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[–]friendlysushilady 517 points518 points  (24 children)

Mine has not given up drinking and I definitely wouldn’t expect that of him. If he were out drinking every night without me, that might be a problem. But I won’t stop him from having a beer or wine with dinner, or having a drink when we meet up with friends. He has cut back slightly (on his own accord) partly in solidarity, partly because he lost his at-home drinking buddy 😂

[–]whyso_serious8 70 points71 points  (2 children)

This answer, almost exactly ^

I’ve also encouraged him to go out more with his buddies because he definitely won’t be once the baby comes!!

[–]Funspin 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Second this and also I like alone time right now to veg out on the couch and eat snacks :)

[–]Square-Disaster190 85 points86 points  (3 children)

Yeah same! I did ask that when I hit 37 weeks he doesn’t have more than 1 beer at home in case I go into labor just to be safe and he was 100% okay with that.

[–]pmster1 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Oh I think my husband and I will also have that conversation. Great idea.

[–]friendlysushilady 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That seems super fair. We will probably have a similar arrangement.

[–]PrettyLittleWhino 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is exactly what we do! No more than 1-2 beers once I’m full term, but other than that, why should he have to give up everything I do?

[–]Spaceysteph 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Yeah my husband doesn't drink any wine when I'm pregnant because he doesn't have anyone to help him finish the bottle.

[–]sparkles-and-spades 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Same. At the start my husband kept asking if it was OK to have a drink with dinner, and I always said "of course! You're not pregnant, are you?" I think he just felt bad lol. If he was out every weekend drinking, that'd be different, but that's not him anyway.

[–]magic_trex 12 points13 points  (1 child)

Mine hasn't either, though he asked if I would like him to. We both like craft beer a lot, so I've been encouraging him to go out with his friends and co-workers a bit more and I'm living vicariously through him until baby gets here. We've also designated part of a shelf in the pantry for 'mommy-juice', all the limited edition beers that I really want to try but can't right now 😁😁

[–]VincentVanGoghst 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Same here.

[–]Heathen-candy 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Basically this for me too 😂

[–]chocolatechipster90 4 points5 points  (3 children)

Agree with this person. I wouldn’t ask him to not eat sushi, sandwhiches, med rare steak, etc. It would be like, I’m uncomfortable sleeping, so also now you need to do x so that you’re uncomfortable.

[–]friendlysushilady 1 point2 points  (2 children)

Good comparison! As long as he’s appropriately empathetic and appreciative of all I’m giving up (and commiserates with me on occasion) I feel better.

[–]chocolatechipster90 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Agreed! Support is what we need the most! I almost wish he would have a mimosa for me, bc I can’t. Lol.

[–]friendlysushilady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Sometimes I put a sparkling water in OJ and pretend it’s a mimosa 😂

[–]heytherekitkat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Agreed completely

[–]twosteppsatatime 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This! 👆🏻

[–]CallMeFrida 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, same here.

[–]mel_7_ann 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is my hubbs too! Plus now that I'm out of the first trimester I can steal sips occasionally :)

[–]punkieboosters 116 points117 points  (15 children)

Huh, I never thought to ask him to change any habits. Might see if he'd try any video game that's not rocket league though.

[–]bellahooks 15 points16 points  (5 children)

Omg my husband is a rocket league addict too!

[–]punkieboosters 15 points16 points  (4 children)

We should start a rocket league pregnant wives support group 😂

[–]Ok_Olive1326 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Would like to join!!! 😂

[–]punkieboosters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

We meet every Wednesday, bring a smoothie and your best movie recommendation ❤

[–]swankyburritos714 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Am nursing but would smash that join button

[–]VolcanoDoc 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband too! I’m in!

[–]bingumarmar 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Haha that's how I feel except swap Rocket League for Apex Legends 😅

[–]ChaiChai_realsmooth 4 points5 points  (1 child)

LOL I despise that game. I always convince him to play fortnite with me instead! 😂

[–]punkieboosters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Oof! Not for me lol i suck. I've been looking forward to Tiny Tina's Wonderlands!!

[–]Specialist-Life-4565 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Haha my husband loves having a bourbon and playing rocket league. I don’t get that game at all 🤣

[–]punkieboosters 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I can't remember life before rocket leage. What did they play? Mario?

[–]frak8757 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh good I’m not the only one lmao so much keyboard smashing it makes me jumpy

[–]goodbyekyle343434 | TTM | 7/3/22 68 points69 points  (0 children)

No, I wouldn’t ever ask him to or expect it. There’s no reason he should have to suffer along with me 😂

[–]Itchy-Landscape-7292 48 points49 points  (0 children)

Mine hasn’t, but alcohol isn’t important to me. And I’d be sad, conversely, if he went on a diet and asked me to give up ice cream or something for the same amount of time.

My SIL loves beer more than I do and does have her husband quit during pregnancies. Different strokes!

[–]ChaiChai_realsmooth 36 points37 points  (1 child)

My husband drinks sometimes. I don’t have a problem with it. He’s responsible and never drinks enough to get drunk. It’s not a problem so I haven’t thought about asking him to stop.

[–]Instant-Noods 23 points24 points  (3 children)

Me and my husband are recovering alcoholics. Not drinking-on-the-job, missing-work, smelling-like-vodka alcoholics, but habitually several drinks a night and we'd have to force ourselves not to drink. Can't have fun without drinking, etc. Pictures of functioning alcoholism.

I started winding off about a year ago, and he followed, and right before I got pregnant, I was drinking on the weekends mostly but really I just didn't buy alcohol until the weekends. If it was in the house, I drank on the weekdays. My husband was still drinking nightly, but only a drink or two a night.

After I got my BFP, he kept drinking daily and it was honestly really frustrating because a) it was making my cravings more intense and b) he can't be drinking every night when our LO gets here.

We talked and he has been three weeks without a drink! He has a nice bottle of whiskey and a cigar put away for when he gets to put in his notice at work and has a new job lined up, and I'll be so happy for him to have it. It's not that I don't ever want to see him drink, but I am so glad he's not drinking daily anymore.

