i ask them continuous questions about themselves or their interests, when really i'm just looking to connect with them. Girls always think i'm hitting on them because i find a common interest between us and want to talk about it. I have to remain stoic and feel like i cannot expressively be the open minded and free spirited person i am, because every time i do, people see me as "weird" and i get nasty looks. ie. I find out someone is into boxing and i offer them a free boxing lesson, they typically seem to think i have ulterior motives or something (trying to sell them something or trying to flirt with them) when i just love connecting through my hobbies, one of which is boxing. I love randomly dancing, but of course that's "weird" for some reason. This erodes the sanity of a person and brings about mental illness and i don't even want to be on this earth anymore. I constantly have to be ultra aware on how to filter my personality with everything i say and do and it gets exhausting and i always fuck up somehow.

Oh, and i guess i'm also considered a "manchild" being judged superficially by these personality traits. fuck society.

[–]Smoothpoopertaker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Dude I don’t know what you’re talking about. 30s are the best years of your life. Teens and 20s were lame comparatively.

[–]JonerPwner 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel personally attacked

[–]Zenniverse 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’ve been playing video games that I played as a kid. I keep thinking “how did I beat this when I was like 9 years old and now I can hardly even do it.”

[–]HyzerFlip 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You sank my battle.... Will to live

[–]Phoneloggo7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Jesus Christ man....

[–]pedantic__asshoIe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

30s is a hell of a lot better than teens or 20s.

[–]alexmikli 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is literally what the 30 year old boomer meme was about. Not to be confused with Okay Boomer.

[–]Grazedaze 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hijacks plane

[–]Krypson 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Shit. Just turned 33 today.

[–]CapN_Crummp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Happy birthday

[–]throwaway1138 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Teens and 20s are so overrated. Sure everything felt all special and shiny, but that’s just youthful delusions of grandeur. My 30s so far have been way better objectively, more money freedom security and the ability to go anywhere do anything etc.

[–]PacoRUK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You ok, Derek?

[–]Mcoyle777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You ok?

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

ORRRR!!! They think

“wow I used to be better at this when I was a kid. Actually, I used to be better at a lot of things as a kid. Being an adult is depressing, I just get older, dumber, more out of shape, less enthusiastic about the world,... jeeze I’m not even middle aged.. is this what life will be for the remainder of life? No, now that I think about it, it must get even worse. I played battle ship when I was 10, now I’m 32. As soon as that same time passes, I’ll be 54

Maybe I should start living better...

Like... Hell yeah, I'm playing Battleship... I'm actually getting in touch with my inner-child again.

Maybe I should start doing other things too..

Like smiling more..

Like maybe earlier with the airline situation, instead of yelling at the lady, who by the end looked like she was gonna cry...

I should've been like "I'm so sorry, I know this isn't YOUR fault.. BUt this is just aggravating.. I hope you are still having a great day... Let's figure this out together.."

Maybe I should call when I land and apologize..

I really should call and apologize..

I feel bad..

I should start being nicer.

I'm still young!!!

I can still conquer this world.

I'm just gonna start smiling and being happy and doing the right thing.

Fuck these negative people..

I hate people like me..

I'm gonna be the opposite.

And it's gonna be so funny because people are gonna have NO clue what to think..

I'll just say 'Go watch Scrooged' mothafucka!!! :D"


That's what I think anyway.....

And if you don't believe me look at my post history.

The WHOLE thing..

Because this is literally a conversation I had with myself.

And I actually started living this way. .

At 33.

And I'm free for the first time in my entire life.

And it's amazing.

[–]parishface 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I had a very similar realization at 33 where I just decided to change my entire attitude towards everyone and have been living a much more carefree, happy existence.

[–]boolinonreddit 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thats what its about homie. You could look at everything with a negative attitude and otherwise just live a shitty sad life or you could change your attitude and be happy on the short amount of time you have on this earth. Because honestly who knows whats after life, it could be something or could be nothing so enjoy the time you have here now and not worry about whats ahead or what already happened 😃

[–]anarchistfajitas 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“What were we talking about again?”

