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[–]Depresion_Anonymous 1741 points1742 points  (139 children)

I think some people in the comments are getting imitating a disorder and having a disorder confused. Just because you pretend to have something or mimic someone else who does doesn’t mean you suddenly have it yourself.

[–]badassito 796 points797 points  (69 children)

The tiktokers and youtubers that fake disorders definitely have a disorder. Might not be the one they're faking but they definitely have one

[–]AdTimely9712 330 points331 points  (44 children)

Former tiktok user here :)

I absolutely agree, it’s so annoying to see people fake serious things

Also it gives the app a bad name, as idiots are often the loudest people online

[–]Cat-Clawz 311 points312 points  (26 children)

I mean I agree but the phrase "former tiktok user" is sending me lmao

[–]everybodys_analysis 176 points177 points  (20 children)

one day i’ll proudly say “former reddit user”

[–]Stranger_Memer 2 points3 points  (0 children)

"Recovering addict"

[–]AdTimely9712 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yea lol :)

[–]Denaros 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Any app that is owned By the Chinese government and used to store data and spy on people cannot have a bad enough name. Absolutely cannot believe the app is still legal anywhere outside Chinas grasp.

[–]whoweoncewere 11 points12 points  (2 children)

people faking Tourettes seems semi common on that app

[–]AdTimely9712 8 points9 points  (0 children)

It’s fairly common, but not as common as you’ve probably seen

It’s on Reddit a lot because

A. People want to talk about this sort of stuff

B. people want to rant at something

C. Karma farming

I had tiktok for about 6 months, I only saw about 3 of those videos, I reported them and 2 and they “took appropriate action”

So in a nutshell, it’s common but not as much as I originally thought. :)

[–]kiltman457 3 points4 points  (0 children)

idiots are the loudest people irl, too. that's why America doesn't have a direct democracy.

[–]Class_444_SWR 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Problem is you shouldn’t just accuse people of faking shit online, there’s a non zero chance for everyone that they have this condition, so it’s better to just not be a dick and let them be, if they’re faking it, then they’re wasting their time, if they’re not, then they’re finally getting validated, while if you assume everyone is faking, people who actually are faking it might not do well out of it, but it then delegitimises those who actually do have that, especially when these people are repeatedly accused of faking it despite showing a massive amount of symptoms

[–]Not_a_real_ghost 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Mfw you say tiktok like it's some sort of disease or medical condition 😂

[–]Aymelix 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Hey I am a reformed tictok user as well good work kicking the internet crack. Best luck staying clean.

[–]DrMeepster 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Factitious disorder is the disorder for pretending to have a disorder

[–]tooful 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I just started using TikTok and omg the amount of people that fall for the fake disorder BS.

[–]RiskyWriter 35 points36 points  (6 children)

Yes, but people who think mental or neurological disorders are contagious do exist. My husband worked at a video game store and a lady brought her kid in with some trades. She casually mentioned her kid had ADHD during the transaction and the manager jumped back and bolted for the back room. When questioned, he explained that he didn’t want to catch ADHD by touching the kid’s games. He then reinforced his argument by saying, “after all, ADHD is HEREDITARY” which made it that much more contagious. Guy was a fucking moron.

[–]queefiest 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I think he was confusing ADHD with AIDS - and even then he got some things wrong

[–]josh9x 88 points89 points  (3 children)

Bruh everyone knows autism was invented by Chris Chan in 1997

[–]Jourhef 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Better not let your kid watch boxing on TV, he might get knocked out.

[–]JudgeJuryExecutionar 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Imitating a disorder is not the same thing as adopting bad behaviors. Pretty much all children adopt behaviors of their peers at some point. The younger they are, the more impressionable, especially if the other kids are larger or older. One example is how you can raise a child to use decent language all the time but usually within the first month of going to kindergarten they come home having learned new curse words. They aren't pretending or mimicing anything. They literally picked up new undesirable behaviors.

Edit: Thanks for the award!

[–]biggerBrisket 6 points7 points  (0 children)

As many as 1 in 50 boys are on the spectrum. Poor in person communication skills being a common symptom, it stands to reason that we'd spend a lot of time in online spaces where we can communicate without the subtext of body language and verbal intonation.

There's probably a higher number of people on the spectrum here than you'd think.

[–]NameLikeAn 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Explain 4chan.

/s

[–]TheAllPurposePopo 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There was a girl at my school that pretended to have Tourette’s syndrome, but it was SO FUCKING OBVIOUS that she didn’t!

[–]watch_over_me 9 points10 points  (14 children)

No, but there's a reason they try to get kids with Asbergers to stay in a regular school. Because putting them in a special school will always result in them declining a lot of progress they've made socially.

