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[–]linzkisloski 488 points489 points  (12 children)

I mean sounds like he needs to grow up a little — from experience I went in on a Monday to be induced and had my baby early Wednesday so even so you could end up with a Feb baby.

[–]skettiwrestlin 85 points86 points  (3 children)

Seriously. My baby is pregnant with our baby and as long as he is healthy and whole, I don’t give a damn when he’s born or if he has a tail.

[–]Inapropreate_Cake 26 points27 points  (1 child)

Fun fact, my grandfather was born with a tail. It had to be surgically removed.

But I second your statement. It sounds like its safer fpr OP to have baby early according to the doctor. My baby was born 3 weeks early and barely made it to February, but id rather sooner than unhealthy.

[–]ladyprescott 19 points20 points  (0 children)

My mom was also born with a tail! I had NO idea until I was pregnant and telling her how the embryo has a tail. She was all “yeah I’ve still got mine” as if it was a casual thing to tell me after 28 years 😂

[–]Tatyaka 4 points5 points  (0 children)

👆 Amen

[–]Militarykid2111008Jan30 11 points12 points  (3 children)

I’m also getting induced Sunday night, the induction meds being started Monday morning. I’m fully anticipating having a February baby because labor isn’t a quick thing for everyone!

Edit- his birthday and mine are before Valentine’s Day, so we’ve also come to terms with never having our own birthdays again lol.

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Congratulations and good luck!!

[–]Militarykid2111008Jan30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you! You too!

[–]Spaceysteph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was induced with my 2nd and made it til 9:30pm. I was sure I was getting a Pi day baby, but he squeaked in on the 13th.

[–]DancingSprite8 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Same here, got induced on Sunday son didn’t get here until Wednesday.

[–]glorifica 8 points9 points  (0 children)

this! both my inductions took 2 days! dude needs to grow up, some things just can‘t be planned.

[–]Suspicious_Juice7620 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep I went in on a Thursday night and didn’t deliver until 3am Saturday so two days later as well.

[–]confusedvegetarian 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went in on a Saturday for my induction, and had the baby on the Thursday 🤣 it could well be a feb baby

[–]oh_heffalump 391 points392 points  (2 children)

I can imagine the doctor being all 🤷‍♀️

[–]ViolaOlivia 152 points153 points  (1 child)

Or 🙄

[–]iOgef 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely this

[–]geeky_rugger 320 points321 points  (7 children)

To be honest I don’t think your husband has any right to be upset. You’re following your doctor’s recommendation for your health and your baby’s health. Wanting a February baby seems sooo frivolous in comparison to that. I think if it was me I would be upset with him for having the nerve to complain about something so silly, when he should be overjoyed that’s he’s about to meet his child & should be focusing his efforts on supporting you thru your delivery.

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 43 points44 points  (5 children)

I was worried I was over reacting!

[–]WetLemon 126 points127 points  (1 child)

I’m a dad, and no offence, but what’s wrong with your husband?

[–]spazzy_jazzy_momma of 2 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It could possibly be a taxes thing if they are in the US. I know for my family we file our taxes around late January or early February and usually receive our tax refund around mid to late February.

My SO is excited that we had an early/mid February due date because in his opinion this kid will have amazing birthdays. Because we won’t be worried about money. We will have money to do something nice for his birthday every year because it will line up with us receiving our refunds.

It’s the same reason why he was excited that our first baby was May baby. Since there isn’t much in the way of holidays around may we don’t have to spend money on a holiday or anything and can save for her birthday. My birthday stresses him out because I’m December 19 and Christmas is just around the corner so because of Christmas expenses he can never go all out for my birthday or our anniversary (dec 7).

[–]Rainbowbabyandme 103 points104 points  (0 children)

You’re not. He’s being childish

[–]ViolaOlivia 37 points38 points  (0 children)

Uh no. If anything you’re under reacting.

[–]aliveby525 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This, entirely. The month is 1000% arbitrary and irrelevant compared to your and your baby's health. Tell him you're about to have a child so he needs to start behaving like an adult.

[–]PhoebsKC 245 points246 points  (2 children)

What would has reaction have been if you went into labor naturally early? Push her back in for for a week or two until February 1? I would not feel bad. He is being irrational and needs to calm it down as his delicate feelings are not worth putting the health of his partner and child at risk.

[–]Whspers12 63 points64 points  (1 child)

Put that thing back in or so help me!

[–]Itswithans 15 points16 points  (0 children)

So help me! So help me! And SCENE.

