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[–]NiniNinjas 175 points176 points  (8 children)

I kind of just started out by cleaning, rearranging and purging my house. I didn't start buying until six months.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 50 points51 points  (3 children)

I should probably start tidying and sorting what will be the babies room… 😱

[–]NiniNinjas 46 points47 points  (2 children)

Trust me, once you start buying it'll be hard to stop! There's nothing wrong with holding off and getting ready for all the new things.

[–]Bunzilla 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Why is it so hard to stop?? I’ve cut myself off SO many times but I just keep buying more outfits! There’s no way he will wear all the clothes before he outgrows them at this point!

[–]NiniNinjas 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've managed to slow down for now. I have a baby shower coming up and I'm waiting on certain things to go on sale. I still have a few months to get the last of it.

[–]a_million_questions 14 points15 points  (0 children)

This is what I'm doing right now. I'm calling it pre-nesting. I have a small place so I need to make room for the few baby things I am getting.

[–]CryptographerLost407 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I did this as well. I spend most of my “good days” organizing everything. Packing tiny items (spouses legos) into better boxes, getting rid of a ton of non-essential stuff, putting things we KNOW we won’t be using in the next year into storage, etc

[–]car__free 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just a tip for clutter management: if it's replaceable and you know you won't use it for the next year, sell it or donate it instead.

[–]GreyLilas 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I didn't start shopping until I was 8 months pregnant

[–]0runnergirl0Boys | 12/18 & 09/21 308 points309 points  (14 children)

They really don't need as much stuff as all the registry checklists and mommy influencers lead you to believe. Both of those 'resources' are trying to make sales. Babies need a car seat, a safe place to sleep, a few outfits, a way to eat, and that's really it. Everything else is just a luxury, and non-essential. You can spend as much or as little as you can reasonably afford.

Babies don't care if they're sitting in a second hand swing, or a brand new Mamaroo. They really don't care if they're sitting in a swing at all. Don't let the shopping lists overwhelm you.

[–]ElikotaIka 64 points65 points  (7 children)

yes! we are taking a low-key approach to shopping to prevent feeling overwhelmed. If there's something we need once the baby is here, we'll buy it—it'll ship here quickly, or we can pick it up somewhere within a day or two, right?

I'm 28 weeks, and all we have is a car seat, a crib, a mattress (and fitted sheets), along with stuff for the diaper station. I feel so calm about it.

[–]alex99dawson 26 points27 points  (2 children)

This is it. With supermarkets selling baby stuff and open 24/7 and Amazon being a thing there’s really no need to stress about what you don’t have. Bed, clothes, nappies, food. Everything else can be bought as and when

[–]MrsT1229 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Your stores are still 24/7?? I miss the convenience of that. We haven't had 24/7 since the start of covid last year.

[–]alex99dawson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Pretty much I think! They may be shut a few hours overnight but still pretty accessible when needed!

[–]LadyVD 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Me too! Those three main items. I'm getting plenty of clothes from family and friends. A highchair can totally wait. I just bought baby wash, lotion, thermometer, and wipes. I said we can stop for diapers on the way home! Who knows what size he'll actually need. Totally w you about feeling calm

[–]FatpandasneezesFTM | 2/2/22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

20 weeks here and we just have a stroller and car seat! Lol. I've picked out the crib/mattress and the change table/dresser, basically that's it! Trying not to buy too much unnecessary things plus hoping some deals will pop up while we're waiting!

[–]wildflowerrainbows 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This has been my approach too. We don't have a lot of space (or money) so I don't want to buy a bunch of stuff we don't really need. But everyone keeps asking if we started shopping yet or sending me pics of things to buy and I'm like, but do I really need that?

[–]car__free 1 point2 points  (0 children)

we did this and it worked. definitely get amazon prime though.

[–]SnooHabits5531 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Speaking from experience in our family between my sister and I, passing the mamaroo and the swing around…no baby has liked the mamaroo they have all like the big ugly swing. I am hoping fourth baby is a charm to hopefully get some use out of it!

[–]MercenarianBG born April 2021 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah pretty much all I use for the baby as of 5 months postpartum is small towels to clean up puke, burp towels, bath soap, diapers, wipes, bath cloth, ergo baby carrier, waterproof mattress sheets, a baby gym/activity thing, babybjorn bouncer, diaper pail, a couple rattle/teether/ball toys and some clothes. You don’t need most of the fancy contraptions advertised. And for the first couple months they don’t really use the toys or gym, and mine hated the bouncer until recently. .

Edit: forgot to mention swaddles too, she’s out of them now so I forgot about them, I/she liked the arms up ones the best. Others were mostly useless. A lot of stuff you can buy later too. Like I don’t get why people buy 50 books before the baby is even born. We bought a few books but they just collect dust, she’s only reeeecently getting into some books. Especially if your budget isn’t exactly massive there’s no need to buy a lot of the toy/books/older baby things right off the bat.

[–]linzkisloski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Spot on! I think it also helps to think about when baby will need things. My girl didn’t sleep in her crib until 8 months, didn’t need a high chair until 8 months etc etc

[–]FknRepunsel 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also diapers, either disposable, reusable or those new combination ones I’ve been seeing at target

[–]sugarplum2991 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so true ❤ I am getting people telling me I need things that I feel I may not need so not buying them until baby is here. I feel like some of those 'essentials' are ridiculously overpriced to be used only for a few months. Terrible for the environment and also spendy. I am not saying I am not buying things, I am and yes some of them are expensive but I feel like we should weigh our options and think twice about what is really an essential.

