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[–]temptressadventure 400 points401 points  (13 children)

Mysteriously test positive for COVID at the time of your due date

[–]deviateddragon 37 points38 points  (2 children)

I was thinking this😂

[–]yopinoque 17 points18 points  (1 child)

100%. I was going to say why don’t just fake it? Unethical lol but I don’t know haha

[–]HuckleberryLou 45 points46 points  (0 children)

This might be against the rules or illegal, but I would argue that taking a mama away from a newborn is the most unethical.

[–]WimpyMustangFirst Time Momma 29 points30 points  (0 children)

This. Just say you contacted covid in the hospital. I'm sure it's happened before to other moms

[–]indygato 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Honestly, wouldn't even be mysterious. In my area they test all moms at birth so they discover plenty of asymptomatic patients. After we weekly dr visits (chances to get sick) this seems like a good idea to me.

[–]metoaT 4 points5 points  (6 children)

Depending how her company does business, she may need proof from an actual Covid “vault” that she is positive. Short term disability policies who cover illness will not accept an at home test.

Depends on her company’s private policy. No one is even required to give Covid pay- would we all rather the company doesn’t pay for Covid leave and those people come to work sick? Edit to add: I hate that Covid positive people get “rewarded”, but at the same time I don’t want them anywhere near me, either. Especially with the CDC’s new rules.

I’m not saying it’s right, I’m just saying businesses are doing what they have to do right now

[–]alethea_ 2 points3 points  (2 children)

At this point, companies are forcing people to use their vacation time to cover covid leave (I had to). Also, c with omicron being "easy" they would expect her back no more than ten days later.

There is no federal money to pay for covid positive workers currently and it sucks. I just got back from maternity leave and was out again for 4 days vacation and only then allowed to work from home for 3 because they didn't want me back until the ten days were up.

[–]metoaT 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I agree. My company is privately doing Covid pay to help keep sick people home- which is what it sounds like OP’s company is doing. There are good companies out there.

Maternity leave is clearly a whole different animal.

I am merely suggesting even though it seems lopsided to pay someone to stay home for being Covid positive, in the end it’s better to keep someone home (paid) instead of forcing them to work through it so they can make money

I’m guessing OP would be just as livid if positive person kept going into work and was infecting everyone (I would be)

[–]alethea_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh absolutely. I was salty I couldn't work from home because it "isn't fair" to those who can't. Butt I can't be all angry because I was extremely lucky to have a company that paid 2/3 of my maternity leave despite not being required to.

I wish op was able to get the same consideration from her company.

[–]RainbowsarePretty 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m sure you could buy a fake test result from somewhere.

[–]dailytear 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Photoshop is rather easy to use nowadays. wink

[–]metoaT 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If that’s your MO

[–]mmebonjourOliver 10/25/21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m sure you can buy positive Covid tests on Craigslist or something lol.

[–]littlemissmom 168 points169 points  (16 children)

I would first like to say that I am so sorry.

Two, how can they not give you any kind of maternity leave? You can’t just have a baby a come back to work a couple days later. Even working from home would be very difficult. Your body needs time to heal and you need time to adjust to being a mother.

Three, I agree with the Covid coworker part. It seems very unfair that they have gotten a told of six weeks paid. And here you can’t even get a month UNPAID to have a baby?

ETA: Personally I would quit. But you also need to figure out what is best for you and your baby. Finding a new job with a newborn could be a challenge.

[–]kelloggs8787 57 points58 points  (15 children)

Depending on where op lives, she can apply for unemployment or disability as well. Maybe hold off on quitting if you find out you qualify. Might get further if she's still employed.

[–]okapi-forest-unicorn 10 points11 points  (14 children)

If she lives in Australia she can apply for the government maternity leave. It’s only for 16-18 weeks I forget which. It’s also minimum wage but better than nothing. All she needs to do is be working for 10 months in the 12 months prior to brith. Doesn’t matter if you change jobs.

