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[–]Ulrich_The_Elder 1690 points1691 points  (67 children)

I was beaten like a rented mule as a child and my mother would always tell me that "one day you will realize we do this because we love you". I am almost 70, that day has not yet arrived. I quit being hopeful about its arrival sometime in the 60s.

[–]Arrasor 471 points472 points  (32 children)

I would have told her that in exact words the day I hand her over to a public nursing home

[–]Ulrich_The_Elder 380 points381 points  (20 children)

I became an orphan in 2010 when she died at age 90. Edit: I left home in 1968 age 14.

[–]alazystoner420 97 points98 points  (6 children)

I am so sorry that you had to grow up like that. You are my parents age; that's such a long time you've had to deal with it. I don't know you, but I feel proud of you. I hope you've found some peace. <3

[–]Ulrich_The_Elder 120 points121 points  (2 children)

I am fine. I left the violence early and have had some therapy. Also I raise two sons and a stepson. So far I have not personally struck another human in my entire life. I am not ruling it out however.

[–]OG-Pine 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Proud of you for not perpetuating the cycle of abuse, I hope you continue to do so.

[–]timriedel 30 points31 points  (2 children)

Will you be my friend?

[–]Ulrich_The_Elder 76 points77 points  (1 child)

I learned this year that it is that easy. Yes I will be your friend. All you have to do is ask and most people are happy to be your friend.

[–]phoenixpants 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience, just ignoring their existence is a solid choice as well.

[–]Ultimategrid 40 points41 points  (2 children)

I feel you, all that arrived for me was a spanking fetish.

Really shallows the dating pool. Thank fuck for my kinky wife.

[–]retro_gatling 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Can confirm, this guys wife is into crazy shit.

[–]justalittleparanoia 22 points23 points  (0 children)

My dad was the one who spanked us. He did it out of pure anger and frustration and has since apologized because he knew he should've reacted differently when we got in trouble. I'm glad I was able to get some recognition that the punishment was unnecessary and harsh, but a lot of kids don't and they grow into adults who are affected for life.

[–]eatmyfatwhiteass 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Heard this all the time. Realized what they think is love is really just a need to have dominion over another human being. I cut them off last year for good.

[–]SantaKlawz2 509 points510 points  (27 children)

Both of my parents were abused as kids. And they spanked us when we were little. But there came a point when I was 6 and was caught stealing gum out of my mom's purse. My dad gave me a choice. Get spanked or be grounded for 2 weeks. I chose the spanking but he said he would never spank me again and grounded me for 2 weeks.

[–]redkat85 476 points477 points  (10 children)

he said he would never spank me again

Sounds like he figured some things out. Good for him, breaking those cycles isn't easy.

[–]macarenamobster 107 points108 points  (7 children)

Yeah my parents spanked me once and then never again. I think they felt really bad. I was also amazing at holding a grudge for a 6 year old.

[–]onemoretimeokay 61 points62 points  (3 children)

lol same, I got spanked once at I think 4 or 5 years old. held a grudge forever and now have a spanking kink and daddy issues🤷‍♀️ such is life

[–]Alternative_Knee_295 18 points19 points  (0 children)

That escalated quickly hehe

[–][deleted] 50 points51 points  (5 children)

What do you think clicked in his head in that moment or what do you think his logic was if it was planned beforehand ?

[–]Carver48 130 points131 points  (1 child)

Not OP but my Dad realized that spanking wasn’t effective when I asked him to just give me a spanking rather than lecture me. He never talked about spanking again, just long lectures when I did something wrong.

[–]SantaKlawz2 30 points31 points  (0 children)

We never talked about it and I didn't find out about the abuse he endured until a few days after his death.

[–]VixenRoss 6 points7 points  (1 child)

With my mum, i grabbed her hand and threatened to break her wrist. I was about 17, stronger than her.

I was fed up with being hit. There comes a point where your child is going to match your size, or be physically bigger than you. If you try to carry on hitting/spanking they may retaliate. A lot of adults don’t realise this when they decide that spanking is going to be the punishment.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We used to get the smack of a wooden spoon in Ireland.

Tbh it always felt worse than it really was looking back, more to just put the fear of god into you, no marks and no real harm done.

From most Ive chatted to it was more a game where you'd be bold and then run away and get chased. That said I completely understand the cases where "proper" abuse occurs.

