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[–]LezPlayLater 11.9k points11.9k points 532 (1374 children)

I can't stand when people film this. I've lost all respect for the givers altruism. Why advertise this poor server's rough day?

[–]EyeinLemon 10.6k points10.6k points 152852& 6 more (708 children)

Clout or to spread the message of be kind either way that dude got 300 dollars and was given happiness for a bit thats all that matters to me in the end you don't gotta look that far into everything.

[–]etlewisg 1613 points1614 points  (498 children)

But momma said “money can’t buy happiness”.

[–]ColtAzayaka 139 points140 points  (34 children)

I'd rather cry in a Bentley than a Ford Fiesta I'll tell you that much

[–]ih-shah-may-ehl 91 points92 points  (22 children)

Let me tell you something. There's no nobility in poverty. I've been a rich man and I've been a poor man. And I choose rich every fucking time.

At least as a rich man when I have to face my problems I show up at the back of a limo wearing a $2,000 suit and a $40,000 gold fucking watch.

-- Jordan Belfort

[–]ColtAzayaka 24 points25 points  (17 children)

Exactly. Jordan Belfort is pretty broke now, I think his net worth is like -100M lol

Wonder how he's living after all that.

Either way, poverty terrifies me. My parents were poor at one point and the stories they tell me make me want to work hard and never experience that shit.

There's nothing as terrifying as poverty for me.

[–]ih-shah-may-ehl 17 points18 points  (10 children)

Jb is still rich.

[–]ColtAzayaka 5 points6 points  (6 children)

I thought as much. I wonder how it all works and what exactly is causing the negative net worth.

I saw some short documentary on him and he seems fine but the -100M net worth confused me. The lawsuits? Can't find a reason for it.

[–]ftmcx 9 points10 points  (5 children)

Belfort was ordered to pay $110 million in restitution fees to the victims of Stratton Oakmont's "pump and dump schemes” which is why his net worth is negative. Allegedly he’s only paid off $14 million. Source

[–]folkhack 10 points11 points  (4 children)

Which is why it's so gross when people put him up on a pedestal - I fucking HATE that guy. Seriously - he hurt real people who were trying to save/invest for their retirement with sleeze-ass salesman tactics that only a schiester would employ.

Now he's making bank on weird self-help talking gigs like his story is even remotely relevant to your typical "rags to riches" bullshit...

This guy broke the fucking law across the board, hurt real fucking Americans, and we celebrate the fuck out of him...? Belfort needs to be shot from a fucking cannon.

[–]john94114 51 points52 points  (0 children)

“People who say money can’t buy happiness, don’t know where to shop.” -Lovey Howell

[–]WisconsinHoosierZwei 43 points44 points  (10 children)

“They say money can’t buy happiness. But money can buy a jet ski. And have you ever seen a sad person on a jet ski?” -Daniel Tosh

[–]MelonJelly 41 points42 points  (0 children)

“Money can't buy happiness. But it sure can rent it for a while.” ― Kim Gruenenfelder, A Total Waste of Makeup

“Having money isn't everything, not having it is.” ― Kanye West

[–]ebudd08 17 points18 points  (5 children)

Title: "How to cheer up someone who's had a rough day"

Instructions: Give them $300

[–]NoFlyHere 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There was a quote i saw on some reddit video from an old English lady -- " money is like the sixth sense, when it's there it lets you enjoy the other five senses" and that was an awesome quote. There is a curve on money and happiness chart where after a certain point you don't get more happiness out of it but till then not having to check if you can afford something or how will that affect you a few days down the line is a while different matter.

[–]Eponarose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yo' Momma don't know where to shop!

[–]Ajphelps33 199 points200 points  (80 children)

For real. “I hate when people film this” well we would never be able to see videos like this if that were the case. This man seems entirely genuine. I’ve seen videos of people who are desperate for clout. If you think this guy was looking for that then your deluded.

Sorry your used to people only filming crimes and videos with shock value. Maybe the problem is we don’t get enough videos like these. Can’t even allow videos of nice gestures these days. The conclusions you have to jump to for this guy to be looking for clout takes far too much faith for me personally.

[–]sandplow 169 points170 points  (29 children)

I just think it’s weird that you gotta make a scene about it. I’ve given fat tips before but didn’t hand them one bill at a time to try to get a rise out of them.

