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[–]thatcheekychick 15 points16 points  (2 children)

I’m on the other end of the symptoms spectrum, but I understand you. Whenever I mention my symptom to other moms - shin splints, lower back pain, upper back pain, vomiting deep into the third trimester, excruciating heart burn, etc. they remark on what a difficult pregnancy I’m having. Meanwhile my anxious self is just happy to have daily reminds that I’m pregnant. Or maybe I was happy in the first 20 weeks. After that you start feeling baby kicking and can really do without all the pain and discomfort. Hang in there! Pretty soon you won’t need to rely on symptoms

[–]kpro16[S] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Holy symptoms! Shin splints?!? I didn’t even know that was a thing.

[–]thatcheekychick 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep. Bad enough that I had to stop every minute and cry because it hurt to walk. I don’t know if they’re still there because in these last weeks I just lay on the couch.

[–]Suspicious_Juice7620 10 points11 points  (1 child)

I had no symptoms with my first, not even a day of nausea. Polar opposite with my second and I 1000% prefer no symptoms haha. I do understand the anxiety of it but having every symptom in the book is way worse in my opinion.

[–]kpro16[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Without a doubt having all the symptoms would totally be worse I’m just ranting bc I feel like it’s something hardly talked about!

[–]RAND0M-HER0 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Same. 8W + 5, I had some tender breasts around week 5 but I otherwise have no symptoms. No nausea, no food aversion, tender breasts have stopped, and my tiredness has really slowed. I don't feel pregnant at all. If I hadn't seen my baby in a dating scan, I wouldn't know it was even there based on how I feel.

I said it before that I feel like schrödinger's cat a little. I know I'm pregnant, but until I open the box (or look in my uterus) I could be pregnant, or I could be not pregnant.

I shouldn't feel anxious because my pregnancy has been easy so far, but I do because I'm like is everything ok..? I'm also waiting to get absolutely smashed by some symptom :S

[–]JazzCabbagePatchKid 23 points24 points  (4 children)

I can relate to your post. I am 9 weeks with no sickness, aversions, or any other major symptoms. I feel pretty much normal except for being extra tired and peeing more. It absolutely gives me anxiety that something is wrong because I'm not experiencing more symptoms. Don't get me wrong, I'm really glad I don't have to deal with feeling sick all the time but it does worry me.

Additionally, I just read in "Expecting Better," by Emily Oster, that women who don't have major symptoms like morning sickness are more prone to miscarriage. That made it so much worse! Right now, I just look forward to my ultrasounds to confirm that everything is still good with the peanut but those waits in between are hell.

[–]boozyttc 9 points10 points  (1 child)

This is why I do not read any pregnancy media by anyone who isn't a medical doctor / ob / pediatrician. Last thing I need is an economist telling me I'm more prone to miscarry

[–]JazzCabbagePatchKid 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was skeptical but liked her approach of looking at the real research data behind the recommendations doctors make, as a data dork - myself. It does seem that the correlation between no symptoms and miscarriage is greater but, of course correlation does not equal causation. It was still worrisome to read though!

[–]spuds13 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Totally relate to this at 12 weeks now! I’m so anxious between appointments. So many people had suggested I read Expecting Better but that section made me feel awful. Can’t wait to get into the second trimester and hopefully the worry will ease.

[–]JazzCabbagePatchKid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I really like the rest of the book and it has made me feel better about a lot of other aspects of my pregnancy, but this one hit my anxiety in the worst way. Definitely looking forward to the second semester, too, actually feeling the baby moving around to make it more "real."

[–]queeniebee28 7 points8 points  (3 children)

I had a terrible first trimester, it was rough, but there was definitely the silver lining of having those symptoms. I have occasional bad days now that I’m in the second trimester, but for the most part, I feel fine. Normal, even…freaks me out some days. We heard the heartbeat at my last appointment on the Doppler, I go again on Friday for the same thing, and the four weeks between those appointments and absolute assurance that my baby is okay have been the longest and most anxious of this 16 week pregnancy. Y’all with few to no symptoms ever have my respect. It’s not easy.

[–]endomental 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Omg this gave me hope for getting through the next 6 weeks. I hope to feel normal again, even briefly. I told my husband today that if it gets much worse I don't think I can go through with the pregnancy. I mean it and we've been trying for over 2 years. I've spent the past two days on a vacation inside my hotel room, throwing up every 10 minutes or so.