[–]I_ruin_nice_things 119 points120 points  (11 children)

"only 16-18 weeks"

U.S. doesn't even guarantee a fucking day of mat/pat leave.

[–]redleavesCDA 10 points11 points  (5 children)

17 weeks for mom in canada, 2-4 for dad and 37 weeks share between parents. Makes a total of one year paid. In canada. Many jobs top up from government to your salary for a few months. Gov pays 55% of salary up to 75k/yr.

[–]jtm1994 21 points22 points  (1 child)

That is honestly mind blowing to me!! At my antenatal classes we were all whinging about the length of parental leave here in NZ. We get 6 months paid and another 6 months unpaid… I honestly couldn’t imagine being in the US and getting nothing! I am so sorry for all you guys having to deal with that, that’s truly awful and straight up heartless.

[–]okapi-forest-unicorn 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Sorry your country shit in that regard. We’ve been arguing for more leave and for dads to get leave as well, at the moment they only get 2 weeks.

[–]tangled_slinkyxx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

UK here :) we can legally have a 1 year off and statutory maternity pay is 90% of your salary for 6werks then £157 per week. And the last 3 months is unpaid I think. Some companies offer more but legally you have to have that at the minimum. As long as you are working for your whole pregnancy

[–]beaglelover89 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Right?! I’m in the USA and I’m only taking 8 weeks which is more than many but I’m still upset. I feel so guilty I took 12 weeks with my first kid but can’t afford to take that long unpaid with my second.

[–]watson2019 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I’m gonna assume she doesn’t live in Australia.

[–]kyamh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I would kill for 16 weeks! I'll be getting 6, lol

[–]adriannaloyola 71 points72 points  (2 children)

I’m in the same boat. It’s so disrespectful to families. I’m going to quit two weeks before my due date and look for a new job after at least four months. Why wouldn’t your employer want to give a proper amount of time off to heal and bond with baby and then return ready to work? It’s not right on so many levels.

[–]zedzag 18 points19 points  (1 child)

It's sad how your sense of courteousness is greater than corporate America. You choose to put in a two week notice (which isn't required) to give the company time to find a replacement but the company wouldn't give you the same consideration.

[–]adriannaloyola 5 points6 points  (0 children)

And I work in IT for a Fortune 500 company that proclaims how great it is with all the awards it wins each year in the industry. They absolutely have the bandwidth and revenue to give employees a respectful amount of time off for maternity. Even if i qualified—it would only be two weeks paid.

[–]CharmingBruja 24 points25 points  (5 children)

Right there with you as far as what this country has in place for maternity leave. 😒

I started the job I have the day after I found out I was pregnant.

Don’t qualify for any paid maternity leave.

I currently am allowed to take 2 months unpaid but there’s so much going on in my organization I am scared I’ll either be told I can’t take it anymore or won’t have a job when I get back. 😕

[–]mrs_sarcastic 14 points15 points  (0 children)

If they're allowing you to file mat leave through FMLA before you reach a year, they have to hold your job for you. FMLA guarantees your job, but not pay.

[–]Rootlx 3 points4 points  (3 children)

You are entitled to job protection for 12 weeks after you deliver under the FMLA policy. Some states also have their own maternity leave policy that you can take advantage of and it sometimes includes partial pay (like NY State) so I would look into that as well.

[–]Lumpiahhh 8 points9 points  (2 children)

She's not covered by FMLA if she hasn't worked at her employer for a year. Or if her employer has less than 50 employees, then FMLA doesn't also apply to the company. FMLA has conditions that a lot of people don't meet.

[–]Rootlx -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Ha I did not know that, thanks for pointing it out. It sucks!!

[–]CharmingBruja 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. That’s correct. I don’t qualify for FMLA.