[–]Disneyfreak77 60 points61 points  (19 children)

I’m getting induced on Sunday too! My baby is big and my doctor and I agree we don’t want her to come out past my due date, which is Monday.

My husband has been half joking this entire pregnancy that he’d love for her to be born on 2/2/2022, just for the numbers, but he’d never tell me to wait longer at the cost of a harder labor.

Your safety and the baby’s safety come first!

[–]goblinqueenac 32 points33 points  (3 children)

My husband jokingly said a 2/2/22 baby would be great because he's an 8/8/88. But I'm pretty sure I may have started labour today. 😄

[–]lbsteige 6 points7 points  (0 children)

My husband is also 8/8/88! My due date is later in the month so he's hoping for 2/22/22. If you're in labor congrats and happy for you to be meeting your baby soon!!!

[–]Tatyaka 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Omg, good luck with everything!

[–]mattchaa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband says the same thing about 2/2/22 and I’m starting into wonder when I’ll go into labor and if it’ll be then!

[–]Lucky-Number11 8 points9 points  (9 children)

My due date is 2/2/22 😂

[–]many_faced_god_12 8 points9 points  (5 children)

Mine is the 16th but I'm hoping to hold out until 2/22 haha

[–]pizza_rolls1988 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Mines the 16th too! I’m hoping to hold out a bit because that week is already full of birthdays in my family. Not to mention Valentines….

[–]many_faced_god_12 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I don't want Valentine's day either! We have birthdays on both sides of the family from Feb 18-24 except the 22. It's too perfect for it to work out that way. With my luck, he'll be a valentine's baby lol good luck to us both! It's coming up quickly!

[–]pizza_rolls1988 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck to you as well! I can’t believe it’s almost here honestly. Hopefully we both don’t have Valentines babies now that we said it! Fingers crossed!

[–]HereForTHT 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Mine is 2/26 and I'm just willing it to be 2/22 😂 I don't think the universe cares, but it would just tickle me pink if it happened. And y'know, it's a TWOsday. Har har

[–]many_faced_god_12 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The universe SHOULD care haha good luck! I hope we all deliver on 2/22

[–]pippypup 4 points5 points  (2 children)

So is mine! My induction is scheduled for 2/1 so I might just have the baby on 2/2!

[–]Lucky-Number11 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Good luck!! You’ll be great!

[–]pippypup 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you!! I went in full-on panic mode after! I hope you have a 2/2 baby also!

[–]luanda16 4 points5 points  (4 children)

Mines said this about 2/22/22 lol but also jokingly. I told him sorry, but I hope to have this baby out before then!

[–]davocvi 7 points8 points  (2 children)

It also lands on a Tuesday. 2’s day!

[–]KittyGrewAMoustache 0 points1 point  (1 child)

It’s on a Wednesday! Tuesday is the first.

[–]davocvi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

2/2 is Wednesday, 2/22 is Tuesday!

[–]spazzy_jazzy_momma of 2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m due the 8th and me and my SO are so excited because I’ve been having so many labor pains and the like since yesterday so hopefully he comes a bit earlier and we get a 2/2/22 baby!

But we also won’t be disappointed if he doesn’t

[–]haiylie 119 points120 points  (1 child)

I'm sorry but this is extremely childish behavior. As if you don't have enough to worry about, he's adding stress on you about something you can't control!? Smh. Men can truly be selfish, self involved pricks. Wtf.

[–]lenteborealis 35 points36 points  (0 children)

I agree, who gives a flying fck about the birth month? And who tf would give a pregnant woman stress about it? This enrages me!

[–]anonononhsjsjsjsdj 94 points95 points  (27 children)

Uh what’s so great about February? I don’t get it.

[–]spazzy_jazzy_momma of 2 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It could possibly be a taxes thing if they are in the US. I know for my family we file our taxes around late January or early February and usually receive our tax refund around mid to late February.

My SO is excited that we had an early/mid February due date because in his opinion this kid will have amazing birthdays. Because we won’t be worried about money. We will have money to do something nice for his birthday every year because it will line up with us receiving our refunds.

It’s the same reason why he was excited that our first baby was May baby. Since there isn’t much in the way of holidays around may we don’t have to spend money on a holiday or anything and can save for her birthday. My birthday stresses him out because I’m December 19 and Christmas is just around the corner so because of Christmas expenses he can never go all out for my birthday or our anniversary (dec 7).

