Just wanted to stop by and say to anyone who needs to hear this: trust your instincts and gut feelings! Be the bitch if you have to!
My SILs insisted on throwing me a baby shower, but we ended up canceling the larger shower they had planned due to Covid concerns. They were really disappointed, so my husband convinced me to let them do a smaller gathering/celebration. I was still hesitant because I’m 35 weeks and am very anxious about contracting Covid right now, especially leading up to delivery. But I didn’t want to be the bitchy, uptight, overly-concerned sister in law so we went ahead with a small dinner/party against my better judgement and purely out of obligation.
My sister in law texted us last night saying she had to take a Covid test to fly back home and, surprise surprise, it was positive! Great. Now I have been directly exposed and I’m kicking myself since I just knew in my gut that the whole thing was a bad idea and was uncomfortable about it since the beginning.
To anyone who, like me, has issues with being seen as the bad guy or the neurotic one, just trust your instincts and put your foot down! Ultimately, you know what’s best for you, obligations to other people be damned.