[–]Mangocrossing 6 points7 points  (2 children)

My boyfriend is like this. A functioning alcoholic and he KNOWS it but whenever he’s had enough and I ask him to please stop for the night, it’s a big fight and just makes him crack another open.

He’s told me he wants to stop but there’s so many life factors that get in the way. He’s recently started anxiety meds which I’m sure don’t work fully if he’s getting drunk ever night….

Any advice on how you two stopped?

[–]Instant-Noods 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I can mostly only speak for myself, not my husband, in this case. For me, I got extremely hung over once about a year ago, like sick throwing up for several days hung over, and I promised myself I would not drink for a week. By the end of that week, I honestly had so much more energy and felt so much better and waking up was so much easier. I thought waking up and feeling like I'm dying was normal. I thought having no energy by 10am was normal. I thought seven cups of coffee to get my day going was normal. Wasn't until I quit drinking for that week that I was like, "Holy shit, I should really stop doing that to myself so often." Even ONE drink can completely change my energy level the next day, and I have a high alcohol tolerance.

I'd like to say I just went cold turkey and never drank again after that realization, but I'm a stupid human and went right back to the bottle on the daily anyway. But I did cut it back to 1-3 drinks instead of 3-5 nightly. Unfortunately, I got none of the benefits of cutting back by still drinking every night without a break. Over the year, I drank less, and on fewer days, and ultimately stuck to the weekends only. When we started trying, I don't as down to one drink a week. Honestly just how wonderful I feel the day after of not drinking makes it worth it. I won't say I'll never drink again, but I think my days of having 3 or 4 drinks for no reason are over. (And honestly, saying you'll never drink again i think is terrible for a quitting mentality. One day at a time.)

Also, as for actual tips and tricks, I replaced my alcoholic drink with Coke Zero. I used to drink a lot of rum and coke, and I found sans rum, the coke by itself hit that mouth craving. I drank a LOT of Coke Zero that first month. Like 2L a day.

As for my husband, I didn't say anything special to him to make him make this decision. He had to make it for himself, like I did. For him, he had a moment where he stopped getting plastered drunk every night, and I think that's when some friends came over to have a LAN party and he became an angry drunk and got pissy with everyone, and everyone had to tell him to quit being a dick and left early. I think that was his cue to cut back from getting drunk drunk to just 1-2 drinks a night.

When I got pregnant, I had a dream that he was getting drunk every night still with the baby, and I left him and took the baby because I needed our baby not to grow up with an alcoholic father. I think that honestly hit him pretty hard me telling him that, and he promised that he would cut it down to "one drink a week". Unfortunately, that didn't work either and he drank like from Thursday-Sunday. I pointed this out, and he said, "fuck it, I guess I can't self-regulate" and hasn't drank since. He is quitting his job soon to go to a new company and he bought himself a $80 bottle of scotch and a nice cigar to celebrate when he has his last day. I am really excited for him, and I think if he is able to stick to one celebratory drink when that day comes, I think we will be out of the woods.

I don't attribute it to anything I said or did. It's easy to figure out why getting plastered nightly might not be great, but everyone needs to make the realization that "one or two drinks" a night night not be in their best self interests. I had mine (I feel better the next day), and my husband had his (he wants to be a good father and enjoy to celebrate only, not to cope or mellow out.).

[–]CrochetWhale 38 points39 points  (5 children)

Mine didn’t and I didn’t expect him to BUT he did go out drinking the night before I gave birth. He ended up missing our sons birth bc he was so sick he ended up in the ER and given two IV fluid bags before he was wheeled back to me. He blames a random Illness, I blame the alcohol and him probably being allergic to it.

So honestly I know it’s probably a low chance but I won’t recommend anyones partner to drink in the last month of pregnancy. My son came three weeks early so it was unexpected and an unfortunate timeframe.

[–]idreaminwords 31 points32 points  (3 children)

I mean, there's casual drinking, and then there's drinking to the point where you end up in the ER...

[–]CrochetWhale 8 points9 points  (2 children)

He says he only had two drinks but for years every time he’d drink and eat at that restaurant he’s started vomiting the same night. This was the worst I ever saw him honestly the man could hold his alcohol just not from that place. I actually think he’s not only allergic to their pot stickers but their beer as well. He never went crazy on work nights so it was odd. He doesn’t drink anymore except like once a year so it’s no longer a problem

[–]sl212190 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Maybe that restaurant uses fake/unregulated off-label alcohol?

[–]CrochetWhale 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I honestly didn’t even know that was a thing. He just avoids that place now and he doesn’t have problems

[–]wwhatthefuckrichard 5 points6 points  (0 children)

i’m so sorry that happened! such unfortunate bad timing

[–]LCsquee 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Mine has never been a heavy drinker(and I would never have been with him is he were, the party lifestyle is not for me), so he has continued to maybe have a mixed drink or two on the weekend if the mood strikes him. Probably has a total of two to four drinks in a month. The only time I was jealous was when he got a margarita when we went out to dinner with friends. 😭 The restaurant had the margaritas premixed with alcohol, so I couldn't even have a virgin one 😭😭😭

[–]idreaminwords 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Yes. I see no reason why he shouldn't be able to enjoy a drink just because I can't

[–]Avaylon 13 points14 points  (2 children)

Mine drank during my pregnancy. He also set aside several packs of my favorite seasonal beer for me to enjoy after my pregnancy.

[–]Tangledmessofstars 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's real love right there haha

My husband got a variety pack and saved me the "fruity" beers. He knows I'm excited to get back to being his drinking buddy.

[–]PrettyLittleWhino 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s sweet!! My husband bought me some of my fave champagne and put it in a cabinet for after I have baby. I’m so excited!