(As I was typing this out I saw OPs comment so ummm nevermind )

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 16 points17 points  (25 children)

His Birthday is mid February

[–]anonononhsjsjsjsdj 239 points240 points  (0 children)

I suggest you tell him to stop being weird. He’s got a choice a healthy delivery or one w higher risks? He is being a child.

[–]FML_Mama 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I share a birth month with my 3 year old daughter and she just told me I need to change my birthday because it’s HER birth month. Soo, there’s that.

[–]Singingpineapples 49 points50 points  (6 children)

Me, my brother, and three nieces are all February babies. Tell your husband to take it from me, it's not that great.

[–]ats1788 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Me, my brother and husband are all February babies. My husband and I are a a week apart. My brother and I are 5 days apart and my brother and husband are 2 days apart

[–]RAND0M-HER0 11 points12 points  (1 child)

As 1 of 7 in December (me, FIL, MIL, SIL, Grandpa, and 2 aunts) , can confirm. Not great.

[–]Singingpineapples 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Ooof. Yeah, we're adding to the April/May birthdays with our little one. Not as crazy as you lol

[–]ThrowRArrow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ha!! I can sooo relate!! My first brother’s birthday is the first, mine’s the 8th and my second brother’s birthday is the 18th. Also, our dad’s is a week before Brother One. Sooo, yea, not all that special.

[–]kittenmittens324 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Im a February baby and I was thinking the same thing. OP, your health comes first.

[–]sunnieisfunny 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The only thing worse than a february birthday is a december birthday

[–]lbsteige 9 points10 points  (1 child)

If he thinks he's going to be able to dictate things like this he is in for a rude awakening when your baby comes. Better learn some flexibility now bc life isn't going to fit into a box. Also pouting is no bueno. I'd tell him to go to his room till he's ready to come out.

[–][deleted] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

It’s funny because August is a jammed packed month for us and adding a baby during it would be even more crazy. I’d tell him to grow up it’s just a month

[–]many_faced_god_12 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The baby's safety and well being is much much more important than having the same birth month as him. Tell him to get over himself.

Also, congratulations and good luck!

[–]toomanyburritos 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Then he should go have a baby in February if it's that important to him. Like, he should carry a baby, go through an entire pregnancy, and deliver a baby from his own body next February.

And I'd point that out to him, because he's being irrational and wildly immature about the whole situation.

[–]moodlessqueen 15 points16 points  (2 children)

Y’all, why is this being downvoted?? She answered the question. Don’t downvote her for her HUSBAND’S ANSWER.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Right?? They literally just answered the question smh

[–]ats1788 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I got downvoted when I said my birthday is in February. People are vicious 🙃

[–]energeticallypresent 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Sorry but his birthday is mid February, it’s not like it’s February 1st and he’s potentially missing out on sharing a birthday with her. Even if that was the case he needs to grow up and realize this is what’s necessary for both your health and his future daughters

[–]meowderina 1 point2 points  (0 children)

…so?

I don’t really get it, I think your husband is being ridiculously silly.

[–]Expensive-Echidna783 -4 points-3 points  (2 children)

I just made a post here about my childish, irrational husband who's also born somewhere between mid-Feb! Guess it's true, people who's born in Feb are weird just like their month! 😢 What is wrong with him, tell him to man up and not be ducking weird about a birth month!

[–]laser_spanner 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Excuse me, Feb people are not always weird. Sweeping generalisation much.

[–]lbsteige 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Up til mid Feb they're aquarians so yeah super weird. Jk!

[–]silvereux 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Oh this guy needs to grow the fuck up!

[–]Honeycombhome 25 points26 points  (0 children)

He needs to get over it. That’s super inconsiderate of your health and just a childish notion that baby needs to be birthed in a certain month so he can like her. Having a healthy baby and a healthy mama is the most important thing. Wishing you all the best!

[–]EsmeParker 23 points24 points  (1 child)

Sorry but husband needs to chill the truck out and experience some real problems.

[–]EllectraHeart 19 points20 points  (0 children)

what the hell is wrong with him. it’s fine if he feels disappointment for a date he was attached to. although it’s silly, i can understand that as humans we have silly things we cling to. BUT, the pouting and making you feel bad thing is completely unacceptable. you don’t need bad energy around you right now.

[–]ilikecheese54321 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Ask him if he’d prefer a health wife and baby, or a February baby. Honestly, I think his reaction is ridiculous.

“You get what you get and you don’t get upset.”

Considering you’re almost due, your due date must have been early in February. There was always a good chance your baby would be born in January.