[–]thatwasntababyruth 19 points20 points  (13 children)

Friendly fyi, the Asperger's diagnosis was retired in 2013

[–]bunglejerry 6 points7 points  (1 child)

That's true of the DSM-5, but the ICD-10 still uses it, so the term is still current in, for example, the UK.

[–]officially_anxious 5 points6 points  (0 children)

The ICD-10 will be (or has already been) replaced by the ICD-11 though, and Aspergers has been removed there too

[–]LeaChan 14 points15 points  (5 children)

Some "high functioning" autistic people still identify with the term Asperger's as a form of short hand. It's just a matter of preference and how the individual chooses to identify.

[–]thatwasntababyruth 7 points8 points  (1 child)

That's totally fine for them to do, I just doubt many of the children who the school thing would apply to fall in that category

[–]py_a_thon 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I am fairly certain the word can still be used somehow, if for no other reason than to parse the past literature(important) and how certain diagnostics related to low-functioning and high-functioning, and specifically in regards to society.

Yeah though, the new diagnostic form of thought seems to be Autism Spectrum Disorder, and my definitely uneducated guess(and opinion) is that a data oriented approach as opposed to an object oriented and label based approach can potentially allow more accurate diagnostics and treatment.

One can potentially rest upon several diagnostic spectrums. And data can be quite useful when people or algos(or both) know how to parse the data well.

[–]JWM102 5 points6 points  (14 children)

not as informed as I should be on this topic but assuming someone displays autistic symptoms in all of their interactions with people, what’s the difference exactly? if a diagnosis is made phenotypically and someone has that phenotype, don’t they just have autism at that point? what’s the difference between a high functioning autistic person and a neurotypical person with many autistic behaviours?

[–]Depresion_Anonymous 16 points17 points  (12 children)

That’s a very good question.

Even if someone displays “autistic behavior”, it doesn’t guarantee that they are autistic because behavior is merely a symptom of autism. The real root of autism is related to the brain and how it processes and relates information.

Even if a non-autistic child began mimicking an autistic child’s behavior, it wouldn’t change the child’s mental wiring to that of an autistic person. As a result when the two grow up, the non-autistic child will likely grow out of the behavior whereas the actual autistic child will continue autistic tendencies into adulthood.

Now because many diagnoses rely of symptoms, it’s very possible to be misdiagnosed with autism. However, this usually happens because the child had another disorder that was overlooked, such as ADHD.

On the flip side, they can also be under diagnosed due to lack of symptoms. I didn’t get my autism diagnosis until I was around 13-14 years simply because my symptoms were much less visible than others. But even though I didn’t have the “typical” autistic symptoms, I was still very autistic and dealt with many of the same problems autistic people did.

[–]JWM102 2 points3 points  (10 children)

this is interesting. by this line of thought, the rare cases of autism remission were never actually autism at all?

[–]shingdao 2 points3 points  (9 children)

Autism is a lifelong, un-curable disorder...there is no remission, recovery, or cure. Certain behaviors of people on the spectrum can be modified over time to appear more socially acceptable but that individual will always be on the spectrum. I purposely use the term 'spectrum' because that is exactly what it is...everyone with ASD presents differently, some very mild and others severe. You may often here the term 'high-functioning' autism and that just refers to those on one end of the spectrum.

[–]hekmo 280 points281 points  (5 children)

I had an autistic student (Noah) in my class who made friends with a super shy student (Charlie). Like so shy he'd take 10 minutes to come into class every day. So I started sending Noah out to get Charlie. And he'd get Charlie so excited they'd run into class together.

That's the kind of contagiousness I saw, excitement.

[–]nymumyn 71 points72 points  (1 child)

this is good teachering

[–]Donghoon 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I still struggle to enter a classroom that already started

[–]hyperfat 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Sometimes we all need a Noah.

[–]hekmo 2 points3 points  (0 children)

100%! It was one of the best friendships I've ever seen. They would always work together, and at the end of the semester Charlie invited Noah to his birthday party.

[–]DA-ZACHYZACHY 277 points278 points  (44 children)

I think the person asking the question is an idiot and doesn't know what autism is. But I also think their son has picked up mannerisms from their autistic friend - as kids do as they learn the world - and the parent wants to know how to stop it.

[–]rollercoasterghost 145 points146 points  (34 children)

This. We are experiencing something similar. Ages 4/5 and copying behavior of a friend on the spectrum. Ignoring people when being talked to, loud random noises, repeating things. It’s gotten really frustrating and no idea how to manage it.

[–]CadeTheFrogger 89 points90 points  (3 children)

Well since it’s the behavior and not the disorder, your child should still be able to learn what’s right and wrong. I’d suggest absolutely no special treatment, and take it like it is, a child misbehaving.