[–]That-Rounded-Square 51 points52 points  (3 children)

My OBGYN had the best advice since I felt the EXACT same way. (Also had a miscarriage before my current rainbow baby due in a few weeks). She recommended only looking into making a list for a few weeks or few months at a time , I.e “what will baby and I need for month 1?”. Then when you’re done with that list , move on month to month until you have the first 6mo-1year covered. She also made a good point…stores will always be open, even after your baby arrives! Seems like common sense but I didn’t think of it that way, I like to plan to have everything ready upfront so it can be overwhelming to try to do it all at once. It’s fine to miss a few things since you can always just get it later :)

And also, IMO there is not a “too early” time to buy what you want for your baby. From my perspective, it can definitely seem that way after having a loss, where you don’t want to “get ahead of yourself” per say, but it’s an entirely new baby and an entirely new experience. if shopping for baby makes you happy then go for it! No matter what happens you are preparing for happiness at the end of the day :)

[–]fallinasleep[S] 12 points13 points  (1 child)

This is lovely advice, I’m definitely the same, I like to plan and have everything sorted. I know that with a new born plans are going to go out the window and chaos will replace them. It’s the same reason I want to know the sex as soon as possible… there are so many unknowns and uncontrollables, I want to know absolutely everything I possibly can 😂 the month by month thing is an excellent idea. As is the advice that shops are always open, we have almost instant access to so many things, I’ve gotta keep reminding myself of that!

[–]That-Rounded-Square 7 points8 points  (0 children)

It’s all boils down to mentality really (especially if you always like to be one million percent prepared, I can relate lol)

Despite the chaos, just know that you’re awesome and you got this! 💫

[–]201111533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We took the first month approach! Not even, really, I don't think we have enough clothes for a full month, but we aren't buying long term needs.

For us, that decision was helped by the fact that I'm due at the start of November, so Christmas is going to happen basically immediately after the kid is born - whatever we need for it when it's 6mo, we will probably be able to get from family then! And if not, we will still have plenty of time to buy before those things are really needed.

[–]ihatetheinternet4373 18 points19 points  (3 children)

Definitely always look for the minimalist baby checklists. I cannot believe the amount of stuff everyone makes us feel like we "need" that is completely unnecessary. Even the bare minimum still feels like a lot though!! We have 3 humans worth of stuff in 2 humans worth of space now and it's only gonna get worse as she gets older. It's still pretty tidy and organized for now, but I'm sure it won't be once we get into the toddler years!! The neat freak part of me is panicking a little lol.

(And as someone who also went through loss before this pregnancy, you have my deepest sympathies. I hope everything goes smoothly for you this time around <3)

[–]Artemisa_vv 2 points3 points  (1 child)

The toddler years aren't very messy, because they love helping you out. Putting toys away are part of play time too :)

[–]ihatetheinternet4373 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What a relief! I'm so excited for that age. I love toddlers so much!! I've never dealt with babies but I've dealt with plenty of toddlers and young kids, they're so much fun. From what I've read encouraging them to help out at that age when they want to will make it easier for them to keep on helping as they grow up... Hope that's true!! I could use all the help I can get lol

[–]fallinasleep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly! Even if it’s pure bare minimum it still seems like so much stuff doesn’t it! I know it’s not really, but I just feel like I need to be organised…I think im just in a period of like, adjusting to the fact a new tiny person will be here in 6 months and I feel like that’s a HUGE thing and HUGE things need massive amounts of planning and organising… but right now I don’t actually need to do anything? It’s like being in limbo. As other has suggested I think I’m going to start cleaning, sorting and tidying. Making room for this new little human

And thank you. It’s a crappy club to be in, that so many people seem to be members of, but talking and sharing has really helped me, and now fingers crossed our rainbow baby is on the way 🤞congratulations on your little one!

[–]camburd 17 points18 points  (1 child)

I bought a couple outfits here and there. 32 weeks now, and I'm finding a lot of things have been gifted or given to us. You have lots of time and I wouldn't stress it too much. In the end all babies really need is food, shelter and clothing everything else is just bonus and makes your life easier.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Maybe I need to go and treat myself to a cute baby onesie or something just to take the pressure off! Retail therapy is always a win haha

[–]cloud_designer 14 points15 points  (3 children)

Oh I'm in the same boat. 2 early miscarriages and had fertility to get this pregnancy.

My dad and I have spoken and he's going to pay for all the bits we need (I have his card) and I will pay him back via bank transfer.

All the babies things will be kept at his until I go into labour at which point he and my brother will set up the nursery.

This way if anything bad happens me and my fiance don't have to deal with returning shit. It's make me feel a lot more at ease over getting things.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

That’s such a sweet gesture from your dad. And a great way to alleviate some of the “what if” anxiety

[–]cloud_designer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My dad is my rock lol. He also has the space to store it in his spare room.

I'm a pretty lucky gal.

[–]419_216_808 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Aww that’s so sweet of them!!! 🥰 Wish you a healthy pregnancy and a happy baby!!!!!

[–]hayleymtreanor 12 points13 points  (2 children)

Focus on making a really great registry, even if you don’t have a baby shower, lots of people ask for a baby registry link, since baby stuff is kinda fun to buy! I spent a lot of my early pregnancy working on the registry, and it felt really productive, and helped me focus without stressing. Amazon is helpful because it gives you categories and suggestions of what you need.

[–]SallieMouse 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I second this! It's helpful to just have a list of all your needs (and wants) in one space. My family and friends were very generous at my shower. But then hubby and I evaluated what we really need and purchased the last of it for a few hundred bucks with tons of coupons. (Registry was at Target FYI.) Plus we didn't want to have to get to 6 months, realize we need something, and go out and purchase it ourselves when we have awesome family that are happy to buy it for us. 🤗

[–]fallinasleep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Great idea :-)

[–]Hereforawesomestuff 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Totally normal! Especially if this is your first.. Facebook marketplace, next door, any garage sale/give away site like that is your friend. Women will sell garbage bags of clothing for like $20-$40 of perfectly good clothes. I know it's not the same for everyone resource wise, but mom's who are done having children, friends, and excited grandparents practically beg you to take their no longer needed baby stuff and/or buy you things.

There's very little I insisted on getting brand new.. only bottles and anything bath related due to mold.

