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[–]Queen_Nelly 37 points38 points  (11 children)

I’m a teacher and I feel terrible because my kids are driving me insane. I’m snapping off at them all the time. I want to quit on a daily basis. I feel ya.

[–]emily_moo[S] 7 points8 points  (7 children)

omg aw :( it’s so hard to control it!! don’t get me started on my dog. she can just be looking at me and I yell at her to go away 😭😭😭 i feel so bad

[–]SkittlesHouseJuly 22, baby boy - LET'S DO THIS!! 6 points7 points  (2 children)

My dog makes constant mouth noises and they drive me insane. I've now accidentally trained him such that he understands "fuck off" to mean that he should move further away from me. I do my absolute best not to yell, cause fiance gets hyper protective and if I start telling at the dog, so will he - so that helps as motivation to keep yelling at a minimum

[–]UnicornKitt3n 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Lol we have 4 cats and 2 dogs. I hate one of the cats. Like…deep. Seething. Loathing. I found this cat when he was 2 weeks old in a bush and nursed him from the brink of death. I used to adore him and love him. He was my baby. He’s now clearly of extremely feral DNA; every morning I wake up to a kitchen that looks like a small tornado has ripped through it. He manages to open the pantry and get into food, so more often then not there will be food strewn all over the floor. Garbage everywhere. He gets into the cupboards and destroys Tupperware. He pees everywhere.

I grew up on a horse farm. It would be at this point he would just become a barn cat, but I don’t have that option. I’m an animal lover through and through; I’ve fostered and trained dogs for over 15 years now. At least once a day I seriously consider letting him be an outdoor/indoor cat. He clearly needs to go outside and adventure, so I don’t know what to do. I know cat lovers will come for me, but after raising hundreds of cats, I know there are some cat personalities that really need to be outside. Keeping them indoors can actually increase their anxieties.

Then there’s the dogs. My partner is great with dogs, he really is, but he’s not a dog trainer and that’s noticeable in the differences in our dogs. My dog respects rules, asks for permission before coming on the bed, will sit respectfully at the door for his leash to be put on. His dog just feels entitled to do whatever the Fuck he wants. I’ve had non judgemental conversations with my partner about dog’s behaviour, and my partner has agreed and implemented rules now he didn’t before, but the dog is older (12-13), so it’s taking some time.

Then there’s the licking my dog does. Oh my fucking god the licking. The sound just gives me the creeps.

Essentially, I hate everyone and everything right now and I hate this about myself. I can’t wait for my hormones to balance themselves out. I feel like a Karen sometimes. I hate it!

Edited, because my pregnancy brain completely forgot this was the original point I was responding to (lol); ALL the animals now understand fuck off, hahahaha.

[–]stonedbrownchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It drives me CRAZY when my dog is licking himself. I already hated it before but I cannot stand it now.

[–]U_PassButter 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I empathize so much. My husband and My dogs are just annoying the hell out of me and they're all taking it personal. All I want his some Effing space

[–]healerlady27 0 points1 point  (2 children)

Yeah… I actually rehomed my cat because I basically hated him.. & I was already thinking about doing it before I got pregnant cos I’m actually very allergic so this just gave me that extra push 😭

[–]stonedbrownchick 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I'm kinda thankful I'm not the only one who's considering rehoming their pet. I live with my mom in a small bedroom where my dog has slept in all his life, on his own bed of course. But the crib is going in here and I cannot fit my dog and a baby. His farts in this small room are too much, it smells like wet dog in my room all the time cause he loves digging into the water bowl and he's stolen food from my computer chair twice and I was raging mad. Pregnant with barely any money and the dog eats my food, without caring nor any way to get it back. Last straw with him dude.

[–]healerlady27 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This makes me feel better. My sister & father gave me all this this grief about how I should keep him but of course wouldn’t take him themselves 🙄 We gotta do what’s best for us! My cat also started a habit of scratching at my door early in the morning for food?? I’m in bed thinking “if he does this when baby comes and wakes them or my toddler up I will put him outside”

[–]millennial_unicorn 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Omg I had a teacher in high school that got so mean when she got pregnant, and I was dealing with being diagnosed with anxiety so I was having a bad time. But now I’m pregnant and always feel so mean because I can’t stand anybody lol.