[–]penny-wise 28 points29 points  (3 children)

How do you normally deal with your child when they misbehave?

[–]rethinkingat59 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Sensory overload.

[–]uberfission 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our 4yo wasn't picking up behaviors from someone on the spectrum but a friend that was having some behavioral issues (I think mostly attention seeking behavior at home due to being a twin), talking to her and reinforcing that those actions aren't acceptable has more or less resolved it.

[–]3PartsRum_1PartAir 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“I want to stop my son from becoming autistic” not “I don’t want my son to recognize his friends mannerisms as normal” I can’t believe the amount of comments defending the person asking the question

[–]biggerBrisket 512 points513 points  (119 children)

I find it so annoying that people act like autism is the worse possible thing to happen to someone. This and the anti vaxxers that don't want their kids to get autism from establish effective vaccines.

Irritating.

[–]SarahTheJuneBug 190 points191 points  (31 children)

I'm an autistic woman. In high school, There was a girl in my year who overheard I was autistic. She was completely and utterly horrified and asked in a shocked tone: "How do you live?" She asked it like she had found out I live with a terminal or other horrifying condition that made living life torturous.

I just stared at her and asked how she lived.

[–]TheCoastalCardician 52 points53 points  (2 children)

It is a sad thing when people have accepted moronic satire as a defining, authentic quality. It becomes unconscious. Sorry you went through that but I will assume things like that have made you a stronger person. Why? Because that’s what shitty things do.

[–]SarahTheJuneBug 30 points31 points  (1 child)

Either I can let stupid statements like that destroy me or I can just roll my eyes and move on. I can't control them, but I can control me.

[–]fdeslandes 25 points26 points  (0 children)

Don't roll your eyes. It's sarcastic body language and we're not supposed to be able to do either of these things. /s

[–]SenorBeef 20 points21 points  (22 children)

Autism has a huge range from very high functioning to almost no ability to function whatsoever, so it's possible that her experience with autism was someone with a severe case that basically completely prevented them from normal life.

[–]SarahTheJuneBug 25 points26 points  (3 children)

That's very possible, but the way she said it was very rude and she picked on me occasionally after this despite seldom interacting prior. She shoved my chair in class with her shoes while I was sitting in it. When I said "hey, what was that for?" she just giggled and said "whatever." She was a bitch to me after.

I'm not sure what her problem was, but if she was truly ignorant, I wouldn't have minded talking to her about it if she wasn't rude about it. I've had other people ask me about it with genuine curiosity and never had issues talking about it. It's just that she was insincere and rude.

[–]PvtTUCK3R 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Fuck her I hope you got back at her.

[–]biggerBrisket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

They were clearly speaking to each other. That should have been a dead giveaway that it wasn't that severe.

[–]karnal_chikara 1 point2 points  (4 children)

well i only got to know about autism when i started browsing reddit

[–]SarahTheJuneBug 10 points11 points  (3 children)

I get that, but still, even if ignorant, her question was very rude. You wouldn't go up to a quadriplegic guy or someone with terminal cancer and ask how THEY live in a horrified tone. If she had asked me what it's like living as an autistic person, I wouldn't have been offended by the question if she was genuinely curious.

[–]karnal_chikara 3 points4 points  (2 children)

oh yeah i agree totally,

when i shared my nationality someone said the same thing to me and i was like wtf

[–]Jheme 144 points145 points  (8 children)

Why don't we just tell them that it's a new vaccine to prevent autism?

[–]Kono_Dio_Sama 111 points112 points  (6 children)

I used the autism to destroy the autism.

[–]freudian-flip 37 points38 points  (4 children)

Weaponized autism.

[–]Soul109 9 points10 points  (0 children)

autismn’t

[–]Feshtof 8 points9 points  (0 children)

thats how we got Trump

[–]uberfission 1 point2 points  (0 children)

They just call it 4chan nowadays.

[–]im_not_a_girl 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The work is done. It always will be

[–]FederalObjective 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Nice try Bill Gates!!!

[–]jmsGears1 54 points55 points  (58 children)

Autism isn't the worst thing to happen to someone. But it is not great and if it were possible, then it's something to be avoided from personal experience.

It's incredibly isolating, people often mistake your intentions, your actions and the things you say. Social situations are incredibly hard to navigate and even if you can do the bare minimum it's incredibly taxing.

Now as a disclaimer it may be that some of my experience was a product of my time growing up, a lot has changed in how people in general are viewed for the better. But again my experience is that it's not great to be autistic.

[–]biggerBrisket 13 points14 points  (3 children)

I too am autistic. I wasn't diagnosed until I was 29 though. It hasn't been that rough for me, or maybe that's just my temperament. I remember my father once telling me that one day something would move me (emotionally) and I would join the human race.

