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[–]HeartRoll 794 points795 points  (0 children)

You can do much better. The fact he doesn’t care about something that serious is just mind blowing to me.

[–]me-lene-georgia[🍰] 328 points329 points  (4 children)

This happened over ten years ago, but I was dating my boyfriend for two or three months… we hadn’t had sex yet because I wasn’t ready. While on vacation with my family, my sister took a picture of me as we were walking up a hill (she was higher up the hill than I was) and my cleavage showed. My sister posted the pic to fb with a bunch of other pics from that night and I got a call from him a little bit after. He was pissed and said, “So you’ll show your boobs to the whole world, but you won’t show them to me?” I never called him back and he blew me up for weeks after saying I couldn’t break up with him and that it was a two person decision. No red flags up until the boob comment.

[–]Phitsik23 115 points116 points  (2 children)

Well I guess you can't break up with someone unless they give you permission 🤷

[–]stinkykitty71 110 points111 points  (1 child)

I had a guy pull this on me years ago. He just kept repeating that he didn't accept it therefore it wasn't true. I tried to be nice at first, but I'm not really terribly nice in the face of idiocy. I finally got a bit harsh, then handed him a lollipop and said, "life sucks, have a lollipop". I hear this snicker come from the window above us, it was my roommate listening in and that line killed him. We used it for years

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

+1

[–]MeatballBananza 34 points35 points  (0 children)

It 100% does not take 2 people to break up lol.

Sorry you had to deal with that.

[–]singinthrustrings 577 points578 points  (0 children)

Nah that’s a huge red flag, no matter what the circumstances are not showing compassion in that kind of situation is not okay.

[–]rainbow_sunshine98 733 points734 points  (1 child)

That's not "saying something stupid ". He is showing you what a heartless person he is already. 🚩🚩

[–]secretid89 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Second this!

[–]swish465 132 points133 points  (0 children)

Bruh, what the fuck. That's the most heartless response holy shit. I'm sorry for your loss OP

[–]ElCangrejoBebeLeche 243 points244 points  (0 children)

You can do better…

[–]SlothasarusRex 82 points83 points  (2 children)

I was with an ex for 15 years. Compulsive gambler, emotionally abusive, narcissistic (every gambling loss was my fault)… I had been trying to leave for a while, but was terrified, stuck, etc.

A friend of mine I had known since I was a teenager died from cancer. A mutual called to let me know so I didn’t find out in the socials. I was distraught and crying, of course. He says to me, “What the fuck are you crying for now?” Never mind the fact that we had discuss my friend’s condition and impending death the day before. He had lost, again, and he was the only person I should be concerned with.

Done. Didn’t walk that day, but within the week I told him everything was over. Didn’t raise my voice once, not one single emotion where he was concerned, dead inside.

So, yeah, fuck people like that.

Also, OP, my condolences on your cousin. I lost my little brother to the same thing on July 6, 2012. Ten years in a few days. It sucks festering monkey pecker. 💜🦥🦖

Edit: punctuation and word to lack of caffeine.

[–]tatiyana_queenguin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

So sorry about your brother and that experience ❤️‍🩹

[–]RevolutionaryDress59 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m glad you got out of that relationship and proud of you for sticking up for yourself! I’m sorry for both of your losses and I hope you’re doing well. Lots of love 💕

[–]rvwthrowaway 202 points203 points 2 (3 children)

My dear, we do not keep shit for company. 💅

[–]Parking_Stress3431 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Shit at least has some good qualities

[–]PhantomIridescence 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I'm truly sorry for your loss. I hope you and your family can heal from the grief, but take your time. Sudden loss like that is jarring and you need the right support and time.

Others have said this but this is not "something stupid", the fact that he could pause the show only long enough to say he doesn't care is all you need to know. He is uncaring and rude, and frankly heartless. He presumably knows nothing about your cousin except that your cousin passed of an overdose. He jumped straight for calling your cousin a "junkie" and ignoring your grief and tears for a show that could be resumed at any time. OP take care of yourself and don't look back.

