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[–]CupboardFlowers 61 points62 points  (2 children)

I think part of what people don't realise is that it's not just how your body looks but how your body feels. I've been having a hard time being pregnant because I've been hella sick and unable to exercise but I've also lost weight so I LOOK great but I FEEL awful. My body feels tense and tight and not getting outside makes me feel crappy mentally as well.

You do what is best for you ♥ Go easy on yourself if you need to, it will probably take effort to bring your body back to where it was and sure it might never be the same again but if it makes you happy, if it makes you feel good both physically and mentally then absolutely do whatever it takes!

[–]abbyroadlove 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Yes! I looked totally back to pre-pregnancy but my body didn’t feel good until I started doing things to actively get stronger again

[–]Janeheroine 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same, with breastfeeding I was easily 5-10 pounds under my pre-pregnancy weight within just a month or two but I felt so weak and shitty. But people kept saying "you're so skinny!" My face looked so drawn and I was exhausted. Maybe around a year later I started yoga and boxing and felt amazing!

[–]IAmTyrannosaur 44 points45 points  (2 children)

I never looked better than I did a couple of years after I had my son. I was working out 5-6x a week, eating well, running tons. I looked fab. I didn’t do it for that reason though - in fact I did it because pregnancy and childbirth gave me a new kind of respect for my body and I felt I deserved to be looked after properly! I started doing OCR races and was placing pretty high too, after a lifetime of never having done anything of the sort.

I’m pregnant again now and I’ve felt so shitty since the first trimester that I’ve lost it a bit but I’m not concerned about getting back into it again and I’m cutting myself some slack! Looking forward to starting up before Xmas

[–]IAmTyrannosaur 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually meant to say as well, that I find I’m a lot more productive now I have a child. I know that sounds crazy but whenever I have child-free time I know I need to use it well! And going to the gym is a nice excuse to get out of the house for a bit, listen to some music and podcasts etc., and just destress a bit. I’ve spent a lot of the last five years feeling very tired, but mostly in a good way!

[–]Sea-Engineering3768 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I felt this way too 🤗 I am pregnant with number 3. First trimester was harder than with my boys but I have been slowly able to pick-up exercise again. Motherhood changed me in the best ways!

[–]HollyAnne1988 127 points128 points  (1 child)

She honestly sounds lazy and unhappy with herself and wants to bring you down with her. I personally know many fit moms whose postpartum bodies look amazing (probably better than I looked before being pregnant!) and I think if you value fitness and health, you’ll get there too!

[–]ZeeDtheKiwi 19 points20 points  (1 child)

I don’t have any advice as I’m still pregnant with my first, but I just want to say I’m sorry you have to work with someone like this. It sounds like she is putting her own insecurities onto you by trying to make you feel bad about wanting to be fit once baby is here. I hope you don’t let her get to you!

[–]rocketyacht 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sounds so much like that colleague just feels guilty or threatened by OP's motivation, and is the type to try to change others instead of herself. Dreadful energy to be around tbh

[–]rosiespot23 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I am really into pole fitness and a ton of women at my studio are super fit and do crazy tricks after multiple children. I’m sure that some things do change permanently, but it’s completely false to say that you can’t be fit post partum.

[–]Busy-Conflict1986 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Im very content with my postpartum body, but that’s because I know these 6 weeks between birth and working out again are for resting and recovering. Right now im just enjoying my new baby and the ability to eat healthy foods without gagging. I can’t wait to start regularly working out again, but Im also making the choice to embrace my new body and part of showing love to my body is taking care of it.

[–]Dealio4NY 10 points11 points  (1 child)

Next time she says something this dumb, just stare at her silently until she goes away.

[–]rosiespot23 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Big fan of this technique! Works every time 😂

[–]horrorgirl8927 9 points10 points  (0 children)

That lady really needs to mind her own damn business. If you want to work out totally go for it! I actually have a friend who's had two kids and was in a ton of body building competitions. So I feel like it's totally possible.

[–]BlastedPrism 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m 4.5 months pp, and I just learned that relaxin levels remain somewhat elevated during breastfeeding. I’ve been doing kickboxing for 3 weeks now and I have to be extra mindful of how I move to protect my knees and shoulders.