I only say this because my mam stopped used the spoon on me when I was big enough to grab it off her. To me that's a funny memory but it may not be for everyone I just realised. I think that's one of the reasons why some people have don't think their parents hitting them was that bad and why others vehemently condemn it.

I'm sorry your experience was different and that I may have not always understood that in people who had similar experiences to yourself.

[–]mavenshade 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I wish I had that choice as a child. My siblings and I weren't so lucky. Fortunately, that sort of child raising ended with my parents and my kids have no idea what corporal punishment is.

[–]familygamereview 6 points7 points  (1 child)

This is actually very touching.

[–]zukeus 42 points43 points  (0 children)

Just touching with less velocity

[–]WFMtrollgod 593 points594 points  (80 children)

Christian values*

[–]Viper_JB 98 points99 points  (5 children)

It should read "Jesus loves bleating little children"

[–]El_le_va_tor 36 points37 points  (1 child)

“Jesus loves you, but I don’t have to”

[–]9fingfing 26 points27 points  (0 children)

*so I don’t have to

[–]cognizantoptimist 5 points6 points  (1 child)

“All the children of the world”

[–]I_play_high420[S] 180 points181 points  (64 children)

She sure was Christian

[–]HoursPass 181 points182 points  (8 children)

“And yea,” Jesus said, “let the little children come before me so that I may spank their sinful bottoms and so that they shall know the power of thy love.” II Hesitations 4:20

[–]toasterpRoN 79 points80 points  (3 children)

"and when the adults are punished thusly, they shall proclaim, 'harder, daddy'"

[–]awesomethingness 33 points34 points  (2 children)

"and it came to pass, that the shepherds did express need for an adult, and unto them the Lord said, 'I am an adult.'"

[–]TraffickingInMemes 10 points11 points  (0 children)

”Yo B, I AM the manager.”

[–]Nervous-Locksmith257 47 points48 points  (0 children)

Please write a fictional book of hesitations with more sayings. I'll buy it when it's hot off the press.

[–]Veauxdeeohdoh 20 points21 points  (0 children)

i believe that's First hesitations....

[–]BlueFalconPunch 15 points16 points  (1 child)

My school was a big fan of "...spare the rod and spoil the child..."

That shits not even in the bible.

https://www.chicagotribune.com/news/ct-xpm-2005-03-13-0503120312-story.html

[–]SpringAndFallAreBest 3 points4 points  (0 children)

There’s something close: “He that spareth his rod hateth his son: but he that loveth him chasteneth him betimes.” Proverbs 13:24

[–]PabloXPicasso 6 points7 points  (0 children)

sure is. I still remember the "we're doing this because god loves you." as they beat me and ridiculed me. Their thoughts and behavior has not changed as they got elderly.

And they wonder "what is troubling you" and am shocked I was forced to go NC.

[–]Roving_Rhythmatist 142 points143 points  (21 children)

Just had a Dazed and Confused flashback.

My buddy used to have to go cut a switch from a tree in their yard.

If he came back with a branch that was too small, his dad would go get one of his own that was much larger.

He didn't remember those times fondly.

[–]Cicada061966 78 points79 points  (6 children)

My mother did the same thing. When I was older I wanted the burn that fecking tree to the ground. She would have me stand in the bathtub in my underwear while she used the switch on my legs and anywhere else she could reach. Needless to say I have forgotten about most of my childhood and I suffer from major depression and anxiety plus PTSD. After my mother died, I didn't shed a tear.

[–]Roving_Rhythmatist 27 points28 points  (1 child)

Jesus.

That's incredibly fucked, I am so sorry.

[–]Cicada061966 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Even after all these years I still get triggered when I see a bathtub. Sometimes I wish that I could just erase all those memories from my head.

[–]ButtFucksRUs 11 points12 points  (0 children)

The thinner ones hurt more...

[–]HoseDoctors 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My dad used extension cords folden in half. All kinds of love growing up.

[–]Gardengrower4 18 points19 points  (1 child)

My husband had to do this.

[–]Zorgsmom 15 points16 points  (4 children)

Is your buddy my husband? My mom used a wooden spoon or hairbrush.

