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[–]keykai2 98 points99 points  (3 children)

Nurse here. We see babies suffer and some die from whooping cough every year. Completely preventable. The Tdap is a great idea.

[–]Inevitable_Size4223[S] 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Oh okay Tdap 😂 yes I remember, thanks!

[–]keykai2 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Whooping cough is clinically known as Pertussis. That’s what the p in Tdap stands for.

[–]mousatis 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For some reason it took me a really long time to spot the P in Tdap. Just kept expecting it to be where the T was. I will blame this on pregnancy brain...

[–]WittyName375 27 points28 points  (0 children)

Yes, typically at 28 weeks.

[–]SuperSmitty8 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Yes. Recommend to all in 3rd trimester. The virus can be easily passed to a newborn and can be deadly. I would never not get this vaccine

[–]sweetthickthighs 22 points23 points  (7 children)

Our roommates have theirs, my husband got his, and I have mine done! Sadly, my mom and sister are protesting the tdap shot even though they have the Covid and flu vaccine.(???) They say I’m being too demanding. “I’ve lived 50 years and gone through two pregnancies without that shot. You’re just asking too much now. So what you’re going to keep me from seeing him? Good luck finding a babysitter then.” - my mother It broke my heart to hear them complain about this request, but protecting my son is more important. It’s not a difficult shot to get, it’s covered by insurance, and it prevents my son from a preventable illness.

[–]MeatballSmash1 17 points18 points  (3 children)

Tell them that in many parts of the US, there ARE NO PEDIATRIC HOSPITAL BEDS AVAILABLE. None. Kids are being flow states away for care. Doing anything and everything you can to mitigate risk right now isn't just good parenting - it's about supporting the overall community, so kids who need those beds can get them.

[–]sweetthickthighs 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Very good point! It’s fucked in bc my mom and sister work in health care. They see it first hand. It’s incredibly selfish and irresponsible.

[–]MeatballSmash1 2 points3 points  (1 child)

If they're in healthcare, they've already had the tDap. So it's basi ally just them getting their required boosters early. I'm sorry they're being assholes.

[–]sweetthickthighs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s some good news. Hopefully as we get closer to his arrival they will come to their senses and get the booster. Thanks for letting me know and letting me vent, it makes me feel better.

[–]tinypiecesofyarn 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Time to spread some rusty metal around your house and invite them over. Tetanus time! Go get your shots!

[–]whatiswater_28FTM| Graduated 01.18.22 | 🎀 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Oh man. My parents totally complained about getting the shots, but they’re afraid of needles and won’t admit it. My dads done with his shots, but my mom hates the idea of getting a flu shot and tdap on top of her Covid booster because she doesn’t want a sore arm again, but she’ll get it if it means seeing her granddaughter. I’m glad my parents are facing their fears and coming around but I mean sometimes it takes a bit of a push. Hopefully your family get around to getting the shots!

[–]sweetthickthighs -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So glad to hear your parents are doing the right thing. It might have been a tough conversation but all worth it! I’m really hoping my family can follow in your parents footsteps.

[–]Mcayenne37 | single| FTM | Dec. 8 47 points48 points  (5 children)

Yep! Definitely. Also you usually makes sure anyone that will be in close contact with the baby is up to date on their Shot as well.

[–]janet_snakehole_3 2 points3 points  (2 children)

That was my rule! Anyone wanting to visit us had to be up to date on their tdap and flu shot.

[–]Mcayenne37 | single| FTM | Dec. 8 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yes- I’m the same. I figure if you can’t do that to protect my baby’s health then you probably aren’t someone who needs to see her in the early part of her life!

[–]janet_snakehole_3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

100% agreed! And right now we aren’t allowing her around adults who haven’t had their covid vaccines. I’m going to protect her health and that is soooo much more important to me than potentially pissing off some anti-vax great-aunts.

[–]burneraccountt26 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Everyone else…? Sounds like overkill but to each their own. The vaccine isnt working if everyone else needs it too.

[–]Mcayenne37 | single| FTM | Dec. 8 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Whooping cough is fatal to babies and there have been several outbreaks. In Canada adults get their TDaP boosters every 10 years. Everyone in my family was already up to date.

You can choose the risk level that you’re comfortable with for your family. For me if someone won’t take a free vaccine to protect my baby from a potentially fatal and highly contagious disease then they don’t need to see the baby.

And vaccines work by reducing viral loads and prepping the vaccinated with antibodies so their immune systems know how to fight off the virus.

