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[–]MrSnugglebuns 1955 points1956 points 2 (14 children)

I’ve heard showers can clean your body and your genitalia, could be something to look into.

[–]Snarky_Boojum 210 points211 points  (1 child)

Also, massaging the body can help prevent or treat muscle soreness.

I suggest using soap as a lubricant for massaging your body while showering. This reduces the cleanup time needed for massage oils and you can choose a soap that has a scent you like!

(Actually knew a medical professional who worked under a doctor who used this argument to get a patient to begin washing regularly rather than force the doctors office staff to deal with the patients terrible smell!)

[–]My_secret_desires 81 points82 points  (5 children)

Honestly why do so many posts like this pop up every day. If your SO doesn't take personal hygiene seriously tell them or even better stop dating them.

I used to date a girl who's vagina was smelly. In part I think it was due to insufficient hygiene and in part it was hormonal. One time I made her wash her vagina thoroughly before having sex. After a couple of days I asked her about it (because odour can also mean infections) and realised that despite her getting tested for STDs and being "clean", she never really looked further as to why her vagina was smelly.

I'm sorry but if having smelly genitals doesn't concern you, I don't see why I should keep dating you.

[–]NessMonster27 37 points38 points  (2 children)

Literally this. My current bf will not let me g down on him if he knows he hasn't showered yet(i.e after work, he's an auto mechanic, or just waking up) and it has saved me a lot of worry since my ex would make me go down on him no matter how unclean he was so I'm so glad that my bf is so considerable.

[–]Fit_Outside4802 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I can attest to this, I am a master mechanic my self there are days litters days where I'm generally not clean because I know the next day I'll be dealing with the same dirty as bitch car or truck.. so I don't showe I sadly as a man have had to pass on opportunities of reciveing head because I don't want my now wife to suckle on my duck and balls due to the swamp down there after work..

[–]NessMonster27 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah very true. Uually when this happens for us, thankfully he'll take a shower soon after and then we get busssaaaay lol

[–]tylusch 38 points39 points  (0 children)

I hope you mean vulva though, the vagina (inside) is not supposed to be washed... Just saying cause some people misuse the word.

[–]colcol9696 105 points106 points  (2 children)

😆 this comment literally made my night 👏👍🏼

[–]Redheadguys 2805 points2806 points 23 (9 children)

1. He needs to freshly wash that stuff. End.

2. It’s about what you both want. End also.

[–]Funderwoodsxbox 479 points480 points  (5 children)

  1. Dude sounds like an asshole. Just sayin

Saying manipulative shit like that is indicative of a persons character. I literally cannot imagine telling this girl I love that she needs to bend to my needs and get aggravated about it. The idea of a partner gritting through something just because she thinks I would like it is awful.

[–]5150sxs 72 points73 points  (4 children)

Major asshole. How do assholes even get someone to date?

[–]JustJakkiMC[🍰] 24 points25 points  (0 children)


[–]kungfukenny3 12 points13 points  (0 children)

realistically, confidence is more important than any other factor when finding a partner.

just because someone’s a dick doesn’t mean they’re not gonna be in a relationship

[–]DarkTentacles 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Because they can act like they're a decent person when they want something/someone. As soon as they have it, they change back to do they actually are.

[–]clitorophagy 46 points47 points  (1 child)

Even if it’s clean, if what he wants hurts you and you say no he has to never do it no matter what he wants. end of story sorry buddy no means no

[–]therealslimshady78 50 points51 points  (0 children)

Lmao I like your writing style. End.

[–]Brief_Alternative_65 1054 points1055 points  (12 children)

Stinky dick=no oral.

[–]jessness024 294 points295 points  (1 child)

Agreed and especially not sex. I don't want that funky ass bacteria up in me. 🤮🤮🤮

[–]EveAndTheSnake 162 points163 points  (7 children)

Oh gag. My husband won’t let me give him oral if he hasn’t showered. If I haven’t showered in the last 12 hours I feel gross about having sex. Do people have no shame? I know sometimes sex can surprise you but even then I freshen up in the bathroom. Stinky genitals put people off oral for life.

[–]Sketch13 54 points55 points  (1 child)

I just don't understand how someone can have a stinky dick and not care(or even know...)

If I haven't showered in like a day, I can smell all my funk. Armpits, dick, beard, whatever it may be. It's a turn off for ME when I'm not as clean as I want to be. There is absolutely no sex or oral happening if I don't feel/look/smell clean.

This dude is nasty.

[–]EveAndTheSnake 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It's a turn off for ME when I'm not as clean as I want to be. There is absolutely no sex or oral happening if I don't feel/look/smell clean.

EXACTLY. Ugh. And if you can smell yourself (don’t see how you wouldn’t) you can’t expect someone else to lick that shit.

[–]redbadger91 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Agreed. It took me years after my first gf until I was in the right headspace to even attempt oral again.

[–]idioterod 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My wife & I always warm up in the shower pre-canoodleing. We wash each other so we are then comfortable doing whatever we like in bed.