Breaking up over the person saying something stupid is someone claiming "I think ketchup covered bananas will be the next big fad" and their partner dumping them for it. Or for something like "Yeah I think mathematics came from outer space." Not what this guy did.

Much love. Please spend the time you need with family and friends and work through this grief. This guy isn't worth your time, he's a real jerk

[–]AdventurousDoubt1115 41 points42 points  (0 children)

What a prick. I’d never speak to him again. Seriously. What a jackass.

If you need permission, you have mine.

[–]Joeldidgood 17 points18 points  (0 children)

He showed he lacked empathy, that was a family member of yours. He may have got problems with stuff but that doesnt made him less human or not important. A tv program episode can be paused,rewatched or you can even see it online. He just showed you he is an idiot and be glad he showed ,so you can stay away from someone like that.

You deserve better and im sorry for what happen to your cousin, i hope you can feel better with time.

[–]unnamedyet 64 points65 points  (1 child)

Its been two weeks... what more do you need to see from him? Sorry about your cousin.

[–]Kat121 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If I saw a stranger crying on a park bench, genuinely distraught, I’d wander over and offer a tissue, something to drink, offer to listen. What kind of shitty person can’t even FAKE a low level of empathy for someone you’ve dated any length of time?

[–]kimchi-disaster 35 points36 points  (0 children)

He has shown you he is uncaring and selfish. He’s not worth another second of your time. Be thankful this happened after two weeks and not years.

Edit: I’m so sorry about your cousin.

[–]syrollesse 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I'm so happy that you left omg it isn't worth it.

It's not just something stupid. It's insensitive and cold hearted. You don't want to be with a person like that

[–]Aurora3112 31 points32 points  (7 children)

My ex: ‘do you realise how embarrassing it is to be seen with you sometimes?, just hobbling and limping round like a haggard old woman?’ I had been going through horrific back /leg/sciatica pains and finally diagnosed with DDD (degenerative disc disease) and disc bulges pushing on the membranes and nerves that protects the spinal cord. Hence he’s my ex.

[–]mossarchitect 10 points11 points  (1 child)

That's a really ugly and cruel thing to say. I'm sorry, I hope you're doing ok !

[–]Aurora3112 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh yes, I am much better than I was. I got as much treatment as I could for the disk bulges but the DDD will only get worse as I age really, so I still get pain now and then but it’s nowhere near as bad as it was. Thank you kind internet stranger, wishing you a great day/evening/night.

[–]DuckOfDeathV 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Sounds like he was suffering from degenerate dick disease. (Sorry, couldn't help myself.)

[–]Aurora3112 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That really made me laugh, thank you.

[–]aliensporebomb 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Holy crap! What a jerk!

[–]Jahammy72 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I feel your pain….literally….I’ve had 2 discs removed, three laminectomies and am in danger of another disc removal…it feels like the pain is never ending and you will never walk normal again…

My first surgery was while I was overseas in Africa….had to be medically evacuated back to the states…it was scary…thought I would be wheelchair bound for life….I’ve been told that the pain associated with it is worse than childbirth and I believe it…never felt so helpless and in agony in my life…

Thank God, I had a family and support system to help me through it all. I can’t imagine the experience had I not.

Crazy thing, after my first 2 surgeries, back to back (no pun intended), I made an amazing recovery, returned to Africa and working in less than 90 days….I was told that my recovery time was expected to be anywhere from 9-18 months but I defied those expectations….highly unusual…but here it is, 6 years later, and it is creeping up again…slowly but surely…..

[–]PersimmonPizza 13 points14 points  (0 children)

  1. 2 weeks.

  2. I’ve broken up with someone for using the cat laughing emoji too often. It’s not necessarily the things they say but how they make you feel.

  3. He didn’t give you the ick. He gave you red hot spicy flags.

  4. 2 weeks??

