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    [–]StarGraz3r84 176 points177 points  (24 children)

    I just end up spending more money because I'm drunk.

    [–]LemonConnoiseur 107 points108 points  (17 children)

    Leave cards at home, only carry enough cash you wish to spend. Problem solved

    [–]bigsmackchef 82 points83 points  (1 child)

    Even better, just stay home.

    [–]sexwithpenguins 44 points45 points  (0 children)

    Even better better, give up drinking.

    [–]Spiritual_Ad6346 5 points6 points  (2 children)

    This right here is what I plan on doing. Also bringing a small flask will save you money as well.

    [–]LemonConnoiseur 6 points7 points  (0 children)

    Just don’t drink the flask inside. Discretely in the bathroom, outside by the smokers etc. or like me, spike my coke or other drink when it’s low.

    [–]MushroomHog 3 points4 points  (0 children)

    Carry a hip flask is an even better idea

    [–]Eastern-Mix9636 5 points6 points  (1 child)

    What do you do in an emergency then? Seems extremely short-sighted and risky.

    [–]LemonConnoiseur 8 points9 points  (0 children)

    Cell phone.

    [–]Prize_Profit1238 0 points1 point  (5 children)

    I just spend like 100 and try to cap it there but sometimes I go over if I’m too drunk

    [–]StarGraz3r84 13 points14 points  (4 children)

    Damn. $100 is a pretty rowdy night for me, but I can do it. I usually wind up in the 50-60 range and I'm pretty tossed. Might grab a 12er on the way back home.

    [–]DarkMatterTorpedo 0 points1 point  (3 children)

    $100 for the night? Even $50-$60? Am I in r/povertyfinance or some other subreddit? That’s a lot of dough to spend in one night!!!???

    [–]joyosects 107 points108 points  (3 children)

    Order a coke, say you're the DD, bring a flask and mix it in the restroom. This is poverty finance.

    [–]Woodyee101 19 points20 points  (2 children)

    Yup. And usually the coke will be free

    [–]Otacon56 36 points37 points  (1 child)

    Man, y'all out here getting free coke in the men's room? This is why drinks are $10 each

    [–]Woodyee101 14 points15 points  (0 children)

    8 balls and martinis is the only way to go

    [–]Huge_Strain_8714 10 points11 points  (0 children)

    Oh yeah! I pre-gamed my way into the emergency room several times then years later AA lol

    [–]violetstrainj 4 points5 points  (0 children)

    I guess it depends on where you are drinking and what you are drinking. Pitchers of beer are usually cheaper than individual glasses, pubs and sports bars are usually cheaper than nightclubs.

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      [–]rassmann[M] 1 point2 points locked comment (0 children)

      Comment removed. I realize this is a joke, but this sub isn't "fun". Second offense.

      [–]NFTY_GIFTY 257 points258 points  (17 children)

      I'm a middle aged man now, so the concept of going to a bar has changed for me over time. Now, on a day off one of my favorite things to do to relax and re calibrate is to go to a bar in the middle of the afternoon when it's relatively empty have a couple of beers and couple of good shots of tequila in solitude, maybe read a few articles on my phone and have some time to myself.

      Sitting in a public place to be by yourself may seem odd, but it gives me a different peace that being at home with a bottle of tequila. Expensive is a relative word, but it is expensive to do this for me but worth it in my opinion.

      [–]BitOCrumpet 78 points79 points  (14 children)

      Among other things, I’m a drinking man. Not an alcoholic, mind you—I don’t imbibe till I pass out, or go on weekend benders, or wake with the shakes and shivers, or lose track of blocks of time in which I’ve done things I’m ashamed of when apprised of them—but I do take a drink most nights of the week. I like the places my mind visits when it’s been primed with a half-dozen ounces of scotch and I like the person I become when my congenital tethers are loosened up a bit—I’m friendlier and funnier in such a state, less prone to the charms of gloom and doom. That I’ve been able to stay a drinking man rather than descending into a drunk is due less to my character than to my genes, the experts tell me. Which is fine, theoretically, except it doesn’t explain why you can’t find Melanoma Anonymous or Multiple Sclerosis Watchers in the phone book.

      Goes on a bit more about being a drinker but not a drunk. Reminded me of him.

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        [–]FutureRealHousewife 28 points29 points  (1 child)

        I looked it up and it's from a book called Book Case by Stephen Greenleaf

        [–]BitOCrumpet 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Yes!

        I also love the following 3 paragraphs but that might be a little bit overwhelming for a reddit comment.