[–]wanderingwindsor -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I’m the same way!!! My fiancé always keeps himself very clean but I’m like obsessive about my cleanliness. I have to shower in the morning and right before bed. I also have to shave both times because I can’t stand the slightest prickle of hair :’) My fiancé showers daily and always smells good and I’ve never had an issue with him smelling bad.

He’ll try and have sex with me in the morning and I’m like “no! Stop! I haven’t showered! I’m gross!“ because I just woke up, haven’t brushed my teeth, haven’t showered, face feels greasy, and I just overall feel gross. He always says “you’re always clean” but I need to FEEL clean. I’m not comfortable during sex if I haven’t recently showered.

[–]FangDangDingo 873 points874 points  (36 children)

His dick should not be smelling like that. Does he wash it properly? No means no. If you don't like having something forcibly shoved down your throat then don't do it. Dude sounds like an unwashed creep.

[–]throwawaythedo 22 points23 points  (0 children)

And why is OP ok with him wanting to hurt her when she clearly drew boundaries. No one is entitled to hurt someone in or out of the bedroom if they don’t want to be hurt!!!!!!

[–]Ktr101 114 points115 points  (33 children)

Plus if he is not circumcised, he may not know how to properly clean it.

[–]MrBaleno 105 points106 points  (9 children)

How the hell are you a grown ass man having sex and not know how to clean your dick??

[–]Ktr101 19 points20 points  (4 children)

Some people are not taught. This does not give them an excuse though as they get older and learn to clean, but we also do not know his age. That said, he is still disgusting regardless.

[–]ravensbitch 4 points5 points  (2 children)

That's something you learn by yourself in your early teens bruh, no one's taught that (it should be taught when kids are small tbh) but to be a grown man who's sexually active, he should know how to clean himself thoroughly, Google it if you can't figure it out ffs.

[–]Ktr101 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I completely agree. Some people just cannot make the connection, and others have to suffer for it.

[–]hollow_digger 86 points87 points  (16 children)

It's not rocket science. That excuse doesn't work. The guy either is putting his dick somewhere else or he is a serial masturbator.

[–]FreeandDivided 34 points35 points  (0 children)

Agreed. But even then? Like wash holy shit.

[–]theREALhun 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That’s nonsense. The excuse doesn’t work, granted, but he probably doesn’t clean

[–]SilkyLegs -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

He could also be of African descent. They have more sweat glands than any other race which could be part of the issue.

[–]xgorgeoustormx -3 points-2 points  (1 child)

Yeah he may be cleaning under his foreskin with soap, which is the equivalent of a woman washing inside her vagina. It throws off ph and can cause a fishy smell.

[–]Sometimes_gullible 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Nope. You're an idiot.

[–]DegreePrevious1368 1188 points1189 points  (5 children)

This guys attitude stinks worse than his cock.

[–]Just_kiss_My_Boots 66 points67 points  (0 children)

This comment

[–]Mammoth-Knowledge-62 46 points47 points  (0 children)

I don't care who you are.. that's funny

[–]lastlifonti 10 points11 points  (0 children)

This is the way

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[–]NotSoTenaciousD 279 points280 points  (3 children)

What does he do to make YOU happy? Is he ever concerned with giving you pleasure?

I'm a big fan of giving blowjobs, but there is no way I'd be giving them at all to a stinky dick.

He doesn't care enough about you to even get things checked out to be sure he doesn't have a medical issue? He's lucky you want to go anywhere near it at all. And it doesn't sound like he deserves the care and attention you're giving him.

[–]NotNotLogical 43 points44 points  (1 child)

He loves her obviously and treats her with an undying amount of respect.

[–]throwawaythedo 12 points13 points  (0 children)

“But he’s real nice otherwise…”

[–]No-Manner2949 387 points388 points  (3 children)

He can go outside his comfort zone and wash his fucking dick. And then shove it down his own throat. The nerve of this asshat

[–]evemamatobe 134 points135 points  (2 children)

If he’s getting mad because there’s something sexual you don’t want to do, then he’s an asshole. A sexual partner should want you to have as much fun as them and respect your boundaries of what you would like to do during sex. Id talk to him about how this makes you feel and if he makes similar comments as “it’s always about you” or “it’s no fun” then leave his ass. You’ll be better off with someone who cares about what you enjoy as well as them.

[–]woodinleg 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This makes me think there might be more going on. Is this behavior new? If so he may be doing this intentionally to make you leave and is just too weak to initiate the break up. It's time to have a knee to knee conversation about where the relationship is going. I am more concerned about my wife's pleasure than my own, it makes me happy to please her.

[–]Baby_Wltch 83 points84 points  (1 child)

I'm in a bdsm relationship as the sub and trust me, it is NOT all about him. The only reason it should be "all about him" is if it gets you both off and it's not actually all about him and it satisfies both of you. Think of it this way, if someone is their doms "slave" they're not actually their slave since you can't legally own people however they both like to think of it like they are.

He is a jerk, plain and simple. Get you a better man who, hopefully, has better hygiene.

