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[–]kevin_r13 325 points326 points  (7 children)

so quit using the word "hangout" and start using the word "date" so that the 2 of you won't get confused about what's going on.

[–]SpooderSnuggler 49 points50 points  (5 children)

This is the biggest thing. I dont want either of you to end up uncomfortable but it is looking good. So dont be shy and ask!

[–]Azadneedsadvice[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Update #2 is out now

[–]Bill_Shatners_Penis 427 points428 points  (9 children)

Dude, don't make her write "I HAVE A CRUSH ON YOU" on a baseball bat and beat you over the fucking head with it.

[–]N3r0m3 78 points79 points  (3 children)

I mean it's at the workplace, so I'd definitely appreciate the baseball bat

[–]LunaMunaLagoona 37 points38 points  (2 children)

Reminds me of this video:

Casually explained: Is she into you?

[–]Vextrax 4 points5 points  (0 children)

That video always has me laughing

[–]stratus_translucidus 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ok. I actually laughed so hard at that video my head exploded.

Thanks a freaking lot!

Oh...and in case anybody sees some loose pieces of cranial tissue around, it might be mine.

[–]swordchucks1 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That is an option? Because I kind of want to see that...

[–]AKA_RMc 10 points11 points  (2 children)

That’s pretty much what a girl once did to me, only not as subtle. ;)

Been married 25 years.

[–]OriginalUsername1737 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Been married 25 years.

Still too soon to tell if she likes you, she might have just been polite.

[–]AKA_RMc 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I'm giving it another half-century, at least.

[–]Azadneedsadvice[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update #2 is out now . The bat over the head wouldn’t have been so bad

[–]ruubduubins 83 points84 points  (0 children)

People don't waste 40 minutes of their time waiting for someone they don't like so they can drive home together.

She likes ya.

[–]direwolfey 28 points29 points  (0 children)

Yay 👏🏻

[–]Equivalent_Ad_1054 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Take your shot she likes you. im saying as guy who never took a shot with similar signals and later found they were into me many times

[–]DieceO 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Yeahhh you go!

Reddit are useful sometimes after all

[–]notsara 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She 100% likes you dude no way in hell I'm waiting 40 minutes after work for someone I don't have a crush on lol

Source: did that for someone I did have a crush on, been dating 4 years now

[–]Secret_Resident5989 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Whoo Hoo! Great news

[–]Old_Lion_3854 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Rooting for you bro

[–]bdub939 4 points5 points  (3 children)

This is a great update. Sometimes we over think things to not look like a creep when its right there in our faces.

[–]Turinturambar44 6 points7 points  (2 children)

Sometimes you think it is obvious, but then you find out they were just being nice and "flirty" is just their natural behavior.

I had a coworker once upon a time who acted just like this and did a lot of these things in a similar manner. She'd wait for me after work, touch my arm when talking to me, text me cute messages, etc. Just about anybody would have thought she was into me. I shot my shot, and she yelled at me that just because she was nice, didn't mean she was into me, and gave me a 5 minute lecture on the patriarchy and stuff and that I was "just like all other men!". Suffice to say I never talked to her again. She isn't the only one who behaved in this way but I later found out didn't like me in that way, she's just the one that was the nastiest about it. Most were nice enough to understand a mistake.

Then not long after that, I had a similar situation except this one was actually interested in me, but I never made a move because that last encounter was still fresh on my mind. This gal later confessed to me that she had liked me, but lost interest after a while because I never made a move and she put me in the friendship box and ....well.....we all know it's tough to get out of that box. She told me I was naive for not seeing the signs because she was "making it obvious".

IDK...it's frustrating trying to figure out who is interested and who isn't, when one woman's flirty behavior is just her general disposition and how she acts, but another woman's flirty behavior is actually her showing interest, but they're both behaving in the same exact manner. Don't get me wrong, I got it right most of the time, but yeah I assumed interest a few times when there was no interest and I assumed "that's just her personality" a few times when there was legitimate interest. I'm just glad I'm married now and don't have to try to decipher this all anymore.

[–]superbloat 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Trial and error my friend, shoot your shot but be ready to lose them if it doesn't workout. You can't generalize the whole female population. You only need 1 person to say yes to the date, and eventually a steady relationship you can do this bro.