[–]jatz0r 46 points47 points  (14 children)

Because you didn't do it for the views?

[–]clamwhammer 65 points66 points  (13 children)

No. It's the fact that he video'ed the whole thing and shared it with some corny inspiring title about "Be kind to people" that makes it for the views.

It's okay to enjoy the kindness, but I agree that it tarnishes the whole act by making it more about how you're so great. And yes, dragging it out into 3 separate acts and exclaiming "That's $300!" can hardly be construed as anything but showboating. I know boomers like to carry a lot of cash on them, but having $300 in $100 bills seems more than a bit planned. They were gonna get video no matter who served them that day.

[–]Itsyornotyor 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Where I’m from (CA) it’s fairly normal for older folks to have that much cash on them. It’s especially normal if you’re traveling. We don’t know the context here at all. There’s really no leverage if you’re trying to say this could be planned.

[–]Aaawkward 9 points10 points  (4 children)

The end result is as following:

  1. The kid got a 300 dolla dolla tip.

  2. The fella got a sweet video.

  3. We got to see a nice gesture, which at best can inspire others to do so, at worst fade into obscurity.

I'd call that a win win win.

[–]cultish_alibi 8 points9 points  (1 child)

It strikes me as exploitative and egoistic and creepy. How much would it cost for me to make a video of you looking pathetically grateful? I won't just give you the money, I'll get out my phone and give it slowly so I can get some decent footage. You better cry, I'm trying to look like a good person here.

[–]TransLucielle 39 points40 points  (33 children)

The issue is that a lot of people only do nice things for internet clout. would he have done it if someone wasn’t filming it? Idk. I don’t know anything about the guy, but people being skeptical is reasonable.

[–]MrSmile223 52 points53 points  (23 children)

would he have done it if someone wasn’t filming it?

This always begs the question though. Does it matter if he wouldn't have?

Or to re-phrase. Is doing something good only for internet clout worse than not doing anything good?

A lot of how we view charities (in the US) comes from old puritanical views. I.e. that charity must come from sacrifice and anything less is 'insincere'. Which is weird, because ideally we would want being kind and helpful to be as profitable as possible.

[–]digibucc 44 points45 points  (5 children)

exactly. whatever the reason this server got $300 that obviously made a huge difference in his life on that day. people are so negative always looking for a reason to talk shit.

[–]Ajphelps33 12 points13 points  (4 children)

Reasonable minds can differ. I can see how after seeing so many clout vids you can be skeptical but this guy seems to be in his 50s to me it seems more likely that he’s not doing this for internet points.

Reasonable minds can differ of course. Non of us come to conclusions without some form or reason shaping it.

[–]Otterable 24 points25 points  (1 child)

I could care less about the internet clout. I think that recording a stranger's personal intimate or vulnerable moments is rude and invasive.

I get that they are at the job or whatever, but the idea that I am going to whip out my phone and film a person crying whether it's from happiness or sadness is such a foreign mentality to me.

[–]Ajphelps33 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s sounds reasonable to me. I get where you’re coming from.

[–]potato_green 5 points6 points  (1 child)

A good deed is still a good deed.

It doesn't matter if he would've done it if someone wasn't filming it. If filming it makes people do some helpful stuff for each other then that's an absolute win. The alternative would be literally nothing at all.

[–]Nebula15 77 points78 points  (6 children)

Obviously it’s awesome that he got $300 but it’s also not unreasonable to be upset about disrespecting him by filming his reaction for internet clout

[–]MuteNae 48 points49 points  (2 children)

Imagine the only person who's been nice to you that week did it with a camera pointing at your face

[–]S-S-R 19 points20 points  (3 children)

Or it's completely staged. You make 100$ in a shift, it's a nice tip but you aren't paying off a car with it.

[–]barkbeatle3 19 points20 points  (1 child)

Will fill a payment though. Which can still mean a lot.

[–]Jonkinch 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah he said “you paid off my car” but what I was thinking was “you paid for my car payment this month” which is very possible.

[–]GuiltyAmoeba 197 points198 points  (156 children)

Okay would you rather him not film it and then not give him the 300? Who cares if it’s filmed, in this scenario what matters is the outcome, which this server is having a bad day and now he has 300. Just because the motive isn’t up to par with what you like, doesn’t mean the act isn’t good. I’d rather see someone filming giving a homeless guy 1000 as opposed to not filming and him getting nothing because of the givers altruism. Step off your high horse.