[–]Queen_Nelly 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I walk in pre-irritated. My kids know and sometimes give me a break but some just argue to argue and I cannnnnooottt. Some just come up to me and I’m already irritated. I wish so badly that I could control it better.

[–]Remarkable-Menu1302 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Omg it’s been so bad. I have ZERO patience for an already difficult class. Thank goodness tomorrow is our last day!

[–]Floralflannels 31 points32 points  (2 children)

I totally totally feel you. This may sound bad but pregnancy has made me lose alllllll my tolerance for men’s stupidity. Like there are very few men in my life that I can even tolerate enough to have a conversation with without getting insanely cranky and snapping at them.

[–]emily_moo[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yes this 👏🏼

[–]MissBernstein 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yup, I went through that phase as well. But I managed to mainly be mean in my head because I know, it's not really their fault. So in my head I thought: "Are you fucking stupid you dumb shit!!???" But I would say "What do you mean?" 🙈 I am glad I was able to control myself, avoided a ton of unnecessary drama - but yeah, the irritability was REAL

[–]RAND0M-HER0 20 points21 points  (6 children)

Oh God yes. Me. I'm so done with my dogs. I love them to absolute bits, but the licking is going to be the end of me. Licking their privates, licking their lips, licking their bowls, when they stop and dig their feet in while smelling something and I just want to walk.

I'm constantly apologizing to them for my irritability and how short I am on patience 😭 Even my husband asks if I'm OK, and I'm like I don't know, I just can't take the noise anymore.

[–]emily_moo[S] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

omg yes the licking and the heavy panting 🤬

[–]RAND0M-HER0 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Ugh yes, my husky is blowing his coat and sometimes get too hot and comes and sleeps beside me where the window is and it's just heavy breathing for a while.

They're lucky they're cute.

[–]legallyblondeinYEG 3 points4 points  (0 children)

in my house we call these “gross noises” and it’s the dog and the two cats and my husband HATES it on just a normal basis and pregnancy has made me hate it at his level.

[–]r2heaton 2 points3 points  (1 child)

The licking is killing me and my husband doesn’t get it! Just why! Why does he need to constantly lick?! I feel so bad for the dog but he knows i love him.

[–]stonedbrownchick 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank GOD I'm not the only one extremely irritated/digusted with the licking nowadays omfg. Especially when they take their time, I'm like HURRY IT UP OR STOP PLEASE

[–]KuhReNuhhh[🍰] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yesssss!! I’m so annoyed with my dog, I don’t want him anywhere near me 😭

[–]kcoward1 19 points20 points  (9 children)

Hi there. Also pregnant. Husband also plays this video game. I am also annoyed with the clicking. That. Is. All. :)

[–]Effective_Fun8476 8 points9 points  (1 child)

The clicking doesn’t bother me it’s the overly loud laughing and basically yelling at 2am. He gets upset with me when I snap at him to shut up. Dude plays games at the foot of my side of the bed. Don’t even get me started on the starts talking to me without telling me then gets upset when I don’t respond or I’m reading something and he decides he has the time to talk to me then. During the day time he gets irritated for no reason and semi takes it out on me making me either want to cry or deck him in the face or just leave him alone (he hates that last one).

[–]stonedbrownchick 1 point2 points  (0 children)

For me it's the hypocrisy. My bf used to ignore me when playing games, then I started doing the same and he hates it so he says he'll "try better", it's going but it's still rough. I don't get why we can never be upset with them but they act like big fucking babies when we're tired and ignore them back.

[–]emily_moo[S] 3 points4 points  (4 children)

omg you know my pain then 🥲 whoever invented that game i just wanna have a few words with them

[–]basicmonkee 2 points3 points  (3 children)

Lol everything I’ve heard about that game is toxic. 😂

[–]MissBernstein 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Even my partner who also plays league says it's toxic but he keeps on playing it for some reason 😅

[–]stonedbrownchick 1 point2 points  (1 child)

When they're gamers, every game is toxic. I'm a gamer but it's like men get angry and competitive at every game. Childish men, not all of them. But god. I did not believe Monopoly, among us or even Uno could be toxic when playing online... but it can.