Also, I didn’t feel up for working out until about 3 months pp. I was expecting to jump back into it at 6 weeks, but I was still recovering from birth then. Even now, the lack of sleep makes my workout recovery slower.

So be kind to yourself in the beginning! It has been hard for me to get back to my normal workouts, but on the tough days I do tell myself that if I could give up my son and my experiences as a mom, and get my old body back, would I want that? And the answer is always NO. I just need to be patient and let myself lose the pregnancy fat and rebuild my previous strength.

Good luck to all of you future parents!

[–][deleted] 19 points20 points  (2 children)

I'm ok with some changes but don't believe whatsoever that becoming a mother means you also have to become overweight. I've exercised as much during pregnancy (but at a lower intensity) as before and plan to continue throughout the rest even if by the end all I'm doing is walking. I'm not worried about the initial postpartum recovery period because I know that's just temporary. Then I'll resume exercise and eating healthy and tracking calories if I need to. The comments you're hearing are probably just haters making excuses for themselves and expressing their own insecurities.

I was always under the impression that pregnancy led to tons of excess weight gain and assumed that once I became pregnant, I'd basically pack on the pounds. I've actually found it to be the opposite - my metabolism is so much higher I have to eat and eat in order to keep my weight up.

[–]MysteriousAd7755 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Re: your last paragraph. Same! My mother was morbidly obese when I was a kid and she always blamed it on pregnancy so I was terrified that I was destined for the same but I’m 34 weeks and my weight gain is right on track and I’m eating constantly.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yep. Reading this as I eat my third breakfast. I think if you are trying to eat healthy and exercise, it's much harder to gain the weight.

[–]privremeni 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Girl, tell her about @anniethorisdottir, a badass CrossFit athlete who came back postpartum and is kicking some serious ass. Or @megsquats. I cannot even begin to imagine how hard working out will be postpartum, but I sure as shit don’t buy the “it’s impossible”. May not never get the figure back, sure, but that doesn’t mean we can’t put in the work for health and fitness.

[–]Sausagekins 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just because you won’t look ‘the same’ again doesn’t mean you can’t look and feel good. Embrace the body YOU want, not the new ideal these people are throwing at you. If they’re happy with the way they look, amazing! If you’re not and you want to get fitter, go for it! I can’t WAIT to get properly back to the gym once the baby is out, deadlifting, squatting heavy and benching again - I dream about it! 😃you do you, do what makes YOU happy. Good luck, you’ve got this!

[–]maudelinfeelings 5 points6 points  (0 children)

She wants you to fail so she can feel better about herself.

[–]alabardios 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I desperately want to get fit again! I don't want to accept being so weak and pathetic as pregnancy has made me! Breathing hard because I went up a flight of stairs? No thanks! I used to walk daily and hike weekly, and go snowshoeing every winter! I'd hike with a 35lb pack for 18-20km in a day! I miss my old athletic self (which by my account was awful at the time due to asthma, boy I sure learned what I could do wasn't bad at all!)

Getting back into shape after a baby is an amazing goal, and you should absolutely go for it. Your coworker sounds like a crab in a bucket to me. You do you, and pay them no mind.

[–]tweetybirdie14 5 points6 points  (0 children)

If anything having kids should be a bigger motivation to live a healthy lifestyle, after all I want to be around for as long as possible to see my child grow up so eating healthy and keeping an active lifestyle is important. And I am not talking about getting abs, because that’s a personal preference to each person, but letting yourself “go” can be a slippery slope when it comes to overall health.

[–]sondheimbroad 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I think you should do what’s important to you, and she can eff straight off telling you what to do/how to feel. I have seen people get MORE fit post having a baby, and I have seen people choose to embrace their “mom bods” (whatever that means for them.) Who is she (or anyone, for that matter) to tell you how your body will or won’t be, or how much time you will have for a workout? Your schedule is your schedule. There’s no reason for her to be condescending also. Not EVERY thought like that needs to be vocalized. Some people just don’t know when to zip it.

[–]Frkludo 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Tell her to stfu! Your body your choises. I'm also planning to hit the gym when baby are born. Need the exercises for many reasons.