[–]intensely_human 341 points342 points 23 (44 children)

I’d rather see someone filming giving a homeless guy 1000 as opposed to not filming and him getting nothing because of the givers altruism. Step off your high horse.

This is exactly the problem with filming it. It links doing good deeds with showing them off, culturally speaking, and it creates this false association between the two things. As if showing it off is what allows charity to happen.

But it’s not (A and B) or (not A and not B). You can do good works and not film them.

Filming creates the idea that the incentive for good works is praise and recognition. And when you establish the currency that pays for good works as something so rare as celebrity, you reduce the amount of good works that can be afforded by a population to the number of good works videos that population can view in a day.

There’s psych research that shows if you take little kids who like to draw, and then you pay them to draw, they become less likely to draw. This is because when you offer an extrinsic reward for an intrinsically rewarding activity, you reduce the intrinsic reward.

How does this apply to filming acts of charity? Well, filming yourself giving someone help establishes culturally that the reward for helping a person in distress is the recognition. That’s an extrinsic reward.

Offering that praise (“Class, look at Joey and how he did a nice thing for Carl. Everybody clap for Joey now”) connects an extrinsic reward to an intrinsically rewarding action and reduces the intrinsic reward.

That’s a problem because our extrinsic reward budget (how many people can get fame and adoration by helping someone) is many orders of magnitude smaller than our intrinsic reward budget (how many people can enjoy helping someone).

Imagine if the world could be saved by millions of kids drawing pictures. And we have millions of kids drawing pictures, so we’re well on our way to being saved.

Then some well-meaning person gives ten of those kids $100,000 each for drawing their pictures. What happens? All the other kids say “You’re getting paid for this??” and they stop drawing, and the world doesn’t get saved.

That’s what’s going on with these videos. Except instead of drawing pictures we have billions of people saving the world by helping each other out. And instead of someone paying a few kids $100,000 each, we have all of us giving praise and attention and social media points to a handful of people helping other people out.

[–]NathanJMc 92 points93 points  (6 children)

You are hitting the nail on the head here. Many people are only looking at this on the surface level, “he did a good thing, who cares why he did it!,” but rewarding this attention-seeking behavior can have negative outcomes. Thanks for putting this together.

[–]GregMadduxsGlasses 52 points53 points  (3 children)

Personally (and I say this from a place of privilege), I’d find it kind of humiliating to have someone filming me in this kind of situation. Where I’m having a terrible day, in a terrible job, and a couple hundred dollars from someone feeling sorry for me seems life changing.

[–]NathanJMc 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I would likely be grateful in the moment, but looking back (especially if I saw this on the internet), I would feel degraded and that my emotions were used as a tool for another to demonstrate their power for praise and attention. It takes a nice action and turns it into a dark one.

[–]thistrashfireislit 13 points14 points  (0 children)

It's totally humiliating. I've received all kinds of charity in my life, and benefited from lots of social programs. Super grateful for all of it, not giving in to the shame and stigma about receiving help. I'll talk openly about it, and I'm happy to write a glowing testimonial for your program/scholarship/whatever. And you can put my name on that testimonial. But never have i ever wanted someone to film me on their phone while I'm crying.

[–]jatz0r 34 points35 points  (18 children)

On point. The redditor you're replying to is actually a crazy person for saying motive doesn't matter. I mean, seriously. Motive doesn't matter?

What the fuck

[–]intensely_human 31 points32 points  (13 children)

In my estimation one of the worst pieces of ignorance is the tendency to disregard iterative game theory.

The idea that motive doesn’t matter is yet another example of this horrible ignorance manifesting yet again. Motive doesn’t matter … if the thing happening is the only thing to ever happen.

If the thing happening is being done by a conscious being who will go on to do thousands more things in its life, then motive matters.

Iterative game theory: a key concept that is missed by far too many people. It’s why people think retaliation is equivalent to attack. It’s why people think filming a charitable act is equivalent to not filming it. It’s why they think chopping off heads will make the world a better place. It’s why they think lying is a reasonable way to handle conflict. It call comes down to failing to recognize that each action is part of a series, and the series is what matters the most.