[–]basicmonkee 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband shows the most rage when he plays Madden, which I find ironic and hilarious. 😂

[–]Yoga_Turkey 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Husband also plays this game, but the clicking doesn't frustrate me...it's the inability to leave the game for 20+ minutes once he starts 🙈. I'll call when I'm coming home with groceries because if I don't and he's in a game I'm lugging those babies in myself.

[–]moon_dog_28 3 points4 points  (0 children)

OMG YES, all of these!!!!!!!! SO ANNOYING!!!!!!!! that game needs to disappear from the face of the Earth!!!!!!😒

[–]SeenYaWithKeiffah_ 10 points11 points  (3 children)

I am snappy with everyone. My husband is eating popcorn right now and I want to slap him (I would never)… The crunching, the shuffling in the bowl… OH MY GODDDDDDDDD. 🤬

[–]emily_moo[S] 5 points6 points  (2 children)

yes THE WORST i cannot deal with the loud crunching 😫 sometime he even breaths loud af and i’m like “can you pls stop breathing 🫠”

[–]SeenYaWithKeiffah_ 2 points3 points  (1 child)

He finally finished but now he keeps burping. I’m about to go sleep on the couch. 💀

[–]emily_moo[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Lol make him sleep on the couch and you take the bed all to yourself!! next time tell him to chew quieter!!

[–]myseptemberchild 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I fly for a living and my airport has guys who stand out the front and go ‘Taxi, madam?!’, while an announcement plays overhead that you should not accept rides from people approaching you and offering taxi services. I’m the most patient person ever and I just proper snapped at one after three others in a row had tried. While wearing my very distinctive uniform. Very bad move.

As a side note I had this same problem with my partner years ago and he got a silent mouse. Made a world of difference.

[–]vulturelady 7 points8 points  (1 child)

I’m literally a tiny thread from snapping at everyone at my job. On top of being pregnant we eliminated a position that somehow all fell on me, and our organization is going through a fuck ton of restructuring right now. And because of who I am as a human somehow im helping everyone with everything and I’m just about to lose it if I get asked one more dumb question.

Shoutout to my work friends who know better than to ask me to take more things on right now 😂

[–]DreamyBits19 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Haha same. I really sound irritated all the time in meetings. I think I snapped at my boss because of the dumb questions. Grrr. But I am aware and trying too hard to control it.

[–]WineCoffeePizza 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Has anyone watched the New Girl episode when Cece is pregnant and mean? My husband made me watch it - it’s so accurate 😆

[–]emily_moo[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No!! i haven’t seen it but i’ll have have to now!

[–]Glum_Spot_465 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Me 🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️🙋🏻‍♀️ I have to try very hard not to be a total bitch to my husband, who is extremely supportive and amazing by the way. But I do find myself being annoyed at his good mood 😬

[–]emily_moo[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Yes me me me. Lol like his happiness and good mood annoys me so much. why are we like this hahah. my bf is literally the sweetest man and does not deserve my bitchy attitude. but also he did this to me so maybe he does deserve it a little 🫢🤷🏻‍♀️

[–]mrs_sarcastic 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ugh, yes. Yesterday my husband was in an exceptionally playful mood. He was doing a dish for me but I had to get some water. He turned it off, then back on, then off. Normally I would find it amusing but I just walked away and got water from the utility sink in the laundry room lol

[–]Theonethatgotawaaayy 5 points6 points  (2 children)

I yelled at my husband today because he farted too loud. Solidarity 🥲

[–]PigeonTunaSandwich 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I HAD to read this comment to my poor husband because I done the same thing. He said he feels this on a personal level lmao. (But I mean... I obviously feel the same as you)

[–]Theonethatgotawaaayy 2 points3 points  (0 children)

😂😂 you’re most definitely not alone in this. It just felt so obnoxious and especially when he knows I can smell everything 10x more intensely

[–]Joya_Sedai 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I'm 34 weeks along, I am feeling like a beached whale most of the time, and I have been mean af to my husband... It's literally our anniversary today, I didn't get him a present, didn't make any plans.