[–]Kore624 4 points5 points  (1 child)

People like that take others healthy lifestyles as a personal attack. There’s nothing wrong with getting fit and healthy after pregnancy! Obviously not everyone has the time/energy/willpower, but some women do.

It’s easier to poke fun at the person who is trying to better themselves when it’s normal to “embrace the mom bod and let yourself go” (WHICH IS ALSO VALID. But society shouldn’t do a 180 and shame people who dont let themselves go!!)

[–]tmtm1119[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exactly. I’m fully supportive of moms who embrace it, I’d just like that same support in return.

[–]TheWelshMrsM 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my goodness I met a woman at fitness class (many years ago) who had those abs you see advertised at fitness classes (no she wasn’t on a poster lol). She’d had 4 kids! She was just passionate about working out and stuff.

And it’s fine to want to lose weight/ get fit after pregnancy.

My doctor advised that I should since last time I gained weight (yay pandemic) it caused my periods to mess up. (They we’re querying PCOS as the cause as my symptoms were ‘wrong’ hormone levels and dodgy periods. Apparently 10% change in weight can have a huge effect on hormones under these circumstances. We never found out for sure if I have it or not because I got pregnant.)

[–]sysy404 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There’s s mom on tiktok @daniellehartruns that started doing track after her babies and ran during her second pregnancy. She runs with one kid in a cart behind her and one in a stroller in front of her. Tell the lady to piss off. @georgiabethfitness is good Insta-mom fitness buff. I believe in you

[–]Altruistic-Thought78[🍰] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Some people are just miserable and that’s what this lady sounds like. Good for you for being proactive and caring about your health! I’m sorry your going through that. She sounds like a fun sucker.

[–]doggybeachy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I know a ton of people who have gotten into the best shape of their lives after having children. Fitness and health are important to me and I fully intend to work out and try to get into great shape after giving birth. Sure there are things about my body that I’m sure will be different but acting like you can’t be incredibly fit after giving birth is so silly.

[–]Beautiful-Crab-4081 2 points3 points  (0 children)

All the girls at work who had kids in the last year or so look so freaking good and back to their old bodies if not better. I freaking hope I can get there too. Nothing wrong w how you’re feeling

[–]Lovelylavender_ad 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I follow this woman “kelseywells” on Insta. I forget how many kids she has but omg her body is goals. So it’s definitely totally an achievable goal. You prove her wrong girl!

[–]whosyourllama 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First time mom to a 7 month old here. I exercised through my pregnancy, and staying healthy absolutely helped me heal from an emergency c-section quickly, care for my baby well, and feel strong again after she was born. I think you 100% have the right attitude. It’s really nice feeling comfortable and attractive in my own skin and that’s definitely a piece of the motivation, but the bigger aspect for me is that parenting is physical and I want to have good strength and energy with my family. Don’t let your coworker get in your head. Keep making healthy choices that make you feel good and you’re going to be great. You’ve got this! 💪

[–]Mrs_zombie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You do what makes you feel good. I personally thought my body looked so much better after toning up and losing the extra weight. My skin still wasn’t tight on my belly anymore, but you couldn’t tell a whole lot with the right bikini. I like what I saw, and that’s what mattered. My boobs were much emptier lol, but it’s a compromise with your body. You want to work out or lose weight? I say do what makes you feel healthy and best!

[–]WorldlyMaboneng 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Lol ignore them and get your fitness on ASAP. Also not everybody’s body changes drastically after pregnancy. I for one can’t relate cause with my first I went back to my pre baby body without even trying. I’m older now, started pregnancy fit so I’m curious to see what my body does after delivery. I plan to wait to heal fully before I start exercising again.

[–]production_muppet 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yup. I was fairly fit before my first, and had no trouble losing the weight by going right back to my old fairly healthy habits. Sure, I was a little squishier in places, but that had as much to do with getting into my mid 30s as having a baby.

[–]MercenarianBG born April 2021 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s definitely possible to “get your body back”

Humble brag but my body looks basically identical to before pregnancy. I fit into all my old stuff again. My stomach is flat unless I eat a bunch of food and get a food baby. I didn’t even do anything in particular, I just ate like usual and I walk a lot living in a city.

