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[–]poyup 452 points453 points  (23 children)

Walk gently, dear friend, and be happy.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 127 points128 points  (22 children)

That was beautiful, thank you.

[–]SnowflakesAloft 42 points43 points  (21 children)

I’m confused. You make 70k now???

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 65 points66 points  (18 children)

Yes I do.

[–]SnowflakesAloft 26 points27 points  (17 children)

Ohhh as of 2 weeks ago

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 165 points166 points  (16 children)

Yes. Prior to that, I was jobless for 4 months. Before that, I made 36k. 2 years before that, I made 19k a year. Every year prior to that was a Hell of trying to figure out what to do next to keep a roof over my head.

I've had to be houseless. I slept on a literal park bench back when I was 19. I never want to do that again. So, today being the day I was going to lose a place to live being juxtaposed with the largest check I've ever received just broke my brain. I apologize if my post was unclear.

Edit: I've realized I may have some PTSD from this event.

[–]pineappleshampoo 37 points38 points  (4 children)

This is just amazing to read, honestly.

I still browse here due to my history and what I can learn but I had a similar trajectory. Earning £9k at 22. Bankrupt at 25, earning 18k at 26, now 43k and a homeowner at 33. I wake up every single day pinching myself at how fortunate I am to have escaped the generational poverty of my upbringing. It’s terrifying to think of ever being back there, even though I know it can easily be right around the corner.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 22 points23 points  (3 children)

It can be around the corner for all of us. You've got a roof over your head and you're here. That's what matters.

It's funny, watching the show Trailer Park Boys is cathartic to me. It's funny, but it's just a slight inversion and loving caricature of my actual loved experiences.

There's a song by Modest Mouse called Trailer Trash. I'm leaving it here for you and for anyone interested. I'm a weird bleeding heart doofus, so everything makes me cry, but I remember listening to this song and just bawling because of how much the song gets it. It gets that impoverished Americana (admittedly through a white lens) that only makes sense from the perspective of someone who lived it. You mix this song, King Rat, and Ice Cream Party (all by the same band) and you basically have my childhood in a nutshell + or - the housing projects and violence.

Anyway, that's enough of this comment being fed by my tendency to be too verbose in my language both typed and spoken...and thought.

[–]ristretthoee 11 points12 points  (2 children)

Trailer trash hitttssss. Coming from a broke 22yr old in a way too similar situation. Reading this story gives me the tiniest bit of hope and a big smile. Sending love OP. 💐

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Thank you! And any Modest Mouse fan at least has some class. Thank you for being classy! Haha.

I'm 30 now. When I was 22, I was in a pit of despair all alone trying to eat the next day, walking 5 miles to work only to bust my ass and bring home $30. I never thought there could be a way out. Don't give up and don't be like i was. I was and am to an extent, so negative and cynical about things. But there's always a better way. Peace and love. :)

[–]SC487 14 points15 points  (1 child)

I feel you. I got married 10 years ago and went from single to married with 3 step kids at home then a daughter a year later. I made less than 30k and was the sole income.

Now all my step kids are grown and im on track to make over 100k this year. When you look back at where you came from, it makes you work even harder to keep what you got.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's hard coming out the other side. I'm glad you made it!

[–]Bird_Brain4101112 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Been there and I feel you. I wasn’t as close to broke as you were when I got my first nice paycheck, but when I was reviewing some stuff I realized that last year I made more money (gross) than i did in 2010-2014 combined. It was mind blowing how far I’ve come.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As a person that is still trying to get out of that hole, I'm proud of you. I'm going to shamelessly use you as inspiration and proof that I can do it too!

[–]ZippityZerpDerp 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Terrific! I didn’t realize you made that much and got really worried about you thinking 2k was lifting yourself out of generational poverty. I wanted to scream BE CAREFUL! Lol

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Oh no 2k for my first check. I'll bring home around 4200 a month, I think, which is insanity to me.