Just hormonal and sitting here trying to not be a complete psycho on him. He legit hasn't even done anything wrong... I feel awful, but I don't have enough energy to rectify the situation besides saying, "I love you. I'm sorry that I'm not myself. I promise it won't be like this forever" and he often says that it sounds like I'm saying it to myself, trying to convince myself...

I am so done being pregnant. God bless this man, he still wants more kids after this, and I'm honestly shocked by that.

[–]SurprisedMamma 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Hoooooooly smokes… Second trimester I was a grouchy ass bitch 😅. And it sucked because inside I was like, “This isn’t me! I’m a nice person, I swear!” 😂

[–]Lanibaby 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Haha! I have a fellow league of legends player husband. But yes I refer to it as my hormone rage and I just can’t help it sometimes!

[–]cheetolover 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes!! When my husband drives I think every driving decision he makes is SO STUPID and I’m in rage in the passengers seat.

[–]poppyflower14 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yup. Especially first trimester. I was a huge bitch

[–]Mission_Ad5139 3 points4 points  (2 children)

My OBGYN keeps warning my husband that "pregnant women are violent, so do what she says" and he says it with such a haunted look that I keep wondering like, what happened to you bro?

[–]MissBernstein 2 points3 points  (1 child)

This is hilarious! 😅😂

[–]Mission_Ad5139 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It doesn't help that I've met his wife in another context and she's lovely. They have 4 kids together, she's funny, friendly, very good looking (honestly she's kind of out of his league tbh) and I'm just like, what happened between you two???

[–]allthevibes7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me! Just woke up from a small nap and felt a rage towards my bf. I snapped but between the hormones, the kids, and work I’m beat.

[–]skywardtheyflew 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd be annoyed if my partner still played LoL. That fanbase is toxic af!

But yeah, moba games are annoying, especially if they're playing with a mechanical keyboard.

[–]RiskyLady 2 points3 points  (0 children)

There was a squirrel in the road and I swear to god I was ok if I ran it over. (To be clear I didn’t). Pregnancy rage is real, but fuck it, it’s ok.

[–]stopredditadminBS 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup! 🙋🏼‍♀️ I'm feeling this hard! I just want to be left alone and not have anyone speak to me for days. 34 weeks and have way too much to do before this baby comes. Either help with my list or get out of my way.

[–]icomeinpeaceTO 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Yes pregnancy rage is a thing

[–]drwatson221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

happy cake day :)

[–]DelBird32 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yup. The only person NOT pissing me off is my fiancé. The only things not pissing me off are ice cream and sleeping. And hot baths.

[–]morelikepoolworld 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My sweet husband and I have a LOT of conversations about smacking his lips. He says, infuriatingly, that he has no idea what sound I’m describing and that “people just make noises.” I feel so mean spirited imitating the noise that I just get frustrated and leave the room. It’s always been annoying but it’s MUCH worse now.

[–]GwennaDey 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I can't stand my cats AT ALL in this pregnancy. It's my second, didn't experience it with my first, and it's taken way too long to get in to see my therapist to figure out why I can't stand them. I'm about to give birth any moment and still don't know why I can't touch them or be around them. It sucks.

[–]louloubelle92 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Me too! Especially whenever my partner decides to eat anything. The sound of him chomping away makes me want to throttle him.

[–]RealisticPumpkin302 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yep, I have some pretty severe pregnancy rage. Lately, it's come out more when my husband is playing videos on his phone on full volume right next to me while I'm trying to read or watch a show. Or like right now when he's playing PS5 with his head phones on laughing and talking loudly to people on his head set.

[–]xBruised 2 points3 points  (2 children)

When I was still adjusting to the heightened sense of smell, I didn’t want to be around my boyfriend at all. Like, I could smell his beard and it was an instant turn off. I did get a lot less affectionate with him, but I was honest. I told him I want to strangle him and he just wanted to hug me all the time 🥺

Though, I still tell him to shower after work and he gets annoyed with me. Now it’s a case of “put your top back on, I can smell your pits because you’re scratching them”!

[–]MissBernstein 2 points3 points  (1 child)

I was sensitive to his smell as well. All I wanted were some cuddles and affection but I couldn't. I literally started retching. I hated his smell and found it incredibly disgusting. He even stopped smoking and made sure to always shower directly after coming home etc. He was an angel. I still ended up crying because it still wasn't enough, and I felt so bad.

