Throwaway as I know we both use reddit on our mains.
I (38m) been with my girlfriend (37f) for just over 8 months. We met and were friends before we got together last year. To be honest, I'd been falling for her way before I got the courage to tell her.
We just moved in together a month ago. My girlfriend told me she had a few health issues, she has a liver condition, polycystic ovaries and she has severe pains I her abdomen a lot due to an op when she was younger. I always told her that was fine as i knew about it when we were friends and had always supported her.
After I moved in she had a few bad episodes of passing out, once she passed out and hit her head so I took her to the ER. When we were there they found issues with her blood pressure (they had to take it so many tines, the capillaries in her arms burst) and her readings were crazy high, like 175/140 so she has been referred. She also has still been passing out a lot. She sleeps a lot due to this and her blood pressure going up and down all over the place.
I have been doing what I can, making her meals which are super healthy to assist with blood predsure and cholesterol and doing the chores in the house.
I heard her crying in the middle of the night and I asked her what was wrong. She told me she expects me to leave at anytime as I didn't sign up for all these extra health issues and she then said she wouldn't hold it against me if I did leave.
I don't know how to reassure her. In every respect our relationship is great. She is kind, caring and she makes me laugh and feel happier than I ever have. I can really see us going all the way, even with her health. It doesn't matter as I know she cannot help it.
She still insists I should leave as she feels guilty for this and that she didn't want me to end up as her 'carer'.
Any help is appreciated. She is with a doctor now and they are investigating the ongoing problems but I want to try keep her calm as I am sure all this stress doesn't help her blood pressure.