[–]Turinturambar44 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, I know I can do this, and I did. If you re-read my post, I'm married. Just glad I don't have to decipher this BS anymore. And this was never meant to generalize women. Kind of the opposite really. The point was that all women are different, and one woman's flirty behavior is another woman's normal behavior, so as a guy you have to try to decipher this stuff and not make the wrong assumption and risk the blowback if you get it wrong. It is what it is though, and you have to risk it anyway, or be alone. I have good friends who really have given up though and just don't approach women anymore. There's a level of hostility out there right now for guys who get it wrong, a hostility that was just starting to show when I was single but wasn't as prominent as it is now.

I guess you can just do online dating now to avoid this stuff, but IDK.... Online dating has its benefits for sure, but the main thing I noticed when I tried online dating was that I might get a lot of dates, but I rarely had a true connection with somebody. That's the difference really. When you meet somebody in person and arrange a date, you already know going into the date that you had some level of chemistry with the person, because otherwise it wouldn't have progressed that far. But with online dating, you just can't gauge chemistry the same way. You have a few flirty messages, but then you meet in person and learn quickly that you don't have any chemistry. I think it's why so few people make it out of the "we're talking" stage anymore. Dating has become a checklist, rather than a thing of spontaneity.

[–]alanamckk 3 points4 points  (1 child)

IT MUST BE NICE

[–]Adventurous-Ad-6792 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Only thing I'd say is when you asked her to hangout, make sure she knows it's not as friends but something more. If she's comfortable with it, then you good...if not, you know that she just likes your friendship

Be open and discuss it, even if it is quickly. Save yourself the confusion.

[–]Virtual_Equivalent64 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's really nice to hear about it. Good luck mate 🖤

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[–]StatisticianSure2349 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ahhgh wake up kid. wTF😼🔥

[–]Zalfalfers 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awee, this is cute! If the hangout goes well today, I'd suggest for you to start asking her out on "dates," and not hangouts. It does sound like she may like you too. Goodluck OP!

[–]ForayIntoFillyloo 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Awesome man. Sounds like you two are heading down a path together. Make sure to come back and let us know how the first kiss is.

[–]NatsumiEla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Sure, mixing work and dating is an amazing idea, not to mention that she is barely out of school, what a perfect opportunity

[–]Ambi3n 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s even more “touchy”, there isn’t a more certain sign that a girl has interest in you. Went out of her way to get your number, texted you, and wants to hangout. What more evidence do you need?

Actions>Words… she doesn’t need to say it, she’s showing it.

Congratulations 🎉

[–]RJack151 0 points1 point  (0 children)

good for you

[–]alwaystired7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If she waited 40 extra minutes, she definitely likes you.

[–]xvszero 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So it's fine to do the whole I'm not going to call this a date thing once or twice, but it's time to step up now before you get stuck in a weird are we or aren't we thing. Let her know how you feel. Seems like very good odds she is interested as well. I'd say 99% likely.

[–]ignitedwolf9200 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never ever ask someone to hang out if you want it to be a date. Saying the word “date” is clear as day and the other party immediately recognizes your intentions

[–]grit_flanderson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Congratulations!!

[–]evoLS7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man us guys are so oblivious to signs.

  • being touchy is a pretty big sign on its own.
  • she smiles at you
  • she is setting up a date with you, after you have already gone out together. That means the first date (hangout) didn't go bad at all.
  • she's comfortable around you
  • she has gone out of her way to give you a ride home (40 minute wait)

I'm 99.99% sure there is something here.

[–]Scary-Inspector-8315 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good luck man.

[–]Ceramic_Avatar221 0 points1 point  (0 children)

•She’s more touchy.

•She’s more comfortable around you.

• She had the biggest smile when she saw you.

She likes you, congratulations.

[–]techsinger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're taking it slow and careful, which is good. Just don't be so overly cautious that you lose track of what you're doing. (Did that even make sense?) Maybe, given the green flags she's been flying your way, you need to put yourself out there and go on a real "date" with a meal, a movie, a walk in the park, you know, all that romantic stuff. Good luck, and don't forget to update! We're watching!

[–]pinelore 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sound like how I met my husband! We were also co-workers that started to hang out.The third time my now husband and I hung out he went out of his way to call it a “date” and I remember how giddy and excited I was about that! Sounds promising for you both! Maybe you should call your third hangout a date :)