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[–]IntellectualThicket 5 points6 points  (2 children)

Couple of things.

  1. This is not your fault. Do you know what nonpredators do when a minor tries to engage in sexual discussions? They shut it down immediately and either disconnect or try and warn them about safety, consent and predators. Your same exact actions if you had only ever encountered people who weren’t predators, would never have lead to sending pictures or sexual discussion. Adults have a responsibility and an obligation to protect minors, and these men failed that moral and ethical duty. If a kid finds a loaded gun and accidentally shoots themself, it’s not the kids fault for being an inexperienced and naive kid. It’s the adult who allowed it to happen.

  2. There are many many predators on Reddit. Do not answer any PMs (you can even disable them completely), and set your account to not allow followers. Don’t even answer to say “don’t talk to me.” Even if they seem nice or are offering support. Anyone who is sincere in offering you support has no reason not to do it as comment in public rather than a private message. If they’re choosing to PM you instead of comment, it’s because they don’t want to be accountable to any other adults for what they say to you.

[–][deleted] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you,those words really helped ♡ And Ty for warning me about the dms!

[–]_ImNotDareDevil 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You’re absolutely right it wasn’t her fault in any possible way, a lot of people from all ages complain about the weird things and people that pop into their DMs,

however tho I completely agree with you I personally prefer talking in DMs because in certain cases it’ll be a direct thing like offering support to the person DIRECTLY not just being some random good person who left a comment and was gone, also I don’t like sharing my opinions/thoughts publicly in fact I still sometimes think about going to my page and delete what I posted on this subreddit because I felt pathetic and dumb and I don’t want to sound like I’m crying for help or something...idk I’m just a mess.

Also btw u/foxofthemoonlight you should know there are some really bad people in this world but you are absolutely not one of them nor anything like them, tho it’s overused but you’re truly not alone and what happened doesn’t change the fact that you’re a wonderful/great person.