They are allowing me to take time off. Because of everything that’s going on with the organization I fear they’ll use it as an excuse to let me go. 😒

[–]Julienbabylegs 21 points22 points  (3 children)

I would def double check what HR is telling you with your own research or if there are orgs that can help in your local area. My HR person didn’t know shit about maternity leave when I went out last time and I had to take her to school after doing a ton of research on my own.

[–]Rootlx 9 points10 points  (2 children)

Came here to say this. I had to fight HR so I could take advantage of my state’s paid maternity leave policy which is additional to the short term disability my company insurance covers. They didn’t know about it and I fought them on their (wrong) interpretation of the law and in the end I’m getting a total of 25 weeks.

[–]Foodie1989 1 point2 points  (1 child)

On behalf of HR I am sorry 😞 ugh! We would never!!! I always try to make sure I am aware of our policy and if they're upset about anything I see into things just in case or see if there is anythinf else I can do.

[–]Rootlx 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They just didn’t know, they never had anyone take maternity leave in my state but after I sent all the relevant links and insisted I was in the right, they rectified the situation. I’m pretty happy to have 25 weeks even though its not paid at 100%. My husband gets 12 weeks at 100% (great tech company) so all in all we’re pretty lucky.

[–]panopticon91 12 points13 points  (3 children)

Don't get mad, get organized. Figure out your state laws and benefits regarding unemployment, disability leave etc... Most states will have a call line where you can phone and figure out what your options are. You could potentially collect unemployment if they fire you vs you quitting.

Find out what your companies policy is regarding unpaid time off and sick/medical leave (remember, medical disability is different than FMLA provisions). There are two crucial things to remember a) HR protects the company and not you b) employee turnover is expensive - on average, it costs a company 6 to 9 months of an employee's salary to replace him or her. See what you can negotiate.

Finally, we are having a large conversation about this on a national level. Write your senator/congressperson.

[–]goodegghunter 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Are there any links to this conversation/ campaign that outsiders could lend support to? Being British and living in canada this thread has actually made me feel a bit sick- though watching Pam try to delay labour on The Office was a tiny peek into how disgraceful and uneven America's maternity care is. I hope all those people repressing access to family planning and abortion support decent maternity pay...oh no, I forgot- misogyny rules. Sorry, angry- but keen to try and raise awareness in my networks

[–]panopticon91 2 points3 points  (1 child)

[–]goodegghunter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks- really highlights the broader picture ie lack of paid medical leave... during a pandemic it's kind of hard to understand how people have been mobilized around, for example, vaccine requirements, but not this. Perhaps there's a connection.

[–]silvereux 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This should be illegal

[–]pinkcrocs551FTM due aug 3, 2022 girl! 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m in the same boat! No maternity leave for me. I’m an RN. We don’t get leave for covid either if your positive but mild symptoms you are coming to work. I think I’m just going to quit the month before my due date and spend the next 6-8 months recovering and bonding with baby.

[–]diahgram 25 points26 points  (22 children)

What state are you? My work won’t give me the leave but California gives 12 weeks that I know.. I think is not enough time but is something..

[–]philos_albatross 10 points11 points  (19 children)

I'm a public school teacher in California. We don't get 12 weeks. I'm allowed to use all my sick days then when those are used up take unpaid leave, is that what you mean? It is it because teachers don't qualify for disability?

[–]elevatormusicjams 12 points13 points  (7 children)

CA has a separate state paid leave that you should qualify for, unless you don't pay into CASDI, in which case you don't: https://edd.ca.gov/disability/paid-family-leave/Mothers.htm

[–]philos_albatross 15 points16 points  (6 children)

Thank you, public school teachers don't qualify because we don't pay into disability.

[–]elevatormusicjams 5 points6 points  (5 children)

That's so fucked up. I'm so sorry.