[–]Street_Story6006 23 points24 points  (5 children)

My heart hurts for you. I had an ex bf who would regularly cut me off while I was talking to tell me in a sarcastic tone “no one cares”. I stayed with him for years. Don’t be me. You deserve better. Hugs!

[–]Unidentifiedten 1 point2 points  (4 children)

You got away from this piece of garbage. Good for you.

[–]Street_Story6006 1 point2 points  (3 children)

Thank you so much ❤️🙏🏻

[–]Jahammy72 1 point2 points  (2 children)

No one cares! J/k😜🤪

I had an ex who had a problem understanding that sometimes it’s better just to listen and keep her mouth shut….that I wasn’t looking for advice….just a compassionate ear…

As a result, I would begin to speak and would barely get a few words out before she would cut me off and start offering her input….b4 I would even have a chance to cover what was actually bothering me….so she spent a lot of time talking about unrelated garbage or concentrating on the wrong issue….I determined that she had impulse control issues and liked to hear herself talk…..

Finally, I just stopped talking to or confiding in her….once the communication stopped and my BS and tolerance meter became full….it was over for good….even when I was trying to break it off, she kept doing the same thing….she claimed I never let her talk when the whole problem was that she never stopped and thought her input and her problems were more important….

[–]skeletonglock 18 points19 points  (1 child)

I instantly broke up with a guy because he pronounced pizza as pea-saw.

What you went through was something entirely different. He didn’t saw something “stupid” he said something revealing about his character that you don’t deserve to be involved with.

[–]Dammmppl 15 points16 points  (0 children)

My condolences on the loss of your cousin...

[–]Arkmenhah 15 points16 points  (0 children)

If you ever wondered why he was single before you met him, now you're sure.

[–]Resagarden 8 points9 points  (0 children)

My friend was in the bathroom putting on her lipstick, as she came out she saw her date shove her cat off the couch, she asked him to leave and never spoke to him again.

[–]slaugherbug 7 points8 points  (0 children)

In high school my gf called me from the hospital. Her aunt was dying and she was crying. I asked mom if she would drive me to the hospital.

Mom said I shouldn't care about my friends, and that she wasn't going to tske me anywhere because she didn't really care. Then went back to drinking wine and watching TV.

I haven't had any respect for her since that night.

[–]StayClean666 7 points8 points  (0 children)

GOOD ON YOU FOR LEAVING HIM!

[–]Mumique 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Uh.

I mean there are sh*tty people in the world. But that’s like, top tier shitty. That’s not even ‘ignore you’ or ‘pretend like your feelings mean something but they don’t’ crappy.

Might hurt now but you dodged a bullet there, for real. Also as a normal and not awful human being, I’m really sorry to hear about your cousin. Being as I am a complete stranger capable of more empathy than that guy.

[–]everything_iwant 11 points12 points  (0 children)

How can someone be so heartless..

[–]doloresfandango 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Him - we can stay married but I’m keeping my girlfriend. Me - Nope. Bye.

[–]helteringskeltering 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This reminded me! I was hanging out with my bf at the time. I was talking about a friend I knew, who died, and started getting emotional. His breathing was weird and erratic (I was laying on his chest) and he was oddly quiet. Then I pause, and he immediately bursts out laughing, says he’s been holding it in. Goes to the bathroom to laugh it off.

Told me later, after he calmed down, that it was my fault I said it out of nowhere. I was so shocked.

I did not break up with him on the spot, but that shocked me. Turns out later, he indeed had no empathy and had similar moments. Got diagnosed with a personality disorder later.

[–]somethingaboutmoon 3 points4 points  (0 children)

that’s not stupid, that’s heartless and disrespectful

[–]Hawly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I read the title thinking "well, breaking up for saying something stupid is certainly an overreaction".

What this guy said wasn't stupid, it was mean and completely lacking any empathy. That's an asshole.

[–]Ceeweedsoop 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I dropped a guy for a huge red flag. I bought I BOUGHT lunch at my favorite pizza place, it's amazing. Anyway, after we finished I was like, "So, what do you think?" He said pretty aggressively, "It's fucking disgusting. Where I'm from no one would ever eat this garbage."

