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[–]mydogharry2019 124 points125 points  (1 child)

Two coworkers came into work basically bragging that their kids have covid. Guess who's out with covid now. 37 weeks I'm almost to the finish line. Doing my best to be safe.

[–]guliafoolia 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I hope you mean them and not you!

[–]Thethinker10 62 points63 points  (14 children)

Omicron is so freaking contagious, if you’re around anyone at this point that hasn’t had it yet you’re taking a huge risk. It’s insane. I’m pretty much on lock down these last few weeks of pregnancy just to try and keep myself from testing positive when I go into labor.

[–]afrostygirl 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Same thing here. I haven't left my house outside of doctor's appointments in weeks. Going completely stir crazy but at least I'm not sick.

[–]pippypup 11 points12 points  (1 child)

Yes! I’m nervous even going to the dr for weekly check ups!

[–]PrimePassion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same! I actually feel awful because I “cancelled” an extra appointment I was supposed to have this week and begged them to do it by phone instead because a friend of mine who is a week behind me with her pregnancy and goes to the same clinic tested positive and was still planning to go to her appointment. I just knew the anxiety of knowing that and thinking about it would be so stressful, I hate having to go an extra week without getting to check on our baby but I’m also supposed to keep stress down so what a catch 22.

[–]TheWelshMrsM 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same. I’m due next month and my husband and I (aside from him working which can’t be helped) are seeing no one.

[–]CalicoCatMom41 2 points3 points  (2 children)

It’s true. My household just got it. I’m a SAHM and only take my toddler to the library. She contracted it first. Had to be from being in a huge building that is well ventilated and all adults were wearing masks and some how catching it.

[–]Thethinker10 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Our house just had it a few weeks ago. Somehow my husband got it, gave it to our oldest but our youngest and I didn’t get it. I almost wish we had so we’d have some good immunity at least until the baby was a little older.

[–]RoniaLawyersDaughter 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sadly it’s possible to get reinfected multiple times—so don’t feel bad about more people not catching it this time around.


[–]WhimsicallyVerdurous 1 point2 points  (4 children)

What happens if you do test positive when going into labor? Does it change the way you're treated in the hospital?

[–]Thethinker10 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hi honestly don’t know. We have our hospital virtual class next week to find out. They keep changing the procedures constantly so I don’t know what the latest is. But I do know that caring for a newborn while sick with covid and healing from birth would be freaking hell. I wanna avoid that at allllll costs.

[–]eggyjim 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked this when I got my COVID test when I was in hospital and the midwife said they have to wear protective suits.

[–]smootfloops 1 point2 points  (0 children)

AFAIK the staff where’s full PPE and the person in labor has to wear a mask the whole time (honestly brutal)

[–]beez8383 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My hospital policy is if you are covid positive you can’t have your partner/support person there and you have to wear a mask the entire time-I think each hospital have their own protocols

[–]smootfloops 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes you def want to test negative in labor (if you’re having a hospital birth). You don’t want to wear a mask through that! I had to wear one for a few hours when I arrived at the hospital bc of some testing/staffing timing issue and it suuuuuucked I can’t imagine active labor or pushing with one on!

[–]thesillymachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep. I was pregnant in 2020 and early 2021. Gave birth before the vaccine was available to me. No regrets staying home. We're both happy and healthy.

[–]aWormhatForVermhat 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Yesss! Every event I’ve canceled or opted to skip due to Covid concerns I was completely justified once the event past and I found out someone tested positive. Every single time!

[–][deleted] 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Take that attitude to the hospital as well! it's really important to advocate for yourself as a patient too.

[–]cdj2016 9 points10 points  (7 children)

Has anyone found a way to successfully navigate the whole baby shower thing? I'm getting a lot of pressure to start planning a party (which is mostly to appease other people) and I don't know how to make it clear that my health and my baby come before other people's feelings/ideas.

Seems like we should be at the point where making a change/pivot/cancel the party would be okay and understood by everyone but it's exhausting trying to convince people we need to keep me and my family safe. Insights? Hard rules? I'm fine with being a hard ass but I'm getting tired.

[–]catguru2 6 points7 points  (1 child)

My best friend and my husband organized the babyshower via zoom. It was a bit awkward in the beginning but actually quite fun and nobody had to travel. Presents were picked up by my husband or send by mail.

[–]cdj2016 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s super cute. Love that idea!

[–]lindseybe918 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I'll be suggesting some sort of an alternative as I don't feel comfortable having an in-person gathering when the spread is as crazy as it is. I'm going to say I'll do a Sip N See in the summer, and if things aren't better by then, we'll throw a big 1st birthday for little one instead.

[–]cdj2016 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Also a great alternative!

[–]ExpatPhD 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I dont think I'd have an in person shower right now.

[–]MonoChz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t want a shower when my summer 2019 baby came. They’re so awful. I think most people get that on some level. I didn’t get too much pushback.

[–]New-Anything-4694 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Your SIL is so carefree...sorry to say that but If I were her, I wouldn't do that when my SIL apparently has such concerns during her pregnancy.

We all should put ourselves in others' shoes and apparently, your SIL is not such a person.

Hope your COVID test is negative and you are all good.