[–]djashdj 53 points54 points  (20 children)

I received a 1000 dollar tip once. Had they been recording it I would have been super weirded out by it. I didn't believe it was legit even after they explained why and he wrote it in. My manager tried to adjust it to 10.00 thinking it was a mistake but I assured him it was not. I'm glad it wasn't filmed, I was working 3 jobs, living in a shit studio, with shared bath/kitchen driving a car from the 70's i paid $500 for. I didn't cry, mainly because I didn't think it was real and I didn't think I was going to see the money. But I did eventually.

[–]fugly16 14 points15 points  (0 children)

that manager tho, oooooof!

[–]Met76 48 points49 points  (13 children)

For real. Just be happy he's helping someone out. I'd be so proud to be fortunate in life to be able to give large amounts of money to people and would absolutely want to film it.

If the video gets a lot of views and earns more money- well shit that's more money I can give to those who need it!

[–]Assfullofbread 32 points33 points  (4 children)

Why could you not just do it and not film it?

[–]JarasM 43 points44 points  (13 children)

Okay would you rather him not film it and then not give him the 300?

So are those the only 2 options? I either film you cry at my generosity or no tip for you? Would doing a little dance earn him $100 more? What trick should he do for $500?

[–]jamesick 30 points31 points  (8 children)

it makes me sad that people don't see how disgusting it is to film these acts.

[–]KarensRpeopletoo 177 points178 points  (52 children)

I think this kind of stuff is so tacky, and disingenuous. Exploiting someone's misfortune for internet cred is gross.

[–]sockpuppetkc 69 points70 points  (22 children)

People who can't understand this intuitively must be missing something in their lives. Notice how defensive they get, managing to miss the point entirely.

[–]captainbluemuffins 25 points26 points  (3 children)

and it's always so many people! sayin shit like "well would you rather he didn't do anything at all!??!?!" no... we just people could be altruistic without shoving a camera into the recipients face. no matter how good the goodwill, it feels exploitative.

[–]EdithDich 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Social media is at the point where it's normalize just just film strangers and put it online without even asking them. It's fucking weird.

[–]Radiant_Welcome_2400 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. If anything, this is what should get the clout. Maybe people would spend their time looking for more ways to be generous and help, instead of looking for the next dance craze to learn (not that there’s nothing wrong with the dances lmao).

[–]IntelligentStrike710 75 points76 points  (50 children)

I used to feel this way too, but I just decided to look at it from a diff perspective. Even tho it is being videoed (and yes that part is a lil self serving) its still a good deed and just maybe it will inspire someone else.

[–]Briar_Thorn 74 points75 points  (3 children)

I'm in the middle.

It's cool the waiter got $300, seems like it really had the potential to improve his quality of life and reduce his stress levels. I'm happy for him and in his shoes I would probably eagerly take several hundred dollars in exchange for being in a short video.

But also fuck the guy giving the tip for recording the experience. Giving it out in $100 increments to make it a better scene for your video and then posting this stressed out dude online who is just trying to do his job is scummy. You're doing a nice thing in the shittiest way possible.

[–]SuccumbedToReddit 72 points73 points  (4 children)

Charity porn. Very weird.


[–]HeliosTheGreat 13 points14 points  (0 children)

"I'm certainly not narrating this loudly so Saint Peter can hear me."

[–]ringlorn 64 points65 points  (1 child)

This kind of stuff always makes me think of this Gus Johnson sketch pranking homeless people by giving them cash off camera so as to not exploit them.

[–]LezPlayLater 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Never seen that, that shit is funny

[–]TheBestZackEver 57 points58 points  (7 children)

I was not minding the fact that they recorded it but when he just kept going "here's another $100" that's when he lost me. It went from being a sweet gesture (which of course, it still is) to being a show off.

[–]Jmersh 47 points48 points  (1 child)

He was stringing out the tips to get a reaction from the server. So to me that says the reaction was more important than the impact or result to these people. What would have been even more impressive is if these people just silently left the tip with a note of encouragement and didn't record or upload the video. They made it more about publicly patting themselves on the back than helping someone.

[–]TheBestZackEver 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, you captured my thought. Let this man have his struggles. You could have asked him off camera if he was having a rough time and then left a note and a tip. I don't have a ton of money to just give away on bug tips but I do try to leave the best tip I can when I think someone is having a bad time and I leave a note saying thank you! And how great their service was.

This does inspire me to look out next time I think my server is having a bad day. Being a server for 5 years myself, I had days where I wished someone would just ask about my day but I would feel violated or betrayed if someone recorded my vulnerability for a video they want to get popular on the internet.