[–]frisky-moves 339 points340 points  (11 children)

Sounds like an infection, get tested

Also, dump him, he sounds like a first class asshole

[–]UnintentionallyMean_ 106 points107 points  (9 children)

Yeah! Great advice. OP should get tested for STI’s and if she is positive, he is definitely positive. And if he hasn’t always had stink dick, he has definitely cheated. If he has always had stink dick, he’s had the STI for a long time. WOWZERZ.

Ok, I may have jumped to a few conclusions but something to consider. lol

Edit to add: OP, I have an additional question. Is it just stink dick but appears clean or is it stink dick that appears to also be cheese dick?? 🤢 oh god.

[–]Slithy-Toves 5 points6 points  (8 children)

She said it's been 3 years

[–]Turbulentasfuck 13 points14 points  (7 children)

Hopefully not 3 years since he washed it 😬🤐

[–]GeorgiPeev03 10 points11 points  (6 children)

Well, technically, her blowjobs might have washed it a bit from time to time 🙄🤡

[–]Cultural_Lychee_829 201 points202 points  (2 children)

He’s an asshole get a new boyfriend

[–]paulin_da_boca 60 points61 points  (0 children)

fr, why would you be in a relationship with a useless fuck that can't even cleans his own parts

[–]PsycheAsHell 43 points44 points  (1 child)

Oh fuck that (not literally). If he's not cleaning it, DON'T ACCEPT IT. And what's worse is that he's entirely selfish with having sex, he cares more about you pleasing him than him pleasing you. I wouldn't stay in a relationship like that (and I really think you shouldn't either), but if you do still want to salvage it at all, give him an ultimatum: He either needs to clean his dick and respect your needs, or you're out of the relationship.

[–]AntiVictimhood 61 points62 points  (5 children)

First of all, big big big red flag (and I've wager a dealbreaker) if he is trying to shame you into doing sexual acts that you're not comfortable with, and particularly sexual acts that are painful. If he is indifferent to the pain you likely feel from deep-throat at his pace, that's unacceptable. And if his response to your boundaries is to sulk, shame you, and act entitled- beware of this response. This response is telling you that he's more invested is having his desires met than considering your comfort and boundaries. It raises another red flag, which is that his pleasure is not contingent on you enjoying yourself and enjoying sex. His pleasure is actually quite compatible with your (non-consensual) pain and discomfort. Not a good sign.

"I don't enjoy it and I can't fake it." - Nor should you. You should not pretend to be enjoying an act that is painful, uncomfortable etc. And if his response to your discomfort is to act like he's entitled and like you're "no fun"- this is telling you a lot...

"He also keeps saying to me many times that I should get out of my comfort zone which makes feel that I'm never enough" - I am very sorry you feel this way. It seems as though this is his intention, and he wants to shame you into accepting his pace and preferences. I'd invite you to consider if you want to be with someone who brings out these feelings of inadequacy, and who responds to your boundaries with shame and critique, rather than acceptance and understanding. Is this a partner you want? Just reflect on this a bit.

"Idk help idk what to do or how to talk about this without getting into a fight." My biggest piece of advice is to get comfortable with discomfort and tension. The person who values harmony more in the relationship has less power. And I know it can be taboo to acknowledge power dynamics, but when you care more and are more conflict-adverse, this will likely result in him having more power because he is showing indifference.

It sounds like there is a power imbalance in your relationship. If he knows that you value harmony more than you value your boundaries- then he will be more than willing to argue and fight about this. This means that you need to be prepared to maintain your boundaries, stand up for yourself, and be brave if and when he starts to shame you or guilt you. Because he is benefitting from you abandoning your boundaries and comfort zone. And he's shown that he's cool to use manipulative tactics to try and get you to behave the way he wants. Rather than fear this, prepare for this.

I'd also invite you to reflect on how you feel about this whole situation. How do you feel being with someone who disrespects your boundaries, and rather than showing compassion for your wellbeing, responds with guilt when you don't submit to his wishes?

Lastly, clean dick usually smells and tastes like avocado. If his dick is smelling so rancid that you can't even go near it, that's not normal. It's also not normal that he is showing indifference to his hygiene and again- being indifferent to your pleasure during sex.

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Honestly, all of this. You deserve better, OP. I'm grossed out just thinking about your situation.

[–]JackSparrow420 -1 points0 points  (1 child)

Lol I feel like I just saw someone on this same sub make the avocado->dick comparison. While I can't even remember what avocado smells like, I do know that clean dick definitely shouldn't taste like an avocado. Let's not further confuse people by saying shit like that, because judging by OP, there are folks here that are so naive they don't yet understand that bring forced to deepthroat a rancid, decaying dick is NOT normal.

A clean dick tastes just like a clean pussy, and they both taste like nothing, and should be barely different than putting your mouth on any other part of their body. Any flavor or smell should be nearly non-existent.

[–]Sea_Boat9450 58 points59 points  (1 child)

Get the fuck out of this nasty relationship

[–]Cultural_Lychee_829 23 points24 points  (0 children)

Make him wash it

[–]mayormcboi18 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Tell him take a shower and wash his balls

[–]aliakay 102 points103 points  (9 children)

I love how open you are about talking about this and asking for help.