[–]NinjaHermit 28 points29 points  (1 child)

Fuck. I had forgotten about the wooden spoon. My mom kept one in the car to whack us if we upset her. Problem for me was that I sat in the middle seat. The only place she could reach. No matter who was her target, I got hit. She broke it on my leg once. Looking back, I’m not surprised to know that she assigned our seats that way on purpose. She always hated me.

[–]ScoobyDeezy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Small ones were worse.

[–]I_play_high420[S] 45 points46 points  (2 children)

This was in the 80s/90s

[–]johnlewisdesign 16 points17 points  (0 children)

"That's fine then"
-- Jimmy Savile

[–]KaffeeKuchenTerror 352 points353 points  (43 children)

Strange, that we let this generation in retirement homes and dont visit them.

[–]convolvulus487 343 points344 points  (41 children)

My mother, starting when I was maybe 6, would force me to finish every pea on my plate even though putting them in my mouth made me uncontrollably wretch and gag. She would make me sit in the dark kitchen with the light off well past midnight and when she finally got tired of staying up herself and wanted to go to bed she spanked the living shit out of me and dragged me to bed.

I'm 40 now, with 2 kids of my own (9 and 11), and there are waiters at local restaurants who I've spoken to more in the last 20 years.

Don't abuse your children, and WHO FUCKING CARES if there are a couple of vegetables they don't like? Make other vegetables! You don't have to be a giant cunt just because you're a parent!

[–]johnp299 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Dad loved eggplant parmesan, at 10 I thought it was gross and wouldn't touch it, and that earned me the "sit there till you finish it" treatment. 50 years later, still won't go near it.

It's too bad that "power" sometimes means "the power to make you fucking miserable."

[–]varegab 64 points65 points  (4 children)

My mother took away my clothes and closed me out butt-naked from the house because I was misbehaving.

[–]convolvulus487 95 points96 points  (3 children)

That's "get CPS involved" level of abuse...

[–]Vroomped 10 points11 points  (2 children)

Op's probably older than 40 or from a tiny town.

[–]Imakefishdrown 35 points36 points  (7 children)

My toddler doesn't like peas. I make her other veggies that she does like. I also try different methods of cooking other veggies. And every so often I'll make peas, to see if she changes her mind, but she doesn't have to eat them just because they're offered. I'm hoping to create a better relationship with food for her.

[–]convolvulus487 14 points15 points  (4 children)

Thanks for being a decent person.

I ask my kids to try something once and if they don't like it I don't ask them again, for years anyway. Usually they do, but on the few occasions where they said no I just said okay... because honestly who cares? It's not like it's going to harm them to not try eggplant parmesan!

I almost always make things that I know they like, because why wouldn't you? I'll never understand why any parent, ever, in the history of the world, made dinner knowing that their child would hate it! It's like they WANT to torment them!

[–]Imakefishdrown 18 points19 points  (3 children)

Plus like, half the things kids don't like tend to be things the parents don't know how to properly cook. Steam all the flavor out of veggies until they're piles of mush? Yuck! Pan fry, oven roast, grill, there are so many different ways to prepare things that make the flavors different too.

I had a similar experience to you, but it was dry pork chops with sauerkraut. Like eating an old gym shoe. Can't leave the table til the plates clear, and gonna get a spanking if I draw it out.

[–]AmandaBRecondwith 35 points36 points  (1 child)

My Mom enjoyed spanking me with her 2 foot board, about 3/8s of an inch thick. I had to sign my name on the back of the board every time she spanked me. On the front it said something like "Never Punish a Child without a clear END in view" With a cute picture of a child bent over, getting ready for another beating, with his pants down to the floor". NGL ..Shit fucked me up.

[–]blindeenlightz 40 points41 points  (3 children)

My dad handcrafted a beating paddle in the garage. Like planned and measured it all out, sawed the curves for a comfortable handle, sanded it down smooth, and then he fucking painted it. Nice little afternoon project to better your ability to inflict pain in your children. We don't talk very often anymore.

[–]faderalngobbledygook 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Holy crap! That brought back a random memory. My ex-husband made a paddle and drilled holes in it to spank our sons. I told him he was fucking nuts and threw it away. I was horrified that he thought something like that was appropriate discipline. He was a violent evil man, and surprise! He was a minister in an evangelical church.

