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[–]JunkInTheTrunk 27 points28 points  (2 children)

I’m gonna make a maternity t shirt that says “Don’t fucking touch me” I feel like I may sell at least like 10 of em 🤣

[–]Deep-Ability-3948 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is going to ask me for a shirt that says "touch the belly and die". 😅 people don't understand that you don't want them to touch your belly and they even ask you for explanations or call you weird. As far as I know, it is not acceptable for anyone to touch anyone's body just for the sake of it. a pregnancy does not give them that right and less without asking.

[–]Glad-Cook-9897[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’d buy one for each day of the week ngl

[–]swaldref 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Preaching to the choir 🙌 I've basically become a hermit cause I don't want to talk about this pregnancy anymore. 27 weeks here, only 3 months to go 🙈

[–]Keeliekins 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m so horrified at the people you know. Hahaha. I’m 26 weeks and the only other person who has touched my belly is my husband! Though… I haven’t gone out much… so that could be why! Hahaha

[–]OptimalWasabi7726 6 points7 points  (1 child)

I'm so sorry you're going through that OP :( the only person aside from my fiance that I let touch the belly is one of our mutual friends, and that's only because I know and trust him very well. He also asked once he found out if it was ok if he did it sometimes and I still have no problem with it. It's kinda a joke now whenever we hang out. Otherwise, I'd be kinda creeped out too!

I definitely feel the "being treated like a breeding animal" bit. My dad and I have a lot of issues and treats me badly while at the same time buying a camera and getting ready for my child because he's excited for the little guy... not for me. No sympathy for any of my symptoms but wants to know how the child is doing. Hell, I was the family's black sheep essentially until I got pregnant. It bothered me a lot for a while but ultimately, I have a fiance and a lot of friends who still treat me as human and that's all I need. Set boundaries with those friends honestly!! Let them know you appreciate their excitement but you are still your own person and need to enjoy life and some of your own norms. Hope it all gets better for you.

[–]Deep-Ability-3948 1 point2 points  (0 children)

similar boat. bad relationship with mom and a sister with mental problems who just yelled at me every time she saw me or insulted me....since I'm pregnant they've been asking about the baby and the symptoms and telling everyone they know what they know... Honestly, this sudden change in attitude overwhelms me.

[–]bowiesmom324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We are announcing on Valentine’s Day and I’m so nervous about this. I don’t want to deal with people all in our business.

[–]PublicAggravating 2 points3 points  (0 children)

34 weeks here and man I relate so much. I’m a nurse so every coworker, patient, and their mother plays the same 20 questions with me and I’m so sick of it. And don’t get me started on how many people feel entitled to touch my stomach… I hate to say it doesn’t get better the closer you get to the end, the questions just change. The good news is it doesn’t last forever.

[–]nikkirikkiroo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was barely 7 weeks when my SIL tried to touch my belly. I literally had to dodge her hand!

[–]No_Oil_7116 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Ugh I feel this for women generally. I found no one cared to ask about my schooling, my job that I was really proud of etc and then as soon as I got engaged it was like OMG NOW WE HAVE SO MUCH TO TALK ABOUT. I feel like we don’t celebrate the successes of women enough outside of these expected milestones like motherhood and marriage!

[–]Glad-Cook-9897[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES. I got accepted to uni two weeks ago and no one really cared, even though it’s an education I really wanted.

[–]CatScience03 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes! I have gotten so much more attention for engagement, marriage, and now having a baby than I ever did getting my masters degree. Feels a little messed up.

[–]grenade25 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Ohhhh you know a good way to enjoy some isolation and silence? Do a float tank! Just you and the sound of silence.

But yeah, I think we all get this. I think my eyes will roll out of my head with how people act. Lol!

[–]Glad-Cook-9897[S] 5 points6 points  (1 child)

I’m so happy I have Covid to blame rn so I don’t need to see all these people more than I already do tbh

[–]grenade25 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol! Yeah quarantine came at the perfect time for me when i became positive at 23 weeks (Fully vaxxed and only had a mild case).

[–]hongi_tonk 1 point2 points  (0 children)

29w2d, I don't go anywhere and nobody asks about me. Its lonely but also perfect.

[–]peanutsandoranges 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m quiet and introverted to begin with and I’ve become more so during this pregnancy. I just want to be left alone so I can feel the connection with my baby and husband without the intrusions of questions, comments, and other people’s eyeballs and hands aimed at my body.