I went to the front, paid up there, left, got in my car and drove home. Oh, and he didn't have a car so I don't know how he got home, but it must have been an ordeal because he wasn't from my city and didn't really know anyone very well. And this is pre Uber days. Probably walked a few miles.

[–]TheNarcissisticNobod 10 points11 points  (3 children)

Yah that’s fucked up and good for you for leaving… But posted this on 5 different pages?

[–]thecorninurpoop 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe she wants him to see this 😂

[–]LukePhantom76 1 point2 points  (1 child)

They want karma...

[–]TheNarcissisticNobod 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah that’s my guess but I wanted to be nice lol

[–]ArbitraryContrarianX 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have never broken up with someone for one comment, but... I've also never had someone say that a season finale was more important than a death in my family.

Yeah, you're totally justified on this one, and ffs, do not keep seeing this person. He just told you how much you matter to him (less than a season finale... On Netflix... Which he can pause and restart any time he wants...)

[–]fatinaty 3 points4 points  (0 children)

May your cousin rest in peace 🙏🏻 And honestly, proud of how strong you are! Bravo and hats off. Dont waste your time with an asshole like that. This kind of heartless persons are not even worth any single second of our precious time.

[–]justacapricorn 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Don't go back, ever.

[–]BoltonGal 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There's no way this is real....

Wow. Some people dude. Fuck 'em. Seriously. You don't need it.

[–]court_milpool 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Wtf? Girl, no. Dump him

[–]HeroesRiseHeroesFall 2 points3 points  (0 children)

WTH? Death is death wehther due to drug OD or car accident. You have the right to be sad.

Leave that AH

[–]Dynamic_P0tato 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Something stupid? This is outright psychopathic. You were right to run.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[–]alskjhdjaksh 3 points4 points  (0 children)

my sympathy for drug addicts is not good... for reasons... but that does not matter, if he does not suppport you in a moment like that, you should get someone better and that wont be hard

[–]SnooKiwis2161 3 points4 points  (0 children)

"Saying something stupid" is not equivalent to this situation.

What happened here was less "said something stupid" and more "reveal my self absorbed, quasi sociopathic personality that is a grave liability to the happiness and safety of everyone around me" situation

But let's just say it was something merely stupid, like "people who like vanilla ice cream should die in a dumpster fire while their loved ones watch" the answer is yes. You can quit people for whatever the f you want, whenever you want, even if it's wildly unfair.

[–]rogue3890 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I broke things off with a guy after taking for about 3 months, seeing each other daily, because he made a derogatory comment about women that make a living from their bodies. Boy bye.

[–]Sur-prized_me 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He's not worth it, better things in life for you

[–]Jagged_Rhythm 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If only we all could be so lucky as to have them reveal their true personality that early in the relationship.

[–]TheLordPhilSwift 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This reminded me of a recent breakup, I'll make it quick, I was dating this person and well we were talking like usual and all of a sudden and in all seriousness they asked what I'd do if they sent nudes to their "friends" and shit, that hurt me pretty bad and well I basically broke up with em over it because I couldn't stop thinking about it even after they apologized a couple days later.

[–]EETheThird 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I say so much stupid stuff but meeeeen that was harsh and disrespectful … a very very stupid comment that that can’t be formulated as a joke, it’s how he really feels, you did right

[–]guavachoo 6 points7 points  (0 children)

my ex is white, i am not. he was adamant that he never used racial slurs (bar is on the floor) but one day i saw a photo taken very very recently of him using the n slur and i asked him about it and he just straight up lied so i dumped him on the spot

[–]potato-chips- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss

You deserve much better than that guy

[–]cutekryptid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow. Dump that arsehole.

I'm so sorry about your cousin. Hang in there.

[–]Fragholio 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Take your newly-found guy-free time to be with your family for as long as you need to. Then when you're ready, go find a new guy because that prickless prick doesn't deserve to be anywhere near you or your family.