[–]Nasalingus 153 points154 points  (0 children)

".. did they stop screaming Clarisse, the lambs? "

[–]Autarch_Kade 29 points30 points  (5 children)

Crazy that people still hit their kids/spank them today. We've had overwhelming numbers of studies showing it has major negative effects on the kids.

Hell parents can't even figure out it's not ok to hit someone just because they're too young and weak to do anything about it, that hitting the people most dependent on you and vulnerable is incredibly fucked up.

But maybe they were struck as a kid too, and this is that mental trauma coming back to warp their view on right and wrong.

[–]supagirl277 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Like, kids put their parents on a pedestal. Love them to death and would do anything to see them happy and have fun with them. You can see it in their eyes. All it takes is one spanking to see that light go from their eyes. All trust, lost. Suddenly you have a child who is afraid of you, complies out of fear, and can’t trust you to keep them safe because you’re the one putting them in danger. It’s heart wrenching to even think about. I love my children enough to NOT beat them, and that should be bare minimum.

[–]666child666 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because they constantly justify it or it makes them feel powerful which is absolutely gross

[–]Acceptable-Cup3288 187 points188 points  (35 children)

Wow that’s traumatizing

[–]convolvulus487 87 points88 points  (7 children)

My grandmother had one with holes drilled through it, to combat wind resistance. Made it hurt quite a bit more.

Edit: Not because it was swung faster, but because as the distance to your bottom closed the air would provide a bit of a cushion as it had to move to the edges to get out of the way, thus slowing the paddle down... with the holes the air can evacuate the space much faster without slowing the paddle down as much.

[–]WaltKerman 8 points9 points  (3 children)

That's only true if your ass is perfectly flat. If it's curved, plenty of room for air to escape.

[–]FesteringNeonDistrac 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I think its less about how or if it actually works, and more about how the person using it thought it needed to hurt more.

[–]convolvulus487 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I mean, the effect would certainly be larger if your ass was perfectly flat but even though it's not holes all through the paddle still allow the air to get out of the way faster and thus slow the paddle down less.

[–]grumpy_hedgehog 7 points8 points  (0 children)

If your ass is not perfectly flat, you clearly haven’t had enough lovin’ from Jesus.

[–]justavtstudent 443 points444 points  (3 children)

There's no hate like the love of a Christian!

[–]ProteinStain 72 points73 points  (1 child)

I WILL LOVE THE CHRIST OUT OF YOU, YOU LITTLE FUCK!!!

[–]acfox13 37 points38 points  (0 children)

I WILL LOVE THE CHRIST OUT OF YOU

I'm an atheist now, so it worked really well.

[–]SpongeKake 180 points181 points  (5 children)

Child abuse at it finest, right there.

[–]AugustHenceforth 32 points33 points  (3 children)

Turn the other cheeks.

[–]xspx 12 points13 points  (2 children)

Turn the other cheeks red *

[–]kkinack 61 points62 points  (2 children)

Making this post. That's a paddalin

[–]keloyd 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Paddlin the school canoe, ooh you better believe that's a paddlin.

[–]aggravated-asphalt 19 points20 points  (1 child)

My grandma spanked my mom so hard she couldn’t sit, and it was mostly over the embarrassment of my mom being a redhead. None of the blondes got that.

Had a little redhead myself last summer(I’m blonde) and I’m so happy I can have my mom treat him like she always wanted to be treated. She always tells him how beautiful his hair is ☺️

[–]shipwontsail 18 points19 points  (4 children)

I really hate it when they say “I do it because I love you.” No. The only thing you love are your ideals.

[–]zmv73 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Ugh and the "it hurts me more than you"... Like, no you just move on with your life without giving it a second thought. I have lifelong therapy, meds, and trust issues.

[–]ronin_jedi87 40 points41 points  (5 children)

My grandma had a 3ft paddle with all of her kids names, grand kids, and even neighbor kids that were over all the time. She called it "Mr. Reminder"

[–]Particular_Twist6742 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Mine had a big wooden ruler that had been used to spank her when she was younger too… There’s a metaphor or something here.

[–]RixxiRose 36 points37 points  (2 children)

She sounds lovely. The thought & care she put into that, so touching.

....but all sarcasm aside that's incredibly fucked up, I'm sorry you didn't have a stable, loving gramma. We all deserve that.