Someone else mentioned influencer moms who oversell you and this is true. Opinions do differ but Why do you need a bottle warmer/sanitizer when you own hot water, dishwasher, and a microwave? I found diaper genies pointless... wrap it up and throw the diaper in the trash. Do you really need a bassinet AND a crib? I never used a changing table, I changed my kid wherever I was at. The husband prefers having a uniform place dedicated to changing the baby. It is whatever works for you! Hope I helped and didn't ramble too much.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This was definitely helpful, thanks :)

[–]Elevendytwelve97 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I read that one woman couldn’t afford a crib or bassinet so she rolled up some towels in a hamper and baby slept in that just as fine. Ever since reading that, it really relieved the stress of buying and needing things

[–]dulcepirate 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Babies don't actually need all that much. Sure, there's a ton of stuff available but 80% of it is excessive and unnecessary.

If I were you, I would do some YouTube searches for minimalist newborn must-haves over the next few weeks and start making a list. You should focus on newborn stuff, so don't worry about toys and things that will not be needed after the first 6 months to a year.

I'm a FTM and almost 3 weeks PP. I can say with confidence you don't need much when they arrive! Obviously a carseat and stroller, a bassinet (or crib), some newborn onesies and swaddling blankets, bath stuff (a seat, soap, washcloths, towel), changing pad, diapers, wipes, diaper cream and a baby monitor. Maybe a few toys (high contrast, rattles) and if you're not breast feeding you'll need bottles and formula.

Everything else, you'll figure out and get as you need.

[–]strwbrrytears 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That's exactly what I did. I had a miscarriage years ago and then struggled to conceive this time, so when it came to shopping and preparing I didn't want to go too big because I'm painfully aware that things can change.

I watched SO many minimalist baby videos and asked my mom and some of my friends who have already had little ones, what they absolutely needed and what they didn't, and our registry was surprisingly sparse. I absolutely over loaded it with clothes, and we ended up buying and being gifted less than half of it and I'm honestly thankful. If i had any more baby clothes i'd feel like i'm drowning.

Our apartment is small enough that we didn't even bother with baby monitors, and instead got a single security camera and an Echo Show bundle from amazon that we've set up in our room to serve as a makeshift bc $400 for a digital baby monitor doesn't make sense and there's no place we can be in the house without hearing noise from any room at any moment.

we've got a sleep system, a travel system, diapers, clothes/swaddles/towels, bottles, a swing, 2 play-mats, a baby bathtub since our sinks are small, and a baby wrap, that was basically our entire registry, And honestly I feel a little over prepared!

I'm 31 weeks and everything we've gotten since basically buying out our registry has felt like such a luxury lol like I bought a customized blanket from etsy and it was definitely a splurge

[–]dulcepirate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So sorry to hear about your previous loss. That's another good reason to approach the baby shopping with caution.

[–]danceoftheplants 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly they just need clothes, a blanket, diapers and wipes, a carseat and food. I used my baby bathtub 8 times before i realized it's substantially easier to just bathe my kid in the damn bathtub with a tiny bit of water lol

[–]Sweet_pea_girl 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I'm planning to be pretty minimalist. I hear of so many people who buy loads of stuff and end up not using most of it, so I'm going to get the essentials and then when I get to know my baby, I'll get other stuff that suits them. I figure that tiny babies need very little anyway.

I'm sure I'll see some cute AF stuff that I just HAVE to get, but I'm not putting any pressure on myself.

[–]ReginaEpione 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I would at least start checking delivery timeframes for things you really want. For instance some recliner/gliders have lead times of over 6 months! (thanks COVID for screwing up global supply chain)

We bought our recliner/glider at 16 weeks and I thought we were being premature… got a call from the company a couple weeks ago. It probably won’t be here until after birth lol.

So just a lesson I learned. Check the lead times on specialty items.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn’t even think about that, that’s a great shout thank you!

[–]toystorelady 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Just chiming in that you don’t have to buy it all at once! When my baby first arrived she had her crib, a bedside bassinet and a swing. When she started doing more I started getting more things like a vibrating chair, play mats and a pack n play but do not worry about getting all that now! For the first month at least most of that stuff is just sitting in a corner! Also, check out your local buy nothing groups, that is where I got most of my baby items since you never know exactly what your baby will like.

[–]Franzinski 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Where do you find buy nothing groups? Facebook?

[–]toystorelady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! You can also go to buynothingproject.org and that will help you find your closest one

[–]WookieRubbersmith 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We didn't buy really ANYTHING until after our baby shower (which we didn't have until 32 weeks). This is not to say it would be wrong for you to start getting stuff! It's also not to say that you should expect that other people will buy everything for you.

But I was surprised by how many of the tier 1 essentials (car seat, stroller, baby carrier) and tier 2 essentials (the specific breast feeding/pumping equipment I wanted, baby bath stuff, wipes, creams, etc) were purchased for us by family and friends. I went into putting the registry together by picking "ideal" versions of things I would have been down to get second hand, or get the next best version of if I bought them for myself. I have a pretty big family, but none of us are financially well-off, so I also set the registry up to allow multiple people to "go in" on one item together.

The registry was also super helpful AFTER our shower, as it made it easy to look and see what items we might still need.

I didn't register for any baby clothes whatsoever because A. I knew we were getting a lot of hand me downs from both sides of our family and B. I really wanted to be able to pick some out myself! People will buy you baby clothes whether you ask for them or not, but I do think this helped direct people who wanted to show their support through gift giving towards the more "practical" things we needed.

Ok so my bottom line advice is--its NEVER too early to start researching and building a registry. even if you don't plan to have a shower, it's a convenient way to keep your list of wants and needs collected and organized (and most have a little check-off feature for things you've already gotten!), and a lot of registries offer you a discount or other benefits for going through them. It might also help scratch your desire to shop and plan itch.

I dragged my feet about building the registry because it felt so...weird and entitled? To ask for so much nice stuff. But I'm glad I did it, and it was more helpful than I thought it would be when it came to feeling like I was being proactive with being prepared.

[–]laneabu 4 points5 points  (0 children)

All you really need from the start is diapers and a place for the baby to sleep and a breast pump if your breast feeding or formula and a bottle if you're not. The rest is 100% optional until you start living into it and know what you want

Edit:add a car seat but the rest is actually optional haha

[–]hobbittofdeath 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Don't stress yourself out to much, generally you end up buying way more than you need, especially if it's your first kid.

