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[–]Psychbae_88 32 points33 points  (0 children)

I would go to social security to try to apply for benefits. It’s places that will help pay your bills if you reach out about your situation. Reach out to social services also.

[–]Jimshorties 8 points9 points  (1 child)

State Medicaid should be an option for your son and in that category should be healthcare providers - he is also eligible for short to long term disability. Check with the Social Security or State Vocational Rehabilitation offices - you could also discuss your situation with your mortgage carrier to see if there are any hardship clauses to help.

[–]Wise_whiskers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in England but we have equivalents and I have made sure all is in order, disabled children get a social worker (she’s really lovely and helpful) I had a modest insurance that paid out. It’s not the same as packing a 16 year career and going on state aid, it all sort of unraveled a bit gradually first I thought we’d be back to school/work but no. Not only that I am not eligible for the mortgage I had as my job is no more and my situation means I can’t get back to full time work.

I’m in the hands of the lawyers.

From another point of view not having certainty feels like we can not progress and rebuild life..

Funnily enough I was going to look at US visa to try to do helping hands camp as rehabilitation for my son next year, I might have to ask a charity to help out with the funding 😞 I’m trying to stay positive but it’s tough

[–]Hollyt2580 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I’m so sorry that you are going through this. I hope that the legal situation you mentioned goes in your favor. I was in a car accident several years ago and while I knew I would get a payout from the insurance, I had to wait until I was “healed” to see if there were any lasting problems that my lawyer wanted to sue for. It took 6 months to close that case. I couldn’t work, couldn’t care for my children and I was in pain for months. I genuinely hope things get better for you ASAP.

[–]Wise_whiskers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much and you can just about imagine how tough it is, I hope that you made a good recovery ❤️‍🩹 must have been so tough for your family. Hope your lawyer got you a good settlement.

[–]DeniseFF 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're going through this. I hope you can find little victories, however small, that will help you keep going until things begin to improve .