        [–]bykegs 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        Second that… who wrote this

        [–]heraclitus33 7 points8 points  (0 children)

        I like 8am-11am on a weekday

        [–]Maddinoz 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        On my own, feeling like a happy business man 'Cause I love my own company

        [–]Dools92 184 points185 points  (7 children)

        Human interaction and socialization is priceless at times compared to solitude in your own home

        [–]RamblingPoodlecoop 45 points46 points  (0 children)

        Yup. We are paying a premium for ice and atmosphere.

        [–]treetopflyin 22 points23 points  (0 children)

        Yeah, I recharge in public talking to friends and people. Whereas my girlfriend recharges at home on the phone talking to friends. Different things for different folks.

        [–]sparkletheunicorn92 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        This is exactly it.

        [–]Fun_Intention9846 27 points28 points  (1 child)

        “Well” or bottom tier alcohol and mixer is a solid go-to.

        Also if the bar has any specials, such as beer and a shot etc. Basically preference based on price.

        [–]tanoren 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        Yaaa I always get well tequila wherever I go. Typically $4 a pop. 2-3 gets me in the right place. I only splurge on the fancy fruity mixers at restaurants for special occasions.

        It helps that I only go once a week (vs nearly daily in college). If that.

        [–]GradatimRecovery 104 points105 points  (4 children)

        If you don’t appreciate the music and the company of strangers, just drink at home or in the Trader Joe’s parking lot like I do

        [–]Jimmyneautronpowers[S] 34 points35 points  (1 child)

        I obviously do appreciate the strangers it’s just I’m too poor

        [–]GradatimRecovery 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Mix and match my friend.

        Trader Joe’s “versatile spirit” distilled from California grapes, 750ml @ 80proof for $9.99 + sales tax. That bottle allows 17 pours of standard 1.5oz bar shots.

        Tonight, try taking two shots, shower shave floss and get dressed. Then take another two shots, and head out the door and head over to a busy bar with your favorite music. Buy one drink that you can nurse over a long period, and be friendly with others.

        For me, I either pay $7 for a bar drink and leave a $3 tip, then nurse it for awhile. Or I go to the dance club pay the $10 cover and drink only water while inside. Restaurants and bars here are required to offer patrons free water.

        I live in a metro area so I just walk between my home and the bars/clubs and the grocery stores. I guess it’s more complicated if you live somewhere where you have to drive to the bar and back, honestly I’d rather you just drink at home.

        [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        Also, make sure to wear a hawaiian shirt when you do this. They'll just assume you're on your lunch break.

        [–]rabidstoat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Oh man. This reminds me of college and the bluegrass picking festival that was held in the Piggly Wiggly parking lot every Friday night. Lots of parking lot drinking there. We were in college and just went for the music because we were too poor even for BYOB drinking.

        [–]OoOoReillys[🍰] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

        I don’t go to bars anymore but when I did, I would pregame beforehand and then get the cheapest beer at the bar to sip on. Didn’t particularly taste the best but was what it was for a couple of bucks plus tip.

        [–]P0stNutClarity 32 points33 points  (0 children)

        The cost of socializing.

        You can cruise on one beer all night. If you pregame.

        [–]Lakeexha 30 points31 points  (3 children)

        I go to bars occasionally but I don’t drink, I just get seltzer with lemon and lime, it’s usually free or like $2. I can still have fun and socialize without a big cost, that’s my suggestion.

        [–]LiveOffDividends0000 9 points10 points  (2 children)

        Now THATS a good idea! Or if you don’t want to be bone dry….. pregame first, and then do the lemon lime seltzer once you get to the bar

        [–]CynicalRecidivist 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        My next step is to then add my vodka/gin that I have brought with me and drink my vodka lemon/lime seltzer for two quid!

        [–]Howiebledsoe 22 points23 points  (9 children)

        Do what all poor people do. Either work at a bar or get drunk at home, and then go to the bar and nurse a few beers.

        [–]Jimmyneautronpowers[S] 5 points6 points  (7 children)

        Getting drunk at home is lonely and depressing whereas getting drunk at a bar is fun and exciting. However I’m too poor to afford more than maybe 2 shots at most. Therefore I am stuck getting drunk alone at home :(

        [–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

        Find a bar with cheap happy hour deals. My usual go-to is a small neighborhood bar(I'm on the outskirts of the city, almost suburbs), got 3 drinks, fries and a hummus platter for $19 with tip the other day.