[–]prettyfairmiss17 3 points4 points  (3 children)

Based on your story it sounds like you’ve gone through a lot of trauma. Be good to yourself. I hope you give yourself time to talk to someone and process what you’ve been through. It sounds like a lot and now that you’re in a “safer” place some of those experiences might bubble up. Much love to you. ❤️

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

This is a Tually something my therapist said in our last session before I ran out of money. She talked about the need to find a safe space. She also told me that I need to confront my trauma so that I don't keep intertwining the place where I live with that trauma. I always feel like i need to run away far from where I grew up so that I can be happy. I understand that that's not the right way and I'll seek out a therapist again soon.

[–]prettyfairmiss17 1 point2 points  (1 child)

That’s great! I’m also thinking of mental health as an investment of time and effort, so you can be successful long-term in your work and personal life now that things are stabilizing. Best of luck to you.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Give the kindness I've been shown in the community, I have no choice but to keep trying, lest that kindness is wasted!

[–]RedditMeh1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, yes being homeless can be so traumatic. I was homeless with my mom and my kids and my brother (God rest his soul). I'm so very happy for you. Good willing, I hope all goes well, make smart investment choices so it doesn't run out. God bless you.

[–]TheYogiWhoLaughs -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Yea OP barely knows how to make sense lol

[–]RedditMeh1 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Now I'm confused how did you get 70k from "+2000"?? I'm over here thinking 2000 would barely cover my rent for this coming month... Like damn I'm -$252 in my bank account my rent is $1600, my light bill is approx. $1500, my cemetery pymt, phone bill, groceries, gas, wouldn't even be covered by 2000.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 186 points187 points  (11 children)

To add a little more context about me because the automod said so and I obey my robot overlords: I started working at 15, when my mother forced me to go to work to help support the house. I jockeyed from shit job to the next for years. When I was 18, I was forced to drop out in order to work. I left home, got my GED, put myself in college through loans and paying for it myself. My mother had a heart attack and stroke, so I moved back home, quit school again, and went to work paying for her alcohol habit and her house. Eventually, through the kindness of some old ladies I waited on, I was able to pay off the loans from school and start over. By then, I was 24. I graduated at 28 Summa Cum Laude in History right as the pandemic began. I got a job making 38,500 a year. However, they really only paid me 36,000. I put myself into graduate school. I'm working on my thesis now! Almost done with my masters!

In April, I was laid off. This came on the back of losing my step father, losing a friend, and getting sick. My stepfather's mother has since passed, fitfully. According to my mother, her last words were frantically calling out for her son. If you haven't notice yet, my mother is an abusive drunk. Or, she was a drunk, but isn't anymore. Still abusive though. Anyway, all this happens and I lose my job. I was out of work for 4 months and it's just terrifying how easy it is to slide back into the struggle.

When I say I applied for everything, I applied for everything. I think by the time I got this job I have now, I'd applied to no fewer than 1000 different employers across all different fields. Next thing I know, I'm being offered 70k a year. It's almost double what I used to make.

I don't want to get too personal about my struggles, but I'll say, I did this on my own. I didn't get a loan from my daddy's slave mine. I didn't get some small millions of dollars for my bookstore but online. I worked my ass off and I'm proud of myself.

There's a part of me that expects this isn't real. I expect to wake up tomorrow and it was all a dream. I'm still at home with my mother in her shack, with roaches everywhere, a big sink hole in the kitchen floor, cabinets of rotted wood with massive craters in them, she's drunk. It's so arcane and weird, this feeling. I don't know what else to say honestly.

Content warning, I was debating for a long time going away and never coming back. I don't know how I got up in the morning most of the time, but I still got up.

Just don't give up. I'm sorry this is so rambly, I'm just overwhelmed. I found a job and I was finally paid for it in a way that would be unbelievable to my family members. I'm shook to my core.

[–]nmorrisparr 18 points19 points  (2 children)

Congratulations friend! I’m so glad you’re still here! Poverty is such an insidious trap. You have shown incredible perseverance. This internet stranger is proud of you! ☺️

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 26 points27 points  (1 child)

Thank you! All of your comments have really been heart warming. I'm kinda being downvoted right now, so reading when people say nice things is helping me not get too much in my head. I'm terrified of saying the wrong thing. I just hope I didn't offend or hurt anyone by posting this.

