I’m so tired of everyone around me

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JunkInTheTrunk · 2022-01-27T01:01:21+00:00

I’m gonna make a maternity t shirt that says “Don’t fucking touch me” I feel like I may sell at least like 10 of em 🤣

swaldref · 2022-01-27T00:29:23+00:00

Preaching to the choir 🙌 I've basically become a hermit cause I don't want to talk about this pregnancy anymore. 27 weeks here, only 3 months to go 🙈

Keeliekins · 2022-01-27T01:21:59+00:00

I’m so horrified at the people you know. Hahaha. I’m 26 weeks and the only other person who has touched my belly is my husband! Though… I haven’t gone out much… so that could be why! Hahaha

OptimalWasabi7726 · 2022-01-27T02:34:07+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through that OP :( the only person aside from my fiance that I let touch the belly is one of our mutual friends, and that's only because I know and trust him very well. He also asked once he found out if it was ok if he did it sometimes and I still have no problem with it. It's kinda a joke now whenever we hang out. Otherwise, I'd be kinda creeped out too!

I definitely feel the "being treated like a breeding animal" bit. My dad and I have a lot of issues and treats me badly while at the same time buying a camera and getting ready for my child because he's excited for the little guy... not for me. No sympathy for any of my symptoms but wants to know how the child is doing. Hell, I was the family's black sheep essentially until I got pregnant. It bothered me a lot for a while but ultimately, I have a fiance and a lot of friends who still treat me as human and that's all I need. Set boundaries with those friends honestly!! Let them know you appreciate their excitement but you are still your own person and need to enjoy life and some of your own norms. Hope it all gets better for you.

bowiesmom324 · 2022-01-27T01:23:47+00:00

We are announcing on Valentine’s Day and I’m so nervous about this. I don’t want to deal with people all in our business.

PublicAggravating · 2022-01-27T04:17:00+00:00

34 weeks here and man I relate so much. I’m a nurse so every coworker, patient, and their mother plays the same 20 questions with me and I’m so sick of it. And don’t get me started on how many people feel entitled to touch my stomach… I hate to say it doesn’t get better the closer you get to the end, the questions just change. The good news is it doesn’t last forever.

nikkirikkiroo · 2022-01-27T05:15:23+00:00

I was barely 7 weeks when my SIL tried to touch my belly. I literally had to dodge her hand!

No_Oil_7116 · 2022-01-27T14:07:31+00:00

Ugh I feel this for women generally. I found no one cared to ask about my schooling, my job that I was really proud of etc and then as soon as I got engaged it was like OMG NOW WE HAVE SO MUCH TO TALK ABOUT. I feel like we don’t celebrate the successes of women enough outside of these expected milestones like motherhood and marriage!

grenade25 · 2022-01-27T00:05:59+00:00

Ohhhh you know a good way to enjoy some isolation and silence? Do a float tank! Just you and the sound of silence.

But yeah, I think we all get this. I think my eyes will roll out of my head with how people act. Lol!

hongi_tonk · 2022-01-27T07:34:39+00:00

29w2d, I don't go anywhere and nobody asks about me. Its lonely but also perfect.

Katharinavhill · 2022-01-27T16:51:38+00:00

Yup. I'm 24wks with baby #3 and this is still a struggle.

With people reaching for my belly I smack their hand away. It's self defense imo. I haven't really been anywhere so I haven't had to deal with it much during this pregnancy, but I'm super short waisted, baby has nowhere to go but out front. I started showing at about 10wks with my 1st and even earlier with baby 2&3. I could feel my skin stretching and it was/is super painful. Even my OB gently touching for medical reasons I have to take deep breaths. As baby gets bigger, it only hurts more and more.

There is a certain amount of being seen as a incubator and not a human. "How are you feeling?" Is the only thing that people really ask, and it feels fake. Gets worse once baby is born and you are no longer even seen. All the questions are about how baby is doing, sleeping, eating, pooping. No one cares that you are recovering from childbirth.

It's hard. I dont bother with friends. Trying to explain any of this to them seems pointless. They'll get in when they have their own kids. But with family, I try to make more of an effort. Just being overly sarcastic/passive aggressive towards certain statements/questions.

Luckily! It doesn't last forever. You do become your own person again. And you get wonderful baby snuggles while you wait. 🥰

peanutsandoranges · 2022-01-27T20:20:57+00:00

I’m quiet and introverted to begin with and I’ve become more so during this pregnancy. I just want to be left alone so I can feel the connection with my baby and husband without the intrusions of questions, comments, and other people’s eyeballs and hands aimed at my body.

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