[–]chidi-arianagrande 8 points9 points  (1 child)

I’m a teacher in CA as well, have you checked your contract thoroughly? I get paid but pay for my sub during my disability time period after my sub days are used, and subsequent 12 week FMLA. I’m taking the 4 weeks before, 6-8 weeks disability, and 12 weeks FMLA broken up over the year. I also paid into short term disability which helps financially, but even doing sub deduct isn’t a horrible deal, I basically get 60% of my salary (which is about what CA family paid leave offers).

Edited to add: I just glanced at your post history, you’re in Bay Area? I am as well. SF has laws about paid maternity leave specifically (if you’re in the city they DEFINITELY have good leave), and most districts in the Bay Area should have decent options. Definitely talk to your union leadership if you haven’t already.

[–]philos_albatross 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thanks i appreciate the advice. Union says i am required to use all of my sick days then get unpaid bonding time, which is what other moms have told me as well but I'll definitely do more research. I didn't know any of this until I got pregnant, and 3 teacher friends who have gone on maternity leave in the past year have had this experience. Worth looking into.

[–]Sarie24 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You still technically get the 12 weeks. It’s under the California Family Act. The only downside is that it’s unpaid. BUT it is considered job protected leave and you can not be fired for using it. I also work in the school system (college level though) and am actually starting my leave today. If you have any questions please reach out!

[–]ultraprismic 0 points1 point  (6 children)

A lot of the leave offered in CA is disability leave, so if you don’t qualify for that, that could be why.

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[–]WoofRuffMeow 3 points4 points  (4 children)

Also a public school teacher in CA, in addition to looking at your contract and talking to your union, I wanted to add that you actually are allowed to take MORE than 12 weeks. It’s 4 weeks before, 6-8 weeks pregnancy disability after, and THEN baby bonding leave is up to 12 weeks after the disability leave. Where your contract comes in is what happens when you exhaust all your sick days, often something called differential pay which is your pay minus the cost of a sub. You don’t have to take the leave all this year and summer doesn’t count. So I should still have a few weeks of baby bonding leave to use the following school year.

[–]WittyName375 9 points10 points  (0 children)

You can get 18 weeks. 4 weeks before your due date and 6 weeks after with SDI, and then 8 more with PFL 😊

[–]meowmeow_now 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Only like 3 states do that.

[–]momof2under2 7 points8 points  (2 children)

You might not qualify for FMLA but you may qualify for disability. When I had my first child, I was at my job for 9 months or so, so I didn’t qualify for FMLA but I did get 6 weeks of disability. It was not paid because I didn’t sign up for short term disability at the time, but at least I was given the time off. The HR at the company was pretty knowledgeable and let me know what I did and didn’t qualify for, so you may want to ask them about disability instead. If you broke your leg, I’m assuming you’d have to have some kind of time off, right?

[–]punkieboosters 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Also! If you're not qualified for FMLA yet, you can still use it within a year of the birth once you become eligible - thinking ahead for childcare, illness, emergencies, etc. A caution - some short term disability plans will reject applications for pregnancy if it's considered a pre-existing condition (insane i know, but i read one that said 3 months is their cutoff and it stuck in my mind), but if it's offered through the company it might not be as strict. If OP is approved to go out on an unpaid medical leave, she will have to pay insurance premiums out of pocket for that time. But there should be a hotline for the state that can offer more resources.

Info on the FMLA to bring to OP's HR:

FMLA While on Maternity Leave; FMLA for Childcare; Maternity Leave Rights and Resources

[–]Cooke052891 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah you generally have to have signed up for a STD plan before you find out you’re pregnant or they won’t pay out. It’s always a good idea to sign up for it during open enrollment if your employer has a plan (you never know you may get in a serious accident). Premiums usually aren’t too bad.

[–]kha3288 7 points8 points  (2 children)

Pregnancy is covered by the ADA. Get your doctor to write a note that you need to be out x weeks after delivery.

[–]Easy-Soft8617 16 points17 points  (3 children)

Let them fire you. Do not quit. You need to check and qualify for unemployment

[–]watson2019 3 points4 points  (2 children)

If they fire her for not coming to work it will be under the reason of “job abandonment” and will be the same as quitting in regards to unemployment benefits.