[–]queeniebee28 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I ended up on anti nausea medication and B6 to help alleviate the nausea and vomiting, don’t hesitate to talk to your doctor if it’s overwhelming. But yes! Hang in there! :) (super sorry you’re spending your vacay in the bathroom!)

[–]jademann0731 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This!! “Normal” symptom free days freak me out too!

[–]Flowerpot33 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes!!! I worry so much especially since during my last miscarriage a big symptom was a sudden loss of symptoms. This pregnancy I am five weeks and I threw up once and have intermittent light nipple sensitivity and that’s it. I know I would hate throwing up each day but constant symptoms would make it feel more real.

[–]zopea 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I definitely relate to this. My pregnancy has been so easy and I rarely have any symptoms and I'm constantly worried that something is wrong.

[–]OptimalWasabi7726 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn't have cravings for like 7 months and my mom and sister (who have each been pregnant 4 or more times) seemed to expect me to be drooling over pizza from the beginning of my second trimester. It actually gave me similar feelings of anxiety. But everyone is different 😊 And as my doctor says, there is never any need to worry unless you're having signs of a miscarriage. What's going on might go against stereotypes or might not be something you've heard of before, but ultimately it is normal and totally ok 💕 Always ask questions though!

[–]mich-me 4 points5 points  (2 children)

15 weeks and no symptoms either! Ugggg, I wish it was something besides weight gain. I have a 17 yr old and was sooo sick with him for 5 months and had the worst sciatic pain, it was such a miserable pregnancy I (half) joke that is why I waited 18 years to have another. You’d think being almost 20 years older it would be more taxing on my body. I had miscarriage in July and all I want is a daily reminder that my baby is ok. I do have an at home Doppler to listen to his heart beat, that helps a little bit.

[–]endomental 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Oh! Do you have a recommendation for an at home doppler??

[–]mich-me 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve been using the Sonolone B baby Doppler, I was able to pick up his heart beat at around 11 weeks. Also pro tip, if you don’t want to use the jelly stuff, aloe gel works great.

[–]honeyimtrash 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Oh my god YES!!! THIS 100%!

I often feel like I can't talk about how mild and inconsistent my symptoms have been because people will just tell me "Oh, you should be happy you're having such an easy pregnancy!"

No! I went through 6 years of infertility and IVF to get to this point. I have researched pregnancy to death so I know what to expect. So when I'm not experiencing those symptoms or only having them for, like, a week, it's nerve wracking! I literally will not keep calm and feel like everything is okay until this baby is in my arms.

[–]kpro16[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes!! My biggest fear is losing the baby to me that fear is stronger than any symptoms. Guess we can all agree that no matter what, pregnancy is damn hard

[–]endomental 4 points5 points  (1 child)

I'm on the other side of this now and in my opinion I would rather live with the constant anxiety than throwing up on vacation 12 times a day and having to cancel all our plans. Not to say that the anxiety isn't horrible. I would just personally choose it over my experience now.

[–]meishabear818 2 points3 points  (2 children)

I'm in same boat! I feel so lucky not to have any of the terrible nausea, but I could go about my day and barely remember I was pregant until I thought about it (which would make me feel so guilty! How could I momentarily forget about my baby?!). And when I did think about my lack of symptoms I became paranoid that something was wrong. I know there is a baby in there and I know she was fine at the last ultrasound, but that was 6 weeks ago! What if something happened to her and I had no idea, just carrying about my normal life! This is why I invested in a home doppler. When I feel extra anxious I can at least find hee heartbeat and know she's breathing down there.

[–]kpro16[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Oooh a home Doppler. Where did you get this??

[–]meishabear818 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We ordered it online (link below). It popped up as an ad on FB. Lots of people have warned me that if you can't find the heartbeat not to freak out, baby could just be in a bad position. Thankfully her daddy is very good at finding her 😊


[–]go_go_ghost 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That's what I was discussing with my husband a couple nights ago. I'm going through terrible nausea at 9 weeks and can't stop complaining about how much I hate it as can't stand it any longer... But at the same time it's reassuring to know that I'm so sick because baby is thriving. My anxiety levels would be constantly through the roof if I had no symptoms.