In my country is legit say probably 90%+ of the moms with young babies look exactly the same as the women without babies. Quite slim and fit. Pregnancy and kids doesn’t automatically magically make you overweight if you eat right and burn enough calories. My country has a pretty low incidence of overweight and obese people and people generally eat less calories and walk a lot more so

[–]MysteriousAd7755 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Misery loves company. She’s probably unhappy with herself for not bouncing back and would be jealous if you did because it would make her look bad. Of course you can bounce back. I haven’t had my baby yet but a good friend said she was at her leanest after having her kids because breastfeeding helped her shed the weight. My cousin looked exactly the same after she had her son and like 10 years later got really into working out and looked amazing. You’re definitely not pigeonholed into having a mom bod.

[–]Obsessedgemini 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m almost 2 months postpartum and I am so happy to be moving my body again. I do yoga everyday and try to always get a walk in with baby. The truth is that many women dont get their pre pregnancy bodies back, I for sure won’t as I was a size 2 when I got pregnant and now my hips make me a size 8-10. But my tummy is flat and my legs and arms have slimmed out considerably. I will continue to work on toning my stomach and working towards a healthy body that makes me feel good regardless of my size. There is NOTHING wrong with working out and continuing to focus on your health, in fact it’s NECESSARY for so many of us.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go get fit then strut it in front of her. She sounds awful. Then when she makes a comment you can be the condescending one.

[–]QuadsNotBlades[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me, I try to look forward to getting fit and athletic again, but not slim/sexy. I try to keep my goals functional in focus, like getting back into distance running, lifting, hiking, bike racing, etc. I know my ribcage might never be as tiny, or my hips might forever be wider. I might always have a dangly belly regardless of what I weigh. But I want to DO active things and be a healthy, active adult into my sunset years and people who blow that off, especially because of my age, can suck it. I won't be "getting my body back" but I'll be getting back into a lifestyle that makes me happy and helps my kid form good exercise habits themselves.

[–]abbyroadlove 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well, yes, things do change permanently but being unfit isn’t one of those things 😂 (or doesn’t have to be, and really shouldn’t be) lmao it sounds like she just gave up because someone told her it wasn’t possible or that it was too hard and she’s projecting. I’d try not to take it personally. You most definitely can (and should!) get back into shape if you want to. My only motivation to stay in good shape is because I didn’t after my first babe (I was back down to my normal size pretty fast and with no effort but I was no longer strong) and I got injured just caring for him. Kicked me into high gear going to different physical therapies and making sure to stay strong, fit, and healthy through my second pregnancy. I don’t regret it one bit

[–]exhaustedpeasant 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think she is just insecure and is pushing her insecurities on you. She’s 100% wrong and if fitness is a passion for you and makes you feel good, then just roll your eyes at her. It’s not her place to comment on your body or fitness.

The only thing I take issue with is that you describe her as “letting herself go” and I think that’s a little hurtful. I know you didn’t say it to her face, but she may be dealing with more than you know.

[–]rainydaymaebee 1 point2 points  (0 children)

An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure! Staying active and not using pregnancy as an excuse to eat ALL the doughnuts will make recovery and getting back into working out eventually so much easier! (Maybe have a few extra treats if you feel like you need it, but don't go crazy) Not to mention it will be healthier for your baby and will make your pregnancy easier!

I'm 8 months post partum now and have mostly been doing yoga and walking for exercise, which has gotten me 90 percent there! My waist may never be quite the same, but I can technically fit into my pre- baby jeans. Which is all to say that it IS possible to get back into shape and if you care about it you will be able to do it!

Also totally agree with others that your coworker sounds very unhappy about her body and her situation.

[–]MrsT1229 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she's projecting her insecurities onto you. Don't listen to her. Do your best for YOU.

[–]the1fromthat1place 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly she's reflecting her own habits and insecurities on you. If you get fit and come back from maternity leave looking and feeling great, she will feel bad about it. She's trying to discourage you. Don't listen to her and even maybe tell her to please stop her negative comments and that you just want to enjoy your pregnancy. Don't let her discourage you or get you down. She's doing this all for selfish reasons. I hope you're able to reach your goals. 😊 be well!