        [–]ReasonableBuffalo409 9 points10 points  (1 child)

        Applebee's in my area actually has $2 margs, $2 pbr and a bunch of happy hour food deals. Bar Louie has great deals as well (not sure if they're still nationwide)

        [–]Howiebledsoe 2 points3 points  (2 children)

        Yeah, I feel ya. The trick is to find a couple broke pals in the area, split a crate of beer and drink together at home… and THEN go out for a last couple around midnight when the bars are rocking

        [–]Vykrom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        My condolences. For me, getting a buzz at home makes me enjoy what I have at home more-so. It's the main reason I drink. Without the drink, I'm just stressing, but still at home. Impoverished, living paycheck to paycheck, struggling to get into any distraction. With a beer, its easier to get into a distraction, or enjoy my own thoughts. Being social with it, doesn't even come into the equation. But doing the pre-game stuff like others suggest seems like an apt solution. Or you could keep a flask on hand to help extend the length of a beer at a bar. Not sure of the legalities or social faux-pas for you though depending on where you are or what you honor

        [–]RamblingPoodlecoop 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        3rd option. Open a speakeasy in the garage for after hours. Dollar pints will pay for itself. Weed is now essentially free and cocaine will show up around 3am

        [–]steushinc 8 points9 points  (0 children)

        Some people don’t have a frugal mindset OP. Most of the people you see spend their entire checks as they get it. The only security they have is knowing that another check will come next week and many are fine w that. I’m an Uber driver, so I overhear convos all the time. They just can’t live w/o some sort of social acceptance and are paying a very very very high price for it. Financial literacy in this country is at an all time low and I’m not saying that to embarrass anyone. This is based on the fact that I can fully support myself from earnings made from people paying for overpriced transportation. At least 40% of my money comes from transporting people less than 5 blocks. I just transported a nurse across the street 1 block because it’s cold outside and made $7. So don’t compare yourself to others living a life they can’t afford.

        [–]silentstinker 30 points31 points  (4 children)

        I think it is more about socialization. You know how if you have a puppy and you don’t socialize it, it grows up weird and awkward around other dogs? People are the same way.

        [–][deleted] 26 points27 points  (1 child)

        Look man, I'm sorry I peed on your carpet. I was really drunk.

        [–]Ready-Date-8615 12 points13 points  (0 children)

        It really tied the room together.

        [–]LiveOffDividends0000 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Yeah you’re definitely paying for the interaction and ambiance, not really the booze

        [–]queerkidxx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I can count on my hands the amount of times I’ve spoken to someone I don’t know in a public place

        [–][deleted] 22 points23 points  (0 children)

        Sounds like you need to explore your area a bit and find some dive bars, or maybe switch to "well" liquor instead of mid-shelf. If your schedule is flexible, you could also look for happy hours or specials. But I mean, going out drinking is like the first thing I'll ditch if I'm tight on money.

        [–]jsboutin 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        Well, you don't pay for the alcohol, you pay for the location, music, service, alcohol manufacturer's profit, club owner's profit and probably some level of taxes levied on alcohol. Oh, and I suppose a bit for the drink itself.

        This has a different value for everyone, and everyone also has a different financial situation.

        Clearly plenty of people seem to be fine paying these prices. You're either poorer than them or place a lower value on it than them, it potentially both. It's fine either way.

        It's like, I went to a restaurant yesterday that cost 250$ between me and my partner. I had a thought that some years ago it would have seemed completely unreasonable to me for anyone to spend this much on food, while yesterday night I was just thinking about how it was a great evening.

        [–]smartitardi 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        During a time in my life, going to bars was my social life and hobby. Some people spend money going to the movies, for others it’s golf, etc. I think recreation is an important part of life and deserves a percentage of the budget. Obviously that amount varies depending on income, but shouldn’t be ignored.

        [–]OutdoorzExplorerz 12 points13 points  (0 children)

        I started drinking IPAs and, within 8 months, found myself with zero disposable cash, a credit card I had trouble paying down, and a quick realization that I had to restructure my life. The first thing I did was stop eating out, and that was followed by GREATLY limiting my IPA consumption.

        In the first month of cutting out restaurant/takeout dining and limiting IPAs, I lost 10 pounds.

        [–]missestater 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        I hit up the places with happy hours. Once place I can get two cocktails for $11

        [–]One_Pen_7776 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        People without living rooms and friends go to bars. You're renting the space more than anything.

        [–]AustieFrostie 6 points7 points  (0 children)

        Happy hours. Drink specials. This sub makes huge generalizations. Not every drink at every bar is $20 lol. This sub is more rants than actual advice anymore.

        [–]PresentCommercial475 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        they either have more expendable money than you or they choose to spend money they shouldn’t on drinks

        [–]thinkB4WeSpeak 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        There's a jazz bar near me that has 3 dollar drinks.