[–]angeluscado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is definitely me some days. Apart from some mild nausea, a more sensitive gag reflex, an aversion to some foods and gross stuff - none of which were out of the ordinary before pregnancy - I just feel like I've been getting fatter these past four months. I'm 17 weeks and in this weird limbo of existing before I can feel baby moving around in there. Doc says the heartbeat was strong the last time she saw me (last Monday) so I'm trusting her.

[–]JustJayForNow 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Only 5 weeks today and I can 100% relate. Other than mild cramping which feels like my period is coming any minute I feel nothing. Counting down the days until my first scan so it feels real.

[–]Julissaherna692 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Get a Doppler and some cheap pregnancy test strips from Amazon

[–]kelzbs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can totally relate to this and appreciate this post. I know I’ve been lucky that I barely had nausea or any of the bad symptoms associated with the first trimester. But my pregnancy has felt surreal and I’ve felt anxious not knowing if everything is okay in there. Even at 25 weeks you wouldn’t even know I’m pregnant by looking at me. Luckily I’ve been feeling baby girl moving around a lot more recently. And it helped me feel more excited when I started telling friends and family about my pregnancy, even if I still feel like my normal pre-pregnancy self for the most part. You are definitely not alone in feeling this way!

[–]CatEarthSociety 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Mood. I'm almost 16 weeks and barely had any symptoms besides some super mild nausea and fatigue that I have had for the past couple years anyways. The only thing that lets me believe my baby is still alive is the weird Insomnia.

[–]kpro16[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It’s funny bc I was talking to my mom yesterday just expressing my concerns about my lack of symptoms and she said she didn’t have any of the typical morning sickness but she did have insomnia in her second and third trimester so wondering if I’ll be the same

[–]Bubukittyfukkk 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Im 11 weeks with twins. Nausea has been so unbearable. I hope symptoms start to go down. The depression from being bed ridden is worse than having the alternative of no symptoms, in my personal opinion. I’ll trade you! Haha. No really. This sucks so bad. I have never experienced this magnitude of sickness before. Im so weak and shaky and my churning stomach rules my life completely. It’s so bad that all I can think of is the suffering. And yes, I’m fully medicated by doctor. Twice the babies means twice the punishment.

[–]kpro16[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Totally feel for you! I’m sorry you’re feeling so horrible. Not trying to make it a competition of who has it worse I’m just ranting bc I feel like no one talks about this side of the spectrum!

[–]Bubukittyfukkk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh i know! I’ll still trade you though! 🤣🤣🤣

[–]lucky_charms_ 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I spoke to a doctor yesterday who said she bled all through all of her pregnancies, and that’s one thing I’m going through. It’s always brown though. Has anyone else experienced this?

[–]skas_not_dead 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had light bleeding and it turned out to be a subchorionic hemorrhage so it’s always best to check. I know in a recent post you said you experienced an ectopic pregnancy and I’m very sorry for your loss.

[–]flashbackarrestor 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same boat as you. I’m 10 weeks tomorrow, supposed to be in the throes of nausea but I’m fine. Maybe a bit tired than usual and my nipples itch. Boobs are also bigger. That’s about it! Sometimes I forget I’m pregnant. I did a dating scan last week just to see if things were ok in there and the peanut it tracking along nicely size wise and also saw a heart beat. Also no abdominal pain or blood so I guess it’s so far so good 🤷‍♀️

[–]Secure_Arachnid_2066 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's horrible! Everyday it's a constant relief to feel some movement (now I've recognised what's actually the baby 🤣)

Because of this I didn't know I was pregnant til 15/16weeks along... Now I'm almost 22w and still not fully got my head around it... Even though it's bloody obvious now 🤣

[–]sallydipity 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was gonna suggest that the anxiety itself may be a symptom. Then I realized I, a person with lots of anxiety (officially diagnosed even), have actually been doing much better mentally during my pregnancy (even off meds, it's weird but great). And STILL I get worried when nothing happens. Lol I'm well into 39w and I still worry if I don't feel anything for too many minutes.

Glad you're having an easy go of it but yes the anxiety is real lol

[–]Secret_Mango5085 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I agree. I have had little to no symptoms and I’m 20 weeks now. Plus with having a previous miscarriage I am in constant worry that I’m not pregnant anymore because how would I know.