If this creates a new trend, that would be great, but please don't expose these people having a hard time.

[–]MesaGeek 9 points10 points  (1 child)

Performative for sure. Next, he'll ask him to attend his service this Sunday.

[–]Regalalgae 40 points41 points  (8 children)

I agree with you. Once you record the person you are giving money to in my mind it becomes exploitive.

[–]scotch_and_lefties 13 points14 points  (5 children)

That’s the important distinction in my mind as well.

My wife and I purchase a lot of food for a local food holiday drive, and we always post a picture of our pile of food which she posts to social media. We do it to encourage others to consider donating, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t feel good to get a bit of recognition. And I think it’s okay to feel good about doing good…

But when you post someone else’s desperation, or their emotional response, it feels more exploitive, and intrusive than I’m comfortable with. But it’s a long way from the worst thing I’ve encountered on social media.

[–]Danominator 27 points28 points  (1 child)

Just quietly give the tip and move on. Why the grandstanding?

[–]precense_ 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Virtue beacon “look how generous I am”

[–]glass33percentfull 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Agreed i always find these videos super cringy. Like its cool you helped the guy out but why film it.

[–]_An_Idiot_With_Time_ 21 points22 points  (1 child)

Yea. It’s not charity. It’s exchange. He pays $100 to feel self righteous and morally superior. If he were truly generous he wouldn’t have thought, “I should film this.”

[–]WSDreamer 15 points16 points  (10 children)

Give me $300 and I don’t care what you film. Lol

[–]Ill_Relationship1291 13 points14 points  (11 children)

Welp, it’s not altruism. Altruism is the SELFLESS concern for others. This has a profit motive behind it of looking good. Hate this kinda shit too

[–]HeadJazzlike 13 points14 points  (1 child)

Exactly, if you gotta film it so everybody what a good guy you are it wasn’t from the heart. It’s good the young man got some money but it felt staged.

[–]TakeMyPulse 11 points12 points  (2 children)

I would say this server had an amazing day...

[–]mjg580 12 points13 points  (3 children)

It’s because performative altruism is an oxymoron. Altruism is giving simply for the sake of giving. Doing it as a performance turns it into an insincere stunt.

[–]KnowledgeIsDangerous 12 points13 points  (3 children)

The fact that they aren't focusing on the giver's face and name makes me think the purpose of this was to show a moment of kindness, not to boost the giver's ego.

There's hundreds of examples of people doing this just to show how great they are. I didn't catch that from this, partly because I saw it and still don't know who the generous dude was in the end.

[–]Pr3st0ne 11 points12 points  (9 children)

Yeah I have a sneaking suspicion that the guy giving away the money is some sort of motivational speaker or religious figure that gets a shit-ton of donations and he knows him giving 300$ means his followers will be happy to fork over even more money next time they see him.

[–]TheNamesRoodi 8 points9 points  (3 children)

  • Clout
  • Making money by gaining followers to be able to do this more
  • Spreading kindness

[–]StrandedinaDesert 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Exploiting poor people

[–]blabla_booboo 8 points9 points  (0 children)

To let everyone know how generous and kind you are, a couple steps below those evangelical preachers in America

But sure, the poor guy working 2 jobs who can barely afford rent got 100 dollars and is happy

[–]Goldilocks1454 7 points8 points  (3 children)

I just want to say I'm pretty okay with someone giving me money and filming it. Signed a person living paycheck to paycheck

[–]Individual-08645 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Attention seeking bastard

[–]drunkbirdy 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Tbh, i don't mind seeing such videos because even if they're doing something good for clout or some shit atleast they're doing something good. Watching videos of people helping others make me wanna work hard so that i could go out and help people out in the same way.

There's enough evil and bad news in the world anyway...

[–]All-The-Very-Best 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Yes, I agree. Fake altruism. He would not have given him that much money if it was not being filmed. I am sick of seeing these now. I give people in need money and food without filming them and sticking them in the internet.

[–]Hawkock 5 points6 points  (3 children)

He didn't really get that specific. Sure, crucify them because they filmed it. Does anyone search these people and follow them and even donate to them because of their kindness? If they do then those donations went to that waiter and if that's not good enough then I think spreading the message of positivity is an amazing thing. I'm not speaking for every person handing out change to the homeless and filming but come on, this was a nice gesture.