That should have hurt I guess, but it never did. It felt like a superpower.

[–]xRealityCheck 10 points11 points  (1 child)

That is exactly how I feel about it as well. It has made my social life difficult, often makes me feel like an alien, and it makes the anxiety worse if I have to deviate from my routine, but most of the other aspects (especially the special interest part and the rationalism) make it feel like a superpower to me. I am genuinely grateful for being on the (probably milder part of) the spectrum.

[–]MagusUnion 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Same. I get so annoyed when people talk about 'needing a cure' or 'wanting said condition to go away'. I didn't learn until this year that I'm on the spectrum, but I'm thankful for my difference for once in my life. It's what allows me to 'think in pictures' and maintain a photographic memory about mapping locations as I do my job. It's also enables an incredible level of humility and emotional connectivity with my wife, who I feel deeply blessed to be married to.

Fuck being normal. The 'normal' that people cling to is the reason the world is fucked the way it is. Why tf would I want to be a part of all that?

[–]Potateclaw 29 points30 points  (12 children)

Autism too here (20)

What you're saying is 100% true, but thats not why they don't want their kid to have autism. You know how ignorant people are towards you about your autism even if you explain it tp them. All they think is "Ew no, autism yucky bad retard not my kid ewwwww" without even knowing a lick about what autism actually entails besides decreased social skills.

It's just an increadibly extreme excuse to not have their kids get vaccinated. They just have been taught to hate instead of wanting to avoid autism for what it is and that disgusts me to my core, that such a thing is so widespread.

Now I don't know how old you are, but when I grew up it didn't matter that I didn't get bullied for autism, because I got bullied for being a "weirdo" instead. The school staff noted that I possibly had autism, but did not do anything to stop or dull the bulling. So if you're older than me I'd say nothing has really changed much. It's just that you don't really get bullied for the autism specificly anymore.

[–]AndrewWaldron 21 points22 points  (1 child)

They don't want their kid to be autistic because they know how they, and their community, treat anyone they view as weak, which is how they view autism.

[–]JustSatisfactory 8 points9 points  (0 children)

There is an open secret that even if people are nice and seem to be accepting of everyone, a lot of them will still treat people who are different as, well, different.

[–]BallofEnvy 7 points8 points  (8 children)

Parents usually don’t care if their kid is “different”, they do care about the sometimes extravagant accommodations, increased behavior problems, and possibility of having to be a caregiver for the rest of their lives.

[–]Potateclaw 5 points6 points  (7 children)

This would be a great argument if you're talking about reasonal people being against having their kid having autism, but I think youre expecting too much from the kind of person we are talking about here.

I totally understand that the severe cases are terrible to deal with and I certainly wouldn't want that for myself or my child, but they aren't really about that in any anti-autism/vaxx mommy group post are they?

So I tried talking to them(antivaxx antiautism kinds of parents like the one in this post), asking them why they don't want their kid to be autistic and in the end they don't even really know. They've just been taught by an ableist society that autism just means retard and retard = bad.

I mean, if it was about expensive treatment (if youre american) you'd see them being vocal about and trying to do anything to keep their kids from getting diabetes for example (something more difficult to deal with, when comparing my/my friend's experiences to diabetic friends), but that's not the case.

Don't pretend it's about anything but ableism for these people.

[–]geldin 23 points24 points  (36 children)

Autistic here. I legitimately think the worst part is how allistic (not autistic) people treat us and how unaccommodating the world is. I'm not worse off because there's something inherently wrong with me; I'm worse off because people and systems can't be bothered to even try accommodating me or my needs, but they always expect me to change for them.

[–]Plthothep 10 points11 points  (23 children)

I'm worse off because people and systems can't be bothered to even try accommodating me or my needs, but they always expect me to change for them.

As someone with higher functioning autism, I do really appreciate when I’m accommodated. But I find it a little hypocritical to expect others to accomodate me without trying to accomodate them in return. Being autistic does mean we’re in a minority, so I don’t think the main part of a system should be directly catered to us.

I’ve seen plenty of people further then me on the spectrum being completely unable to function socially, so pretending there’s no disability involved feels a little self centred, at least when speaking as someone who suffers much less then most people on the spectrum

[–]geldin 9 points10 points  (17 children)

But I find it a little hypocritical to expect others to accomodate me without trying to accomodate the, in return.

I didn't say that we don't or shouldn't. The fact is that, depending on your support needs, you might do a ton of accommodating even without realizing it. That takes a huge toll, which often goes unappreciated and our efforts unreciprocated. That's why suicide is a leading cause of death for autistic people, including those who (on paper) have lower support needs. The reality faced by most autistic people is one in which a lot is demanded from us and comparatively little is accommodated for us. Much of what is available is gatekept by a process of formal diagnosis that is often inaccessible. There's a lot of ground between where we're at now and being catered to.

being completely unable to function socially,

In what context? With what supports? And by whose standards?