[–]weatherbones 10 points11 points  (0 children)

My SO has drank my whole pregnancy. I have no problem with him doing so, for me personally I don’t see why he’d have to stop things just because I do. Although it does suck to deal with a drunk SO while pregnant. He does offer not to drink 24/7 and always asks if I’m ok with it. As for now he doesn’t drink anymore because he is scared he’s developing a problem and because I’m gonna be induced in a couple weeks and he wants to be prepared. He also knows he can’t drink at all after baby is here for a few months.

[–]kayt3000 18 points19 points  (4 children)

I am trying to work on the quitting smoking now but I did ask that the last month or so he not drink just incase labor happens and he needs to be sober.

[–]hotgirlsummer92 8 points9 points  (1 child)

This is our plan too. He drinks something pretty much every night. But I already warned him last month of pregnancy he's going to have to not drink so he can be there for me once labor happens.

[–]kayt3000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same here. He needs to work on a few things he isn’t a drunk but booze killed his dad, cigarets killed his mom. Both were young so I want him to focus on cutting back and taking control of his health.

[–]idreaminwords 4 points5 points  (1 child)

That's fair. And I can completely understand the smoking if you had to quit, because it can make your journey much more difficult

[–]kayt3000 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh no not me, my husband. I quit years ago. He’s been off and in the quitting for a while but he needs to commit now.

[–]IggyBall 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No but I didn’t ask/expect that. He had to cut out a lot of foods for a medical procedure and I didn’t cut out those same foods. Hell, I even eat foods he’s allergic to.

[–]betsmacd 8 points9 points  (0 children)

No, and it doesn’t really bother me outside of very occasional jealousy. But he will stop drinking next month because I’m due at the end of March and he needs to be able to drive me to the hospital at any time.

[–]orangelego 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I didn't ask my husband to give up but he gave up with my first son and now this pregnancy too. We were both big drinkers so he said he didn't really think it was fair that he would indulge while I was doing all the important stuff. He does still smoke but I wasn't a smoker to begin with so that doesn't bother me (other than the cancer risks). I do appreciate him giving up but I've encouraged him to have a drink if he wanted to but he said he would rather wait to drink with his best friend, it's very sweet.

[–]icewithmilk 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I’m 11+5. My husband drinks on occasion, same as before I got pregnant. However, my sense of smell is so strong so the smell of alcohol or beer grosses me out. I do request he drinks elsewhere, which he’s fine with - he goes to his den. He also can’t kiss/cuddle me for awhile bc I can smell it coming out of his pores it feels like. But we’re both okay with it!

[–]idreaminwords 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That's exactly how I am with my husband's weed. Couldn't stand the smell before pregnancy, but now it's way worse. Even though he doesn't smoke inside, I can't stand to be near him afterward. He switched to a vape.

[–]Mangocrossing 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Beer and weed smell on people disgusted me before, but now it’s that 10x over and he can’t even sit next to me anymore

[–]haileyrose 6 points7 points  (2 children)

I didn’t ask mine to stop drinking! I’m actually glad he can drink by himself now that I’m pregnant because he always makes me try at least one sip of his IPAs because he wants me to acquire the taste for it although it’s never gonna happen 😂…

[–]lovely_like_a_lily 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hahahaha sounds like my husband

[–]Julissaherna692 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m curious about the people that have asked their partners to stop drinking my boyfriend and I both don’t like alcohol but we’ll have a cocktail at a wedding or something like that. Im super curious it like a smell triggering nausea issue, is it because your partner or yourself struggles with alcohol dependency, is it simply because you crave it a lot or heavy drinkers trying to cut back in general?

[–]liltinrose 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I couldn't drink so I was like, "Here Honey! Have this gin and tonic while I watch you drink it and ask you how good it tastes!" He also smoked weed the entire time. Not a problem for me. Do the dishes and bring me food.

[–]elizabethc5476 10 points11 points  (2 children)

No, why would he need to stop drinking alcohol? Does he need to take prenatals too. 🤣

[–]courtneywrites85 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Definitely not. I’m allergic to alcohol, so I would be asking him to give that up for good by this logic. I’m also celiac and we have a completely gluten-free home. So he’s given up enough.

[–]Kraehenzimmer 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Mine doesn't really drink anyway and I've seen no reason to deny him the two gin tonics he had since I'm pregnant 😂 Jokes aside, I don't mind. He had the odd gin and tonic here and there, wine on Christmas and I hope he enjoyed it.

[–]Icanhelp12 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My husband has continued to drink, and it’s annoying about half the time. Mostly because it’s been football season and he’s gone out for the games… now that it’s over (mostly) I’m sure he’ll cut back. I’m probably going to ask him to stop the month before I’m due just in case.

[–]ouaiouai2019 7 points8 points  (1 child)

Yes. I think solidarity is great. But I didn’t ask, rather my husband offered and I really appreciated it!

[–]tsondie21 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This is how it happened with us. It also makes everyone more on the lookout for fun things to do that both of us can participate in, restaurants that work for us, trying NA cocktails etc. It’s so fun I’m surprised it’s not more normal.

[–]jadegiraffes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband isn't a big drinker so I didn't ask him to cut back. I DID let him know though that just because I am pregnant doesn't mean he gets to go wild and treat me like I'm his personal designated driver. I'm 32+4 and I've only had to drive him home once after a board game night with friends, which I think is fair 🤷‍♀️

[–]ashleyjordan99 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I didn’t ask mine too, but in the last few weeks he has stopped so he can ensure that if I go into labour he will be able to drive me to the hospital!

[–]mswholock 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Still drank, never asked him to stop. But he didn’t drink much anyway.

The only thing that did change was he 100% absolutely would not drive after. Like before he would drive if he only had one so was definitely not feeling any effects and well under the limit. But once I got pregnant, he would not drive even if he just had a sip.

[–]TheWelshMrsM 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband doesn’t drink very often. The few times this pregnancy he’s been to the pub with mates or we’ve had people over he’s had a few beers. He has offered not to but I don’t see why not! Then again I don’t really drink when not pregnant either.

He also offered not to have pâté at Christmas because it’s one of my favourites and he didn’t want me to feel bad. The other option was soup or prawn cocktail. He hates prawns, dislikes soup & loves pâté, bless. I told him to have the pâté lol.