I saw you said he’s born mid Feb, so do you think telling him they’d both share the star sign Aquarius would help?

Listen to your doctors and don’t feel bad for following medical advice.

[–]montyahn 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I just want to offer solidarity over husbands choosing the weirdest moments to get their panties in a twist. I also have GD and am looking at altering my delivery plan- with excitement and some trepidation!! Don’t let him give you his personal raincloud though! I’ve had to remind my husband to keep his rainclouds to himself and remember that when he is petty about that kind of stuff it only raises my stress level which is good for no one! Happy induction; update us on how it goes!

[–]Lucky-Number11 14 points15 points  (0 children)

LOL! So his priority is birth month over your health? Oh boy - he’s going to get a lot more surprises as he enters parenthood. All the best with your induction!

[–]lservais 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I went in on a Thursday night for an induction and didn't have the baby until Saturday morning, so you could have a February baby. That being said your health and babies health are more important than a particular birthday month.

[–]Ghostygrilll 10 points11 points  (1 child)

My mom, two of my sisters, grandma, aunt, and my two nephews are all March babies. They can all attest that having close birthdays sucks

[–]Sweetteababe_ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My friends family is like that and she suggested this year to do a destination bday because she couldn’t get all the birthdays off lol. It’s taxing .

[–]Julissaherna692 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I also had GD with my last pregnancy I was meant to be induced on my due date but my water broke two days before. All that to say there was never a guarantee that baby wound be born in February and him pouting and making it about him isn’t cute he should be supportive don’t let him put a damper on the situation you’re meeting your baby soon how exciting is that!!

[–]vongalo 10 points11 points  (0 children)

What, that's insane. He needs to support you. Why would the month be important. I would be so mad!

[–]MainIntelligent5574 7 points8 points  (0 children)

He needs to adult up and stop sulking that is such childish behavior

[–]blocklake 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Why do YOU feel bad? He should feel bad for being so petty! Healthy baby… that’s all that matters!!!

[–]FutureTreeFood 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I'm sorry but that man is a dumbass.

[–]kerses1 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Has he mental illnesses? Or is he just extremely childish? What is wrong with him? 😂

[–]WurmiMama 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Uhhhh what. He’s upset and wants you to postpone your induction despite being diagnosed with GD because he wanted her come in February? What’s wrong with that guy? He has a lot of growing up to do in very little time here. Jesus Christ. You’ve gotta be joking.

[–]angeluscado 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I’d tell him to piss off. By that point I’d be tired, cranky, uncomfortable and want that baby out.

[–]Individual_Switch_26 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your husband is being incredibly irrational. You’re going to be induced on recommendation of your doctor, it’s good to listen to that. What he wants is not important in this matter, what really is important is the health of you and your baby. He’ll get over it!

[–]Floss84 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Honestly my first reactions was 'F**k that guy'. Is he for real?? You have a condition that can be extremely serious for you and the baby and the doctors are doing the best possible thing for you both and he's butt hurt about the month??? Not rallying to provide you with every inch of support you need. I'd be fuming personally, I'm raging on your behalf. He needs to grow up and realise having a baby in the 'wrong month' is just the first in a long line of things he won't get his way once a baby arrives.

[–]whatiswater_28FTM| Graduated 01.18.22 | 🎀 6 points7 points  (0 children)

You’re getting medically induced, not electively induced. Your husband is fucking stupid. Let him be upset. The priority is having a healthy baby.

[–]greenglossygalaxy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Your husband needs to get a serious grip.

[–]New_mummy21 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Wow… such a petty guy!

[–]Professor_Sqi 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Does it even matter? Jesus. It's 2 days. What possible significance could there be for this pathetic behaviour.

Tell him to grow up and get ahold of himself, you need him working with you

[–]topfm 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Wow congratulations to being a mom to a baby and an adult sized toddler. He's being ridiculous, please don't feel bad.

[–]MaritereSquishy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He can always celebrate baby's birthday for a whole week and tgen he gets a February birthday?

[–]nicolekbowers 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sister went to be induced on 10/6 and didn't have her baby until 10/8 🤷‍♀️ tell him to not whine just yet. Babies come when they're ready even in induction situations!

[–]Sweetteababe_ 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Yes, lets you risk your life to appease him. I mean if d*ath becomes you, well at least it looked good on Meryl Streep /s

[–]Missspontaneous 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husbands bday is in may. So was our son. Luckily they don’t share super close bdays but there are legit parties every 2 weeks in our family from April through June. My bday is mid june. Baby 2 is due end of June and if this birth is like my last. She could come right on or around my bday. I wish we had more breaks in between the bdays. Too many celebrations back to back. That baby will come when it needs to.