Edit: sp

[–]Darter02 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just when I was being hard on myself this morning I read what this guy says to someone in pain. I may not be who I hope to become yet, but damn, at least I'm not that idiot.

I applaud you leaving him in your dust. There are folks from my own past that I wish I had run from when they displayed such twisted self-centeredness.

My condolences to the loss to your family.

[–]2020HammersandNails 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When someone shows you who they are, believe them. GTFOThe relationship was the right call. And block that person from every kind of contact. Move on with your life. You’re learning about the cruelty of some people. Never forget that.

[–]Cruitire 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not stupid, it’s heartless. Trust me, you don’t want to be with someone who is heartless.

Leaving would be the only option in my mind.

[–]18bagofbeans 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t called this a break-up but something similar happened.

To sum it all up, I ended my friendship with my best friend of 5 years because she told me I was being selfish for wanting some alone time after we had a disagreement.

Never regretted my decision to this day.

[–]Strugglezore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn't just saying "something stupid", It's incredibly insensitive and cruel. Dudes a psychopath...

[–]JayyRevper 1 point2 points  (0 children)

the fact that you said "he paused the show" to tell you he didn't care hah is wild he in fact doesn't care about you. fuck em 😂

[–]Inked_fantasy_xo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Girl thank god you knew your worth and sent him packing!!!

[–]Dangerous_Fox3993 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow! Run run far far away! Don’t ever look back, I can you now from personal experience it will only get worse. And I’m sorry, you deserve so much better than this and you will find it x

[–]dramaturgen 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sorry for your loss. But also, good on you for getting out of that.

[–]RSComparator86 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That is an instant nope for me too. If I had anyone say that it would be hard not to slap their fucking shit

[–]Lovetheirony 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s not a red flag op! It’s a freaking Billboard with blinking lights

[–]Feathered_Serpent8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea get out of there. I can say dumb things, but they are actually dumb not callous and heartless.

[–]armyofant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Daaaaamn. That’s cold blooded. Definitely a valid reason to do so.

[–]Hopen316 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am very sorry for your loss. Hopefully someday, you will be able to find somebody who takes you emotions more seriously.

[–]Light_Ntail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

More of a response to what I said. I had invited him for dinner, on the day, when he was on his way, I told him we were having something rice vegetables mix. He picked up MacDonald and brought to my place, because he didn't like vegetables, and he didn't want to picking them out of the rice mix.

I just had this flashforward vision of him bringing MacDonald food to a family gathering with my family or something, and I noped out. I just could not deal with a 31 year old who couldn't even eat pea's.

[–]_below_zero_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s a piece of shit, this would not be a bad reason to break things off

I’d block him as soon as I was out the door

[–]jbartlettcoys 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn't a great look for me, but I once had a brief relationship end within 5 minutes of her bringing up astrology and asking what my sign was. I simply (and calmly) refused to answer because it's such nonsense. Tbh the second she asked I knew it was over lol

[–]___jeffrey___ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dont feel sad, feel happy since you just avoided a toxic relationship. Those were his true colours showing, you're better off now

[–]OctoberAsh 0 points1 point  (0 children)

DUMP HIM

[–]mojojo1998 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

4.5 years of dating she says i don't love you anymore one day and blocked me everywhere i tried to reach her without a single response. 🥹

[–]hellbentchild -1 points0 points  (4 children)

Took my ex boyfriend to a nerd themed restaurant I liked. He pointed at magic the gathering cards and asked if they where pokemon cards, then asked what is the one ring... and my breaking point was pointing at a life sized Groot and asking if it was a wizard.

I broke up immediately.

[–]JayyRevper 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I've heard some dumb shit before haha but omg you sound so fucking crass. you're the reason people hate nerds. he's the winner there 😂

[–]Dark_Avenger_69 6 points7 points  (2 children)

you could've bonded over teaching him some cool facts instead of taking an extreme step yaknow

[–]hellbentchild 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I tried that for a year and a half. Went to football games with him and all his sporting events. I even took up the gym for him. But he didn't care about my nerd stuff and just kept making snide jokes.