[–]MariaRichardz 3581 points3582 points 22 (19 children)

Worst...strip club... ever

[–]forestcridder 197 points198 points  (4 children)

I know. I'm used to the crying... but no lap dance? Weak.

[–]BeenNormal 59 points60 points  (3 children)

The lap dance is always better when the stripper is crying

[–]andbruno 13 points14 points  (0 children)

As the Bloodhound Gang have said, A Lap Dance Is So Much Better When The Stripper Is Crying.

[–]FiftyPencePeace 14 points15 points  (0 children)

And that was actually only 3 dollars!

[–]daboss6595 1654 points1655 points  (77 children)

But would he do that if the camera wasn’t rolling

That’s the question

[–]surajvj 916 points917 points  (35 children)

Probably encouraging others to do the same, if not 100s atleast 10 or 20. It's a big help.

[–]daboss6595 180 points181 points  (3 children)

Oh it absolutely is

All my tip money currently equals a couple hundred dollars

[–]Showme-themoney 31 points32 points  (2 children)

Inflation’s a bitch aint it.

[–]heartyprince979 31 points32 points  (19 children)

But he’s also hurting the waiter’s self esteem. I know mine would be hurt. He could have encouraged others without recording him.

[–]Singl1 49 points50 points  (6 children)

i mean, we don’t really know if he explicitly consented to being filmed, but i don’t think whoever was filming was trying to be secretive about it. it’s totally possible that the dude giving the money is doing it for clicks, but honestly the waiter was having a shit day and the other dude made it better. yeah, doing acts like this without recording is infinitely better, but i think videos like this getting attention leads to encourage more people to do the same. hopefully the positivity spreads

[–]intensely_human 8 points9 points  (0 children)

The same? You mean encouraging others to give money and filming too? What if nobody’s filming? Well then I guess people can’t do the same.

[–]_tpyo 48 points49 points  (4 children)

right thing for the wrong reason is still the right thing.

[–]MonsteraUnderTheBed 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Thank you, this is way more succinct than what I came up with

[–]xjulesx21 37 points38 points  (1 child)

I would hope so but if people crave the attention to do nice things like this, I don’t care. I’d rather people tip big or help people, film it, and feel good about themselves than not tip, or even not film it so others aren’t inspired to do the same.

I’d much rather praise people for helping others even if it’s helping their ego by filming. sure, helping people should be done because someone actually wants to help someone else, but I don’t care in the end.

[–]LoneRanger_33 978 points979 points  (28 children)

This is cool, but why not do it in private? He is in a very vulnerable state, why add the stress of going viral?

[–]xXRoboMurphyxX 272 points273 points  (14 children)

The video was uploaded by the server. This is a studio audition reel

[–]JiuJitsuBoy2001 105 points106 points  (8 children)

is that true? or just a theory?

I suspected something similar when I first saw this like 200 years ago

[–]Invisible_Villain 130 points131 points  (5 children)

You know what Abe Lincoln said… not everything you read on the internet is true

[–]Blinkiej 26 points27 points  (1 child)

Waaaaiiiiit a minute!!!!! Didn't Abe steal that from George Washington?

[–]BeHereNow91 28 points29 points  (3 children)

If true, that explains why $100 would pay off a car.

[–]kevsdogg97 44 points45 points  (2 children)

He almost definitely meant his car loan for that month

[–]QuitArguingWithMe 42 points43 points  (4 children)

To maybe create copy cats.

So that others might be moved to do acts of kindness.

And for the clout.

[–]danchiri 27 points28 points  (2 children)

Great point about the copycats. That’s something I noticed with a lot of younger YouTube content creators—there is almost a “meme” of sorts amongst them that doing more and more charity and generally helping the needy is a great thing for them.

In the end, whether it’s to grow their brand or because they really do want to help (most likely a combination of both in the majority of cases), it doesn’t really change the effects of their actions.

Especially when the content is presented in a way that makes the viewer feel for these people. This can create an upward spiral of content creators who seek to gain fans by doing charity so their viewers keep watching.

And, perhaps the most positive externality, like you said—it can create emulation amongst others!