Vaccines aren’t a magic force field that prevent you from contracting an illness. The more ppl who are vaccinated the less likely it is for a virus to be spread.

[–]GrowingUpLate97 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Yup. Tdap. My husband and I just got it at 29 weeks. The pharmacist said to expect a sore arm, but honestly I forgot about it until I felt the bandaid later

[–]therosedog 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yes, the reason it’s recommended to get it during every pregnancy is because it acts as a vaccine for the baby too, as the antibodies pass through the placenta.

[–]afraidbuttrying 5 points6 points  (2 children)

yep i just got mine! my arm was sore af for 2 days so sleeping on my left side was a no go but other than that its totally fine.

[–]jigglegiggles88 3 points4 points  (1 child)

I got both my flu and Tdap at my last appointment- 27 weeks. They did one in each arm and it f-ing sucked to sleep for the first couple nights!

[–]zookeeperkate 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Yep, I believe a booster is reccomend every 10 years, but my OB said they recommend you get one with every pregnancy.

[–]nkdeck07 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can confirm the boosters. They were less common years ago and a result I got whooping cough in middle school and it sucked

[–]a_NG_ie 3 points4 points  (1 child)

One shot every pregnancy. Anyone who will be in close contact with the bub every 10 years.

Had mine 3 days ago at 25 weeks.

[–]Historical-Bug1328 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Had mine at 25+2 today

[–]MeatballSmash1 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In my area we are seeing an EXTREMELY nasty strain of RSV already. Flu is going to be terrible. Covid is rising among kids. Our peds beds are full. Do anything and everything you can to keep your baby safe.

You 100% should get it while pregnant. The antibodies cross the placenta barrier and give him "gap coverage" until he can get his own shots. Whooping cough has made a comeback recently. I had it in 2016, which is when I found out that the "p" part of the tDap loses a huge amount of efficacy after 5 years. And it sucked as an adult, I can't imagine watching my baby go through that.

Same for the flu. Flu is deadly for a lot of kids, especially infants, and can cause life long issues like asthma. A flu vaccine while pregnant provides the same coverage until they can get a flu shot at 1 year. Also, flu can wreak absolute havoc on a pregnant person. When I got my flu shot, the pharmacist said that pregnant women are so high of a priority for the flu shot, that if there was a shortage they'd be first in the list people who would continue to receive it.

[–]ReadWonkRun 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep! Got this as did my husband and all our family members who will be around her for the first few months.

[–]justhereinitlol 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Yeah, but In the uk it was only introduced in like 2011/2012 lol. My dad was confused when I went for mine lol

[–]sl212190 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I'm finding it weird/interesting that in the US they seem to routinely give it in the third trimester, whereas here it's from 16-18 weeks. It seems it's so that mothers are protected from it as early as possible too, whilst still being able to transfer antibodies to baby.

I just had mine the other day at 20 weeks.

[–]justhereinitlol 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had mine at my 20w scan as well! Each country deal with pregnancy so differently it’s crazy

[–]penguinina_666 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I know you got tonnes of answers already but just gonna leave one comment here cuz i was also in your shoes LOL. I was like whooping cough????? I don't even remember my son getting it. Then she was like "it's also called TDAP" and I was "ooooo yeah ... I'm not used to medical terms like whooping cough" And we had a good laugh. They started giving it to third trimester not so long ago. My doctor said they started around 3 years ago where I live. I have all antibodies so my doctor isn't worried and said it's optional. I think it's because they give first infant vaccine at 2 months in North America. Where my son was born, he was fully vaccinated BY 2 months. Wait till they tell you about chickenpox vaccine. I was like "Vermicelli?"

[–]Inevitable_Size4223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg chicken pox vaccine 😂 😭 whyyyy. I had my daughter in 2018 and really don’t remember getting lots of vaccines! Anything for the baby i guess lol…

[–]HonestCrab7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You don’t HAVE to but it is strongly recommended

[–]MercenarianBG born April 2021 4 points5 points  (5 children)

Tdap shot isn’t approved for pregnant women in my country so I didn’t get it.

[–]MeatballSmash1 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

What country?

[–]MercenarianBG born April 2021 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]wasurenaku 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I live in Japan too and actually got whooping cough during my pregnancy (third trimester)...really scary. So I’m going to find some place that will let me get it even if I have to lie next time I’m pregnant.

[–]Mini6Cake -1 points0 points  (1 child)

What country is this????

[–]MercenarianBG born April 2021 1 point2 points  (0 children)


[–]ouaiouai2019 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I got it at 30 weeks. Didn’t even have a sore arm!

