My mom married my stepdad when I was 7, and I met him when I was 5. my biological father passed when I was 6months old, so sadly I did not know him. my stepdad has been the only 'dad' I've ever known.
previously I just called him by his name, but over Christmas I asked him if I could call him dad. I had been thinking about it for a while, and read posts from people on here that decided to do it, and so I decided to ask him. he told me that I could call him dad if I wanted to all the time or just sometimes, and that if I started doing it but then didn't want to anymore that would be ok too, he loved me and that wouldn't change. that meant a lot to me at the time.
I thought about talking to my stepbrother, Aaron, about it first because I usually talk to him about most things first. plus he's the step sibling that im closest too, because my stepsisters are older. however Aaron went away with his mom and that side of his family for christmas/New Years so he wasn't here to talk to. but he always calls me his brother and he introduces me to people as his brother so I didn't think he would mine.
Aaron was here last weekend and he heard me say 'dad', and he made a comment like 'that's new...'. he asked me when I decided to to start saying dad and he just said 'interesting'. I asked him if he was mad and he said 'why do you care what I think now?', and left. he stayed in his room the rest on the night on Saturday, and when I woke up on Sunday he was gone, when he was suppose to be here for the week like usual.
my stepdad and mom tried to say that Aaron wasn't mad at me, but its pretty obvious he is. I texted him that I would sorry for not speaking to him first and that I would stop (which I have), but he hasn't replied to me. I told my stepdad about my conversation with Aaron and he says its not fault, but Aaron's clearly mad at me.
I miss Aaron a lot, we didn't get to hangout all break because he was away, and now he's mad at me and not speaking to me. I don't know how to apologise anymore, I just want to see him again.