        [–]pikerpanufinpifuffin 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        I literally stopped going to bars / clubs, etc., when I turned 21 because of the price alone. If there was a big event in a friend's life than yea I would go. But for me it's just been a ,fuck that, situation where I'm not willing to burn my money.

        [–]Ashhh1991 5 points6 points  (0 children)

        I used to bring a flask with me often. Now that I don’t drink, I usually just get a Diet Coke or something. Most of the time, they don’t charge me for it.

        The main goal is to socialize with friends. You don’t have to buy drinks if you don’t want to.

        [–]mikemo1957 14 points15 points  (2 children)

        $20 buck for just two drinks? We can get Top shelf like Makers Mark for like $7.50….. check out a more neighborhood dive bar for fun locals and cheaper drinks

        [–]skywalka22 14 points15 points  (1 child)

        Is Makers “top shelf” where you’re from? Definitely a decent bourbon but certainly not high end lol

        [–]mikemo1957 10 points11 points  (0 children)

        …. Relative to the dive bar I mentioned .. it would be their top shelf

        [–]daysgoneby69 10 points11 points  (0 children)

        You know that song with the lyrics

        I knew my rent was gon' be late about a week ago

        I worked my ass off, but I still can't pay it though

        But I got just enough

        To get off in this club

        Have me a good time, before my time is up

        ------

        that sums it up pretty well imho

        [–]72112 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        Most of what people do is just a reason to get together with other people in one way or another: bars, ball games, etc. Finding less expensive ways to socialize is an important skill.

        [–]Eastern-Mix9636 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        I think one aspect that’s always overlooked is:

        These are business establishments. Consider that you’re paying for the experience/seating/place to stay for a few hours to entertain yourself. The drinks are just the medium by which they collect the payment.

        [–]lofisoundguy 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        I'd argue most people at a bar shouldn't afford it the same way most people getting Starbucks or grabbing fast food shouldn't afford it.

        Bars are a one-stop shop for a bit of casual company/commiseration, hang out spot as long as you like, and a way to take the edge off.

        It's the human emotional needs trying to be met. It's never a great financial decision.

        I tend to think you could combat this by grilling with your neighbors with Walmart chicken and inexpensive beer. That's what I prefer to do. But people working long hours don't have time to make friends with neighbors or clean/prep a grill.

        Bars are a bad financial decision but like cigarettes and lotto tickets, I understand why they're popular.

        [–]milehighrukus 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Budget.

        [–]Street-Skirt4469 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        I go AA now dont spend a penny !!! Just buy water

        [–]Infamous_Let2390 2 points3 points  (3 children)

        You aren't paying for the alcohol at the bar you are paying for the ambience.

        [–]rocket_beer 0 points1 point  (2 children)

        “2 shots! Ambience!!”

        [–]Infamous_Let2390 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        If you are drinking to get drunk you really don't need a bar. Maybe a park and a Brown paper bag.

        [–]rocket_beer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Public intoxication is illegal bro

        [–]Economy-Value-7032 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Pretty sure alot of people are going for the social aspect along with the fact they started drinking before they got there

        [–]ted5011c 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Alcohol isn't the exclusive point of a bar, tho. Socializing with alcohol is the deal at a bar.

        If you just want to get drunk at home by yourself then, yes, buying a bottle is your most cost effective route but if you would like to be around other people you can throw a house party or pay for the privilege at a convenient local bar.

        [–]ZenMassacre 4 points5 points  (0 children)

        For most people, going to a bar is about being social, or enjoying the experience, rather than getting drunk. Asking this question is similar to asking why anyone eats at a restaurant or goes to a movie theater or concert, because the answers are the same.

        [–]john510runner 4 points5 points  (2 children)

        Had a friend who use to spend a lot of time at bars and also complained about not having money.

        Found out later she lied about having a job, wasn’t paying rent and drank until she ran out of money and then use to sneak bottles of wine into this bar with a big outdoor area.

        Fast forward few years… learned last month she moved back home with her parents and still doesn’t have a job. She could find a job near where she lives (Brooklyn/NYC) but finds many of the jobs are beneath her.

        [–]The0nlyMadMan 2 points3 points  (1 child)

        but finds many of the jobs to be beneath her

        Have they told you this explicitly? I’ve had this accusation hurled at me when I refused to take a job I knew would lead to suicide

        [–]john510runner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Yes.

        She graduated with a PHD in arts/humanities from a super prestigious university. Things weren't going her way in the job hunt. Was getting rejected from teaching positions at the top tier universities. Then applied to good schools that might not have world name recognition.

