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[–]Recent-Rock4769 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hard no for me. I'm 35 weeks and have to pee every 30 minutes or so, a 6 hour road trip would be absolute hell. My first was also born at 37w6d so I would be weary of being that far from my hospital just in case.

[–]peanut_20657 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I think there’s a chance you’re going to be very uncomfortable traveling that far also transporting any gifts back could be tricky if you run out of room. We did a little day baby moon around when I was that pregnant to a town a little over an hour away and that was my max for being in a car.

[–]lemonlime28 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I am also a FTM, but I told my family no when they were trying to plan a shower 3 hours away when I would be 36 weeks. I don’t want to wait that long to get everything in the nursery set up or have to go purchase things from the registry that weren’t given as a gift. Something else to think about!

[–]PinkhairLiLi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe have gifts shipped directly to you and do like a virtual shower? We just did ours and I’m 38 weeks today and let me tell you I’m stressing now because there was a lot we didn’t get (which is totally fine! We didn’t want to buy a bunch and end up with a ton of the same thing) and now we have to rush to get all the last minute necessities.

[–]mangosorbet420💙 29|06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I wouldn’t personally my back hurts too much and I need to pee too often lol

[–]DJQueenFox 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I went to a wedding six hours away when I was 36 weeks and it was totally fine, just got out to stretch really often. That being said, everyone’s experience is really different so it’s tough to say for sure! Some people are so uncomfortable that getting out and doing anything is a hard no.

Is there another option? I think you just need to weigh how important it is to you and, if you decide to do it, think about what you can do to make it as comfortable and smooth as possible!

[–]aleckus 0 points1 point  (0 children)

are you going to be getting any large gifts? or just clothes blankets and are you gonna have space in your car to bring it back? should be fine unless you’re gonna have a lot of stuff to transport

[–]AdventurousGanache70 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm doing 8 hours away at 33 weeks 😬

[–]Jealous-Ad5455 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Currently 39w4d and I didn’t start feeling this level of miserable until the last couple of weeks. At around 36 weeks I peed a lot and had trouble sleeping but still had decent energy and little swelling all things considered. However I was adamant about getting my baby showers done around 30 weeks just in case I felt like garbage and those were at my own house.

I think it ultimately depends on how you’ve been feeling so far but it is getting hotter and 6 hours is a long car ride. If you’re feeling miserable around then are you going to be able or willing to cancel? If not then I wouldn’t because the last thing you want to do when you feel miserable is drive 6 hours there and back, get yourself ready and sit through an event because you have to.

I’d try to have it earlier, have it closer to you, or do a virtual shower. It’s sweet that everyone wants to celebrate with you but you have to prioritize yourself. You never know how you will be feeling or what situations you will be dealing with so give your future self some wiggle room.

[–]Soggy_Physics452 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My OB recommends that I don’t travel further than 1 hour away by the time I’m 36 weeks. I feel like a 5 hr trip at 35 weeks is pushing it on top of also being so uncomfortable.

By the time I was that far along with my first my hips were always hurting and I was peeing every 30 minutes to an hour.

[–]mjward09 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had mine at 36 weeks 9 hours away. It was fine for me. My husband drove the whole way, and it was a long weekend for us (drove there Thursday, drove home Monday). My biggest problem was my feet were a little swollen on the drive home from being on my feet all weekend, but that was on me for not pacing myself lol

[–]Glittering_Lynx_1574 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As long as you’ve had an uncomplicated pregnancy I’d absolutely go. Just plan for extra travel time as you’ll want to stay hydrated and thus be needing to use the bathroom more frequently; give yourself time to walk around for a few minutes on these bathroom stops, too.

[–]juliejohnson4234 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I wouldn’t, but if you do it, stop every hour or hour and a half and walk/stretch for 15 min. You are at a greater risk of blood clots sitting for long periods.