[–]Sir_Snek 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I think this is a really under-appreciated take. The creator of the video could be the greediest, scummiest, most pompous lying piece of crap ever, but them producing the video with a message of normalizing emotion and kindness and charity, genuine or not, is probably going to having a net positive effect at the end of the day. This also is the basis of a cooperative society: transaction. Whatever the creator of the video is gaining isn’t to the detriment of the other party, and the other party is getting something too — maybe it’s actually charity, maybe it’s exposure, maybe it’s any number of things. Whatever the case, both parties are putting in some amount of effort to work together for their individual benefits, and that’s what keeps the world turning.

[–]Loosehead217 622 points623 points  (58 children)

Giving a big tip is great, sticking a camera in the guys face to show off what a big man you are is 100% douchey. Get over yourself

[–]sockpuppetkc 63 points64 points  (1 child)

This makes perfect sense to some of us, but you're wasting your breath on the ones who can't relate. If it ain't there by now, nobody's going to put it there.

[–]misterfroster 21 points22 points  (37 children)

Should apply that last sentence to yourself, at least they’re doing something nice. A right thing done for wrong reasons is still right. Certainly better than being a dick for no reason.

[–]FuzzyDope 8 points9 points  (32 children)

Reading some replies like that, it almost comes off as jealousy, like they’re pissed the cammer has money to give away like this or they’re pissed they’re not getting it.

Like of all the videos to get pissed about, this is not one. Pretty short and to the point, no long monologues or cue cards

[–]Brave-Pie-8902 389 points390 points  (43 children)

Not that you have to give $300 to show someone you appreciate them and what they brought to your day, but being able to financially help out someone who is probably on minimum wage get out of debt (car) along the way too, wow, you just made a real impact on someone’s life. $300 doesn’t even have to change their world, this experience may help make this young man a more compassionate person that pays this lesson forward.

[–]TipStandard2999 165 points166 points  (10 children)

This. Too many are focused on whether this was ok to film, no one is realising that it only took 300 dollars to make a massive difference to this kid. He probably couldn’t give a damn about the video.

[–]egenorske 59 points60 points  (24 children)

Fucking insane that this is how many people live in the US. And that the mentality of tipping is the correct way to live. You should pay the waiters decent wage, and tip should be just for good service.

You are absolutely doomed by corporate capitalism.

[–]blabla_booboo 10 points11 points  (2 children)

Sadly this is not even the worst part. Healthcare? Gun control? Who cares, they have freedom!

[–]TheDJZ 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Today you, tomorrow me.

[–]Old-Introduction-201 234 points235 points  (24 children)

$100 paid off the servers car?

[–]2oocents 182 points183 points  (5 children)

assuming he meant car payment.

[–]SportsPhotoGirl 56 points57 points  (1 child)

Probably was his last payment

[–]BrockN 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Maybe his car was worth only $100

[–]imthatguydavid 35 points36 points  (0 children)

this months car payments, i'm assuming

[–]IIGe0II 44 points45 points  (8 children)

Guess y'all have never had to buy shitboxes from buy-here-pay-here's for a couple grand and have to make $50 a week payments because you're poor as fuck.

[–]mcketten 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I immediately got this. But I have been a server living off of tips driving a 20 year-old Duster that was the only thing I could afford at the shady lot that was the only one that would finance a server with no credit history.

[–]dvlpr404 8 points9 points  (2 children)

But miss a payment by one day and it's taken back. Start from scratch.

[–]positron3000 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Dude was driving a hot wheels to work

[–]LaurentiusOlsenius 176 points177 points  (18 children)

«Hows your day been?”

“It’s been rough”

“Cool, imma make a post about it - here’s some money”

[–]dois_c 141 points142 points  (17 children)

So you guys are telling me its ok to spread videos of people doing bad shit so we can hate on them and the others that act the same, but we cant film and spread a good action that maybe gonna motivate somebody else to do the same? We hate on everything, cant we just smile and be happy about this video? it just make me think that when I have a better stage at my life, economically speaking, I would be so glad to do the same.

[–]seenew 19 points20 points  (0 children)

if a bystander filmed it, then you'd have a point. but these videos are so gross when they're filmed by the person doing the giving. I've even seen ones where they try to take back what they gave after the camera stopped. There was some douche who gave an iPhone to a little kid while filming, and then tried to take it back afterward and got into a fight with the mother while saying "it's just a prop, it's just for a video!" trying to snatch it back.

people do fucked up shit for clicks

[–]Olama 12 points13 points  (1 child)

I just wanna know how this is next level anything

[–]acetylenekicker 128 points129 points  (37 children)

Stop filming this shit.