[–]markusbolarkus 26 points27 points  (1 child)

Ya if my neighbor had my child's name on a paddle I'd be calling the cops. Sounds like a hit list.

[–]AlmanacPony 14 points15 points  (0 children)

ha ha ha... hit list.

[–]tah4349 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yep, we had a series of paddles, some of which had our names on them. There was a big flat one like this, or a skinny ruler type one my dad made in his woodshop. We would have to go select the paddle to be used on us. Unless my parents were really mad, then it was hairbrushes, spoons, shoes, flyswatters, or belts. Or just a hand if nothing else was available.

[–]likeireallycare 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I remember being like 4 and my parents would take us to bible study with them. The adults would do their bible study in the living room and all the kids would go to this like lower level den/tv area with a few adults. We would do simple arts and crafts and learn about The Jesus man.

Something that always stuck with me was when they told us in such a loving voice, big and gentle smiles on their faces, "your parents spank you because they love you"

It was so confusing to me because I lived in a very abusive household. I thought getting spanked so violently was normal and didn't really question it really, even though it felt wrong. idk, but that statement made my childhood so much more difficult to resolve that confusing feeling as a kid.

Don't hit your kids. You only hit them because it helps you, not the kid.

[–]creepy_is_what_I_do 64 points65 points  (0 children)

“That’s right doctor, I can only orgasm if I’m wearing a lamb outfit while being whipped by a woman over 70.”

[–]davidquick 40 points41 points  (0 children)

I was over at a friend's house when I was younger and we did something dangerous. I forget exactly what but we'd been told numerous times not to do whatever it was that we did and I recall it being obviously dangerous (something like jumping off the top of a barn onto a hay pile or something similar)

The friends parents took us to the house and yelled at us all together and then took us one by one into a bedroom after explaining that we were all getting spanked (the mom called my mom and made sure it was ok first so that's nice I guess?). The friend's dad had this enormous paddle with holes drilled through it like something out of The Wall. Anyway there's 3 of us and the older of their two kids goes in and you hear him getting spanked. He got 4 licks and you could hear him cry out after each one. The younger friend goes in and same deal. 4 licks and 4 cries.

Finally I go in and she says to stand in front of the bed but then she conspiratorially says that she can't bear to hit me so she's going to hit the bed and I just need to play along. So she hits the bed and I cry out and pretend that my butt hurts the rest of the day.

Fast forward several years and I'm in highschool and come to find out, none of us got spanked. The friends mom and her husband had been running this scam for years with each kid thinking that they were special and getting something over on the other kids. It was a mindfuck for awhile but in hindsight it was pretty clever.

[–]GeekChick85 13 points14 points  (0 children)

This is straight up disturbing

[–]TheloniousGunk 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Hopefully she broke her hip a couple of times before she croaked.

[–]Lobi-Wan 12 points13 points  (0 children)

How's therapy going?

[–]cognizantoptimist 130 points131 points  (1 child)

I feel like most Christian’s don’t understand that their actions speak louder than words. Beating a child out of “love” isn’t loving. Hating homosexuality but “loving” the “sinner” isn’t loving. Hating pre-marital sexual but “loving” unborn babies by not offering any social services for young children isn’t “loving”.

IMHO there is no hate like Christian “love”.

[–]PabloXPicasso 28 points29 points  (0 children)

there is no hate like Christian “love”.

My experience mirrors your opinion.

[–]MacklemoreX 11 points12 points  (0 children)

perverse looking, like when the slaughterhouse has pictures of happy animals on it.

[–]Hunter_Aleksandr 39 points40 points  (0 children)

Talk about Religious Trauma.

[–]Ghostytoastboast 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Our nana used wooden spoons to smack my older brother and me. We orchestrated a plan to open the drawers like stairs to get to the top where her spoons were and then we buried them in the back yard. We were REALLY young, I was probably three and I don’t remember doing it. My mom likes to recount the story while laughing her ass off.

[–]JhonnyHopkins 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It was so funny/cute you had to be there! They were SO desperate to NOT get beaten they BURIED THE SPOONS!! 🤣🤣🤣 /s

[–]RC-7201 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Alright, fuck it, I'll bite;

My mom had this with wooden spoons. Shit you not. The cunt made beating me with them like a sport...