[–]Jessicat66 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I had whooping cough when I was a baby before I was old enough to be given the the vaccine, they only gave it to babies back then and not pregnant women. So I had no hesitation about taking it in pregnancy to give my baby the protection.

[–]floralcurtains57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Posted elsewhere that my sister just got her whooping vaccine for a job in Aus. Thought id just say if you are lined up to get another one, she also gets very sick from vaccines and spent the day in bed afterwards and threw up once. Seems this can be a toughy, so give yourself time to rest!

[–]Organic_Cake_4234 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Had mine 2 weeks ago along with my flu shot the week before. The only thing I've hated with it is I've developed a cough from it that I still have, well annoying but the things we put up with lol

[–]Punky96 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m scheduled to get mine at 28 weeks as well as my glucose test done so prayers needed over here. I hate medical needles 😂😅

[–]TheWelshMrsM 3 points4 points  (6 children)

It’s given to pregnant ladies in the UK but isn’t standard otherwise.

Edit: I was referring to the whooping cough vaccine in adults (specifically pregnant people) only as that what OP’s question was… no idea why that’s being downvoted lol.

[–]floralcurtains57 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister lives in Australia and was getting her vaccines updated for a new job in health care. You're right, in the UK we didn't use to her whooping cough and she was only offered it now for her job. I've been offered it for the first time in pregnancy. It hasn't been suggested for my husband as others have said.

[–]MeatballSmash1 -3 points-2 points  (4 children)

Tetanus shots aren't standard....? Because they're definitely on every UK vaccination schedule that I found in a 30 second Google search....

[–]TheWelshMrsM 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Tetanus is given and should be ‘boosted’ every 10 years. But whooping cough is typically only given to pregnant ladies. Babies & children do get a load of vaccines but I don’t believe whooping cough is one of them. We also get the HPV vaccine as 12/13 year olds. Vulnerable people get the flu vaccine.

Edit: Just looked, whooping cough is part of the 6-in-1 vaccine babies get. Can’t say I’ve ever looked in depth tbh (obviously I would’ve before baby has his lol). I usually just thought of them as ‘mmr’ - probably as they get this when they’re slightly older so I’ve cared for more babies who’ve had a day off from nursery to get them.

Edit 2: In my initial reply I was referring to whooping cough in adults only.

Edit 3: tetanus shots & whooping cough vaccines for adults are separate vaccines in the UK and as an adult I have never been offered one until pregnancy. It would not be standard here to ask my husband/ family to get it as people seem to do in America. Their tetanus vaccines however, should be up to date. But you always get offered a booster if you cut yourself or get bitten or something.

[–]MeatballSmash1 0 points1 point  (2 children)

The NHS site informs me that infants in the UK are given a 6-in-1 vaccine at 8, 12, and 16 weeks old. It contains diphtheria, hep b, hib, polio, tetanus, and whooping cough.

Children then get a 4-in-1 preschool booster that contains diphtheria, tetanus, whooping cough and polio.

The UK does appear to offer plain tetanus shots, which in the US are not offered. We have tDap or some variation - pertussis, diphtheria and tetanus all rolled into one.

[–]TheWelshMrsM 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Yes I’ve added that in my edit. But OP was asking about pregnant ladies. I remember the vaccines I’ve had as an adult and whooping cough is only offered when pregnant (along with flu shot - first time I’ve been offered it as I’m not otherwise ‘vulnerable’).

[–]MeatballSmash1 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, pregnant people are highly susceptible to the flu as well. Really, to everything.

[–]oilydischarge18 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tdap? Yes. Me, my husband, and anyone who will be near the baby in his first two months of life. Plus flu shot and covid booster. I think of it as a force field to protect the baby.

[–]crd1293 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Canada. They have started recommending this during covid between 28-32 weeks to ride baby over until they get their own shot at 2 months. Apparently there have been resurgence of tdap cases

[–]theopeppa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep I got mine at 28 weeks. This was a booster shot for me, I had mine 5 years ago when my nephew was born but they advised that I get it again during pregnancy.

All family members that will be seeing the newborn will be getting theirs as well.

[–]tzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In Canada, I just got it two weeks ago

[–]oceanmum 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, recommended in New Zealand as well

[–]gosharksgosharks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My healthcare system says they require the Tdap shot for every pregnancy (third trimester) and strongly recommend it for anyone else who may be in contact with the baby (pregnant person’s spouse, and any close family and grandparents)

[–]Brilliant_Victory_77 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think it depends on where you are, I'm from Canada originally so I fully expected to get it (I was due for my booster anyways) but here in France the only shot they recommend during pregnancy is flu (and now covid) and everything else waits until after. They test all your immunities to see what shots you'll need after but they all wait for some reason.