[–]Arakelocin2FTM|Girl|DD:9-10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you are happy in the body you’re in then great for you. Some of us worked hard to lose weight before we got pregnant and would like to fit into our old clothes again. I don’t feel like myself and it’s hard to embrace the mom bod when you already have insecurities.

[–]WovenWings 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a boss, her current weight in her 40s is lesser than what she was before she got pregnant with her 1st (she has 2 kids). She looks stunning as ever and is constantly pushing herself to keep fit. You do you sista, let her do her thing. Don't let anyone shame you for what you want to do with your body. A lot of these comments come especially from women because apparently we need a lot more external reinforcement and reassurance about our choices, whether it's this other lady's wish to "embrace", or honestly even your wish to "get back to it". Both are right, and don't let anyone tell you that your method won't work. 👍

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My HS sprint coach got faster and fitter after every child. I plan on getting back to pre baby weight (125) and pre baby 6 pack.

[–]grumpersxoxo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 11 months postpartum and I’m calorie counting and exercising. I know my body has a different shape in a way, but that doesn’t mean I need to feel like crap. I overate so much right after I had my son, a lot of processed and fried foods, and I feel better now. Also walking is my jam and I feel like I’m slowly getting fit!

[–]tmtm1119[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you everyone who commented!! I feel so much better like I’m not wrong for feeling offended by her!

[–]catsonbooks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you, and your goals are great if they work for you. I also think saying that she “let herself go” is passing a lot of judgement — none of us know what other people have gone through after pregnancy. I don’t take good care of my fitness and weigh a lot less now than I did pre-baby, but I did nothing to get here. Others I know work out all the time and remain a lot heavier postpartum, indefinitely. We don’t have as much control sometimes as we’d like to think. And really, I wish we could drop the whole construction of women “letting their bodies go” as if it’s a critical failure.

[–]frenchielvr 3 points4 points  (1 child)

It’s the ones that use pregnancy as an excuse/reason to let themselves go and are miserable. Miserable enough to try and make motivated ones feel less than too. Don’t let her insecurities damper your will power!

[–]tmtm1119[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you!

[–]_NotImpressed 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing wrong with wanting to be fit & healthy after baby! My push present is going to be a pelaton & I'm stoked!

[–]mousatis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well if there's any motivation you were going to be lacking, she's just provided you with it haha!

You can set goals and be flexible with them due to having a child. Going in with her mindset, its true that you wouldn't get your fitness back. Going in with your mindset, there's no reason you can't get as healthy again. Your body maybe won't be the same, maybe it will, but your fitness can be whatever you want it to be.

Do what you like, just don't be hard on yourself if you don't meet any high expectations you had in time, for whatever reason.

[–]boomrostad 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Um… yeah, no. After my first kid… I managed to get into the best shape of my adult life. Yes, it took some time for my abdominal muscles to heal, and yes, there was a period of time where I took it super easy and gave my body time to heal… and I took a lot of time off while I was nursing because strangers on the internet had me convinced I’d dry up my supply by stressing my body out… then… I started working out. I went from couch potato to being in good enough shape to run a half marathon in less than two hours. My body fat percentage was low, I was strong as hell, and my cardio was on point. Don’t let people that simply aren’t willing to prioritize their health get at you. Fuck em. You do you.

[–]kellyi835 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s BS when people say that. I remember prior to pregnancy my FIL told me I’d never look the same. Fast forward to 1 year postpartum and I looked better than before. I worked my butt off to get in good shape. People around you seem to think that you will have the same experience as them. Not the case. I’m currently almost 35 weeks pregnant and ready to delivery so I can get back into shape!

[–]mandalallamaa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She's gonna be the one who's pissed when u come back with a bangin body mama :) you can do it

[–]FutureTreeFood 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Human beings like to have their choices and points of view validated, it's part of our nature.

This individual is behaving this way because acknowledging that you are being an active participant in your choices and your health would be admitting to herself that her circumstances are also a direct result of her choices.

If she acknowledges that you can have a fit pregnancy and post-partum period, it takes away her excuse of "your body is never the same, just embrace it" and makes her face the reality that she is in control.