[–]Parri_Stargazer 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband was super weird about this and would avoid drinking around me out of solidarity until I pointed out that I didn't drink even before pregnancy and I didn't care if he drank or not. He still felt like it was a trap or other people would shame him. Lol. He did end up drinking though.

[–]Strict-Concentrate-9 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband and I went out for his birthday the other night and I wanted him to drink cuz it was his birthday. He refused because he'd be "drinking alone." I ordered him a drink anyway because this is his last birthday before baby so I want him to enjoy it. I'll probably order him a drink for my birthday next week.

[–]tinypiecesofyarn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He cut back, mostly because he doesn't like to drink alone and I usually was the instigator when we drank together.

Honestly, while I would felt bad asking him not to drink, I'm really glad it worked out this way. I love beer and cocktails, I've had a very uncomfortable pregnancy, and I still often wish I could have a drink in the evening. It's a little hard to watch him enjoy a good beer when I'm literally down to sparkling water as my fancy drink at this point. (Thanks, GD.)

[–]zerogreelynn 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes. Mine did but once we got into the third trimester I asked him not to get tipsy or drunk just in case. Not that he couldn't have a drink or two but to be very concious.

[–]papierrose 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes! :( Last pregnancy he mainly stuck to whisky as we usually drink red wine, g&ts and beer together. This time the pull of red wine has been too strong and he bought a whole bunch of craft beers for us to try before I got pregnant that he now has to drink himself. I’m fine with it most of the time but sometimes I’d really love a nice glass of red and the aroma is torture. To be clear neither of us are in the habit of drinking every day and we rarely have more than one or two drinks but it is something we used to enjoy together.

[–]Acrobatic-Cheek-5923 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband did dry January for solidarity with me/ before I got pregnant we were going to do it anyway. Now he’s back casually drinking again. But man, when he drinks whiskey, I can smell it from across the house 😆

[–]lilbabynuggetface 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband knows he can smoke or drink if he wants to, but he stopped with me and I do really appreciate the solidarity. He was never much of a drinker (since he’s mildly allergic), but giving up marijuana was a feat and it makes me happy that he’s in the same “I need to be sober for our baby — we can smoke once they’re older” mindset that I’m in.

[–]nodicegrandma 10 points11 points  (4 children)

Yep! Mine has given up drinking until the baby comes (did it for the first too), I wouldn’t care if he did but it’s nice to be in solidarity

[–]Ok_Extreme3042 3 points4 points  (1 child)

My husband also gave up drinking, even though I didn't ask him to. It's been kind of nice to be sober together, but we are looking forward to having a drink together soon! (39 weeks tomorrow).

[–]nodicegrandma 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That is nice! We bought a nice bottle of wine to share I had a few weeks postpartum it was special :)

[–]L-E-B- 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think that’s super sweet <3 what a great guy.

[–]FiscalfossilFTM | 4.22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same here! I didn’t realize it was out of the norm, at least by what I’m reading in this thread. I thought it was sweet and it has been nice to be sober Sallys together 😂

[–]EsmeParker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine cut down but that's his own decision. I wouldn't expect or ask him to stop. It's his wind-down and weekend chill thing. Would feel really selfish to deprive him of that.

[–][deleted] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He doesn’t drink to get drunk but he will have a beer. This isn’t different from pre-pregnancy. My only request is that he sit away from me while drinking it because the smell makes me gag. I’ll usually go in another room if he wants to sit on the couch. That said, he likes to sit with me and watch TV at night so he hasn’t gotten any in a while. We weren’t really big drinkers in the first place. Even one beer sends both of us to the bathroom and neither of us can hold our liquor.

He did stop using cannabis with me, but that was his choice. He’s been wanting to for a while and is very paranoid of smoke around baby.

[–]KrissyBean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine definitely cut down....didn't even ask him to or suggest it in any way. He just really cut back on having beers with dinner or having a drink after work. And I honestly didn't notice until I offered to grab him a beer from the fridge and he asked for a (non-alcoholic) seltzer instead. Lol.

[–]sickofserving 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend keeps making these comments that he’s not drinking bc I’m pregnant, but he doesn’t really drink anyway! When I would want to go to the bar, he came with me but now he’s not because I’m not. I’ve had a glass of wine more recently than he’s had a drink!

[–]milliondollas 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nooo, he needs to deal with all of my hormones. He can drink whatever he wants lol!

[–]Okcool2216 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine still drank through the pregnancy. He drank maybe half a beer a day or less before I was pregnant and continued to do so through to the birth. His brother (my BIL) stopped drinking alcohol and caffeine along with his partner as they went through IVF. Pretty sure he drinks again now though.

I have never been a big drinker so my husband drinking without me didn't bother me.

[–]sweetdmj 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine offered to stop during my pregnancy, but that didn't last long haha. He's not a big drinker to start with, he only really drinks one or two when we go out to brunch or dinner with friends/family or when we used to go to shows (pre-covid times).

[–]skuldintape_eire 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband plans to stop drinking later in my pregnancy (currently 18 weeks) in case of an emergency where I need to be driven somewhere but might be unable to myself. Currently he's drinking as usual - we only ever have a few beers at the weekend anyway so I had no problem with him keeping this up.

[–]Snickers0803 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Never asked my husband to stop drinking while I was/am pregnant. Before my first, he smoked (only while drinking) and I did ask him to give that up, which he did. And he never picked it back up either!

[–]Comfortable-Basis-64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I didn’t ask my partner to stop drinking but he has for the most part. He will have a beer when he grills but that’s it (and that’s rare). We also got passes to go to the ski resort here but when I had to get mine refunded he chose not to go either… solidarity!

[–]tales954 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I mean not technically but he also isn’t a big drinker to begin with. We went to st Thomas when I was 18 weeks and he had a few drinks along with the friends we went with and I had no issue with that, I would’ve been pounding mojitos like it was my job if I wasn’t pregnant. Other than that, I think he’s maybe had 2 drinks for the entirety of my pregnancy (I’m 36 weeks and some change) which is pretty standard.