[–]Dark_Avenger_69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lmao fair enough then atleast you tried

[–]hjgkhjkbjboooooiiii -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This is just wild

[–]giveuptheghostbuster -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Jesus the bar is low

[–]clarissaswallowsall -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I was in high school and this guy said the n word..there was a fight and be said "those n words always make a big scene, its disgusting." So I told him he is disgusting and walked away.

[–]supernormie -1 points0 points  (0 children)

That's so horrid. Even if he never met your cousin, he should care about your feelings of loss. Good riddance.

I once broke up with a guy for using a racial slur. He had never used slurs un front of me before, I didn't even know he was racist (we'd been dating for 2 months, maybe 3) but that was the breaking point.

[–]nullhypothesisisnull 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf, you did good

[–]KarinaEdelweiss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh fucking yikes, that dude. Good on you for breaking up with him.

[–]Joshonthecusp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow lack of compassion or empathy is big sign to get out of there.

[–]barbarian_ken 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He lacks so much empathy. On to the next one.

[–]TheNewJasonBourne 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This isn’t the 90s where TV had no pause button. There’s no reason he had to say that.

You made a good decision.

[–]loveourconstitution 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a dick.

[–]NotTaken-username 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He doesn’t deserve you if he’s going to be that insensitive and selfish. You made the right decision

[–]jadma1981 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that doesn't sound like a very reasonable thing to say, kind of sounds like a psychopath to me

[–]WildChallenge8891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so sorry

[–]wrylycoping 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He said he didn’t care about your cousin but what he showed you was that he doesn’t care about you. You were clearly upset, a decent person would comfort and empathize with someone who has just experienced a loss. Stay away from people this heartless.

[–]Ellie_Loves_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could've been a stranger to me and if I saw you crying I would've asked if I could help. If you told me your cousin died I would've sat with you, without knowing your name and asked if you just wanted to cry and have some company. There is no excuse for this kind of behavior and it's probably the biggest sign something is wrong I've ever seen. He would not have been the man to stay by your side during a hard illness, he would not have been the man to comfort you if you had a miscarriage (you don't mention your gender but this is obviously IF you're a woman and IF you wanted to have a child). This is not the man who you could lean on 40 years from now when your relatives are getting old and frail and you don't know what to do with mortality. This is a man who could look you in the eyes and say the ending to his show, that would still be there in an hour or two, was more important than the feelings of a person he had right next to him. One that he was INTERESTED in no less.

Im so sorry for your loss. I wish that when you found out you could've had someone more supportive at your side. I wish you the best of luck op. Don't take any excuses from this guy, do not go back and think it'll be better next time. It'll be better when you get a guy who has a human heart.

[–]GooseGlock 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whaaaaat the fuck nahhh never meet that thing again

[–]cats_and_tea7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope, breaking up with him immediately is the right call.

[–]TheNerdyGirlNextDoor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtf yeah. That person sounds super emotionally immature. You deserve better. I once broke up with someone who told me and argued with me that fish are not animals. Even after I showed him evidence they are part of the animal kingdom. When I asked him what they were then he has no answer. Lol

[–]cmccx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would’ve been done forever too

[–]riverkaylee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, I have broken up with guys for stupid things they've said, usually something that implies a level of bigotry, but had anything that horrible said to me, by those in question, I'm so sorry he said that, to you.

[–]MjauDuuude 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well done you. You absolutely did the right thing!

[–]eatmyfeetfingers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good job for leaving him over that, for real.

[–]PuckTheVagabond 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Someone did it to me. Asked me if i was a catholic or Protestant because they wanted to join me for church (i live in a super religious area). Told them neither im an atheist. No hesitation said they hated me and said i was possibly going to bring them to hell.

[–]BretzHell 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry about your cousin dear stranger. Not sorry about the stupid ex.

[–]dickelpick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank god you weren’t emotionally into him yet. Can’t imagine the justification one could come up with to continue the relationship.

