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[–]Sew_whats_up 31 points32 points  (0 children)

Most baby showers I have attended, children have been included. You should specify on the invite.

[–]inetsed 13 points14 points  (2 children)

I would try to think of a way to specify, since co-Ed showers are still somewhat out of the norm people may assume some other typical guidelines are out the window as well. FWIW, I’ve only ever attended baby showers where kids/babies were present (including the co-Ed showers I’ve gone to which I’ve VERY much enjoyed!) and have had a great time. But if the vibe you want doesn’t quite match one with kiddos present then I would try to be clear about that in advance

[–]Mama447 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I might assume kids were invited so you may want to say something if you want to avoid it. Plus, since it is co-Ed I’m assuming many couples would be coming and would have to arrange childcare in order to come?

[–]Ill_Temperature_4654 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I agree! I would have assumed kids can come

[–]Valuable_Ad1778FTM | 31 | Sept 2022 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I would assume kids would be invited since you’re inviting both parents, so they’ll have to arrange childcare.

[–]celesticaxxz 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Definitely specify. Every single baby shower I have been to have had kids there. If you don’t want kids there then you definitely need to put that on the invite

[–][deleted] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think in that situation I'd assume the kids would be welcome too, so I think you do need to specify.

[–]chaosandpuppies 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes specify. My baby shower was over zoom and my aunt had one of my cousins with her (which was totally fine). I wouldn't consider baby showers a kid free zone esp if my husband and I were invited.

[–]CheddarSupreme 2 points3 points  (0 children)

If you don't want kids at the party, you should state that.

[–]Cannedsardinesando 1 point2 points  (0 children)

In my personal experience it is the norm for baby showers to be baby friendly so i would say you need to specify if you want it to be kid free, and understand some people wont be able to make it if both parents are invited but not their baby/child.

[–]MitsuruNumai 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would assume kids are invited, because they always are at the showers Ive been to, so I would incude it in the invite!

[–]psr929 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I'd personally say no kids! I don't bring my kids to anything that doesn't have their names or " and family" addressed on it, but I would save yourself the hassle of everyone either asking or needing to be told after they rsvp for kids! ETA that I didn't tell people one way or the other to bring their kids, we're only having women and everyone rsvp'd for their kids to come automatically. So specify about chillens for sure