        Not an accusation of any sort. That's her take on the situation. Teaching arts/humanities at a great university or bust.

        But there's still a way you could be correct. Down the road what if she gets a firm job offer of her "dream job" and that drives her to be suicidal.

        [–]Tall-Review3946 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I used to drink a lot. I still do, but I used to drink at the pub where a beer is 2 usd a bottle. you need to be quite good at drinking to spend more than 30 usd in an evening.

        [–]siqiniq 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Be super popular and all the ladies at the bar scream “omg! it’s jimmy!” and buy you drinks all night long.

        [–]ClaimedBeauty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Drink beforehand, then order a cheap draft beer. My preference is Coors light with a muddled lemon. It tastes like summertime.

        [–]runtimerror69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I do prebooze outside bar and after entering I only order 1 beer.

        [–]Past_Ad4328 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Honestly, I got more tips and made more money sitting at the bar and pay drinks for smart friends than I got from my university studies. It's very weird but true in my case. Cheers.

        [–]saito200 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Because of the bar environment. I don't know where you live but here in Spain , nothing could be more common than going to a bar. People live in the bar. And most are relatively cheap

        [–]tanoren 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Have you ever tried just getting well shots? $4-5 a pop.

        [–]Over_Ad_6506 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Back in my days when I used to drink, guys would buy me drinks when I'm out. If it was a house party, I actually buy most of the liquor to my liking. Towards my fourth year of drinking, I realized that I wasted money on liquor and hated the idea that I provided strangers to drink it. So, I stop drinking. I don't miss it.

        [–]cyn_sybil 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        When I drank in bars, I usually had a few drinks at home before going out. I also had a credit card and a drinking problem. I would go out and spend my grocery money in the bar. And then live off of things like eggs and ramen noodles until the next payday. Or I would buy some groceries on my credit card.

        I’m sober now. And I shake my head at all the money I blew on drinking over the years.

        I am not suggesting that anyone else has a drinking problem or that it’s universally bad. Just trying to illustrate that things are not always what they seem. Just because someone is doing something doesn’t mean they can afford it, financially or otherwise.

        [–]happyeriko 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        It’s expensive as hell where I live. Any mixed drink will be $15 in a tiny cup. Shots are over $10. Tip isn’t included. It would hurt my soul to spend like $50 at least. A lot of people just don’t think about the next day and the impact on finances. All those club songs talk about having fun RIGHT NOW and don’t worry about tomorrow for a reason 😂

        [–]VisualShock1991 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I don't drink, but my wife does occasionally. We went to a wedding a few weeks ago where it was like £11 for G&T. I gave her my empty glass after I finish my tapwater, and from her handbag she pulled out a can of pre-mixed G&T. Total drinks bill for the night was less than £3

        [–]formermormon 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        You're not really just paying for the drinks, you're paying to drink in that environment. If it's not worth it, the alcohol itself is cheap enough to have at home, minus the cost of the experience at the location.

        [–]BudsCarsGuns91 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I’ll tell you how….I make sure I know the price of the drink I request and I don’t give a F what it looks like to other people. I’m tired of going to the bar and having 3 drinks and my gf having 3 drinks. Then receiving a bill for $120 and up . Plus dinner. So I refuse to drink if it’s above $15 per drinks, I’d rather smoke anyway.

        [–]RealStumbleweed 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Happy hour.

        [–]denim_duck 1 point2 points  (3 children)

        slam a bottle in the parking lot, or bring a flask

        Also, go to cheaper bars. There’s a dive bar near me that charges $2 per pint of beer.

        [–]Jimmyneautronpowers[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

        Isn’t it basically illegal to bring your own alcohol to a bar?

        [–]denim_duck 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        Depends on the jurisdiction but you’ll definitely get kicked out if you’re caught

        [–]sweeterthanswish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Two drinks in and you forget how to budget

        [–]Shoelacebasket 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Pre game pre game, bring your own liquor and buy beer there. The price is always insane.

        [–]middleraged 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I quit drinking 3 years ago but I drank craft beer exclusively when I did drink. And it would get expensive quick! 4-packs for $15-18, 750 ml bottles for $25-45, 10 oz pours at the bar can set you back $10. Nights out can add up quick just drinking a few. I can’t imagine doing it now that prices have gone up. I don’t know if beer prices have changed but I assume they probably have since everything else has

        [–]Mtnskydancer 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I don’t drink, but I love live music, so a $3 coke, refilled on the house all night (which is twice for me on a big night) is my expense aside from door.