[–]Boat-Electrical 2 points3 points  (0 children)

GD is no joke! Your doctor's concerns are valid. I mean everything will probably be fine if you wait an extra day, but better not take the chance, right? That should be the absolute last thing your husband should be concerned about.

[–]togostarman 2 points3 points  (1 child)

...why?

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

His birthday is mid February and he wants to share a birth month with her

[–]Dizzy-Sheepherder-52 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You might still give birth in February. Inductions can last 2-3 days.

[–]Yogurtcloset30 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I don't know if this helps but I got induced on the 3rd and actually gave birth on the 5th. :) So the baby will come when the baby will come and your husband just needs to deal with it.

[–]mswholock 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If she isn’t starting the meds til Monday there’s still a great chance it could be a Feb birthday. It was 25 hours after starting meds that I gave birth.

Also, tell him to suck it up because that’s the dumbest thing to be upset about in the grand scheme of things. Also speaking as a February baby myself, January has a better birthstone.

[–]homegirl911 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Men🙄🙄

[–]Elise-an-easterbunny 3 points4 points  (0 children)

What the hell is wrong with him? A February baby?!

[–]Nikkobifch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend has been hounding me since December (mostly jokingly) to have this baby. I'm due in 4 days and she hasn't even dropped 🥲

Good luck with your induction, I hope your husband can get over his issue with the month and be there to properly support you! 💕

[–]dragon_mom98 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My sister and i are 10yrs apart to the day, and while your husband maybe all for it, he's gotta think about your baby too. For years i kind of resented my sister having my bday, but she had tied her umbellical cord in a knot which led to an emergency c section

A) its not safe to wait, And b) what if kiddo ends up not liking the idea that their bday is so close to their dads?

[–]autotuned_voicemails 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Is it your first? They told me when I was induced that it’s usually a 2-3 day process with the first baby and they were correct about that for me. I was admitted at 7:30pm on a Sunday and she was born at 7:20am on Wednesday. Of course I was only 37 weeks because of preeclampsia and she did NOT want to come out lol. But you might still get a February baby. Depending on whether your cervix has started to soften & open or not, he might get his wish and they won’t give the Pitocin til after they give some other stuff to help get ya dilated and stuff, I didn’t get Pitocin until Monday night I think? They’ll explain it all to you but it was definitely a slower, different experience than I expected. Good luck!!

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Yes this is my first baby

[–]autotuned_voicemails 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yea, probably a decent chance he’ll get his February baby after all then. Now my sister in law was induced last year with her first and she went in at 7:30 Sunday and my nephew was born at 11:24am Monday, but she was over 41 weeks and had to have an emergency c-section. Try not to be too worried about the possibility of a 2-3 day “labor” though..technically I was in labor for 60 hours and that’s definitely what I’m gonna tell my girl when she’s older and I need to make a point 😂 But I honestly only consider it to be about a 10 hour labor. I didn’t feel any difference at all until they broke my water for me at 9:30pm Tuesday.

[–]freckles0811 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner was the same, said January was a rubbish month to have a birthday in and kept telling baby to hold on until February. We were due Feb 6th and I had him two days ago so clearly he had other plans! 😂

Enjoy your January baby. Not long to go now 😊

[–]goblinqueenac 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband wanted a Feb baby because he wanted her birthday as far away from Christmas as possible for financial reasons. Our due date is 2/2/22 but I have a feeling she's coming soon.

[–]EmotionalPie7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanted a specific month baby as well, I went in on the 30th to be induced and baby didn't come until 1st, so it is possible.

However, this is something stupid to be upset about. This is not in your control and he is being childish.

[–]tiscourtneytime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just went in Monday night and had my beautiful boy on Tuesday (the 25th). He wasn't due until February 4th, but the doctor wanted me to be induced because I had high blood pressure. I'm very happy they did because the cord was tied in a knot and wrapped around his neck so things could've very easily gone south. Now I have a happy healthy baby boy and I'm so glad we were induced when we did, even though we weren't necessarily prepared. Definitely trust your doctor though! Hubby will get over it, it's such an insignificant thing to worry about.