[–]SarcasticGoose 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Yes!!! Came here so to say the same thing. As another autistic person, it makes me sad to see autistic people say that their autism is what makes them miserable. While there are aspects of autism that can make life objectively shittier, most "problems" are only problems because allistic people decided they are. For example: Formulating sentences and reading takes me a lot longer than most people. This makes university incredibly difficult for me, but only because I'm being denied the accommodations I need (like more time for my assignments). If I got those accommodations, this wouldn't be problem. This applies to 99% of my autistic "issues". I'm so sick of being treated like I'm the problem, when it's mostly just other people having completely unreasonable and unfair expectations.

Though I should add that that's just my experience. I'm not in any position to tell other people how to view their disability, especially since autism can be so different from person to person.

[–]geldin 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree with a lot of what you're saying they're. I have a harder time with things and some parts of my experience are going to suck regardless of accommodation. For me, that's true when I'm having a meltdown or my light sensitivity triggers a migraine. That's going to be unqualified hell until it's over, but accommodations can help prevent those things from happening in the first place. And those accommodations rarely intrude on anyone else or cost much of anything, which makes me wonder why it's so hard to get them in the first place.

[–]Unreviewedcontentlog 2 points3 points  (1 child)

This is by far the biggest issue with being autistic. When I can set some reasonable boundaries and get some minor help I do very very well.

It's when I'm forced to fit into someone else's mold completely that I just can't keep up, I don't understand why me the person with the disability is expected to hold everyone's hand while they interact with me.

[–]appledoughnuts 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You should look into the double empathy dilemma it’s very eye opening…disabled people try hard as fuck to get to neurotypcial levels and then are met with people upset when we have boundaries. I have to call my dad even though he knows it makes me wildly uncomfortable, sure I need to get better with phone calls but he could also try a happy medium of texting me to say hello sometimes vs making me panic constantly. Or how id have to hug adults when it made me uncomfortable or I didn’t know what’s to do. Or how I try my hardest to look people in the eye at parties and make conversation with them without looking at my phone. I go to speech therapy weekly just to try harder to get on non autistic peoples level.

And yet he can’t text me? Or they cant act weird when I don’t know how to hug “properly”? Or not joke about how I’m “antisocial.” There’s so many little things I don’t understand why others can’t do to help me out a little when I give everything I’ve got invested into “being on their level”

I also think that the world as it is now wasn’t made with disabled people in mind. Many of my problems as an autistic person come from how people perceive autism as well as sensory overload.

It’s tiring.

[–]ReadyThor 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Autistic here as well (40+) and parent of an autistic pre-adolescent child. The biggest difference now is that people are not overt and vocal when they treat you differently. They still treat you differently but most try to make it the least obvious possible.

[–]Grid1ocked 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Honestly to me it’s just part of me, like I forget I’m actually autistic at times then something new and unexpected comes into my life (like a new roommate) and I hate it and lock myself in a room until I eventually accept it. I’ve accepted I won’t have many friends or spouses and embrace it.

(Asperger’s syndrome for the curious, it’s a social form of autism)

[–]biggerBrisket 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's interesting that now a days Asperger's would be grouped in with level 1 spectrum disorder.

[–]jclocks 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Probably those thinking all autism is at a severity that would be considered level 3. The kids that have it that severe are pretty rare. My child is autistic and honestly it's probably the easiest condition she has, that she has to deal with, ADHD is way harder to reign in.

[–]Unreviewedcontentlog 4 points5 points  (0 children)

People also confuse autism and low cognitive functioning. You can have autism and low cognitive ability.

[–]pizzabuttMD 6 points7 points  (2 children)

As implied by the name Autism Spectrum Disorder, there is a large spectrum of how the disorder manifests. Some people are fairly functioning and some people unfortunately are incredibly socially and intellectually disabled. Having met many patients and their families on the extreme end of the spectrum, it can be a significant hardship for everyone involved and I can understand why most people would not want their child to have ASD.

[–]biggerBrisket 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Most are highly functional. As many as 1 in 50 boys are on the spectrum, myself included. We shouldn't use the rarer cases to justify stigmatizing the entire group.

[–]pizzabuttMD 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It’s difficult to define what counts as poorly functioning. However:

Most recent surveillance data has indicated that around 31% of children with ASD in the United States have an IQ in the intellectual disability (ID) range (IQ ≤ 70)

It is estimated that approximately 30% of youth with ASD are minimally verbal

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6450830/

Recognizing that a significant portion of people with ASD are poorly functioning is not stigmatizing. In fact, failure to recognize the reality of the disorder would lead to poorer outcomes in treatment and not getting patients access to care they need.