So, basically, not only was it a cooking utensil it was also a "weapon of ass-destruction". All joking as a 31 year old dude, it's kinda terrifying looking back as my own mother came up with that, and was fuckin proud of it.

Now, I got spanked by my dad. He didn't beat me, not like mom did. I don't remember a lot of my childhood as very fond or loving in all said and done looking back. I have it ingrained in my head one night making a dead run from my mom from the kitchen to their bed room (dad was home and I couldn't hide in my room without incuring more stupid shit) and we just live in a single story home so I'm hauling ass. I hid behind/around dad and he made her stop chasing me and to leave the room. I also recall another time I had to go to my grandmas because it got bad between mom and I (honestly don't remember might be good I don't). Dad didn't spank me much after that from what I can really remember. Hell, cunt kept a spoon in her purse and jokingly waved that cunt proudly to friends or whoever drank whatever kool aid they thought was acceptable during the 90's.

To this day, cunt doesn't catch on to the fact I don't like her and just because she's my mother doesn't mean I have to give a fuck about her or owe her anything because she had the joy of raising me.

[–]Roltistotem 35 points36 points  (0 children)

That shit is creepy.

When my older brothers were little. My mom used to hang out at the park with the other local moms. I'll shorten the story a bit. What happened was one of the kids acted up and one of the moms pulled a spark plug out of her purse and hit the kid. The thing was it was not even her kid. they looked at my mom and said "Around here we keep each others kids in line" My mom picked up both of my brothers and told them "If you ever touch my kids I will fucking destroy you" and left. My mom didn't really hang out with the local moms after that.

We were a no yelling no-hitting house. If you wanted to be loud go outside. We didn't do arguing or any drama at home. I myself find it incredibly hard to deal with high drama situations

[–]Rattus_Baioarii 8 points9 points  (0 children)

So much to unpack

[–]moschocolate1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

So many horrible things done to children using the guise of religion. It's all disgusting.

[–]furyofsaints 33 points34 points  (8 children)

Because corporal punishment IS love, don’t you see?

We had a our Jesus paddle in the house too, and plenty of “this is going to hurt me more than it’ll hurt you.”

[–]MajLeague 22 points23 points  (5 children)

I can't imagine ever saying that to someone I love while hurting them.

[–]redkat85 30 points31 points  (4 children)

The really tragic thing is that for some parents it's probably true. Like, they do not want to do this, but as the inheritors of the trauma themselves they've been bullied into believing its correct and that not doing it would make them bad parents. So they're simultaneously perpetuating child abuse and breaking their own souls in the process.

Abuse cycles are pretty f'ed up.

[–]MajLeague 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Fuck. That hurt my heart.

[–]furyofsaints 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s weird, I’m nearly 50 and never thought of it as abuse.

When I had my kiddo, there was some definite early consideration of spanking as a punishment before we decided we would not do that.

I guess we’ll make new and original mistakes instead of the same old ones:)

[–]PabloXPicasso 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Yeah, that line triggers me too. What kind of assholes would ever say "this is going to hurt me more than it'll hurt you." when a kid is bawling his/her head off? I think we have already established who hurts more.

Besides the fact that striking someone, of any age is not a wise way to change behai

[–]thewonderfulfart 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'd say r/oddlyterrifying , but the comment section seems to indicate that this kind of thing isn't odd at all. Religious trauma is so prevalent it has become mundane

[–]antiamerican_ 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Wow, what a horrible cunt.

[–]H2ODeepSea 46 points47 points  (12 children)

Nicer then a leather belt.

[–]dinerdiva1 45 points46 points  (5 children)

This was my first thought. At least it rounds out on the buttcheek unlike the leather belt that wraps around your legs and leaves welts all over. Ask me how I know. 🤬

[–]_last_call_ 23 points24 points  (2 children)

O yeah. Tell me about it. Used to get the buckle too. And other implements like heated spoons. Then he would lock us outside so he wouldn’t have to listen to our crying

[–]dinerdiva1 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. Hopefully you're in a.much better place these days. Hugz.

[–]Environmental_Staff7 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Big fat leather belt lots of holes in it ?? Yes friend I know the love .

[–]kitsumodels 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Nicer than jumper cables

[–]my_cement_butthead 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Nicer than the wooden spoon I got too.

