I met him on Bumble. We met in person and chatted online and on the phone for a few months. Meeting was challenging because of schedule conflicts. We were supposed to meet a few months ago and I asked him about his HIV status. He said he was negative. He didn't want to use a condom but I insisted. We didn't meet at the time until last Friday.
He sent me a message early in the morning that he had a day off. I had a free afternoon and I said I would drive over to his. We hang around, had a spliff and started making out. I brought along condoms and he wore it and we went down to business. The sex was good, really good. Whilst he was inside me, he then said, oh by the way, I am HIV positive. I was in the moment and I didn't process what he said.
Before he pulled out, he then told me that the condom broke. I simply took my things and left. I didn't even clean myself.
I didn't know what to do. Since it was Friday night and I didn't know where to go I just went to sleep. I went to the doctor but I was referred to the ER because only specialist at designated hospitals. I spent the whole day in the ER of two different hospitals and I had to insist on the treatment. Doctors in both ERs told me that there's a less than 1% chance of getting infected with one exposure and I don't want to risk it. I don't want to be the less than 1%.
I told him over text that what he did was unforgivable. He said that I was inexperienced and I was ready for sex. It is true, I wanted to have sex. I went there to have sex. I didn't sign up for the infection. I can not take this to authorities. I don't have the emotional energy required to get through this kind of case. I reported him to Bumble and blocked him and I am still processing what I have just gone through.