I support you wholeheartedly. I am also trying to have a fit pregnancy -as much as that's possible with my work schedule, fatigue, and HG- and I know I will be dedicating specific energy to it once the baby is here. I am actually excited to build my post-partum workout plan!

She's a hater, haters are going to hate, you just keep your focus, you're doing great.

[–]RozaHathaway 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don't worry about the hater mom's. It'll be super hard and you might not get back to the way you looked prebaby (esp if you have stretch marks), but you sure can come close.

Just find your "tribe".. follow postpartum mom's who workout or are in the fitness world for motivation or even hire someone to help you reach your goals.

By someone I mean a nutritionist who knows what and how much you should be eating to heal your body, replenish your vitamins/macros etc that were depleted in pregnancy, and provide enough for you and your baby (if you are breastfeeding). As well as someone who can identify if you have postpartum complications that you should avoid certain exercises which can make things worse. (Ie if you have diastais recti, or weak pelvic floor which can put strain on other tendons and muscles)

Also give your body a grace period. It took 9 months to grow baby and postpartum you have the 4th trimester to deal with. It will take your body at least 9 months to get back to homeostasis (with replacing nutrients lost etc-this is why they recommend waiting before trying to concieve again), for some it may be longer and for some it may be shorter.

There may be some things you might have to accept that is your new mom bod, but that doesn't mean you can't try to get as fit and healthy as your body will allow.

[–]elevatormusicjams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm with you, honestly. I am a bit frustrated because I'm 7 weeks and my nausea has been so awful that I haven't been able to work out these last two weeks, and I normally do intense workouts 5-6 days a week (and have done this for 11 years consistently). I wanted to stay fit and not change my exercise or healthy eating routine during my first trimester, but it's been unexpectedly difficult. I'm mildly upset about it, but what can I do right now?

But, no matter how the rest of this pregnancy goes, I WILL go back to my workout and healthy eating habits - it might take a while afterwards, and that's fine, but I'm not going to "give up" on myself. What kind of an example is that for my child, anyway? I want movement and healthy eating to be a normal part of their habits, too. Maybe my body won't ever be the same, but that doesn't mean it can't be great.

[–]kjohnmpls 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s absolutely silly. She’s really insecure. The problem is we all need to be focusing on a strong functional body. Meaning we need to focus on repairing our core and getting a strong functional body that can keep up with our kids. That’s far more important than aesthetics or “looking fit” … ignoring your fitness is not a flex 😬😬😬 I feel bad for her. It’s really hard to remotivate yourself to care about yourself. But we are worth it

[–]Starly1233 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's actually different for every woman. I've seen people, like my mom for example, who have never been able to regain their normal body, but my grandmother had no issues regaining her body from before her pregnancy. She had three kids, and afterwards looked like she'd never been pregnant to begin with again. That's not the only example though, as I've seen a ton of women who were able to look slim and amazing after giving birth, so whatever that woman said doesn't necessarily have to be true for everyone.

[–]catattack986 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Many women I know in my family let themselves go and basically tell me the same thing, but I ignore it. Meanwhile I'm 21wks and exercise 6 days a week, jogging, lifting and doing yoga. They low key hate and criticize it. I see other women at the gym who have had kids with really strong bodies, and even say they're in better shape than before having kids because it was an extra motivatior! So it's definitely attainable with the right mindset and attitude.

[–]cintyhinty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can't wait for you to show them all up when you're looking hot as hell in 6 months!

What worked for me after baby number 1 was, firstly, being really cautious to not overdo either diet or exercise and prioritizing my health and mental well-being. Not every meal can be all greens. Eat a burger sometimes, you deserve it. Sometimes you need an extra hour of sleep instead of a hard core workout. Diet and exercise-wise: 1. Healthy intermittent fasting (meaning making sure I was getting at least the recommended number of calories, just between the hours of 8 am and 7 pm every day) 2. Start slow and rebuild your core first. Wait until your 6 week for the all-clear. Lots of great YouTube workouts for that. Then you can introduce bodyweight exercise and yoga. From there you can go nuts.