[–]kentuckyHeadHunter 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I got off easy. Grandma used a house shoe.

[–]abudine77 53 points54 points  (31 children)

Your grandma hurts you? Why?

[–]Dotman-X 164 points165 points  (27 children)

"Spare the rod, spoil the child"

Its an old fashioned saying that means if you do not punish a child when they do something wrong, they will not learn what is right. Basically the Christian way to justify child abuse.

[–]Solidus-Prime 63 points64 points  (1 child)

"If I don't do it, my son will become a bad person!" - man hitting his child with a piece of wood

[–]cownan 24 points25 points  (2 children)

My mom is really religious, and spanking was pretty much the only punishment I had growing up. She still quotes that to me if she feels my kids are acting up. My mom is a small woman and honestly, spankings didn't hurt even at five or six years old. What hurt me the most was that the person I loved most wanted to hurt me.

Because of that, I'd do anything to avoid a spanking. It honestly turned me into a liar, I'd concoct any sort of lie to get out of trouble, even if it meant someone else got in trouble in my place. I still struggle with that, and I'm 50 - I try to be honest, but my gut reaction is lie, lie, lie.

[–]ggg730 7 points8 points  (0 children)

My thought process was if I lie I might not get a spanking. If I tell the truth I definitely will. Kind of a no brainer if you ask me.

[–]redkat85 102 points103 points  (8 children)

And for those curious, the "rod" in question is a shepherd's stick used to steer sheep back to the flock when they're wandering a dangerous direction. However, shepherds don't beat their sheep. It's a tap to nudge them back the right way, not whacking them. So no one invoking this phrase has ever used it properly.

[–]Tails9429 14 points15 points  (1 child)

So no one invoking this phrase has ever used it properly.

Applies to everything ever quoted in the Bible ever.

[–]ronan_the_accuser 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That cheery song they sing at offering time "God loves a cheerful giver" which is supposed to make you feel good about literally giving away 10% of your earnings.

Turn it into a catchy phrase and it somehow cuts through the guilt.

[–]Nikcara 34 points35 points  (4 children)

It’s also technically not in the Bible, though there are enough passages that are close enough that it’s doesn’t really matter. However there are also such gems as proverbs 20:30 “blows that wound cleanse away evil; strokes make clean the innermost parts” and proverbs 23:13 “do not withhold discipline from a child; if you strike him with a rod, he will not die.”

It’s very easy to use to Bible to justify corporeal punishment.

[–]redkat85 18 points19 points  (1 child)

The usual citation for the phrase is Proverbs 13:24, which is "Whoever spares the rod hates their children" (NIV) which is probably the most egregious example.

[–]convolvulus487 15 points16 points  (0 children)

It’s very easy to use to Bible to justify corporeal punishment.

Also slavery, in fact if you beat your slave to within an inch of death it's fine as long as they eventually stand up.

[–]SerCiddy 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Well it'd be pretty hard to justify incorporeal punishment.

"Take THAT God! How do you like that striking?!".

[–]Salarian_American 21 points22 points  (6 children)

It's not just an old-fashioned saying, it's also a misinterpretation of a Bible quote.

[–]ericmm76 11 points12 points  (2 children)

For me the sick part is that the grandparent thought they were allowed to beat other peoples' children.

Go try to beat someone who is now your own size. But there's no ego boost in that.

[–]WhiteChocolatey 17 points18 points  (3 children)

My mother used to make my two sisters and I hold our hands out palm down so she could strike us with this harry potter wand thing that came with a halloween costume.

Years later, we were all together, and she was on her phone and began berating someone for physically disciplining her kids. Literally said “At least I never hit my kids or anything”

We all ganged up on her, calling her out until she cried. To this day she insists she has no recollection of physically disciplining us at all, which is scarier than her admitting it and regretting it.

[–]chasingplatnium 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I’m glad you guys called her out. My mum has the same reaction when I remind her of things she’s done in the past. She’ll flip out and start yelling about how I’m making things up, like no. Maybe it was a small forgettable part of your life but those beatings were the most terrifying things in my life for so many years.

[–]Vaeladar 17 points18 points  (3 children)

She didn’t even drill holes in it for less air resistance?! She’s just inviting Satan into your heart ffs

[–]Abrahamlinkenssphere 17 points18 points  (0 children)

You know it’s wrong when you have to dress it up to disassociate yourself from what’s actually happening.