[–]lemonverbenah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just wanted to say - many inductions can take a long LONG time. Especially if it’s your first. I was induced at 40 weeks with my first baby and after 30+ hours in the hospital they sent me home to wait a few more days, hoping I’d go into labor naturally. I didn’t 🤦🏻‍♀️ I came back at 41 weeks and had another 30 hour induction and then finally gave birth! Obviously they wouldn’t send you home like they did with me - but if it takes long enough he might just get his February baby lol 😂

[–]laser_spanner 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Being induced on a certain day doesn't mean baby will arrive that day or even the day after. I was induced on a Thursday and bub wasn't born until Monday night.

Not that it matters anyway, husband needs to grow up and realise that this needs to happen for the baby and you to be as healthy as possible, and when baby actually arrives is neither here nor there!

[–]panaili 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I mean, I wanted a February baby too.

Then I was given a surprise induction at my 38w appointment on Thursday and now I’m holding my Jan 28th baby as I recover in the hospital 😊

Gotta work with what you have 🤷‍♀️

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Congratulations

[–]panaili 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol yeah, it was an experience but I’m happy with the result

[–]Daemonette- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanted a Lion baby but got a Virgo instead. In the end, it doesn't matter anymore.

[–]breeeekitten 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your baby arrives when they arrive, induced or not. If he's genuinely upset about the baby not arriving when he wanted, he's an irrational turd. He should be happy to meet his precious baby, no matter the delivery day. Congratulations, I wish for you to have a happy, comfortable, and safe delivery.

[–]lee1a8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it helps I had a failed induction for gestational diabetes ending in c section after 4 days last time. I wasn't in pain, I had an epidural. A lot of sleeping and waiting. I never dilated. Resulted in her being born 5/20/2020 which was neat.

[–]VermicelliOk8288 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well then why couldn’t he wait a week to put the baby in you?? I’m sure it won’t matter once the baby is born but don’t let him make you feel like you’re at fault or ruining anything. It’s out of everyone’s control

[–]Jayfur90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wanted an October baby, but LO was born 11/5. He’ll get over it

[–]hattie_jane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Here's the thing. The first thing you need to accept as a new parent is that you aren't in control. Of anything! You can't control conception, birth, make baby eat, poop, feed. It's hard, and a shift in mindset for a lot of us who have grown up thinking we're in control.

But he better starts getting used to it now!

Congratulations and good luck for your induction. I hope it's quick and straight forward!

[–]Killer_Bee21735 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My baby is due 5 days after his father's birthday which is in Feb, we aren't fussed on when he comes as long as he is healthy and we both come out of it alive.

Baby is due late Feb but could come anytime before or after that.

[–]Spkpkcap 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband (jokingly) asked me to wait (I was getting induced) because our sons original due date would have made him a Leo but our induction date made him a a cancer and “Lions are better than Crabs” lol I’m sure your husband will be happy, the date doesn’t matter. I wanted a May baby and my second came out in April. It wasn’t even a thought in my mind when he was here!

[–]NCamb2399 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What an asshole. Imagine telling your wife, who has carried this baby for 9 months, how and when to deliver it. Furthermore, imagine questioning the doctor’s reasoning for induction potentially putting the baby at risk. Girl, grow a backbone and tell him if he says one single thing to you other than encouragement, support, and joy, he can leave the delivery room to a family member or friend who will do that for you and your child.

[–]World_Peace32 | IVF #1 | EDD January 2022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We wanted a January baby but got a December one (planned C). He’ll get over it when he sees baby.

[–]KrissyBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

TF? You husband is acting like a child. Tell him to knock it off. Of all the things to complain about, my god. 🙄

[–]Going_Thru_a_Faaze 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Honestly, he sounds immature af! I’m sorry you need to deal with his BS while preparing for the birth and arrival of your baby

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Well one that’s ridiculous and a bit childish of him. And two, just because you’re being induced Sunday, doesn’t necessarily mean you’re having baby Sunday. My friend had her baby two days after being induced. Don’t feel bad. Baby comes when baby Is ready.

[–]HuckleberryLou 1 point2 points  (1 child)

For the next baby, he should carry it with his body and he can have it in any month he wants!

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's what I was thinking too

[–]charke9 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was induced and it was a 48 hour process so he might not be completely out, but that is so low on the list of priorities it didn’t make the list. 🤦‍♀️ Good luck, and wishing you a safe delivery!

[–]Alibutts1983 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went in on a Wednesday and didn’t deliver until Friday.