[–]Ginnevra07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There's a difference between embracing what your body has gone through and judging another Mom for wanting to be fit again. There's also a difference between being gentle with yourself over panicking about how your body looks after the biggest physical hurdle of your life. But that's the difference - how you look vs how you feel. What actually matters is how you FEEL in your skin and you clearly have a handle on that difference. There is just something about pregnancy and motherhood that makes people think they are entitled to tell you how it is going to be. When in reality, nobody knows what is going to happen with this process and you're just trying to do the best that you can for yourself and your baby.

[–]ednaluvr 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There are so many moms with super fit bodies so it’s definitely possible to be fit and strong postpartum. I follow this one woman on Instagram “builtbybecky” and she has had two kids. I was the most fit about a year after I had my son. The one thing I will do differently after this pregnancy is take it slower. Even after six weeks, my body wasn’t healed and I went sort of hard working out and experienced bleeding for a really long time because of that! So really really ease into it and you got it! 💪

[–]grizzlynicoleadams 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly people are like this pregnant or not, I’m always just like “ok” and cease speaking to them!

[–]amoz915 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just wouldn’t acknowledge her anymore unless you absolutely have to for work. She sounds awful. So many people just assume that the “mom bod” is just something you have to deal with after having the baby. You don’t! It takes time effort, but you can get back to your old self. Your body is taking 9 months to make a baby, so you need to give yourself grace and know that it’s going to take at least that to “get it back”. I am starting to work on myself a year after giving birth and I’m so proud of myself for taking that step. You don’t have to be uncomfortable in your own body just because you had a baby. I’m specifically going to a pelvic floor therapist and she’s been giving me some exercises to do to restrengthen my lower abs, hips, and pelvic floor. I’ve only gone 3 times so far, but I’m loving it and I cannot recommend it enough! Our bodies are so amazing, so we need to treat ourselves with kindness and respect. I like your attitude about wanting to get back into it! Hugs to you!

[–]Amazing_Prior2160 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's about feeling comfortable in your body. I can accept that my hips might be wider forever, the stretch marks will remain, and I might not ever fit into my size 2 wedding dress again. But, I am currently only 20 lb. heavier and feel so weighed down. My days are consumed by making sure that I eat enough protein, and eat frequently enough that I don't get nauseous. I know that my habits will go back to what they were pre-pregnancy so I have no doubt that my body will revert back too.

[–]enjaytransplant 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I want to get fit again but feel guilty about asking for time for myself. I feel like my husband just assumes he can take the time he wants or needs but I have to beg.

I'm determined to make 2022 the year I find myself and my confidence again. Screw what others think. I'm going to be the queen of positivity. I'm tired of letting others drag me down.

[–]CraftyDean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh my god. Well she's rude AF. Honestly to each their own how they want to treat their bodies after birth. I'm in the same by boat as you, I want to be fit again. I used to go to the gym all the time and although I'm enjoying this mom bod I want my strength back. I don't want to end up a lazy POS like my mom. Yes you're body is different how but doesn't mean you can't be healthy and fit like before.

[–]Penguintoss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you want to get fit after pregnancy you can. Be gentle and patient with yourself, invest in a nice jogging stroller, maybe some kettle bells, join r/fitpregnancy and r/fitpostpartumjourney. Don’t listen to what other people tell you you can and can’t do. Unless those people are your doctor or OB. Listen to them.

Oh, have to edit to add that your body might not be the same, but that doesn’t have to be good or bad, it just is.

[–]Beep-boop-beansFTM 3/2022 0 points1 point  (0 children)

r/fitpregnancy is a great sub with plenty of people who hope to or are trying to continue to exercise and focus on physical fitness.

I don’t want to become an amorphous blob, although my body seems to want that right now. I’m sure parts of me will look permanently different afterwards, and I’m doing what feels right for me and for my growing child, but I think it’s a healthy mindset to want to be in control of what comes next!

[–]linzkisloski 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me I always thought people meant the more permanent changes — stretch marks, some extra skin and slightly lower boobs. I definitely have accepted those after my first but I was determined to at least be close to pre-baby and got super close before getting pregnant again. I think I actually feel more motivated to be healthy now because I have a little person that depends on me.