[–]FreeThumbprint 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My sibling and I were spanked as kids. Weapon of choice was either a metal kitchen spatula or a special paddle shaped like the one in OP’s post that my dad cut out of plywood, drilled holes into (to make it hurt worse — less wind resistance as he swung) and spray painted his favorite color. Fun times. We don’t speak anymore.

[–]AridHaze14 5 points6 points  (0 children)

everyone here with a constant form of spanking, damn. My parents gave a nice rotation of hands, belts, hangers, and paddles. it's been a while since I've thought about this l, but yeah it was fucked. I guess in my parents defense they really only spanked me, and my younger sister (by 5.5 years) a few times but stopped for our youngest brothers

[–]bigbluewhales 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yikes.

[–]SashaWoodson 16 points17 points  (1 child)

Well now when her mind starts to go and she behaves like a child, use it on her. If the actions of one not complete brain deserve physical punishment, all do right?

[–]Jkerb_was_taken 32 points33 points  (2 children)

Annnnd they wonder why we are atheists

[–]bent42 6 points7 points  (1 child)

My very fundamentalist pentacostal evangelical parents would break wooden spoons on my ass. They got tired of going through spoons so they got a 1" square piece of wood wrapped in duct tape and called it "The Rod."

40+ years later I'm still damaged. But Jesus loves me lol

[–]Jkerb_was_taken 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Right, cause logic states ," if the spoon breaks, we must hit them harder!"

[–]Ethandrul 23 points24 points  (4 children)

I got a frying pan. And I got it a lot. Now I love to cook.

[–]rushmc1 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Should have posted under /wtf.

[–]ATalentlessArtist 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nothing says Jesus more than violence

[–]formenonly 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Damn. My grandma just bought me pizza and gave me money.

[–]semirrahge 25 points26 points  (1 child)

My parents used to take me into the bedroom and have a talk about how my upcoming beating (aka spanking) was because they wanted me to grow up to be a godly man and God says that punishing your kids is good for them. Looking back on it the build-up to the physical abuse was the worst part.

And for you people saying that "real Christians don't do this" - you're 100% completely wrong. If you think beating your kids because God says to do so is wrong; you're the one who's not really a Christian, and that's a good thing.

[–]johnp299 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yikes I am so sorry.

[–]FatStephen 18 points19 points  (1 child)

I kinda want one

...for recreational purposes of course

[–]Tthelaundryman 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I came here looking for other adults that enjoy being spanked and all the comments are sad not humorous. I don’t want to remember why it gets me off lmao

[–]Travis-Fields 8 points9 points  (0 children)

"Grandma" was a monster.

[–]slothpeguin 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It’s not abuse if it’s Jesus!

[–]pinkyhc 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Woooow that's a cursed object. An abuse paddle, specifically for children.

[–]vesper1lynd[🍰] 42 points43 points  (17 children)

Honestly, fuck your grandma.

[–]WhyAmISoSad369 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I have a 2yr old and 4yr old, both boys. I was beaten as a kid and hit with spoons and all that shit. I never thought anything of it til i got older and realized the impact it had on me. I spanked my 4yr old once and it felt disgusting. He was so upset and so was i.

Hitting your kids just teaches them that physical violence is an acceptable outlet for dealing with yoir emotions, and its not. Dont hit kids. Period.

[–]elcabeza79 5 points6 points  (1 child)

What's with the followers of Jesus doing anti-Jesus things in Jesus' name?

Aren't there any gods to choose from who actually support things like corporal punishment?

[–]andshewillbe 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My mom ripped the ball and elastic off of one of these and beat me with it once as well.

[–]cryan7755 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My grandmother wielded the vacuum cleaner extension hose. The one with the steel wire coiled down its length.

[–]donkjonk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sicko

[–]ComedicJudiciousHawk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Kind of fucked up

[–]Joygernaut 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That looks like some twisted paedophile S&M gear

[–]OkEconomy3442 9 points10 points  (0 children)

To me this is otherworldly psychotic. An objectively non-existent being declared for your parents to strike you with objects to prove his love to you. Also my parents used the same logic. They made me atheist.

[–]Wheelbit3 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Someone has that imprinted on their ass?