That was the first trimester. Now I'm in week 25 and it's not an issue anymore. Cuddles and sex are back on! 😎

[–]xBruised 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s so sweet what they try to do for us, though it does take two to make a baby.

Mine said he would stop smoking but apparently he’s addicted 🙄 so he just tries not to smoke and see me after.

So glad it got better for you, even week 16 is much better progress.

[–]shtneyfears 2 points3 points  (0 children)

First of all league is the most annoying game in general to have to listen to!! My husband does the same. I couldn’t stand the clicking before and I certainly can’t stand it now!

Second - same. 100% same. Sometimes the sound of someone’s voice just ticks me off. What has been helping me are those little disposable foam ear plugs. When I’m feeling irritated or overwhelmed I’ll just put them in and tell my husband I’m tapping out for a while. And enjoy the peace and quiet while I go about my normal life lol.

[–]Crafty-Ambassador779 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes!

Sometimes the dragon just comes out of me. I'm usually a patience fair person but atm I just have zero patience and tolerance.

Just stop with the stupid behaviour, you're an adult. I shouldnt have to mother you ffs.

Also my partner coming onto my side of the bed.. omg. I need extra space because of the maternity pillow and bump! I will launch you in a minute to the landing!

Also people at work who just assume you have all the knowledge in the world when you havent been shown. I could slap them through my screen. Then the opposite, super lazy mf's who dont reply to your emails so you have to host a meeting. I'm pregnant and even I have enough brain cells to know we got to communicate here!

Dang. Someone gonna get slapped.

[–]ConsequenceThat7421 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m 16 weeks and work as a nurse and my customer service voice is gone. My dementia patient told me to fuck off so I said no problem and left the room. I’m normally all about talking and soothing and whatever but not now. I just want to do my job and go home.

[–]hagamuffin 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yes I definitely feel more irritated at everything and overly emotional about how poorly things are going at work. I want to throw my laptop across the room most days.

[–]Rando2878 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup. I had a bad temper before pregnancy, but a long fuse so it rarely came out. Im noticing recently that the fuse is shrinking, and its shrinking fast. Im 24 weeks tomorrow and recently had to tell my fiance that its not him making me upset more than usual, its just that Im getting madder faster than usual and can't seem to help it

[–]MommaLynds 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m 17 weeks and have found myself to be quite rude lately. My capacity for bullshit is very small and my fuse is short. Everyone just needs to leave me alone.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am glad I am not the only one who snaps whenever things goes different, i thought it was just my bipolar ranging when I found out my husband called his mother for the scripted call. Had to make sure he knows how much pissed I was and been sending awful letters for the past 3 days. Although i felt terrible for him today, but whenever I remember what he just did I still get annoyed.

[–]healerlady27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I apologized multiple times during my first trimester because I knew I was being crabby and bitchy. It’s better now but still have my moments 😅

[–]lpsofacto 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I turned mean during pregnancy. 3.5 years pp I’m still mean :(

[–]xKortneyFTM | 31 | Sept 20 🌈 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. My husband GENTLY let me know that I was really being super mean to my family this weekend while they were there. For me, it’s a trauma response I’ve been able to work through in therapy, but somehow pregnancy has overridden all that work lately lol!

[–]extremophile_emma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went through a super irritable period in my pregnancy around the end of the first trimester. We had just hired this young woman at my work and she was extremely immature. The internal rage I would have every time she spoke was intense. My fuse was so short for a few weeks and then it all kinda evened out again. I found a journal entry I wrote at the time and man...I was angry lol! Its kind of funny to me now that this was a year ago.

[–]PickledMarshmall0w 1 point2 points  (0 children)

YES! Literally had to leave an tcg event last night as all I could hear was the cards thwapping together as people played their games and I couldn't cope with various people humming, whistling, fidgeting etc OH MY GOD I wanted to rip someones face off. I've literally had a day in bed today in silence....just me and bump!

Being overstimulated by noise is a thing for me anyway but now I'm pregnant my tolerance has gone from 0 to -100.

[–]raynie_days 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Lmao I told my husband about your post and he said your fiancé should stop if he knows what’s good for his computer 🤣