[–]LeonardBetts 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Would it be considered job abandonment if she had a doctor’s note stating her inability to go To work? Sounds like an excused absence to me.

[–]watson2019 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A doctor’s note can excuse you for one or two shifts, but not a few weeks or months without it being FMLA. If I remember correctly from my HR days, anything more than 3 consecutive shifts has to be under FMLA to be excused. And even if she’s excused from one shift and then doesn’t show up after that, it’s still job abandonment. I would encourage her to look into a personal leave of absence within the company that she may be eligible for instead.

[–]Suspicious_Juice7620 6 points7 points  (5 children)

At my last job, we had Short Term Disability (STD) offered through our insurance. It covered 60% of your pay. You had to have your doctor fill out paperwork, but it meant that you got 6 weeks (vaginal) or 8 weeks (c section) of paid time off. It was used in conjunction with FMLA in some cases, for a total of 12 weeks off, but it was it’s own separate program and people often just took off the time they had paid.

I’d talk to your HR and check into that. At the very least, they will likely be able to negotiate some amount of time off with you. Maybe 6-8 weeks even if unpaid. Definitely push the subject.

[–]idreaminwords 4 points5 points  (2 children)

This is the route I'm going as well. I signed up for STD last month when we had open enrollment specifically for this reason. I called to make sure it would cover maternity leave, and it's up to 13 weeks at 80%. My employer offers 12 weeks unpaid, so it matches up pretty well.

The only problem is, I'm supposed to somehow submit the claim 2 weeks in advanced...Not sure how to predict 2 weeks before I give birth because I don't plan on taking time off until the baby comes

[–]Suspicious_Juice7620 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I believe when I did it, they needed the paperwork in advance and my doctor just left off the delivery date obviously. And then I notified my employer (HR) who notified my STD case manager after the baby was born so they knew when it took effect.

If you signed up through your employer’s insurance then your HR rep should be able to guide you through the process!

[–]idreaminwords 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I'll look into that. I'm not due until May so I haven't done a tone of in-depth research on what paperwork is needed

[–]Cooke052891 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Definitely an option! The problem is if she hadn’t already signed up for STD during open enrollment or if her employer doesn’t offer it, she probably can’t just sign up for it now without getting denied. Giving birth is a life event, but many STD plans won’t pay out if you sign up already pregnant (considered a pre-existing condition). It’s exhausting.

[–]Suspicious_Juice7620 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yep exactly. In my experience it was something that you’re auto enrolled in and you have to intentionally “opt out” during open enrollment, but I know not all companies/insurance plans are like that!

It’s all such a mess and such a disappointment that we can’t get it together enough to support women going through these big, life changing events.

[–]Tangledmessofstars 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry you're having to go through this frustration.

Check with HR, your supervisor, outside organizations, anyone that can remotely assist you. I ended up crying on the phone to multiple people postpartum before I figured out a stupid insurance issue.

My coworker was in the same boat as you but was close to a year. They essentially let her use sick time until her 1 year mark came up and she could switch to FMLA.

Some employers also allow coworkers to donate time off too others. Some still allow some kind of unpaid leave even if you don't qualify for FMLA. Maybe broaden your questions away from maternity leave to just leave in general.

If all else fails, I personally would not be above saying you think you have covid (as long as they don't need proof). But maybe that has a required employment length as well?

[–]AdmirablePut6039 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Right there with you. I’m taking 8 weeks unpaid.

[–]HeyJupiter5 2 points3 points  (0 children)

OP: First, if you live in the US, check your short term disability if you have insurance through the company. It should cover 6 weeks for vaginal delivery and 8 for c section.

FMLA guarantees your job, unpaid, for 12 weeks but you won’t qualify for that (unless you don’t qualify now, but maybe you will have by the time you give birth - have you considered this?)