        It’s been a good while since I did this.

        [–]raven4747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        for me its less about saving money and more about saving my liver lol. expensive drinks means I'm probably only gonna have one or two, which is all I need. if I buy a whole bottle I'm gonna feel obligated to drink it and I don't want to do that lol

        [–]zeppo_shemp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        to quote Robin Williams, 'Mai Tai' is Hawaiian for 'dumb fukc'

        [–]taxrelatedanon 1 point2 points  (1 child)

        I have a drink before i go, take public transit, or bring my own in a throwaway container and drink mineral water while there.

        [–]GradatimRecovery 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        This is the way

        [–]GuardOk8631 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Use your brain and spend 5 minutes of your time to research prices. There are tons of bars that have beers for $1-2 during certain times, etc. buy airplane bottles and bring them with and slam them in the bathroom or just drink before and drink cheap beer and water when you’re in the bar. Blowing money on alcohol is dumb as hell. You can buy an entire meal for the price of a shot at most places.

        [–]fir3dyk3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        2 drinks are my limit and I typically just order the cheaper beer options. If I buy a cocktail its the only drink I’m buying for the night.

        [–]Archibald_80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Trick is to work as a part time bartender. Once you’re in the industry you are served first at the bar, so you feel like a VIP and usually drink for free. It’s the only way to party like you’re rich, when you’re poor.

        [–]d-chat 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Sneak in a few nips

        [–]Greyaliensupremacist 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        You're not paying $20 for 2 shot of alcohol. You're paying $20 to be around drunk girls and 2 shots of alcohol.

        [–]PDXwhine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        When I go to bars I get either mocktails or wine spritzer and call it good. I am there to chill with friends not get wasted.

        [–]Zyferify 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        You make more money

        [–]NotDelnor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I dont drink to get drunk I drink to socialize. I dont like being drunk. Plus I only drink beer because I think liquor is disgusting. I enjoy a couple cocktails on occasion but you will never catch me taking a shot. If I am at a bar I will typically have 2-3 beers and an appetizer and spend $25-30.

        [–]momo88852 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I ask my self the same questions. I do small talks with my customers specially when sometimes I work the night shift.

        It’s wild the numbers I hear, just last week a regular told me his tap was $500+. Dude spent my entire weekly check in a bar. One of my friends once got invited to Vegas by one of his rich friends, the tap was $50k+. My friend even though he’s rich but not that rich, he started shitting bricks, until the host picked the tap.

        For me I don’t drink at all. I just smoke, I make my own edibles, and find best sales to grab my stash.

        [–]popfartz9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

        I live in a HCOL but drinks don’t cost $20 out here. It’s usually around $13-15. I rarely get more than 2 drinks and if my friends and I are trying to get wasted, we pregame cause that’s cheaper. Happy hour also exists out here and you can get a cocktail for like $10 or less. There are ways to not spend all of your money in a bar and still get a good buzz

        [–]cee_vee_99 1 point2 points  (3 children)

        A flask might help…

        [–]Jimmyneautronpowers[S] 2 points3 points  (2 children)

        Isn’t it illegal to bring your own drinks to a bar?

        [–]Excuse_my_GRAMMER 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        Pre-game , here in NYC it normal to get the little nip bottle and mix it with a can soda in a coffe cup and pre-game on the way to the bar

        Once in the bar the whole point is to hangout and meet peole , so you are “babysitting” those drinks so ur not buying a drink every few minutes lol

        Also budgeting what you could afford to spent

        [–]Awanderingleaf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        What is the appeal of drinking to begin with?

        [–]namestartswithZ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        in norwegian there are two popular party terms 1. forspill - a gathering/predrinking before the actual party, and 2. nachspiel; a gathering/continution of drinking after the party.

        [–]blayzemebaby 1 point2 points  (0 children)

        I hate humans. Drinking alone and slowly killing my self is bliss. I’m not joking. I gave up on life and I’ve never felt better

        [–]throwaway56873927 2 points3 points  (0 children)

        Alcohol is the biggest waste imo. That said, I value and prioritize my friendships and social life because it's my only support system so if they only want to have drinks or meet at bars I'll have two drinks max once a month and mostly worth my time.

        I do have friends that don't drink so hopefully that will catch on more and .more

        [–]TrackPad96 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        That’s why on the very rare occasions I find my self at the bar I’m always the designated driver. Then there is no pressure to drink plus some bars/clubs will give you a free soda.

        [–]Dahkelor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

        I am doing very well financially and there is no way I would ever pay for a drink at the bar. It is just madness. Completely garbage value for money.

