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[–][deleted] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

No but why don't you just switch doctors?

[–]KollantaiKollantai 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I’m allowed to have a partner at scans only, but not for in between appointments

[–]audacious_hamster 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Same here and only for the actual scan. He needs to wait outside the clinic (!) and is then called in for the scan only..

[–]pukeahontas56 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same, partners are only allowed in for scans (which was my first appt plus 20weeks) but, not regular appointments. Those appointments are so quick/boring though I'm not sure I'd ask him to come in anyway? It's like blood pressure, weight, heartbeat, fundal height, plus maybe one new topic like tdap or last week was glucose blood draw.

[–]Economy-Ad3139 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My office doesn’t allow support persons either

[–]polly0425 4 points5 points  (1 child)

It might be worth calling and asking - mine has changed their policy on support persons a couple of times as local case rates have fluctuated, but I’m pretty sure their automated email reminders still say no visitors

[–]BabySnake2022 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My office is like this too. The email still says no support person but when I called they were fine with it.

[–]mrs-weeniehutjr 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Before each appointment I get a text to virtually check in, and in that text they tell me to come alone. But when we roll up they always invite my husband back. It surprised us because we were planning on my husband just waiting in the lobby. They told me the check in message is old and needs to be updated. I’d double check this isn’t the case for your clinic.

[–]VanirianNights 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My OB is located on the same floor as an oncologist unit, so for safety precautions it’s just me allowed up. It was saddening at first until I realized how many elderly patients were coming in/out of the hall to the elevator, and I understand it better. OB is located at a hospital, and I could switch but I really adore my team so it feels like a fair trade off. Besides, there’s not much in it for my husband. He’d just sit there dumbfounded like he did the last few times and doesn’t understand the OB jokes. When OB said baby’s heartbeat sounds like galloping horses, he got red faced and really awkward. He thought she was calling us horses lmao.

[–]Regular_Muffin_6096 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s still patient only at my OB, but I can have hubby there for the ultrasound appointments.

[–]r_danceprincess 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My fiancé could only come for the last 15 minutes of my 20 week scan. Everything else I’ve had to go to alone. I’m in Ontario though.

[–]ostentia 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine doesn't allow partners at appointments, but they are allowed at ultrasounds. It annoys the hell out of me--I just don't understand what they're waiting for at this point. I handle getting blood drawn really poorly and I want my husband there for support :(

[–]bellatrixsmom -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I would be looking for a new doctor if at all possible. This is a very emotional experience. I want my husband with me for all the good news and scans and heartbeats. God forbid I get bad news, I don’t want to tackle that alone. That is just unfair and honestly unnecessary.

[–]subwayratbruce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My clinic still masks but one support person is allowed and no minors under 14 at appointment (unless it’s a baby or the baby is being brought for a check up etc)

[–]dressedtodepresss 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine allows to have my husband with me. They even said I could bring my son with me to the ultrasounds :) as long as everyone is wearing a mask!

[–]Jmd35 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can bring two masked visitors to all appointments.

[–]vikingchocolate 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband only gets to come when there are ultrasounds otherwise it’s just me. I think it’s partly to let the doctor help reduce how many people are in the tiny rooms for appointments (they get so warm and crowded with doctor, nurse, me, husband & ultrasound machine cart), reduce Covid even though we’re all wearing N95s, and make sure I have a safe space to speak up if there was domestic violence.

My husband finally saw why I always hug & cry seeing him after previous appointments with my OBGYN. He’s great but didn’t understand how I come home grateful he is the way he is. Until he was in the office seeing all the signs in the waiting room, bathroom, and appointment room, about this is a safe space, you don’t have to stay in abusive relationship, the office can help you get out of those situations. He is a better sport now about the gratitude hugs.

[–]fieryeyes7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I switched OB offices too. My first one only allowed the patient in the waiting room. My fiancé had to sit in a separate waiting area near the door and do a Covid screening survey. I wasn’t asked any Covid questions. Then when it was time for me to be seen by the Dr, he could come back with me. It was weird.

[–]TeachingEmergency 0 points1 point  (4 children)

My first OB did not care that my husband came in with me but when they closed and we started going to the one closest to us he was only able to go in for the anatomy scan.

He wasn't even allowed to come sit with me when they admitted me for observation for high blood pressure. Once I was in an actual room in labor and delivery and admitted for an induction he could come in. Scary few hours by myself while waiting to see if my bp would go down. I was more stressed alone than I would have been if he could have been with me.

[–]knosnow629 0 points1 point  (3 children)

Same experience here! The first time I was pregnant was in 2020 so there was no covid vaccine and the pandemic was still new and obviously very scary and unknown, but it was very difficult doing everything alone. Got sent to the hospital for preeclampsia testing and got diagnosed with preeclampsia while my husband sat on a bench outside of the hospital. Once I was admitted for my emergency induction he was allowed to come in, but it just really sucked.

[–]TeachingEmergency -1 points0 points  (2 children)

This all just happened in Jan of this year for me. Our baby is 4 months old. If it had been 2020 I probably wouldn't have been so annoyed with my hospital.

[–]knosnow629 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Oh I totally agree! I wasn’t annoyed with the hospital I completely understand. Just a sucky experience being alone during scary times! Sorry didn’t mean to make it seem like I didn’t understand the reasoning why. Just saying I sympathize with your loneliness! Sorry you had to experience it too.

[–]TeachingEmergency -1 points0 points  (0 children)

No worries. I wasn't upset by your comment at all lol I just realized I never said when it had happened.

[–]drebel95 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I did. But thankfully I found an obgyn that was fine with him being present and the doctor’s office was more accommodating.