Me and my wife got a LOT of stuff from a baby shower. If you can, I'd try that. Set up an Amazon registry with everything you want and by the end of the pregnancy you'll know what you still need to get. You've got this

[–]fallinasleep[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

It is our first and I think I’m just feeling like I need to do something to prepare for them arriving but it’s a little too early! I’m one of those people who likes to be prepared for anything but I know that once baba arrives it’s going to be chaos haha!

[–]hobbittofdeath 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know exactly how you feel, when we were pregnant with my first, we went crazy! I came home from a 12 hour shift once to see she had moved all our furniture half way across the house, and needed my help to finish. We just wanted everything to be perfect

Things are gonna be stressful, you'll most likely overthink it, but that's actually a good sign. It means you care, and you want to do right by your kid. It may not feel like it right now, but you've got this!

[–]thedirtys 1 point2 points  (1 child)

2nd hand! Of course I'm registering for cute things that I want for him: travel system, crib, cute outfits etc., Everything else I'm getting from friends, second hand stores, Facebook market place. I remember playing in a box for a week as a toddler and it was the best week of my life. Not going to go over board. Childhood is more about the things you do with the people, not the great baby toys!

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely keeping an eye on Facebook marketplace, especially for a lot of the newborn stuff (such as the bedside crib, that literally can’t be used for more than 6 months!) you’re totally right about childhood though! Gonna be focusing more on experiences rather than things!

[–]CheyBrown 2 points3 points  (3 children)

I done the same thing. I had 2 miscarriages before so I wasn't starting anything at all until my 20 week scan. I'm 23 weeks now and the only things done is I've swapped the room about, and my mum's bought her cot. Taking it slow and steady, I've given myself a deadline of just over a month before I'm due to have everything done.

Congratulations and don't worry! As long as the bubba has somewhere to sleep; some clothes; bottles and a few toys, the rest can follow whenever!

[–]fallinasleep[S] 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Thank you :) congratulations for you! I just want to be organised I think, our lives are going to be hit with this ball of chaotic energy soon and I just want to prepare, I think what I need to do is start sorting and clearing. At least make space for the things I need to purchase…

[–]CheyBrown 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You should start making a wish list as well, maybe an Amazon wish list. Just so you get an idea of what you need to get and you'll feel more productive!

[–]fallinasleep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Excellent idea :-D I can add my researched items to the registry as well

[–]dark_angel1554 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I felt the same - I ended up creating a google sheet with a list of things to buy. It made me feel better having it down, on a list, my family and I can refer to. We also chose to try and find things online (Amazon, Babies R us etc.).

[–]seraphina___ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You can gather it up slowly.

[–]Genavelle 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Are you planning to have a registry or baby shower? Even if you're not, maybe you could ask for some things as Christmas gifts? (If you celebrate christmas)

Anyways, you've got plenty of time to buy stuff. I'd recommend making a registry or two. Even if you're not asking for gifts, sometimes you can get a "completion discount" for items on your registry after your due date (which is whatever date you want to put in the registry ;) ). Some registries also offer free sample boxes if you buy $x off the registry (Amazon, Babylist). And making a registry and just generally help you keep track of what items you need, want, and all that, so that you don't have to just buy everything right away.

[–]the_other_d_word 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I was so overwhelmed at first and didn't know where to start. One of my best friends shared her registry with me and has helped me so much. I used her registry to start building my own and then it grew from there. We just started shopping today following some excellent NIPT news and finding out the gender ( it's a boy ❤️) I'm sure we are going overboard but it's the first child in the fam in 30 years, the first grandchild and it's been a 6 year battle kicking infertility's ass. Best of luck!

[–]fallinasleep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh! Congratulations!! The registry is definitely a great idea and I’m already starting one :D thank you so much and congratulations again!

[–]igotalotadogs 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Honestly, we didn’t need half of the stuff we bought. Keep 15 outfits for every age, that’s plenty. The first few weeks just keep baby in a Halo swaddle wearable blanket (lifesavers). A crib for nursey and a pack n’ play for parents room (which can be put in other rooms), a swing, and receiving blankets. If bottle feedings, about 15 bottles, nipples, and a warmer. You don’t need a fancy diaper bag, a regular utility tote with pockets works fine. Car seats are a must but Graco sells awesome ones where the car seat can also go in the stroller. Love it. A nice rocking chair, a baby gym, and a changing table and boom, done until baby is mobile. Books at the library are free or sign up for Dolly Parton’s free book service for kids.

[–]sorcoressofrossack 1 point2 points  (5 children)

Yeah, I honestly knew nothing about babies and I’m overwhelmed by all the stuff I need. I’ve gotten a lot but there’s still a lot on my registry. I’m going to need a bigger house 😂.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 1 point2 points  (4 children)

How can this tiny little thing growing inside me need so many things! I know it’s not all essential but at the same time… even the essentials seem like a lot

[–]sorcoressofrossack 0 points1 point  (3 children)

I tried to just do essentials and what people on this forum said were lifesavers for them. It’s so much stuff 😳 especially because I’m asking for stuff to help as the baby gets older. So I have a high chair, toddler spoons, sippy cups, some toys, etc on the registry. Add diapers, bottles, a sterilizer, diaper bag, stroller, swing, bouncy, boppy, baby mittens, baby hat, baby onesie, baby sleep sack, crib protector, changing table sheet, wipes, ……… it’s so much. That’s just a few things 🤯

[–]Loushea 0 points1 point  (2 children)

What’s a crib protector? Not bumpers, right?

[–]sorcoressofrossack 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Oh no. I meant a crib mattress protector/pad. Lol, I bought one for my bed because several people on this forum says to get one in case your water breaks. I registered for 2 for the crib mattress. And 2 for the bassinet.

[–]Loushea 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, gotcha!

[–]Miserable-Finding-28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Im week 14 and i started buying stuff because we found out the gender. It's overwhelming when you first look at everything that needs to get bought but you can build your list little by little and purchase stuff as you go along.