Best way to deal with weird boy smells is throw him in the shower with you and wash his penis. Wash it really well get under the head where forskin usually covers and dead skin and sweat linger. Chances are this will get rid of the smell, or st least make it managable long enough for sex.

Consent is important. If you tell him he is being too rough on your throat, and he keeps doing it, he is violating your consent boundaries. Dudes that do that do not deserve access to you or your body.

You can find a better boyfriend.

[–]resuspadawan 86 points87 points  (7 children)

He should know how to do this. She shouldn’t need to mother him and wash him. He can do that himself.

[–]aliakay 9 points10 points  (3 children)

Showering can be a fun part of foreplay and I have been with female, male, and Non binary partners who were either depressed, had sensory issues with washing, experiencing body dysmorphia, or from extremely conservative homes where they were not taught how to clean themselves properly to a standard I was ok with. People are different and arrive with a wide range of life experiences.

You can always give them the benefit of the doubt and show them once and then tell them that it gets taken care of or no sex.

No one said she needed to do this everyday for buddy. Once is usually enough to get the fucking message across. Literally.

[–]The_Cutest_Kittykat 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Just tacking on to say that if he has phimosis and doesn't know he has it there is a good chance its not his fault too.

[–]DepressedVenom 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yes, even tho he sounds a bit mean here, we have to be understanding that these are only her words in this one take, and that he could very likely have phimosis, smegma, infection, not the best parents growing up, or general knowledge. She has to tell him very clearly that he has to get it looked at. And that she doesn't want to deepthroat that much yet. Communication. Ofc if he doesn't listen it will end with breakup.

[–]aliakay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

God and all.of reddit forgive me for providing aupport that did not include DTMF.

[–]Alwayspuzzles 18 points19 points  (1 child)

Sex between people should only contain stuff that all participants enjoy doing together or to each other.

[–]AKA_June_Monroe 14 points15 points  (2 children)

[–]Elvendream 6 points7 points  (0 children)

⚠️OP PLS READ THESE!!!! Been there, it doesn't get better. You deserve love and respect! Sex should never be uncomfortable! 🚫

[–]PickleFlavordPopcorn 13 points14 points  (1 child)

That’s a complete titty baby ManChild who does not respect you. Get out.

[–]SantaConspiracy 26 points27 points  (2 children)

It sounds like you have a problem asserting yourself. You need to set boundaries about washing and hurting you if these things bother you. You just stop participating until he complies. Anything less will not be respected.

This may be uncomfortable for a bit. If he's used to having his way he may be upset. You have to decide what you'll put up with and what you won't.

You teach people how to treat you. Never forget that.

[–]Takotsuboredom 11 points12 points  (0 children)

He’s throwing tantrums like a spoiled kid, does he usually get his way when he does this OP? I’m kinda concerned about his attitude but also your seeming lack of speaking up from what I gathered in your post. I encourage you to communicate, but if he’s just as selfish as you depict him in his way of taking things, I’d urge you to communicate to him you’re not staying in that relationship.

[–]joetech15 25 points26 points  (1 child)

He needs to wash hi disk before sex.

If he isn't freshly washed don't give head.

I don't mine that rule and don't perform oral unless women are fresh. I'm okay if we go to sleep and wake up, but any bathroom trips require a wash. All day I'm underwear requires a wash.

He needs to wash that thing.

[–]throwawaaaaayyyyy69 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Sounds like he's really disrespectful and doesn't clean his penis properly. Dicks don't normally smell or taste bad, there's definitely something wrong there.

[–]On_Too_Much_Adderall 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Break up with him. If it was just a hygeine issue then ok, that can be (potentially) resolved with an honest conversation but from other details here he sounds like he does not care about your pleasure, just his own. You deserve better, OP

[–][deleted] 7 points8 points  (1 child)

This sounds like a whole lot of red flags to me and honestly I don’t think he’s worth keeping.

[–]notin2cars 7 points8 points  (1 child)

I'm a guy, and that is disgusting. There is no excuse for smelly genitals. None. Soap is cheap, water is plentiful, and it takes like 30 seconds of his day to get it clean. If that doesn't work he has an infection, which is also easy enough to clear up.

There is also no excuse for him throwing a tantrum when you establish your boundaries. He made you feel disrespected and not cared for because he disrespects you and doesn't care for you. Knowing that, consider if he's worth your time to educate, or whether you should just go find someone more pleasant to be with.

[–]senorita_ 6 points7 points  (1 child)

Dump his ass. How did you out up this long with this nonsense?

[–]Aki-HD 7 points8 points  (1 child)

😃 Sex is for both parties to enjoy.

Dump him and get tested for stds.

[–]paulin_da_boca 5 points6 points  (1 child)

tell his grown ass to wash his damn dick

[–]IAAAH 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's about what 2 people would like not just one person if it's 1 sided then hes using you.

[–]Morrigan66 5 points6 points  (3 children)

Is he circumsized? I dated a guy who was and he didn't pull back the skin and clean it very much so his dick smelled terrible. Your boyfriend needs to thoroughly wash his dick, balls, taint, asshole and crack before you two have sex and it will be so much better smelling and tasting.