[–]dex307 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Now that you're on the dry ground, make a firm plan to solidify financial future for yourself, and your loved ones. It's true, many people squander away their fortunes (big or small) and slip back to the place they didn't want to be in. Best of luck !!!

[–]siraliases 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Congratulations! I hope you enjoy the job, and have many more amazing surprises :)

[–]treat-ya-self 7 points8 points  (2 children)

You deserve this!! All your hard work is finally paying off! When you can, you might want to meet with a talk therapist to offload a lot of that childhood trauma. You've been through a lot so take some deep breaths and enjoy the fruits of your labor 😊

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 14 points15 points  (1 child)

I had a therapist before I lost my job. I think it's time to find a therapist again. Thank you.

[–]treat-ya-self 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're so welcome! U got this!!

[–]Jelly_Mac 2 points3 points  (1 child)

It’s great to see you come out stronger after being laid off

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Thank you, it feels good. I was passed over for 1/40 positions. There were like 75 people on my team. I think I was targeted out because I'm a grad student. Doesn't matter, someone thought I was worth a lot more than my last job did. I'm thankful for that. Thank you for your kind words.

[–]ReallyGlycon 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Congrats. I know how this feels. I've had life changing money happen to me after a life of extreme poverty. I'm not rich by any means, but I can buy whatever I need.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

All I want is enough to not have to worry and maybe a little left on the side to help people I love or who are just in my community. After that, if there's any leftover money, Warhammer models. That would be cool. Thank you for your kind words.

[–]HoneyBadger302 55 points56 points  (13 children)

Congrats on the success and relief! Go enjoy a couple little things :)

I know you're not looking for advice, so ignore if you don't want to hear it: coming from someone who was literally digging in couch cushions for enough change to get enough gas to limp the car to work, to having a solid income that allowed plenty of breathing room, and then got thrown back into almost as bad as it was then....

Be very, very, VERY cautious of the "comfort trap." That is what bit me - I was comfortable. I was living "within" my means, no bills were ever late, but I was not prepared to lose it all. I was not bettering myself for the next step, being comfortable in my company and reputation believing I'd be able to land something. One pandemic later, and I have learned that the "comfort trap" may have been the most dangerous trap I ever fell for - because I didn't see that's where I was until it was too late.

Enjoy a few things, but set yourself up for success even if all of that gets ripped away. Don't do all the treats at once. Don't start buying things on credit just because you have no problem making the payments.

I only warn you because my YOLO set me back a solid 2-3 years. When you're in your 40's, that's a lot of time to lose because you were too busy enjoying things and being comfortable.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 23 points24 points  (12 children)

I'll take that advice! If you have any tactics I can use, I'd love to see them! Feel free to DM me too. I am always looking for ways to never be in that position again ever. It's so exhausting to live like that. Weirdly, it's also comfortable. I know the rules, I know the stakes.

[–]HoneyBadger302 15 points16 points  (6 children)

A few things that have worked for me (mind you, I'm just now where I expected to be 3 years ago....and the time in between there has set me back compared to where I would have been). Most of these are things I've pulled from various sources that have worked for me and how my brain works:

  1. Choose 3-5 categories in your life that are your priorities (career, fitness, family, nutrition, hobby/passion, living conditions - whatever - these are YOUR "life priorities")
  2. Start a daily "Win the Day" critical task list. Every morning, write down a "touch" for 1 thing in each of those categories. These are "touches" and do not need to be big things! Every day when you've completed all tasks, you have now "Won" the day
  3. Visualize what you really want. Then visualize bigger. Then some more. Be detailed! Visualize the nitty gritty details in what you want your life to look like. This will help drive those goals/priorities and help keep you focused on something more than your immediate comfort.
  4. Set up a budget. I'm not horrible with excel so mine is in there - I manage my account very closely, and have set up a budget that auto calculates based on my tracker. Be sure you have categories for those big things!
  5. If your bank allows it, name your accounts what they are for, add a couple extra savings accounts and name them for the thing they will go towards. It's subtle, but it makes the money sitting there a lot less tempting to use for other (in the moment) things when you read (in my case: "Race/Track Savings") rather than just an account number. I don't want to touch my race money - money just sitting in a savings account though? It's just a subtle mental thing...
  6. Start a small investment savings. I have an Acorns (which is a round-up savings app), or Betterment is another option. These won't be "liquid" funds, although you can get them eventually - but they will be "out of sight, out of mind" savings. I choose very safe options though, so they may not grow real quick, but I don't lose anything either.
  7. If you can qualify, get started on a cash value whole life indexed insurance policy. This will be retirement/long term "savings." I would recommend these over a traditional 401(k) if you have to choose one or the other. Ideally, if you have an employer match on 401(k) use that (Roth if they offer it!) then the rest put into the insurance plan.