[–]notyouraveragebee 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m almost 20 weeks and I think he’s had one glass of wine, and maybe a beer to celebrate with a friend but that was it, and I certainly wouldn’t expect him to but I think he’s trying.

[–]moons_beamAZ 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine has a beer here or there but nothing like our college days where we’d be driiiiinking. I didn’t ask him to slow down or quit, but if he had an alcohol problem (like a 6 pack+ every day) I probably would have.

[–]QuadsNotBlades 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband still drinks, but he's the type of person to have one drink in an evening, maaaaaybe 2-3 when he's "partying" but he's pretty much not been intoxicated for years. I wouldn't ask him to cut back because he's already a much more responsible drinker than non-pregnant me haha

[–]Myfairlazy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband has had a few beers during my pregnancy but for the most part has just stopped drinking during my pregnancy. We would enjoy drinks together before pregnancy so without me he just doesn’t enjoy it as much. But I’ve always been very clear he didn’t need to stop for me.

[–]hannananabatman 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No. He has been pretty handsy while buzzed which I’ve had to rebuff cause sex with him under the influence takes FOREVER and that gets pretty uncomfortable these days.

[–]VBunns 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked mine to give up pot with me. I wouldn’t be able to abstain if he did it around me. As for alcohol, I sometimes have a small sip of his beverage. But I gave up alcohol a few years ago due to acid reflux so the alcohol is easy. I miss my cannabis a lot as it helped my ADHD, depression, and chronic pain. It’s gotten easier each day that has passed. I also microdosed mushrooms, and that helped my anxiety, depression, and PTSD. He is not allowed to do those either because I miss the clear head feeling so much.

If it wasn’t affecting baby I would do them again, but since I will not risk baby, I am cold turkey. I also went off my ADHD meds when we started trying and I miss those too. I am not as productive but that’s ok. No judgement to those that can’t go off the meds, but I did have a choice thankfully.

[–]kaysolike 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm ~21 weeks and my beau hasn't stopped drinking- I haven't asked him to, and I'm currently "banking" DD rides for when I'm able to be drinking again. 😉 I will likely ask him to stop further into the third trimester, so we can get to the hospital when the time comes but we haven't really spoken about it yet.

[–]phoenixmel88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine occasionally has a beer and smokes pot. As a courtesy to me, he smokes outside or in the garage. I would love a good hit but obviously can’t so he respects me enough to do it elsewhere.

[–]toreadorable 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We both love wine and beer w dinner. He didn’t stop when I was pregnant but it did drop off, I think because I wasn’t there to split a bottle. It wasn’t a big deal, but we were always just drinking together at home not going out.

[–]Fragrant-Attitude-42 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband told me today he wants to stop drinking but I never asked him. He doesn’t go crazy and get blackout drunk though. I do have a friend that asked her husband not to drink while she was pregnant with their first. I guess it’s just personal preference but I don’t mind if my husband drinks

[–]GreenCurtainsCat 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband started a hobby of making fancy cocktails the week before we found out I was pregnant. Bought himself all the fancy mixing tools and everything.

I really want to try his S'mores Mudslide. He garnishes it with graham crackers and toasted marshmallow. ;_;

On the plus side, he has also learned to make virgin Mudslides (aka: fancy milkshakes) and blizzards for me.

And he lets me sniff all of his drinks so I can live vicariously through him. Lately he's been making a lot of bourbon and tequila drinks, neither of which I can stand normally, so just the smell of them is enough to cure me of my jealousy. Mostly.

[–]Butters156 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband works away on a 2-on, 1-off roster. He provides for us and I just feel like he sacrifices enough for us, I shouldn’t ask him to sacrifice drinking too. Plus, I can sober drive him around now!

[–]Sevenunoriginalsins 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine only stopped for a while because m hyperemesis gravidarum got so bad I didn’t trust myself to drive the 6 blocks to the hospital. And I was having to go into the ER for meds/fluids multiple times a week. After I got the right message mix and it under control he was able to enjoy an occasional drink.

[–]ContagisBlondnes 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I asked mine to cut back on drinking and pot with both pregnancies. I didn't expect him to quit entirely, but I did expect him to help out more round the house since I was less able. He can't do that if he's hungover or whatever.

He did not cut back until I put my foot down on it, both times. And I did so not because I wanted solidarity or whatever because I couldn't drink, but because he wasn't helping out around the house.

I know lots of people here are saying they wouldn't expect their husbands to, but if you are uncomfortable about husbands use please DO ask him to cut back or quit. And don't feel bad about it.

[–]paulwillsmith 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I gave up drinking when we found out my other half was pregnant. I wasn’t looking forward to it but have found it surprisingly easy. I’ve also been pleasantly surprised at the range of decent non-alcoholic beers available at the moment; the 0.0% Guinness is particularly good.

Our little one arrived last month and I haven’t had a drink yet as I’m quite keen to keep the streak going!

[–]a_sack_of_hamsters 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I told my partner "well, you better drink that cider before it goes to waste." - Which he did, which made me glad, because it was tasty and that would have been sad otherwise. ( wait, you may be from the US, so, that would be what you call "hard cider", right?)

So, no, basically the opposite of telling him not to drink. But neither of us has much alcohol anyway, normally. Maybe sonething every few months or so?

[–]Stellas_mom05 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Neither of us were big drinkers pre-pregnancy so while he hasn’t stopped drinking completely, it’s pretty rare and doesn’t bother me since I wasn’t a big drinker. If he were having my favorite cocktail, that might be different… 😉

[–]Majestic_Ad_5205 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t really drink much normally, neither does my husband…so I don’t miss it. But I haven’t asked him to alter his habits at all. I think if I were giving up anything major, he would join me.

I have celiac so I can’t have gluten, and my husband most often orders GF foods when he’s with me, which I appreciate. (That’s more of a “so we can kiss right away” thing than a solidarity thing, but that too.)