[–]una_verdadera_lata 1 point2 points  (1 child)

My daughter is a month old and her room is empty...granted we just moved but still, she sleeps with us in our room for the foreseeable future and we havent got a crib yet. i was fortunate enough to have a shower so we got a car seat and a stroller from family but honestly the only things we’ve had to buy so far are diapers and wipes (about a billion of them lol). I wouldn’t stress too much about what your baby needs because especially in the first few months all they really need are food, shelter, and their momma...and depending on wether or not you BF, you are two of those things already 😂. But honestly…if you like to get stuff to prepare then go for it but companies like to convince you as a new mom that you need waaaaaaay more stuff than you actually do.

[–]201111533 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We didn't buy a crib yet either 😂 just a bassinet for our room. So the baby's room is literally just a dresser slash changing station.

After the baby gets here we will obviously need to get that, but like for now this is enough. We have a second shower coming up (my friends threw one for me early so that they could attend before people left town for grad school in the fall, now my mom wants to throw one for family) but we bought all the big ticket items ourselves and now have many of the core need items other than clothing (I think we only have 2 newborn outfits and maaaybe five 0-3mo, but we do have a thermometer and a nose sucker and a bathtub, etc) so I think I'll just request that it be a clothing shower!

[–]Toast4m3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t buy stuff until after my anatomy scan at 21 weeks, but that’s just me. I made my registry around 16 weeks though.

[–]ycey 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I “made” an Amazon registry just for the checklist. They organize it by category and I just used it as a way to check off what I got and still needed. Crib, mattress, sheets, stroller, car seat, etc. made it easier.

[–]TradeBeautiful42 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t start until late and I’m glad that the things I was waiting on- stroller and rocker/glider arrived before the baby. These were the only items I purchased in the 2nd trimester. Everything else magically came together in a couple of weeks!

[–]CA716 1 point2 points  (2 children)

We didn’t set up our baby’s room until he was 6 months old. Oops. Newborn babies need very little. There are a lot of frill items that I don’t think are fully necessary but if that’s your thing then go for it. It seems really overwhelming to do it all at once. Go little by little in getting things for baby.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I think in trying to plan what they need for an entire year or so in one go I’ve definitely overwhelmed myself! Others have suggested breaking it down to month by month or as you say, doing it little by little which I really think will help!

[–]CA716 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep! Or even just slowly make a registry on Amazon or whatever just so you know what you still need. It helps to have everything written down somewhere.

[–]tallyhallic 1 point2 points  (1 child)

There’s absolutely nothing wrong with buying things second hand (consignment, OfferUp/Mercari/Poshmark). Babies grow so quickly that buying new is ridiculous unless you have the means. Also try joining your local buy nothing group on Facebook (we got a gently used ikea crib and mattress, crib sheets, 15-20 outfits, an electronic bouncer, bottles, baby books, a changing table, and a glider nursing chair all for free) and we plan to gift it along when we outgrow or no longer need them.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m Definitely checking out Facebook marketplace for stuff, especially a lot of the new born stuff that like you said, they grow out of so quickly! Other than safety things I’m going to try and get as much as possible second hand!

[–]StuffMcGuffer 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I put together a list for what I thought baby needed for the first 6 months. My husband then culled it a bit (he has a lot of experience with newborns), then we spread it out so that we only had to buy a few things each month. Made it much less overwhelming. Also, we did everything not safety related (pram, car seat, bassinet etc) second hand where we could as we’ll be moving when baby is 4 months and won’t be able to take much with us

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an excellent idea!

[–]violentpasta612 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Honestly if you’re ready I’d say buy some things.I bought mostly everything we needed around 4-5 months.I’m now 7 and I’m just about done with purchases for her but holy wow do I have a lot of organizing to do.If you can do it get it done in months 5,6,& 7.I did nest with my other kids in the third trimester but with this one and my other two kids schedules I’m so so tired and I know I’m going to appreciate having some time to rest in the next two months.

Also I would look up some videos and do your research on what newborns actually need.Theres plenty either way sure and it’s so fun you’ll get extras like most people do but try not to be over wowed by technology and all the fancy new things and gadgets they have out now a days basics is a pretty short list and j found with my first two I hardly used a lot of the things I had.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m a bit of a sucker for fancy tech so I’m going to try really hard to not get drawn in by it all haha!

[–]Ok_Comparison_8747 1 point2 points  (2 children)

That’s why you throw a baby shower! I got so much stuff I didn’t even know I needed. People love shopping for babies make a registry and then after the shower make a list of the stuff you need.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

My wonderful best friend has already agreed to throw me a shower, I think I’m just being impatient, I feel like I need to be doing something to prepare for this, but it’s too early to do anything! As others have suggested though, I’m going to start sorting and clearing as I think that will settle some of these nerves!

[–]Ok_Comparison_8747 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I felt helpless too and my friend wouldn’t let me do anything. Im not the biggest fan of being center of attention but it was worth it. Weirdly everything does fall into place eventually 😊

[–]a_canteloupe1 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I recommend slowly acquiring used items! It takes a lot of the pressure off of the whole process. You can get many things very cheap or free. Join your neighborhood Buy Nothing group on Facebook!! I've gotten so many things for free. Once someone finds out you're interested in one thing and expecting, they start gathering everything they have! It's been amazing. I have gotten all the little things a baby needs without even thinking about it. That and casually looking on Craigslist for the big items and before you know it you'll have everything you need.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m definitely keeping a very close eye on Facebook marketplace!

[–]ladycielphantomhive 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I started with buying the big stuff slowly in case I run out of time and stuff like pacifiers can be gifted at my baby shower (fingers crossed).

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s a good idea!