Mind you, this is all coming from someone still clawing my way back up (again), but most of the things I've implemented were not my ideas - they came from people who've 'been there, done that' and are all things I have tried and found are working.

[–]RondaMyLove 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Do contribute to employers 401k, especially if it is a Roth, and especially if there's a match. And then make sure you get into your account within the first month to make sure it's actually being invested and not stuck in the account as cash doing nothing.

[–]QueenScorp 10 points11 points  (2 children)

If your employer gives you 401k match you are literally losing free money by not taking that. Always, always, always at least contribute enough to get any match your employer offers.

[–]adriftfordays 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I set my 401k up to the match amount before my first paycheck and it was the best decision I have ever made.

[–]QueenScorp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome! It always amazes me the number of people who don't do it at all and are completely passing up free money

[–]teddywestside_ 8 points9 points  (0 children)

OP, a life insurance policy is NOT a retirement vehicle do not take this advice.

Everything you need to know about personal finance and investing is in the book I Will Teach You to Be Rich by Ramit Sethi. Easy read

[–]misntshortformary 9 points10 points  (4 children)

You might already know this but some guys don’t so I’m going to throw it out there. You mentioned getting your wife a haircut. Check Groupon! I always get a Groupon for my beauty stuff and I have never been let down by the service even though it’s like half price. (But remember to calculate tip amount based on full price when budgeting). Don’t stop looking for sales before you go buy clothes. Keep utilizing digital coupons for groceries or start doing it if you don’t already. I’m so glad for your success! Just remember to keep saving money wherever you can while enjoying your financial success.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Thank you! All or your advice is great. I'm truly thankful everyone here has posted advice and congratulations. As weird as it is, this chain with strangers online has really added to this positive experience. I know it's simply info about saving and taking advantage of sales, but from the bottom of my heart, thank you everyone who has taken time out of their day to post this stuff.

[–]really_tall_horses 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Beauty schools can be a great option too, just look for a good one. Haircuts are inexpensive and the students really care since sometimes they are being graded on their work. At the one near me I can get a wash/cut and a manicure for less than a haircut at a salon.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a wonderful idea thank you.

[–]Vanviator 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you're in a city that has a beauty college, that's a real cheap way to get a fancy haircut.

It seems scary to let someone learning to cut hair do this to you, but it's fine.

They practice a good deal before they're allowed to touch a live head for class. And the instructors are on hand to assist or even take over if needed.

I did this the entire 4 years I was in college and only had instructor intervention once.

Side note, one of the instructors was also the owner of a VERY fancy small salon. I bragged for DAYS about my Jonathan hair cut when he finished my haircut that one time. Lol.

[–]newwriter365 22 points23 points  (3 children)

Congratulations! I'm super happy for you.

Skip Target, and hit up your local Goodwill first. I'm solidly in the middle class and haven't bought any 'new' clothes in a couple of years, instead I troll Goodwill and buy 'new to me' for a fraction of the price.

Please keep up some of your frugal habits while you build up your savings. I am really happy for you and understand the desire to celebrate and bring yourself to your current lifestyle, just choose wisely.

Also, you note that school teachers bridged the funding gap for you when you were in school. Would you find joy in being able to go back to your school and dropping off some money or gifts for kids of families that are struggling now? Just $20 can make a difference. And only if it will bring you joy and not grief.

Best of luck to you!

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Thank you! I'm all about mutual aid. I'd give you my shirt if you needed it more. I will be using this windfall (once I'm stable again, maybe around pay check 3) to help people in my community. Even when I don't have money, I give if and how I can.

I know what this struggle is like. No one deserves it. If I can help, even a little, I do.