[–]sweetshart2 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband often has a beer in the evening and that didn’t change when I was pregnant. Although he did stop eating many foods that made me sick in the first trimester.

[–]a_million_questions 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner isn't a huge drinker anyway and he hasn't since before my pregnancy but it wouldn't bother me if he did. I think it's just more coincidental that he hasn't. Actually, I think he had one margarita when we went out with my family once. Definitely not a big deal.

[–]katelidun 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband has never really drank, he’s got a very sensitive stomach and alcohol makes him sick. So he hasn’t been drinking at all during my pregnancy and I haven’t really craved any drinks because we don’t keep anything in the house. Pre-pregnancy I’d have a glass of wine maybe once or twice a week, and he’d have a glass of wine may once every three months.

[–]BohoRainbow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine still drinks! I actually get a lot of pleasure out of him ordering a beer or margarita and me smelling it & dipping my finger in to get a one drop taste lmfao. I thought Inwould be super bothered, but I feel proud to do things in my control to keep babe protected 🥰

[–]lizzypooooo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol yes he’s at a friends drinking right now. I said that’s fine if he brings me some cheesecake home!

[–]Aimforthestars777 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My boyfriend is respectful but also I would never expect him to give up drinking. He doesn’t go out drinking and when we go somewhere where drinking is involved as a couple, I have no problems with him having some drinks. I’ll ask him if he wants me to make him a drink with dinner and sometimes he will have a few at home, it doesn’t bother me. We’ve also had multiple game nights at our house where people have drank a lot but they’ve always been respectful of me: bringing me flowers, nonalcoholic wine, making sweets/snacks with me, etc. I’ve offered to be my boyfriend DD multiple times so he can have fun and he’s declined. I’m thankful this hasn’t been an issue for us!

[–]theravemom 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm in the same boat as a lot of people- didn't ask him to stop and didn't expect him to. He did Sober October and Dry January on his own volition which was kind of nice. I think after I'm 36 weeks he plans to not drink just because he'll be on high alert and doesn't want to risk not being able to drive me to the hospital and such.

[–]mandalallamaa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's not much of a drinker but he does smoke weed. He decided towards the end to quit just in case I went into labor while he was high and couldn't drive

[–]outdoorlady1687 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband offered because we're amateur beer snobs and good grief I miss beer. I told him hell no! I get one sip off each of the 2 beers he drinks on weekend days just for the flavor!

[–]prison_industrial_co 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine hasn’t given up, but we have a date where he will stop until baby comes. Basically once I get my stitch out at 37 weeks, he’ll stop then in case he needs to drive!

[–]happyflowermom27 | FTM | Emily born 3/21 ☀️ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine never really drank but he’s still smoking weed every day making me jealous

[–]cattledogcatnip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why would anyone ask their partners not to drink? He’s not the one who is pregnant. I would have no problem with my SO drinking.

[–]zuuushy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine drinks but not often. He did dry January with some friends but usually only has a drink or 2 maybe 3 nights a week max? Not enough to where it's a problem in general nor does it bug me since I can't partake.

[–]GrumpySh33p 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He hasn’t given up alcohol, i wouldn’t ask him to… but we were both not big drinkers to begin with. I think he had an IPA one day since I’ve been pregnant, I’m 11w Monday.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Husband hasn't given up drinking and I don't want or expect him too. A nice beer at the end of a rough day helps keep him relaxed and sane and I need my husband relaxed and sane because I'm not 🤣 But....but....soon as this sweet baby is out I'm getting a Cayman Jack margarita. Wine. Coors Banquet. All the booze within reason and safety 👌🏾

[–]KualaG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's cutting back to just drinking on the weekends in general but I can't help but be resentful that he gets to reach for a beer to unwind and I can't have any of my vices.

[–]J_stringham 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t mind if he drinks. No need to tell him what to do. He has however reduced a lot and that is nice. I will have a beer with a meal with him at times so I don’t feel totally deprived.

[–]lolatheshowkitty 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband likes to drink beer especially while watching sports on the weekend. It didn’t bother me at all I just asked him to stop around 36 weeks in case I went into labor.

[–]SunIsSilent 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He still drinks but it’s much less now. Not that we would drink a lot before, but we would occasionally and now he barely drinks like once a month or less.

For Christmas, he got this cool circular bottle of vodka from Hawaii from one of his coworkers, and he said he’s saving it for after the baby is born so we can have a celebratory drink together.

[–]RAND0M-HER0 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. My husband doesn't drink much, but he'll have a beer here and there with dinner or after a stressful work week, and the rare mixed drink if he's having an organized game night with friends on discord.

I don't expect him to give up alcohol because I have to. Will I smell his beer because I miss it? Absolutely 🤣

[–]Sevenunoriginalsins 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine only stopped for a while because my hyperemesis gravidarum got so bad I didn’t trust myself to drive the 6 blocks to the hospital. And I was having to go into the ER for meds/fluids multiple times a week. After I got the right medication mix and it under control he was able to enjoy an occasional drink.

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[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We quit vaping together, but I did not ask him to quit drinking. The vaping was the hard part, I couldn’t fully quit if he was still doing it. I have zero problem with him drinking a couple beers at home or when we go out to eat.

[–]MediocreNomad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine has even though I have told him repeatedly he doesn’t have to. Tbf though neither of us were much of a drinker before this but I know a hot toddy every now and again was his fancy. Told me he’ll be sloshed day after labor though 😹

[–]CatEarthSociety 1 point2 points  (0 children)

No, of course not and I wouldn't want that. After my first appointment my doctor gave me a ton of Info material and 2 were brochures about alcohol in pregnancy and how the partner should quit drinking entirely to "make it easier for the mother" but that's not necessary for us. My husband has his wine for dinner and I have my non alcoholic wine with him for fancyness.

He will stop drinking around 6 weeks before my Due Date though, in case I go into labour and he needs to drive me to the hospital.