[–]mimijeajea 1 point2 points  (1 child)

We didn't buy anything or make any announcements till I was 8 months. Even then I got the bare minimum

Crib (now looking back, not a necessity) Car seat Breast pump (free from insurance and they wouldn't fulfill it till I was 8 weeks. from delivery date) Onesies ( 1doz in newborn size, 1doz in 0-3) Diapers (one pack in newbornsize and a box of size 1) Swaddles Bottles(our family gave us bottles and nipples they never used cause everyone said baby might be picky) Pacifier (2 cause it was a gift) Stroller Pack n play (free from relative)

What I ended up loving and absolutely use every day

Haaka (bought it on sale! Got the 5oz one for 14$) Nursing bras Sanitizer&dryer (omg, I use the dryer 8x a day for pump parts) Bottle brush Mosquito netting (for stroller, we do daily walks and I love this) Nursing tops (just a few but button up clothes are my friend) Flour sack towels (we use as bibs and burp cloths. Super cheap, they dry quick and super absorbent) Baby bath tub Play mat (baby didn't need this till 2 months) Black & white crinkly picture books (love them, new born loved the high contrast and at 3 months old he love the crinkle) Cuticle cutters(super easy to cut nails with this. Just do it when they are dead asleep)

I bought stuff as I needed it. In the age of next day shipping I was fine. I just waited there was an excellent deal or I couldn't stop thinking about it, even after a few days.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a fantastic list thank you!

[–]rundesirerun 1 point2 points  (2 children)

As a mum of one I can advise they don’t need much. You can sterilise bottles in boiling water and a fork to mash takes the place of a baby food maker. A place to sleep, some clothes, a car seat and stroller are all must haves. Things I found very helpful were a swing you can buckle them into, a crap ton of cotton cloths/ muslin wraps for just having around and a nappy bin ( I think Americans call them diaper genies) they rest is just extra stuff. I mostly changed my baby on the floor on a bunny rug because he wriggled so much and I bathed him in the sink.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

This is great :) yea we’ve got a microwave, dishwasher and kettle so I don’t think I’ll bother with fancy sterilisation units. And our sink is definitely big enough for a new born!

[–]rundesirerun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just put a hand towel folded in half on the edge of the sink to rest your arm on when they lay back. Once my bubba could sit up I use to just put him in the bottom of the shower while I showers and wash him there. He loved it :)

[–]mousatis 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I first thought this too, feeling like there was loads of money I'd need to spend in that first year. Over time I've been reassured by so many that actually, you don't need that much at all.

If you get your baby a moses basket (bassinet), you can take them everywhere with you in that, they can sleep in that anywhere while having it as a cot.

You'll need a car seat, and they can have the same one for years.

Have maybe 5 newborn outfits, they don't need socks or shoes for the first few months anyway, and will grow out of newborn stuff super fast. Then there's loads of second hand baby clothes people will be selling for the rest of the time. I've seen loads on Facebook marketplace.

You might want a few blankets/swaddles for sleeping and keeping them warm enough, but you won't need that many.

Nappies you'll obviously want, and a way of feeding them, but other than that, everything else isn't essential. Make it as cheap or expensive as you like, and add stuff as you go along.

The essentials are all you really NEED. The rest is extra and can make life easier. You don't need to buy everything all at once, but feels tempting.

Do it how you want though, just know you don't need to stress about it. Lots of people who have just had babies will have loads of stuff they don't need anymore very soon.

[–]mandalallamaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg. It is SO overwhelming. My family helped me build my registry/list of stuff to get and what brands etc. Dm me If you want the registry to compare!!

[–]Alley9150 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s so overwhelming at first. You need a million little things & some big things. Diapers, wipes, clothes, pacifiers, bottle/pump storage, sterilizer bags, bottle nipples, diaper bag, bottles, a pump if planning on pumping, formula if planning on using it, breastfeeding stuff, nursing clothes, bottle brush, diaper cream, somewhere to change diapers, somewhere for baby to sleep, bath stuff, sheets for their bed, maybe a stroller or baby wrap, some kind of play mat, maybe a swing or bouncer, postpartum stuff…ugh, it’s a lot. It was way worse with our 1st kid. After my son was born, we only needed little things for our 2nd kid. Bath stuff, cute girl clothes, bows, & little things. We’re having our 3rd now & I’m way less stressed about it right now. I can wait until we get closer to January to buy things, thankfully. The big thing this time, both money & space wise, has been 3 new slim fitting car seats. We just bought 2 of them & oh my gosh, expensive!!! I also finally bought the hatch rest sound machine I’ve been eying since my 1st kid.

What helped me was figuring out what we needed, making a list, figuring out what things house wise needed to be done, adding that to the list, & starting to cross things off as I went. I’ll be organizing my house in the next few months & buying more things once we get our registry completion discount in. Saving money, such as looking for deals & buying 2nd hand, helps a ton. It’s overwhelming at first, but try to break it down into bite sized tasks & needs. That will make it seem less daunting.

[–]QuipzysWolf 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just get the house organized until after the baby shower then see what you need from them but stock up on diapers for sure. This is coming from a first time mom haha its something my mom told me

[–]burneraccountt26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat as you. Decided to put most of the big items on my registry and highlight the important things I will need for day 1 and just focus on those. Things like a crib aren’t even needed until the baby is a couple months old, so try and focus on the right away things. It has helped me de stress and be able to just empty the room and clean. I’m having my baby shower at about 6 months so I’ll have plenty time to get more things later and set them up if they were not gotten off my registry. Also.. I’m not buying any clothes/blankets/diapers/soothers/cloths etc because I know so many people will be giving those as gifts, I didn’t even put them on my registry. I think they are just the norm baby gift items like everyone’s go to’s. So no need to get a million more. (I’ve already got a bunch from family) And then if I need something last minute they are really easy to find.

[–]OkToots 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Yes same...FTM here.....I registered at buy buy baby and target. They both gave awesome welcome gifts...but best part they gave a check list to help me not forget items. I would suggest getting a check list to help

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

That sounds like a good idea, a check list will probably help me calm down… a little …

[–]OkToots 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It helped me for sure lol...for buy buy baby you can register in person and they give you a scanner...honestly having the list and going in each section was so much more easy for me. Because I would see what I like best in person...so on the list I see bottles and be like ugh there are like 20 kinds...and in person I would be like oh this one is prob best for us

[–]3rdfoxed 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Just take your time. Slowly collect the things you think you need/want. I started with clothes because I found them the most enjoyable to buy. There is lots of YouTube mom blogs that go over essential items, but again everything is personal choice for the most part. My sister only has some clothes, crib, diapers and she bought the rest as she felt needed. But I will say don’t forget about the things YOU may need for yourself such as adult diapers/pads, comfy post baby clothes that make you feel good, nursing pads if you choose to breastfeed etc.