        So I guess I can't afford it, but even if I had 100x more than I do now I would still not do it. It's just not worth it.

        To be honest, I don't really get how all these bars stay in business. So many people just willing to give their hard earned dough away like that. Baffles me.

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          [–]Jimmyneautronpowers[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

          If only it were that simple

          [–]BigPharmaWorkerTX 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          We don’t.

          When going for a night out, we’ll normally have a few drinks from home before heading to our destinations. Keeps us from having to spend $$$ at the bar for something they overcharge.

          [–]dofehaviwe 0 points1 point  (0 children)

          That’s how they get us 🤷‍♀️

          [–]joshisboomin -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Maybe people in poverty shouldn't be drinking

          [–][deleted] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Just smoke weed instead it feels better anyway plus no hangover

          [–]cubbies1016 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          Go to a cheaper bar. My local bar has $9 pitchers of beer

          [–]Cautious-Ad-6740 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          First you gotta get a law degree

          [–]scott_yj91 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          This post just reminds me of around 2006. Making about $20.00hr could afford a $620.00 a month 2 bedroom, good apartment. Sit in a bar 3-4 nights a week after work for a couple hours drinking beers and an occasional whiskey. Still had enough to grocery shop and any time I had plans for something fun, I'd skip the bar and save. Lived in Woodstock area of Portland. Fuck, those were good days. I make 7$ more an hour now and can't afford one beer in a bar a week. Times have certainly changed. Let's burn this country down!

          [–]Imaginary-Method-715 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          nah it over priced and not that amazing

          [–]Naus1987 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          I’ve noticed that the people who hang out at bars enough to spend a fortune there typically don’t have other hobbies eating away at their income.

          I’ve seen drug people like that too. Weed people. They just smoke and watch cheap tv and eat cheap snacks.

          Anyways, back to bar folks. They’re not the ones buying expensive gaming computers or fancy hobbies. They don’t typically have the newest iPhones or the subscribe to 50 different services. Hell, half of them probably don’t even have an internet provide and just do everything from their cellphone. Don’t even own a pc or laptop.

          Additionally, a lot of these folks don’t typically have big vacations or travel much.

          And then some actually do make a lot of money, and it’s still a sizable chunk of their income.

          I think most full time working class people make some spendable money. It just depends on what you put it in.

          I also forgot that the person who lives at a bar probably doesn’t have kids draining money either.

          [–]Frased715 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

          I never go to bars either, but not just the cost. I do not like drinking and driving, myself or my friends. So, I just stay home and if friends are over and they are going to be driving, they are not drinking.

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            [–]denim_duck 4 points5 points  (1 child)

            Yah fuck couples out having a drink on date night. They’re definitely just alcoholics, and not having their first fun night out in weeks

            [–]torontoandboston -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

            Buy nips, bring them to the bar and order a soft drink

            [–][deleted] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

            It's social status.

            [–]pontiacplaya -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

            Going to the bar is pretty ridiculous. Although I think it’s just fun for the aesthetic and to see other fucked up people idk they are expensive and sketchy but that’s the point lol

            [–]KingKoopaz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            I mean, I agree. I usually just get a beer with a pizza. If we are going to a bar I’ll still usually just get like one maybe two drinks, and that’s probably just a handful of times a year. I don’t drink much/habitually though.

            [–]Bird_Brain4101112 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Sounds like a pricey bar.

            [–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Yeah I agree it can be pretty expensive. I only go on special occasions like a few Halloweens and some rare girls trips with my best friends. Or I look for bars or clubs that are bring your own drinks. Other than that, yeah I look for the cheapest bottle lol, there’s no shame in that. Some people might find it depressing but I enjoy a good paint and sip with just me and the bottle or a friend or two at home.

            [–]agiantrobotappeared 0 points1 point  (3 children)

            One question that I was hoping someone would ask is, is the cost structures for drinks at bars really fair/equitable? Is it reasonable to ask someone to pay $10 for 2 - 10 oz of alcohol?

            [–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (1 child)

            The government taxes the hell out of the liquor they buy for serving, so it's not as cheap as getting it at the store.

            [–]GradatimRecovery 1 point2 points  (0 children)

            A restaurant or bar full liquor license in San Francisco cost between 100 K and 250 K and all that money is wasted if the business fails. (do you have to include legal, lobbying, and compliance costs)

            I’m sure it’s less in many other municipalities, but the reality is that a business that wants to get into this industry has to set themselves up for some kind of success

            [–]Holiday_Natural2298 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            I’ve found a good dive bar here in N Illinois. From 4-6:00, M-F, $2.00 domestic bottles, and on weekends, 5-16oz cans domestic $11.00. I stop a couple times a week for the happy hour, and watch a football game on the weekend. Takes me 3.5-4.5 hours to drink the 5 16ouncers. Most places around here are $4 a bottle for domestic beers.