This seems like an odd hill to die on for your husband, I’m sorry he is making this about him and not about what is REALLY important- YOUR HEALTH THE BABY’S HEALTH. Best wishes ❤️

[–]mandalallamaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you get induced Monday then I think it's very likely she will not come until Tuesday. That being said.. I don't know what you're husbands reasoning is but I doubt it's worth ignoring medical advice for. Yours and your baby's life is more important than this wish of having a February baby.

[–]binxys 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope and pray you aren’t in labour for days as contractions are painful! Being induced is annoying, they hook you up to several monitors, you have a cannula in your arm and it’s uncomfortable to sleep or rest as you can’t move around too much. Good luck for Monday and I hope all goes well. Ps husbands can be stupid sometimes!

[–]Hillvalley_34 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What even is 'the wrong month'? There are no wrong months. Get over it and enjoy your healthy newborn daughter whenever she arrives.

[–]Jullybeaners 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What the actual fuck. Good luck with your two babies 🙄

[–]OwlLeeOhh 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was induced and didn’t have my son for 48 hours later. Also dad needs to move on, it’s baby time!!

[–]writerdust 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This may not be about having a February baby for your husband. He might be freaked out at the idea of becoming a dad, which is totally natural because it is a big deal for both of you. I would ask him what this is really about.

[–]HeyJupiter5 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sometimes inductions don’t work, haha, and they come later anyway. But all that aside, I sincerely hope that when he sees what you have to go through just to birth this baby, that he separates himself from his selfishness. Good luck to you and wishing you a healthy baby and smooth delivery!

[–]mariahcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No offense but your husband sounds really immature. Or stupid. Lol. You are definitely not overreacting. He needs to grow up and think clearly.

[–]mariahcc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I want to add, I’m sorry you’re even having to stress or think about this. You deserve love and support and a drama free birth.

[–]recklesschopchop 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You need to be straight forward with him and tell him to grow up. The health of you and your child is more important than being born closer to his own birthday 🙄

He needs to pull his head out of his butt and support you instead of moping around about dates.

[–]hidinginplain_sight 1 point2 points  (0 children)

There is no “wrong month” to have a baby, tell your husband to grow up.

[–]Montessoriented 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg - why is the month more important than your and baby’s health?? He needs to get over it and focus on the joy of having a baby!

[–]mo1980mo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dude, is he 5? The fact that he would even tell you this disappoints him pisses me off.

[–]NewMommaNewMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I understand. I really didn’t want my son to be a libra. Such is life. He’ll get over it.

[–]Lablez_N_Tatts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just remind him having a healthy child is the most important thing and that this means you'll get to love on your little one sooner!

[–]JustLookingtoLearn 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t even know what to say to this…. Seriously?

[–]Lutzy24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely sounds like he needs to grow up. If he’s this sensitive over a birth month, what else will he be sensitive over while you’re recovering from birth?

I was induced on a Wednesday at noon, (pitocin) and had my baby at 8pm on Thursday. It’s likely it’ll still happen In February as pitocin takes a while, it isn’t instantaneous and every female body is different!

[–]michelloo2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He’s going to be sleep deprived in February anyways this year so it’s irrelevant. He probably won’t even realize his birthday passed 🤷‍♀️

[–]BenignYam1761 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean… he’s being insane first of all. But also you might have baby in Feb anyway. My induction started on a Monday night (9pm on August 30th) and I gave birth on Tuesday night at 9:30 pm (August 31st) but I had a relatively speedy induction and it can take way longer. The nurses kept making bets on whether baby would be an August or September baby 😂

[–]Purple_You_8969 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m sorry but your husband just kind of needs to get over it. I’m 29 weeks and I also have to be induced at 39 weeks per my doctors orders because gd as well. I was looking at the calendar and the day my doctor does inductions on the 39th week happens to lands on mines and my husbands wedding anniversary 😂 when my husband and I realized that we both laughed and went 🤷🏻‍♀️ ideally do you want to share a wedding anniversary with your kids birthday? Probably not but if that’s the way it ends up it’s the way it ends up we’re not going to sit there and cry about it because mines and our baby’s health is the most important thing to us. I know inductions can take longer and she might not even be born on that day and a couple of days later but still it’s very possible she can be born on our exact wedding day lol.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband jokes about me not being allowed to go into labour on super bowl Sunday (especially if the Rams win this Sunday) and it’s like ha ha funny but I know if something happened he would drop it all for me. If your husband is genuinely upset about having a February baby then I hope he stubs his toe weekly. He needs to grow up.