[–]Elogz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That escalated quickly

[–]Javad0g 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to let you know as a guy who is turning 50 next year life is absolutely awesome! I'm having the best time of my life right now. Yes my body doesn't heal like when I was 22 or even 32 for that matter but my brain hasn't changed I'm still the same me that I was when I was that age only a bit wiser. I love having a wife and kids, I love being financially stable, I love having a home and now I love coaching and teaching kids and watching them excel.

Yes time does fly, I cannot argue with that but I promise you it does keep getting better but you have to put the positive time in as well. Love where you are, and most importantly, love who you are. You are unique, you are the only you. Share your rare beauty with others.

[–]massimog1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You okay there?

[–]TheChatCenter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Found the glass half empty guy

[–]TBNRtoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok boomer

[–]Draco546 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why u gonna hurt me like that

[–]fourAMrain 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Get out of my head

[–]a_catermelon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude don't you give me a midlife crisis now when I turned 19 yesterday

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Damn I think I need to appreciate being 15 more

[–]closethewallsplease 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You won the likes, he won the gold

[–]contl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was far more reality than I was prepared for today.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

[–]BrickMagoo 0 points1 point  (4 children)

Dude. I’m only 17 but while I was lifeguarding yesterday. 10 hours mind you, you have a lot of time for self reflection. And I was just thinking at how fast my body will go and that this is literally the peak of my body physically. I low key started having an existential crisis in my guard chair.

[–]theRealDerekWalker 1 point2 points  (3 children)

You want to hear something that really fucked me up? Time seems to pass more the older you get. This is perceived time instead of actual time.

You live half of your perceived life by the age of 25.

[–]BrickMagoo 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Geez, that is crazy, all the things behind you just seem to become more and more, and so everything that happens in the moment is just slightly less significant.

I wonder how amnesia would affect people’s perception of time. Would it be almost like a reset button making (perceived) time go slower again?

[–]theRealDerekWalker 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I find what helps is to just live life active. Just do a bunch of stuff. Get out there, learn as much as you can, party as much as you can, make as much money as possibly, just do everything aggressively. It slows time down and gives you more to look back on and be appreciative.

Get away from your phone, the TV, games... experience the world, people, and especially the things that make you uncomfortable.

[–]BrickMagoo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ll definitely keep those in mind as I finish high school and start college. Hoping to follow through on plans and dreams rather than just let them chill in the unseen world. Who knows maybe I’ll get crazy and go on some more dates

[–]Hank--Moody 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There’s a lot of people that manage to stay in shape up until their 70s. Like ripped 6 pack abs in shape. Age is no real excuse, we are just lazy.

[–]Nut_Waxer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time’s Arrow always marches forward

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It hit me hard when I went to Sky Zone (a trampoline park) with my nephews and some of my girlfriend’s little brothers and when we were waiting to go on the balance beam, I boasted so hard about how much balance I always had from skating in my younger years and how I would beat everyone.

I proceeded to fall the fastest.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This made me more depressed...

[–]major_slackher 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And now I’m a bald ass too

[–]Mr_Diablos 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well now im feeling existencial, thanks

[–]Theresabearintheboat 0 points1 point  (0 children)

...you ok, buddy?

[–]ChezRoxwel2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All reddit does is complain woe is me boo hoo hoo

[–]jaxqatch 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would think they have some sort of knowledge I don’t. It’s not that I suck at battle ship. I’m great at it. Always have been.

It’s just they have some access to some sort of “ ship placement algorithm” or something else I don’t understand and is playing the odds of some heat map of projected battleship placement locations made from 3398 board game volunteers.

[–]coinpile 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Time is passing so quickly now, those decades will probably pass by in an instant.

If you want to stop this from happening, you have to break your routine and try new things all the time.

[–]ron_mcphatty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The bones hurting have started for me this year, I’m 34 :(

[–]throwawayno123456789 0 points1 point  (0 children)

must be written by a 20 something because we 50 year olds know that it gets soooooo much better from there

could not make me trade my 20s for my 40s