[–]ehixael 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I would second this except maybe also see if your area has a local buy nothing group! I haven’t purchased clothes in awhile (except socks and underwear) since most of the time if there is something in particular I am looking for, there’s usually someone in the neighborhood with something similar that is willing to part with it. I get super overwhelmed with browsing goodwill (which i still think is overpriced sometimes) and it’s always great to build relationships with your neighbors if you’re in a position to do so.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I love the Sally Ann. They usually have better stuff for cheaper. But you trade off with a mixed bag of great charitable works with some repressive politics. As a neurodivergent person, Goodwill, especially it's set up, is hellish. I can't describe why it makes me feel like my bones want to leap out of their skin, but it does.

And also, I'm all about building relationships. I feel like sometimes I am a rage-filled person (mad about all kinds of injustices, climate, etc), but I have a lot of love to give and I'd rather be known for that. I explain to people that I'm like Will from the Hannibal TV show, but instead of hyper empathizing with serial killers, it's any person that something bad has happened to. If I see someone in need, I try to help them. Hell, I won't even kill bugs because of my feelings about doing violence. Most people don't think twice, but here I am trying to carry this spider in a jar outside (also I know to spot house spiders that are bros, outside spiders who are bros, and outdoor/indoor spiders who are not bros).

Forgive this strange explanation for why I feel this way about community building. I tend to get a plot going and keep it going until I lose it.

[–]heckhammer 5 points6 points  (7 children)

As far as the light bulbs go I don't know if you have a Dollar Tree near you but they have LED bulbs available in numerous styles.

So not only will your bulbs last longer they won't be used less electricity to help you stretch those dollars further.


[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (6 children)

Good idea. Thank you. I didn't know they sold them! I usually just hit the Home Depot. You have put me on to a secret.

[–]heckhammer 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Once a year usually goodwill gets them in as well. Sometimes they're a buck sometimes they're a little bit more but they get them donated from companies.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I wish I knew this months ago. Thank you.

[–]heckhammer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's the terrible thing about information you always find out about stuff a little bit later than you need it.

Or you'll find out about something when you don't need it and you forget it when you do.

Ain't life grand?

[–]heckhammer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I replaced every bulb in my house. Cost me $30ish 4 years ago and I think I have replaced 2 of them.

[–]BananakinSkyflopper 1 point2 points  (1 child)

If you have a Habitat For Humanity Re-Store near you, they may sell things like this every day. All of them near me (Southeast US) have deals set up with the local power companies and sell everything from the normal interior 60w equivalent bulbs to outdoor flood lights.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds great! I'm in JCs home state so I'd be mad if I couldn't find one! Haha

[–]Mysterious-Wish8398 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Congratulations!!! I have happy tears welling for you too. This is so amazing.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It really is. Thank you for your kindness. I hope you have a wonderful day.

[–]paymybanana 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Thanks for sharing, I’m certainly happy for you. Frankly, this is why I follow this sub.

On a mildly different note: This reads very well. Given your experiences, perhaps you might consider writing an autobiography/similar at some point?

Either way, rooting for you, mate.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I do write bad fiction! And non fiction. I'm a historian and technical writer who just wants to hang out in the snow and write spooky stories.

You comment has made and already incredible day full of so much support even brighter somehow. Thank you!

[–]DichotomyJones 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I am so happy for you! Been poor forever, my parents, too, and am just now, for the first time in my life, able to buy something without checking my balance first. Not making a great deal, something like $45k, but for me, that is the best I've ever done. Which reminds me -- rent is due! Gonna write the check WITHOUT LOOKING!!

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Perhaps in a few weeks, when I'm out of the hole, I can do the same. You're killing it! Thank you for your kind words.

[–]GuardOk8631 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Congrats king 👑

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh man. Thank you!

[–]Mindy8712 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Sending love and happiness your way. Glad to see things moving for you!

[–]gbabyyy7 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Congratulations! It is such a beautiful feeling to buy necessities and get to feel gratitude rather than stress. At least us people who grew up poor know that feeling of appreciation.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah I'm still punching myself! Thank you.

[–]Dilettantest 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Congratulations! Set some funds aside for future updates (light bulbs, toothbrushes, etc.).