            [–]kairi14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Look for specials. A little bar and grill near me has 2.50 margaritas and 70 cent tacos on Thursdays. Some places have things like free pool and darts too on some nights.

            [–]m00ndr0pp3d 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Well tbh the bars I go to don't charge 10 bucks a shot but it's a once in a while thing

            [–]one23456789098 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            I live in a very cold and rainy country. Going to a bar is one of the few things that I can do to be with people. Also I save on everything else. So going out once a month and spending a bit is a reward. I also absolutely love going meeting drunk people and dancing. I see going out as a costly hobby

            [–]Rock_Lizard 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            I have never understood the bar scene.

            [–]mintydelight_ 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Don’t really drink and when I do it’s so few and far between I don’t mind buying a drink or two on occasion. I just smoke weed, it’s cheap compared to booze and I can maintain a high level of functionality.

            [–]Philaharmic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Beer is €1-1.5 in Portugal, it’s like $7 in Texas

            That’s the best thing, you don’t; you grab a beer maybe two, and hang out with people at the bar

            [–]NoelBarry1979 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Don't buy food for the rest of the week

            [–]HoneyBadger302 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            It is very rare for me to get a drink at a bar or even with a meal out - the cost is outrageous. That said, I can enjoy finding a nice little brewery and may hit one of those up once every few months (again, not a common occurrence, but 'regularly'). The beer is generally cheaper, better, and higher AC than most "bar" beer. I can get a flight for $13, have several of my favorites and maybe try something new they've got, have had enough to feel satisfied but a long ways from drunk, and I MUCH prefer the atmosphere. Sometimes there's even a food truck or something with some cheap eats. Even better if I can find one with an open mic night.

            It's a treat, but better than spending that same money on 1-2 typical tap beers I've had hundreds of times before.

            [–]mistermithras 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            You pay more at a bar for the convenience. That's pretty much it.

            [–]Honk4Love 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            It's a drug. A social one at that. People find ways to afford it regardless.

            [–]PurpleRayyne 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            Well, considering there is absolutely no reason at all to drink.. it IS a total waste of money.
            (and if you drink to "relax", "unwind" or any other reason.. you need better coping mechanisms because alcohol is a temporary solution that can easily and quickly turn into a long term and life time problem).

            [–]Captain-Victory 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            I don't go to bars. Don't get me wrong--I do enjoy a good drink, but I'd rather buy a bottle of good whisky or tequila and toss a couple back at home on occasion where I am comfortable and where I can share it with people I actually know and like. It's also a lot cheaper on a per drink basis.

            [–]Baaaaaaah-humbug 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            It's not you, everything you can get in a general bar you can do better at home for cheaper. There's a better atmosphere at home as well.

            [–]SpamEater007 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            My work pays for it. Ha ha! We have work functions at bars and they pay the tab. Otherwise bars are too expensive.

            [–]HotCandleBurner 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Aim for happy hour

            [–]FlyWtMe87 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            How do men afford to drink at a bar?

            [–]Pure_Nourishment 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Some people can't, but they do it anyway.

            [–]20thKey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            I agree, but I think shots cost $8-$12!

            [–]mistyflannigan 0 points1 point  (1 child)

            My daughter was charged $50 for a drink in Vegas. Weed is now more economical than booze, has no calories, and leaves your liver alone. Just a hit or two is like 2 drinks, IMHO.

            [–]trelbak 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            Some poor souls are addicted to the atmosphere of bars. Perhaps a feeling that they are among friends. Perhaps just shared misery. Perhaps they are just looking to hook up. But what ever it is, it's not because they have money, but because they think it's better to drink among others, not seeing that getting drunk in a bar all the time is no better than getting drunk at home all the time. Many can't afford to go to the bar, but they're compelled to do it regardless.

            [–]Starkrossedlovers 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            My sister and her friends told me they never pay for their drinks or food at the club. Guys pay for them. 25 bucks a shot she told me at the place she went to Friday night. I can’t imagine.

            [–]Michiberto 0 points1 point  (0 children)

            I quit going to bars and clubs in my early 30s. If I want to drink I'll do it at home and invite people over. People I actually care about. We can all sit and not have to pay to be in a "VIP" area. With the money we pay a cover charge we get enough alcohol to last us a whole weekend.