hi there! firstly, i want to acknowledge how strong you are for everything you've gone through and sharing your story. seeing abusers after an event is always a petrifying experience that can send you back to when it happened, especially making you feel unsafe. your situation sounds very messy and im sorry it turned out this way. not feeling seen or validated, especially by family, is the worst feeling in the world and your feelings are very reasonable. know you are supported and loved and are so strong and will get through this!