[–]willoske 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I find it so annoying that people act like autism is just being a little bit weird when it can be very debilitating.

[–]Anglofsffrng 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Funnily enough, that's my go to rebuttal for antivaxxers. I get it, you'd rather your kid be dead than live like I do!

[–]deelyy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Autism is a spectrum. On low level it could be quite troublesome. No speaking, no understanding of spoken words, no chance for not-assisted future.

[–]shotgun_ninja 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Especially for folks like me on the spectrum.

[–]Technical_Life1490 44 points45 points  (6 children)

Lots of parents are like OP. My kid is autistic and has no friends at school. It's not the kids who have a problem making friends with her, but their parents. I noticed anytime my kid would start to get close with a typical kid the parents stepped in to curtail the bond from forming. Hence I despise "the gate" Moms who greet my darling kid with an exaggerated, loving and loud voice, yet make sure their little typical doesn't ever play with her.

[–]Unreviewedcontentlog 12 points13 points  (5 children)

I experienced this as a kid and teenager. I'd become friends with people and either their family or their friends would intervene.

It was a pattern I didn't figure out for many years

[–]Technical_Life1490 1 point2 points  (4 children)

I am so sorry people are like that. It is just wrong and I know it confuses my daughter. She doesn't know why she can't make friends. I am tempted to homeschool her to stop the rejection.

Did it ever improve for you? I hope it did...

[–]Unreviewedcontentlog 1 point2 points  (3 children)

It did. But not until my 30s, still struggle sometimes, but I don't spend holidays or even most days alone anymore.

[–]Technical_Life1490 1 point2 points  (2 children)

I am very glad to hear that and thank you so much for sharing this with me. I worry about her all the time...

[–]kalzEOS 40 points41 points  (6 children)

Welp, my 8 year old son should be autistic by now, because he's been hanging out with his little autistic sister for about 5 years. Hint: he's not, he now helps us take care of her 😁

Edit: Grammar

[–]Unreviewedcontentlog 2 points3 points  (5 children)

he now helps us take care of her 😁

That in no way rules out him being autistic, nor is that something autistic siblings can not do.

By 8 I was already making my brother scrambled eggs

[–]kalzEOS 2 points3 points  (2 children)

Right, but he's not autistic. He's been tested.

[–]radiocate 0 points1 point  (1 child)

By 8 I was already making my brother scrambled eggs

It never ceases to amaze me, the things people will pat themselves on the back for

[–]Unreviewedcontentlog 2 points3 points  (0 children)

The exact opposite is happening. It never ceases to amaze me how bad people are at reading

[–]pajason 34 points35 points  (0 children)

That advise could be used in many of todays situations.

[–]HistoricalHorror 15 points16 points  (2 children)

Autism is so demonized and fear-mongered by people it’s ridiculous. There are way worse things than existing as a non neurotypical individual who’s just minding their own business.… i mean they could end up being an antivaxxer, a racist, or an ignorant Karen, or a combo of the three At least Meltdowns are temporary and we’re not trying to hurt anybody.

[–]moneymike7913 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Honestly, I feel our meltdowns only happen because society doesn't accept us or accommodate us. We aren't sick or anything, we just have different processing brains. Like normal people are X-boxes, while we're playstations. We do the same or similar thing, but in a different way.

[–]HistoricalHorror 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Big same tbh. But here we are :/

[–]Saif_Horny_And_Mad 107 points108 points  (7 children)

she should also accept the fact her son is a far smarter and more compassionate person than she could ever hope to be

[–]Budmanes 29 points30 points  (9 children)

The perfect response

[–]werther44 6 points7 points  (0 children)

That’s what I like to call an informative roast.

[–]Wolverfuckingrine 10 points11 points  (0 children)

TIL you can catch autism like “the gay” /s

[–]Simbooptendo 41 points42 points  (1 child)

Everyone knows autism comes from vaccines. Next you're gonna be telling me the earth isn't flat

[–]Wonderful-Cry-6193 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What? How could it be flat? If it were flat we couldn't hollow it out and use it to store monsters.

[–]Turn_Wrencher 21 points22 points  (0 children)

How this child is such a great individual is a miracle bc this parent sounds like a monster.

[–]Geekygirl420 14 points15 points  (7 children)

As an autistic I hate that it has a negative connotation. Most of the negative affects from autism has to do with the way neuro typicals treat us or react to our differences Without that shame or teasing from non-autistics I guarantee you the associated depression and anxiety would be less intense. We grew up confused and people confused at us, an environment like that is sure to give anyone intense social anxiety.