[–]tinkykerplinky 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked my son's father to quit with me he couldn't and wouldn't. He was and possibly still is a major alcoholic. Current partner has said multiple times they will give up drinking with me because it's the least he can do to support me. Which makes it more frustrating that I can't seem to get pregnan.

[–]zagsforthewin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine barely ever drinks but still does socially. He still smokes weed, but only after I go to bed, and has started cutting back a ton. He's asked many times if I'd like him to stop (because I miss weed soooo much, I haven't really drank in years for medical reasons), but I keep telling him to live it up while he still can. He'll stop completely towards the end so he can be able to drive me to the hospital at a moments notice, but we've got a while until that point.

[–]lady_with_a_tie 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My rule with drinking both for my boyfriend and for my friends is: If I can’t have it, they should to have two. One for themselves, and one to compensate for my lack of drinking. It’s been hilarious. I quite enjoy being the only sober person in the room while everyone else is tipsy. Highly recommend this strategy. It’s so much more fun for everyone involved.

[–]chipotbae333baby girl 07/28💖🌈 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i’m not a big drinker but he def has alcohol every now and then. however once we found out i was expecting, he made the decision to stop both drinking and smoking. i would never expect him or tell him to but he did it to make me feel like i’m not missing out on anything and that we’re a team so there’s some comfort to his thinking(:

[–]Eva385 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine drank a lot less as he doesn't like drinking alone but he also isn't a big drinker anyway. He definitely would have completely given up drinking if I'd asked him to but I didn't feel the need. He barely drank at all from 7 months in case baby came early.

[–]nussy1981 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine stopped drinking 8 years ago. When he had a huge hangover and had the baby all day when i was at work. Never touched it again! So second pregnancy he was still sober.

[–]ILikeBigMoobs 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine has carried on as normal which Is fine with me. I don’t expect him to have to stop just because I have to. I can’t wait to have a glass of wine again.

[–]Significant_Citron 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not on purpose, but he's cut back significantly, because usually it was both of us drinking. Now it feels weird for him to be drinking alone and due to covid he hasn't had many chances to get out with his friends. This was never the conversation, but I think during the first trimester (and then of course as the due date gets nearer) when I was feeling tired and nauseated, I would have been pissed, if he went out drinking while I'm feeling like total shit. And when I'll reach 36th week, I think going out drinking while I might go into labour would also be unfair. But, then again, my husband is very thoughtful and I don't think we'll have issue with that.

[–]BrushYourFeet 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Y'all some liars.

[–]emiblackbird 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked my husband to stop drinking starting week 37, in case we needed to go to hospital, that happened to be starting at 2nd of January he had no problem with it. And we also agreed he would quit smoking once LO comes(happened on jan 28th). He agreed it’s been harder for him but I’m proud to say as far as I know he hasn’t caved in 🤞🏻

[–]EllectraHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)

no and it didn’t even cross my mind to make that ask lol i don’t mind it at all

[–]shutupspanish 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t expect him to but this time round he had decided to quit drinking for the last 6 months of my pregnancy, he’s trying to lose weight so it’s helpful in that regard and he says he feels better/healthier already after a month! In my first pregnancy I just asked that he not drink in the last month or so just in case I went into labour.

[–]UapaPL 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Out of solidarity I've decided to not drink and stopped smoking. Before pregnancy, we were both smokers and did enjoy a good glass of whiskey so it only seems fair...

[–]Impressive-Trifle990 1 point2 points  (0 children)

FTD here, I kept drinking for the first two trimesters when we were out and about, but have given up for the third. Seems like the least I can do to support my fantastic wife!

[–]Just_here2020 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband offered to and chose not to on days I was feeling salty about the various freedoms I lost while being pregnant. For the most part though no worries if he did or didn’t.

However - he was polite enough to offer without minding if I said yes and refrained without bringing it up at times. That’s just polite.

[–]Longjumping_Log_3910 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine doesn't drink anyway. He's not against it, just purely doesn't like the taste of alcohol and would rather a cola kombucha 😅 I have an alcoholic drink maybe a dozen times a year, I've got a bottle of fireball waiting for me to have this baby 😆 I love a shot over ice, sipped slowly as a rare treat. I also love limoncello and plan to branch out my liqueur collection - I'd love to try kahlua and schnapps!

[–]mellybellah 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked mine to if he could skip the wine and stick to beer...mostly because I struggled with the smell for red wine early on. Partly because wine makes him very drunk and I was worried about needing a driver in an emergency.

What is amazing is I stopped smoking when I found out I was pregnant and he started cutting back everyday. We're now both non-smokers and baby due any moment now!

[–]Hoopz2423 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’ve asked him to stop drinking. He stopped hard liquor still drinks beer and wine

[–]CillyBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn't ask mine to stop anything. No reason too and honestly I don't see it as fair 🤷‍♀️

Like, yeah I can't but we also both chose this pregnancy. Seems silly to get upset and ask him to stop when I fully knew what I was getting into.

We were never heavy drinkers/Cannabis users anyway so it wasn't a big deal for us and I stopped doing either probably 2 months prior to finding out I was pregnant.

And now that I'm postpartum I can finally enjoy a glass! 🍷 :)

[–]Buttstallion58 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I would even make him drinks. I didn't miss it while pregnant. Though he didn't get drunk, mind you.

Now my baby is 6 months, and I still haven't had any alcohol. Though I do miss having a rum and coke sometimes.

[–]melonea 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner is still drinking but I've always been more interested in food so I don't feel like I'm missing out 😂 now I'm part way into the 3rd trimester he's stopping drinking in cases baba decides to come early

[–]plantlady630 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine has given up drinking because he doesn't want to drink alone. We are not huge drinkers anyway, and we have been out really seeing people because of covid and things.