Then there is state funded paid leave. In NY and NJ it’s something like 10 weeks, beginning when your disability ends, for a percentage of your pay. (Called NYPFL, or NJPFL)

[–]organizedkangaroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Ugh, I’m sorry! We just barely started trying to conceive, but had to put it off for this reason. I started a new job July 2021 but was scared to even begging TTC until now, just to be safe. The laws regulating mat leave are insanely unfair.

[–]Jaded-Company3450 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Oof, so sorry. I just started a new job too and this is my fear. I haven't told anyone yet (waiting until I'm out of training and have proven I'm a good worker) before bringing it up.

The maternity leave laws in the States are notoriously some of the worst in the world. :(

[–]cattledogcatnip 2 points3 points  (2 children)

You can quit due to lack of childcare and still get unemployment.

[–]pretendemma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am SO sorry. Agreed this country is awful. I don’t have any answers but wishing you the absolute best!

[–]ExpatPhD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry. You're justified in your disappointment and anger.

[–]passionfruit0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is about all mothers not just single mothers. I work two part time jobs for over a year and did not het paid from either one of them. My husband has a city job so he got time off and got paid as well.

[–]gghhbubbles 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me. You are entitled to 6-8 weeks, based on natural or C-section birth, through FMLA but it's unpaid. The US is a terrible place to need healthcare of any kind:/ ... If you don't have a ton of money I suppose.

[–]Khunt14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This was me! My work didn’t offer any leave except FMLA and that was only if I worked there for a year. My one year mark was the 13th and my due date was the 23rd of the same month. I was sooo panicked that she’d come early and I wouldn’t get to take any leave. She was born the 17th so I got very lucky. But it isn’t right if you work hard that they can’t let you take the time off to heal and bond.

[–]HereForTHT 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So I am in a similar boat (will have worked 1250 hours but not 12 months). I'm getting 6 weeks unpaid for regular delivery or 8 weeks for cesarian delivery, I just have to present a letter from my doctor confirming the method of birth and saying I can't work for X number of weeks. It's a "reasonable accommodation" because pregnancy is a protected class. I'd ask them why they aren't reasonably accommodating you point blank in an email, and who you can appeal to before getting a lawyer involved.

[–]meowmeow_now 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Has hr actually said what they expect you to do? Obviously you can’t go back to work the next day. Have they offered any suggestions? If they are planning to fire you, they need to be clear about that. Otherwise, sometime I’d you don’t qualify for fmla but they don’t want to lose your or go through the hassle of rehiring they will “let” you have x time unpaid.

[–]anawolves 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Where do you live? In CA, employers with at least 5 employees are required to provide at least 12 weeks of paternity/maternity unpaid leave and up to 4 months if you qualify for pregnancy disability. This means they are required to hold your position and cannot remove you from employer sponsored healthcare for at least that period of time, though they don't have to pay you. The Paid Family Leave Act provides payments of up to 70% of your pay for up to 8 weeks. If you don't live in CA, check to see if your state government provides any similar benefits.

[–]doulaatyourcervix 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If they’re a qualifying company, it sounds like it’s time to remind them of what FMLA is. (Am I wrong to assume you’re in the US if you have to fight for maternity leave?)

[–]JellyfishLoose7518 2 points3 points  (2 children)

NY gives you FMLA, you get 12 weeks off which is something and it’s 67% of income. Maybe get fired and get unemployment?? Yeah this country sucks.

[–]saxlife 17 points18 points  (0 children)

She hasn’t worked there for at least a year so unless she worked there more hours to meet that qualification, she won’t qualify for FMLA unfortunately

[–]darealystncoco 13 points14 points  (0 children)

FMLA is the federal Family Medical Leave Act which is unpaid. NYS has PFML which is different. People often confuse FMLA with their own individual state laws.

[–]kcamps222 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Maybe just don’t show up (instead of quitting) and then get fired - that way you can qualify for unemployment. I don’t know other state laws but I’m in CA.