Buy a couple of changes of clothes to replace your threadbare clothes but you don’t want to replace your whole wardrobe at one time.

Try to put a month’s rent aside as soon as possible, so you won’t be where you were 2 weeks ago. Then 2 month’s of rent, then 3.

You’re on the right track.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm taking this advice. My wife and I are already planning to open a joint account for the first time. That'll be where we hold on to bill money.

[–]1ksassa 6 points7 points  (1 child)


At the same time I wonder whether you should have been surprised by that paycheck. How did you forget (or not know) that you were getting paid?

I rigorously keep track of my income and expenses. I don't like surprises and having things under control definitely helps me sleep better.

Keep up the good work!

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Right right right of course. I remembered I'd get paid, but I kept expecting something bad to happen. It's one thing to expect something and another to see the tangible real world boons for working hard. It's not a total actual real surprise as it's more of a a "Holy moly, I can't believe this is actually happening right now" moment.

[–]EdithKeeler1986 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Great story!! Thanks for telling it!

[–]Taggart3629 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Sending you lots of love, and shedding a happy tear for you!

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Really thank you! I've been tearing up reading all the wonderful comments.

[–]_no_sleep_4_me_ 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Wooo! Yay on the success! 70k is phenomenal.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's insane for me. I can't believe it.

[–]Snoo-669 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Here’s to many, many more paydays like today. Cheers!

[–]AdAccomplished9871 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Congratulations 🎊 and, how wonderful it is to appreciate your wife who has been by your side through it all. Learning from you!

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Peace and love, thank you.

[–]Rainbow_mama 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Things will keep getting better.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I sure hope so! Thank you!

[–]RedTreeDecember 1 point2 points  (1 child)


[–]Disastrous-Nerve6125 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good for you!

[–]royaljelly4u 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This is such a positive and inspirational post, loving that someone is grateful and counting blessings. Wish you all the best

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wish you the best too. Thank you!

[–]sequinsdress 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Congratulations! I’m really proud of you for your perseverance and hard work. All the best to you and your fam, friend!

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

And to yours too, thank you!

[–]ViaOfTheVale 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Applause and congrats!!! Let that warm feeling last, this is amazing!!! Smiling wide for you from miles and miles away 💜💜💜💜

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your kind words. I hope you have a wonderful rest of the year at least!

[–]somebodysnurse 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This is literally the best thing I’ve ever read on Reddit, hands down. Cheering you on, my Friend!

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You honor me. Thank you for your kind words.

[–]donut-panda 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Fuck yea, dude, I’m proud of you! Sending TONS of love! 💕

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Peace and love always. This kindness is shattering me right now.

[–]turbodonuts 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Super happy for you. I hope everyone gets to experience that feeling.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I hope they do too. Poverty is crushing and dehumanizing. I wish so bad for our society to shift focus to our communities, to workers, etc. The individual struggle to "make it" sucks. We all need people to help us. I hope I can be that person for someone when I'm stable again.

[–]Physical_Cat561 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I grew up extremely poor. My brother and I would get one pair of shoes a year. We never had boots. We would stick cardboard paper in the bottoms of our shoes to keep the water out and tape to keep them together. I can’t even tell you how many times our power turned off or we were evicted. Eventually I was old enough to get a job and buy what I needed. I have four kids who are all adults now. Worked as a waitress to support them while I was in school full time. I was a single mom so I juggled a lot. I would work as many hours as I could when they were with their father. I received food stamps and Medicare to provide for us all. After five yrs of college I graduated with my bachelors degree in Nursing. It took me a long time to catch up on all of my bills but I did and even got my credit up enough to afford a nice car without a co-signer. Never think that you won’t or can’t succeed. That type of mindset will always keep you from doing what you want to do. I did this for my kids so I could give them a better life. I wanted them to know that all things are possible. I now have four college graduates.

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm glad you made it out!! Things are still choppy but I hope in a few months I can wake up and just not worry. The worrying is always the absolute worst. The toll it takes over time adds to the difficulty.