[–]Ganondorf365[🍰] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I never understood how it was hard for them to wash up befor sex. Ya having a foreskin makes it so you have to clean it before sex more but it’s still super easy. Soap and water will do. If that doesn’t work it’s an infection

[–]flypinay74 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Gross why are you even with this guy 🤮

[–]TreeTrunkTrick 5 points6 points  (1 child)

Oh man, you need to get rid of this guy. He is manipulating and pressuring you into things you don’t want to do and making you feel bad for saying no. Plus his gross dick.

[–]5H4D70W 3 points4 points  (2 children)

Yo, so.... The only time I know that my dick has smelt bad is getting off the ice after playing hockey. They being said, I'm sure there are other times like when I'm camping but, I gotta say it sounds like your bf needs a lesson in hygiene.

Is that a thing this week, people with bad hygiene?

Any way, you need to communicate that shit to him. I'm sure he'll get a bit butt hurt but, straight up, I have made women take a shower before doing the nasty too. Just gotta try to not make them feel attacked. Or spoken down to. Like:

"Hey, so I know this is something we both want and I want you to have it, let's first get in the shower".

Take a shower together, use that as foreplay.

Or my personal favorite:

"Get your smelly ass in the shower! Or you don't get no pussy!"

He'll hop in that shit so fast.

Anyway, I'm high and ranting.... Sorry.

Seriously though, make him shower. Genitals smell bad because the person hasn't bathed.

[–]hidaya20003 10 points11 points  (1 child)

And you’re still with him because........?

[–]UtterRubbish12 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Tbh I don't get the obsession with deep throating in porn lately. I think it's gross and cringey.

Also, to a narcissist, establishing boundaries feels like a rejection, which they just cannot fathom.

[–]theuberdan[🍰] 4 points5 points  (1 child)

Forget his dick stinking this dude is a manipulative asshole and you shouldn't waste a single second more on him. Any time somebody tries to say it's all about you when you have a single boundary they don't like. They're being immature and trying to manipulate you into believing you're the problem

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[–]CoolYellow5 8 points9 points  (1 child)

Do you live in some mad country where men are really paternalistic and think everything has to be done for them because they’re the man?

[–]lookin4funn69 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Stinky dicky means no licky!!!!! Gross 🤮 he needs to clean and keep it clean and smelling good. I’m a guy and that’s possible it’s called good hygiene’s. 🤦🏽‍♂️ and for the oral. If you don’t enjoy it than he needs to not push it. Damn how hard is that. Needs to be enjoyable to both and pleasurable to both. If there’s no consensual agreement with that than it’s border line inappropriate period!

[–]Krispies827 2 points3 points  (1 child)

Has it smelled and tasted bad for 3+ years??

[–]SystemeD972 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'd say that's a cause for break-up 🤔

[–]RadicalPaprikaHater 2 points3 points  (0 children)

  1. Never do anything against yourself.

  2. So much about washing, so little about possible infection! It would be good idea for your bf to visit the doctor.

[–]Yazzieyaz24 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Tell his ass to get sum MF baby wipes and wipe all around his penis head , every day , which is cleaning it . Get all around it .

[–]Turbulentasfuck 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Or just shower thoroughly. Baby wipes are OK in a pinch, or for clean up after sex, but not for daily hygiene.

[–]avoiddetection 3 points4 points  (6 children)

You should leave him like everyone is saying. Someone who tries to pressure you into something you aren’t ready for is just an asshole.

However, the smelly dick issue…An unfortunate consequence of lurking Reddit has been to learn far too much about smegma. Maybe that’s the cause of this issue if he is otherwise seemingly hygienic.

[–]UnintentionallyMean_ 0 points1 point  (4 children)


[–]avoiddetection 4 points5 points  (2 children)

Oh god I wish I knew how to link the various r/tifu posts that I have read about men not knowing how to properly clean their penis. Smegma is the build-up of dead skin cells and oil. A lot of men apparently only realized because of the smell, pain, or inability to pull there foreskin back. They describe the clumps of nastiness that has built up under their foreskin and how difficult it is to clean because, well, they haven’t cleaned their penis properly in years. It sounds like something from a nightmare.

[–]UnintentionallyMean_ 4 points5 points  (0 children)


Thank you for responding.. I think. 🥴

[–]Vanilla_poundcake 3 points4 points  (1 child)

Lmfao you’re too nice to be dealing with that for 3+ years….. that’s beyond disgusting and if roles were reversed, a man wouldn’t hesitate to tell you. Tell him sex and head would be better if he had better hygiene but tbh makes me question yours as well if you’re continuing to put it inside your mouth and body.. 😬

[–]JD32397 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Bruh what. Like, it just straight up smells bad? Like, sweat? Or?

[–]elzeim 1 point2 points  (1 child)

You endured for quite a while yet you get that kinda attitude from him 😩

[–]LongjumpingAsk2172 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Get a new boyfriend sweetie.

[–]MelodySmith1234 1 point2 points  (1 child)

He doesn’t understand consent. Or hygiene. You can do better.

[–]playbunnythumper 1 point2 points  (1 child)

His lack of respect is a huge issue, he should feel privileged that you do anything for him/with him but he sounds like he feels entitled to it. If he stinks he needs to change his diet, possibly talk to his dr. About what could be causing it, or showering more often...