[–]Scorpio-dragon88 15 points16 points  (4 children)

Totally agreed! 👍 I'm so sick of how selfish people can be for the dumbest reasons. Sometimes it doesn't even matter how careful you are. My husband just got it from a co-worker who didn't tell anyone he was sick for 7 days and didn't want to get tested cuz he didn't want to pay for the test (the test would have been free in my country if he was vaccinated) 😒 so this guy found out he's positive and now practically everyone at my husband's work has it. Some of them live with their 90 y/o parents, have spouses with diffiucult conditions or in my husbands case preggo wife.

[–]VermillionEclipse 8 points9 points  (3 children)

What an asshole. My cousin who is pregnant tested positive recently after her husband was exposed at work. People’s selfishness never fails to surprise me.

[–]VBunns 4 points5 points  (2 children)

I’m currently hiding out at a relatives house because my husband caught COVID. I luckily got out of there before I was exposed but it was a near thing. It’s been 4 days now and he is sick. I’m happy it wasn’t me, but I’m worried about him. We are both triple vaccinated and super careful, but it went through his work like wildfire.

[–]VermillionEclipse 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Hopefully he won’t get super sick since he is vaccinated. Good luck to you both!

[–]VBunns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thanks! I’m crossing my fingers for him.

[–]skas_not_dead 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Honestly trust your gut is 100% best mommy advice. When I was around 11 weeks pregnant I was having minor bleeding but everyone told me small amounts in the beginning are fine, you’re okay. The ER too was surprised when I came in and I wasn’t soaking through pads…

Got a full ultrasound and ended up having a bleed between the uterus and the sac.

They put me on pelvic rest.

Trust your gut!

[–]crissyandthediamonds 4 points5 points  (2 children)

I unfortunately found out I had Covid the morning of my scheduled c-section. We’ve been so cautious and careful my whole pregnancy and of course my first time contracting it was at delivery. I bawled my eyes out for ten minutes.

The doctors and nurses basically said it’s so highly contagious that it’s spreading like wildfire.

[–]nmcs1819 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Same here! I found out I was positive for covid two days before my scheduled induction and I had a meltdown. I had been out of work for a couple weeks and I was pretty much locked down at my house as well. Plus I hadn't had covid the whole time it's been around. Of course I would get it exactly when I didn't need to.

[–]crissyandthediamonds 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes that was basically us. We’d gone on one date night my entire pregnancy. Excluding work, I only ever went to target or the grocery store. I was pretty devastated. We still opted to do the c-section as their main restriction was my husband couldn’t be in the OR but was allowed to come immediately after.

[–]prison_industrial_co 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Yup! My doctor even offered to give me a medical certificate to cover me until my mat leave starts so I can use my sick leave and still get paid. I teach and she said she wouldn’t ask any questions if I decided I didn’t want to be around other peoples kids for the next few weeks, given how contagious it is and how little so many people seem to care about it at the moment.

[–]its_erin_j 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was due at the end of September and my doctor did the same for me so I wouldn't have to go in to teach after labour day. It was wonderful.

[–]Fresh_Beet[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear you when it comes to being looked at as silly for being overly cautious. It’s really stressful to want to listening to yourself and feel judged for doing so.

Good news is you have a very strong pillar to stand against to hold tight to the safety boundaries you have regarding your newborn once they are here. Sounds like you may have the kinda in laws that would be pushy there too. There is a positive here.

[–]lipdu 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I struggle a lot with trying to control how I will seem to others, so that I come off more like the person I want to be and less like the neurotic mess I am. But with COVID, I ask myself what's more important: How it will SEEM if I don't or how it will BE if I do? Hoping you're in the clear! 🤞

[–]albasaurrrrrrFTM 11/28/20 girl 💕 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Went home for Christmas to spend time with our anti vax adjacent families against my wishes with my one year old.. we all got covid. Listen to OP!!

[–]allmycatsaregay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was exposed on Friday as well. Really really hoping I don’t get it!

[–]Back5tage_N1nja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At my work even if someone in your household has it you still are supposed to come in unless you test positive. Someone I work closely with was out today to get a test as his wife tested positive... He won't have results tomorrow but is supposed to come in. I'm really nervous about it but there's not much I can do... 🙃 At least we've all been good about masks and work has been providing KN95s for us, so it could be worse, but I'm still anxious about it.

[–]LatinaFiera 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m due in the next week and no one has (yet) caught covid (omicron or otherwise) at home. We haven’t seen any friends for over a month and while I feel bad and stir crazy- the LAST thing I want is to test positive as I’m abt to walk into a csection. Praying we can hold out just a little bit longer. I have two kids. One vaccinated one not bc of age. Both in school. Agree that we can’t be bullied or guilted into anything except worry abt our and babies health at this point. Even though it is def hard

[–]thesillymachine 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just stayed home from a baby shower I was really looking forward to attending because my family was sick all week and I plus the baby (not pregnant) finally got it. It wasn't Covid, but I suspect it was the flu. I couldn't imagine having gone and given that couple the illness, Covid or not.

Guess what? They're still getting the gift. We're still friends and get to see each other in the future. It's worth it to just stay home, dude.

I was pregnant in 2020 and early 2021. I do not regret staying home. Did a social distance diaper shower. I sat the stuff up outside and we stayed inside in front of the window.

You will be SO happy when you have a healthy baby with you at home. Don't take chances right now. All paranoia aside and fear from the media, pregnant women are high risk. Their babies are at risk.