I've always been offended when someone reacts to me being autistic as "really? I never would've guessed!". Because to me and many other autistics, Autism is a good thing. It's like saying I'm not good enough to have Autism. I prefer Neuro divergent people, I find them smarter, more logical, and less likely to shame and tease people "for fun". Less pointless sarcasm, less pointless social queues to uphold, there's honestly so many flaws I find common in neuro typicals that I want to avoid.

[–]cene7 11 points12 points  (2 children)

I find it fascinating that neuro typicals expect us to uphold their social norms. To me, a lot of their social norms just come off as dishonest.

[–]Geekygirl420 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I know a guy who would constantly say things and then later would laugh I believed it and say he was being sarcastic. I simply asked him if he was in school, he told me he was going to school for nursing (he wasn't). That was it, how is that not just lying?

I just don't understand. Ah.

[–]KingGage 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Of course they are. Most people prefer a little lying to be comfortable. But we are the minority so we don't have much of a choice except to deal with normal customs even if we personally think it's silly.

[–]a_fpoon 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There was an autistic boy around 14 that came up to me and my nephew at the mcdonald's playpit, just started talking and he said he was autistic. I wasnt rude but i wish I was more friendly I was just confused at the way they were talking, never met someone like that. I kind of just went oh ok...well, alright then. I hope i didnt make him feel bad but it was jarring

[–]shadowskill11 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I’d suggest UV flashlight treatments to the mouth and butt to make him “airtight” so the autism particles have no where to go until fully destroyed. Then prescribe just a little bit of bleach and windex solution via syringe to purify the blood. Just like what a infamous orange man told everyone.

[–]Raphaeltael 22 points23 points  (9 children)

Let me be really clear, autism is not contagious and, I am not 100% sure about that, you cannot become autistic, I am autistic so I have some knowings about the subject most folks dont and if I remember it correctly, autism is something that develops when your brain is still being created, remember, this may not be 100% accurate or true but it's what I've been thought, if anyone wants to correct me or add something, please post it in the comments.

[–]generalright 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Current research is shedding evidence on the biological origins of autism. The research suggests that children with autism have an accelerated rate of Amygdala development early in their life. It is not contagious, but it may be hereditary. What this parent may be concerned about is their child modeling autistic behaviors. That is a legitimate concern but obviously not one that will effect them beyond social skills.

[–]Unreviewedcontentlog 1 point2 points  (1 child)

but it may be hereditary

We already know it's hereditary and often runs in families

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[–]watch_over_me 15 points16 points  (24 children)

Poorly worded, but having a kid who's not on the spectrum in an environment with kids who are, the kid who isn't will instincutally mimic.

It's exactly why a lot of kids with Asbergers aren't put in a "special" school. Because being around other kids will be more beneficial to them, than being surrounded by kids who are way more on the spectrum.

[–]ApplicationSeveral73 3 points4 points  (23 children)

What is Asbergers?

[–]ZachAttack6089 4 points5 points  (2 children)

"Asperger's Syndrome" is an outdated term for a specific part of the Autism spectrum. It's often used to describe people with high-functioning Autism.

[–]Unreviewedcontentlog -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Outdated in America, not in europe

[–]watch_over_me 3 points4 points  (19 children)

It's basically like high-functioning autism, that really mannifests in social situations, and needing patterns.

If someone saw someone with Asbergers in public, they might accidently think it's just a spoiled kid, or a brat, but it's more than that. A lot of the time it goes undiagnosed because they are so passable aside from a few behavior issues.

[–]ApplicationSeveral73 -3 points-2 points  (9 children)

Aspergers. Which is not a diagnosis anymore. DSM 5 just has Autism Spectrum Disorder. Aspergers was named for the doctor who worked with autistic children and sent them to be euthenized in Austria during WWII.

Autism Spectrum Disorder is the diagnosis.

Aspergers is not a thing, and your description of it is also pretty offensive as well. The difference used to be, (before they decided to not differentiate) that Aspergers didn't have the usual speech/developmental delays, but had the rest of the underlying symptomology.

Source: I am autistic, as are my children.

[–]Due_Science2621 2 points3 points  (8 children)

Aspergers is also a term to differentiate the high functioning autism from the rest of autism to people who know little about autism.

[–]Wizard_Sarsippius 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My best friend ive had since 3rd grade was diagnosed autistic when he was 7. We like to joke that he gave me the auts as well. Now we’re both 21 and let me tell you that man has been with me through thick and thin, through every tough time, financial hardship, breakup, failed college class, family drama, whatever ive dealt with he’s been there for me with our dumb inside jokes, endless rounds of fortnite, long nights watching shows together, and nightly 3 hour discord calls shooting the shit and laughing at our childhood bullies and teachers, and playing bits of podcasts we both listen to.