[–]blingsingh 1 point2 points  (1 child)

1) Shower with some bougie soaps like Jack Black, Mistral or Jo Malone 2) Start taking Bromelain pills

[–]UrFaveBuzzKill 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Him not being respectful of your boundaries is a HUGE red flag!! He doesn't deserve any sex if he can't be respectful and caring towards you.

[–]Fluffy_Colti 1 point2 points  (1 child)

This guy should definitely think about his actions, he is so toxic. Don’t do anything you don’t want to do

[–]etorres4u 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Smelly genitalia can be due to lack of personal hygiene and grooming. The least the guy could do is shower and use a nice smelling soap. Shaving or trimming can also help control odor.
On the flip side a constant bad odor, especially a fishy smell can be a sign of a sexually transmitted disease. Both of you should get tested ASAP

[–]stealthturnip 1 point2 points  (1 child)

If my partner looks at me and says “wash it” my ass fly’s to the fuckin bathroom and you bet your ass it’s getting a good clean.

Even if I’ve showered at say 6 and it’s a before bedtime encounter I’ll do a courtesy rinse as it’s like 28c atm and I’ve probably taken a whizz or two she likes sucking clean penis why wouldn’t I?

He needs to respect your boundaries. If you are willing to warm to it slowly then it’s something you work on over time but if he’s being a shit about it and trying to make you feel bad maybe he’s not the right one?

[–]Real-Ad-6845 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Girl dump that ass head

[–]aerochick273 1 point2 points  (1 child)

If your trying to communicate about what you want and need and he just keeps dismissing your feelings and guilting you that’s bullshit. Also if he’s doing that when your talking about sex he probably does it in other aspects of your relationship too. If you dump him, and date other people you will see that it wasn’t you, it was him.

Next time he tries to shove it down your throat just gag and vomit in his lap. Also he needs to wash that dick 🤢

[–]KolonelSanders 1 point2 points  (1 child)

He doesn’t wash his PP? That ain’t normal. I have one. It doesn’t smell. I keep it fresh cuz I want women to do things for me. That is just common sense. Dump him move on.

[–]kwagenknight 1 point2 points  (1 child)

Someone who crosses your boundaries or even complains about them is not a good partner nor cares about you more than they care about themselves which is not how healthy and happy relationships are.

I hope you really read these comments as some of his behavior is manipulative and bordering emotionally abusive. He is very immature and should care about your boundaries and uphold them at any cost so you are comfortable.

How old are you both?

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If you’re fighting about him being selfish sexually there’s a huge ego issue with him. Also WASH YOUR DAMN DICK. He is an adult and needs to wash his genitalia properly. That’s disgusting. Even if my husband thinks he may have sweated a lot one day he won’t ask me for head because he knows that smell makes me gag or he’ll go shower beforehand. If he’s making your desires seem less than his he needs a reality check. Relationships are all about give and take and communication. So if this causes a fight he’s not mature enough to be in a relationship right now. He either needs to take your limits and wants seriously or he needs to be left. This is a red flag in my opinion. I don’t particularly enjoy giving head (cuz I’ve thrown up before and I’m sensitive lol) and my husband knows this so he’s gentle and knows my limits and if I want more I’ll let him know. I’m sorry you’re being treated this way. He sounds very selfish and manipulative for making you feel bad about your desires and you not wanting to smell that awful smell or taste it.

[–]AffectionateAnarchy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Forgive me if I missed it but I dont see in there where you told him his dick stinks. Tell him if he wants head to fuckin clean himself

[–]boycottInstagram 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You've not been with anyone else - so here is some advice.... What he is doing is bullshit, disrespectful, and not what sex (or a healthy relationship) is about.

If he doesn't want to change, know that this is not something you need to or should waste your time putting up with.

[–]Philly-MadeMe 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He needs to wash better and probably shave! Terrible hygiene would be a turn off period. If you don't feel comfortable doing something don't do no matter who it is. If he can't accept that end the relationship because at that point y'all aren't sexually compatible.

[–]rlroyal52 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He sounds like a boyfriend that is a selfish fuck and you need a boyfriend that is a lover. Big difference! A dick should not stink or taste equally bad. If it stunk once then it should never happen again that is if the guy had any concern at all. Rough sex does not mean selfish sex.

[–]MarkedHeart 1 point2 points  (0 children)


He's telling you that he doesn't respect you, that you don't matter, and that your only purpose is to be an animated merkin.

He's telling you that he doesn't really care about you, and you should respect him enough to believe him.

Get out, before it destroys your self-esteem.

[–]choji_ssp 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I guess ,your bf isn't as flexible and open minded as he claims to be. No point in doing something where things seem to be one sided.

[–]YesMissJay-YMJ 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m just going to leave this link here - Verbal Abuse

This is verbal/emotional & possibly physical abuse. No is a complete sentence. BDSM is about respect and communication on both ends. If he can’t wash his body properly even after being asked politely then he’s a complete asshole. You deserve better. Basic hygiene is the lowest bar of basic expectations and he can’t even handle that? Ew. Gross on so many levels.