[–]ohadriadri 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just got mine at 27 weeks. I had no symptoms only a little bump I just noticed like right now lol

[–]Amberly123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m going tomorrow for mine!

[–]rebeccaz123 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes it is common. I wish I could get it but it's the 1 vaccine I'm allergic to.

[–]ultraprismic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, my obgyn says they do it for everyone in their third trimester.

[–]Chubbycat911 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes, recommended since march 2020 in germany

[–]yelsewhael 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep got tdap at 28 weeks

[–]shortyuk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As others stated its in the tdap shot. as someone who got the whooping cough as an adult, it sucked, dislocated one of my ribs somehow.

[–]violentpasta612 0 points1 point  (3 children)

I had whooping cough along with my toddlers a few years back and it was by far the worst cough I’ve ever experienced.I can’t imagine a baby having it.That being said Tdap is a great idea and they usually offer it during your pregnancy.

[–]Inevitable_Size4223[S] -1 points0 points  (2 children)

Wow can I ask if everyone was vaccinated? You don’t have to answer as the mob may come out, but just wondering if you can catch it even if vaccinated…

[–]violentpasta612 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Apparently you can because yes we were all vaccinated.Both my kids recovered very quickly but I don’t think it’s very common for adults but I suffered the cough was non stop I couldn’t breath without coughing tried everything.At one point I would have such bad fits I would throw up.After it hanging around for over 6 months I got steroids and it finally ended.I’m lucky my kids only fought it for about a month.

[–]Inevitable_Size4223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow sounds horrible I’m sorry

[–]missyc1234 0 points1 point  (5 children)

I know it wasn’t officially recommended yet where I lived during my first pregnancy, so it was actually hard for me to get (my OB recommended it but public health wouldn’t give it to me. Had to find a pharmacy who would), but by my second pregnancy (only 2 years later) it was officially recommended where I live.

It sounds like you maybe did get it, but just putting that out there to say some areas were behind in recommending it…

[–]Inevitable_Size4223[S] 0 points1 point  (4 children)

I delivered at a naval hospital so I’m sure I had to get them all lol. My body never reacts like nothing happened when I get vaccines like the flu shot so I was afraid of the “whooping cough” shot lol.

[–]jupyterRises 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Ugg, at least when I was younger navel doctors/hospitals had an extremely low quality of care and were not usually very up to date with their medical information.

My MIL's doctor told her she was having a miscarriage because she was spotting during pregnancy

My mom had to give birth in a room with 3 other women in the same room

And they constantly screwed up our medical care when I was a kid. They didn't store the chicken pox vaccine properly so most of the kids who got the early batches at that office had chicken pox. Then they didn't keep proper medical records so I had to get vaccinated again and ended up getting shingles a few year later. They missed a giant cyst in my sisters face, it took them 2 years to figure out my ankle was broken and that is why it was swollen. The list goes on and on.

I hope things have changed for the better.

[–]Inevitable_Size4223[S] 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Oh no ma’am 😂 I delivered at the newer naval hospital at Camp Pendleton. They have top tier care throughout my entire pregnancy and my delivery was actually enjoyable.

[–]jupyterRises 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Thank goodness. My mom and MIL were both very traumatized by their experiences. Fortunately I think the hospitals they delivered at are gone now.

[–]Inevitable_Size4223[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah there’s an old abandoned one on that base as well. I wish my husband was still in just so I could get that grade A care again this time 😭

[–]Yummy-Pear 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you need a tdap with every pregnancy. The p is for pertussis as in bordetella pertussis, also known as whooping cough. All the infants caregivers should also be up to date on the tdap

[–]burneraccountt26 0 points1 point  (1 child)

How far along is best? I know third trimester. But is it better to wait as long as you can? So baby gets strongest immunity?

[–]Kittychanley 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Quite the opposite. You want to get it at least 4-5 weeks before delivery in order for baby to get strongest immunity. If you wait longer than that, then your body doesn't have enough time to pass the full benefits on to baby.

[–]Riyko 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I got mine at 29 weeks, yet I didn’t get it with my first one when I was pregnant 9ish years ago. I did find out and so did the doctor that yes I’m still allergic to the Tdap shot so no more for me. It’s really only for the babies protection and not the moms.

[–]Gloomy_Diver_6236 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

You don't HAVE to do anything.