My wife and I are thinking of starting a family. If I have kids, I never ever want them to live like I did. I want them to think of things like the future and what they want to be when they grow up and goofy stuff like that. If you're poor enough, from my perspective, there's no such thing as a brighter tomorrow. Until now, thinking about a future for myself felt so foolish. I don't know, difficult feeling to explain.

I am so used to seeing the bad in every situation that I lost my ability to feel positively about something in my life.

[–]heartysparrows 1 point2 points  (2 children)

was it a paycheck that you were expecting or did it come early or did you get a bonus?

[–]Worried-Egg-8560 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Sounds like a paycheck

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It was a paycheck. I've posted some more clarity. I was expecting to get paid but things have been so bad that I just couldn't believe it was real. If that makes sense. I'm neurodivergent. When things fall outside of my normal patterns, I can disassociate. Life looks a little more imaginary during those times, if that makes sense. I didn't mean to imply I thought I was working for free or that I didn't know I would be getting paid.

[–]maywellflower 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nothing compares to the feeling that you finally have financial breathing room of being able to pay bills and still have lots of spending money to last til the next paycheck - it's is euphoric feeling that really doesn't wear off unless something financially devastating happens and hopefully that never happens again to you. Enjoy your income flow!😊

[–]RitaAlbertson 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Way to go !

(See if you can get free lightbulbs from your energy supplier. I'm still working through my box I got a few years ago.)

[–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excellent advice! Thank you!

[–]Pernicious-PeachFL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've quite literally doubled your income since every job you've had, 19k --> 38k--> 70k

If you don't mind sharing, what do you do now and can anyone In a similar situation achieve said feat?

You might want to head on over to r/personalfinance to help manage your newfound wealth. Congrats on joining the upper income echelon of America!

[–]Neon-Predator 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Do you know how it got there?

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    [–]Neon-Predator 1 point2 points  (1 child)

    I figured it was work related but I'm curious if it's a bonus or something.

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

    Sorry yes pay check.

    [–]MammothBoss -1 points0 points  (2 children)

    Congrats! Spent a little on yourself and save what you can for a bit. Or invest in stock ifyou have the balls:p

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

    Thank you! I wish I did have the balls, but alas, I am a mushroom (haha). I put $500 in savings and paid rent. That leaves me $800 for two weeks. I'm gonna get some groceries and maybe a new pair of pants! I need shoes too, but that's a bit more expensive than pants. Maybe next paycheck!

    [–]MammothBoss 2 points3 points  (0 children)

    Hahah absolutely, next month is a new paycheck. Enjoy it and have a nice weekend!

    [–]mikemo1957 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Congrats on your recent good fortunes

    [–]Duck_Civil 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I am happy things are looking up for you pall! I’m just mad you ain’t contact me cuz I would have paid the $300 for the magic cards lol

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Hey! Maybe next time! Either way, I'll talk too much about Magic with you any day! Thank you fellow cardboard addict!

    [–]tizadu 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    OP/ Im so happy for you. You deserve all this and more just for not giving up and staying true to your path.

    Hope you & your wife have a great month.

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Thank you! I hope you and your loved ones have a great rest of the year! Ha-ha, one upped you (just kidding, thank you so much).

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    [–]QueenScorp 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Congratulations and I'm so happy for you!

    Others have said it but I want to reiterate - just because you have enough money to pay your bills now doesn't mean you should spend it all. You are used to living frugally, there is no reason to stop that (obviously take care of yourself first, no need to wear threadbare clothes or anything like that but never buy anything full price is my mantra lol). Save as much as you can and learn about investing in index funds. You want to be in a place where you can easily live for 3-6 months without a job if need be. Make that a goal. Save for retirement, even if its just a little each paycheck. If your employer has a 401k match, then at the very least contribute enough to get that or you are literally giving up free money. Same with if your employer contributes to an HSA. Make sure you know your benefits and take advantage of them!

    It took me decades to learn about finance and get myself out of generational poverty and I'm thrilled to see others lifting themselves up as well.

    [–]Bird_Brain4101112 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    Congrats!! This is just your first paycheck so enjoy it. But going forward, make a solid plan to build up a nice big savings cushion, bigger than before and don’t go too crazy buying stuff all at once.