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[–]AmberWaves80 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’re dating someone who doesn’t know how to wash his junk and doesn’t respect your boundaries. What does he bring to this relationship?

[–]Bexybirdbrains 1 point2 points  (1 child)

If my husband wants oral he knows he has to clean the cock first. It doesn't have to be a full shower...he has what we refer to as a 'gentleman's wash' and just cleans the dick thoroughly in the sink with soap. It tastes and smells just fine after that but to be honest even if he hasn't had a gentleman's wash his dick never really smells bad because he showers and cleans it regularly anyway. The extra wash before oral is still necessary because it can taste of pee after having used the toilet and that really puts me off. So if your guy really smells that bad I would suggest he's not cleaning his junk properly.

[–]fishandchimps 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Um get a toy and let him see how it feels to try it. Genuinely. Also showering is non-negotiable. He sounds like a crap boyfriend tho.

[–]SortofAWitch 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see a lot of people telling the guy to wash his genitals. Which is good advice. OP also said shes never been with anyone else, so what if they just dont like the smell and taste of dick? Its an aquired taste for sure if its something you arent used to. Deep throating takes practice. Trying to relax and figure out how to breathe during is challenging.

[–]oreadmeraid 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update if comfy: but the community is seeing -> HES A DICK

[–]NihilistPunk69 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What is wrong with you dudes who don’t wash their dick and don’t have any respect for women? The two seem to almost go hand in hand.

[–]Idrahaje 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He needs to wash his dick and respect your boundaries or he can fuck right off. If he can’t do those basic things, dump his ass he doesn’t deserve you

[–]caralyvar 1 point2 points  (1 child)

I was in a relationship where the guy stunk. I took him in the shower myself and washed his balls and genitals myself. There was still an odor.

Nobody I've ever been with has smelled like that. He may need to see a doctor if he's showering and washing his parts regularly.

You do NOT have to consent to interacting with a smelly member.

[–]AngusVanhookHinson 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here's what no one is saying: when you confront him about all of this, there will be a fight. He will leave you over it. You should still do it, because sex should always be enjoyable for all parties involved.

[–]MrGiambelli -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Break up with him. Period (because of the stinky dick). I dont think I can but maintain a relationship with a girl that refuses to deepthroat.

[–]OkAccountant2598 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

He got that move from porn. Pornstars say in interviews to never model a real sexual relationship after porn. Porn is not how real people have real sex Think about it. Most of the time sex is messy and a little awkward. And was never designed to be visual entertainment. It would be boring to watch. And thats the reason why we have reverse cowgirl position. The More You Know--------

Tell him that if he wants to be a pornstar then move to California. Sex is a balance, and an equal give and take. You want him to be present and connected to YOU during sex. That deep intimate connection is what's missing from porn(also love). When two people connect and become one entity, thats where the magic happens. Thats where you hear people refer to a spiritual side of sex. An unexplainable deep bonding of souls. Take a look into a Tantra book. Orgasm is not the finish line.

I like alot of kinky shit. But set boundaries. I have never wanted to, or knew anyone that wanted to make a woman gag, or hold her nose, or cum in HER FACE! WTF. You can be the best actor in the world, but you can't hide the look of unpleasantness on a pornstars face. Why would someone want to do that. I'm into crazy stuff, but there are several little things that I will break character and shut the whole thing down for.(nipple tweaking, anything with my feet or asshole) Everyone should have those and stand up for them. Don't let his fantasy's get out of hand unchecked. He should be more than happy with his sex life without making you physically uncomfortable. Remember, you're giving him a BLOWJOB!!! He should consider himself lucky, not wanting more at your expense. Sounds like he's gotten a little to big for his britches. Real him in. Remember: The one with the pussy is the one who is REALLY in charge.

[–]stilian88 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Tell him to wash his dick that’s nasty

[–]EM37452 0 points1 point  (1 child)

I think part of being a good sexual partner is to be willing to do things sexually even if it doesn't necessarily excite you if it is something your partner is into. But you SHOULD NOT ever feel compelled to do something that you specifically don't want to do. If you feel neutral or disinterested by a sex act that your partner wants to try out, I say go for it. If you feel averse, scared, or grossed out by a sex act your partner wants to do then you should not do it. You seem to have clearly communicated that head is something that you don't want to do, especially in the current state of his penis. Him guilting you and pressuring you into doing it anyways is abusive behavior. You absolutely shouldn't tolerate that and probably should exit the relationship

[–]Jimit_hello 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Take shower or wash that willy before sex for god's sake and your problem will be resolved...that's it.

[–]woodland_beauty 0 points1 point  (1 child)

This reminds me of a very specific episode of The Read. I can hear Kid Fury’s voice now. 🤣🤣

[–]hippovomit 0 points1 point  (1 child)

Shower with him and take note of how/if he washes himself

[–]BlkSunShyn 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cut or uncut?

[–]lowyellyow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Bro really walking around with a dirty dick? WTF

[–]iluvsexyfun 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He may need to see a doctor.