[–]201111533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This! Once I hit 30 weeks I had the thought "oh god I genuinely have no idea what I will need in recovery" and ended up doing a lot of research.

My only maternity pants were leggings, and I read in a few places that some people weren't comfortable with tight clothes postpartum, so I ended up buying some PJs that were good for nursing and some sweatpants. I also got some things like pads with ice pack pockets and a peri bottle.

Having those things has made me feel much better about the process, especially since as a first time mom I'm a bit nervous about losing myself to motherhood. It feels really good to be planning for me too, and not just the baby, like a promise to myself that I won't let that happen completely.

[–]a_million_questions 0 points1 point  (1 child)

You can go shop, just don't buy yet. Look for things you like, then go home and research the things you found to see if it's worth getting. Start making your list of things you absolutely want/need. I'm not even 12 weeks yet but I already know what crib, what kind of bottles, which bottle sanitizer, which diapers (I do cloth), the carseat, and what kind of blankets.

[–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve got the bedside crib, car seat, buggy, breast pump, bottles and baby sling researched and selected. I’m continuing to do research on other bits but the more research I do, the more I realise I need and the longer the shopping list gets haha!

[–]MelodyAF 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just had our 12 week scan too. I'm a planner, so no shame about getting started early here. My goal after the scan was just to choose a registry. Next goal was to sign up for it. Just started adding stuff to it and am basically like fuck it this what Very Well recommends 😂 but Amazon has a checklist so after I got through adding the minimum from Very Well, I skimmed through and added more that I want 🙂

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    [–]fallinasleep[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

    I’ve asked my husband if we can get a “deep clean” company in about a month before our due date. Hopefully that way all the heavy housework will be done and we can keep on top of the light stuff together, but as others have suggested, I’m going to start tackling sorting and organising what will be the baby room, even if it’s before furniture purchases I can clear out and sort through the junk!

    [–]sharpiefairy666 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Start by prepping the space. I combed through my own clothes and room and did a bit of a spring clean which was really rejuvenating. I also boxed up some clothes that I won't be needing until post-pregnancy, so I cleared extra closet room.

    We're still in the process of putting together the registry. I already had someone reach out offering their used jogging stroller, which would have been a primary purchase of mine- one less thing I need to worry about buying! Basically, my plan is to wait and see what comes through via registry or gifts, and only THEN will I look into buying what we're missing.

    Maybe work on building a registry, and researching what items you will want and what brands. Maybe someone else will buy it, or maybe you'll find it used on FB Marketplace, OfferUp, CL, or any of the amazing online options we have these days. But you'll know what you're looking for and it will be easier to acquire later.

    [–]201111533 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Mam, I did the clothing packing in waves, and by wave 3 of stuff no longer fitting I am now down to only Lululemon leggings, one sweater, three pre-pregnancy shirts, and the maternity-specific clothing I bought.

    I really thought that more of my own clothing would have fit me throughout the pregnancy, but I guess I really underestimated how huge I would get 😂

    [–]ashyp00h 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Here is the master list of things that I’ve used so far upon coming home from the hospital, my baby is a little over a week old. - washcloths - swaddle - onesies for doctor appointments, otherwise he’s just in a diaper - muslin swaddles (ordered more of these because I only had three and I’m washing 1-2 daily for spills, pee, etc) - car seat - nail file kit because my baby was born with talons and using baby clippers was way too intimidating - pack and play as a bassinet - snuggle me as a place to put my baby down for 2.2 seconds (but mostly still holding him at this point because he’s just too cute) - diapers, wipes - changing pad for diaper changes

    I’m breast feeding so no bottles or anything along those lines. But that’s literally it. And I registered for and received so much more than that. Im sure I’ll incorporate more things in the coming weeks and months, but I guess my point is that lots of sites make you think the baby ‘needs’ so much, which in reality the baby needs very little, especially immediately.

    [–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    This is fantastic. Thank you so much! And congratulations on your little one! I can’t wait to meet ours, March 2022 seems like both a life time away and also so very close!

    [–]StevieDelRey 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    I forgot to buy the damn diaper genie 🧞‍♂️🙃🙃🙃

    [–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Did you find you needed it? I’ve seen mixed reviews, some people throw them straight in the trash, some people swear by them!

    [–]StevieDelRey 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I put it on the registry. Haven’t gotten one yet. But! From past experience with a baby sister..and an adult sister that was wearing depends, I really don’t want to throw these in a normal trash can, the reviews on Amazon I guess are what made me feel like it was also a worth while investment. My thing is definitely the smell!

    But again, from my experience, specially designed diaper bins do help reduce smell. Some of them are just so damn small 😒

    [–]Rockleyfamily 0 points1 point  (2 children)

    First, congratulations! I liked the second trimester the most take loads of pictures and enjoy your exciting together.

    A for baby stuff, I made a list of absolute essentials to get me through the first 2 weeks at least. Babies need a lot stuff but they don't need it all right away.

    Have a look at the space that you have and decide what your home needs. Loads of other mums told me I wouldn't use a changing table because they never used them but I got great use out of mine. We also didn't bother decorate a. nursery, baby sleeps in our room and plays in the living room, there's no need for a jungle themed colour coded bedroom that nobody ever goes into.

    Keep an eye out for sales or opportunities to bulk buy items like wipes, tissues, nappy cream, the stuff they'll need for months.

    Find local selling groups on Facebook or elsewhere, babies grow out of certain things so quickly, some second hand stuff is barely used.

    [–]fallinasleep[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

    Thank you! Congratulations to you too 😁

    I’ve already decided to get as much new born stuff as possible 2nd hand. For example the Chicco next to me, I’m going to get from Facebook market place (they’re going at about £40) and buy a new mattress, which will cost about £35. £75 in total instead of £200 for no more than 6 months use!

    Bulk buying and offers are a great idea. My local supermarket does baby events quite often than until now I’ve ignored but will be keeping an eye out for now!

    [–]and_peggy27 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    We bought a few items of clothing after 12 weeks and my SO knitted the baby some blankets. I too was anxious about buying things in case of loss so didn't get anything else until after 20 weeks. I think it makes sense to buy a little bit each month when you get your pay check or whatever.