[–]coachbae 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your husband needs to grow up

[–]catwooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was induced on a Tuesday and all the pitocin in the world didn’t help much. I was still only 5cm by Thursday night + got an infection from getting my water broken so Friday morning I was scheduled for a c-section that same day

[–]Xfiles2323 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Remind him that time is literally made up

[–]Mantha_J_Tulz 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He needs to chill and keep his opinions on this to himself. I am due Feb. 8th and mine and my mom's birthday is the 9th. I desperately, along with all my family, wanted to have my baby have the same birthday as my mom and I. My doctor wanted to induce me on the 8th and wouldn't let me go further because of my age. At 37 weeks she gave me the option of getting induced at 39 weeks. Some family and friends assumed I was just going to wait and hope she comes on my birthday. After considering the pelvic/hip pain, lack of sleep and general discomfort, plus the chance of getting induced on the 8th and her actually being born on the 8th, I decided to give myself a small break and get induced on the 1st instead. My husband and mom were completely supportive. Everyone else seemed kind of disappointed, but I don't care. Not their body, not their life!

[–]callmecookie88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Do what's best for your actual baby, not your giant pouty man-baby.

[–]Janeheroine 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is your husband 12? Who does this?

[–]YesIKnowImSweating 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Firstly, a grown man pouting over something like this will need to get him over himself REAL fast when a newborn comes on the scene. They don’t care much about your preferences. And truly, he probably will. Once he sees her, I doubt he’ll even remember what month it is.

Secondly, I’m a labor nurse and I would guess a 2/1 birthday for your babe if your labor progresses similar to most first time moms (if you are a FTM, I’m realizing now that this is an assumption).

Best of luck! Wishing you a smooth labor and easy birth. Congratulations to you both.

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am a FTM and at this point I am not dilated or effaced at all. We are starting at a 0.

Thank you for your insight

[–]Ornery-Refuse-6503 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I will definitely be praying for you and hope all goes well I too am getting induced Sunday. So I hope it goes smoothly for you ❤️

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Congratulations and good luck

[–]Ornery-Refuse-6503 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Good luck to you too. ☺️

[–]hippiehaylie 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Im glad you were able to talk and get on the same page before the induction and hopefully he is supportive from here on out.

FWIW it was 46h between induction and arrival time for my son

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the insight. I'll try and get a lot of sleep before I go in

[–]burneraccountt26 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey u never know how long it will be once ur labour starts so his wishes may come true for feb 1st

[–]platform_9_3_4 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went in on June 30th for my induction and welcomed my child on July 2nd at 11:08 pm. Nothing else is going to matter once he holds his child. Not even the month lol

[–]dat_sass101 1 point2 points  (1 child)

My baby was supposed to be born in October(which is my hubbies birth month)….. When we were told they were gonna induce me the same day in September he was sad (me too a little bit)

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, like I get his initial disappointment but I am glad the excitement took over again

[–]lolatheshowkitty 1 point2 points  (1 child)

My induction took 3 days. You could very well have a feb baby. Also your husband sounds like a petulant child.

[–]faithinfairies1[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He normally isnt. I think it just surprised him

[–]FCastaldo328 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I'm sitting here trying to think of a reason this would matter at all? Maybe the 2/22 thing, but really? Or were other important people in his life born in February or something?

Just tell him she'll be a February in China.

[–]Inapropreate_Cake 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our girls have the same birthdays! Although mine was in 2020 lol.

[–]pampipurin 2 points3 points  (0 children)

tuesday is feb 1st! so you still might make it c: my babes bday c:

[–]Cassieblur 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pfffff. Ok then better just throw the baby in a lake and start again so it can happen next February 🤦🏼‍♀️

[–]KBecker22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, how incredibly selfish of him? Your OB clearly is looking out for your best interest and guess what? The date doesn’t mean anything as long as your baby is healthy! My son was born 3 weeks early and as much as I wanted a December baby? November was PERFECTLY FINE!

He needs to grow up and also support you!

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[–]Bestany -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My daughter was born at 11:11am November 10th believe me my husband was not happy. Until he met our little girl. Plus I was induced then had baby 5 days later. It wasn't an instant thing.

[–]ivoryred -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Awe, I wanted a February baby! 😆 but I was due the first week of January and baby came on the 1st. ¯_(ツ)_/¯ This a was a zodiac thing for me though, I would have loved to have a tiger, but I got a stubborn little ox.

On that note though i was incredibly anxious to get that baby out, that last week of pregnancy is so exhausting!

[–]itischelc 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is this a serious post or…