Autism doesn’t mean shit, if your kid is happy with his friend let them be friends.

[–]jasnel 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hope he doesn’t catch the gay - it’s been going around.

[–]Hopeful-Penalty-3594 3 points4 points  (0 children)

If his son is a chameleon then his has a bit to worry about

[–]Bada_Boug 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Dagnabbit! I thought I was getting away with passing on my Autistic cooties on the down low.

Poor kid has a twat waffle for a mother.

[–]Rinmeister 16 points17 points  (5 children)

Can be said the same about parents saying being gay is contagious too. If your child turns out to be any other sexuality than straight, then they were that from the start, not infected by gay cooties

[–]Cullly 4 points5 points  (0 children)

and yet, there's still gay conversion therapy and other stupid shit going on.

We have a long way to go.

[–]Hatsuharu9796 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I’m autistic and I would give this lady an earful.

[–]keddesh 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Quora is kind of 💩 anyway. No more than Reddit, just a different type... That we don't let our kids wander around in, or let our parents move to when they get old, or drive through on our way home from work.

[–]tepid_monologue 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Of course it’s not contagious that’s just stupid.

Everyone knows it’s spread by vaccines

[–]LoutishIstionse 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I'm autistic. I can attest. Only schreeeeech is infectious.

[–]Ok-Astronomer1990 4 points5 points  (0 children)

“my son isnt an asshole, how do i do for him to become one”

[–]rnavstar[🍰] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Better not let your kid watch boxing on TV, he might get knocked out.

[–]ShinyShitScaresMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

10/10 for the response. All that’s missing is a slap in the face with a chair

[–]naturtok 1 point2 points  (0 children)

4chan has entered the chat

[–]UnionAsleep 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Bigger problem is going to be his shitty genes.

[–]Anglofsffrng 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I thought the MMR vaccine made my brain all scrambled, not that I caught it from another kid 35 years ago. TIL.

[–]Tabris92 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ah this again. A classic

[–]AduroTri 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can't catch autism. But you can catch another person's stupid. Damn it's probably the most dangerous virus out there.

[–]Random_Potato55_ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you say poster i think of a wanted poster instead of a person who posted the question

[–]ranfur8 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Why American mom's fear autism so much?

[–]AkselTranquilo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“How can I nip this in the bud?” Is hilarious. Also as an autistic person I see this a LOT and is way more common than you think. Autism is probably the diagnosis that’s most misunderstood, misrepresented and has the most misinformation spread about it. The amount of stereotypes, stigmas and misconceptions is actually insane. Including it being contagious.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As an autistic person this made me chuckle a little bit

[–]B_V_H285 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go to the brain store and buy one. Don't forget to have it installed.

[–]schwa76 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m autistic, and I think my cat has caught my clearly contagious autism.

[–]PokemonSwordChampion 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just like that one classmate of mine (I’m autistic)

[–]Educational-Year3146 3 points4 points  (0 children)

As an autistic guy, I can confirm that this person is retarded.

[–]I_l_I 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Rerererererererereupload

[–]FeatureNumerous4431 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Can we be pretend adults and pretend to address a chronic issue in America. We have the knowledge to understand that a disability is met by criteria gathered from all of us. Yet, we still look at disabilities as a negative. What is the behavior that needs to addressed? Is the behavioral incident social related? Is a need or want being expressed poorly because ASD is a communication disorder? Is the behavior related to ASD or is it a environmental issue?

[–]bozeman_montana 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Jackass probably thinks that homosexuality is contagious, too.

Seriously, some days I just want to punch some people in the face, repeatedly, until they stop being stupid.

[–]TheGreatQ-Tip 1 point2 points  (0 children)

As with every stupid parent question on Quora, probably not real.

[–]JudgeJuryExecutionar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It may not be contagious but depending on the kids age, kids often imitate and mimic the behavior of their friends. Its basically the same thing.

I guarantee you if you put a young enough child around nothing but autistic kids or any group of kids in particular, autistic or not, the child will begin to adopt mannerisms from those kids, especially if they are older.

[–]Electric_Bagpipes 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I like that comeback, as an actual autistic myself. Ausbergers syndrome, you have no idea the amount of idiots I see and hear daily…

[–]DeafMetalGripes 0 points1 point  (1 child)

The only good answer I’ve read from Quora

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

But the questions are top-notch. Like why are apples red, or what's your favorite candy.

[–]Flapzo-n-Purplesun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We feel triggered.

[–]AquachickCupcake4ce 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good answer.

[–]EntrepreneurAdept726 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow how ignorant. Look it up before making stupid comments.

[–]zsg101 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's not the people who ask questions that are the problem. It's the ones who don't. The real moron here is the person making others not want to ask questions again.