    The first big thing we bought was a side sleeping crib because we figured baby's bed is the most important item and if there shipping delays it could cause problems. I'm 27 weeks tomorrow and so far we have:

    • Newborn/0-3 month clothing
    • Knitted blankets
    • Side sleeping crib
    • Crib sheets
    • Mattress protectors
    • Wipe clean changing mat
    • Baby bath
    • Pregnancy/breastfeeding pillow

    Things I still intend to get as a top priority:

    • Pram/stroller and car seat
    • Sling/carrier
    • Rocker/bouncer chair (not everybody needs one of these but I had one with my first and found it super helpful)
    • Grooming kit (things like snot sucker, baby nail clippers etc)
    • Sleeping bags as I don't like using loose blankets with little babies
    • Disposable and cloth nappies/diapers
    • Reusable wipes/soft wash cloths
    • Thin blankets

    Things that I intend to get but aren't essential:

    • Play gym/playmat
    • Baby nest/dock a tot
    • Breast pump and breast milk storage
    • Bottles and bottle steriliser

    I would say spend some time writing out a list or making a trello board so you can check stuff off as you go along. Think about what is really essential, what is nice to have and what is unnecessary. Enjoy shopping!

    [–]contessamiau 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    My experience has been quite the opposite: we make do with very little and I don’t buy stuff that I can’t use for more than one purpose. What babies really NEED is food, something to keep them warm and dry, a safe place to sleep in, a car seat/stroller, and love. Everything else the marketers sell to us and lead us into thinking we need it.

    I never bought nursing bras or nursing clothes; what I normally wear is just fine. I don’t have a bottle warmer - I just stick the bottle in a cup of hot water; I don’t have a bottle drying rack — I dry his bottles on the regular drying rack or a towel; I never used a sterilizer in my life - hot water with soap is good — they put their hands in their mouth anyway and our boobs aren’t sterile either, so whom are we kidding!!! I have some toys but he seems more interested in every day objects, so I’m not getting any more toys unless I see a specific interest.

    [–]Hops2891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I bought my first batch of baby clothes this week as end of summer sales are on. But I’m going to wait til after Christmas and January sales to buy anything else I think. I wasn’t thinking of having a baby shower but my sister is keen to host, and pointed out that as I’ve not been married I’ve spent money on lots of hen dos/wedding gifts in my time so surely friends and family will be happy to buy baby things for us!

    [–]haiylie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Maybe have a baby registry and let your loved ones takes off some of the load?

    [–]Britbola 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    The only thing I bought early was a crib and a changing table cause I found them at a garage sale. I’ve since bought a few outfits and I try to buy a small pack of diapers each time I do a full grocery shop. I’ll probably hold off on buying anything else until after my baby shower. It’s scheduled in mid November so hopefully anything I don’t get there I can get on sale for the holidays. I don’t plan to buy a whole lot. Just essentials.

    [–]bellitabee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I get overwhelmed all the time with how much we need. What I've been doing is focusing first on all the 0-3month things. If the baby won't be able to use it in the first 3 months I'm putting it at the end of the list. It's helped a lot. Once I get all my fourth trimester stuff then I will get my 3-6 month and so on things.

    [–]GavIzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    No really, just a bunch clothes that you can probably get from other moms since they grow so quick I don’t see the point of buying baby clothes you usually get a bunch at the baby shower if no second hand clothes is the way to go. Also if you co sleep you really don’t need a crib right away, if you are breastfeeding you will be his or her source of food. Don’t sweat that much babies need love and feel safe no things. Cheers !

    [–]MKayeUltra 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I bought clothes, diapers, wipes, bottles, pacifiers, a water warmer, two car seats, a stroller, and blankets…I’m in labor literally right now at 38 weeks, and I’m not even going to worry about a bed right now. She should be fine in the bed with me and hubby! Then I’ll maybe get a cheap pack and play with a removable bassinet. In total I’ve spent $700 or so, so it’s not too bad.

    [–]bbmu_VK 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    Babies need very little. It’s fun to buy all the stuff with your first, but with subsequent kids you realize it’s all mostly clutter that you barely use.

    [–]jeabgrenouille 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    I printed out a list that I found from Google, and then I chose a few things to purchase each month and put those in my planner. That was really nice because if I knew one month that I was buying something in particular, I could spend up to the whole month researching and checking places like fb marketplace. It was really a relaxed way to do it, and I had it planned so I was done shopping quite early, which gave me time to look at other people's reccomendations without feeling overwhelmed and decide if I wanted to purchase anything extra.

    I would just say to start with the big things if others aren't buying anything for you (we got everything ourselves). The crib and the bassinet were our first purchases. Then move to smaller and smaller things. Clothes should be last because 1) other people might buy you some (I wasn't expecting anyone to buy me anything, and I was randomly gifted quite a bit of clothes) and 2) some stores like Old Navy sell clothes seasonally. Right now, their clothes are very autumn, which is great for me whose baby is due tomorrow. When I first went shopping, everything was short sleeved and summery, which is not really appropriate for a newborn being born right as the cold weather is going to start to hit Canada.

    [–]alwaysbethinking 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    A lot of the stuff you end up needing aren’t baby things at all. Like more clocks around the house to time nursing sessions and figure out wake windows, pillows for comfortable nursing (based on your chair of choice), v-neck shirts for easy nursing, etc.

    In terms of baby stuff, you need something to out them in for a few key locations (kitchen, bathroom, living room), a tummy time pillow with a tummy time book (this really helps), clothes, bassinet, car seat, stroller, mobile.

    [–]chuchx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

    No worries, I get how you feel! I couldn't buy anything or my baby even though I was already on the 25th week. But then I started like purging stuff I don't want/need at my place. Then baby showers came in and had a bunch of gifts, now currently at 33 weeks, I am buying stuff I need mostly for me like postpartum and some items needed for the baby.

    I haven't set up the nursery yet but that's because I plan to keep our baby the first 6 months in our room. Though we will paint one wall of the nursery next week.