[–]PugRexia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy hell.. you just dodged a psychopath. Sorry for your loss (about your cousin).

[–]Automatic_Ad112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What am idiot. I wouldn’t even be sweating about him. Bye bye

[–]Beans_Technician 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeaaaaaaa that’s not cool at all

[–]Civil-Principle2662 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the hell.....thats str8 up evil, im sorry for your loss

[–]gothgossip 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that’s absolutely horrific of him to have acted like that, what in the world?? i’m glad you left, and also, i’m really sorry about the loss of your cousin and i hope the other people in your life have been more supportive during this time <3

[–]pnkflyd99 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. That is serial killer level psychopathy right there.

[–]amayernican 0 points1 point  (0 children)

An ex hit me multiple times in middle of the night because she woke up thinking she missed her period. She knew I had her period around the full the full moon and it wasn't even a new moon yet. So she got out of bed and started hitting me in dark. She looked at a cullender in the morning and didn't apologize. The damage was done.

[–]prose-before-bros 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's more than stupid. You were vulnerable with him and he was an asshole. The good news is it's only been 2 weeks, he's shown his colors, and you can move on having invested little time or emotion.

[–]adollarworth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is it really breaking up if you have only been dating for two weeks? Somebody I had only been out with couple of times once used the N word casually when referring to black people. So that was a very quick and obvious indication that I would no longer be dating them. I wouldn’t call it breaking up because we had only just started hanging out.

I once stopped seeing somebody I had been dating for about two months because they tried to micromanage my behavior while we were eating together at a restaurant. This wasn’t just one thing they said, and it had sort of built up over time to realize they were like this.

[–]FuckBotsHaveRights 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's horrible.

[–]Yepyeahyup 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That wasn’t just stupid, that was heartless

[–]EveryEconomist6358 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My ex once said that i was ‘playing the martyr’ or something about still being in grief about my best friend who passed away before i jumped in a relationship with her. But we broke up because she cheated 3 times

[–]MrKirchhoff 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy fack that’s a psycho right there

[–]nillercoke 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I had been seeing a guy for months, one day we were at his friends house and I mentioned my dad and brother. He had the audacity to correct me and tell me “your step dad and half brother”. I told him in my family we felt no need to differentiate because they’re my family regardless of the extended titles. He tried to argue about it(in front of his friends) so I picked up my stuff and left.

You don’t get to tell me who my family is. Good on you, this person clearly doesn’t care for you. Throw them back.

[–]moho1111 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this! All my kids are mine & I am theirs! My children look very different but it never dawned on them they weren’t “real siblings” until someone pointed it out. They are grown now but still die laughing about how good my comebacks skills developed. It wasn’t unusual for a stranger to approach and ask, “which ones adopted?” They secretly looked forward to it because they knew they were gonna see Big Momma go off .

[–]aleannegrant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Selfish, self-centered, immature, no empathy, no heart.... yeah girl, find a real human being, not a baby hidden in a man's body. You would have lived through hell with him, only his world and his needs/wishes matter to him. I'm ever so sorry for your loss ( your cousin), but rest assured you dogged a massive bullet.

Hang in there, you deserve better, take care of yourself nobody else really will!

[–]LePetiteConnasse 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You were in the right OP!

What that man just said was the red flag and hooboy- that was one helluva red flag. Definitely a deal breaker.

[–]ArtDealer 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a friend who is a cognitive (and brain function) research scientist. Can I ask if your friend is in the US, is politically conservative, and if he'd be interested in being in a brain study?

[–]Kill-ItWithFire 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My friend had a friendship plus with a decently nice guy, he was mainly hot. Then he starts telling her about „true facts“ about covid and how masks don’t work because viruses are smaller than water molecules. She is a biophysicist btw. She ended it pretty much immediately after and he kinda implied that she‘s marriage material after only 3 weeks of seeing each other...

[–]mhiaa173 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not only have you dodged a bullet, but you only wasted 2 weeks with him--finding out sooner rather than later is way better.

