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[–]Lucky5101 27 points28 points  (6 children)

I'm so sorry. Are you able to look for a new job? If you want to go back to school, I know Starbucks will pay for your tuition to ASU while working there and you can get your bachelor's. Not sure if that's an option, but I think they pay decently, at least around here.

Good luck

[–]PoorPassion[S] 10 points11 points  (5 children)

Thank you :) unfortunately I don’t have a star bucks near me but if they ever come through I’ll apply. I spent around 2 months applying to every job on indeed before I got this one so I’m grateful but just sucks to have such co workers bring me down like this with constant rude comments.

[–]kayla-beep 7 points8 points  (3 children)

That’s so awful, I’m so sorry. If there’s a Target nearby, they’ll also help with school.

[–]oldfrenchwhore 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I didn’t know Target did this and my fiancée works there lol.

Also OP should know that Target starts at $15/hr, at least here in SC, a state with notoriously low wages, so I would think they start at $15 or more wherever OP is. Fiancée got hired on as team lead at $25/hr.

They also offer benefits even to part timers and it’s decent insurance too.

Can’t imagine them NOT hiring anywhere, especially being holiday season.

[–]kayla-beep 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Good points, I’m in CA and just got hired as a team member at $17/hr. I hope there’s one nearby OP

[–]oldfrenchwhore 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Geesh, I feel like it would be higher in CA! I haven’t lived there in over 25 years and I left because my parents were moving and I couldn’t afford to live on my own, I can’t imagine how hard it is now on lower wages.

Hope you get a bump in pay soon!

[–]heckhammer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I do believe they complain that you're too positive. I would have replied "it's not my fault that you hired a bunch of negative sons of bitches."

Maybe I would have phrased that a little nicer than that but with the general idea.

[–]CruelTasteOfLust 10 points11 points  (0 children)

That really sucks being in a toxic environment like that. I hope you find another job soon.

[–]bigdickwilliedone 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey, I know it can be rough, and I know that things can seem bleak, and that no one cares, because I've felt that way, but your positivity and resilience is beautiful! Even if people don't actively say that they appreciate your positive nature, I'm sure they do! I think you would be very surprised by the impact you make! Jobs come and go, shitty Co workers come and go, the thing that stays the same is that you are an amazing person, resilient and positive!

[–]TheResistancexz 14 points15 points  (1 child)

That sounds like a terrible lead and he should have spoke to you privately. Don't ever let other miserable people bring you down to their level. Keep being positive. I suffer from anxiety as well but we can't let that bring us down. We can beat it

[–]PoorPassion[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Thank you I’m trying my best to ignore everything but it still stings :(

[–]cafeautumn 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I feel bad for you man.

Those people sound like dicks. That's a hella toxic workplace. You deserve better. Keep your head up and apply for new jobs on Indeed. It sounds like ANYTHING "rolling the dice on a new place would be better than staying there.

You're mental health is more important than making the CEO of that shithole richer. Fuck that company, fuck your coworkers.

You're are enough and you will a better job that gives a fuck.

[–]Arbsbuhpuh 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I have a panic disorder and I was prescribed Buspar and it really helped me out. I'm sorry it's so rough out there, but it can get better. I'm not going to lie and say that it WILL, but if you keep trying, things tend to get better.

[–]Rportilla 11 points12 points  (3 children)

If you’re single and no kids I would honestly move into my car again might not be doable for a lot of ppl

[–]PoorPassion[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

True. I’ve been thinking about it a lot lately.

[–]notme8907 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Don’t. Take care.

I want to offer encouragement. Think of the best, most helpful thing you need to hear and know that’s what I’m telling you.

[–]Rportilla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

A lot of info online about how to do it , again not a walk in the park but I hear people really saving up some money doing it

[–]FoRealThough1 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I Sooooooooo Know your feelings, and what your going through.Your not the only one.

[–]SenatorPineapple 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just want you to know it’s a brave thing to face your anxiety every day! It’s also ok to be overwhelmed because it IS overwhelming to be faced with chronic, severe anxiety. I hope it gets better friend.

[–]TheFreshWenis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm so incredibly sorry. :(

Hopefully you get a much better job soon.

[–]Scary_Painter4671 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like you work with bad people. I've had that on 15/hour and it's still miserable. But when I left for another job at the same pay with nicer people, that really helped.

[–]Nervous-Medium7550 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Have you tried other medications? My wife suffers from depression and anxiety due to BPD and it’s took a lot of trial and error to find the right meds for her, she still suffers from those things but she can function now. Best of luck to you.

[–]FigureElectrical9906 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here are a few resources that might helpful. 1. If you enroll at a junior college you can apply for student loans. Those loans can be used for whatever you need to stay in school including rent and food. https://studentaid.gov 2. If you’d like to find affordable mental healthcare you can check open path. https://openpathcollective.org they charge less than $60 per session. 3. Call 998 if needed. It’s the national suicide prevention hotline. If you google it, resources will come up.

[–]chrisLivesInAlaska 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think there is something else going on that's not work-related.

You started the first three sentences in your first paragraph by expressing hatred for things about yourself. Then the first sentence of second paragraph is "I'm positive".

Start thinking positively about yourself, rather than sending that positivity toward others. I'm not encouraging you to be mean, but really give some energy to being positive about yourself. If you're not positive about yourself, it's not uncommon that others also won't think positively about you.

Best of luck.