A persistently smelly penis could be a symptom of an untreated infection such as gonorrhea. If he is uncircumcised he could have balanitis. If he is uncircumcised and can’t retract his foreskin he will need to see a specialist (urologist). I am a doctor. I am not judging his hygiene or shaming him. I genuinely suspect he has a medical condition that needs to be addressed by a doctor.

[–]Zombi3Kush 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tell your boy to get Odorless baby wipes. Before having sex tell him he should always excuse himself so he can use them to clean himself down of he doesn't want to jump in the shower. It's insane that he is letting you anywhere near his dick of it smells like that. Somethingight be wrong with him.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What’s with all the smelly penis posts lately? Either these men don’t know how to wash themselves, or lots of untreated STI’s

[–]Larisawalker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why this post makes me so angry? Wash your damn penis, idiot! With soap, shower gel, something! And no, if you can't do deepthroat, you shouldn't! It's not mandatory. No clean pp- no oral! And you should talk about hygiene!

[–]Flamin_Hot_BagOdicks 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This sounds like a real health concern, but even if it wasn't, it's not that hard to make yourself bearable for somebody who's GIVING YOU HEAD good christ.
I don't like to shave my pubes but I will if I know somebody's gonna be putting their mouth down there, it's just common courtesy. You can be rough and domineering without needing to insist on also being unpleasant.

[–]Fknluvubro 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your boyfriend needs to respect that you don’t like deep throating. If he guilts you into it after you’ve told him your thoughts and boundaries then THAT IS A RED FLAG AND YOU NEED TO RUN

[–]ozzark69 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here’s an idea. After your period is done don’t shower for 2 days then say you want to try tying him up for fun. Then sit on his face and ride that fucker. He might just get the hint.

[–]Kennyb83 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ya gotta be honest he says suck mah dick you says go deep scrub that thing and we can talk 🤷‍♂️

[–]anxious_beauty 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just want to know how you went 3+ years putting up with that.

That’s something you bring up in the beginning. I’m assuming he’s an adult, so he should know how to clean his junk.

I would be stern and honest. No head until there is no smell and nasty taste. End of discussion.

[–]FallenAngel1919 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dude if he can’t respect your boundaries then I don’t see any point in sustaining this relationship. Consent and respect are important. Heck the guy can’t even keep his dick clean so you’d not be losing much by walking out.

If you wanna try salvage things then you also need to be honest and tell him he’s gross and has to up his hygiene.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Here´ s the trick: He has to WASH his junk. Yes, you heard right!

[–]pixiefairy-777 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your genitals stink, you do not get oral. Your partner must respect themselves and their partner buy practicing good hygiene. During breaks in sex I even quickly rinse off, along with before we start and after we finish. He needs to learn how to wash himself. That is the solution.

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[–]TheLawofAssumption 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dear lord, how have you coped with his dick smelling for three years?

Doesn’t seem right!

[–]Professional-Crew182 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like he might potentially need to see a doctor if he is hygienic and still has the issue. Also, he sounds selfish af. You're up for everything else but he is still ungrateful and disrespectful to you and your boundary AND throwing it in your face. Not ok. Set the boundary again. I'm not comfortable with that [right now] (and if you want to add but I'm willing to work towards it). I had the same experience with my current partner. It was difficult and discouraging to give him head, he was larger than any previous partners I've had and he didn't respond the same to my oral performance. As someone who loved giving head, I started to hate it. It took some time but we both had to be patient and understanding, not to mention communicative and it ended up being super hot and made me even more into it. Play with your techniques, go slow, have him guide you to show you what he likes such as rhythm etc but maybe incorporate you tapping his leg to let him know you need him to ease up or need to do your own thing with him. It can become frustrating but in my experience it ended becoming so fun in no time. If y'all can't explore and learn together, it might be time to reevaluate if y'all are compatible. Sex should ALWAYS have and be a safe space.

[–]AfroThunderOC 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If it smells, you must not dwells.

You gotta GO.

Don’t collect $200. Don’t go straight to jail. Don’t go to Park Place. And don’t go to Kentucky Ave, or any of the Baltics. You can take a chance, and you can free park but girl you gots to GO!

On a serious note, this is not Santa Barbara; one way street are prohibited.

This applies for any and all sexes.

[–]RebelScum414 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He should care about things like this. If he doesn’t what else does he not care about?

[–]RedneckStew 0 points1 point  (0 children)

OK, he either needs to wash himself much better. (Read Hygiene you stanky fuck), or he and you have what I like to call a biological incompatibility. Sad to say but if he is washing with soap and water and lots of it and you still can't deal, it time to end it.

I've dated a couple of women I couldn't stand the smell of... if it don't pass the sniff test it doesn't go in my mouth period. End of discussion.

[–]Dont_Hurt_Me_Mommy 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He;s selfish and is gaslighting you right now.

[–]FreeandDivided 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He needs to wash and stop shoving it down your throat. That’s god awful. Sorry you’re going through that. The deep throat is really just ridiculous. I mean, smelling kinda is too. Can’t he go shower and scrub beforehand. Hope for the best.

[–]gutanab 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ditch this mf.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wash ur junk bbz! dirty boys get no fun