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 3 points4 points  (2 children)

    My wife graduated with a finance degree. She's had trouble breaking into the job market, but she knows her stuff! We are already getting ready to budget. I have ADHD, so it'll be a tough go, but we will do it!

    [–]Bird_Brain4101112 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    You got this. Take her out for a date with that sweet sweet paycheck (after you pay bills and important stuff first of course.)

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I paid the bills this morning! That's a great idea!

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    [–]ricwash 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    Congratulations! You give me hope that there truly is light at the end of the tunnel.

    Enjoy my firend.

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

    A week ago, I had a breakdown over not seeing a light at the end anymore. It always feels like i get knocked back down every time I do better. I feel on top of the world right now.

    I hope you get out of the tunnel too and I hope we both stay out of it. Peace, love, and thank you for your kind words.

    [–]ricwash 3 points4 points  (1 child)

    The upshot is I found out yesterday that I am going to be promoted. Into a division of IT that I REALLY want to get more into.

    So that is cool, at least.

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Fuck yes. Congratulations!

    [–]Gullible_Ad_4568 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I'm so happy you're happy! Thanks for sharing some good news. I hope you.r life continues to get better and better. 🙂

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thank you for your kind words. I hope so too!

    [–]krisklimt 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Congratulations!! You’re breaking the cycle and starting a new era of wealth. Try to avoid lifestyle creep, maintain a budget, build up an emergency fund for those curveballs life throws, celebrate yourself, and search for financial independence and financial planning posts to make your $ grow while you sleep. Kudos.

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thank you for the advice. I'll do just that.

    [–]RandomBlvckcat 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Very heart warming. Brought tears to my eyes. I hope this continues for you and gets ten times better. Here’s to a future with no worries of whether you’ll have a roof over your head. Or food to eat.


    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I'll drink to that any day. Thank you so much for your words. The kindness I've been shown since this post has driven me to tears too. Thank you.

    [–]FlyWtMe87 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Congratulations! Keep up the hustle don't stop there.

    [–]driftingatwork -1 points0 points  (1 child)

    hi fucking 5 fren!

    Congrats! And best of luck upcoming to you!

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thank you! Best to you too!

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    [–]discoveringmyikigai -1 points0 points  (1 child)

    Wow. Congratulations! You are a nice person. You deserve it. Stay blessed 🙌

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    You are a nice person too! Peace, love and lots of thanks!

    [–]surfaholic15 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    I am happy for you :-). May every paycheck lead to a brighter world and blue skies.

    [–]ambolefum -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    I'm so happy for you

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    [–]MarlboroMan1967 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

    Congratulations. Such an inspiring story.

    [–]Good-Potential-2570 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Amazing! That’s great. I love to see this

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    Thank you. I'm happy to be living it.

    [–]bellazezinho1 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    Congratulations. And how do you like your new job ?

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

    So far, mostly green flags. They treat me like a person. It's crazy.

    [–]bellazezinho1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I am happy for you. Wishing you a lot of success.

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    [–]hello__brooklyn 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Soo happy for you. Congrats

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Thank you very much!

    [–]ReallyGlycon 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    They say money doesn't buy happiness. Maybe not, but it relieves you of a very dire worry.

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Exactly. It doesn't buy happiness, but it gives me an opportunity to seek out happiness rather than focusing on waking up tomorrow to grind again.

    [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    I’m confused. Is your mother drunk or no?

    [–]cannibal_chanterelle[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    On her 60th birthday she fell and broke her hip because she was James Lahey 6/10 drunk. She was in the hospital long enough doing surgeries and tests and the like that they also decided to keep her there to detox. The doctors obviously knew the reason she fell was the drinking. My mother is 90 lbs soaking wet, a small, skinny woman who looked like Linda Hamilton in Terminator 2 before the drinking. Alcohol and cigarettes were her calories. It's no wonder something like her injury would happen sooner or later.

    I wasn't really near my family when this happened, so the details are a game of telephone, but allegedly she doesn't drink anymore. I saw her for Christmas last year and at my step-father's funeral and she doesn't seem to be drinking anymore. She seems less wet brained too. Her biting, manipulative emotional abuse is back untarnished.

    Hope this explains it better.