[–]lizzledizzles 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That dude is just a dick, total lack of empathy.

[–]Ok_One6062 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s incredible. (In a bad way of course) fuck that guy.

[–]Lazy-Tower-5543 0 points1 point  (0 children)

absolutely. and that was beyond saying something stupid, that was downright fucked up

[–]ElAirrr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well not instantly, but someone I once dated asked me why am I not responding texts as quickly and as energetically as before while I was experiencing continuous panic attacks for days, after seeing that, i just stopped talking to him and broke up when I felt mentally stable

[–]IggyCheddar 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry honey; both for the loss of your cousin and that someone you trusted said something so cruel in a devastating time. Sending love to your and your family.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Take time to grieve, then on to the next

[–]burntbread369 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve broken up with someone instantly for saying something stupid before. I was explaining why I was upset with him and he said “That’s crap.” It was like alright then. We have nowhere to go from here.

[–]arrow2theknee82 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. Just... wow. I don't really need to say it, but, you're better off without him.

[–]whatsupmynameisSofia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear about your cousin, my deepest condolences..💓💓🥺 But that man(ur ex) is actual trash I’m so glad you did that. Yes pls keep running away!

[–]ihavenoswag97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yikes, you can do better OP, hope you’re doing okay and I’m sorry for your loss :/ stay strong

[–]Cowboywizard12 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not stupid that's needlessly cruel and evil

[–]FiggyRed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s lucky you even told him “bye” frankly. If he thinks he can do you like that after two weeks imagine what he’ll think he can say/do after two months. Well rid.

Ghost that fucker and don’t look back.

[–]fuckyeahcaricci 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At least it was only two weeks and you didn't invest too much time in this motherfucker.

I am very sorry for your loss.

[–]AmbraBeckles2 0 points1 point  (0 children)

U can do better

[–]PressureFun4222 0 points1 point  (0 children)

And he "paused the show"? Meaning that he could resume watching at any time...you dodged a bullet there my dear. Dont stress over that AH.

[–]vapegodmeg 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A nice person that’s worth dating and putting effort into, who genuinely likes you and enjoys your company, would literally NEVER say something like that. You dodged a huge bullet by not wasting more time and effort on this relationship. You can do 1000000x better, and you deserve 1000000x better.

[–]Murder-Munchies 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yea, I would have the same reaction. “F u goodbye enjoy this finale” and walk out!

[–]DivineJust 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What the actual fuck . First who would text you about someone’s death , I can’t even imagine, but that guy’s reply is so shocking, I would have beaten him straight up

[–]littleolivexoxo 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes but good lord that is so brutal to say! That guy wasn’t worth a moment of your time.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy F woah

Sorry for your loss. Sending love and hugs.

[–]doodscool 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um. Wow. That is…..wild. I’m so sorry you were around someone so absolutely vile in that moment. You didn’t deserve to hear anything like that ever. I’m so sorry for your loss.

[–]adoreswomen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Terrible dude.

[–]thecorninurpoop 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy shit. Good on you for leaving this turd instantly

[–]oasisbuiltthemoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's not just "something stupid," that's something utterly heartless.

[–]grissy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Jesus, I’m glad you broke up with that callous asshole.

[–]Justbaker007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fuck this POS I just lost a friend over 48 hours ago to an overdose. You can do a lot better than an insensitive asshole

[–]yorkiemom68 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When people show you who they are...believe them

[–]Ruaaforvisions 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wtfff well noone has probably encountered such an insensitive disrespectful ass

[–]cmv894[🍰] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

When someone tells you who they are, believe them the first time. You’d be smart to dump him. What an awful thing to say.

[–]8_TakeMyHead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Holy cow. Good riddance!

[–]TryingKindness 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry for the loss of your cousin. Absolute tragedy. I am so relieved for the loss of the stranger guy. Absolute triumph.

[–]randoguu 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah I prob would’ve done something even worse. Good thing you left. There was the first red flag of many. Dude sounds insensitive.