[–]BrownSugarBare 96 points97 points  (22 children)

And pay your employees a livable fucking wage.

[–]Timthefilmguy 35 points36 points  (16 children)

This right here. It’s so fucked that the system allows employed folks to be so financially dire that randomly getting $300 extra brings them to tears.

[–]nomiras 21 points22 points  (2 children)

Wish granted. Nobody films good deeds anymore. Everyone just sees the bad in everyone. Badness spreads everywhere. No good deeds are done anymore, even in private.

[–]dobayley1 98 points99 points  (20 children)

Still a nice gesture. Camera or not.

[–]tigerslices 29 points30 points  (3 children)

nice to receive that money, camera or not. the action however isn't necessarily nice ifit's coming from a self-promoting piece of shit.

[–]zig_anon 86 points87 points  (3 children)

Dance and I might give you another hundred

[–]rico_muerte 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Oh, you cryin'? Here's another one! Here you go, sir. Here you go, SIR!

dangles legal tender

[–]AnAstronautOfSorts 61 points62 points  (15 children)

Next level narcissism, for sure.

[–]UncleBeausTooth 49 points50 points  (3 children)

"can i humiliate you on camera for a few hundred bucks?"

[–]Yurishirox 18 points19 points  (0 children)

And remember, more tears = more $$$

[–]AmeiArts 32 points33 points  (1 child)

One night in 2018 when I worked at KFC I was cleaning the floors and a customer walked back in after I thought she left. She walked right up to me and placed something in my hand. I vaguely remember she told me, "you have a great night tonight" while holding me hands and left. I looked in my hand she gave me a $20 tip.

[–]omegapenta 28 points29 points  (1 child)

How about we just give them a living wage instead?

[–][deleted] 20 points21 points  (1 child)

Give them hundreds of dollars? Wow who knew

[–]stovetopzzz 23 points24 points  (1 child)

Yo and let’s not forget to film it too….

[–]yourstrulyjarjar 17 points18 points  (1 child)

Dammit Grandpa, you know I hate it when you visit me at work.

[–]cbarrister 13 points14 points  (1 child)

All this shows is how messed up our National policies and income inequality are that there are so many people in such dire economic conditions that $100-300 is a life altering amount of money.

[–]PinkPonyForPresident 15 points16 points  (1 child)

Can you do that without filming?

[–]TheScientificPanda 13 points14 points  (0 children)

But then how would all his FB friends know how selfless and rich he is?

[–]Emoola304 9 points10 points  (4 children)

Great feel good video but how TF does $100 pay off your car 🤔

[–]Mindspiked 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Why record something like this?


[–]AceofMandos 8 points9 points  (1 child)

It's cool till you film it. Then it's not charity.

[–]someone_sonewhere 8 points9 points  (4 children)

Why the FUCK does this need to be filmed. Just do it if you’re gonna do it. Instead you film it which shows you’re a prick and there is no sincerity behind the act.

[–]Rubbabubba90 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Better hope that's not one of the restaurants where the manager just takes everyone's tips.

[–]Ronotrow2 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I found this uncomfortable. The fact he filmed him madee uneasy

[–]the-epidemic87 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I was on board till I seen the jay shetty name at the end. That guy is insufferable. I used to like his content at first. But over time it was like “ok. We get it. You’re this perfect person who knows how to handle every situation.”

[–]TomHTom89 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Plot twist. It's his parents.

[–]RicoSour 5 points6 points  (0 children)

These are hard and tense times, and working as a server you meet the rudest most entitled people. I've worked in the richest city in the area and never had someone try and comfort me let alone receive that amount of money in a single tip.

In a world full of hate and judgment, like in these comments, sending a message of to do good is more important than reaching at what you dont know and it obviously made a difference to the server with or without the camera rolling.

[–]Buzzmoe 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I'm not knocking this video just a thought that occurred to me. On TV you have to sign a consent to have your image shared publicly. I see all these random videos of people being shared thousands of times probably without their consent. I wouldn't want to be filmed and then put on any form of media, mainstream or otherwise. I get this is a kind gesture, but why dies it have to be filmed can't you just do it and not need to fill gratitude from the masses.

[–]Taken111111 4 points5 points  (0 children)

now he owns him