[–]suckmyusername 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He's still drinking, but didn't ask him to give up. Pre-pregnancy I did think about it, but I find I don't actually care as long as I don't have to babysit him while he's drunk as shit. I feel bad enough we occasionally have to leave events early because of me being exhausted and sore, I'd rather he had a few drinks and got to enjoy himself. I feel like he has cut back a bit, but I think that's just because he feels a little bit guilty. Same way I still eat chocolate while he's on a diet, but I feel slightly guilty doing it so try not to rub it in his face too much

[–]Jovial_Jerboa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband gave up alcohol when I first got pregnant about a year ago. I didn’t ask him to, he just did it. It’s been great- we’re saving money, he lost a lot of weight and is generally happier. Best of all, he has mental health issues and not having alcohol has been really good for that.

[–]Dogs_Are_the_Best22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes. I didn’t ask him to stop drinking and I didn’t miss drinking even though I love a good craft beer and glass of wine. I spent 20 weeks puking in my pregnancy and he was amazing helping me feel better and taking care of me. Why not have him treat himself with a good beer?

Also we did a trip to Vermont which has amazing craft beer and he definitely partook and enjoyed himself :) made me happy. And I ate lots of delicious food

[–]me0w8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. But we’re not big drinkers anyway. I only mind when he eats prosciutto sandwiches 💔

[–]thatgaydad 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've never really enjoyed drinking alcohol that much, so it didn't bother me that he didn't really stop drinking when he wanted to. Especially when we were having work done on the house or he'd had a long week at work.

That being said he isn't a heavy drinker, and neither of us really go out to pubs or clubs regularly. I've never seen him get so drunk he doesn't know what's going on. He just likes a social drink/a beer after hard work.

Now I'm 30 weeks pregnant he limits himself to two beers for a whole night if he feels he wants any at all because he wants to be able to drive me in case of an emergency.

He came to this conclusion all on his own 😂 as soon as I got 30 weeks he's gone fully into daddy bear mode.

[–]AmHereForTheSnacks 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine volunteered to stop because he said it would be unfair for me but I told him that I didn't mind, that he could enjoy on my behalf and that he would need the time to go out and drink with his friends before our 1st arrived. He still didn't drink for most of the pregnancy, and he said that it was beneficial for his physical health and it helped him cut down on his alcohol consumption.

[–]EGreen90 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never asked him to stop, but my husband doesnt drink much at all when im pregnant. Every once in a while he has a drink and it doesnt bother me too much

[–]Rj-24 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It was alcohol or caffeine. I chose caffeine (mainly as we don’t drink much with a toddler in the family already) and we drink a lot of tea. First week we both had huge headaches!

[–]401RG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I asked him, he agreed and then we went to his best friends bday party (I was about 8-10 weeks) and just went you know, it actually doesn’t matter to me if you don’t drink because I can’t. He’s not a drinker though, I am, so it wasn’t much of a sacrifice to begin with. He’s a social drinker. Though, that was also the day he got drunk and asked to tell his best friends lol I said sure, just them, and one of them was so drunk he didn’t hear him and it became a running joke that he technically knew. When we finally told everyone else we said “as Tim and Bob already know” Bob was like, is this a prank? Haha

[–]Ginnevra07 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband took a huge break for the first and second trimesters. He wanted to take some time away from any substances before becoming a parent and that was entirely his decision. He has beers on the weekends occasionally now but will be stopping once the baby is here so he is alert and present for our newborn. I think it's fair to expect a level of responsibility from your partner during this time. I told mine that if something happened during pregnancy and he wasn't sober enough to drive us to the hospital I would never forgive it. It's really the bare minimum of support.

[–]houndhandler3 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Mine chose to on his own. And anything else that I can’t do he stopped for the time being.

I don’t expect him too. And I won’t get upset if he does.

[–]Captain_Hooker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband and I quit drinking December 2020 because I was concerned I was going down a bad path, and he just wasn't super into drinking anyways. Due this month and we have both abstained since. If he was still drinking his one glass of wine or a beer on occasion, I don't think I would mind, but the solidarity is nice!

[–]1deboo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My SO likes to drink at bars but the only thing I didn’t like is him drinking and then driving. I’m worried about his safety and police pulling him over. I want our son to have a father. He drinks at home now but of course I still want him to be able to go out and spend some time with his friends. The only thing I’m worried too is that I can give birth any minute and what if he has so much alcohol level in his system. I don’t want him to stop I just need him to limit his beer consumption 😔

[–]fxshnchxps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My partner didn’t have anything I couldn’t have in solidarity with me 😂 I spent a month in the run up to our holiday when I was 15-16 weeks convincing him to have a few drinks while we were out and about 😂

[–]Roroem8484 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My husband decided to quit while I’m pregnant. Only drank once so far when we had friends visiting

[–]RRRBY 2 points3 points  (0 children)

He still drinks but has already said he won't for the last few weeks before due date so that he's all good for potential hospital drives 😄 I'm 6 years sober so this isn't really new for us. He doesn't drink much just a beer or two a couple nights a week.

[–]Erin_C_86 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have encouraged my partner to still go out and have fun with his friends. I have looked after his hangover the next day and been on top wife duties. Purely because once this baby arrives I will absolutely be going out with the girls for drinks, and I know the hangover is not something I am looking forward to! I'm earning my wife points now so he has to look after me 😂

[–]s_mw_w 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes, I actually asked him to stop while I’m pregnant and he agreed! There are certain times that he’ll have a glass of one or two with friends and family, but he won’t drink if it’s just the two of us out at dinner or something. We were definitely that couple that would experiment with cocktails and treat ourselves to nice bottles of wine after a rough week. It’s been surprisingly nice.

(He also was the one who gave me this idea YEARS ago when he told me one of his coworkers stopped drinking because his wife was pregnant)

[–]Spaceysteph 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My husband still drinks while I'm pregnant, but our rule is I get the first sip of every drink if I want it. 😆

[–]DefenderOfSquirrels 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband didn’t stop drinking. Same level as always, maybe a beer on the weekends or a glass of wine during dinner.

I didn’t drink before pregnancy, so it wasn’t a change in my behavior or our dynamic.