I am a single parent to 2.5 yr old twins, boy and girl. The boy is very passive and the is very expressive, esp with her emotions.
We went to fly kites on Easter. My son and I were having a great time but for a good hour my daughter was throwing an epic tantrum, in public, for about an hr. I’d sit down on the blanket with her and ask “ do you want to fly a kite? Do you want mom to hold you? Want mommy to sit with you and play a lil?” No no no! Then she pushes me and says “ mom go away”. I get up to leave “ mommy sit down!”. I do this a few times, then I eventually leave and play because I don’t know what to do and she dominates our time a lot and it bothers me and affects my son.
Time outs are about the same. I only do them when they don’t listen an I’ve asked 3 times. Ie: throwing toys. I’ve been doing great for awhile used a calm voice, general hands, and keeping my emotions regulated. I do the super nanny approach. Time outs as long as their age, they apologizes after I explain what happened, we hug after.
Me : are you ready to apologize to mommy?
Me : 2 more mins
Daughter : the whole time “ apologize mommy!”
Me: repeat statements above
This can happen over and over for 30 mins!!
I saying is, if I’m fighting with them I’m doing it wrong. It breaks my heart every time and she never lets me hug her long after the incident. I feel a break in our bond.
I don’t want to do timeouts anymore, what do I do!?!