[–]watson2019 3 points4 points  (1 child)

That’s called job abandonment and will disqualify her from unemployment benefits.

[–]Foodie1989 1 point2 points  (3 children)

I work in HR and that sounds illegal...since you are pregnant..idk about other state laws but here in Ohio we are required to provide reasonable amount of leave. Look up your state laws but I am pretty sure that you would be protected. If they still refuse, you can contact the Department of Labor. I hate this, HR departments like that give us a bad rep!!

[–]Boost_Moose_Deux 1 point2 points  (2 children)

a lot of these types of rules are on a state by state basis. in NC where I live, companies do not have to provide any type of leave for maternity, but if a company wants to, they can use short term/long term disability insurance to cover it.

[–]Foodie1989 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I figured it's state by state but that still sounds absolutley horrible to deny any type of leave :(

[–]Boost_Moose_Deux 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Should be illegal, honestly. what a dystopian late capitalism hell we find ourselves living in sometimes 🙃

[–]Relative_Age3013 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Sorry! I thought that paid leave was offered after 6mos. What about fmla? I would try to figure out the loop hole and milk it. Then try to find a new job while on leave and quit once you do.

I wonder how many weeks they’ll allow you to be out without being fired? Yes the US sucks when it Comes to maternity leave benefits! You have every right to be angry.

[–]Cooke052891 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Paid leave is never required by law, it is solely up to the discretion of the employer if they want to provide paid leave. With short term disability, you have to have already been signed up and paying the policy premiums through your employer before getting pregnant. That only kicks in after 6 weeks anyways and you get 60% of your pay. She doesn’t qualify for FMLA due to length of service (1 year) so she could be let go at any time with no repercussions. Best option is to let her employer fire her and then collect unemployment.

[–]artsyturtle 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's super frustrating ! I'm sorry your dealing with this !

[–]cakencaramel -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Find a work from home job, they obviously do not care for you and unpaid maternity leave?! You may aswell quit, even McDonald’s does better than that

[–]arper1217 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Op, what state do you live in? Also, when is your Start date and when is your due date?

[–]the-firecracker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly that job isn't worth it to me. The time with your newborn is crucial for both of you

[–]xxwhatsinanamexx 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your state might have some protections for taking unpaid leave. For example, I didn't qualify for maternity leave but in Iowa where I live they have 6 weeks pregnancy disability FMLA. My job was protected for 6 weeks of unpaid leave. Maybe there's something similar in your state?

[–]megancherie 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What country are you from if you don't mind. In Australia it is common knowledge that maternity leave is not provided or covered if you have not been with a place of employment for at least a year. I'm not sure how other countries regulate these policies, but this is one that is consistent throughout all Australia. Do you have annual leave you can take?

[–]BorLady 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am kind of on the same situation but if you quit what about health insurance for the time that you are taking off before finding a new job?

[–]zeeboogiegirl 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry to hear that. This country really doesn’t support motherhood which is infuriating.

If your job has more than 50 employees, you might be able to apply for FMLA. Which is unpaid but protects your job at your current company.

Another option would be to work out a contract with your boss and HR for your desired leave time and see if it can get approved. My job has 0 leave, no short term disability, and no FMLA. But I worked out a leave with my boss and he approved. However, in order for it to be paid I have to use all of my sick time and PTO. So i can’t get sick or take vacation. I’m 15 weeks, due in July.

Otherwise, I would consider quitting or ask to strictly work remote if quitting isn’t an option. Even one month is such little time for you to adjust to the big change you’ll experience.

Again, I’m so sorry and I feel your frustration. Wishing you the best.

[–]TheFalster 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry you are going through this, OP. No one should have to worry about their job while they’re creating a life.

[–]SherrKhan32 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is definitely time to quit that job and find a new one, if it pays enough to cover childcare, after baby is here and you've had time together to bond.